Loading...

Follow StepMom Magazine | Advice, Information, Support.. on Feedspot

Continue with Google
Continue with Facebook
or

Valid

StepMom Magazine | The April 2019 Issue - Vimeo

The April 2019 issue is HERE!

* Tips – Tools – Advice
* Articles by Licensed Therapists
* Info from Stepfamily Experts
* Stepmom Interviews
* And MORE!
* Page count: 45
* Click HERE to subscribe!
…because even when it’s good, it’s complicated!

THE April 2019 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS
FEATURES
Understanding Parental Alienation
How to Recognize the Signs and Support Your Partner
BY SHELLY WARE, LMFT

Do You Feel Lonely, Stepmom?
Why We Crave—and How to Find—Connection
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

Blended, Black—and Fabulous!
It’s Time You Met Naja Hall
BY CHRISTINE G. ADAMO

The Problem Stepchild
5 Tips for Navigating the Impact of Their Behavior
BY HEATHER HETCHLER, MA

HELP! I Dread My Stepkids’ Visits
Why Do I Feel This Way?
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA

“Erasing Family”
What Filmmaker Ginger Gentile Wants You to Know About Parental Alienation
BY KRISTEN WILKINSON, PSYD

Stepmoms and Jealousy
Recognizing and Reversing the Damage It Causes
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

DEPARTMENTS
STEPPING STONES
Special Events—StepMom Style
5 Ways to Survive Really Big Days
BY KELLY PALMQUIST, MSW

THRIVING STEPMOMS
“I’m … Somebody Special”
Recognize Your Worth—Even If Your Stepkids Don’t
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA

SHORT STORY
A Stepmom’s Tale of Healing
Evicting the Elephant in the Room
BY LAURA L. MACK

IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER 
Naja Hall

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Want You to Know

FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year

MANIFESTO

 

The post Inside the April 2019 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

StepMom Magazine | The March 2019 Issue - Vimeo

The March 2019 issue is HERE!

* Advice – Information – Tips
* Articles by Licensed Therapists
* Legal Information
* Interviews & Movie Reviews
* And MORE!
* Page count: 44
* Click HERE to subscribe!
…because even when it’s good, it’s complicated!

THE MARCH 2019 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS

FEATURES
Stepmom, Mom & Fashionista
Jeni Elizabeth Paolella Talks Style and Stepfamily Life
BY CHRISTINE G. ADAMO

Stepmoms and Anxiety
What to Do About How You Feel
BY RACHELLE KATZ, EDD, LMFT

The ‘Highly Sensitive’ Stepmom
Could Sensory-Processing Sensitivity Be the Culprit?
BY SHELLY WARE, LMFT

Stepmoms Flying Solo
Should You Parent Your Stepkids When Dad’s Away?
BY ERIN CARELESS, PHD

Managing Your Stepfamily
Think Like a CEO and Make the System Work for You
BY SUSAN LANCASTER, PGDIP

DEPARTMENTS
EXPERT ADVICE
‘Disneyland Dads’ & Discipline
3 Ways to Get Him Excited About Parenting
BY CHRISTINA ROACH, LMHC

LEGAL MATTERS
The Definition of an ‘Unfit’ Parent
BY LARA BADAIN, ESQ

CRITIC’S CORNER
MOVIE REVIEW: “Blended”
Happy Madison’s Take on Stepfamilies
BY BETH MCDONOUGH

THRIVING STEPMOMS
“I’m … One Fortunate Girl!”
And Luck Has Nothing to Do With It
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA

S.O.S.
Is This Normal?
“It Irks Me When They Sit on Their Dad’s Lap”
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA

CRITIC’S CORNER
Hit Your Limit? You’re in Luck!
“The Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries” Has Arrived
BY CHRISTINE G. ADAMO

IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER
Jeni Elizabeth Paolella

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Want You to Know

FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year

MANIFESTO

The post Inside the March 2019 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

StepMom Magazine | The February 2019 Issue - Vimeo

See what else is inside this month’s edition…

The February 2019 issue is HERE!
…because even when it’s good, it’s complicated!
* Advice – Information – Tips
* Articles by Licensed Therapists
* Legal Advice
* Interviews & Movie Reviews
* And MORE!
* Page count: 44
* Click HERE to subscribe!

