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If there’s a place to go to reconnect to who you really are, it’s the Pods at Wootton Park in Warwickshire. As I sit here in one of their gorgeous treetop pod houses, surrounded by the songs of nature, I really drop back into the peace and serenity that is my natural state.
I awoke this morning to the sun gleaming through the window and the sounds of a cockerel and, as I’m typing this, there’s a beautiful bird singing me a song just a few metres away in the trees surrounding my little pod. Beyond that, there are rolling hills, and I’m surrounded by every shade of green you can possibly imagine, as the gentle breeze waves the leaves around in the trees, causing soft shadows to appear on my balcony. The fresh, clean scent of outside is permanently with me. It really is bliss!
Last night I was in my hot tub outside my pod, sitting in the warm bubbly water whilst the rain was dropping softly on my hair, and I felt such serenity. From the moment of walking up the steps to the wooden delight, the luxury of the experience was evident with underfloor heating, my own little kitchen, and the cutest little bed – and all under the stars and little star-shaped solar lights! If you wanted, you could watch TV, too, but I enjoyed just being totally engrossed in the beauty.
Immersion in the Outdoors
More than that, this total immersion in the outdoors (and it’s a treat in this beautiful treepod, I have to say!) is a reminder that life is just happening all of the time. The experience offers a gentle tapping back to inner wisdom that nature (just like ourselves) has everything it needs already within; that we are part of something so much bigger that we can’t really explain, but that we just know has its own plan. It’s an embodiment of the fact that we are supported by life – and the closer you can get to that, seems to be the closer that we can remember who we really are underneath all of our suffering. Nature helps us see our true essence.
Before I got here, I had been in my head yesterday, thinking about some of the things that caused me emotional pain or discomfort, and whilst I know that my experience comes from what I think, I still felt I couldn’t drop out of it. I had worries, and was trying to figure so much out – as is typical in our human nature; but somehow, here, I found myself unwinding – without really trying. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t to do with the complementary chocolates, either (though it could have been?!), but as I sunk into the hot tub on the veranda, high up in the trees, I began to melt into a space of surrender. And that’s what, I’ve come to see, is important.
Learning to Surrender
You see, what I’ve learned over the years, is that so often we fight against what is happening in life. But we don’t need to; in fact, the more we resist something the more it stays. When we can begin to accept what is, in this moment, we see that we are always ok, no matter what is going on. And whilst that’s easy to do in a hot tub in the serenity of nature, it’s more about the idea that even just allowing some time for self-care – some time to practice a pause – can really help us to see the clearer path as to how we can return to our natural state of wellbeing. Just allowing yourself some space and time to be with yourself can help you reconnect and find your own peace. Being immersed here reminds us of what’s already within us; our innate resilience. For me, time in nature is that beautiful reminder that life is happening all the time without us forcing anything, and so when you are surrounded by it, all of a sudden, you find yourself back in a peacefulness that existed all along, but which you had perhaps forgotten about!
I’ve been saying to myself for a while now that, as well as my workshop events, I’d love to create some special space to get a beautiful group together. A group of connection, where we can hang out, chat about life, and immerse ourselves in what is meaningful for these lessons; a space from which to share an understanding that helped me find freedom from suffering, by simply understanding that we aren’t who we think we are. You see, whilst it is easy to drop out of our heads and into our hearts in such a peaceful place, this is also accessible to us no matter where we are, by simply understanding something special that I share about how the mind works. I want you to be able to take that home, so you can drop into the feeling of being ok and feeling freedom, no matter what your suffering.
And so, as well as my 10 day Bali retreat, I’m also planning some beautiful 3 day retreats, 1 day retreats – and even one-to-one retreats for those who’d like to work more privately – in these pods, here in the heart of the Warwickshire countryside – just 6 miles from Stratford-Upon-Avon. I’m offering a space for you to find freedom and to come and learn more about that magical place inside all of us which can never be touched. Lessons from nature; this is the perfect place to do that.
If you’re interested, email email@example.com, and I’ll keep you on the list for more information! In the meantime, enjoy nature and stay curious!
“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness.”
~ Thich Nhat Hahn
For so long I’ve tried to be in control. I’ve tried to make sure that my life goes according to plan; that all my ducks are in a row. Until six months ago, I had a home in the UK, I was married, I had a totally different business, and it looked like my life was sorted. I had a nice life – but, at times, this mapped-out life felt so trapping. It seemed like my soul longed for more; for a life that was less known – one so different to my own. I wanted freedom.
