It’s time you learn how to ask a woman to sleep with you successfully, provided she’s already attracted to you.
Because truth is, asking women to sleep with you and getting a positive response isn’t really that difficult if you know how to do it right. It simply involves doing the right thing at the right time and encouraging her to become more intimate with you.
That said, a lot of guys screw this crucial step up and end up with nothing. They either scare the girl off by being too pushy, break the all-important sexual tension or say something really stupid. Which turns women off and makes them not want to have sex with you at all.
So make sure to read every word below because I’ll tell you exactly how it’s done the right way. You don’t want to miss any subtelties!
Things to do before asking women to sleep with you
Before you make your move and ask the girl to sleep with you, several very important things have to happen first. Otherwise, you’ll never succeed!
She has to be attracted to you
She has to be comfortable with you and your touch
You have to have an emotional connection
There needs to be sexual tension between you
If even one of these crucial steps is missing, you’ll rarely get a positive response when you ask a woman to sleep with you.
That’s because women simply don’t want to sleep with men who they aren’t attracted to and who they don’t trust and aren’t comfortable with. They also usually don’t want sex with guys who they have no emotional connection to.
Especially if there’s no sexual spark between the two of you. Something that’s known as chemistry and sexual tension, which is important to turn a woman on and make her wet and want sex with you.
And why would they want to have sex with you without any of these things? Sleeping with someone is a very emotional experience and you really have to like and trust the person.
So make sure you’ve already handled all these crucial steps above if you want to get a positive answer when you ask a woman to sleep with you.
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With that out of the way, let’s get to the nitty-gritty of how to actually ask women to sleep with you.
Here’s how to ask a woman to sleep with you the best way
Now, provided she’s already attracted to you and there’s enough sexual tension in the air, here’s how I ask a woman to sleep with me and succeed virtually every time.
I don’t actually ask her anything. Instead, I encourage more intimacy and then invite her to have sex with me. By leading the interaction towards sex in a manly, firm yet gentle way.
Sounds counter-intuitive, doesn’t it?
I mean, you can go and simply say something like “You’re so beautiful, do you want to have sex with me?” And you’ll definitely get a “Yes . . .” but only some of the time.
That’s because there are many, many things wrong with saying something like this in the form of a direct question. And it doesn’t matter how “beautifully” you word the question itself. Since the biggest problem with why you’ll often get a negative response is the fact itself that you’re actually ASKING her for sex.
Here’s why asking for sex won’t go as well as you think
The mere fact you ask a woman for sex in the form of a question is pretty bad. Because it overtly shows insecurity and neediness.
This instantly shifts the entire power dynamic of your interaction and makes you look like you’re unsure of yourself. Because you’ve given up the lead to her and now it’s up to her to move things forward. Which often won’t end in your favor.
This is because women want men to lead.
The vast majority of women want men who are dominant, assertive, decisive, etc. Men who know what they want and go for it. Men who can lead the interaction where it needs to go so women can get lost in the moment and in the experience.
Basically, sex should be a natural progression of your interaction with women. They should be able to later say “Oh, it just kind of happened!” when they later think on how things went. Instead of “Oh he asked me to have sex with him and I said yes,” which can easily look like they’re being slutty.
It’s all part of the masculinity and femininity dynamic. Feminine women respond powerfully to masculine men. And the ability to lead and move things forward is a hugely masculine trait. (I’ll be writing a full article about femininity and masculinity soon)
So don’t be surprised when you get a negative response when you ask a woman to sleep with you by presenting a question to her.
However, don’t get me wrong! This isn’t about forcing women to have sex with you because NO means NO! Instead, this is about not giving your power away and being the manly man women love.
How to encourage women to sleep with you instead of asking
Now, instead of learning how to ask a woman to sleep with you with a question, it’s better to learn how to do it in a way that’s infinitely better.
By leading your interaction towards sex, both physically and verbally, without asking any questions.
So how do you do this, exactly?
Well, there are many different ways to make your move and initiate sex without having to actually ask for it.
The ask itself is always implied by your actions and tonality and is non-verbal. So there’s always a chance for her to decline, in which case you must back off. Because it’ll obviously mean she’s not attracted enough to you to want to sleep with you yet.
Some examples of leading a woman to bed to have sex
Let’s say you’re both at your place or hers. What now?
Well, one option would be to escalate aggressively and directly. By getting close to her, pulling her in for a makeout session and then, while you’re in the middle of passionate french-kissing, simply lifting her up and physically taking her to bed.
This approach often works because the girl will be REALLY turned on and aroused if she’s lost in the moment of a huge makeout. So the next natural step is to take each other’s clothes off and have sex.
Another approach would be to take things slowly and steadily, by ramping up the sexual tension so she becomes aroused and wants you badly herself.
You could both get comfortable together on a couch, turn on some sweet tunes to enhance the atmosphere. Then talk to her in a sensual way, touch her intimately, gaze into her eyes with strong yet sexual eye contact, all to get her in the mood.
Eventually, you can get closer to her so your faces are right next to each other, put your arm around her, whisper something sexy into her ear, etc.
At this point, you can either just go for it by initiating a makeout. Or try saying some naughty things to get her to think about sex. If you think she’d enjoy the latter, then you can get increasingly naughty with what you’re saying, as long as it turns her on and increases her arousal.
Otherwise, what I do is say “Come, sit here . . .” and guide her physically so she sits on top of me. Then I put my arms around her and kiss her. While kissing her, I start taking off her clothes little by little. If she likes you enough, sex will follow.
As long as there’s enough sexual tension, she’ll sleep with you without asking
You see, the whole thing of how to ask a woman to sleep with you without actually asking her for it is to ramp up the sexual tension as much as possible.
Then no matter what, she’ll want to sleep with you herself because she’ll be really aroused and horny.
This involves lots of powerful eye contact, intimate touching and talking about sexual topics. It does NOT involve you asking for sex directly because it breaks the whole mood.
Also, it doesn’t even matter where you are, if there’s enough sexual tension, she’ll be ready to jump on you and sleep with you even if you’re at a bar, club, restaurant, park, beach, wherever.
I’ve had so many dates where the sexual tension was so palpable that we ended up hooking up in the bathroom of the venue. Just because she got so horny she was down for anything, without me even asking to sleep with her at all.
I just noticed that she was down for it in the way she was looking at me and how she was touching me. She had those “puppy dog” eyes, which pretty much said “Take me and fuck me now!” And I took her by the hand and lead her to the bathroom. That’s it.
So, if you want to get laid a lot and sleep with women without even asking them for sex, make sure you have a great time with them so they like you and then RAMP UP THE SEXUAL TENSION LIKE CRAZY!
And then lead, lead and lead! Don’t wait for HER to do everything for you. Lead her to your place, lead her to kiss you, lead her to your bed to have sex. It’s YOUR responsibility to get what you want as a man.
Here’s how to build sexual tension to sleep with women
As I said before, eye contact, physicality and talking about sexual and spicy topics is the key to how to ask a woman to have sex with you without actually asking.
When you’re already into each other, gaze longlingly into her eyes. Look at her lips, lick yours as if you really want to kiss her, and smile knowingly. She’ll usually smile herself.
Intense eye contact is a very powerful thing and it’s proven to increase sexual desire with other people who you’re already interested in. So don’t make the huge mistake of underestimating its use when you’re with a woman you like and want to have sex with.
When it comes to physicality, it’s massively important to make women comfortable with you, to build attraction and eventually have sex.
So when you’re learning how to ask a woman to sleep with you without actually asking, make sure to be physical with her right from the start of your interaction.
That’s because if you refrain from touching her the whole time you’re with her and then suddenly make your move and try to kiss her and initiate sex, she’ll often freak out. Because it’ll seem completely random and very incongruent with how you’ve been acting up until that point.
For her not to freak out with your suddenly touching her and initiating sex, you need to make sure to establish you’re a physical guy early on. By touching her throughout your meeting right from the start.
Here’s how to be physical right from the start
Hug her or shake her hand warmly when you greet her. Touch her on the shoulder or her arm when you’re making important points. High-five her when she says something cool or funny. Put your hand on her lower back when you’re entering the venue, and so on and so forth.
While you’re teasing her, flirting with her and joking around, nudge her, put your arms around her and shake her a bit, just like you’d do with your little sister.
When you’re leaving the venue, take her by the hand. When you’re crossing the street, extend your hand and hold her so she feels safe.
If you’re meeting in a bar or club, dancing is one of the best ways to get physically comfortable with one another.
Doing some fun and physical activity while on your date, like playing pool is also perfect. Because you can touch her throughout the whole thing when you’re engaging in banter, joking around and maybe even teaching her some moves.
Doing all this is hugely important because she’ll gradually become comfortable with you. And your eventual intimate touching will just seem like a natural progression of your interaction.
Sexual talk and naughty topics
Finally, another way to increase sexual tension right before you ask her to sleep with you is by talking about sex.
Just don’t make it super obvious that you’re doing this because your goal is to make her horny or something. Because it’ll seem disingenuous and like you have an ulterior motive.
Instead, talk about sex and various sexual things like it’s no big deal at all. You have to establish you’re a non-judgmental guy when it comes to sex. Like it’s the most normal, natural and pleasant thing in the world.
