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Personal development With Marianne by Marianne De Kuyper - 11M ago

How not to judge? We all judge ourselves and others constantly. I am sure you and I would love to stop doing it, but how do we do it? Are you curious too? This blog on ‘Judge not!’ will tell you how you can start to feel more peaceful inside whilst connecting with others. It is also like the Yoga ethic Ahimsa (nonviolence) teaches us. It is about watching what we are thinking and saying in order to respond from a place of compassion rather than from a negative mind frame.

Judgement

Judge not is about letting go of judgment. It is about NOT bluntly saying what we have on our minds. Instead we listen to our thoughts and feelings behind our judgments before we speak, and sometimes we don’t even need to speak up at all. When you hear a judgment bubbling up inside of you, use the questions from Non-Violent Communication:

  • What are you thinking?
  • What are you feeling?
  • What do you actually need?
  • What is your request?

It is best if we don’t just express what comes up. We might regret it later on. We don’t want to cause any unnecessary pain. Our opinion expresses our deepest feelings, wishes and needs and doesn’t say anything about the other person we are expressing it to. Remain from bluntly saying things out loud. Instead watch all of your thoughts and feelings as they move through you when you feel like judging and let it come into a space of awareness.

Think first

The other day someone bluntly said to me out of nowhere: ‘You are arrogant‘. AU, that was painful. I was thinking: “She doesn’t even know me!”. She saw things happening around her (symbols) and very quickly interpreted them and sent her judgment my way. She apparently didn’t receive the treatment she needed from me, but decided to express her jackal (judgment) to me. I turned around, went outside to cool down and to think about what had just happened. So what was my response? Think first, and then perhaps act!

The art of communication

Only now the day after the incident I realize that I feel the need to express to her what her response felt like. I also realize now that I could have checked with her what was happening with her. Too bad it is too late now. I can only hope that she has also given it some thought too. And I am hoping that you hopefully will be able to see your own jackals before you express them to someone. I hope we all learn to express our feelings and needs in real life a little better, so that we can all benefit from it and learn to understand each other way better than we now often do. To really connect with somebody and to feel liberated afterwards due to true understanding is what I wish to all of us. That is the art of communication and it can be done by applying Non-Violent Communication.

Heal yourself

I have noticed that we, me inclusive, often act so impulsively and without thinking it through first. Why can’t we do things ‘correctly’ the first time? How great would it be if we don’t have to fight ourselves and others constantly? Isn’t it time to accept we all have a shadow side and that we need to heal it by dealing with what is inside of us first? Shouldn’t we look inside first, before we connect with the other person? Connect with yourself first and then use Non-Violent Communication. to speak up compassionately.

To conclude, we have and can make choices. It is up to us what response we choose to give. We are no victims; we don’t have to fight ourselves and others. We can choose again and again how we wish to deal with issues that arise, how we wish to respond and how we can allow ourselves to move closer and closer to our divine core. When our shadow sides emerge and we feel like judging, it is actually the perfect time to heal another part of us first.

How to slow down? Simply take a break and do Yin Yoga.
Sit still. Stretch. Breathe. Continue.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

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Personal development With Marianne by Marianne De Kuyper - 1y ago

How delicious it would be to simply be able to press DELETE sometimes and start all over again. How fairly easy would it be to simple use the RESET button? A healer taught me that the higher my vibrations are, the more people that I will attract that also vibrate at that higher, positive and healing frequency. Great, because then I will have less negativity around me. Thus raising my vibration would then be the reset-button I am looking for. Time for some mind healing!

Truth

Mind healing to me is like resetting my mind. How can we do this? We start by listening to our inner voice.

  • What conversations can you hear again and again inside of your head?
  • Is this what you actually want to be listening to?
  • Is this the thought that you want to be spending your time and energy on?

The thoughts inside of your head are the reality you have created, thus you also have the power to create another truth. By changing the conversations inside of your head, you can change how your thinking and feelings state and this will influence your behavior.

Positive change

How can you change your thinking? It is time to listen to the messages that you are giving yourself and that you are passing on to others. Thus let’s start by ‘simply’ allowing thoughts to be present that actually aid you in your process of positive change. It is like Byron Katie states in her books: ‘Could the opposite of what you belief to be true, also be true? Our Ego will protest to this, only when it does, press PAUSE. Tell your Ego: ‘Silence please, don’t disturb me now!’.