That’s not to say that I needed all of that external stuff to change in order to be happy – I had seen something different, and I know now that, even in my mapped-out life, I was still absolutely ok because happiness comes from within. But I knew my soul needed to explore the world more, moving away from everything it knew and stepping a brave foot in the direction of freedom.
There was a time when I would have been scared of that. My over-planning, future-predicting self would have had a fit and tried to make sure everything was just as it ‘should’ be. In fact, I had always worried about things like leaving my family behind, leaving my relationship, making enough money, and being alone. I’ve been to Bali before, you see, and I worried about all of this then; though, this time, my trip is very different. Why? Well, I have seen something that transformed my life – and in that awakening, I found true freedom – and now I know, it is already within us.
Last time I was here in Bali, I was trying to very hard to fix myself. True to my felt need to have everything being perfect, I was here to mend my brokenness. So I thought, anyway. What I realised, along the way was something magical. Something which is so simple and yet so profound at the same time; almost so that it seems like this special little secret that we seem to know but we forget, over and over again. But, I don’t want it to be a secret; I want to share this wisdom that I awakened to so that I can help others, and this is what I do now – so please do hear me as I share what I like to call my Transformational Truth.
What I Saw that Helped Me Transform
Along my journey, I awakened to how life really works, and in doing so, it helped me reconnect to the truth of who we really are. I began to see that we experience life entirely through our thinking, moment to moment, and that our feelings come from our thoughts. Anything that we think, creates our reality – and yet, our thoughts aren’t always true. Just because we have a thought, it doesn’t mean it is real. I saw that we are not our thoughts – and, therefore, our feelings aren’t always necessarily responding to the truth.
As well as this, I heard that we have everything we desire already within us. Anything we long to be connected to – whether that is freedom, love, peace, joy, creativity (or anything else) – is actually our natural, innate state. Until we think it’s not! So, I realised, as I sunk deeper into this wisdom, that we aren’t our thoughts, we aren’t even our feelings – and, our truthful, natural state actually sits just underneath all of this strange energy that moves through us. Deep within us – in our ‘deep down’ knowing – there is a wisdom that simply guides us through life, without us needing to think about anything at all. Life happens for us.
What this meant for me, is that life is simply being lived, and its energy moves through us: ever changing, ever flowing. There is something greater that lives us; that we have no control over at all! Wow! What might the implications of this be for an over-planner?!
How I Unravelled by Doing Nothing
Well, when I saw all of this, I somehow began to settle – without doing anything at all. And, as I just began to explore this deeper, I realised, there is absolutely nothing to do, but to see how life works in this way. As we do, magically, all of our illusionary thinking begins to drop away – all by itself.
You see, if our thinking is illusion, and we really have no control because that, too, is an illusion – what more can we do to get our ducks lined up? There is nothing. I began to question, do we even need them lined up, as I had thought? As I saw this, there was an unleashing of my freedom. I suddenly had access to a totally different experience of life, which we are always just one thought away from. I realised: freedom is always available to us, no matter what! It is in our thinking.
I had been toying, for a while, with letting everything go. With the recent breakdown of my relationship – again, something that I hadn’t planned for – I was learning a new, unconditioned, way of navigating life. One with new choices. One in which I could follow the dream that felt truer to myself. Instead of being in my controlled life, I felt moved back towards what lit me up. You know that magical feeling, that butterflies-in-your-tummy, sparkly sensation that reminds you of the truth that we are alive? I wanted to follow that. In that, I saw I had a choice: to stay as I was, or to move with life’s constant evolution.
For months, I toyed with it, dancing between options, and over-thinking it, again. And then, deeper insight emerged from my wisdom in the space of unlearning all my conditioning. I realised; there is nothing to decide, but decisions will be made. I let go. I remembered, again: there was nothing to do, but that somehow, there would be some movement – because there couldn’t not be in a world that is always evolving.
Letting Go & Sinking into True Freedom
And so, somehow, earlier this year, I ended up back in Bali. I remember booking the one way ticket, and I remember thinking I wouldn’t go. I remember not wanting to go. I remember being excited about going. I remember all the thinking about going – and all the thinking about staying. I also remember all of the thinking about what leaving meant. And, I see in this example, all of the different energies moving through our minds; the joy and expansion in one moment, to fear, uncertainty and sadness the next – back and forth. In this, I see how life is just happening, and my experience of it comes entirely from me.
