Please use this thread to discuss anything you want about using smart phones
If you want to find resources to help you track your time spent on your smartphone, to block certain websites or apps, or to read about the experiences of other who struggled with and overcame an internet addiction, /r/nosurf is an excellent resource.
Possible questions to discuss:
Which apps have you removed from your smartphone?
Which apps do you consider essential?
Have you found any specific app that has helped simplify your life?
It was a random thought that stumbled into my mind a few days ago. In the past, I used to find pleasure in filling up my room with random figures, merchs and other novelty items. After accumulating all of that and cluttering my study space, I realise that I was just impulse buying for that feeling of pleasure. Something that I had mistaken for happiness and also to alleviate boredom.
Nowadays, I put into more consideration what I bring into my life. I prefer functionality over anything. Though, if something does break and is unusable, I will replace it. I still buy notebooks and stationeries which I am fond about using. I am trying to pay off my student debt before the interest racks up when I do graduate the following year. Aside that, I do not spend as much as before which feels odd.
But, it's difficult to keep this mindset when your friends and family around you seem to spend money on items that they don't need. Rather, it's to show off to someone else that they are able to afford such item and so forth. It's especially difficult to tell them that you don't really want anything.
So, I ask this. What do you normally spend your time and money on? Do you get this strange feeling when you head to a shopping mall? The feeling that you have everything you need and you do not have a need to buy anything?
I’m an avid budgeter who’s been tracking my monthly subscriptions and their fees. I’ve always tried justifying the 10€ here and 10€ until now.
I canceled my Spotify subscription and I’ve replaced it with free podcasts. I’m currently enjoying the British History podcast (still on season 1) and Freakonomics. I’m learning something new every time and it’s made my long walk to work a lot more enjoyable
I also canceled my HBO subscription in favor of a free streaming site. It has shows and documentaries so I’m set for the near future (but I’ll definitively be watching GoT next summer!)
I also canceled a newspaper subscription because I found that it took away from the time I spend reading books. Every time I read one piece there were two others posted online. I’ll be reading the physical copy of the newspaper in my local library and see if I’ll manage without the subscription.
Another canceled subscription was actually an app I used before I post pictures on Instagram. At $5 a month it’s a lot annually for a white border around a picture. It will mess up my Instagram but I think I’ll survive.
Canceling my subscriptions will save 35€ a month. That’s almost 400€ a year!
My wife and I moved across the country as soon as we graduated college. We wanted to explore the west, live in the mountains, see national parks, and just start our life outside the bubble we grew up in and went to college in. Got pretty awesome jobs, but quickly got sick of chasing money and promotions and our wanderlust has really faded. Don’t get me wrong, It’s been a crazy awesome 3 years, but we decided we want to move back to our hometown and settle down a bit more, not forego traveling, but maybe not as often. It’s not a small city, but it’s definitely not surrounded by mountains. No more early morning 2 foot powder turns up at our resort. Tbh, our life and friends here are amazing, we know it’s just not where we want to raise kids away from family and we want a bit simpler life. I’ll really miss this town and the people, but I couldn’t be happier to be able to see my family more often and have our home back. I learned a lot about myself out in the mountains, thought I would never leave after we first got here, but something changed and what I value changed. I started valuing my relationships more than my hobbies and need for this “adventure”. Guess it’s just tough, cause we love both places, just different lifestyles.
Anyone else move away, chase the “adventure” so to speak, and move back to where your from? What was that like? Any advice?
Hello everyone. I'm looking forward to reading your comments.
Over the past couple of weeks I've realized how self-absorbed I really am. I used to think of selfishness as being vain or focused solely on material things, but I'm noticing now that it goes deeper than that-- namely, you can be self-absorbed simply by spending a lot of time thinking about yourself, your feelings (under the guise of self-reflection sometimes), and how you relate to the world and other people. While I don't think these are necessarily bad things in moderation, I'd say I'm definitely overdosing on the self-focused thinking. I am constantly analyzing how I feel, what I want, what other people are thinking of me, etc. Even though half of the time the thinking about myself is negative, it is still focused constantly on my self. This is a strange revelation for me as I've always been what others would consider to be helpful, kind, and empathetic. I never realized I could be those things while also being incredibly self-centered.
I'd like to, no-- love to, work on this. I think it is at the root of a lot of my unhappiness and spoiled behaviors. I want to learn humility, gratitude, and community-minded thinking patterns. However, I have no idea where to start. I've done a bit of meditation, and while it helps to clear my mind, I find myself falling directly into the same thinking patterns as soon as I do start thinking again. I honestly am not sure I know how to think in a way that isn't revolving constantly around my own feelings/fears.
I can't wait to hear from you guys. I'd be happy to read any books, listen to any podcasts, or practice any techniques you have in mind. I'm really serious about this and am ready to change my life and to become the best person I can be, not just for myself this time, but for my loved ones.
tl;dr I've realized I am self-absorbed and want to change.
Everything about simple living seems so interesting for me, having less but better stuff for your needs/hobbies, live close to work for no commute, less eating out and more eating at home, more time in the nature, more free time for your hobbies, etc.
But, I just can't imagine a life being introverted, I see almost everyone here wanting to be solitary, be in their own world, and it seems weird to me.