I regularly go to play pool at a billiards place. There is this woman who works there who I am interested in. I am considering sending flowers to this place of business saying I think she seems really nice, great personality, etc. It would be anonymous, except that I would leave my phone number with the flowers, so that if she were interested she could contact me. If not, then she can still enjoy the flowers.
My questions are:
1.is this appropriate? would the manager/owner (if he were working) be upset about someone doing this?
2.is this creepy? would the woman I am interested in be upset about this?
Not sure if this is the right place, but I’m gonna try I’m a single male 20 year old. I haven’t ever been on a date because I came from a country where dating is taboo to North America only three years ago. I grew up on a steady diet of American sitcoms and Hollywood movies.
I’ve always wanted to be in love and I’ve had intense crushes on some girls, never of a sexual nature. I find the idea of asking a woman out intimidating and don’t ask anyone out as a result.
I already hear advice saying don’t actively look for love and it will come to you etc, but it hasn’t so far and I don’t know if it ever will. If anyone has any advice for me about how to be more confident, how to ask women out or how to tell a friend that I want a relationship, please help
TL;DR young male looking for love, never found any
Just curious. I’d understand not wanting to sleep with someone again if you tried once and it either didn’t click or you realized you weren’t attracted to them. But to the guys who hook up with the same girl repeatedly and end up using this line: How often do you mean it and how often is it just something you say to avoid telling the person that you’d never date them?
This just happened to me for a third time. I'll be talking to someone then things start to fade away. Either because I caught feelings and they only want something casual (why is it always me) or in one case, just because things were naturally kind of fading. But then I'll send some silly message or we'll talk again for some reason, and then suddenly they start seeming really interested in me. Talking to me all the time, really trying to get to know me, introducing me to friends in one case, being super affectionate, etc. That'll last for a week or two and then one day they'll just...stop responding. In only one of the cases did the person find someone they wanted to date after a week, so what gives? I'm not that salty about it, it's just so...bizarre to me and I can't help but wonder what might be going on in their heads. Anyone else have this happen?
Yesterday I went on a date with this guy (M21) (been knowing him for two months), he proposed to go to this vinery and drink. He drinks very often, I don't. I used to, but then I stopped drinking. He's one of those people who like to get wasted. We finished one bottle and we were tipsy, then we started making out and touching each other on this bench in the park, but we decided to go back to the vinery and get another bottle. We drank a lot. Something like 2-3 liters of wine in a night. We went to the bench in the park again and we started to feel awful. In the end we both puked, he was puking on the left, I was puking on the right. I puked two times and I was so wasted I really had no control over anything. I even farted twice while puking, I WANT TO DIE. It got me so bad that today I puked 7 times during the hangover. This morning he texted and said he was very embarrassed for yesterday and so was I. Apparently I left my phone cover in the park and he got it, so now I'll have to meet him again and I'm SCARED. Idk it was so awful that he had to see me like that. But he was puking and wasted too, I hope he doesn't remember much? He's already used to seeing his best friend puking every time they go out so, I don't know, is everything ruined now? I'd like to see him again but without alcohol this time. I'm scared he doesn't want to, but we texted a lot today so hmm... Idk
I feel like when your loved one choses to sleep with another person, I can't help but feel bad and I understand it's because I give lots of importance to sex.( of course the betrayal aspect, but that's not the thing i want to focus on.) I can't stop thinking of sex as this ultimate thing to do with a person and it makes the hurt so much more.
Pretty much the title. I saw she started following me, so I decided to follow her back ( I wasn't previously since we mostly just make small talk when we run into each other, though we do have friends in common). Her profile was private so it sent a request. A couple of hours later it changed back to "Follow Back" instead of "Requested". This isn't the first time this has happened. I'm fully aware it means that she declined the request.