So don’t be afraid to talk about sex and various naughty things with women. To show you’re not ashamed or anxious about your sexuality. And that you won’t judge women who have a “dirty mind.”
Ask them various things like where was the craziest place they had sex. Tell them various stories from your or your friend’s life which involve some sexy things. Or even interesting stories from the wold which involve something sexual. Like the famous story of a male hamster who got into the female enclosure and impregnated all 100 of them.
The point is to encourage women around you to start thinking about sex. And since you’ll be the only guy around, they’ll eventually start associating those thoughts with you. They’ll get aroused and maybe horny, which will increase sexual tension and will want them to sleep with you. And that’s exactly how you ask a woman to sleep with you without even asking her but instead ENCOURAGING her to do so with your actions and words.
Final thoughts on asking a girl to sleep with you
I’m serious about this, if you focus on learning how to ask a girl to sleep with you, you’ll often fail. Because you’re going to be looking at the whole thing from the wrong angle.
Sure, like I said before, you’ll sometimes get a yes. But why would you want to risk it and often get a no as well?
Instead, focus on having fun with women, on getting to know them, flirting to build attraction and then RAMPING UP THE SEXUAL TENSION. Then women will want to sleep with you themselves without you having to ask for sex at all.
Don’t do what most unsuccessful guys do and listen to what the most successful seducers in the world do to sleep with a lot of women. Guys who are successful don’t focus on silly things like how to ask a girl to have sex with them. They know what works and lead women to hook up with them.
If you have any further questions, then you’re always welcome to ask. Because I’m just scratching the surface here.
Seduction may seem very counterintuitive if you’re new at this. But that’s because it’s not logical and mostly emotion-based. Which is why it’s important to know what turns a woman on sexually and then do that instead.
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Today I’ll show you exactly how to attract a girl for love if your goal is to have a serious and long-term relationship with her. And the answer to this might really surprise you.
Below, I’ll explain everything that needs to happen for girls to fall in love with you in a short time. Then show the three critical steps necessary for doing so. And also mention the things you need to do to ensure the relationship lasts and doesn’t crumble after the initial “honeymoon” period.
Learning how to attract a girl to love you so she actually stays with you is one of the most important things a man must do. Otherwise, you’ll have trouble with keeping women around and they’ll leave you when they realize the relationship isn’t going anywhere.
Here’s how to attract a girl for love successfully
There are three crucial steps to follow when your goal is to attract women for love successfully. And then keep them around for a long time in a wonderful and mutually beneficial relationship.
Meet and seduce her
Connect on a deep level and see if you’re compatible
Show her you’re manly and have potential
I’ll go over all three steps in great detail below so you know how to do each of them and understand why they’re massively important for your success.
Step one – Meeting and seducing her
This step is usually the most difficult for beginners. Because not many guys know how to approach, talk to, have fun with, attract and then seduce girls successfully.
However, this is something every single guy needs to learn how to do properly. Because to find the right woman for you, you have to date a lot of women to get some life experience and figure out which ones are right for you and which aren’t. Until you eventually figure out your preferences and what you’re really after and then pick one who’s compatible with you and who’s right for you.
That’s because one of the biggest mistakes in life a man can make while figuring out how to attract a girl for love is to settle down with a woman who’s not right for him. Entirely out of desperation and because he thinks he won’t be able to find someone better. Usually, it’s the guys who struggle with women the most and don’t get laid much who end up in bad relationships.
Luckily, I know exactly what to do about this and I’ll tell you right now how you can seduce nearly every girl you meet successfully. Which is the first and essential part of how to attract a girl to love you eventually.
First, fix all external and internal issues plaguing you.
If you’re not attractive enough, get off that lazy ass and hit the gym or do other forms of exercise. It’s the absolute best thing any man can do to drastically improve his appearance as well as health. Which is always massively attractive to women.
Then, take care of your grooming, get a decent haircut, some nice-fitting clothes and a pleasant cologne.
That’s more than enough to take care of looks and appearance for most guys so women won’t find them repulsive.
You don’t need to look hot, you just need to look like you take care of yourself.
After that, fix any problems you may have with bad body language, your tone of voice, eye contact, as well as issues such as nervousness, fear, hesitation, bad attitude, etc.
Obviously, that’s easier said than done but you must do it. Because if you’re a shaky, wimpy, nervous mess when you approach women and can’t even talk to them without your voice breaking, you won’t be able to seduce them successfully.
So before you even go about learning how to attract a girl to love you forever, it’s crucial to take care of these and similar issues.
Because the hard-to-swallow truth is, half of the seduction process lies within YOU.
You have to first get yourself in order before you even approach the girl. Then half your battle will be won before you even talk to an attractive girl and try to seduce her to love you.
Bottom line is: No woman in her right mind will want to be with a fat, lazy and unmotivated slob who doesn’t take care of himself at all. Remember this crucial point when learning how to attract a girl for love.
Second, approach her, have fun with her and get her number
This step is pretty simple and straightforward, but definitely not easy.
You simply go where lots of attractive women are, like a bar, club, party or even a busy street , beach, park or shopping mall.
Then, find someone you find attractive, approach her, introduce yourself and talk to her like she’s a regular human being. To find out who she is, see if you like her, maybe see if she likes you, etc. And then flirt a little bit, tease her very lightly and maybe even have some laughs together, so you get her number to hang out together again at another time and move things forward.
Once you read that article and practive what’s in it and you’re able to approach and get her number, you can get back to learning how to attract girls for love.
Third, have a successful first date and seduce her
This is by far the most important part of the equation and the place where you actually go about attracting a girl for love. The keeping her in the relationship part comes later.
Basically, after you get her number and ask her out, you meet her for the date. On that date, your ultimate goal is to have fun with her and to get to know each other. Because to seduce her, she has to see you’re a great guy.
Then, you need to flirt with her, tease her even more and challenge her. All while maintaining strong eye contact with her, touching her and showing your physicality, telling her various interesting, fun or exciting stories from life experience, etc. So she starts feeling a gut-level attraction towards you.
Hopefully, you know how to do this the right way because this is the part where the majority of men screw up and fail. Never to hear from the girl again and ending up at square one.
Because not many guys know how to flirt, tease and challenge women properly so they like you, find you attractive, want your validation and crave your touch. If you’re also not sure how to do all that very successfully, look for an answer to this very shortly, just below.
In any case, after she’s attracted to you, you need to build some rapport and a deeper connection with her. So she feels comfortable with you and trusts you.
Finally, you need to create and maintain sexual tension to make her wet. So she feels aroused and horny and wants to sleep with you. Which you do by gradually making you touch more and more intimate, as well as moving your conversations unto increasingly sexual topics and making her think about sex in general and with you.
If you do that successfully, either on the first, second or whatever date, you then take her somewhere private and sleep together.
Did you get all that? Again, I make it sound so easy, but it’s actually the most difficult part of the whole process. So to make things significantly easier for you and show you how to always have amazing dates which pretty much always end up in sex, I urge you to go and check the following message in the link below:
With the knowledge from the message just above, you’ll nail the hardest step of the whole seduction process every time and will have no problems getting a girlfriend.
Then, when you’re able to seduce as many women as you want, you can finally focus on using the knowledge of how to attract a girl for love from the following two steps.
Step Two – Connecting on a deep level and checking for compatibility
Now that you’ve got a girlfriend, a few friends with benefits or something similar who you’d want to pursue a more serious relationship with, you need to take care of this next critical step.
This part of how to attract a girl for love is about figuring out if you both can actually have a healthy and happy long-term relationship with each other that’s also beneficial for the both of you. Of if you’re completely wrong for one another and shouldn’t pursue things further because it’ll end in disaster.
This involves having a heart-to-heart, serious, brutally honest and genuinely vulnerable talk with one another. To figure out what makes you both tick, what you want from each other, from life in general and from your potential relationship.
Yeah, it’s exactly as scary as it sounds. But it’s absolutely necessary if you actually want to live together, maybe have kids, build a home and a family, and grow old together.
Figure out what you both want
Every person is their own individual — and your potential partner is no exception.
She’ll have her own unique worldview as well as personal wants, needs, values, desires, goals, aspirations, ambitions, plans, ideas, opinions, etc.
She’s just as complex and unique a person as you are, and you need to respect your differences and find common ground if you both want to stay together.
So, you need to ask her very personal questions and she needs to do the same to you as well. Questions which are sometimes very difficult to answer truthfully. But they’re entirely necessary when trying to figure out how to attract a girl to love you in a long-term relationship.
You don’t need to have this super serious talk right away, especially when you’re just starting out dating. Because it’ll be too soon and you’ll only scare her off.
Hoever, this conversation needs to happen eventually and sooner rather than later. Because the longer you drag things on, the messier and harder on the both of you the potential breakup will be. Since time spent together strengthens attachment and emotional connection.
But break up you must, if you realize you’re both not compatible and don’t have a future together. Because the worst thing you two can do is have kids and build a home before you realize you can’t have a happy future due to irreconcilable differences. So many homes have been ruined by this that it’s not even funny.
The important questions to ask her
Hopefully I didn’t scare you off with the above. But trust me, it’s better to figure these things out early on than much later when .
In any case, what are the questions you should be asking her to see if she’s compatible with you?
Well, I can’t tell you that because you have to figure it out for yourself.