And I see so much more, too. I see how in following my soul’s wisdom – that little spark of joy underneath all of the thinking we have that often tells us not to – I have aligned entirely with the truth of who I am. Unashamedly stepping out into who I really was all along, I see myself, and my infinite potential. I see my true freedom. I see what was inside, all along, hiding underneath so much of my mind.
This trip has been so different from the last time I was in Bali. This time, I know that there is nothing to fix, because we aren’t broken – and, even if we feel it, it comes from our thinking and it isn’t reality.
I have been living out of a suitcase for 6 months, my old life completely shattered, my bank account uncertain; but I have never felt truer to myself than before. I have never felt so alive and free. As I arrived here, I just let everything go. There are moments when I feel sadness about what I’ve let go, but knowing what I know now means I can be with these feelings, when they visit, in that moment. Radically accepting them, exactly as they are, but knowing that the truth of who I really am sits right underneath all of it. And then, true to life, I get moved again, and I remember that I am always free – it’s only one thought away – and I am innately joyful and always connected.
Now I’m here, in my favourite space in the world, there’s a profound resonance in my alignment with who I am. In the beautiful jungle of Ubud, surrounded by proof of this divine inexplicable intelligence, I find myself right where my heart is. I find myself living in the beauty of the ever-changing flux of sensational sunrises and sunsets, of beautiful food, of yummy yoga and all the things I adore, and of connection with a likeminded tribe. It’s a difficult place not to feel in love with liberation, and I’ve allowed myself to remember my connection to myself. However, I know that my freedom doesn’t come from the external things anymore, but from how I view life.
But most importantly, since I have been here in blissful Bali, I have found miracles unravelling for me, right before my eyes, that I never could have planned for. In the space where I would normally have been thinking and controlling, I have made connections with beautiful people. In that same space, I have found plans to host global events and Reconnect to Your Truth retreats here in Bali to share this wisdom, just unfolding in front of me. I have begun to write my book of Truth, which I had longed to do, for years, and clients have just appeared. In my truth, allowing life to flow, it appears that it works out way better than having any kind of plan. Everyday miracles just suddenly appear – or, rather, we just see the miracles that are already there underneath out thinking!
Where once I would have ‘needed to know,’ I see that there is no real ‘knowing’ of what lies before us. And in the ‘not knowing’ is where the magic is. Now, I realise – the ducks I imagined don’t even exist! They were an illusion. And, what’s more – I’m glad they don’t. Because life truly is an absolute miracle, and once we step into our truth, remember our freedom and let go, we really can see it.
We all go through it, from time to time, when we experience bad luck after bad luck, mixed with what always seems like just more awful stuff. It often happens when you’re in the basement and you can only see the dark. But is it really that bad, underneath?
Recently, I had a day like that – and without dipping into the content, I found myself resting in bed, with my hip in pain, and then I had to deal with difficult conversations, family feuds and a lot of judgement and disapproval – all on the same day. So, how do you cope when times seem to become tough?
Well, you simply do. To put it in the most obvious way, you always have coped before and you will cope again. I think when we are in it, we can forget, but it’s so very true. When has there ever been a difficult day that you haven’t got through? You are still here, right now, in this moment.
And presence, in this moment, is where this ability to cope can be found. For a start, when we have physical pain or even emotional feelings, it’s simply a way of us becoming more present to what is going on. My hip pain was saying, “hey, Nicole – slow down, you’ve just returned from Bali and you’re jet lagged, why don’t you take a rest?!” And, simply by resting in awareness of the sensations in my body, I did just that. Awareness of this moment.
Know that This Isn’t You
The second thing is knowing that whatever is going on in the emotional realm, whilst it can feel very real and distressing, is not really the truth of who you are. It doesn’t define you, it doesn’t really even mean anything, and it is really, simply, just coming from a load of thinking that flies round your mind in a thought storm. Knowing this can be enough to just pop that bubble and bring you back to the present moment.
For example, I know that I felt judged, stressed, hopeless and broken, even as little as half an hour ago – but none of this is who I am. It is all just stuff that I thought. And, in between these feelings and thoughts, I also processed the thought about how resilient I was. I just chose not to listen to that one, because it’s easier, right? We are conditioned to believe the bad thoughts.
