I work from home and just watching the afternoon games is so tempting. I quit because I didn’t want the mortgage company to say shit. However, it’s been a good 4 months and I really don’t know how to stop the itching.
Hi everyone, i want to keep my name anonymous but i am 21 years old and a student from the Netherlands.
I am following this subreddit for quit a while now. The past few months i have played some online roulette and got my balance from €13K up till €28K all from gambling (so +-€15K in winnings). It all went great until today when i was chasing a loss (my first deposit of today, €5K) thereafter i deposited €10K and lost that one to, so i was holding myself to not deposit my remaining funds of +- €13K, luckily i didn't.
So my losses are almost only the winnings of the past months and not my "own" money. After this big loss of today i felt some relieve because i was only winning the past months and i only wanted to win more what lead to constant thinking about online roulette/gambling. Now i don't think about it at all and i self-excluded myself from every casino.
A few weeks ago i read something like: (casino) winnings are future losses, and i always thought that it wasn't like this for me at all. Until today it became reality. So i can agree on this statement, that it is 100% true. Winnings do not have the same underlying value as money that has been worked for, in my opinion. I am curious about your experiences with this statement.
I hope you guys want to comment on my story and have any tips for the no gambling life, i promise myself from now on i will never play again in my life. Day 0 it is.
I'm coming here to share my story, in hopes that it will help me process things, and for support. I've been a longtime lurker and have been helped tremendously.
I grew up in a family that enjoyed gambling for entertainment, so I was exposed from a young age. I discovered online blackjack after riding the Bitcoin wave a few years ago. Proceeded to win big in the first week (kiss of death) and then lose literally all of the money I had and then some. Ended up 25k in credit card debt. My dad gave me a loan (regrettably, didn't come clean about gambling uofront) and I promptly went another 25k in credit card debt. Came clean and my dad once again was generous enough to give me a loan. Telling him was hardest day of my life, but worth it.
I stopped gambling , paid off the debt, and things were going great. Until three weeks ago I thought, I'll just make one deposit and see what happens. Of course, I got another huge win. Have proceeded to gamble the meager Savings I had and am back 25k in credit card debt. So damn frustrating and discouraging. Will cancel these cards once paid off.
I guess I probably needed this one last loss to keep me away for good, but damn it hurts. If you're reading this and think you can one day win it back. Save yourself the time, loss, and pain, and don't do it.
I have stopped gambling, which was mainly online roulette. I have told myself I will not get involved in any type of gambling anymore as we all know this can lead straight back whatever you had issues with (online, blackjack, casino sports bets etc)
I do however still have a monthly direct debit setup for £4 for the lottery, this comes straight out of my account and to be honest I never check my numbers or even think about checking them or the money I spend on it, so its never on my mind. The only way I would know if I had won something is if I recieved an email.
Now my question is, do you all still think this is an issue and I should cancel the direct debit seeing as it has no effect on me at all and I foget I even have it?
I just overcame a very intense addiction to video games and drinking. Now I've turned to scratch offs. It seems I constantly replace bad habits with bad habits. I don't know what to do, it's turning excessive. I'm already struggling to make a living, but I can't seem to stop spending every penny I have on these tickets.
Other people don't always understand my thought process (it's probably flawed anyway), so I'm coming for help here...
I've lost $5k this year with $2.5k just yesterday. I didn't even lose it gambling, but sort of "cleaning" and "processing" the money related to gambling. So tldr, the gambling keeps making me lose money and it's trouble that I shouldnt be involved with. If it were worth it, I'd be up, not down.
Anyways, I've come to terms that I shouldnt gamble. But what keeps nagging me is this $5k I'm missing. Because sure, I'll make it back through work (after a while, I'm young and don't make much). But then I feel like I SHOULD have the 5k I made from work AND the 5k I lost. Basically, no matter how much I make back or have in the bank, I feel like I'm "owed" or "down" 5k. I tried explaining that to a friend but it seemed like a weird concept to them. They said "just stop gambling, and do something guaranteed to make back your 5k."
I know that's logical, but in my head I'm still short 5k because I couldve had 10k now then!
I suppose what I'm asking is how do you lay to rest and let go of lost money? Because I might not gamble now for a few weeks, but I want to stop for good even if I get an urge in a few weeks. And to do that, I need to get a way to let go of lost money.
Sorry for rambling, losing money like this stresses me out. I know it's "my own fault" though.
Tldr: how do you come to terms with and stop the nagging feeling of lost money?
I know people may not like fluff pieces, or motivational stuff but hear me out here.
If you are reading this and you are looking for that final motivation or push to stop gambling do so because:
"When you stop gambling you will become rich."
Now in nowhere mean the following:
You will win the lottery (thats a form of gambling ofcourse)
You will inherit a shit load of money from doing nothing or a relative passing (god forbid)
Your business will take off, or your promotion comes unexpectadly.
What I am trying to say is even if its £5 or £500 in your account (depending on your local currency), its there, and its not vanished, and your wallet hasn't decreased in size in your pocket due to bookies or casinos anymore.
So think about it, you really are richer than you were when you were gambling.
I am almost 2 months sober, and trust me i've had a mentally stressful 2 months. Thats when i'd normally get sucked back in and fool myself "this is a way to make money."
I am financially richer from this and contrary to what I said above, opportunities will present themselves. You will generate more money, see more options, your life will be better.
Its like the universe rewarding you from stopping a bad habit, because it knows its no longer being wasted.
I've bought myself tonnes of new clothes, gifts, gone out to eat far more, treated myself and people I love way more.
You become less guilty, far less stressed, and more in control of your finances. Ofcourse your life too.