Mind healing

How do you realize this new truth, this new reality? This is what has been explained to me. See it as: ‘Mind Healing!’. The neurons in our brain fire when we are thinking: ‘Neurons wire where they fire‘. If this is a negative thought, it creates a negative track in our brain so to speak. This path deepens every time we think a negative thought, depending on how much time and energy we spend on it.

Healing

The solution? Whenever a negative thought arises, be severe and strict with yourself. Say: ‘STOP’ and simply don’t go down that road again. You are not going to repeat and run yourself through that negative story again. You most probably know that route all too well already. Believe me, I have been there too and I still spend too much time there from time to time. Let’s start healing ourselves, starting now. Let’s do it together.

Positive thought

Now think a positive thought:

  • ‘What in the given situation could for example also be true?’. 

Dare to go down that ‘What if’ road of possibilities. Try to imagine what positive feelings would emerge if that positive option were to be true. You hold the key to change the communication with yourself. You have got to do the work yourself. What do you feel when you think that positive thought? Right, your neurons are firing again, only this time they are creating a new and positive inclined track.

Positive track

How do we stay on this newly created positive track? Repetition is key! Every time we need to choose, we choose to either go down the deep, old negative track that we know all too well or we go down that new, positive track. What are you choosing to do from now on? Every day, the whole time, we have these two options. This is hard work! Healing isn’t always the same as going for a massage, floating in a salt bath or enjoying another healing practice.

Are you willing to put in the work?

To conclude, the best thing we can give ourselves to truly heal is to live as consciously as we possibly can. Choose again and again to what you would like to dedicate your time and energy. With compassion, with mildness and perseverance we can shape our life and send it into the direction we wish it to go. Give yourself that extra impulse and push to truly do so. Work on mind healing first and then speak from the heart. What are you thinking, feeling and what would you like to express? Hear it first and then say it out loud non-violently and good luck!

How to slow down? Simply take a break and do Yin Yoga.
Sit still. Stretch. Breathe. Continue.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

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Let’s shine a light on what is truly important to you. What would you like to dedicate your energy to? What would you like to reinforce? But also what would you like to finish and say goodbye to? What behavior would you like to change? Time to choose: ‘What will you do and what will you stop doing?’. In short, how to always be yourself?

What makes you unique?

You are who you are. What you do and how you do it is determined by what you value. What makes you unique is the way you give substance to your values. Is the life that you are leading the life you are wishing to lead? Do your life values match the activities that you are undertaking? They say that the period of a full moon, is the perfect time to finish certain activities, projects and relationships. So that by the time the new moon arrives you will have created space for new initiatives. Thus let’s make sure we ALL match our new activities with our most important life values, so that we will start leading the life we are wishing to lead.

Norms and values

How do you choose the norms and values that best describe you? Try the following:

  • Google ‘Norms and Values’ or ‘List of Values’ for example.
  • Use my download which is a summary of everything I found online: Values.
  • Find a list that you would like to work with.
  • Choose 20 values that suit you best.
  • Write them down on 20 pieces of paper.
  • Turn them around so that you can’t see the words.
  • Now pick two cards and read them. Which ones describes you best?
  • Keep the best options and put the other options away.
  • Do this with all the other cards as well until you have a top 10.
  • Do the same trick again with the last 10 cards, until you have your top 5.
Fulfilment

Look at the choices that you’ve made in the last couple of weeks.

  • Determine where you are now on your life’s path.
  • Are you on track or not?
  • What do you do in a day, week or month?
  • Do these activities match your values?
Top 5 of Values

Look at the top 5 of values that you have just created with the ‘Norms and Values’ exercise and that describe you best. Now let’s evaluate it.

  • Does what you do match with what you stand for?
  • Yes? Great, because this gives a lot of fulfillment.
    • If not, what needs to be changed?
    • If yes, what can you reinforce?
  • In case everything matches: go live your life :)!
  • Stop sitting in the ‘waiting room’, go and live your life.

You are who you are and the better the match between your values and your activities, the easier it will be for people to truly see you and acknowledge you for who you are. It will also be so much easier for you to live your life, because you will then be expressing yourself much more clearly and profoundly through the things you say and do. Thus it is time to start evaluating your values and activities.

Make better choices

When you would like to change what needs to be changed and what also can be changed, you will have to make choices. How can you make better choices?

