Hi friend, today I want to share a quick story with you... so sit back and read until the end because I have a feeling that you will be able to relate...
That is exactly what I wanted to do after dropping my son off at daycare one day a few months ago.
I finally got him there by about 11am, I was an exhausted 20-something-week pregnant lady, I had a messy house waiting for me when I got back home, no clue what I was going to make for dinner, and my to-do list was a mile long. I wasn't lit up about the content I had been working on creating for my business, I felt like I had zero traction or momentum building with my followers, I had NO clue where my next sale was going to come from, and all I wanted to do was curl up on the couch and binge watch Netflix all day long until my son got home.
Have you ever felt like that?
Like just about everything that you "should" be doing that day makes you want to scream, cry, or curl up and hide under the covers? (or maybe a little of all 3 - this is a no judgment zone).
You're not alone.
The NUMBER ONE struggle I see day after day is the constant fight to "balance" it all... and it's leaving ladies completely and utterly overwhelmed, burnt out, and feeling like a bit of a crazy-hot-mess.
if I can just get my to-do list done then things will feel better...
if I can just complete that next big task...
if I can just launch this next program...
If I can just declutter my house...
if I can just get to the end of this week...
if I can just spend more time with my family...
if I can just get dinner on the table each night...
if I can just have a peaceful space in my home to work...
if I can just get caught up on my laundry piles...
if my kids just wouldn't interrupt me as much...
GIRL... Does that list make your head spin??? I know it does mine. And I'm pretty darn confident that most of you can relate.
We think that if we could just achieve more, do more, create more... frantically searching for this "perfect" balance, thinking that THEN we will feel peaceful, free, and good about life... and feeling like anything short of that is failure...
Well friend, I'm here today to tell you that I'm fighting for another way. A better way. And I want you on this journey with me.
I've created a space just for those of us struggling with this exact thing. A "movement" if you will... all about finding balance amidst the chaos and freedom from the overwhelm. It is possible... I've experienced a taste of it and I want to share it with you this month in my 21-day movement to becoming DEEPLY ROOTED WOMEN.
Because stressed, overwhelmed, and running on empty is NOT your place to live.
If you're interested in finding out more about this 21-day movement to go from stressed out, overwhelmed, and running on empty... to being DEEPLY ROOTED in the things that matter most while also building successful and thriving businesses... you can do that here.
I'm cheering you on and I hope you will join me on this journey so we can fight together - and for each other - to live filled up, lit up, and truly joy-filled lives for the kingdom.
I’ve been there. I KNEW I was made for more. I knew God had BIG plans in store when He made me, but I felt stuck. Stuck not knowing what those plans were or how to go about living a big, brave life on fire for Him TODAY. Because TODAY ((rewind a couple years)) looked mundane. It looked like working a corporate job I was less than lit up about, missing my baby while I was there, and wondering how in the world I could ever achieve the massive impact I had dreamed of and felt called to.
I dreamt of...
Staying home with my son.
Giving generously to my favorite charities/ministries.
Building an orphanage in another country. Going and doing. (All the things)
Fun family vacations without having them follow me home on a credit card.
Changing lives, sharing my faith, and giving hope to other women.
But here I was... living what felt a lot like “mundane” over and over.
I told myself those things were selfish. I should be grateful for what I have. I have a comfortable house, an amazing family, a beautiful son, and *enough* of all the other things.
But at the end of the day, my dream of more was still there.
How could I SERIOUSLY impact other women and do the kingdom work I was being called to if I was living this life?
So I prayed. I prayed long. I prayed hard. I connected with other women in prayer.
And you know what happened? I eventually felt God calling me to start a business. It was such a scary thought. I had always dreamt of starting a business... but making that dream a reality felt WAY more overwhelming than the perfect idea I had in my head.
But I eventually decided that the “what if” would haunt me forever if I didn’t give it a try. So I did it.