As it turns out, the truth is – the world isn’t really ever against us, but it is a construct of our own minds that is against us! And even that can be popped as soon as it is seen!
Glimpse that Underneath is Your Truth
And in seeing this, we are reminded that underneath all of this that is going on in our minds – in our thinking – is the truth of who we really are, and that is connection to something much greater, that knows that none of this ‘stuff’ really matters. It’s all just an illusion, and there is a far greater plan at work, that knows the way. A wisdom, that guides us through life.
When we see that, we know that we were built to cope.
When we see that, we know that we were built to cope. We see that it is our innate nature to deal with anything, and that really, there’s nothing to deal with other than our own thoughts!
Learn to Be With and Accept What Is
That’s not to say that stuff doesn’t happen in life that we don’t like, or that feels unfair, or difficult, or that we feel angry, or sad about. It does. However, what I have come to see deeper is that we can simply learn to be with what is. The more we resist something, the longer it stays. What if we can just radically accept what is here now? We can learn to sit in this moment, as it is, allowing it to be there. And we can do this because there is nothing to scared of, and nothing to resist, because we are just being lived, and it is all energy in motion, moving through. And, soon, it will pass.
And in that next breath, all will feel well again, as we ride a fresh wave of beautiful thought, this time. Nothing to do, but be here in this moment.
We are always ok. We were born that way.
Follow What Feels Right For You
So, until we return to the spacious truth of knowing this, it’s ok to sit in what feels like a meltdown, knowing that this isn’t who you are. It’s ok to live, or follow what your soul feels drawn to, and it’s ok to rest if that’s what you feel like doing. You will know, because that wisdom is always within. You just need to tap into it, and see what feels right. Give yourself permission to do whatever feels right for you, and you will soon be right back up in the top of the elevator looking out over life’s beauty!
If you’re having one of those days, simply stay open and see something deeper.
I’m so excited to share our latest feature in Sivana East! Recently I’ve been in Bali, and there have been so many insights about finding freedom. So, when I was invited to share something beautiful with Sivana, I found some inspiration in that, and wrote a little bit about how I found it was actually easier to tap into freedom than we think it is!
To understand why, have a read of my guest blog for them, HERE:
I have seen so much more deeply, since I have been travelling the globe, about how our freedom is innate! As well as this blog post, I am so excited as life unfolds in miraculous ways here in Bali – and I’m allowing myself to flow on this journey. Whilst I’m here, I have found myself organising some magical retreats to help share my wisdom about how we can Reconnect to Our Truth – so, if you’re interested to hear more, just and we can connect deeper!
For now, I leave you with love and a gentle reminder of the truth that all you seek is already within!
I was recently gifted a beautiful set of products by a company called Yandra Tea. I often get offered lots of wellbeing-orientated gifts, and I don’t always accept them unless they resonate as it isn’t fair to just take products for review and not then review them properly, but there was something about this brand that called to me (a bit like the Birch & Wilde supplement brand I recently also reviewed, which was equally exceptionally high quality). I’m glad it did because I honestly fell in love with Yandra’s products – and so I wanted to share them in case they resonated with you also!
From the initial friendly email, to my delight in opening the box, and in using the products, Yandra has been a lovely experience. For a start, I adore rose, which helped as they offer the most exquisite rose products. At a time when I was going through some really tough thinking, and emotional turmoil, I don’t think the universe could have sent me anything better than this brand because the properties of rose are great for the heart and for emotional release – so it was a beautiful reminder that I was exactly where I needed to be. They don’t just offer rose – they also sent me some Jasmine and Silver Needle, which was just as divine, though I definitely favoured the rose at the time!
A Beautiful and Authentic Story
Yandra has a gorgeous story, too (and I do love brands that are authentic!). With their passion to create conscious mindfulness of our connection to earth, respecting nature, they grow beautiful, fresh, organic rosebuds on their family farm in Romania, using ‘grandma’s secret recipe’ to made aromatic rose bud tea and syrup. What a delight!
With exceptionally high attention to detail, their packaging was beautiful, but they also sent me a branded journal – and everyone knows I love a good journal! So, I wanted to thank them personally with this little post, as receiving their products really was a beautiful experience.