  • Let go of what no longer works. How? Finish it and just stop doing it.
  • Acknowledge what does work. Say it out loud.
  • Determine what you find important. Write it down and make it visible.
  • Choose how you wish to lead your life. Who are you, what do you do and why do you do it?
  • Try staying on track by reminding yourself daily of your most important values.
  • Let your life values determine your goals, and thus your actions.

Really, do make decisions based on your values! What do you find important and what options suits your values best? I for example love living a free life. This means working when I feel like it and resting when I need to and want to. That is why I work as a Yoga teacher and coach, so I can work anywhere and anytime. Spend your energy on what you would love to spend it on. Nurture it. Stop wasting time on things you don’t like doing or don’t like talking about. Do what you want to do and let go of all the other stuff.

How to slow down? Simply take a break and do Yin Yoga.
Sit still. Stretch. Breathe. Continue.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

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Personal development With Marianne by Marianne De Kuyper - 1y ago

Max Strom on how Yoga can save the world: peace on earth. Max Strom lives in Washington D.C. (United States), works as a yoga teacher, speaker and is the author of ‘A life worth breathing’ and ‘There is no App for happiness’. He invited me to have dinner with him and I also attended his workshop in Brussels at Factory Forty in 2016. I felt like reposting this blog now in 2018 as it has such an important message: Peace on Earth.

Essential questions

During Max his workshop that I attended he asked us participants to do the following exercise: ‘”Visualise yourself in five years from now. Imagine that this person is now sitting in front of you. ‘What does (s)he look like?’, ‘What is (s)he feeling?’, ‘What is keeping her/him busy?’, ‘What is her/his goal?’, ‘What is making her/him happy?’”. Questions that go back to the essential questions: ‘What is ‘happiness’ for you?’

Happiness

Strom’s definition of happiness is to live a daily meaningful life. For him this means writing and speaking about personal transformation. For that reason he also teaches yoga all over the world. Why? To let people experience that extraordinary breath work in combination with movement and mindful attention can heal us. It can heal us of making unethical choices that create a lot of unnecessary stress for us all.

Healing process

How does this healing process work? The breath makes us aware of suppressed emotions and thoughts. By moving with attention and with our attention to our breath, we can bring experiences, emotions and thoughts back to the surface that have long been hidden. Awareness of this pain is the first step. Healing starts here. First we will need to feel what needs to be felt and needs to be heard. After that we can make a conscious choice on how to cope with this pain.

Turning point

Strom himself took his first yoga class in a period of his life in which he wasn’t happy. He had everything he could wish for, but it didn’t feel meaningful. After an invitation of a friend, he took a yoga class and he immediately experienced the profound power of yoga and breath. It was a major turning point in his life. Strom then gradually started a career in yoga after having worked in the music and film industry for years.

Extraordinary breathing

His start as a yoga teacher also began with an invitation. A friend arranged a room and students and invited Strom to teach his first yoga class that particular day. In his classes Strom focuses on inviting the breath to create physical, emotional and mental space. Extraordinary breathing brings personal transformation and he invites us to experience this with him.

Personal transformation

What would Strom like us to experience? Most yoga classes do not pay any attention to the breath. Strom emphasizes the power of the breath in his work. He will guide you through several methods to connect with your breath and this way you can connect to the core of your being. By letting your breath initiate the movement, you become aware of your patterns. This is an important aspect for personal transformation.

Improve the world

This awareness will ensure that we get a chance to evaluate your approach and adjust it accordingly. We can then change our life from a higher consciousness and from new values and principles (ethics). When we feel better as a person and when we act out of respect, honesty and compassion this will also have a beneficial effect on the world around us, and on the world at large. Personal happiness and good health will then have a profound effect.

Strom strives to improve the world for everyone and for you too with his method. Your personal transformation is the starting point for this. When you take ethically responsible decisions, it is beneficial for all. Strom’s message: “Let us as a society learn how to deal with emotions and conflicts. Let Yoga and our breath heal us”.

How can you as a teacher contribute to peace on earth?

Strom encourages teachers to make yoga classes accessible to a broad audience, so that everyone feels invited to practice yoga and to experience the transformational power of extraordinary healing and breathing exercises. Thus how can you as a teacher contribute to peace on earth? This is what you can do:

✓ Don’t sing mantras and chant. Make sure that people of different religions and faiths feel welcome and for that reason you do not sing ‘god’ – names or religious songs.

✓ Speak the language of your members and do not use Sanskrit. Name the poses in your member’s language or English. The reason being that you want people to understand what you are saying and because their language feels most comfortable to them.

