The truth is, soulmate relationships are difficult. So how do you know if your soulmate ready?
Soulmate relationships require work from both parties to prepare for a life long journey that the universe has planned from the spiritual realm. What is a soulmate? When we think or hear of the word soulmate, we think of the person we desire the most to be with in this life time and live happily ever after.
The true definition of a soulmate is someone whom we have a past life and spiritual connection with or karmic relationship. These connections are like no other and when we reconnect in this life time, the connections are felt from a deeper level of spiritual essence.
When you meet your soulmate. You connect instantly. The feelings are that you have met this person before. The likely hood for this meeting is from a past life experience.
A soulmate will show up in your life when you are truly ready from the soul level. When the soul recognises another soulmate, they often have similarities on a spiritual level, which leads to difficult lessons that need to be shaped here in the physical realm. Soulmates are meant to teach us a lesson, and often meant to help us grow in life.
How do you know if you are truly ready for a soulmate relationship?
It can be frustrating when you see family and friends around happy in love with their soulmate while all you find are quick sparks of love that never build to a solid relationship, let alone soulmate connections.
Hollywood movies and romance novels make it look far too easy to find your soulmate these days, which often leads to disappointment.
The first thing you need to do to bring forth your soulmate is to let go of the expectations from yourself to find “the one”. You must release this energy and work on yourself first and foremost.
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Comparing yourself with others, also needs to go. Comparing yourself with expectations that just don’t exist can leave you feeling worthless and make you feel hopeless.
To find love and the right type of love that is best suited for you, you must think and create good thoughts in your mind to bring this person into your life.
Most people want to be with someone who is happy, and positive – most of the time.
Not with someone who carries negative energy around and constantly bringing the relationship down.
So firstly, you should engage in becoming a positive force within yourself.
In a nutshel, the best way to bring a soulmate into your life, is by working on yourself.
There are many ways you can go about working on yourself, you can take a course on personal growth, get to know yourself and read books on how to manifest soulmates. Learn about meditation practices. Sign up to that yoga classes.
Take a walk in nature – anything to enhance area of self-development and personal growth, will help you draw your soulmate to you.
How Do You Know When Your Ready?
Your soul knows when the time is ready to meet your soulmate.
There are first and foremost important lessons that you need to learn before the soulmate enters your life.
You should use this opportunity to work on yourself. When the soulmate enters your life, you are more than ready.
This will sound counter-intuitive but people spend too much time searching for love.
They hang out at bars, or search apps like tinder or jump to dating sites endlessly scrolling.
Your Soulmate will enter your life when you least expect it and are not actively looking for it.
Your willingness to better yourself will let the universes know that you are ready for your soulmate to find you.
As you learn more about yourself, the universe will naturally start to bring you and your soulmate together.
Finding your true soulmate takes time and teaches you patience.
Manifesting true love or your soulmate is not in your control.
Give up control to the universe, focus on self-care and self-improvement in order to open the door to your one and only life partner.
Dealing with relationship loss of a soulmate, and then trying to manifest a soulmate relationship can be difficult without guidance.
At Zenory Psychics, we make this journey easy by offering love psychic readings for those seeking soulmate advice.
Our psychics readings with accurate tarot readers and spiritual healers are here to guide you with confidence and peace when it comes to dealing with matters of the heart.
Soulmate relationships take time, and require a lot of preparation, changed habits through personal growth to name a few.
Many women have had the experience of having a man they were in a relationship with swiftly withdraw and pull away.
You may have been spending a lot of time together and calling and texting each other into the wake of dawn, often when suddenly, he goes silent.
It’s easy to start replaying everything in your mind over and over looking for clues and reasons why he might be acting the way he is.
Here are 7 common reasons why men pull back in a relationship, and steps you can take to identify a man who is pulling away and withdrawing.
You might be seeing signs of a cheating man when he starts to avoid from intimacy. The number one thing women worry about when a man pulls away from them emotionally is that he is cheating. Cheating would cause him to be less available to you and be more guarded over where he is spending his time. He might also be feeling guilt from his actions.
Anger Over a Fight or Misunderstanding
If you recently had a fight, even if you have made up, there could still be hurt feelings or misunderstandings diving you. Men sometimes have difficulty expressing their feelings and that can lead to silence on their end.