The Product Itself
Now, I’ve covered a lot about the service and the brand story (mainly because it was really special), but I haven’t covered the product itself. So, whilst I could jump straight to the taste, I won’t because there were more special details! I went to make the tea, and there were still such beautiful additions – I opened the box and this quote greeted me:
“A woman is like a tea bag – you don’t know how strong she is until you put her in hot water!” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Everyone knows I’m a sucker for a quote, so by this time I’m already in bliss!! But, I popped in a few exquisite rose buds into my new Om & Ah London mug (another favourite brand of mine) – and let them steep for a few minutes. Of course, as a creative, I also delighted in making many Boomerangs of this process for Instagram, but that’s another story!!
Getting to the main point, though, the tea was just simply beautiful. The fresh, sweet, floral fragrance of rose was so pure in my mouth, and whilst it was my thinking settling because I enjoyed the tea, I instantly felt calm and soothed. The best thing about this, is that Yandra claim rose tea to have Vitamins A, B3 and D, saying it relaxes and soothes the mind, body and soul. It can also apparently help with pain, digestive disorders and relieving menstrual cramps, which I know that rose can do in its essential oil format, too.
Being caffeine-free also makes it a great alternative to add to your tea mix. One thing I always suggest when thinking about herbal teas is that you can have a nice selection to mix things up. I love matcha, for example, but I tend to rotate my teas and create variety!
One final thing I want to make clear, though, is this: I know it isn’t an ‘outside-in’ world, and that material things don’t matter – and I always share this wisdom that we have all we need already within! However, that doesn’t mean we can’t play in the human world and enjoy that, receiving physical bliss; so, in that way, whilst we do already have everything we need, it doesn’t hurt to indulge in enjoying a little beautiful tea every now and then!
Give it a go, if you fancy it! For me it was about following what feels good for my self care – and this ticked all the beau-tea-ful boxes and made me feel very heart-happy.
If you want to see more, their tea is available HERE – AND, as an extra special gift for my lovely readers, they have also offered 30% offwith the following code (and UK buyers also get free shipping!).
Discount Code for 30% off: NICOLE30
Let me know what you think if you try it! I’d love to hear from you…
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Recently, I’ve had a lot of thinking about ‘aloneness’. I always felt alone, growing up as an only child, and so this is a story I’ve carried into my adulthood, resisting it as much as I could. As I wake on Valentine’s Day, this year, I am in Cambodia, far away from the life I’ve led for the last 10 years as I’ve left my home (all by myself) to travel independently and experience the world. So, what do I feel today, as I sit around the pool, writing, in the sunshine? What can I learn? What is there to be seen?
Quite a lot, as it happens, and if you read on for the next few minutes, I will explain how I came to play with radical aloneness to discover true connection to myself. Firstly though, I’ll explain a little more about how our thinking plays a part in our feelings! Just because I am alone in my human form, doesn’t really mean anything unless I attach meaning to it myself….
Aloneness Through Our Thinking
You see, I noticed (and wrote about this on Instagram) the other day that, moment to moment, our thinking about being ‘alone’ can vary so much. At times, I can sink back into my years of conditioning to think that my feeling alone comes from the fact that I am literally, physically, on my own. In that thinking, I can sink into feelings of sadness. However, at other times, I can really long to be on my own – and in those moments, I realise that I enjoy my space! When I’m feeling ‘independent’ thinking, being alone seems wonderful! The truth is, the only meaning there is to ‘being alone’ is that which we create in each moment. You see, for the most part, I love being alone! I just think that I shouldn’t love being alone – because that’s weird, right?!
It’s actually not! We are just conditioned to think that we should be attached a lot of the time. Being alone is some of the best space I’ve ever had to learn more about myself. And, now, I think less and less about when I’m holding my own space because I see that it is where I feel most at home. I’m beginning to feel more at home than ever when I’m just with myself. Because when we are with ourselves, we learn that we can hold whatever comes, knowing that our experience of life is created by our thinking, and we are still ok. So, as I sit here with the most beautiful view in Cambodia, and as I remember this as I write about it, I feel that incredible space of peace and freedom that exists within me.
Our True Connected Nature
And so, this reminds me to explain why I can find this freedom. What I awakened to along my journey to reconnect to my own truth is that underneath all of our thinking, is the simple truth that we are already connected.
When we think about nature, or divinity, or the universe – whatever resonates – we can always see one thing that there is in common: that there is some higher power working away that we just cannot explain. We can’t put words to it, and we don’t know how it works. What we do know, though, is that it has a miraculous way of having created life, and that it lives us, without us having to do anything. It is the one thing that explains why we are all here in the first place! What I notice about nature, or the universe, though, is that it is a constant reminder that we are all connected.