Ask her about the things that are genuinely important to you as a person to find out about her. Ask her what you actually CARE about knowing.
These can be just about anything, really. Whatever pops into your mind that’s important to you.
I’m guessing you’d maybe want to figure out her stance on various things in life that will affect your mutual relationship. Like work, play, health, food, politics, religion, children, education, travel, goals, aspirations, and other things.
Then see if your worldviews align or not. And if they don’t, what you can both do to compromise. See what she wants out of life and out of you as a partner. Figure out what her views on your hobbies, your friends and family are.
Don’t skimp on your questions and ask her anything and everything you deem important to you. And then urge her to do the same and ask you about what’s important to her.
Remember, a happy, healthy and mutually beneficial relationship is a two-way street. Where two independent individuals come together in mutual trust, respect, understanding, attraction, and love. And then try to make things better for both of them.
Only if you figure out if you’re both compatible with one another will you make your relationship succeed. This is the main point of how to attract a girl for affection and devotion, and avoid lots of drama and an eventual breakup in the future.
The next part is even more important because it has to do with keeping a girl’s love going strong for you until the end.
Step Three – Show her you’re manly and have future potential
Out of everything else, this is the part that ensures her love endures for you and doesn’t fade.
Showing her you’re a manly man and that you have the potential for greatness is the most important part of understanding how to attract a girl for love if you actually want to be with her until the end.
So how do you do that?
Well, I’ll explain what manliness is in a separate article. Because it’s a massive topic in and of itself and will require a huge and separate write-up.
That said, I’ll still give you a big clue as to what it is below so you know what I’m talking about.
Basically, manliness is the ability to use all your faculties, experiences, masculine traits and other qualities to make things happen in life.
This includes things like assertiveness, ambition, dominance, passion, integrity, authenticity, independence, physical, mental and emotional strength, responsibility, decisiveness, leadership, confidence, and so on and so forth.
There are very many qualities that make a man manly and the more he possesses and embodies, the more attractive to all women he will be.
Basically, women desire men who are manly and will stay with a man who maintains his manliness. Because it shows women he has enormous potential to achieve all his goals and ambitions.
That’s why after learning how to attract a girl to love you, only through manliness can you actually keep her. Because she won’t want to leave for someone else that way.
Final Thoughts on girls and love
Now you know the exact three steps of how to attract a girl for love and then encourage her stay with you until the very end.
The first part may seem to be the most impossible one, but it’s seriously not that difficult to learn how to seduce women efficiently.
The second part is very necessary because you want to make sure you’re both compatible.
It’s the third step that’s actually the hardest. Because developing your manliness and maintaining it is a life-long process. Not something you do once and forget about, but something keep doing until the day you die.
And the best time to start is always right now. Peace!
Today I’ll show you exactly how to attract a married woman to love you and care for you deeply. As well as how to flirt with her successfully so she wants to be with you.
Some people won’t like this topic because they feel it’s dishonest to make a marriage fail in order to steal away a woman.
That said, there are many women right now who are in loveless and failed marriages. So I wouldn’t want to give sleeping with married woman advice very lightly.
That’s why this article on attracting married women is SOLELY and SPECIFICALLY for the purpose of making women who are already in terrible marriages happier. By showing them it’s okay to leave their husbands who treat them terribly and to start a new, better and happier relationship with someone else. In this case, hopefully, you.
How to attract a married woman successfully and help her out
Hitting on married women to attract them should be done carefully, and never in a very blatant way. Because you never know who might be watching.
Even if she really likes you, she won’t show it to you if her friends or acquaintances are near her. Because word might travel and her husband or children may find out. Which will cause a total disaster in her already tumultuous relationship.
That’s why if you want to attract married women, you should always do it discreetly and with a bit of tact. Which means if you want to start hitting on married women, you should only do it when you’re both somewhere private, away from people who they may know. Never start hitting on them when they’re around others. Especially if it’s a work or a school setting.
Flirting with married women isn’t much different from flirting with just about any other woman.
The main difference is that you have to be more discreet in the beginning. So using your eye contact, body language and facial expressions correctly is significantly more important than flirting verbally.
That’s because you first want to screen her if she’s actually interested in other men. Or if she does not want to even entertain the idea of dating another man while she’s married.
That’s because for the man, the repercussions will be minor if things progress further. And for her, her whole life may drastically change if she decides to divorce her husband and leave him for someone else. That’s why married women will put much more thought into flirting and involving themselves with other men than single ones. Since they have to be sure it’s worth it in the end.
How to flirt with married woman successfully
Please keep the above in mind when learning how to flirt with a married woman because it’s important to your eventual success.
So, when you see a woman you like and you know she’s married, lock eyes with her and keep strong eye contact. Smile warmly or in a sly and cheeky manner, as if you know something she doesn’t, use your facial expressions to convey what you want and nod your head at her or otherwise acknowledge her.
Then wait for her reaction and see what she does. If she smiles, nods back at you, waves, beckons you over or does something similar that’s positive and inviting, then you’re free to walk up to her and chat her up. You should do so as well even if she just looks away in a shy manner but still smiles because that’s a clear sign of submission to your charm.
But if there’s any negative reaction like frowning, scowling or quickly looking away from you. Or even if there’s a completely neutral, lifeless reaction without any expression whatsoever, as if she doesn’t give a damn about you, then you shouldn’t approach her. This means she’s either completely not interested in you or doesn’t want to meet anyone right now. Or she’s actually in a great marriage and isn’t interested in other men at all, which you should always respect.
Now that you’ve gotten her attention and approached her, it’s time to figure out if you can proceed further and if she’s open to being with someone else. Because just flirting with her is a small part of how to attract a married woman. There’s something much more important to your success which I’ll talk about below.
Figuring things out
To do that,
you need to look around and become aware of any other people who are around
someone there, then you need to be straight with her and not play games for a
little while. This is to give her an out and a possibility to reject you
politely, so she may “save face” if she’s around someone who might tell her
husband or gossip about her.
You can do so
by saying “Hey, I think you’re very attractive and I’d like to get to know you.
Is it okay if we talk?”
This may sound counterintuitive, but it’s the absolute best way to ensure she won’t get into any trouble.
See what she replies and then proceed accordingly. If it’s a positive reply, you can begin flirting with her as you would with any other woman. Because the fact she’s a married woman stops being significant anymore.
If, however, she’s alone and there’s no chance of anyone overhearing your conversation, you don’t need to ask her this and you can instead proceed to get right to chit chat and then flirting.
Flirting with married women isn’t difficult
Once you get past the small talk, you should then proceed flirting with her. Just like you’d flirt with any other women.
In fact, flirting with a married woman is often much easier, especially if she’s in a sexless or loveless marriage. Because she’ll often want what she doesn’t already have and will be more open to your advances.
This will involve becoming more playful and physical with her as well as using stuff like teasing, pushing and pulling, roleplaying, being open and direct about what you want. As well as eventually creating some sexual tension.
Also, for your flirting to go much better than usual, involve a lot of physical touch and strong eye contact.
Eye contact in itself is massively important because it’s proven to create feelings of closeness and intimacy in people. That’s why you should always be expressive with your eyes when flirting with married women or any other woman for that matter.
Additionally, there’s almost nothing that builds as much attraction as quickly as physically touching women at appropriate moments. Because without physical touch, there can never be real and raw sexual attraction.
So don’t hesitate to touch her when you have the chance so you understand how to flirt with a married woman. Just don’t make it very obvious like you’re doing so robotically just to touch her. Do it more discreetly, by tapping her on the shoulder when you make a point. By high-fiving her or giving a similar reaffirming physical gesture when she says something awesome, funny or to your liking.
Don’t be afraid to nudge her, push her away playfully and touch her in similar ways when she says something weird, dumb, silly or uncool.
Point is, touch her as much as possible and have perfect your eye contact game.
Taking things further
Finally, when learning how to attract a married woman so she
falls in love with you and wants you sexually, you should make it a point to
show you can offer her more than her current relationship can.
It may be companionship, attention, time, sex, love, care, or even something as simple yet important as stimulating conversations. It’s important to figure these things out and use them to seal the deal.
So when you’re flirting with a married woman after you’ve taken her on a date, make sure to figure out what her current problems with her husband are. And then see if you can convey you can give her exactly what she craves from a man.
However, you should only do this when you’re deep in the date. After getting to know each other on a deeper level and building a more intimate connection.
Otherwise, it’ll seem like you’re trying too hard to pry
into her personal life. Which will make you look like you have an ulterior
Again, the core point
of how to make a married woman love you and want you is to figure out what
she’s currently lacking in her relationship, and then convince you can give
that to her.
Otherwise, you should proceed as normal and focus on having
a great time with her on your date. Laughing, teasing each other, seeing if you
have good chemistry together and are compatible.
This is the key of how to attract married women successfully and it lies in being discreet and figuring out what they want.
How to attract a married woman at work without getting into trouble
Work environments are a bit different when it comes to
attracting married women.
Because they may end your career if things go wrong and HR
gets notified that you’re hitting on married women.
So, in all honestly, I would sincerely advice against trying
to flirt with married women in your workplace.
But if there’s a woman who’s married and is working where
you are and you KNOW for a fact she’s in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage,
then of course you should try and fix that.