Now I've always just accepted they don't want me following then and moved on. But the fact that she is still currently following me is confusing. I haven't sent another request and don't know if I should because I know that's annoying, and don't want to be "that guy" you know? I also think confronting people irl about things like not following back/accepting requests is cringe, and can put the other person in an uncomfortable position so I don't want to do that either. Still, I really like this girl. Ngl I got super happy when I saw she followed me first, but now I'm just confused
Anyway, I know this might all mean nothing and I'm probably over thinking too much. I have had literally zero dating experience my whole life and have no idea what I'm doing, so I decided to try asking here. What do you think happened? Is this actually a normal/common thing? What should I do (if anything)?
I met this girl online and we hit it off real well, it’s long distance which is an issue but still we were going strong and texting all day, even planning our first trip to meet while things were well. Lately though, I think she got turned off because I was very excessive, constantly trying to call her and text and just overall being needy.
I realized that I was rushing way to fast into things and it may partly be because I happened to meet her a week or so after I broke it off with my ex, she cheated.
I like her a lot, and before everything seemed so dead she was very open. Telling me she liked me a lot, she really wanted to meet me and missed me constantly, especially texting me when I was busy, like spamming me. She even got sexual sometimes and sent some pics on occasion but told me not to save, which I didn’t out of respect.
Now things are just dull, I think she is trying to friendzone me, I decided that I would give her some space and that I don’t want to be her friend, I want a relationship and told her to text or call me if she misses or feels like trying to have those feelings she did at the start. Now I plan on waiting for however long it takes for her to hopefully come back but I still have my doubts (rightfully so) because I was such a needy mess up.
Anyway, I’m just wondering if anyone could give me tips. Did I lose her? Should I continue to wait? I like to think that if she was so open to telling me she liked me she can’t just get over me this fast but maybe my neediness was enough to completely turn her off. any advice would be appreciated, honesty is what I need to hear!
Update* before I left I told her I didn’t want to be a friend but wanted a relationship regardless of the online difficulties, she told me that if I cared I would have been okay with not being in a romantic relationship. I don’t quite understand but I told her again that all I want is to meet her and have a romantic relationship. waiting on a response but I don’t plan on replying unless she’s open to what I want.
TL;DR I’m seeing my friends ex, and now she told me she misses him.
OKAY. Let’s get some background. I (23f) am seeing my friends (24f), ex (32m).
Let me start off by saying, they dated very briefly and she ended it because they were into very different things, they wanted different things, and she said she just couldn’t get herself to like him in that way. Let’s also mention that she wasn’t very nice to him, treated him as if he was irrelevant to her life.
I’ve always told her how sweet he is and she’s crazy for not wanting to see him. SHE Brought up the idea of us talking. Since in her words we would be way more compatible. So, essentially we matched on tinder about a month ago. We started talking & I hadn’t told her at that time because it was just so uncomfortable for me, that I was talking to my friends ex boyfriend. So we’ve gone on two dates now and things are going pretty good. We have such a good connection and I just didn’t want to even talk about it with her unless I could see something progressing between the two of us. I have planned to tell her tonight about it because I’m going to his house and he’s making me dinner tonight.
I thought at this point hanging out 3 times is enough to have that conversation, and I don’t at all want to seem like I’m hiding anything from her. I’m just pretty private & I didn’t even want to have this conversation if we hung out and clearly did not have a connection/chemistry. I think that’s fine, since she has on multiple occasions encouraged me to reach out to him and talk to him.
An hour ago she texts me “I miss 32M, but I can’t text him”.
I met a guy at a bar. That night he asked if he can finish his beer and take me home but my friend didn’t let that happen. The next day we went out alone to a different bar and drove around. He complimented me a lot and pointed out my personality traits. He brought up his ex girlfriend a lot. We kissed goodbye. The day after that we went to the movies and left early because the movie sucked. The entire time he was touchy in a couple way. Then we went to his place and did some things which I regret. He kept telling me how he can have a bunch of girls at once but doesn’t want to and wants to be with me instead. He also said he wants to better me in a lot of ways. I don’t really know what to think of all this. What I am thinking is he’s experienced and learned his ways to lure girls in. He moved really fast and kept telling me we would go on trips in the future etc... do you think he is completely playing me? Like I think he is? I feel so many mixed emotions and mainly disgusted with myself