I worked freelance at first while working my corporate job. Then I launched a massive business and brand that provided me a really good part-time income. And then, I eventually quit my job to pursue my business full-time and was able to bring in full-time income working part time hours.
Fast forward a couple years... I now have launched a second business partnered with a network marketing company (more about this later!), and together, both of my businesses have given me more freedom than I ever could have imagined.
More time with my family. More income. More ability to do those big things I have always dreamed of.
But here's the thing... with that freedom has been struggles. Tears. Late nights. Loneliness.
That is why it is so important that we link arms, walk side-by-side, and discover what it means to live out your faith, love your family, and grow your income... in a way that works FOR you... together.
Anything is possible for you and I’ll be right here cheering you on. Will you join me?
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! - Psalm 139:13-17
The more I work my businesses the more I realize the amazing opportunity I have to help ladies step out in courage, spend more time with their families, and REALLY live out their passion projects...
Digging clean water wells in other countries... Building orphanages... Starting a ministry or organization... Giving REALLY generously to an already existing one... Writing a book about something God has put on their heart... Starting a business... Adopting a little baby... Being a stay at home mom with their littles...
But the thing is... money.
Debt stands in the way. Bills stand in the way. Car payments stand in the way. Lack of time stands in your way. And as great as that dream is, you just tell yourself it isn't possible for you, right?
So you push it down. You think...
"Maybe someday I’ll have the time/money..."
"Maybe it's just meant for someone else more qualified/capable/outgoing/financially able..."
I know exactly how you feel because I thought the same things...
I wanted to start a business and stay home more with my (at the time) new baby, but didn't know how it would be possible. I wanted to help ladies get their passion and calling into the world in BIG ways but didn't think I could really have any kind of real influence. I wanted to give generously to charities, but how was that possible if we were able to just barely pay our own bills?
So I lowered my expectations. Told myself I was content and comfortable where I was. And just lived the same day, week, month over and over and over.
But the truth is I still wanted those things... those dreams were still being put in my heart! I felt ungrateful for wanting more when I had been given so much. It felt selfish.
It took someone (actually many someone's) speaking truth into me to finally realize that what God calls us to - He also qualifies us for.
So that passion project you have on your heart... Your hearts cry...
Yeah, you're capable of doing it. It is possible for YOU.
The pieces may not all fit together right now, but He always makes a way. Usually that first step is scary. Sometimes it doesn't make "realistic" sense. But fear of that first step is what keeps so many "stuck" in the mundane.
And you know what... Those who are doing it... living out their bravest lives, taking risks, pursuing their dreams... every single one of them felt the same fear as you do right now.
They felt the fear, but the thing is, they pushed through it anyways. They found their bravest place in Jesus' arms (shout out to my girls at @ImperfectlyBrave). And they took that first step.
Things may be shifting. My business may be changing. But the message is the same... I'm here to be that someone in your life who tells you... "You can too".
Just take that first step! The world NEEDS ladies who are following their hearts cry and living life full of intention.
Leave a comment and let me know what your hearts cry is below!
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Hey girl! I'm pretty sure that every single one of us has experienced a “stuck” moment in our business.
- Burnt out
- Lack of clarity
- Self sabotage
- Imposter syndrome
“Stuck” can disguise itself in so many ways, but mostly it leaves us feeling like we have NO CLUE what to do next.
So eventually we stop moving forward.
Have you been there? I know I have. I am naturally a VERY driven person. I strive for excellence in everything I do, and I push through resistance.
Although this is a really great strength of mine, if I'm not careful it can turn into a huge weakness as well! I can push through so much resistance but if I don't stop to access WHERE the resistance is coming from in the first place, I’m actually doing myself a really big disservice in the long run.
Let me give you an example…
I know I want to launch a new program but for some reason I'm just NOT reaching the goals I set for myself. I don't know why I'm not wanting to do the work but I just can't bring myself to it. I resist.
I eventually decide that my deadline is quickly approaching so I HAVE to kick things into high gear. I force myself to sit down and do the work but its flowing out of me like cold molasses… its like I keep hitting a brick wall with what I want everything to look like.