✓ Teach all level classes and always give options and offer adjustments. You motivate your members by giving them the most achievable targets.

✓ Are you creating a poster for an event? Then show a pose that is feasible for everyone so you truly motivate them to participate.

✓ Make sure that men feel welcome in your class as well and make sure the studio, its curriculum and the language is accessible to them.

To conclude, make sure that the yoga classes are accessible, feasible and safe. Let people feel at home. A secure base is necessary for learning. Respect other people’s possibilities and impossibilities. Focus on your students and adapt to their needs. Teach from your strength and vision and with respect and compassion.

Would you like to know more about Max Strom?

Check www.maxstrom.com.

How to slow down? Simply take a break and do Yin Yoga.
Sit still. Stretch. Breathe. Continue.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

This article has been edited by Bram van den Reijen: bramvandenreijen@gmail.com. Thank you Bram for your final edit!

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I would like to take you on a journey of self-discovery and I will do that by offering you an online learning platform under the name of Super Change Champion. It is my new project (Summer 2018), so that Yin Yoga with Marianne offers you everything that has to do with Yin Yoga and everything on Personal Development will soon be available on my new platform that currently is being developed: Superchangechampion.com. Just as easy!

Personal Growth

The blogs with self-coaching exercises on personal growth that used to be on Yinyogawithmarianne.com are now being turned into online learning courses to give you a change of perspective on various themes in life: spiritual development, personal growth, health & vitality, fun & adventure, work & life mission, financial flow, family & friends and intimate relationships.

E-courses

Would you like to know what you can expect from the e-courses that I am developing for you? Read on. Below you find the first e-mail and session of the mini-course on how to become a Super Change Champion. Sign up for my ‘Super Change Champion’ newsletter to stay tuned and hear when the course is online, so you can buy the mini (short) or full course that is based on the topic of ‘Change’.

Example

Below you will find an example of the first session of my new course on my soon-to-be-live new platform: Superchangechampion.com.

[Beginning example e-course]

Super Change Champion

Welcome to Day #1 of this mini Super Change Champion course. I am very happy that you are here.

Signing up for this mini-course shows such me that you are ready to move forward on your path, to create a change of perspective and that you are ready to make some changes in your life. I am here with you and I am looking forward to guiding you here.

In an ideal world our lives would be perfect, right? Only all the ups and downs make us feel alive, don’t they? Only when we know the lows, can we feel the ups.

Knowing how to deal with changes in your life and knowing how to invite them into your life, you can create a life that aligns your wishes, intentions, dreams and goals with your life’s principles and values. You will then feel whole, alive and life will feel 99% perfect.

Change affects every area of our lives. That is why I am offering you a framework, call it a ‘blueprint’ to acknowledge how changes in the past have brought you to where you are today. Your past accomplishments create a jumping board for your near future steps to a more desirable outcome and I believe that these accomplishments need to be acknowledged and celebrated.

What is my personal background and how can I support you? The recurring theme in my CV is teaching. Teaching to me means setting the space for people to learn and grow as a person. I have a background in Communication on Strategic Change Management, I taught English to (young) adults, I wrote English language and study course materials and I worked as a guidance counsellor. I also have been teaching Yoga since 2010 and I have (co-) founded several Yoga related online platforms.

My personal process of coaching and personal development started when I was 20 years old. I am 40 now (2018). I know what is feels like to be coached and to have therapy. I am also being coached at the moment and I see it as an ongoing and very important process to keep on growing as a person. I have followed cognitive therapy, psychotherapy and haptonamy (hapto-therapy) and I know what it feels like to be dealing with challenges like depression, burn-out, fear of failure, fear of losing someone and being assertive. The therapies and coaching sessions have supported me immensely and allowed me to start trusting myself more. I have grown so much and I feel like learning more and more. I also wish the same to you; continuous personal growth towards more self-trust and self-love.

What makes my approach special? It is a unique approach simply because it is mine. We are all unique and we all have our own path to follow. The blueprint that I will be sharing with you, was given to me by a coach once and I have been fine-tuning it over the years. It has worked for me again and again and it might also work for you.

Today, I’ll introduce you to the most important 12 steps of my full course (Easy Breezy).  We will move from knowing your current position on the ‘map of life’ to celebrations and on to planning your dream life and enjoying the flow.

The current mini-course gets you going in the right direction for sure. It is an ‘Easy Pace’ course.  All my courses give you the opportunity to work on a specific topic in 12 steps and all courses have the same lay-out to make you feel ‘at home.