However, you’ll have to be even more discreet when trying to
flirt with her and talk about the whole thing. Because it’s doubly dangerous
since you don’t want anyone in your work finding out.
That’s why it’s always best to leave these things for afterhours. By nonchalantly and DISCREETLY suggesting a ride home or to grab drinks or coffee after work.
If she accepts, don’t consider it a date but more of a chance
to get to know her. While you’re with her, try to figure out if she’s happy in
her marriage. If she’s not, see if she’s interested in getting out of it and
dating other men. And only then, tell her you actually like her and would like
to take her out, discreetly.
And if there’s a negative reaction, play it off as you just being friendly towards a coworker, without any ulterior motives. Because you were just bored and thought it would be cool to spend some time getting to know the people you work with. This usually works well to avoid potential horrible consequences. And any suits of sexual harassment in the workplace, which can end your career very quickly. That’s how you can attract a married woman at work without it causing problems.
Getting her to leave her husband
Attracting married women to love you inevitably leads to this conclusion if you want to stay together.
So let’s say after figuring out how to flirt with a married woman, you’ve done it successfully. Had several great dates and now know you have amazing chemistry together. You also found out you’re both compatible and can make each other happy in the future.
Now you’ll need to broach the inevitable, all-important
question of “When will you leave your husband for me?” Or even if she’s willing
to at all.
You need to do this eventually because there’s no point in
her dragging out the failed marriage and making things worse by staying put in
a horrible place.
So when’s the best time to do it?
After you’ve already established a sexual relationship and
want to make plans together for the future. Which often means you’ve spent
several months seeing each other.
This will ensure she will actually want to leave her husband
for you because you’ve made it evident that you can have a great time and a
great life together. In addition to being able to give her all the important
things her husband couldn’t, like your affection, time and attention.
Now, when you actually do ask her this important question, you
have to be firm and serious. You’ll also need to set up a boundary and make it
clear to her that you want to have a serious relationship with her. As opposed
to just being a lover from time to time.
I’m against issuing ultimatums to people, but this is one
instance where it’s extremely important to do so.
Tell her you love spending time with her, but you have to know it will lead somewhere. Because you don’t want to waste your time on just being a lover. You want her to leave her husband and be with you instead.
Final thoughts on attracting and flirting with married women
You now know exactly how to attract a married woman to love you, care for you and then leave her husband to be with you.
It’s not just about turning her on and making her wet to have sex with her but about truly figuring out what she’s lacking in her marriage and showing you can provide it.
I sincerely hope you don’t use this knowledge to try and
break up any great marriages. Because that’s very manipulative and extremely
You should only use your knowledge of how to flirt with a married woman to get them away from marriages where they’re extremely unhappy. Otherwise, you’re going to be just as bad as their terrible husbands who they want to leave.
The important point to remember is always discretion. Good luck!
One of the biggest problems that lots of people who come for help have, stems from the fact that they constantly think and feel they’re not good enough for something or someone.
It’s called inadequacy.
So let’s talk about it and about how to stop feeling inadequate with women.
Well, do you realize that the older you get, the more problems you’ll face and the harder life will become?
You’ll get less and less healthy. You’ll have less energy and willpower. You’ll be able to perform less at work. And then you’ll eventually die.
And feeling not good enough for women throughout all of that will just make everything much worse.
So basically, what I’m trying to say is you’re fucked, to begin with.
And I mean proper fucked. Really, royally screwed in the ass.
And it all begins with you getting older. And everyone’s gotta do it eventually. Get older, I mean — not the getting fucked in the ass part.
But I’ll get to that, too. Because life fucks everyone.
Thinking and feeling you’re always not good enough
The most common self-esteem issue I see is people thinking they’re not good enough for anything.
They’re not good enough to work with that. They’re not good enough to study this. They’re not good enough to have lots of money. They’re not good enough to have a beautiful girlfriend.
They think they don’t deserve it.
The list of inadequacies goes on and on. But let’s discuss the main focus of this blog — dating and success with women.
There are TONS of guys who think they’re not good enough to have many awesome women in their lives. And to have a hot, smart and fun girlfriend.
They have it in their heads that they’re somehow subhuman if they can’t go up to a girl and strike up a conversation with her. Then have a fun, interesting, exciting or at least engaging talk together. Share some stories about one another. Connect a little bit and find something you both GENUINELY like about each other. (Which would be the perfect thing and context to compliment someone on, by the way, and the perfect occasion to begin to escalate physically.) While all this time just being a chill, relaxed dude who’s there to have fun with her without having any other expectations besides getting to know her as a person, showcasing your personality and enjoying her company. Because you like what you see.
While also relentlessly teasing her throughout the entire interaction, giving it a flirty, sexy vibe and letting her experience your sense of humor. Being all masculine and shit. Which would be a phenomenal experience for her, if done right, by the way.
And then just go and have sex later because that feels great, too. All because it would just be a normal progression of your interaction with her. Since you’ve both enjoyed each other’s company so much that it feels completely natural to just go and enjoy each other’s bodies as well.
In other words, TO MEET AND GET TO KNOW ANOTHER HUMAN BEING and enjoy each other.
Well, fuck — that does sound like too much work, doesn’t it? And not just work, but like it also takes some special skills and knowledge!
It really is and it does, so relax. Because most men can’t do this seduction dance naturally. Yet they end up feeling like they’re not good enough for women as a result. Thinking that something’s fundamentally wrong with them as a person. Without even realizing that men aren’t supposed to know all this by default.
Men aren’t supposed to be great with women without learning
Truth is, if you can’t seduce an attractive woman quickly and effortlessly as some guys can, it’s totally fine. Since no one is born with excellent social skills and glowing charisma; everyone has to learn and make an effort to acquire these traits and abilities!
Here’s another truth bomb — the most successful guys who are great with women are the ones who make an effort to learn about these skills or acquire them naturally while growing up. Some learn faster than others, but everyone has to go through the process or they won’t see any palpable results.
But if you happen to not be given the opportunity or even the possibility of being social in your youth, you don’t have to be screwed for life as result. Contrary to what many lonely guys believe! You just have to bite the bullet, take the time and make the conscious effort to learn everything on your own, or get some help.
Yet there are so many virgins in their 30s and 40s, it’s embarrassing. Virgins who are terrified of talking to women. Who constantly feel they’re not good enough.
How did they end up this way? Pretty simple — they didn’t take that time nor make the effort to learn all this. They have only themselves to blame.
Here’s what you do to become successful with women:
You need to man the fuck up and get out of the house frequently to go meet other people. That’s the basic gist of it — you have to make an effort to actually go outside where other people are and talk to them. Because if you sit at home and do nothing, you’ll never get anywhere. This first step is crucial.
Go outside to parks, malls, cafes, bars, clubs, beaches or just meet people on the street. Then talk to the ones who don’t seem too busy. About anything that pops into your mind. Hopefully something interesting and relevant.
Focus on learning how to talk to people and not seem too awkward. Awkwardness in itself can almost never be entirely avoided when you’re approaching random strangers on the street. But you can learn to keep it at an absolute bare minimum eventually.
All of this takes practice, like any other skill. That’s why these things are called social skills, duh!
Then, while you’re talking with people, focus on just getting to know them and becoming a better conversationalist, without any other goals in mind. Just for the sake of becoming comfortable talking to random people about random things.
Trust me, many people are lonely and will appreciate talking to someone. While others, of course, will tell you to fuck off, but that’s unavoidable as you’ll inevitably stumble on someone who doesn’t want to talk to you. Or someone who just doesn’t like your ugly mug or whatever garbage you’re spouting.
I’m over-dramatizing here, but seriously, grow the fuck up.
When you take the time to do all that, you’ll have an opportunity to develop the necessary social skills to talk to women as a regular separate skill. You practice and practice, again, just like you’d do with ANY OTHER SKILL.
If you suck, you MUST take the time out of your busy fucking schedule, like 1 hour a day at LEAST and spend it on self-improvement completely. By self-improvement, in this case, I mean anything which will progress you towards becoming better with women and people in general. Anything which will help you attain better social skills.
BECAUSE NO ONE IS GOING TO DO THIS FOR YOU.
This even includes going to the gym. Because if you loathe yourself, thinking no one would want to talk to you since you look like a fat piece of shit, then begin by going to the damn fucking gym for one hour every other day, for starters. You have zero excuses to look like a fat slob unless you have a terminal fucking disease.
Fat slobs whine about why no women want to be with them. Well, would YOU want to be with a fat, ugly woman? How many fat and ugly women have you asked out in your life?
So don’t be a hypocrite and start taking care of your body. Or own that you’re a fat fuck and don’t give a shit about it and stop with all the whining. That will often work since it’s all about your attitude anyway.
Although then you’re bound to die from a heart attack in your mid-40s and 50s, so good luck with that.
Otherwise, I’ll have absolutely no reservations in calling you a fat piece of shit who will end up alone and miserable. Because you’ve earned that fat fate. Because you didn’t strive for something better. Which, again, if you don’t have a crippling or terminal disease, is entirely your fault.
As much as looks don’t matter when you’ve got your shit together and are an awesome guy who has great GAME — they still matter for first impressions. A good-looking fit guy will always have more opportunities to talk to women than someone who’s butt-ugly. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll use those opportunities better than the fugly guy and will get more results. Because in the end, it’s all about how good you can make women feel around you. And looks have nothing to do with that.