I eventually either give up all together and go back to the way things were, forgetting this new program all together… or I stop completely and begin to feel like a failure. I'm burnt out. I feel like I just CAN'T get ahead. Maybe I'm not really cut out for this after all.
Ok… sound familiar? I see this ALL the time, and yes, I've been there myself.
Feeling “STUCK” is a really hard place to be.
Well, today I'm sharing 3 tips to help you go from STUCK to THRIVING again…
1. Get honest about what is really holding you back
First things first, you have to get really honest with yourself about what actually got you stuck in the first place. Think back to when you really loved your life and business last. When did you REALLY feel joy about what you were doing?... About how you were showing up? When's the last time you were SO EXCITED about your task list?
(Make sure to be HONEST with yourself! There was a time in my business when I had to come to grips with the reality that my answer to this question was “NOTHING”. Nothing had really been bringing me joy. I was just going through the motions of all the things I thought I “should” have been doing.)
Now think about the things that have taken place between then and now. Have there been any big developments, launches, changes, etc., that have taken place in your business since you were truly loving it? If so, what are these things? Which of these things do you feel negative, uneasy, or overwhelmed just thinking about? It's likely that these things could be the beginning (or trigger) to becoming stuck in the first place.
If you find yourself thinking that you have never truly been overjoyed with the way you approach your business, then think through what things bring you joy in life in general. Do you consistently do these things?
2. Find your “heart” work
This one plays a bit off point number one... You have to figure out the things that truly bring you joy and make sure you are doing these things on a regular basis.
The truth is if you're not feeding your soul and you're only doing the hard work, you WILL eventually burn out. It's not a question about if…but when.
Your job is to determine what things you LOVE to do in business. And what things you LOVE to do in your personal life. Now the key is setting intentional time to actually work these things into your days!
When thinking “what should I do next?” (because there's ALWAYS more to do on an entrepreneur’s to-do list!), your question should be “what do I need to do for ME, so I can continue to pour into my family, friends, followers, and clients as my BEST self.”
And no, that's not selfish.
3. Support yourself in staying “unstuck”
The best thing I ever did for my business was stop and reach out for help. When you find yourself in a downward spiral of overwhelm and burnout, it's so important to seek the support you need.
What practical things do you need to grow your business? Does your brand need work? Do you need website support? Do you need help with planning and just thinking everything through to gain clarity in your next step? There are amazing ladies who offer professional support in any area you need help in your business.
Don't let fear hold you back from asking for the help you need.
And if you are ready for more support in your business, check out my 8-week group program, Next Level You.
Hey girl! The truth is that you REALLY KNOW the stuff that you know. You are UNSTOPPABLE in your line of work...
If only the world could SEE it, right!? If only they could SEE how amazing you are. If only they could FEEL the transformation and results you could bring them... even just a little, tiny bit... then they couldn't help but want to know more. They couldn't help but to want to work with you more.
If only you could get it in front of them...Hmm... If only you could find them first.
You really know your stuff... but the problem is that you don't know the stuff you don't know.
It's time to STOP letting those things you don't know hold you back.
It's time to get in front of the RIGHT people in BIG ways. It's time to actually LOOK the part. It's time your website does some of the work for you. It's time you were able to communicate on an emotional level DIRECTLY speaking to your dream clients instead of always stumbling over your words.
It's time you show up 100% confident in the AMAZING services you have to offer.
It's time you had systems and automaton in place to save a bit of your sanity in the process.
Well, good news!... I've got a free gift to help you out! Download my 7-secrets to own your power, captivate your audience, maximize your impact, and make more sales. Grab it here.
And if you're REALLY ready to STOP letting the things you don't know stand in your way...
If you're REALLY ready to STOP letting the tech-mumbo-jumbo-confusion hold you back...
If you're REALLY ready to STOP half-hiding because your business doesn't look the part and you wonder if they will even take you seriously...