Feeling For An Ex-Lover
If your man recently ran into an ex-lover, ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, this could cause old feelings for that person to resurface and no matter if he is planning to pursue these old feelings or not, it could cause him to pull back from you for a while. Confusion over old feelings is a common reason for withdrawal.
Spooked or Flooded With Emotion
Remember that men have difficulty expressing their emotions and if they feel overwhelmed with strong feelings for you, even if those feelings are of love, it could frighten him into becoming more distant as he struggles to figure out what he is feeling and how to express those feelings to you.
The deeper he falls in love with you, the more he faces a fear of rejection as well which is also stressful.
Fear Of Commitment
It’s perfectly normal for both men and women in relationships to have a fear of commitment.
Especially if the relationship is new or one of you had a bad relationship in the past. Some people just have a hard time settling down until they are 100% sure they are in love.
Personal Life Events
It is possible that the reason for the withdrawal has nothing to do with you or your relationship. If your man is going through tough times economically or with their family they could simply be busy processing the stress in their life.
Be a shoulder to cry on and give him the space he needs to resolve these issues that do not have to do with your relationship.
What you might read as withdrawal could just be the natural course of a relationship that has become comfortable.
When a relationship is new, there tends to be a lot more dating, texting and attempts to impress each other. As the relationship grows, you no longer have the urge to check in with each other 24/7 because you are confident in your love.
Are you seeing signs that your man or the guy your involved with might be pulling away, becoming distant or withdrawing from you? Contact our accurate love psychics for an online psychic reading today. Get the answers and clarity you need to move forward in your life.
Through a psychic love reading, our soulmate psychics and tarot readers are able to pick up and see your situation clearly, and therefore can give you the insight and tools to steir you onto the right path.
When he pulls away, be sure to gain the tools and insight to deal with these situations at ease, understand why he pulls away without worry or stress. The guidance and insight from a psychic reading at Zenory is always given with compassion whilst delivering your messages with truth.
Are you too available for him? Emotionally Unavailable Men simply put, can be tough! He’s not available to spend time with you, yet he makes it a point or a priority to see a friend, Friday night after work drinks, breakfast with his mother, but makes no fuss about completely writing you off?
Dealing with emotionally unavailable men can be frustrating and ultimately confusing. When you have invested your time, your heart into the relationship, then he pulls the rug from right under your feet, can leave you feeling devastated.
Anyone who has been in a situation with emotionally unavailable men will know how frustrating it can be.
Dealing with emotionally unavailable men can leave you feeling as if you go above and beyond to do things for the one guy, but this ass wipe doesn’t return the favour.
Yes, we can’t help who we fall in love with. However, we can learn from these experiences on dealing with emotionally unavailable men and moving forward we are more aware of the kind of relationships we want to avoid in the future. (easier said then done)
New love can be powerful and emotional at its best but also it can be overwhelming and depressing. That is because the people we fall in love with don’t always return that love, or they are unable to love due to facing their own personal problems.
Some women make the mistake of thinking that the man they love will change over time or will come around if she just wait for him to change and making excuses to justify the changes.
They make themselves completely available and open to a loved one that might never be ready to join them, which always ends up leading to heartbreak.
How can you tell if the man you are in love with is emotionally unavailable?
Here are a few things to look out for:
He drops in and out of your life, with no explanation. Everything seems to be going so well, and then out of know where poof he drops the rug from right under your nose.
He takes forever to answer texts or calls, if he answers them at all
He isn’t interested in meeting your family or friends
He never asks you on a date, you only meet for sex (the “hookup”)
He never talks about his feeling and starts to act uncomfortable if you talk about your own feelings or ask him what he is thinking or feeling.
He is already in another relationship (he’s married, separated, recently divorced or in love with another women he’s can’t have)
For your own happiness, it is important to realise that not every man you fall in love with will love you back or put in the same amount of effort. It is said that we always look for that one person who is a mirror of their own father.
It’s OK to walk away from a relationship that is hurting you. Trying to force them to change or waiting for them to change never works out the way you expect it to and they could end up resenting you for it. Above all, protect your heart and start putting yourself first.
If this is a new relationship or one that has been leading nowhere for a while, it’s time to move on.
Start by deciding what you want.
Do you want an exclusive relationship?
Do you want to move from friends to lovers?
After you know what you want, set some ground rules with yourself.
