StepMom Magazine | Advice, Information, Support for Stepmoms and Stepfamilies
In January 2009, Brenda Ockun launched the publication she wished she’d had when she met her husband. This online home is the place to be for insightful articles, like the stepmom’s guide to Mother’s Day, how to help a grieving stepchild, and prettily-packaged tips. The publication also runs a support forum for stepmoms, so you can meet, share, and learn from others who’ve “been..
The November 2018 issue is HERE!
* How to Avoid 5 Common Stepmom Mistakes
* Tips to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage: Part 2
* Holiday Survival Guide for Stepmoms
* Advice for Teaching Your Stepkids Gratitude
* How to Recognize and Manage Holiday Depression
* Getting on the Same Page with Your Partner
* Words of Wisdom from a Veteran Stepmom
* Learn to Let Go of Expectations
→ And much more!
Check out the full list of what’s inside this month:
THE NOVEMBER 2018 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS FEATURES The 5 Most Common Mistakes Stepmoms Make
(Because We’re Only Human!)
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA
The Art & Science of Love
A Stepmom’s Guide to Making Your Marriage Last: Part Two
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT
Thank You for Your Service!
Teaching Our Stepchildren Gratitude
BY KELLY PALMQUIST, MSW
Stepmoms and Holiday Depression
How to Recognize It and What to Do About It
BY BRENDA SNYDER, LCSW
Holiday Survival Guide for Stepmoms
5 Skills and Techniques to Sustain You
BY SUSAN LANCASTER, PGDIP
WORDS OF WISDOM
The Rookie Stepmom
4 Things I Wish I Knew From the Start
BY KYLIE MCGREGOR
Your Couple’s Playbook
Advice for (Step-)Parenting From the Same Page
BY CHRISTINA ROACH, LMHC
Joy to the World, Stepmom!
Let Go of Holiday Expectations and a Need to Control
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA
Increase Your Joy Despite These Stepfamily Dynamics
BY SHELLY WARE, LMFT
What’s That Ticking?
Weighing My Decision About Having Kids as the Clock Winds Down
BY TRACI MORENO, PSYD
IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER
LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Think About … Girl Power & ‘Good’ Advice
FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year
REAL STEPMOMS. REAL STORIES.
Meredith Terpeluk Schoeller
In working with stepmoms for roughly 20 years, I’ve heard it all. Most often, though, I hear some version of: “I wish I’d known a long time ago that—when I joined a ready-made family with great intentions and a loving heart—I’d make mistakes which would back fire on me in ways I wouldn’t have thought possible.” These sentiments aren’t uncommon among the thousands of stepmoms I’ve worked with. In fact, they generally indicate that:
* You think you should act like a Mom.
* You feel guilty for not loving the kids.
* You judge your partner’s parenting.
* You obsess over your partner’s ex.
* You lose yourself, in the process.
I’m quite sure you’ve made either some, if not all, of these mistakes plus others. Yet, please don’t be hard on yourself. You’re human! Mistakes are normal steps to becoming wiser, more compassionate and more self-loving. Mistakes are necessary for growth and are how we learn.
We’re about to address the five mistakes stepmoms most commonly make. You may have made them in the past or be making them currently. The goal is to make corrections that will relieve you of any unnecessary suffering and correct any faulty thoughts you have about yourself and what you can reasonably expect your role to be within your stepfamily. …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the November 2018 issue. Don’t have an account?Click here to subscribe.
My sister and I have decided that we’re coming back in our next lives as husbands. Seriously, because—in a husband’s world— holidays just happen. My own husband loves Christmas. He looks forward to Christmas cookies, presents under the tree, receiving cards from friends and family members, reading the annual letter “we” send out, our annual pre-Christmas party, our Christmas Eve gathering, Christmas Day brunch for all 15 of us (including our kids, their spouses and our grandkids) and watching everyone open their gifts.
He loves every bit of it. His contribution?
My husband decks out the house in a light display on par with that of Clark Griswold (played by Chevy Chase) in “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.” And he does a great job! His other responsibility, honed over 20 years of training, is to regularly tell me what a great job I’ve done. He’s also sure to mention how much he appreciates the hours I spend baking, organizing, decorating, shopping and wrapping.
Why Holidays Are Tough
The feats above hint at a few reasons many of us feel stressed and overwhelmed during the holiday season. For some women, however, the experience is even more serious—with rampant emotions spilling over into the realms of depression and anxiety. Why are the holidays so tough on some of us? There are several reasons:
* Ridiculously high standards
* Unrealistic expectations
* Unhealthy stressors
* Too little self-care
In my experience, these are four major contributors. Let’s unwrap each of them one at a time. …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the November 2018 issue. Don’t have an account?Click here to subscribe.
The holiday season provides us with the opportunity to come together and to learn from each other. It’s a time to not highlight our differences but to be inspired by them. It’s a time to rejoice in our similarities and use any knowledge gained to create our own unique stepfamily experiences, as we evolve and grow as individuals.
Though it can sometimes feel like “surviving the holidays” is the best we can hope for, we can make sure our stepfamily holidays are full of fun, laughter, play, food and family. And for all of us, of course, gifts! What if you were to seek out the very best gift—the perfect gift—to give your own stepfamily? One that’s a great fit for everyone? That would certainly make things easier.
Learning the skills and techniques which will sustain you through the holidays isn’t impossible. In fact, that’s what you’ll learn here. We’ll start with the gift that costs nothing and is something we all need, want and desire. …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the November 2018 issue. Don’t have an account?Click here to subscribe.
The October 2018 issue is HERE!
* What to do when you want to quit
* Why it’s normal to dread your stepkids’ visits
* The secret life of stepmom coaches and bloggers
* How to navigate your way through awkward conversations
* How to open the lines of communication with your stepkids
* A Stepmom’s Guide to Making Marriage Last: Part One
*What stepmoms who grew up in stepfamilies want YOU to know
* Why you shouldn’t blame yourself for your stepfamily’s troubles
→ And much more!
Check out the full list of what’s inside this month:
THE OCTOBER 2018 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS FEATURES
The Art & Science of Love A Stepmom’s Guide to Making Your Marriage Last: Part One BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT
Growing Up in a Stepfamily What Stepmoms Who’ve Been There Can Teach Us BY KRISTEN WILKINSON, PSYD
Talking Tips for Stepmoms Navigating Your Way Through Awkward Conversations BY KELLY PALMQUIST, MSW
Being a Stepmom Is the Hardest Thing I’ve Ever Done! Ready to Quit? Read This First! BY MARY T. KELLY, MA
DEPARTMENTS EXPERT ADVICE Visitation Anxiety
Why It’s Normal to Dread Your Stepchild’s Arrival BY RACHELLE KATZ, EDD, LMFT
SPECIAL REPORT Behind the Scenes, We’re A Lot Like You
The Secret Life of Stepmom Coaches and Bloggers BY ANNA DE ACOSTA
COMMUNICATION CORNER Game on, Stepmom!
One Stepfamily’s Solution to Connecting Thru Conversation BY CHRISTINE G. ADAMO
THE EX FACTOR Santería and Stepmoms
Good vs. Evil on Day of the Dead BY TRACI MORENO, PSYD
STEPMOM MEMOIRS The Childless Stepmom
This Stepmom Is Still Wicked Cool BY TIA CHAPINSKI
EXPERT ADVICE Stepmoms & Spooky Ideas
5 Ways to Overcome Tricky Thought Patterns BY CHRISTINA ROACH, LMHC
IN EVERY ISSUE ON THE COVER Erika Palmer
LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER What I Think About … Puppies and Parenting