But since most guys don’t have their shit together and don’t have good GAME — looks matter greatly for their success.
Especially because guys often develop self-esteem issues precisely due to them being fat fucks . . . which messes up their game completely. Which is why it’s important to learn how to stop feeling inadequate.
Back to the main point of feeling not good enough
Apart from getting fit to improve your chances, the absolute best way to become successful with women and other people, in general, is to GO OUTSIDE AND TALK TO PEOPLE. That’s it.
One of the biggest and most common problems for guys who are terrible with women is that they simply don’t know how to engage and normally talk to another person without being weird. How fucked up is that?
Talking to many, many women leads to an understanding of how to talk to other women in the future. I say “Hi!” in person to greet any woman (or man) and then just start talking with her, smiling and enjoying myself because it’s a new experience with someone who I don’t know but am interested in getting to know.
You wouldn’t BELIEVE how fast you’d progress in pickup and how quickly you’d have better social skills and charisma if you took even ONE HOUR out of your day, preferably several times a week, to literally go and approach random women on the street. Or even random men.
Most guys don’t realize that if they just take ONE DAY per week out of their busy schedule, and make it a point to go to some busy spot that day and talk to as many girls as they can, like 20-40-60 or whatever time permits – and do that for a couple of months – it will solve most of their problems with talking to women.
That’s how I started out. I went to towns where no one knows me – picked a busy spot – and TALK TALK TALK. Nothing transformed me more than these experiences.
Yet most guys aren’t willing to do this. Because they’re either lazy or afraid to get out of their comfort zones. And then they whine that they’re useless and no one likes them. And then they start feeling they’re not good enough for women.
Leave your damn house
OF COURSE NO ONE’S GONNA LIKE YOU IF YOU’RE SOME TROLL WHO NEVER LEAVES HIS HOUSE TO TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE.
Again, no one’s going to do this for you. It’s your life and you’re the only person who cares about your success. I’ll say it again and again because you have to take some fucking responsibility for your life.
It’s the only one you have. No one’s going to hand you anything. No one’s going to come up to you and magically give you magic powers to become successful with women.
Pickup gurus and professionals will GLADLY take 1000-10000$ from you to drag you outside to a street, club or bar for a weekend or a week to simply teach you how to talk to people. Hell, if you pay me thousands of dollars. I’ll gladly do the same for you and your results will skyrocket.
And I won’t be doing anything super special, to be honest, just like most pickup guys. I’ll just explain certain things to you that I’ve internalized through experience. And then FORCE you to get out of your comfort zone to approach and talk to literally HUNDREDS of women in a weekend. Which will transform you completely, whether you like it or not.
But why even pay that money when you can DO IT ALL ON YOUR OWN? Just get the fuck out of the house, feel the fear and the approach anxiety and then do it anyway. And TALK TO RANDOM WOMEN ON THE STREET. Those who don’t seem like they’re in a rush. Until your game gets better, then you can even approach those.
If you’re too scared to do it alone, find a buddy and go with him as a wing. It’ll be much easier and you can both learn.
Sure, it’ll take you longer to learn this than if you’ve done it together with a pickup coach. But you’ll save a ton of cash and will still learn just as good, if you put in enough time and effort into it.
Sure, the first 10, 20, 50 or even 100 approaches will be BRUTAL. But then you’ll get used to it and to getting rejected.
And then you’ll be forced to adapt, improvise, improve and overcome.
Hopefully without having to drink some piss, like Bear Grylls over there.
After a few weeks, months, or even years of this, you’ll suddenly find yourself with tons of beautiful women and various friends in your life.
Like one Reddit user called u/ImJustSo pointed out in one of my posts:
It’s hard to convince anyone that they should be out there talking to 10, 20, 30, 80, 100s of men/women a day to get better at it. Unfortunately, it’s the simplest, most efficient way to go about all of this. No formulas, no techniques, no absolutes and universal approaches. All it takes is practice like every other thing we all get good at.
I wish I were a better harmonica, guitar, and ukulele player, but I know what it takes to get there. I don’t try to find some trick that makes me 5 years better than I am. I just pick one up and play it when I have time.
You have a choice — pay a ton of cash to have someone shove you through the motions, or bite the bullet and do it yourself. And if you happen to choose to dump that cash on someone, then dump it on me *wink wink*
In essence, if you confront the world forthrightly, if you stand up for yourself and speak to people in a genuine and authentic manner and accept the consequences of what you’re saying, and if you expose yourself courageously to the things you’re afraid of (in this case, approaching and talking to women), then your life will improve. And so will the lives of the people around you. Because you’ll be a better person for it. And because after having gone through all that, you’ll bring value to everyone you speak to.
But now that we got the “everyone’s shallow at least somewhat” and “how to become successful with women in general” parts out of the way, let’s get to more important things. Like how to stop feeling inadequate through experience. And about the self-esteem issue. And also the getting older thing. And let’s not forget the fucked in the ass thing.
Have you heard the big news yet?
You’re going to die.
Whoops, I hope I didn’t ruin the surprise for you!
But hasn’t anyone ever told you about this? Or were you expecting to live forever?
Then I got some bad news for you, kiddo. Wipe that milk off your face. Because once you do, maybe you’ll recognize your own mortality.
Don’t panic. You’ll soon be dead.
Life will sometimes seem long, tough and tiring. And sometimes you’ll be happy and sometimes you’ll be sad. And then you’ll be old. And then you’ll be dead.
But you don’t get to go out just like that. Nope. The older you’ll get, the more problems you’ll face. Because you won’t be as young anymore. Because you won’t be as agile, virile or youthful anymore. Literally EVERYTHING will become more difficult to do the more you age; moving, talking, sleeping, peeing, fucking, eating, dancing, sitting, and simply existing.
That is if you’re at least somewhat healthy. But if you get some disease or chronic illness or another fucked up condition . . . then I don’t even wanna talk about it — that’s too depressing.
So why are you wasting your time, then? Feeling not good enough for that beautiful girl who you saw and were too afraid to approach.
Feeling you’re not good enough to be with great women is just stupid
What’s the worst thing that could happen if you did approach a girl you’re attracted to?
Would she kick you in the balls? Would she scream bloody rape and murder and all the passers-by would run up and beat you to death with a stick for talking to her?
Would she say “Sorry, I’m not interested” or “I have a boyfriend” and go away? Wow, that last one is probably the most painful, right? FUCKING WRONG!
That last one is, in fact, the best response you can get. Because rejection is a normal and natural part of life.
Everyone gets rejected. There’s not a single guy in the world who wouldn’t get rejected by at least someone. Even Brad Pitt gets rejected. Because every woman as an individual has individual tastes.
No matter who you are, no matter what you do and no matter what you have going on in your life, some people are just not going to like you. Until you realize this fact, you’re life’s gonna be shit.
But also because you LEARN from rejection. And you STOP WASTING TIME after getting rejected. Because you find out that this person wants nothing to do with you, and you MOVE ON to other people.
Until you find someone who thinks you’re great. And even if it takes 1000 approaches, you eventually will.
With billions of people in the world, I like those odds, to be honest. There’s always someone who’s going to think you’re the shit. Just as there’s always someone who’s going to think you’re shit.
Okay, so what’s the best thing that can happen if you approach her? Would she end up your girlfriend, fuckbuddy, wife? Would she agree to have a threesome with you and her gorgeous best friend? Would she fall in love with you forever and you’ll live happily ever after?
Well, why not find out?
Because you feel you’re not good enough for her?!? Ok.
So let’s look at it closely. Who would be good enough for her, then? Some tall, rich, dark, handsome prince in a black Mercedes? Why would he be good enough for her and you wouldn’t, exactly?
What makes him special? Isn’t he a person, just like you?
Or do you consider yourself to not be a person? Are you not a human being?
Are you a slug from outer space then? Or do you simply think you have absolutely no value to offer others? And that makes you think you’re not good enough for her?
Hold on . . . So do you think that the imaginary tall, rich and handsome prince has infinite value to offer her, then? That they wouldn’t ever have any problems, arguments, fights and other bullshit if they hooked up or had a relationship?
Well, do you even know WHAT WOMEN DESIRE FROM MEN?
Oh boy . . . here goes.
What women want and desire from men
I’ll give you a hint: it’s not money (Unless she’s a gold-digger.)
It’s also not looks and not status, contrary to popular belief.
Yeah, all those things are GREAT and they’ll certainly help you get laid a LOT if you’ve got all three of them. But they’re not a requirement, they’re just BONUSES.
These things make everything much easier. But you can get the same results without having any of them. I know I did. And I’m painfully average-looking, have no money to speak of and zero status.
Care to take a guess what women desire? I’ve talked about this before in my article about why women like bad boys so much.
To grossly oversimplify — women want emotions and experiences. That’s their drug of choice above everything else. In fact, it’s also the drug of choice for any person. Because emotions and experiences make life worth living.
Today I’ll talk about how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend or if she’s single and not currently dating someone else.
Let’s say you like that cutie you see every day at the bus stop, but you have no clue whether she’s single or not.
Sure, a polite woman who values her time and yours will let you know right away herself if she’s currently dating someone when you try to ask her out on a date. But what if she doesn’t want to talk about her personal life? How do you know if she’s single or has a boyfriend in that case? How do you make things right and figure out what’s what, without coming off as creepy or weird?