Decided to let him make the next move, or simply to stop rushing to answer his texts when he makes no effort to communicate with you unless it’s on his terms. Talk to him about what you want and about your ground rules, simply and clearly.
If he makes no effort to open up to you, don’t chase him down, simply take your heart and move on.
The soulmate you’ve been looking for is still out there waiting for you.
Feeling too available of an unavailable man or lover can get us down, and by consulting a love psychic for a love psychic reading about your situation can guide you through the answers that you seek.
Reach out to one of our online psychics at Zenory.
All psychics and tarot readers can guide you through your next step.
Should you move on and let go? Or should you wait it out? Is it worth waiting?
Or should you drop it once and for all.
The answers might not always be pleasant, but the guidance through a psychic reading will be delivered with compassion and empathy to move you into a position of power.
You don’t have to feel stuck any longer consult our psychics for some quality psychic advice.
Crystals are often used by many psychics during psychic readings. Many psychic readers use different tools and special gifts they possess for each psychic reading. Psychic readings with crystals are another way psychics can gain insight and information.
They can then pass this along to clients and can be quite useful to them. Many psychics even use their crystals on their alters. Some psychics use crystals in jewelery they wear and to assist them in meditation. Some psychics even have crystal balls!
Some psychics have wands and pendulums with crystals they use for psychic readings. Psychic readings can include the use of such crystals as quartz, rose quartz, tigers eye, citrine, amethyst, and so many, many more.
During a psychic reading a reader may recommend to a client that they purchase certain crystals. A reputable psychic will only suggest inexpensive ones that the client can buy at a store or online.
These can be used for protection, healing and for other various reasons that will be helpful for the client. Each zodiac sign also has a crystal to go with it. Some say that purchasing crystals should be a very hands on experience.
Some suggest you should pay close attention to what you are drawn to, and feel free to touch each one and get what feels right to you. People that need to feel more grounded, want help in manifesting or meditation, or wish to change or balance the energy around you often buy them. Many crystals have multiple healing qualities but some are better than others.
Topaz for instance, is a great for those in need of strength both inner strength and physical strength. Citrine has been said to be a great manifesting crystal. Lapis can be great for meditation purposes.
Psychic readers make sure to keep their crystals clean, and so should you. Simply running them under water will do the trick. Psychic readings and a Tarot Reading with crystals can help one regain balance, strength and a sense of well being back into their lives.
Are you getting in the way of manifesting your soulmate?
Many people want to attract someone into their life, at most times we long for a deep desire to connect with someone on a spiritual level, such is our soulmate. However, during your time alone, before the universe will bring this soul into your life, you should know these 5 common factors that could be preventing you from manifesting your soulmate.
Relationships are like food to the soul, essential for its growth and invariably necessary for our sustenance as a person.
If the soul is happy, the individual regardless of the prevailing societal and physical setting is happy; it’s the reason why people who have found their soulmates; that final piece to the Jigsaw puzzle that is their lives radiate nothing short of a blissful aura.
For those who are yet to find this perfect complement to their lives, life can be lackluster and fleeting. If you fall into this category, here are the top five reasons as to why manifesting your soulmate has been a fruitless endeavor so far.
You’re Not Yourself
Your soulmate is the one who loves and cherish you for the person you are, irrespective of your flaws and perfections. How then can you connect with such an individual if your real persona is constantly veiled?
Granted, life forces even the most resilient of us to create an emotional blockade in a bid to prevent the reoccurrence of previously less than pleasurable experiences.
The realisation that such a barrier effectively transforms you from a being capable of infinite love to one with a constrained view of life is critical to the furtherance of your journey towards finding a soulmate.
Your soulmate is attracted to your real persona. If you exude anything other than this in your day to day life, you are most likely to attract the wrong set of individuals; who are bound to waste your time and potentiate further emotional scarring and invariably the building of even taller blockades.
You’re Not Putting In The Right Amount Of Effort
Inasmuch as finding a soulmate is often described with the cliché ‘they will come to you’ phrase, it is imperative to note that in most instances this is far from what is obtainable in reality. Locating your treasured missing rib takes effort, it takes commitment, and sacrifice.
The saying ‘nothing good comes easy’ comes to mind; the right soulmate, the perfect fit, do not come easy.