Then check out my group program that is launching soon. I'm putting pretty much everything in my business COMPLETELY ON HOLD for these 8-weeks so I can pour SO MUCH AMAZING into the ladies that go through this program with me. It will be 100% legit LIFE AND BUSINESS transformation... and your spot is waiting.
Join the wait list now to be the first to hear about some pretty epic pre-sale bonuses!
Ladies, It’s time to discuss the topic of investments.
But it has to happen.
Maybe you’ve made investments in the past that have left you frustrated and hesitant about if you should invest again…
Or maybe you’re not good at investing in yourself (I mean, when’s the last time you went shopping and bought something for YOURSELF and not the husband or kids?) ...
I just had a conversation with a client of mine about owning your power... and it took an interesting turn.
It boiled down to this... If you're truly owning your power and value, do you still need to invest in yourself and your business??
My answer: YES!
If you desire to grow to a new level in business, then investing is the best and fastest way to get there!
But the key is this...it's all about your mindset as you approach your investments!!
Here's the thing... You SHOULD believe that anything is possible for you. After all, we serve the God of the impossible, right? You have everything you NEED to begin moving forward into your dream right now.
To take that first step.
You don’t need to gain more knowledge to START. You don't need to invest in anything else to BEGIN. You don't need to become someone better to LAUNCH.
It breaks my heart to hear someone say "I've always wanted to write a book but I'm just too old now, I've missed my window"... or "I've always dreamed of starting a business but It's just not for me because I just don't have what it takes."
YES. YOU DO!
You do have what it takes.
You didn't miss your window.
You still can do that thing you've always dreamed of.
When I was in college I watched an 80-something-year-old grandma graduate with her doctorate degree. Yep. She had always dreamed of it... so in her 80s she made it happen. That smile as she crossed that stage was priceless.
It's never too late.
So... how does OWNING your power affect how you approach investing???
1. Believing in yourself allows you to ditch the mindset of "INVESTMENT DESPERATION".
When you're so desperate for success that you're grasping for some magic program or course that will instantly make your business successful... you're investing for the wrong reasons.
You should always want to grow and develop to a new level... but you don't NEED this to succeed right where you are. You're already capable of helping the person just 1 step behind you.
If you approach an investment from a place of desperation, it will only leave you disappointed. Once you make the investment, YOU are still the one who needs to do the work. YOU are still the face of your business. YOU are the special sauce… not that coach, strategist, program, or course.
Remember to view your investment as a way to help YOU grow… not a magic potion to automatically give you success.
2. Believing in yourself allows you to forget past “failures” and move forward with CONFIDENCE in the future.
If you’ve ever made an investment that didn’t quite turn out the way you wanted and has left you scared to invest again… you will probably find it holding you back from progress and growth (even if you don’t realize it!).
It’s important to gain all the wisdom that we can from every situation in life, and this includes our past investments.
I’ll be the first to tell you that there have been a few investments that I’ve made that have left me wondering if I should have made that investment in the first place. Was it money well spent? Was it a waste of time? And then I begin to think of what I could have done with that money instead. Of where my life might have been…
Girl, STOP. That’s a downward spiral! You can’t change the past… but you CAN change what you do with the lessons that investment taught you (and I GUARANTEE you, there are lessons).
What nuggets of wisdom can you gain from your time working through that program or with that expert? Focus on those! Maybe it’s just acknowledging what NOT to do in the future. Whatever it is, focus on the lessons and stop seeing it as a “failure”!
And most importantly, don’t allow this to keep you from investing again in the future and doing something you KNOW God is calling you to.
If I had let my negative mindset of past investments keep me from investing in my current business coach, I would still be STUCK where I was… I would still be burnt out… I would still be overwhelmed. Thankfully I decided to move forward and invest again in what I KNEW was the right next step for me.
3. Believing in yourself (and most importantly, the power of God within you) allows you to boldly step into your investments with faith that He will provide.