Well, there are a couple of tricks you might want to know which will help you figure things out. Because if you don’t find out how to tell if she has a boyfriend, you’ll end up wasting a lot of time with some women.
I’ll show you some of the biggest signs that she’s single. We’ll take a look at three effective ways to help you tell if the girl you’re into has a boyfriend. So, let’s get started.
How to know if she has a boyfriend or is single
There are three main ways to quickly figure out if she’s single or not. Let’s tackle them one by one, starting with the safest way.
Step 1: Watch her behavior
First of all, pay attention to how she behaves around you and looks at you.
Single girls are walking scanners, looking at certain guys as if they’re potential partners. They look closely at the ones they’re interested in, hoping to get their attention.
Have you ever noticed how girls fix their hair, bite their lips or try to show off their best features when they’re standing near guys they like? Signs like these say a lot about whether a girl has a boyfriend or if she’s single and actively looking to date someone. So make sure you pay attention to them.
In fact, some women can even tell if a man is rich or married just by looking at him. It’s all about body language, posture and the way someone carries themselves.
Now, what’s the best spot where single women can find a candidate for a one night stand? That’s right, a nightclub. If you meet a girl there, you can pretty much be certain that she’s not dating anybody right now. Because if she was, she’d be with him somewhere and not partying with other guys. Oh, and don’t mind her friends: If she brings company with her, this doesn’t mean she’s not looking for a good time. Single girls party hard, attracting as much attention as possible.
Also, a girl who doesn’t have a boyfriend always tries to look sexy. You’ve seen such singles a thousand times: high heels, a mini-skirt, a plunging neckline blouse, a short top, flashy makeup, and so on. Single women pick their clothes and accessories to accentuate their features and to look as sexy and as enticing as possible. And I’m sure you already know that such outfits attract attention no worse than a new blender in a store on Black Friday.
Now, I’m not trying to offend all the girls who have boyfriends. I’m just trying to explain how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend. But single ladies are a bit better at taking good care of themselves. Because they always have to be in tip-top form to attract the best man. And those who embrace the happiness of a romantic relationship, mostly dress to impress only that one person. They don’t try to seduce guys around them so they don’t try to dress as provocatively and sexy as possible every time they go out.
Singles actually care significantly more about what’s in their wardrobe and it doesn’t matter how much it costs to look gorgeous. However, this rule doesn’t apply to all girls: some women just don’t want to stand out from the crowd. And some women don’t give a damn about trying to impress anyone with their features or the way they dress.
Suffice it to say, when learning how to tell if a girl is single, pay attention to the behavior of women around you and notice if they dress to impress. Ask yourself the question “Does she want to meet a great guy behaving and dressing like this, or does she not care?” and observe her. Then, if you’re sharp enough, you’ll quickly get your answer without having to do much work.
Observing women for signs that they’re available takes a little bit of practice. But with time you’ll be a master of knowing how to tell if she is single or currently has a boyfriend.
Plus, being aware of all the main signs that a girl likes you will do wonders for your ability to tell if they have boyfriends or not as well. Because when you notice women not showing any signs of interest towards guys, it mostly means they’re already taken.
Another great way how to tell if she has a boyfriend or not is to go through some of her social media accounts.
In this age of technological progress, a person who’s not registered on at least one social network is a rarity. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Kik, and dozens of other websites lure thousands of users into their web every single day. It’s unbelievable how much information about a person you can find by simply checking their LinkedIn profile. No wonder the next way to find out if the girl’s dating someone or if she’s single is cyber spying.
To find out if she has a boyfriend, just visit her account and take a look at her photos and posts. And don’t forget to check out the “Family and relationships” tab. Because if your potential companion’s not a lazybones, then she probably filled it.
Also, there are some girls who just can’t shut up about their feelings. It’s neither good or bad, it’s just how they are. These women will usually post a lot of lovey-dovey stuff like “Can I possibly love him stronger?” or “I can’t imagine my life without his hands, eyes, and lips.” (Geez, are you sure you want to deal with this?)
As for singles, they’ll either criticize the concept of a relationship itself or, again, post some lovey-dovey stuff but from a different perspective. For example, “I wish I could fall in love again…” Such phrases are only a small part of what you can come across on a single (and naïve) chick’s Facebook page. Take them into account — you don’t need to reinvent the wheel when everything is simple and transparent like that. And if you still doubt whether the girl’s single or not, send her a friendship request. Her reaction will speak for her.
In case you don’t want to bother poking around people’s personal life, there are faster and easier ways to find single ladies online. Various dating sites, apps, and similar places will have many women who are proud to show their “Single” status so there’s no confusion. Then you won’t even have to try learning how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend.
In any case, going through a girl’s social media accounts is one of the easiest and fastest ways to see if she’s single or has a boyfriend.
Step 3: How to tell if she has a boyfriend? Ask her directly!
Why not? When chatting with the girl you like, I’m sure you’d be interested in finding out if she’s single as soon as you can. Because if you’re interested in her in a romantic way and don’t want to be just friends, you need to figure this out quickly. Or there’s a decent chance you’ll be wasting your time with her if she already has a boyfriend and doesn’t want to date anyone else. This is exactly why it’s important to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend.
As for the right approach, you should communicate sincerely; otherwise, the atmosphere between you may get a bit electric. And I’m not talking about the good kind of electric. I mean that if you’re being dishonest and insincere, she may end up hating your guts. And you definitely don’t want that.
However, you should also try to avoid putting her in an embarrassing situation with questions like “So, are you dating someone or what?” two minutes after you’ve met. That’s definitely not a good way of trying to figure out how to tell if a girl is taken or single. Since asking someone this question right away can quickly turn everything into a very awkward moment if they thought you just came up to them for a friendly chat.
So, before asking this specific question, don’t rush things. Talk to her, get to know her a bit, have fun with her, tease her lightheartedly, do some light banter and show your personality to her. Eventually, flirt with her a bit if she’s having fun with you as well and enjoys your conversation. And after a while, when you’ve seen that she enjoys your company and likes you, only then ask her. This doesn’t have to take long, it can be anywhere after 5-20 minutes. Depending on how receptive she is and how well you’ve hit it off. This way it’ll be much less awkward and more sincere. Plus, she’ll be much more likely to accept to go on a date with you if you do it like this.
Here’s how to ask if she has a boyfriend:
After ‘the foundation’ is laid, say something like “I’m having such a great time with you and I’ve been meaning to ask you something. Are you single?”
Or if you don’t want to be that direct, a simple “I’m really enjoying talking to you. Want to go grab a coffee with me later?” Because she won’t accept to go on a date with you if she’s already taken and has a boyfriend anyway.
If she answers negatively and has a boyfriend, then there’s nothing much you can do about it. Just say something like “Oh, that’s cool. It was really nice talking to you.” and excuse yourself. Then, move on to other girls. Eventually, you’ll find a girl you like who’s single and available to go on dates with you. Learn how to approach and talk to girls to increase your success significantly.
If she answers positively, then don’t hesitate and ask her out! Read a few tips here on how to ask a girl out and get a yes.And thank your lucky stars she’s been upfront with you since you took the most direct path of how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend or not
A couple of practical recommendations when figuring out if she’s single
Aside from discussing how to know if she’s dating other guys, here are a couple of things you should consider:
— Some guys try to act like they don’t care when they find out that the girl is dating someone when in fact they instantly turn hostile, vile, weird and pissed off. This is a sign of extremely low self-esteem. Such an approach will scare any potential companion off, so don’t use it. Keep chatting as if nothing happened, don’t panic, don’t scream, accept her choice.
— If you’re sure that she has a boyfriend, but you see that she’s still interested in you, you have a couple of choices. You can say “Sorry, I don’t date unavailable women” because that’s the right thing to do. Or you can try to win her over. It all depends on your priorities, her situation, how her boyfriend’s treating her, their relationship with each other, etc. If you decide to try and win her over, then be a gentleman about it, but with a twist. Talk about something edgy (sex, family, etc.). Get into her head, but not too deeply. Create lots of emotions, stir her feelings and you’ll have a good chance. Basically, if she sees you’re a bad boy who can get her to experience tons of strong emotions with you, you can win her over easily.
— Don’t ask her if she has someone if your conversation isn’t private. First, it’s unacceptable. Second, you don’t need to let out details of your personal life to everyone around you.
— What if she has a boyfriend?
Don’t focus on this question. There are guys who are scared of approaching girls just because they think they’re not single. Not cool! Even if you think that your the girl you’re interested in has a boyfriend but you’re still into her, then go on, approach her anyway. You have nothing to lose.
And if she tells you she has a boyfriend, so what? The world won’t fall apart. Besides, she may not say that. Or maybe she doesn’t have a boyfriend. Or maybe this girl will give you the best night of your life. Maybe you’ll build a life-long relationship with her. And if you miss your chance, then none of this will happen. Think about it.
At worst, she’ll confirm your suspicions and you’ll have spent 5-15 minutes talking to her. But you’ll improve your social skills as a result and learn how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend much better. So approaching girls who you think may not be single is a very wise choice because you never know their situation fully and you don’t know how things will turn out. Having this mindset is crucial when learning how to tell if a girl is single
Oh, and you don’t want to become her number two anyway. If she likes you and wants to date you, then you should insist on her breaking up with her (ex-) boyfriend. After all, if she’s cheating on him with you, then she’s actually cheating on you, too. And where’s the guarantee that she won’t do the same to you? You don’t want to be in this poor guy’s place, right?