Over the next 12 days, you’ll receive mini-steps that you can start implementing right away to begin flowing through changes and life with much more ease.  It is easy peasy really!

This mini-course is an introduction to my work. It is my gift to you. Would you like  to receive more guidance? Try the full course with an introduction to each topic, exercises, tips and with useful printable hand-outs. You can get it HERE (link will be online when the platform is live :)!

There are no easy fixes. However, with patience, determination and perseverance I got a long way and I know you will too. If you like the 12 day mini-course, you will love the full course.  Check it HERE (link will be online when the platform is live :)!

Would you like more support? The full course offers you much more guidance than the mini-course as we will take more time to look in depth at all of the necessary steps towards setting and reaching goals. In case you wish to change now, you can. You only pay the difference between the two courses. Go HERE (link will be online when the platform is live :)!

Are you ready to become a Super Something Champion?
Let’s see. Answer these questions below.

  • Would you like to know what your true calling is?
  • Would you like to find out what your talents are?
  • Would you like to know the value of all of your past actions?
  • Would you like your life to reflect your true self?
  • Would you like to let your life match your talents, expertise and dreams?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, then you are so ready to start taking the steps that I have prepared for you. How will I support you here? … Read on!

You will take 14 steps with me on this mini-course to becoming a Super Change Champion:

  1. Introduction.
  2. You Are Here Now.
  3. It Is All About You.
  4. Talents & Pitfalls.
  5. Energize Yourself.
  6. Energy Givers.
  7. Power Statements.
  8. Gratitude Journal.
  9. Dreaming Big.
  10. Get On Your Soapbox.
  11. Doubts & Hurdles.
  12. Plan Your Dream Life.
  13. Keep On Flowing.
  14. Follow up!

It is a process and it is never completely finished. I think it is easiest to do the course in the order that I created for you. However once you have received all of the steps, you can keep on going back the most needed step. It is what I call a ‘living document’. This means that you can keep on adding answers and keep on writing down your thoughts per step.

It is about engaging with it again and again and making this process part of your daily life, as it is about your life. Also since it is a process, your subconscious mind will even be giving your answers whilst you are not busy with a question. By starting this process, you will be putting your goals at the back of your mind and you will be given answers by your own mind when least expected. For example at any random moment in your day when you are doing something else. Listen to these signs too ;)!

TODAY: What is the reason you are doing this course?
Please answer the next question for yourself:

  • What would you like the whole process of the 12 steps to be about?
  • Or in other words, what would you like to have found out by the end of the 12 steps?

TIP: Write down your answers in a note book.

Give it some thought. I will ‘talk’ to you tomorrow … !

Would you like to share your thoughts with me?  E-mail me.

Go at an easy pace. Enjoy the process of changing your perspective and inviting change into your life. You decide when you move on to the next step. Just click on the link of the appropriate step in your course-overview (link will be online when the platform is live :)!

I look forward to hearing from you and do champion on!

With love and care,

Marianne de Kuyper

P. S. This email from Day 1 is longer than the next ones. It is a promise. Next e-mails are going to be short to keep it easy peasy and remember, you can do it at an easy pace. Your pace. Stay tuned!

P.S. Get a Notebook. This is going to be your book for all of your notes during the course. Carry it everywhere with you, so when answers pop up, you can note them down. Write on paper and not on a PC. It is much more powerful as the hand- and eye coordination is said to spark creativity!

[Beginning example e-course]

Online learning platform

Would you like to take an online course with me? This example session (blog) is soon going to be part of an online learning platform that currently is being built: Superchangechampion.com. As soon as the e-courses are online, you will hear from us. Let us know you are interested and sign up for the newsletter <3.

Yin Yoga: slow yourself down. Calm and balance yourself. Stay flexible, healthy and happy in body, mind and heart in a world full of impulses and sounds.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

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For a while I have been wanting to write to you about Yin Yoga, Acupressure, Acupuncture and Neurofeedback in relationship to Selective Sound Sensitivity (Misophonia). After having received the question: “Have you had any success helping people who suffer from Misophonia?” I decided it is time to share my answers with you. The success comes mainly from my own experiments and experiences in daily life on what supports me and what doesn’t work at all. I’ll share my most recent findings with you in this blog. I hope you will find this useful and I am very interested in learning from you too. Let me know what worked, what didn’t work and how I can perhaps help out.