THE FEBRUARY 2019 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS

FEATURES

StepMom Talks to Amanda Fields Bennett
On Modeling, Full-Time Stepmothering and ‘Make It Work’ Moments
BY CHRISTINE G. ADAMO

A Stepmom’s Right to Draw the Line
How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Stepfamily
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

Rules of Engagement
10 Things to Do Before Saying “I Do”
BY MICHELLE HARTER, LGPC

Passion Projects for Stepmoms
How to Improve Your Life by Doing What You Love
BY SHELLY WARE, LMFT

Happily Ever After
A Stepmom’s Guide to Long-Lasting Love
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA

DEPARTMENTS
THRIVING STEPMOMS
“I’m … in Love With Me”
Nurture Your Relationship With Yourself
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA

CRITIC’S CORNER
MOVIE REVIEW: “Juno”
A Portrait of Family Devotion
BY BETH MCDONOUGH

EXPERT ADVICE
“I Married an Older Man”
Tips for Dealing With People Who Doubt Your Relationship
BY CHRISTINA ROACH, LMHC

LEGAL MATTERS
Understanding Custody and Residency
BY LARA BADAIN, ESQ

MYTHS & MISCONCEPTIONS
Unspoken Expectations
10 Commandments Stepmoms Should Ignore
BY LAURA L. MACK

COUPLES CORNER
Stepcouple Success
7 Keys to Creating a Rock Solid Relationship
BY ALI WILKS, MSC

STICKY SITUATIONS
Practical Solutions for Stepmoms in the Trenches
This Month: “I’m a Stepmom— Not a Homewrecker!”
BY BRENDA SNYDER, LCSW

IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER
Amanda Fields Bennett

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Want You to Know

FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year

MANIFESTO

The post Inside the February 2019 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

The post StepMom Quotes | January 2019 appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

StepMom Magazine | The January 2019 Issue - Vimeo

See what else is inside this month’s edition…

The January 2019 issue is HERE!
…because even when it’s good, it’s complicated!
* Special Double Edition!
* Advice – Information – Tips
* Short Stories
* And MORE!
* Page count: 70

THE JANUARY 2019 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS

FEATURES
10 Years of StepMom Magazine
Brenda Ockun Takes Us Back to the Beginning
BY CHRISTINE G. ADAMO

Stepmom, You’ve Been Had!
3 Ways Society Sets Stepfamilies Up to Fail
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA 

Feeling Left Out, Stepmom?
Insider/Outsider Syndrome and Your Stepfamily
BY SUSAN LANCASTER, PGDIP

Moms and Stepmoms at War
4 Steps to Peace—if You Really, Really Want It
BY LAURA PETHERBRIDGE

Stepmoms and Money
Let’s Talk About Your Financial Future
BY SHELLY WARE, LMFT

Stepmoms & Adult Stepchildren
What’s It Like When the Kids Grow Up?
BY KRISTEN WILKINSON, PSYD 

Not So ‘Traditional’ Stepmoms
What Life’s Like for Our LGBTQ Sisters
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

Stepmoms and Infertility
4 Ways to Flip the Script in Your Head
BY KELLY PALMQUIST, MSW 

DEPARTMENTS
INSIDE SCOOP
Stepmom Secrets
6 Important Things Nobody Told You
BY KYLIE MCGREGOR

CRITIC’S CORNER
MOVIE REVIEW: “Unforgettable”
The Nightmare Stepmoms Never Actually Have
BY BETH MCDONOUGH

EXPERT ADVICE
Couples Therapy
Can This Remarriage Be Saved?
BY RACHELLE KATZ, EDD, LMFT

STEPMOM MEMOIRS
Stepfamily Under Construction
One Stepmom’s Remodeling Journey
BY LAURA S. MILAM, MED

GUY THEORY
The Power of Participation
How Stepmom’s Presence Enhances Dad’s Relationships
BY JOEL SCHWARTZBERG

WORDS OF WISDOM
A Letter to My Younger Self
6 Things I Wish I’d Known About Being a Stepmom
BY KRISTEN SKILES, MBA

TIMEOUT
Winterize Your Heart
5 Ways to Protect Against Negativity in the New Year
BY HEATHER HETCHLER, MA

COUPLES CORNER
The Stepmom Sanity Saver
Learning to Compartmentalize Your Problems
BY ALI WILKS, MSC 

THRIVING STEPMOMS
The Mindful Stepmom
5 Tips for Setting Intentions in 2019
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA

SHORT STORY
Portrait of a Bride
A Stepmother’s Memoir
BY LAURA L. MACK

IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER
Brenda Ockun

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Want You to Know

FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year

MANIFESTO

The post Inside the January 2019 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