For sure they are not delivered on a platter of gold if anything you’ve got to fashion out the golden platter on which they’d land when they come; in other words, you’ve got to take the necessary steps to accommodate your soul mate when they do arrive. Many an instance where individuals have lost their prospective soulmates due to negligence.
You’re Not Emotionally Ready
It takes an emotionally sound mind to locate and abhor/accommodate a soulmate. And while most singles (including you) identify themselves as emotionally matured, in the real sense they are not.
Emotional maturity is not centred on how many relationships or experiences you’ve had in the past, it is more of how capable you are at dealing with relationships and their accompanying issues.
A matured individual in this sense is one who is ready to take up responsibilities; one who is willing to forgive and also keep an open mind. This doesn’t mean you have to be perfect in all ramifications; it just means that you have to invest more time in developing yourself.
Picture yourself as your partner, and work on those qualities you require your dream soulmate to have.
You’re Isolating Yourself
Maybe due to past experiences or perhaps because of your very nature you’ve made a habit of separating yourself from everyone including those that love you.
This psyche aptly described as being a loner isolates you from experiencing the feeling of being loved; a feeling that is critical to finding a soul mate. It is when you’re loved that you can love back and it is in this atmosphere of mutual love and friendship that soulmate relationships thrive.
You Are Hanging On To Someone In The Past
It’s a tough and mentally demanding task to let go of the past, especially when it is filled with pleasant memories made with someone whom we once loved dearly.
Reliving those memories and wishing things returned to the way they were, clouds your sense of judgment and ultimately shuts the door of healthy relationships in your life.
If you’re going to find your soulmate, you have to let go of the past, no matter how difficult it seems; realize that if that person were indeed your soulmate, he/she would still be here by your side in the present.
Talking with a online psychic can help you weed through the struggles you might be facing when it comes to love. Our love psychics can guide you through a soulmate psychic reading, or a online tarot reading to help you find the factors that might be preventing you from manifesting your soulmate.
You feel as if you’ve been waiting your whole life for your soulmate and the attraction you feel for them is sudden and strong. So what happens if the person you love loses respect for you over time?
Most relationships start off in a honeymoon phase where both partners are on their best behavior, sharing their very best version of themselves with each other. Respect in a relationship means that both partners see value in the other person.
A respectful relationship is based on honesty and makes you feel safe and loved. Sometimes, however, one soulmate can start to put their own value above their soulmate partner and this is where a perfectly good soulmate relationship can turn toxic.
A toxic relationship can make you feel depressed and unworthy.
your soulmate doesn’t call for days, is frequently late to dates or reschedules at the last minute often. You cannot count on them to be there for you when you need them most.
Disrespectful Words or Actions
they are no longer polite, they call you names, belittle your dreams or talk badly about your friends and family. They may talk to you as if you are inferior, less intelligent or beneath them.
your partner tries to start arguments, makes you feel like you are to blame for everything negative that happens, turns friends or family against you or often lies to you.
When you are intensely attracted to someone or love them deeply, it can be easy to ignore or explain away the early signs of disrespect in a relationship. It is important for you to remember that you are not at fault and you deserve to be treated with respect at all times, especially by your lover.
Once you have recognized one or more of the red flags above, it is time to turn things around quickly before it gets worse.
Set clear and specific boundaries with your soulmate. Let them know that continued disrespect will no longer be tolerated.
Stick to your guns, do not let your love for your soulmate cloud your judgement and keep you in an unhealthy toxic relationship that will harm you mentally or physically in the long run.
How to let go of control and expectations in a relationship
Letting go of control and expectations in a relationship is one thing.
It is impossible for humans to exist without any type of relationship. All humans are in one form of relationships or the other. Examples of this include family relationships. Some are also in a relationship by virtue of living in the same neighbourhood or working together. There’s also the aspect of being in a romantic relationship. Specific threads run in all these different types of relationships. The threads have to do with gaining control and having expectations.
It’s normal to have expectations in any relationship that you’re in.
It is also normal to have some sort of control over any relationship.
Some people share their expectations with those they are in a relationship with. Other people keep their expectations to themselves. Similarly, some people are not afraid to show that they are in control while others hesitate for fear of not being seen as too overbearing. Striking the balance between these situations is a problem for many people. That explains why many people would like to know how to let go of control and expectations in a relationship. Firstly, it starts with yourself. If you are open and willing to accept that you maybe pushing people away or even your loved one as a result of your own controlling behaviour and high expectations take a read of our article on 21 reasons why you are pushing people away.