When we know that the God of the impossible is within us, then we ultimately know that He is the source of our power. He gives us the courage we need to step forward into that next scary thing. He gives us the strength to keep going when things get tough. And we know that when we seek Him and His will for our life, then He will work out our future better than we could ever think or imagine.
We are able to take this knowledge of who He is and the power He gives, and know that through His Holy Spirit, we already have the wisdom we need to make wise investments!
“Haven’t I commanded you: be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
“We know that all things work together[a] for the good[b] of those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
So, next time you begin to feel a nudging to do something scary in your business, remember these steps…
- Collect all the information about the investment that you can.
- If you’re considering investing in a coach or strategist, follow them for a few weeks and make sure you resonate with them. Are their values in line with your values? This is very important!
- Pray about it.
- Seek wisdom from other believers about it (and if you’re married make sure you and your spouse are on the same page!)
- Move forward with CONFIDENCE in how you are being led.
- Once you’ve made your investment, pray that He will bless your decision and leave it in His hands.
I'd love to know your thoughts!
Have you ever made an investment that left you hesitant to invest again? How have you moved past this?
Have you had some AWESOME investments that have grown your business?
This morning I was reading through a passage in Hebrews and it caught my attention BIG time. By the time I had finished reading… it’s almost as if I could hear God say…
“Sandra, THAT’S what this is all about.”
Big dreams. Scary callings.
Stepping out in faith. Doing the hard things.
Feeling unsteady. Doubting your next move.
But doing it anyways.
I believe that the Bible is applicable to ALL life… not just the hard times. Not just in your personal life. Not just in the chaos. Not just in the calm. Not just at church on Sundays.
But today… right now.
Yes, even in your business.
Especially in your business.
Hebrews 11… (go ahead and read through it now if you want to follow along) is straight up chock-full of dreamers stepping out in faith and doing the hard and SCARY things. The impossible things. And if there is one thing that we learn through scripture, it is that God uses the most unlikely people to make HUGE, world changing impact. Normal ‘ol people.
Yep, I’d say that’s me.
I’m guessing that’s you too.
By faith Noah (a normal man) built an ARK to hold his family and 2 of all the animals of the world to save them from a flood that would completely cover the earth… People thought he was legit CRAZY to build a HUGE boat, the size of one and a half football fields, in a region that was completely land locked. It seemed absolutely impossible that there would ever be enough water to float the vessel (Hebrews 11:7). Everyone laughed, yet by faith Noah did it because that’s what God called him to do.
And God did what he said. The water came, the boat floated, the animals and Noah’s family lived.
By faith Moses (a normal man) lead the Israelites through the RED SEA as if they were walking on dry land… God used Moses to PART. A. SEA. because of Moses’ faith in the deliverance that God had promised. (Hebrews 11:29)
And God did what he said. Moses and his people were delivered out of slavery because of Moses’ obedience.
By faith Abraham (a normal man) left his home to travel to a new home but he did NOT KNOW THE DESTINATION (Hebrews 11:8). He only knew that God had called him, so in faith, he went… unsure of where he would end up but knowing that God would provide.
And God did what he said. God gave him a place to live, a son when his wife was past her child-bearing years, and even fulfilled His promises of descendants that were more innumerable than the specks of sand on the seashore.
That’s what this is all about.
Taking that next step that God has called you to. Whether it be wiping runny noses, changing diapers, hearing “mom” 1,000 times a day, and longing for a trip to Target (and of course that includes a Starbucks drink) all by yourself… or whether it be starting a business, going against the grain, doing something people might think is crazy, sharing it unashamedly because you have a message that the world needs, and doing it for God’s glory even when it’s possible that no one will understand.
Because that message is your calling.
Because your calling is your responsibility.
Sometimes there will be victories… and sometimes it will be hard. Sometimes it will be beyond hard and you won’t know how you’ll make it another day. BUT…here’s the next step for you and me, fellow busy, tired, overwhelmed, yet-still-daring-to-dream entrepreneur.
