A lot of times I want to just be done and accept singleness.
I was on hiatus for a while and recently started putting my self out there. Things aren't the same as before my hiatus. Some of it is good and some of it isn't. Nevertheless, the end result is still the same and it's almost like nothing has actually changed.
I am 23 and never had a boyfriend before nor have I ever dated anyone. Men pretty much never show interest in me and I have never been asked out before. I don't go to bars, clubs, or parties. But I basically am graduating college and literally no guy has showed interest in me. I've only been approached or hit on maybe like once or twice in college. In my classes, if I had to work with a guy or form a study group, either the guy is taken or isn't interested in me. Joining organizations on campus, it was the same thing. This makes me feel like I will never find anyone. IDK what I am doing wrong? I try to take care of myself.......I am 5'4 and 120 lbs and sometimes I try to wear makeup to look more presentable to men. I haven't tried online dating but I would rather meet someone organically. But I feel like meeting someone offline isn't working for me, so idk if online dating is my only option for finding someone?
I see so many girls trying to gain more followers through dating apps and it makes me think they’re just trying to promote their “social media” career. I get that Instagram allows more photos but let’s be real - IG isn’t real life. Most photos are shopped and the women look nothing IRL like they do on their photos. Red flags are too many selfies or more than one snap filter. Why is it so hard to find genuine people who aren’t narcissists? I’m feel like a lot of younger women are trying to be he next Kylie Jenner instead of actually having a real job, actual friends and ambitions
I've been talking to someone who lives 2 hours away from me for two weeks straight now. The initial interest seems to have died down substantially but when asked if he still wanted to pursue things with me he replied "Idk, honestly I like you. You can just be all over the place sometimes and go 0-100 on things so I'm just still getting to know you still that's all, take it easy"
I didn't like that reply so I fell back a bit and he started giving me more effort. As soon as I matched this energy he began cooling off again.
I offered to visit him and he said if I came for the sole purpose of him it would give him too much anxiety and pressure. He would prefer if I came for another reason and met up with him while I'm there.
I also did not like this answer.
So I have to visit on a business trip for this weekend. I mentioned it to him and he said he would be in the same town because of a wedding he's attending with his three buddies. He said he would come and meet me when I arrive.
I'm wondering is the meetup even worth it? Or has he lost interest to the point that a meeting wouldn't change anything?
So I remember making my account for about 6 months ago on both apps. At first, I was getting lots of likes. I guess girls wanted to see the new guy in the town. I was happy with the app/website.... for the first few weeks. Then I started getting little to no likes, eventually getting to a grinding halt. My last like notification was from 3 girls about 3 months ago on OKC, and ZERO likes on badoo. I tried finding the girls who looked like the blurred out photos, but it never happened.
I tried changing my Bio, messing around with the profile pic order. But no matter how many likes I've sent, I felt like I was a ghost, seen by no one. On OKC The two strategies I've been using is to stay above 75% match rate, 5 miles or less on "browse matches", and giving it a pass on anyone who doesn't meet that criteria on double take.
Browse matches Rarely showed anyone new, and even when they did they were lower than 75%, or did not bother talking to me after I sent them messages. On double take, only first few profiles seem to match my standards, but after first 3-4 and out 20, all the girls are at low percentage or lives halfway across the state.
Badoo was an even bigger waste of time. The encounter thing was so pointless, as It only showed girls who are very far away. People nearby never showed anyone new, just same old people who I liked months ago and never got anywhere.
Maybe it's because I've set too much standards? But I've seen what mindless-liking-every-girls have brought me; Nothing.
For these reasons, I don't see why I should keep wasting my time on OKC or on Badoo. I'm sure they're great apps/websites, but just not for me. OR I am bombarded with super bad lucks.
I'll probably keep CMB, Bumble, and Tinder for shits and giggles, without much expectations, Pretty sure gonna delete my account from there as well
I (F) met this person (M) out with friends of a friend at a party about a month ago. The guy & I hung out a couple of times since then (always with friends around), but only one time did he meet me by himself at a coffee shop when I was doing work. (He said he wanted to “stop by for a coffee” but ended up sticking around for an hour and a half until I was forced to say I had somewhere to be... but I really did have a shit ton of work to do so I was a little annoyed about that). He texts me often now and I kind of want him to stop.
He will text things like “how’s your day going?” And “what are you up to?” But I’m really not interested in pursuing anything further. That being said, I do want to maintain a friendship— he goes hiking with a group that i would like to try out sometime, and I wouldn’t want it to be awkward. Plus, you know, friends of friends.......
Context: Friend of mine asked her what she thought of me and if she was interested in dating me as we had been talking and hanging out for a while. This is the text.”I don’t think trying to date someone who goes to our church is really a good idea and his families involved a lot there too and I think we’re just headed in different places in life with what we want and who we are and “” is awesome but I’m not sure I’m even ready for a relationship with everything that’s going on this year, hope that wasn’t harsh and it’s sweet of you to ask” I know it’s a no but is it a solid no or what?
So I had plans with this girl today. She completely missed the plans. She texted me 3 hours later saying that she went to a party last night and had woke up late in the city at 12pm. We had plans at 9:30 to go to the gym. She apologize but should I give her a second chance??
Also keep in mind that’s it seems that she may be flaky at least over text she doesn’t reply back or forgets to reply back all together.
So we were supposed to meet yesterday on V-day, but she said her boss made her go to a meeting, so she cancelled but we scheduled another date for Tuesday. She wasn't very talkative in messenger and never in text (we've only said like 3 things each, so I haven't felt any connection. How do I say I'm not interested and cancel the date? Or do I just go on with it and see how it goes?