— How to steal the girl from her boyfriend
To be honest, it’s better to find a single girl, but you never know when you need extra advice. That’s why learning how to know if she has a boyfriend is important in the first place.
However, there are certain cases when you should still pursue a woman even if she has a boyfriend. In cases where her boyfriend is abusive or when the relationship is at the brink of ending.
Sometimes it’s easy to spot how fragile and unstable the relationship between two people is. If you know what’s going on between the girl you like and her boyfriend, then you get a huge advantage. All you need to do is show her that you don’t share his shortcomings and that she’s way better off being with you. If her partner lacks what’s needed to keep this girl by his side and their relationship is in shambles because of this, you can get her away from him. It’s not so difficult, especially if the girl is aware of her relationship being a mess.
But don’t be too persistent. No one likes obsessive people. And don’t do this if you’re just interested in a one night stand or something similar. Because that’d just make you a huge dick.
Bottom line on how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend or not
Don’t lose self-confidence. Even if you think she may not be single, go and find out. There are many signs that she is single and you may have missed some.
You wouldn’t believe how many guys lose out on great relationship opportunities because they’re not confident enough to approach a girl. They psyche themselves out and then talk themselves out of approaching her at all. Don’t be like that because you’ll always miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.
And what else? Well, figuring out how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend is, in fact, the first and probably the easiest step of all. Because when you finally learn that a girl is single and ask her out, you need to make sure you know what to do on your date for it to end well. Because there’s nothing worse than going on a date and ruining your chances with the girl, and ending up going home alone. Never to see her again.
Today I’ll talk about some of the most common mistakes you should avoid on a First Date. These mistakes are easily avoided if you use a little common sense and have decent empathy. But you’d be surprised by how many guys don’t realize they’re doing one or several of them.
As simple as they seem, these mistakes can ruin a date quicker than you can ask her “What’s wrong?” Go over them and see if you’ve ever made any of them.
Avoiding The Main Mistakes on a First Date
When you go on a first date with a new girl, you always pursue a certain goal.
You may be interested in a one-night stand or a long-term relationship, but you’ll hardly get what you want if you fail to make a good impression. A successful first date is the key to the next stage of your relationship with a particular woman, be it just getting horizontal or establishing a deep and personal connection.
However, since so much importance is attached to this event, men often start behaving in an awkward way and screw things up. Can any first date be successful? Of course, it can. In fact, it’s not that difficult to have an amazing first date if you know what to do.
But we’re here to talk about the mistakes that many men unknowingly make when they take a girl on a first date. According to https://bridesbay.com/ — these are the most common ones that happen:
1) Being late
In many cultures, it’s considered customary for women to show up a little bit later. Also, many women will deliberately keep a man waiting, as it’s what their grandmothers and mothers did, and they continue this tradition.
If a woman is 15 minutes late but shows up in a nice dress, high heels, with beautiful makeup; you’ll often find it in your heart to forgive her the moment you see her. However, if you make the woman wait for you for 20 minutes, it characterizes you as a negligent and unreliable man. That’s a double standard we just have to accept.
In any event, it’s always recommended to come in advance to explore the venue and get comfortable anyway. So get there 5 or 10 minutes early, it’ll help reduce your anxiety before the date. You may even end up talking to someone just to pass the time. If your date sees this, she’ll think you’re a very sociable and fun guy, so that’s a huge plus.
2) Not having a plan
The worst thing women can hear on a first date is, “What are we going to do?” Seriously? If you think that this way you’re giving them freedom of choice, it’s definitely not the case.
Planning out a date has always been a man’s concern. Besides, you NEED to plan for some logistics if you want to take things to the next level if you both hit it off.
So, you’d better prepare a rough scenario for your first date and put it into action. Decide where you’ll go, what you’ll do, what the entertainment’s going to be, etc. Always have a plan B in case your first one doesn’t work out or something unexpected happens.
Women appreciate it when men take charge. And having no plan is the same as planning to fail. She wants to experience you and your world, she doesn’t want to decide for the both of you where you’ll be going. Leading and leadership is a masculine trait, so own up to it.
3) Ignoring her comfort
Take a moment to look at your date and notice the details. If she’s wearing high heels, your idea to take a stroll in a park and then walk down the cobbled streets in the old town will most likely ruin your date.
If you don’t want to see how your date cries because of her sore feet, be more considerate when planning your entertainment. Opting for a simple café will be a much better choice in this case.
High-heels are just one example but there are many more. Just remember that women want to feel comfortable in your company. You can do something more active on your second or third date if you want. Because then you can plan for it and tell her that she should wear something more sporty and comfortable.
4) Ordering “untidy” food
All those dishes that you can’t eat without soiling your hands should be avoided on a first date. Sauces, in particular, can be very treacherous — you’ll either stain your shirt or get some of it on your nose.
Spicy foods should be avoided too if you plan to end up kissing. It’s also useful to know whether your companion is a vegetarian or vegan. Because if you take a vegan to a steakhouse, you’re going to have a very awkward time.
That said, I don’t recommend you take women out to restaurants on the first date at all. I’d save those for subsequent dates because you don’t want to seem as being too try-hard anyway. That’ll also help if you’re broke.
5) Checking your phone too often
This is very rude behavior.
If you glance at it once or twice during your date, it’s no problem at all because everyone has a life. But if you’re stuck in your phone for the majority of the date, then you’re going to have a bad time. It shows total disrespect, and women are very sensitive to it.
Fight the urge to check your phone every two seconds. If it helps, turn off notifications or turn on Priority-Only mode. Because if you reply to every message you receive, your companion will think that she’s the odd one here. If you ignore her too much she’ll think that you don’t like her at all or that you’re a slave to your phone. Both of these will have a negative impact on your chances of getting a second date.
One of the best compliments for a girl is your mute phone stashed in your pocket. It shows that she is the only object of your interest at the moment.
6) Checking out other girls
If you’re on a date with a particular girl, then other women should not exist for you. Don’t openly flirt with waitresses, don’t size up or follow other girls with your eyes. None of that stuff.
Even if you normally do it uncontrollably, try as hard as you can to focus on your companion only. Otherwise, a second date may not follow.
That said, you’re free to talk to other women and joke around and have fun in general. In fact, that’s even highly encouraged because you’ll seem like a guy who’s very comfortable around women and who other women like. Simply avoid flirting openly in front of her in a blatant way because that shows huge disrespect towards your date.
But if you can’t manage to do that and still flirt with other women, then be prepared to deal with a lot of shit-tests. If you don’t know how to deal with them, your date will quickly end.
7) Completely dominating a conversation
Your conversation should be in the format of a dialog, not a monolog.
Of course, you want to present yourself in the best way and advertise all your merits, but keep it moderate. It should be like a ping-pong game — you pass on some interesting stuff about your personality and experiences and exchange questions. Then she does the same.
The best strategy is to tell her some facts concerning you and then ask her about the same thing or something related to it. When she replies, find something interesting she mentions and then ask her about that.
Also, try not to ask too many questions at once in a rapid-fire way in order not to turn your date into an interview or interrogation. You should feel comfortable talking to each other, it shouldn’t be forced. There are many great first date questions you can ask her to drive the conversation forward.
8) Mentioning your exes in a bad way
Well, you should know that this topic is a little bit of a taboo when on a first date. But this matter may pop up unexpectedly, particularly if she asks you about them.
It’s not that it’s bad to talk about your exes. It’s just that if you begin to whine about them or badmouth them, she’ll think that it’s probably your fault that you’ve ended things with your previous girlfriend. Just mention them briefly and in a good way by remembering something you really loved about them, and change the subject.
But if she doesn’t even mention anything about exes, you shouldn’t bring this subject up. Because she may start remembering her exes and get very emotional in a bad way. Just mentally cross this topic off the list of possible subjects for discussion.
On a date, only two people matter — you and your companion. Again, if she tries to elicit some info about your past relationships, tell a few words about your experiences without giving any assessment or showing emotions and smoothly change the subject.
9) Criticizing her tastes
Let’s say she likes pop music while you’re an old fan of rock. Don’t comment on her tastes in music in any negative way. Your task is to have a good time, not to repel her away.
If you don’t like her preference in music, you can simply say that you’re not really a fan of it and leave it at that. Don’t go on a rant explaining how her style of music is bad and giving her 10 reasons why. Then comparing it to YOUR type of music and explaining why it’s superior. That just shows you’re an egomaniac who has no empathy and disregards others around him.
All people are different and you have no right to criticize other people’s tastes or choices. You’re free to simply say that you like or dislike something though. In fact, be honest about that and don’t feign interest in the things she likes jus to try to impress her. Because that would be very inauthentic of you, which is a massively unattractive quality.
10) Being mean
Being mean to her or other people is one of the worst things you can do on a date. We all know that women like bad boys, but having bad manners is not the same thing!
If you’re mean to the waiter or waitress while you’re ordering food, she’ll quickly judge you for it in a negative way. And she’ll be right to do so and walk out on your sorry ass because there’s no reason for you to be mean to anyone if you’re a decent person. Bad manners are incredibly unattractive. Often, a great way to see a person’s character is to notice how they treat the staff.