StepMom Magazine | The December 2018 Issue - Vimeo

See what else is inside this month’s edition…

THE DECEMBER 2018 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS
FEATURES
 
Meet Orange County Real Housewife Emily Simpson

The Bravo Reality Star on Stepfamily Life, Surrogacy and Strength
BY BRENDA OCKUN

From Corporate to Cupcakes
5 Career Lessons for New Stepmoms
BY KYLIE MCGREGOR

Top 5 Gifts Stepmoms Should Give Themselves
Put Yourself on Santa’s “Nice” List!
BY HEATHER HETCHLER, MA

The Art & Science of Love
A Stepmom’s Guide to Making Your Marriage Last: Part Three
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

High Expectations
What Every Stepmom Needs to Know This Holiday Season
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA

DEPARTMENTS
THRIVING STEPMOMS
1, 2, 3—Ditch the Drama
You’re in Control, Stepmom
BY AMY KOBOS, CWP

CRITIC’S CORNER
Strike a Harmonious Note
Viewing “The Sound of Music” Thru a Stepmom Lens
BY BETH MCDONOUGH

EXPERT ADVICE
Losing a Child
A Mother’s Struggle to Stepmom While Grieving
BY CHRISTINA ROACH, LMHC

THRIVING STEPMOMS
Stepfamily New Year’s Resolutions
5 Tips for a Fresh Start—From: The Happy Stepmom
BY AIMEE ALLEN

SPECIAL REPORT
Stepmoms, Holidays and Grief
Coping With Pain and Loss at the Holidays
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA

STEPMOM MEMOIRS
Reconcilable Differences
When a Stepmom’s Religious Traditions Clash With Her Stepfamily’s
BY TRACI MORENO, PSYD

IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER
Emily Simpson 

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Think About … Finishing Strong

FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year

REAL STEPMOMS. REAL STORIES.
Danielle Ashcraft

The post Inside the December 2018 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

The November 2018 issue is HERE!
* How to Avoid 5 Common Stepmom Mistakes
* Tips to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage: Part 2
* Holiday Survival Guide for Stepmoms
* Advice for Teaching Your Stepkids Gratitude
* How to Recognize and Manage Holiday Depression
* Getting on the Same Page with Your Partner
* Words of Wisdom from a Veteran Stepmom
* Learn to Let Go of Expectations
→ And much more!

Check out the full list of what’s inside this month: 

THE NOVEMBER 2018 ISSUE | TABLE OF CONTENTS
FEATURES
The 5 Most Common Mistakes Stepmoms Make
(Because We’re Only Human!)
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA

The Art & Science of Love
A Stepmom’s Guide to Making Your Marriage Last: Part Two
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

Thank You for Your Service!
Teaching Our Stepchildren Gratitude
BY KELLY PALMQUIST, MSW

Stepmoms and Holiday Depression
How to Recognize It and What to Do About It
BY BRENDA SNYDER, LCSW

Holiday Survival Guide for Stepmoms
5 Skills and Techniques to Sustain You
BY SUSAN LANCASTER, PGDIP

DEPARTMENTS
WORDS OF WISDOM
The Rookie Stepmom
4 Things I Wish I Knew From the Start
BY KYLIE MCGREGOR

EXPERT ADVICE
Your Couple’s Playbook
Advice for (Step-)Parenting From the Same Page
BY CHRISTINA ROACH, LMHC

TIMEOUT
Joy to the World, Stepmom!
Let Go of Holiday Expectations and a Need to Control
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA

SPECIAL REPORT
Holiday Planning
Increase Your Joy Despite These Stepfamily Dynamics
BY SHELLY WARE, LMFT

STEPMOM MEMOIRS
What’s That Ticking?
Weighing My Decision About Having Kids as the Clock Winds Down
BY TRACI MORENO, PSYD 

IN EVERY ISSUE
ON THE COVER
Yamile McBride

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER
What I Think About … Girl Power & ‘Good’ Advice

FROM THE ARCHIVES
This Time Last Year

REAL STEPMOMS. REAL STORIES.
Meredith Terpeluk Schoeller

The post Inside the November 2018 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

The 5 Most Common Mistakes Stepmoms Make
(Because We’re Only Human!)
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA

In working with stepmoms for roughly 20 years, I’ve heard it all. Most often, though, I hear some version of: “I wish I’d known a long time ago that—when I joined a ready-made family with great intentions and a loving heart—I’d make mistakes which would back fire on me in ways I wouldn’t have thought possible.” These sentiments aren’t uncommon among the thousands of stepmoms I’ve worked with. In fact, they generally indicate that:

* You think you should act like a Mom.
* You feel guilty for not loving the kids.
* You judge your partner’s parenting.
* You obsess over your partner’s ex.
* You lose yourself, in the process.