“You are not a drop in the ocean; you are the entire ocean in a drop.” ~ Rumi
As Rumi said, “you are not a drop in the ocean; you are the entire ocean in a drop.” We are part of nature, we are part of the universe; and, in this way, I see that we can never be disconnected. You already are love! So, when you feel alone, remember this truth: we are one. Namaste.
Integrating Radical Aloneness
So, you say, that’s all very well, but I don’t feel it. Know this: it’s OK! So often, my sharing can be misinterpreted to be read as ‘let’s change our thoughts’, but that’s really not the aim here. There is absolutely nothing to do to feel more comfortable with being alone.
What is required, is radical self-acceptance. Radical self-love. Radical allowing. Radical aloneness.
You see, we can’t change our thoughts, and there is only a problem when we begin to believe that we can. We don’t need to change anything. The only time it feels like there’s a problem, in fact, is when we resist what already is.
It is in our aloneness that we learn the most. It is in that spaciousness of sitting with our feelings, knowing that they come from our thinking and cannot harm us, that we connect to ourselves. In doing this, there is no need for anything external. In doing this, we realise the only person we need to connect to is us! And we do this by embracing what exists within our bodies, our minds and our souls – right now, in each moment, as it varies and moves on through.
Knowing that our feelings come from our thinking can help us to do this. Sitting in our space, simply noticing our thought-creations, knowing that they are illusion, feeling whatever feelings we are in – in this moment – allowing, embracing and saying ‘I see you, I love you’; that’s where the magic is.
That’s really all we need to do. When we embrace our aloneness as learning, so often, we allow it; and in the dropping away of resistance, we return home to that space of knowing within us that is absolutely ok. In truly BEING alone, we can return to our deep down wisdom.
Sydney Banks says “if only we learned not to be afraid of our human experience, that alone would change the world.” I love this because it shows that we can be with whatever is. There is nothing to fear (because fear is also a creation of thought). There only is what is, right now – and it can’t touch us, it can only teach us.
And that, my loves, is why this Valentine’s Day, I am sitting by the pool in Cambodia, resting in the space of what is. Today that space of ‘what is,’ is actually filled with a beautiful feeling of expansion. Once upon a time, I would have attributed that to being in Cambodia, or to being with someone else, or to my life looking good to the outside world; now I know that none of that is true. The expansion comes from within me; and I can find it all by myself! And you can too.
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A special thanks goes to Source Life Magazine for featuring our latest Guest Blog! We have teamed up with this magazine – which sits nicely alongside ‘Source Life’ radio show in California – to offer some insights into life, and our first blog is all about how you can unleash your inner creative by simply noticing the blocks you have, which often just come from fear!
Have a read HERE – we’re excited to share it with you!
In this moment, it is midday on the second to last Wednesday before Christmas. I’m in bed, with a cup of hot water with lemon and mint, I’ll admit to having had a square (or two) of dark mint chocolate, and I’ve been watching a Christmas film! Of course, most ‘normal’ humans are at work, but I work from home – or wherever I happen to be, as I’m a bit of a free spirit at times! You might hear the odd joke about people who work from home hosting meetings in their PJ’s, and I can tell you that (most of the time!) this isn’t true. However, this morning I awoke feeling a little out-of-sorts and I wouldn’t be being authentic in my truth if I didn’t just follow what my body was asking for right now. So, why am I writing about passion, you ask – when I’m lying in bed with what could be perceived as very little ‘purpose’ for my day? Well, give me a minute or two and I’ll explain!
Firstly, please don’t be fooled – my day doesn’t always look like this – in fact most of my days are entirely different and unstructured, often busy with beautiful conversations and an eclectic mix of wonderment for life! People often ask me what I do and, in that respect I find it kind of hard to explain to them! I often go with “I try to help people remember how to be happier” – but somehow this gets lost and I have to go with the longer version, which often goes a little like this:
“I try to help people understand any challenges they might have (anxiety, depression, creative blocks, relationship issues – anything!), by remembering the simple truth of who they really are, underneath all the thought about who they think they are. I mean, they know it already, really, in their wisdom, but I help them reconnect to the feeling of it, not by intellectually understanding it, but through embodied experience of it. And it is simple, really, yet profound. And at the same time, the feeling isn’t created by me, but by themselves, but I help them get to it.”