Allergic to sound

You can find my personal ‘How to cope with …?’ answers on Tom’s website Allergictosound.com and you can find interesting information on their research page. It is a wonderful website to follow as they share stories from people with Misophonia from all around the world and I find Tom’s website trigger-neutral. Would you like to know more about what helps me cope with Misophonia and what my Misophonia Super Powers are? Check my blog on Allergic to Sound. My most important tip is: ADAPT your life. Like now, I currently (June 2018) live on the Spanish countryside and I work as location independent as possible and in a freelance job that allows me a lot of independence, freedom and solitude.

Fight, Flight or Freeze

So … how to cope with Misophonia? What I believe is that the Amygdala in the brain keeps on firing whenever it hears triggering sounds. Now that means that the response of Fight, Flight or Freeze comes from the Automatic Nervous System. This means even though we ‘Misophonia people’ (sorry for the term) don’t want to respond as strongly as we do, we can’t stop ourselves as it as an automatic (learnt) response from the Amygdala. It has been conditioned to do so in relationship to certain sounds!

Where neurons fire, they wire.

Neurofeedback

I therefore believe that the only true way on how to ease the Amygdala is by following Neurofeedback. I have also heard from a dear friend that it helped him with easing the pain of softer sounds, only unfortunately not yet from sudden louder sounds. In his case the louder sounds trouble him due to (war) trauma. Now Neurofeedback is relatively expensive, but definitely worth the investment as we will have to ‘rewire’ our brain so to speak in response to sounds. It is like they say ‘Where neurons fire, they wire’. In our ‘Misophonia brain’ they unfortunately fire the ‘wrong’ way. I would say find a Neuropsychologist near you and ask for support or find at least a psychologist for weekly supportive chats.

Acupuncture

Another solution that helped me a lot is: Acupuncture. I tried it in Cape Town at the House of Holistic Health and I was treated by Doctor Thomas. It definitely helped me ease the pain by what I call ‘emptying the bucket’. My system is already agitated when I wake up in the morning due to all sounds from the previous day and from sounds during the night. That means when I have to deal with even more sounds during the day, it is like a bucket that is filling up with water and eventually overflows. This is the point where I feel like hitting people and screaming ;)!

Dealing with sound sensitivity

Now I asked Doctor Thomas to ease that discomfort and he treated me with Acupuncture to ease the sound sensitivity by letting go of built-up tension in my system. Acupuncture works wonders for me and I can recommend it to everybody as a weekly medication free and holistic treatment. Yin Yoga is my personal version of Acupuncture as it is sometimes also referred to as ‘Acupressure’ and it calms me down, makes me feel grounded and balanced. It is my way for dealing with sound sensitivity.

It is just a sound, not a threat.

Finally, another thing that helps the Amygdala to quiet down when it hears a triggering sound is to quietly say: “It is just a sound, not a threat”. The Amygdala sees certain sounds as a threat and it is like a parent might say to an upset child: “It is okay, it is okay … nothing happened!”. So whenever you hear a triggering sounds, say: “It is just a sound, not a threat”. Perhaps this is for me Neurofeedback in the easiest form ;)!

Selective Sound Sensitivity

I can imagine you might also be looking into all kinds of options that could ease your pain of having to deal with Selective Sound Sensitivity. I’ll also be happy to hear more about your struggle & challenges and who knows I can give you some interesting clues on what to adapt and change in your life to ease the discomfort of triggering sounds and on how to make life more enjoyable. Please feel invited to connect with me via my e-mail address: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com. I look forward to hearing from you.

Yin Yoga: slow yourself down. Calm and balance yourself. Stay flexible, healthy and happy in body, mind and heart in a world full of impulses and sounds.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

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Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

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After having taught Yoga in Tofo in 2014, I realized I had the desire to go back, so I did In 2017. During this Yoga Travel Trip I learnt quite a few lessons. Some at a more personal level and other lessons were more about how to organize classes in Africa, teach them in an accessible way and on how to market them. In this current blog I’d like to share with you what lessons I learnt from my recent – Travel, Live and Work abroad – trip in Africa. My message? Collaborate instead of compete!  You might also want to read my blog: ‘How to be creative whilst teaching Yoga in Africa?‘.