When loved ones cannot meet your expectations and you lose all control, anger takes over.
Again, that shows the importance of learning to cede a bit of ground.
Failure to let go can put you in serious problems. It can leave you struggling with pain when everybody else thinks you are happy. It can destroy friendships that took ages to build. It can destroy families that have been a long time in the making. It can turn your heart cold because you believe the other person you’re in a relationship with does not care. Failing to let go can mess your life.
So, here is what you should do to let go of control and expectations in your relationships.
Approach Relationships with Zero Expectations
First, make sure that your need for controlling others and the expectations you have are:
Built on solid foundations
Therefore, have zero expectations. This doesn’t mean you should go through life – and your relationships – with a laissez faire attitude. No, it simply means you are open enough and ready for whatever life throws your way. Live life with an open mind. Determine to go with the flow. Relationships are not based on what one party only does. They depend on what the two – or more – people who are in the relationships do.
Go through the relationships with the clear understanding of the unpredictability of humans.
Humans are not machines. Humans are not robotic. People wake up each morning with a fresh set of fears. People go through emotional rollercoaster. Do not be shocked – too shocked, that is – when the person you left yesterday feeling happy and excited about you suddenly shows up not wanting to speak with you. All these confusing habits are part of what it means to be in a relationship with another human.
Avoid Trying to Control Everybody or Everything
Secondly, it’s impossible for a single human to be in complete control over everything.
Any person who tries to control everything will soon burn out. Such a person will not be helpful in the relationship. Ironically, such people end up losing the control they wanted to display in the first place. They end up disappointed to notice other people not giving as much as they do. They begin comparing themselves with others and realize that the relationship is not 50/50 as it should but only one party seems to be doing all the work.
At times, it is better to accept that your way is not the only option.
There are times when you will be better off accepting that another idea could just be as good.
Be Flexible and Open-Minded
Third, flexibility is crucial for the success of any relationship.
Be flexible in all your relationships. Don’t just stick to one way of doing things. Be open to the idea that the other person also has feelings and thoughts that differ from yours fundamentally. Flexibility also involves a bit of detachment from the outcomes. Some people end up suffering greatly in relationships for the simple reason they have an unhealthy attachment to outcomes. If you are such a person, it will not be long before you begin suffering.
Open your mind to all the possible outcomes.
Do not be afraid to experiment.
Find a way of making yourself capable of adjusting where necessary.
For example, appreciate the fact your partner can cancel a dinner date at the last minute. Your partner does this – not out of disrespect to you – but probably because something more urgent came up. Do not throw a tantrum because somebody now asks to meet you later than the time you agreed on previously. Instead, use the additional time that’s now in your hand to do something else.
Effect of Letting Control and Expectations Go
Anybody who takes any of the measures prescribed here will soon begin enjoying healthier relationships all through. Taking the measures highlighted above is the first step to repairing a friendship or relationship that has been on the rocks for a long time. While following this piece of advice, remember not to appear or act indifferent. It is so easy to make the situation worse even when your intentions are sincere and pure.
Therefore, stop expecting others to think or behave like you.
Stop thinking that you are too superior to everybody else.
Forgive those who hurt you. Do not hold grudges in your heart towards anyone.
Remember to live open-minded. Approach all your relationships with an open-mind.
After all, life is not a series of straight lines. It is replete with interruptions, twists and turns.
How to get the best out of your next Psychic Reading
Psychic Reading and Tarot Readings can be a great way to gain insight into the future and are a common and preferred method for many people who are facing difficulties in whether it’s in their love life, working life (career) dealing with grief, or any situation when life throws us a nasty curve ball. From crystal ball readings to tarot cards to psychic reading sessions over the internet through telephony, physic readings have come a long way. With the advancement of technology, you no longer have to wait for an appointment to see a psychic today, with built in technology and companies such as Zenory, psychic readings are accessible at the click of a button now. But, just like for everything else, there are ways to get the maximal output from a psychic reading. The best part? It works even if you are new to the world of psychic reading or tarot reading online. For beginners, these tips can prove really helpful. Let’s check out some reliable ways you can use to make sure that you are getting the best value out of your psychic reading.