Also, if you make the mistake of taking a woman to a restaurant on your first date, don’t be stingy. Men’s stinginess turns women off immediately. There is an old unwritten law saying that men should pick up the tab on a first date. You should stick to this rule if you don’t want to make a bad impression on your companion because you’re the one who suggested going to a restaurant. Calmly turn down her offer to split the bill and act gentlemanly. She’ll appreciate it.
For bonus points, say that coffee or ice-cream’s on her the next time you go out. That’ll help you not seem like you’re too desperate to please her by paying for everything. You can even tease her a little bit about it as well.
11) Drinking too much
A glass of wine, a drink or champagne is always appropriate on a date. Being a kind of “first-date accessory,” it helps relieve tension a bit.
That said, many girls share their stories about drunk guys who overdid it with alcohol on first dates. In most cases, those first dates never had sequels.
So, having a drink or two is entirely acceptable, but don’t try to impress her by how much you can drink before passing out. She’s there to see your personality, not your alcohol-fueled one.
Judging from her reactions during the date itself, you can guess what kind of ending will be appropriate. A kiss and a gentle hug will show you that she’s not too into you because you’ve probably been a meek and timid guy who was afraid to touch her and show your sexuality.
But if she’s all over you, then you know what you have to do because she’s ready for something more. Never ask for permission to kiss her. Attempt the kiss, watch her reaction and play it by ear. Many guys make the mistake of not escalating at the end of the date when the girl is obviously into them. This often makes the girl think you’re clueless and kills attraction. That’s why you need to be sure to notice the signs that she likes you and then take advantage of them.
In any case, thank her for a great evening if you’ve enjoyed yourself.
Now you know what the most common mistakes on a first date are and how you can avoid them. They’re nothing mindblowing but too many guys don’t realize these simple things and ruin the date before it gets anywhere.
But if you don’t know what to do on a date with a girl for it to succeed, then that’s a huge problem. Many guys often feel anxious do awkward things on their dates because they don’t know what to say to the girl, how to connect, build rapport, trust, comfort and then express their sexuality and create sexual tension. Those things are massively important if you want to have a successful date so that you get laid or she agrees to go on a second one with you.
Today I’ll bring some attention to Grand Romantic Gestures and explain why you should avoid using them at all costs when first meeting and dating a woman.
Like anything, there’s a time and a place for such grandiose displays of affection. And that time is definitely NOT when you’re trying to pick up women initially.
Please, for the love of all that’s good, only use them once you’re already deep in a relationship. Because the purpose of Grand Romantic Gestures is to reinforce your partner’s attraction to you once you’re already heavily involved.
Only use Grand Romantic Gestures if you’re married, about to get married or have been together for many long years.
Grandiose displays of affection will scare her off
You’ve probably seen some of these displays in movies, read about them in books or heard of them in a song. That’s why you might think it would be a great idea to woo a girl you’ve just met if you send 1000 huge roses to her home. Or serenade her. Or even buy plane tickets to some tropical island and surprise her with them.
Apart from it just being so damn creepy and stalkerish to find out where she lives and then send so many flowers to a girl you barely know. It also shows that you’re putting her on a pedestal without even taking the necessary time to get to know who she is as a person.
In fact, that’s the whole crux of the issue — doing this without being involved first and without getting to know her fully.
Basically, you’re spending an insane amount of time and effort on someone who you barely know. Why would you even do that? Don’t you have better things to do with your time and money? Or are you that desperate to stand show just about any girl that you’d do absolutely anything for them just to impress them and “win their love” that you’ve lost all sense of self-respect?
Only desperate, needy, naive and clueless guys think that something like this would work well on a girl they just started dating.
I’m not talking specifically about you, by the way. But about all the idiots who do this and then cry when the girl suddenly ghosts and blocks them and promptly ignores any further contact. Then these guys will say that they were just being nice guys and next complain that women only go for assholes. Well, here’s a newsflash: A grand romantic gesture is anything but nice — it’s fucking creepy and reeks of insecurity if you do it when you’ve just started dating.
Here’s how grand romantic gestures look from a girls perspective
Imagine if you’re a girl and you just met a guy. You had a pleasant conversation, maybe a few laughs here and there and you thought he’s a solid dude. Then you’ve exchanged numbers and planned on meeting up later. Or, you may have even been on a few dates with him already and he’s shown he’s a pretty great guy.
But then, suddenly and completely out of the blue, he does something incredibly grandiose to show his “love and affection for you.” Putting his heart on his sleeve, so to speak. Maybe he sends you a truckload of flowers, serenades you professing his undying love, tells you he loves you more than life itself and gives you a huge piece of jewelry or writes your name plus his in ten-foot-high burning letters on the side of a high-rise building. Or something stupid to that effect.
What would your first thoughts be? That’s right — that he’s completely bonkers and lost his mind!
Why would anyone do such a thing for someone who they barely know?
Remember this forever: Women are people and not objects.
The absolute vast majority of women don’t like to be put on a pedestal and worshipped like a goddess. And believe you me, putting women on pedestals for their beauty while completely disregarding everything else about them like their personality is called objectifying women. If you put women on a pedestal, you show them that you think you’re some kind of peasant unworthy of their time. What self-respecting, mature and secure woman would want to have a relationship with such a guy? NONE!
Grand romantic gestures only work in movies, books, music, poems and similar stuff like that. In other words, in works of FICTION.
This bullshit is perpetuated in mainstream media and it’s ruining men’s perception of how they should be with women. As a result, you get droves of little boys who are clueless around women. Who think that they have to be needy, supplicative and try to impress women all the time for women to like them.
Well, it’s great for me because I get lots of clients from guys like that who are completely clueless with women. But to be honest, it breaks my heart. Because more and more men are becoming pussies and are losing their masculinity.
Stop trying so hard to impress women
Seriously, stop trying so hard because it’s embarrassing.
Ok, so I’ve slept with hundreds of women. Let me tell you something about how my dates go:
I’ve never done a single grandiose romantic gesture in my life. I’ve never tried to do anything to impress a woman on a date. In fact, I’ve never paid more than like $10 for a single date because I never had much money. It’s only a couple of coffees with some ice-cream at best. I don’t dress to impress women either and usually just come in jeans and a random t-shirt that I like, wearing worn comfy shoes that haven’t seen any polish or cleaning in years. I don’t even offer to give women a ride home after the date if it would inconvenience me. And guess what? Women still enjoy my company, sleep with me and then want to meet with me again and again.
Why? I haven’t done anything to impress them at all. I’m just being me; completely chill, relaxed and unfiltered. I simply rely on my personality, charm, wit, sense of humor and similar things to have a great evening with women. I show them a good time not because I want to impress them but because I LIKE having a good time on a date with women. Naturally, without any needy, supplicative, desperate or wussy behavior. Zero fucks given about trying to impress someone.
Because I’m not that impressive as a person, to be honest. I’m completely and painfully average. I’m not handsome, don’t have a lot of cash and am not that courageous or manly. But what I am is completely genuine and authentic with women and entirely non-judgmental. I don’t filter myself and say the things that are on my mind. That goes a long fucking way because women trust me, are free to relax and have fun with me and see that I’m someone who isn’t easily affected by any of their bullshit.
And believe me, I take NO bullshit from women if they’re being rude, disrespectful, crazy or manipulative. Because I don’t give a shit if I get laid on that date or not since I can call up any number of my fuckbuddies and have a threesome set up for tomorrow, or even the same evening. Although I had to work hard to cultivate my many friends-with-benefits relationships, but that’s another story.
Pretty counter-intuitive, right? But damn, it’s effective as fuck because I get to fuck a lot of women. Women find you attractive because of WHO you are and not WHAT you do. That’s why trying to impress is completely and utterly counterproductive. Unless they’re shallow gold-diggers. A dish boy at a restaurant can get laid significantly more than a millionaire Wall Street exec. Easily. If he has his shit together. And by that, I mean Inner Game.
My singular goal on any date is to GO AND HAVE FUN. Absolutely nothing else. If I have an awesome evening with a funny, interesting, witty, intelligent and sexy woman and I’m genuinely enjoying it but I don’t get to sleep with her — GUESS WHAT? — I still consider it a successful evening BECAUSE I HAD FUN. Shocker, I know!
Yet most guys consider any evening or date where they don’t get to have sex with some girl a complete failure. Their only criteria for success is sex and nothing else, especially when they’re out in clubs and bars. How fucking sad is that? Running around like thirsty animals desperate to put their dick inside anything that’ll let them. It’s not a very healthy way to lead your life if you’re so obsessed with sex so much.
Paradoxically, if you completely don’t care about getting laid, you’ll get laid a lot.
Having no ulterior motives when it comes to women is completely and utterly liberating. Go in there to FIND OUT WHO SHE IS, with the mindset of “Fuck it, whatever happens, happens.” and for fuck’s sake – HAVE SOME FUN FOR YOUR OWN SAKE. Not for anyone else’s!
Finally — Sure, some women won’t like me. But who gives a shit. Because no matter who you are, no matter what you do and no matter what you have going on in your life — some people just aren’t going to like you. It’s a simple fact of life that any man needs to accept.