Yep – you can see why it can be a challenge to help people understand what I do at times! In fact, a lot of the time, recently, I find myself caught in thought about how to speak to people about this because I don’t like to speak to people’s perceived ‘problems’ – until I remember that I don’t need to because whoever needs to hear something deeper, will hear! It isn’t about what we do so much as who we are and the connection we exchange. Anyway – I digress!
My point is, I woke up today feeling demotivated, and I listened to my body and let myself ‘off the hook’ of any expectations I had created for myself (I was meant to be filming my online Self-Inquiry course which is coming very soon!).
Remembering Your Passion
Anyway, no sooner had I let myself off the hook and watched half my Christmas movie, did I find myself unravelling a beautifully branded package from Birch and Wilde, which included 3 different supplements. I’ll write about these another time, but for the purposes of today’s blog, let me just explain to you the joy that I felt about these products.
Firstly, the packaging was so stunning, that you could see that a lot of love had gone into this product. I had been exchanging emails with the Founder, Tara, and we had shared a beautiful connection already – but this shone through in the products. And then, it struck me:
Passion, from connection to whatever it is we love, shines through in everything we do.
Whatever we love – in this moment! I felt a renewed sense of passion for whatever I loved, in this realisation – and I decided to write this (because, you know – I love writing)!
There’s Nothing to Do
What I realised was that there is really nothing we ever ‘need’ to do. Outside of following our passion, there is absolutely nothing we have to do. As long as we are connected to our own truth, this will come through in our message to the world – no matter how we push that out into the world! The passion in these products shone through, and reminded me that as long as we have passion, or connection, to whatever we are doing in the moment, all is well with the world!
I also experienced this yesterday, with a dear friend – Ian Watson – who I enjoyed playing in nature in Hampstead Heath with! When we connect to nature, to what we love, in each moment, we simply remember the truth that all we have and all we need is within, and that every moment is already perfect. There is nothing to do but stay conscious of our own truth; to look for those little miracles that remind us we are always connected, even when we think we aren’t.
You see, I felt a little bit like I had no connection to any passion this morning. The thing I realise now, is, that this wasn’t true at all – it is just that my passion turned out to be watching Christmas movies in bed, instead of working on what I had expected to want to work on! I woke up and judged myself for watching films in bed, when this was simply my passion for life in that moment! I wasn’t passionless, I just had a different passion to that I expected! Don’t get me wrong, I can absolutely still feel excitement for my filming project on another day, but right now, films are good! And, my insight is – that this is absolutely okay! Today, life gifted me the insight of a rest! It gifted me a passion for relaxation! Oh, and it gifted me some space to write, too – because this blog evolved in that space for creation!
Follow Your Magical Little Sparkles
So, my message is this: allow yourself to be in the moment, in whatever way it presents itself to you. There’s no need to judge what you passion is right in this moment. Just realise that lying in bed and taking it easy can be a passion too, rather than seeing is negatively (which is probably based on someone else’s judgement!). Allow yourself to be passionate about the little things in life. The things that aren’t perhaps within your expectation, but which allow you to reconnect to more of who you really are.
There is really nothing ‘to do’ – there only ‘is’ – and my ‘right now’, there only ‘is’ writing this, taking some beautiful supplements, watching some Christmas movies and enjoying the moment. This is the only moment we have, so why not live from our passion right now? Who knows what comes next, other than a lot of beautiful space to follow the connection I notice in the feeling of my magical little sparkles! So much gratitude for this!
Have you been looking for a life coach? Perhaps you’re looking for some sort of solution to help you reclaim your life, fix your wellbeing or just understand why you’re not quite able to achieve what you think you want? Perhaps you’re feeling ‘stuck’ or ‘disconnected’ in some aspect of your life – career, relationships, health, or something else?
There are so many opinions about coaching and mentoring these days; so many packages, programmes, different ideas about what is right and wrong, and how to chase your dreams. At times, it can make you feel like you’re doing it all wrong, like you need ‘someone’ to tell you how to do it better: how to be more successful, happier, more peaceful, less anxious, or how to unblock your creativity. I know the feeling, because I’ve done the same – I looked outside of myself for years to find solutions to how to be happier, healthier, less stressed and more connected!
Here’s the Thing: It’s All Within You
“The Universe is Not Outside of You.
Look Inside Yourself: All That You Want, You Already Are.”