Reliable Internet and Telephone Connection: This one counts more as common sense but let’s discuss it nonetheless. In the present time, if you are going to allow a psychic to conduct a reading and reveal some life insights, there is a 90 on 100 chance that you are going to do that over the internet or the telephone. In order to have a smooth psychic reading online, you should make sure that there is zero to minimal technical interruption. Also, on the note of reliability, make sure to read the terms and conditions of the sessions/sites you’re paying for.
Stay Calm: Make sure to set the meeting in a quiet place where there is no noise. That is to say, avoid rooms with or surrounded by television, music or any other sort of audio or visual distraction. Before you begin the session, let go of all your worries. Take a moment to relax and bring yourself in your calm state. The calmer you are, the stronger the connection you’ll enjoy with your reader. If all your techniques fail, try a few breathing exercises to calm yourself down.
Choose the best psychic reader for yourself: This is perhaps the most important part of a psychic reading. For beginners, choosing a reliable reader is imperative since they have no experience. While deciding for a reader, there are a few things you can keep in mind:
Research: We know this can be a tough time, and we understand choosing a reader can be something we do without thinking because we just want to feel painless and to know about your destiny is understood but under no circumstances shall that overlook the efforts you should put into researching different readers and going through their profiles.
Feedback: listen to what other customers or clients are saying. The feedback received by a psychic reader online speaks volume about his/her professional practice, character, gifts and delivery style. If you’re researching on good websites, you’ll find that these websites filter the feedbacks with respect to consistency, relevance, and authenticity just to provide the user a good feedback.
Experience and Skills: Everyone prefers experienced psychic readers. To beginners, there is no other choice. But experience is not the only thing that counts. Browse through the skills and gifts that readers have to offer and most importantly, the area of their expertise. If you want advice on love and relationships, for instance, it is only sensible you look for readers who have expertise in this area such as soulmate specialist, an expert in twin-flame connections.
The length of your reading: A good in-depth psychic reading can last for up to at least 30 minutes. While planning a psychic reading session, give yourself at least half an hour with your reader.
Write down your questions: This is very important. Before you start your session of psychic reading online, it is essential that you have all your questions near you. This helps you maintain a balance about the things you wanted to ask. So even if you were to get side-tracked in your reading, your list of questions will make sure you don’t forget. Taking notes while the reading is in session is also recommended. Here is a list of example questions that you may ask:
When will (NAME) contact me next?
How does he/she feel about me?
Does he/she still love me?
Do you see me getting that job?
Why is he/she acting the way they are?
Is he/she cheating on me?
Do you see myself getting married within the next year or two?
What do you see for myself and (NAME) in this relationship?
Will this relationship grow?
Do we have a future together?
As excited as you may be about your reading, it is imperative to remember that psychics are not cookie cutters, and they cannot always guarantee the outcome of your reading as nothing is set in stone. That is to say there are questions you will not get answers to. For instance, questions relating to medical conditions. If you need to ask for medical advice, you need to speak with your Doctor.
Here is a list of questions not to ask:
Am I pregnant?
When will I win the lotto?
Do I need to go to the doctors?
I have a lump, is it cancerous?
What do I look like?
What does my future partner look like?
Can you guess my name?
What do you see for me? (General and vague questions)
Some of these questions are not possible for a psychic or tarot reader to answer. Try to avoid asking questions that are too vague and ask direct and specific questions instead.
Lastly, don’t get your hopes up. Go into the reading session with an open mind. Be ready for the truth. Your reader isn’t always going to give you the best news, sugar coat anything or tell you what you want to hear. Be ready to hear the truth and be ready to take this on the chin. Your reader may also give you tips and coping strategies to deal with any bad news, delivered with compassion.
You can also be sure to read about our Psychic Quality and how we vet our readers to give you the confidence you need to proceed. We also offer a risk-free 10 min trial period for you to gain some confidence in our system and the reader of your choice.
Have you had any bad or good experiences with psychic readings? I’d love to hear your thoughts and how you would recommend to anyone on how they can get the best out of their psychic reading online.
Isn’t your life partner also your soulmate? That’s what I found myself thinking when I first saw the topic of this article. As I pondered the question and called an emergency meeting with my intuition, I saw that yes, your life partner is your main soulmate, your closest and ultimate soulmate. But on the way to this life partner, there may be a road filled with other soulmates, yes you can have more than one soulmate in this lifetime. There are are soulmates we meet whom there’s an important lesson to learn or a significant assignment to fulfill. For the purposes of this article, we’ll call the ultimate soulmate your life partner, and these other significant but temporary relationships on the way your soulmates.
