Discussion place focused on trans men, trans masc, and other people assigned female at birth who are trans*. It contains advice on questioning, coming out, passing, testosterone, surgery, legal proceedings and more; and contains various other resources and items of interest.
sorry for the vague title i didn't rlly know what to call it
anyway ive been thinking about the fact that a standard trans narrative is usually about like suicidal depression and crippling gender dysphoria, compared to gay people who can just say "yeah i was dating a girl which was ok i guess but then i kissed a guy and realised i'm gay" and everyone goes sure! sounds good! but when a trans persons says "i was a girl and it was fine but i'd rather be a guy yknow" so many people call them trenders or expect a better sob story. idk why but i feel like more trauma or distress is expected from a trans narrative than any other to be valid, which just sucks because even though many trans people DID go through shit, me included, it doesn't mean we should act like you have to suffer a lot to be trans.
this isn't invalidating the struggle of trans people or anything, and i know that as its usually a bigger deal to people than being gay, and since dysphoria is awful seeps into every aspect of your life, naturally many trans people will have some of the worst pasts, but to make being miserable and mega dysphoria 24/7 a requirement just feels wrong. esp since i don't really see this policing happen in any other communities.
My testosterone prescription isn't preventing anyone else from testosterone. I have wanted these changes for such a long time, and I should not feel guilty for having testosterone while other transmasculine guys can't access it.
My top surgery does not prevent anyone from getting too surgery. I am receiving relief, and I can be happy for myself while hurting for my friends who are struggling to have surgery.
My progress and my successes do not inhibit other trans people. Their hardships where I have had triumphs are not the fault of my luck or access. I am able to fight for the rights and needs of my siblings while recognizing my good fortune of having access to the healthcare I need.
Dysphoria warning*** also this is really recent, like today**
So, i was selected to go to an all girls camp through my school. I'm not out in my school at all so i'm kinda dying. I told my mom that I wanted to be a guy twice but she kinda pushed it under the rug. But today we had to shop for swim wear, she didn't want me to get male trunks because she didn't want me to be made fun of at the camp because i'm not telling every girl there i'm trans, but she did allow me to get a men's swim shirt so that's nice. She also gave me some pretty masculine swim shorts as well. But anyway, I have never wore a bra in my life, my mom has tried to force it on me but i just turned away. But today she gave me these champion compression bra things, while they had a little bit of binding to them, it wasn't enough but I thought this was the perfect time to tell her about binders. I told her the "there is something that compresses better!" and we hopped on amazon. I found a underworks binder and told her "this is a good one!" she bought it and its coming soon. She doesn't know its for trans folk but she knows its called a binder. I mean, at least I finally got a binder, and if she does find out its for trans guys she wont care. Lucky she is pretty chill and i'm so blessed to have a mom like her.
*please tell me, how was it when you first got your first binder as the one i'm getting soon will be my first*
It feels like it’s happening so fast and the reality of it hasn’t fully set in yet. I’m absolutely ecstatic though! I’m starting off with a 0.50 dose (I’m not sure how low that is?) and it looks like I’m getting them done weekly. Anyone know if a dosage increase could possibly change that to maybe every two or three weeks?
Also, I’m happy to report that my nurse was impressed with how I approached being taught how to self inject, yay! I definitely owe that one to Nathan Grey on YouTube for this extremely helpful video https://youtu.be/sIOMsdSFVHE