However, what if I was to tell you that no one else can help you? Sure, I imagine that might be confusing because there are so many people out there offering ‘solutions’. There are so many people with 5 step programmes, 5 tips for this, 5 tips for that, methods that have transformed their lives. And that’s great – for them! But, here’s the thing: that is what worked for THEM.
There’s a huge difference between someone who tells you what to do based on their own experience, and someone who can tap you into your own truth about how to help yourself. In that difference, lies the answer.
If someone tries to explain to you how you ‘should’ be doing something, just stop. You do not need other people’s answers. Sure, it might work for you, too, but it is only in the space of consciousness about the fact that this is THEIR way, and not necessarily your way, where you can really work out what is most helpful for you!
What is Mentoring?
For me, this is what I mean by ‘mentoring.’ I toy with the idea of presenting myself as a coach or a homeopath, or a wellbeing consultant, or any label that might have people see me as someone who can help ‘fix’ them – and every time I have to stop myself because all that does is please my ego. I don’t want you to think that I know anything better than you do, you see. We are all the same; we are all part of the same beautiful universal energy. We are all connected. We all have access to our own innate wisdom. And so, I settle. Short of calling myself the ‘anti-coach’, I had to come up with a phrase that fitted the description of what I offer to my clients in helping them to transform their lives!
You see, I don’t offer you ‘steps to success.‘ I don’t offer you tips and tools on how to be happier. I will never tell you what to do. I will never advise you on the path to take. What I do offer you, though, will set you free on a much deeper and more profound level than all of that because it is something that I experienced myself when I awakened to this understanding. All I will do is ask questions which point you back to the truth of who you really are, which in turn reminds you that you have the capacity to take control and drop into your own insights and wisdom, which is built-in already.
For that, I label myself a Wellbeing Mentor. The definition of a mentor is a “trusted advisor” who “helps people develop.” This is the closest thing I could find to even describe what I do; it offers a gentler feel to transformation, a softer, more intuitive way forward that helps you tap into your own truth by seeing what is and isn’t true about life, rather than following a short, snappy, wildly outlandish whim of a 5 Step Plan (if you’ve already taken drastic action because of someone’s wild programme, don’t fear – that path was clearly meant for you because the universe wouldn’t let that happen unless it was! We are always where we need to be, and that’s part of my understanding too). Most simply though, I help remind you of the truth that you are already connected to everything you desire because it is all innate.
Profound Insights from Awakening
As a wellbeing mentor, I came across a unique understanding about how life works, that I now share with others. The wisdom that I came across in this awakening was so profound that I love to help others transform, simply by making sense of life. In doing this, I am not telling you to change; I am helping you reconnect to yourself – to remember who you really are underneath all of the ideas about who you are.
When I am mentoring, I notice this. Some people are drawn to people who offer solutions; I don’t offer solutions – I simply offer self-inquiry! I ask questions to help you remember who you are. I offer you the oportunity to see something differently about yourself and about life; to become more conscious. Why? Because I see something different – and that’s the best way to help you see it, too!
You Don’t Need Solutions: Because You Don’t Need Fixing!
What I see, that often people don’t, is that you and I aren’t broken in the first place. In that way, I see that your truth is absolute perfection, absolute wholeness, absolutely ok. No matter how you feel, you are always ok underneath all of the thinking that you aren’t. I know that might not make sense to you when you are feeling so stuck at times, because when we are in it, we are in it. But I can help you to see if differently, in any area of life. Through the process of mentoring in this profound understanding of life – in how life really works, via universally guided, moment to moment experience of our thinking – you become more aware of the truth of who you really are, underneath all of the feeling and thinking about who you are.
You might have to trust me on that for now, but if you’re feeling stuck, remember this advice! My point is that the answers that you are looking for are already within you. It might not seem that way all of the time (such is the nature of life – and I heard this on some level but didn’t comprehend it until I awakened to the truth!), but it’s something I have a felt experience of – and that’s why I share in the way that I do, even if it doesn’t confirm to social rules. I’m a maverick; no one can bind me to a label or a definition of social norms. I know my truth – and I can help you see yours. Following someone else’s process leads only to their answers: yet, to truly transform your life, it is far simpler than any of that. The answers are all within – that’s all you need to remember. Dive inwards.
The only person you need to hear is you – and a mentor is the person to help you tap back into your own voice. If you want to hear more, feel free to connect with me! I’d love to help you see your truth!