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So this yesterday we had to cut the grass, however it just go fertilized and we were unable to. Fast forward to this morning. My aunt comes home at 12 (works till 3) odd. She tells me to not cut the back grass, only cut the front. So I cut the front, wait till she gets home. Everything’s fine. She gets the dogs and takes them outside. On the phone for hours talking to her friend. It is now 5 and she’s been doing stuff in the backyard and comes in and starts berating me calling me and idiot and asking why I didn’t remove the gutters, pick up the acorns, pick up the poop, set the lawnmower on the right setting to cut the back ( different for front). She’s like yu must be too stupid to not know it blah blah joe many times to I have to tell yu yur useless all this stuff. I’m like okay I understand your frustrated but yu don’t have to call names 1. 2. You told me not to cut it. I left the lawn mower on the side of the house(in the backyard) and she’s also complaining about that. So I explain to her why would I do it if I’m not going to cut it Whne I cut it I will do the steps that precede it in order to cut the grass. She goes do you turn you oaper in before you write it? That’s your analogy. I’m like ... no that’s your analogy u just said that literally doesn’t make any sense. And she’s like yu k what you’re an asshole don’t know anything then if I wait for yoy to do it it’ll never get done. You’re useless and goes to cut the grass. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong? She’s always like this and I actually fantasize about strangling her until she stops breathing just bc of how incompetent she is. It makes sense to me to do everything at once. Rather than do part of it let it sit there and then come back and do it.. Idk. Doesn’t make sense to me. Either way is fine but she’s like Yur too stupid to not do it before I got home? Like tf.
I've recently moved back into my mother's house after a break up and I have my baby here part time. I hear my mom allllll the time talking crap about me from anything about my job to when my baby goes to sleep. But she'll never bring those concerns to me. Now, she's inviting her crap talking friend to my baby's first bday party without asking me. How and when should I talk to her?
My lady and my sister play roller derby. Different teams and different divisions. the day of my wedding I didn't invite my sister's boyfriend theyve only been together for a year or 2 .she's constantly breaking up with guys after a a year or so...and getting a new one shortly after... so me and my wife didn't think he should come since she's probably going to leave him soon. Well her invite was only for her.. she brought someone else. She brought a roller derby friend who has had drama with my wife's team... so she was asked to leave the day of the wedding by my wife's brides mates. But I responded by telling her just to let it go it's not a big problem let's just have fun... my sister never congratulated my wife nor acknowledge her that day..... there more to this but I'm so heart broken Idk what to do
About 2 months ago i found out my father did SM and had a sex addiction (not with my mom). When i was in high school and still lived full time at home, i knew he watched porn a lot. Now i’m only home in the weekends and i wanted to use computer when i accidently saw emails with pictures of what he did to that other women. I told my mom what i found and she kwew about it. She let him fullfill his needs that way because she isn’t into that stuff and it might be a way to save their marrage. I have a very strong bond with my mother, she’s a strong women, and i talked a lot with her about how she felt and what i had to do with that info. A week later i confronted him with what i knew and it was a wake-up call for him. He’s going to counseling atm and he’s working on himself. I still can’t look the same way at him. He hurt my mom badly with his actions the last years and thats the thing i’m mad about the most, she doesn’t deserve that
Three sets of couples make up our family sibling group, we all live in the UK and usually get together several times a year. My wife and I have recently relocated as I got a new job and we have a new baby (our second). For background younger Sister (and boyfriend) have no kids, and older Brother (and wife) have one (who is the eldest cousin).
At a recent get together we were planing our Christmas get together for this year (our turn to host), and due to our tightening finances we suggested rather than buying Christmas presents for everyone we could do a bit of a Secret Santa, so each person only has to buy one maybe slightly larger present for one person. The kids would be separate, but apart from one are all young enough that they don't need expensive gifts. We estimated this could reduce our costs at an already expensive time of year, I estimate a saving of roughly 75%.
However this idea was dismissed by the rest of the family who said it would take away from the Christmas experience and put too much pressure of finding a decent single present and they wouldn't really save that much(!). For context Sister and Boyfriend are both on a similar amount to me, My wife doesn't currently have a job as we moved (she is on Maternity Leave, but only Statutory Pay which runs out soon), Sister doesn't work out of choice as her husband is easily on 4 or 5 times my amount. So we are very much the poor relations - hence the need to try and find ideas to save money.
It is our turn to host Christmas, and with hosting/buying food&drink and presents for the whole family we are going to struggle financially. We have tried to explain this but no-one else seems willing to change what we have always done - as I mentioned earlier money is much less of an issue for them. I would really rather sort this out as I don't want to end up having to serve beans on toast on Christmas day, nor get into stupid amounts of debt going into the New Year! Nor of course falling out with family on both sides.
The question is do you think we are being unreasonable asking to do a Secret Santa? How would people suggest we could move forward?
Any ideas/info on how other family groups manage with very different disposable incomes without falling out!
My father collapsed last Friday in a hotel room at Lake Tahoe. They were able to get his pulse back, but still was in critical condition. They airlifted him to a hospital in Reno. He lost a ton of oxygen & the doctors confirmed that his brain injury is irreversible. My pops is currently on life support. Doctors say there is no sign of any improvement in his brain since the incident & are telling us that we have to consider his comfortability & our suffering. We were thinking about transferring him to a hospital close to home for a second opinion, but the doctors said it's high risk & that he was the second opinion. We've decided to keep him at this hospital right now & just waiting on my mom's ultimate decision for when to...(you know what). I miss my pops & I already know what's next. It's 2018 & we still haven't invented a Time Machine yet? MacBooks have time machines for backups. External HD's store current files. I'm just in a vulnerable state right now.
My grandmother told me Today i jlike to talk about punishing sexual predators a lot. She suggested I may have been molested (I grew up in a home with drug addict parents,neglect). I don’t recall any time that happened,I have foggy memory of when I was before 8 years old (Could be from neglect). No nightmares,No PTSD. What are other signs? Is there a good chance I was? I’ve been tossing and turning thinking about it. I’m having a hard time coping with the possibility