Yoga upraise

Setting up Yoga classes in Tofo wasn’t always as much fun as teaching them. Tofo has a well-known Yoga studio with 4 teachers that teach a full-time schedule. So getting customers to attend Yoga classes at a new, unfinished location wasn’t easy, nor fun. When I arrived in Tofo, the local teachers weren’t happy with my arrival. I had my work pretty well organised, marketed my classes actively and I was offering Yoga classes close to the beach instead of at a studio at a 15 minute walking distance from town and up on a hill. This caused quite an Yoga upraise. I couldn’t teach at the local studio, even though I had worked there before in 2014 and I had done it really well. Now in 2017 I basically started a sort of Yoga War by just being in Tofo and starting classes at a new location. The local Yoga teachers weren’t  happy with me being in town. Instead of uniting our strengths as yoga teachers, we were therefore competing.

Independent teacher

Smart move? No.  I realize now what I could have done differently. I made several mistakes, but not on purpose. Lesson number #1? I should have arrived in Tofo without a plan. Even though a local dive center had invited me to come and teach at their place, I should have worked as an independent teacher. I could then have worked at several locations, instead of one yet-to-be-finished-but-will-be-gorgeous-one-day location close to the beach. The dive center was far from ready and not appropriate to be used as a Yoga space. The team wasn’t ready for it either. I still believe you can do Yoga anywhere, anytime, only a certain amount of peace and quietness is necessary to give our often overwhelmed nervous system a break of all daily sounds and impulses. This was lesson number #2. Don’t teach at a location that is not appropriate for Yoga and where a team doesn’t understand the Yoga practice and isn’t interested in it either.

Speak up

I didn’t speak up. I felt unwelcome. I didn’t confront them. They weren’t honest with me. Thus after 4 months I realized lesson number #3: Speak up and say what it is you need in order to be able to share your gifts, talents and skills with the people who come to your classes. What if your needs aren’t understood and met? Leave and don’t stick around. I stayed way too long. I felt I wasn’t welcome and I wasn’t receiving the support I had expected to receive. Don’t stay like I did. Go if things can’t be changed.

Collaborate instead of compete

The most important lesson was lesson number #4: collaborate instead of compete. Look. It is simple and logical. Tourists come and go, they don’t know what is happening within a local community. The locals (expats) however do and they live there and will stay. They will be loyal to people who have lived their longer than you. These people are their friends and they support each other. This makes perfect sense too and I hadn’t given it enough thought nor credit.

To summarize my lesson learnt:
  • Lesson # 1: Arrive somewhere without a plan. Get to know the place and people first.
  • Lesson # 2: Teach Yoga at a location that is appropriate for Yoga and where you are welcome.
  • Lesson # 3: Speak up. Express your needs.
  • Lesson # 4: Collaborate instead of compete.
  • Lesson # 5: It is never too late to re-connect.

Last, but not least, lesson number #5. In the week that I was about to leave Tofo, I opened up my heart to all who were involved and especially to the owner of the well-known Yoga studio in town, who I had been competing with. She opened up to me too on how my presence had made her feel stronger and more convinced about her path. This was such a major relief.The lesson I took from this: it is never too late to re-connect.

I realized that my job perhaps wasn’t to teach Yoga in Tofo, but to wake people up so to speak. When I was about to leave, they had organised themselves and were organizing their classes in a new way and were marketing it more extensively. I left being happy for them and proud that I had managed to learn so many lessons and had been able to restore a relationship. Yoga is about Union. It is about connecting and re-connecting and I was able to take that lesson to my next Yoga travel destination. Thank you Nelia for being a true Yogi!

Yin Yoga: slow yourself down. Calm and balance yourself. Stay flexible, healthy and happy in body, mind and heart in a world full of impulses and sounds.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

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Having taught Yoga in Mozambique in 2014 and 2017 has given me quiet some lessons. My main lesson? How to be creative whilst teaching Yoga in Africa and on how to approach my classes! In this blog I’d like to share with you what I have learnt from this current – Travel, Live and Work abroad – trip in Africa. My message? How to be creative whilst teaching Yoga in Africa.

The intention to arrive on time

I think it is wise to point out that teaching Yoga in Africa is a challenge and it is very enjoyable at the same time. You only need to have an open-minded, creative and flexible attitude and forget about time. Nothing in Africa goes quickly. People often arrive at the time a class is supposed to start or in most cases much later. Why? Most African people like talking and laughing. So in Tofo, whenever we met a friend in that little village, we stopped, chatted and chatted some more and then we went to our destination. The same counted for my students. We all did it with the intention to arrive on time.

