I'm 20y old M and I haven't had any relationship yet, hookups neither. As you can imagine, I'm a virgin and I made out with 1 girl, that's all. This doesn't have to be a problem, but I'd really want to meet a girl, to fall in love finally, I want to know what is love, but i have no idea what the heck to do.
First of all, everyone gets surprised when I tell them I'm a virgin, they say that with my looks it shouldn't be that hard. I don't give a fuck about that, I don't care about the looks, people always say that to have success there's just one step: be attractive, well, I can say without a doubt that this is a huge lie, it's confidence.
The trouble is when I'm meeting a girl, I've downloaded tons of dating apps trying to find a girl to be with, without success. When I get a match with someone, I don't know what to say, what to ask, to be honest when I speak with a girl in these apps it looks like I'm interogating her and I know she's not comfortable, but I can't help it since I don't know what else to do. I barely talked with girls in my life, all of them were friends and asking things about class, not much more. Sometimes I manage to handle a conversation with a girl and everything is fine, but in a friendly way, I try to respect them as much as I can, so I never say dirty things or that kind of stuff to pick up with them. Being like this made me lose all the matches with girls that I liked and leaving me with some other girls that weren't my type and they just liked me for my looks and not our conversation.
I know that the post is a little bit confusing, but believe me that in my head is 300 times more confusing, what should I text with a girl? When should I go all in? I don't want them to think I'm boring just because I said "Hey how are you", but neither a fuckboy saying that she's thicc and to come over my house, I swear to god I don't know what I should do and would love you guys to bring me some help, I want to change.
at my college there is a fast food restaurant i go to frequently. over the past 2 years i’ve made small talk with one of the workers and today i learned that it’s both of our last semesters at the college. how could i ask for his number or give him mine without being weird?
The current girl [25F] I'm [23M] dating I met through tinder so I'm pretty new to this whole side of dating. As in meeting for a first date kind of thing.
We've been dating nearly a couple of months. Meeting every week and staying over at her flat...
I'm just not sure about her. Like I don't feel particularly excited for our next day together. I think we're pretty different people with very different goals and stuff. Not that that's a bad thing inherently, just that it's hard to relate to anything she does and feels.
I was considering last night breaking up with her. But I just started to feel bad about hurting her and questioning if I'm making a stupid choice :/.
I think my question is - how should it feel by now? At nearly a couple of months I'd already fallen for my ex completely and vice versa...
so, i'm in a really odd situation. there's this guy that i've known for a while, and i really like him. but i also kinda like his friend. the feelings for this guy have come rushing back in and i'm not really sure what to do. i'm seeing him later this week (also his friend but i'm seeing them separately), and he told me he has a surprise planned for me. i might be reading into this too much, but does he want to take me out on a date? he didn't specify but the whole "surprise" thing is kinda odd. we have also been a little flirty to each other recently, but he's really hard to read. i'm just so overwhelmed and lost about this situation so hopefully i can get some help.
What happens with me and dating and using subreddits like this and the r/datingoverthirty is a cycle. I start using things like online dating apps and reddit again simultaneously because I'm just bored in my social life and at my job, where I have no one to talk to all day sitting behind a screen. The intentions begin in the right place for online dating, and here, I offer some helpful posts that are received well, but then as time wears on with the lack of success on the dating apps, I get stuck to a point where I have nothing really new to discuss or add on the reddit dating subs other than how I'm not seeing any success, or empathizing with others who are in a similar position. My posts unintentionally sound pessimistic, and then a mod and members get tired of seeing it and say that I'm whining/ranting/"need therapy" (always my favorite...), which I then take personally because all I'm doing is share the reality that I am experiencing. Soon, my post history looks like a dumpster fire.
I've already deleted my dating apps and will likely delete my account here on reddit soon because obviously it's not being productive and isn't helping my mood haha, but I was wondering if others feel similar.
More specifically, how long has everyone stuck around these forums and ones like datingoverthirty? I really can't imagine that anyone should be on these subs regularly for longer than a few months at most. Sometimes I see users on here and the other dating subs who are like, lifers. I can't imagine that's very healthy... These subs are helpful to a certain point, but then they can easily stop being so after a certain point.
Basically this has been driving me crazy for the past few days and so I was wondering if anyone could help me figure out why this ended. I went on a few dates with this guy who I met online (we're both in our early twenties). We got along really well off the bat and would text nonstop. I asked him from the front what he was looking for to which he said he ultimately wanted a relationship.