I’m quite sure you’ve made either some, if not all, of these mistakes plus others. Yet, please don’t be hard on yourself. You’re human! Mistakes are normal steps to becoming wiser, more compassionate and more self-loving. Mistakes are necessary for growth and are how we learn.

We’re about to address the five mistakes stepmoms most commonly make. You may have made them in the past or be making them currently. The goal is to make corrections that will relieve you of any unnecessary suffering and correct any faulty thoughts you have about yourself and what you can reasonably expect your role to be within your stepfamily. …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the November 2018 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.

The post Mistakes Stepmoms Make: Inside the November 2018 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

The Art & Science of Love
A Stepmom’s Guide to Making Your Marriage Last: Part Two
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

Most people hate conflict. For some, like my husband Bernard, avoiding conflict is their way of “resolving” it. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always work. In last month’s edition of StepMom, I shared with you the importance of practicing Maintenance first—making it easier to bounce back from conflict after an argument. I offered tips for getting in a Maintenance Mindset and shared a plan for logging the six hours needed weekly to maintain (Editor’s Note: see Oct. 2018 Back Issue).

Maintenance also contributes to what we’ll talk about this month: Repair. During our two-day participation in “The Art and Science of Love” workshop at The Gottman Institute, Bernard and I learned that: Without maintenance? Repair is difficult to achieve, if not impossible. Since then we’ve become increasingly mindful of how we spend our time together and which parts of our maintenance plan require extra focus. Was that true for you and your partner, too?

Surprised by the gaps we found, in our existing maintenance and repair strategies, we’ve begun to actively incorporate new ones into our own daily and weekly routines. I want you to be able to do the same in your relationship, as you begin to deal with conflict head-on and learn the art of repair. Before digging into this installment, refer to the “Got Conflict?” sidebar for a refresher on what distinguishes Masters, who turn toward one another, from Disasters, who turn away.

What’s your conflict type? Research by John L. Gottman, PhD, shows that – when it comes to conflict—there are five basic types of couples: Conflict-Avoiding, Validating, Volatile, Hostile and Hostile- Detached. The first three emerged from “Communication, Conflict and Marriage” by Harold L. Raush, PhD. The Gottman Institute refers to those as “happy couple types.” The last two were coined in The Gottman Institute’s Love Lab. Read each of their descriptions with your partner. Which one most closely matches your own? …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the November 2018 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.

The post A Stepmom’s Guide to Marriage: Inside the November 2018 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

Stepmoms and Holiday Depression
How to Recognize It and What to Do About It
BY BRENDA SNYDER, LCSW

My sister and I have decided that we’re coming back in our next lives as husbands. Seriously, because—in a husband’s world— holidays just happen. My own husband loves Christmas. He looks forward to Christmas cookies, presents under the tree, receiving cards from friends and family members, reading the annual letter “we” send out, our annual pre-Christmas party, our Christmas Eve gathering, Christmas Day brunch for all 15 of us (including our kids, their spouses and our grandkids) and watching everyone open their gifts.

He loves every bit of it. His contribution?

My husband decks out the house in a light display on par with that of Clark Griswold (played by Chevy Chase) in “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.” And he does a great job! His other responsibility, honed over 20 years of training, is to regularly tell me what a great job I’ve done. He’s also sure to mention how much he appreciates the hours I spend baking, organizing, decorating, shopping and wrapping.

Why Holidays Are Tough
The feats above hint at a few reasons many of us feel stressed and overwhelmed during the holiday season. For some women, however, the experience is even more serious—with rampant emotions spilling over into the realms of depression and anxiety. Why are the holidays so tough on some of us? There are several reasons:

* Ridiculously high standards
* Unrealistic expectations
* Unhealthy stressors
* Too little self-care

In my experience, these are four major contributors. Let’s unwrap each of them one at a time. …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the November 2018 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.

The post Holiday Depression: Inside the November 2018 Issue appeared first on StepMom Magazine.

Read Full Article

Read for later

Articles marked as Favorite are saved for later viewing.
close
  • Show original
  • .
  • Share
  • .
  • Favorite
  • .
  • Email
  • .
  • Add Tags 

Separate tags by commas
To access this feature, please upgrade your account.
Start your free month
Free Preview