This is Africa

Like we have been saying during our time in Tofo and Vilankulos: ‘TIA’, ‘This Is Africa’. This is what we and others keep on referring to. What does this imply? I means that:

  • Everything always takes longer than expected!
  • Everything always goes differently than expected!
  • It is almost impossible to plan anything!
Teaching Yoga in Africa (Tofo & Vilankulos)

What other lessons did I learn from teaching Yoga in Tofo and Vilankulos in Mozambique, Africa? These were situations I came across:

  • People are not always happy with you being there to teach Yoga. There is also competition in Africa.
  • You don’t always have a great Yoga space nor people who understand the concept of Yoga.
  • Africa? It is hot, dry and dusty. It influences what classes you can teach.
  • Classes are influenced by the weather. If it rains, nobody comes to class. Most people don’t have/use umbrellas.
  • People who work in Africa, don’t always have a lot of money to spend. There are of course exceptions. Meaning that the Yoga pay is even lower than at home.
  • You don’t always have the materials you need and Yoga materials come from far, so you need to improvise a lot.
  • Yoga mats easily get damaged due to dirty feet and the salty ocean breeze in case you teach near a sea or ocean.
  • Africans love their music. So do your neighbours next to your Yoga space.
  • You don’t always speak each other’s language.
  • You will have all levels and all ages in class and people from various cultural backgrounds and belief systems.
Yoga classes Africa

What solutions did I come up with to teach great and fun Yoga classes in Africa?

  • Collaborate. Don’t compete. Unite instead!
  • Work with what is possible. Create a Yoga space on the beach or perhaps even at somebody’s house or use a roof top.
  • Make sure there is shade and a mosquito net and/or mosquito spray.
  • Make sure there is an easy to reach indoor space for when it rains. Or just let people know before hand: rain = no class. You might also not have an umbrella yourself.
  • Make sure you have savings that you can spend. You might earn a descent amount of money when you teach at a five star resort, but not in a backpacking Walhalla like Tofo.
  • Make sure you offer package deals to suits everybody’s pay check and tell them discounts can always be negotiated.
  • Make sure you can buy and use other local materials like grass mats to serve as Yoga mats when the ‘real’ world (shops) seems far away. Make sure you can replace the mats easily too. Or use grass mats underneath the Yoga mats to keep the mats clean and tidy. Turn anything into a Yoga prop: pillows, towels, shirts, books, scarfs.
  • Make sure you can offer a clean, dust free and animal free space, but then again also remind yourself and your students with a smile about ‘This Is Africa (TIA)’, there is only so much you can do.
  • Make sure you can create a quieter space by turning off Wi-Fi during class, so nobody comes and sits in front of the Yoga space to call home. About Africans and their music? Not much that can be done. Perhaps just remind them and invite them to class.
  • Make sure the student who does not speak your language can see you by practicing next to him/her, or put him/her next to a more experienced student. Or have another student quietly translate your instructions. Even a private class might help, so you can truly focus on this one student. If (s)he does fall into the pool, well, than that’s is just it. I have almost see it happen when somebody practiced the Yoga pose ‘Flip Your Dog’.
  • Stop preparing classes. Focus on who is in front of you. Teach the student. Don’t follow your lesson plan.
  • Speak a language most students can understand and make your class as neutral as you can and don’t force people to hold their hands in ‘Namaste’ nor let them chant a mantra if that doesn’t resonate with them.

Remember whilst teaching Yoga in Africa, you might not have a fancy Yoga studio nor expensive equipment yet or a ‘clock’ that works for you, but for sure you can have a lot of Yoga fun.  I hope you can enjoy the African vibe of going slowly and taking care of each other if you ever get to teach Yoga in Africa. Remember too, don’t do complicated Yoga poses next to a pool or on a roof top. Enjoy!

Yin Yoga: slow yourself down. Calm and balance yourself. Stay flexible, healthy and happy in body, mind and heart in a world full of impulses and sounds.

Yin Yoga with Marianne

Join us online: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Watch the short promo on YouTube: Yin Yoga with Marianne.
Read the blog ‘Yin Yoga Online’ with all necessary links to useful YouTube videos.
Read the blog ‘Do It Yourself’ and find out why I believe you can do Yin Yoga anywhere, anytime.

Would you like an answer to your Yoga question?

E-mail me at info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

P.S.

I am a native Dutch Speaker, and a near-native English speaker; so forgive me for any language mistakes. I love learning, so teach me. Feedback is welcome: info@yinyogawithmarianne.com.

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