On the third date, I went over to his place for dinner. We watched some TV and ended up making out heavily on his bed. At that point, I told him I wasn't comfortable sleeping with him any time soon, at least unless we were in a relationship. He said that was fine and was respectful, but later he texted me that although he did want a relationship eventually, he had just gotten out of one so he didn't want one any time soon. But if I still wanted to hang out, he would too. At the advice of some of my friends who told me to drop him, I told him that we should probably end things since we wanted different things. However, right afterwards I regretted that decision, so I texted him again the next day casually. We continued texting a little bit after that and made plans to hang out "casually". I was a little confused as to whether "hang out" meant "hook up" (which is what I kind of wanted although minus the sex, which he clearly wanted), but he later clarified that he thought we wanted different things in terms of dating for the time being but that we could hang out as friends.
We haven't talked since then, which was a few days ago. I feel really hurt over this entire situation and just want to gain some outside perspective on what happened. Was his goal from the start to just sleep with me? Or did he really want a relationship and just change his mind when I said I wouldn't sleep with him for a while? Would it be worth it to even reach out to him again and see if we can hang as friends? I think I just need some closure and want to know what really happened because I thought we got along so well.
So I've was talking to this girl I met online for a little over a week and we went on a date this past weekend. We talked pretty consistently leading up to the date, but she's been a bit flakier in communicating since then. The date itself went pretty well, at least I felt we got along great but the date ended a little awkwardly (we're both pretty awkward people). But I came away really liking this person.
Later on I texted her asking if she got home ok and if she would want to get together again sometime. She said she got home but kind of ignored the mention of doing something again. So the next day I asked if she wanted to get together this week and I gave her some days I was free. She said she'd let me know, so I left it at that. The next day she gave me a day she might be free but she'd let me know on that day.
What's going on here? I feel like I'm on the back burner incase some other guy doesn't end up working out. It feels really hurtful because I've put wanting to get to know her pretty high on my priorities, but maybe that's just crazy on my part. It's really hard for me to feel comfortable with people, but it felt pretty natural spending time with her.
I (24f) met this guy, A (28m) from Tinder. We had an okay night but I think he enjoyed it more than I did. We are in the same field of work so we talked online occasionally. I barely replied and usually stopped after a while.
My birthday is coming up and he asked to meet up. I agreed because I didn't mind being friends. While we were sorting out details he called it a date. I'm really not interested in anything more than friends. How do I tell him this politely and not make it awkward?
EDIT: I should have made this clearer previously. We both talked about why we were on tinder when we met. I said nothing much just to meet people because I knew I wasn't interested then and he said something like "just to meet people too anything is cool regardless". I wasn't very responsive after the first date so I thought he got the message but clearly not hence the question
We will call her Sasha. Sasha has dated 2 guys previous to me who emotionally and physically damaged her. To the point she has bad anxiety, some mental health problems, and trust issues. My most recent ex of 8 months also had some anxiety but not nearly as bad as Sasha. For example, she can't play cards against humanity with a group of friends because she gets really bad anxiety reading the cards when it's her turn. However, when I go out to a friends house for a party and we play any card game where you have to talk, she gets mad I don't want her to come (not because I don't like doing fun things with her, but because I know it triggers her anxiety). We also tried playing dungeon and dragons with friends before and she got such bad anxiety trying to come up with a character name etc that she went to the bathroom and balled:/
This is becoming a lot to handle, because it's to the point I can't do certain things that I want to do because I know she'll get so upset. She wants to hangout with me 24/7 and I have 2 jobs and like my fair share of downtime but she's so clingy and when I tell her I just want to go home (I live with my mom) and relax she gets angry and upset:/ Or if I go do something with friends and not spend time with her, she gets upset. One part is I'm very extrovert and she's very introvert. She doesn't really have any friends, just her family but she rather be with me then them as much as possible. It's just getting exhausting, I feel like I have 3 jobs and keeping her happy is becoming a chore more than anything.
I understand why she's the way she is, and it's just really tough. Because I do love her, but I do not feel like I'm in love with her (though she is VERY much in love with me) and I REALLY hate hurting peoples feelings, especially if I care about them. I know I should put my happiness first, but I'm just too nice and I hate it.
TLDR: My girlfriend's anxiety, lack of friends, and clinginess is making relationship a chore and I think is stopping me from being IN love with her.