A VERY BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOUR LIFE PARTNER AND OTHER SOULMATES IS THIS: Only your life partner is good enough for you. This may sound a bit harsh, but we are not judging his or her inherent worth as a person, only whether they qualify to be your perfect fit. You may have a very strong powerful and passionate connection with other soulmates, but you will not find that easy compatibility and harmony for a shared life which will definitely be there with a life partner. Your Life partner was in a very real sense made for you, to be the other wing so that you could fly through life together sharing a common purpose and supporting each other. Your soulmates support your growth and preparation as you make the journey towards your life partner. Sometimes we try to make a soulmate fit, but we find that like one of Cinderella’s stepsisters, no matter how hard we try to force it, the shoe (the soulmate) flies across the room (or town or country).
CRAZY LOVE VS PEACEFUL PASSION: Surely passion is the main ingredient in both temporary soulmate relationships as well as the one you have with your life partner. The main difference is in the pattern this passion takes. The two kinds of relationships may both start with a lot of magic and fire. However, in the soulmate relationships, often the ego rears its ugly head, creating dramatic scenarios and issues which then turn the relationship into one with turmoil and chaos, a rollercoaster ride of fighting and making up perhaps, or obsession. In contrast, the relationship with your right life partner will have a subtext of harmony and peace, which creates a stable foundation for passion for growing and continue to color your days as you grow together over the years. The degree of care you give your relationship with your life partner affects the sustenance of this passion but that’s a separate issue. The main point is both relationships begin on a passionate note, but with a soulmate, the passion either dies out or goes into crazyvill over time.
IDENTICAL VS MATCHED OPPOSITE: Many times with soulmates, you will have very strong similarities. You may even feel you are identical, you may even think “she is the female version of me”. The problem comes when your similarities clash, you may both be weak in certain areas, or you may both have the same need from each other and find yourselves frustrated. The very same similarities that draw you together can also cause tension over time. With your life partner, you will find that you are “matched opposites”. This means in certain areas you are similar but in very important key areas you are opposites and this opposite quality makes you complement one another in love and in life. You do not share the same weaknesses but rather where you are weak, he/she is strong. An example of this may be that you are emotional and sensitive and cry at the drop of a hat, where as he is strong and sturdy and can be your rock in difficult times.
FIZZLE VS FLOURISH: A good test of whether you are with a soulmate or a life partner is what I call the fizzle test. With a soulmate, ultimately the love fizzles. You may be obsessed, attached, or even caring but you do not fall deeper in love over time, nor does the love grow like a fine wine over the months or years, but rather, there’s a feeling that the connection has stopped deepening and instead has faded. In contrast, with a life partner, the connection grows to new depths and enters new realms, and over time you may feel that there’s no “ceiling” to this love, as it expands and takes you to new levels of love.
STRUGGLE VS EASE: While there are always exceptions to every rule, the majority of destined life partners find that their relationship has an ease to it. In contrast, temporary soulmates find struggle, if not at first then eventually, particularly as they try to make the relationship last beyond its due course. Soulmate relationships have a cycle, and as the growth cycle comes to completion, there may be a sense of panic and trying to make the relationship stick. However, with a life partner, there’s no struggle to make the relationship happen or work or stick because all of these things happen naturally and organically. If you have ever had the experience of doing something in the zone or in the flow, be it a sport you love or playing a musical instrument, it is a gratifying experience full of grace and marked by ease. This is how things should feel most of the time with a life partner, and they will. However, with a soulmate, that kind of ease may be there at first or on and off but soulmate relationships tend to include a greater degree of pain and struggle, as they are the relationships that clean the junk out of us to prepare us for our life partners.
One last word on Soulmates versus life partners: Not all marriages are with destined life partners, sometimes in the inexperience of youth, a person may marry a temporary soulmate then find themselves separating painfully or indifferently when things don’t sustain the distance. If you find yourself in this situation, get your hopes up, as the very existence of your soulmate relationship implies that you are in preparation for true love with your destined life partner, who will fit you like a glove, and dance with you through the rest of your life’s journey.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Have you met your life partner? How did you meet and what are some tips you could give for someone who might be going through this that I haven’t mentioned above.