KEEP GOING. One step at a time. Keep running the race set before you. Keep on keeping on with endurance. Because this journey is a marathon, not a sprint.
And how do we do that? How do we keep on when we feel like giving up? How do we keep on going when we feel like we have no endurance left?
By fixing our eyes on Jesus while we run, because…
THAT IS WHAT THIS IS ALL ABOUT.
“Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us (all these amazing stories mentioned in chapter 11), let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
There’s no better message that I could think of giving you today.
A message of hope. A message of peace. A message of freedom.
There’s no greater plan for your business.
A plan laid out for you by the same God who split the Red Sea. The same God who relentlessly loves you. The same God who is ready to use us “normal people” to change the world.
I’ve always known I was made for “more”. The fact that I was made for a specific purpose was never a question in my mind. I just KNEW it.
Do you feel that way? Do you feel like you were made for more than a mundane life and it’s your responsibility to live this one, short life to the fullest?
After working 10 years in both the corporate and freelance graphic design worlds, I decided that it was finally time to step out and start my own impactfulbusiness. You see, I’ve always been one to forge my own path. Working to build others dreams just wasn’t for me long-term.
So, I did it.
Actually, I did it for 10 long years… and I learned A LOT over that time. I learned the best ways to do things and I learned how not to do things. I had successes, I had failures, and I have tweaked my design process dramatically since I began 10 years ago.
And now, I design VERY differently than most designers. My programs are 100% unique and I believe it is both what sets me apart AND what my clients love about working with me.
You see, with me you can forget all of the standard “working-with-a-designer-headaches”. No more missed deadlines. No more poor communication. No more outcomes that you HATE because you 1) don’t know how to communicate your vision to your designer and 2) your designer doesn’t get your vision and goes rogue.
You’re probably wondering how I do this, huh?
Here’s my big secret… you ready?
I DESIGN LIVE WITH MY CLIENTS! This means that I sit down side-by-side (er… um… computer screen to computer screen) with my clients and design with them while they watch what I do.
Ok, ok, I guess it’s not THAT big of a secret but it’s something you just don’t see done… and I totally get it! Most designers don’t want their clients “breathing down their neck” while on the design process. Most designers want to be able to take breaks whenever they want. Most designers want to be able to take their time on a design.
And I totally get those things, but here’s what I want more…
I want my clients to be able to give me instant feedback on their designs so 1) I don’t waste time on a design they hate, and 2) they don’t waste time looking at designs they hate.
I want my clients to know exactly what step of the process we are in and not have to wonder… “did she finish that logo yet??”. Instead, they know exactly what has been done and they are playing an active role in the process.
I want my clients to have the creative freedom to give their impute and ideas while their designs are being made.
I want my clients to learn from what I’m doing so they can continue to improve their brand on their own.
So you know what this means?
No more communication problems.
No more missed deadlines.
No more missing the mark on the final products.
This means a final product that my clients truly LOVE and are excited to share with the world.
My program is also unique because it is a 50/50 design process. That means that I provide the professional skills, talent, and know-how to produce a beautiful and profitable business brand and my clients plug in their parts.
For example, while building a website with a client, I help them set up the foundation of their SqureSpace website and give them the resources they need to create the pages and input their text. Then I step in and make it look beautiful during a screen-share session. They are then able to tweak and maintain their website and I am able to step in and provide support and help they need when they are stuck.
It’s a win-win!
Are you ready to boost your biz and brand to the next level, but you’re just not sure how!?
Good news! I am launching a limited-time, low-cost option (less than $500!!) to help you do just that. This new program gives you almost 3-hours of screen-share time with me! If you are feeling stuck in your business, this program is the PERFECT way for you to see some instant results in your business. I’ll walk through your struggles with you one-on-one and provide the support you need to get to that next level and start 2018 out STRONG!
And if you’re not ready to invest in your business or brand yet (which you TOTALLY should), then no worries! Continue to follow along and check out my new weekly posts where I help you boost your business and brand through bite-sized, action steps.