Hey. So, a few months ago I started having really bad thoughts that I was abused by someone close. It doesn't make a lot of sense, but the more opinions I read the more peaceful I can feel, I guess. So, one day I was already feeling like some shit was about to happen. The next day was when it all started. It all started the moment I woke up, saw the face of the person I'm suspecting (the person was closing my window) and (I'm not sure) but I remember interpreting the person's face as a perverse expression. This was the moment it all started. I realized my glasses were in a different position from the one I had placed before I went to sleep. I suspected that I might have been abused while I was sleeping (I have a very heavy sleep, and when I "wake up" while I'm sleeping and somebody talks to me it's like it is my subconscious talking, and I can't remember a thing the next day). The night that I'm paranoid about I was alone in the house with the "suspect". After a few days the suspect realized that I was acting weird and started to try to talk to me to know what was wrong, but I didn't say a word. During this time, the suspect started to take some "weird actions" (most people would interpret this actions as normal but, since I'm "paranoid" about this person, I find it really weird) to try and restablish a normal mood. After I got paranoid, I started locking my door to sleep, but sometimes I'm so tired I sleep in the couch and I end up going to my room during the night, but I don't remember it the other day. I talked to my psychologist about it, and he said that it is propably the fear of not being in control of myself when I'm asleep that manifested this "paranoia". My family is very religious, and my uncle told me that he had a feeling that he should talk to me about it, and he told me that it was just a thought my mind took too serious (I didn't tell him what I was paranoid about, but he got very close to it although I didn't say anything AT ALL). I also talked to a friend of mine and he said that it didn't make any sense and that I was just overthinking it. My brother told the same and told me that the person I was suspecting would never do such a thing, because this person was always a correct and respected person. A few days ago I ended up sleeping in the couch (I was really tired) and when I woke up in my room the person I'm suspecting was there just looking at me. I questioned what the suspect was doing there and the suspect told me that he/she was just checking/looking at me (probably to make sure everything was OK). My brother told me that it is a normal behavior of this person to check on people if they are ok while they are sleeping and that he was 100% sure nothing EVER happened. The "suspect" never hinted any psychopathic behavior, but then I think that it is the kind of cover nobody would suspect. I want your opinions on this, and please, don't joke about it, it is a really messed up situation and I'm feeling really bad about it. Would I wake up if somebody took my clothes off while I was asleep? Would I wake up if somebody touched me while I was asleep? Please, give me your opinions on this. Thanks for reading and replying, you don't know how much you might be helping.
(P.S.: During this paranoia time, I kind of got some "messages" from the universe. One day, after my guitar class, my teacher started talking about how he would apologize for some people that were close to him (just like the person I suspect) and he, out of nowhere, started literally crying in front of me. There were a few other "messages" but this was the most unusual out of them all.)
Did surprisingly well on my course; I feel confident I could become very well-suited to the field.
My tutor suggested a Master's as the next step. However, I did not find the theoretical side particularly stimulating, and a 3-year academic study seems excessive just to end up practising person-centered approach.
I'm also wary of pursuing a very costly postgrad in a narrow, competitive, non-lucrative specialisation, especially before I can even assess precisely how slim the demand is where I live. I already have an unrelated Bachelor's degree (once bitten!), so an SFE loan is out of the question.
There seem to be these 'diploma' options, which seem fairly unclear. People advertising on CounsellingDirectory seem to have completely different sets of various qualifications, yet seem to be practising accredited by the BACP. Someone on another thread said these sorts of routes can pose ethical/insurance issues.
What are the options, pros/cons, etc.? What are people's experiences?
Alternatively, I'd potentially be interested in the idea of going into research, particularly developing new interventions, but I have similar concerns here. Would appreciate any advice.
I know this sounds like a total slap in the face question, but please bear with me.
I’m in the process of beginning a business that helps students and families work through the burden of financial aid when it comes to higher education in hopes to reach first generation students and families who may be especially struggling with the process, or those who are right in the middle where they’re ‘too wealthy’ to get financial aid but ‘too poor’ to actually be able to afford college.
This is my primary focus, but I also want to help people on a more emotional level as well since money and finances can really take a toll on peoples mental health. I don’t want to take away from the work of an actual therapist/professional, but I wanted to find some training on maybe a certificate level where I can gain some knowledge on how to help people cope at a mental level with this kind of stuff.
I just wanted to have it that experience not to say “pay for me to give you counseling” but rather just be able to offer mental health support during the crunching numbers side, if that all makes sense.
So, I am 23 and just finished a psych bachelors degree back in December. I decided that I would try to find a job to get some exp and make some money before heading off to do my masters (which I plan to do in 2020 - allowing myself little more than a year of work). My end goal is to make a career out of 1 one 1 therapy with people, preferably young adults, suffering from anxiety and depression (two things I also suffer from).
I got really lucky after job searching for about a month and was hired at a group home agency. I work with 5 male teenagers, some who have lived here for years and some who are new. When I’m on shift, I’m essentially living at the home with them. Cleaning, counselling, building relationships, teaching skills, cooking etc.
This has been a massive learning curve and experience for me, as I had no relevant experience prior to working here and my employer made it clear that they were going out on a limb hiring me, knowing that. It’s been 3 months now. Some days I feel like I am getting better at the job and the kids respond well to me and my requests, but I’m a typically passive person (and not a parent) so commanding respect from a bunch of teenage boys who don’t give a shit about you has been really tough.
It has improved over time but I’m still really struggling to accept that I’m capable and ready to do this for more than a year. I feel like I might’ve jumped into the deep end too quickly. And I don’t want to waste their or my time with a job like this because the kids deserve someone who will take care of them properly, not someone who is still working out the kinks in how to do any of this and has self doubt and anxiety toward the job. It’s been extremely taxing on my mental health. I feel a constant push and pull between believing I’m doing better and then thinking I’m terrible at the job. I’ve got in trouble with my boss a couple times who essentially has told me multiple times that I need to step my game up, and this has been a big cause of my anxiety and self doubt (mainly because the mistakes I made and those talks both happened when I thought I was getting the hang of it). Some days I come into work feeling like I just can’t do it. But I keep trying.
This post is sort of a venting post, but I would love to hear anyone’s advice or experiences in this field.
Did any of you have a rough start as well? Should I be job hunting for something “easier” (the reason I haven’t is because this is such a great opportunity)? Should I pave through it and force myself to stay out of my comfort zone and become a better employee and person?
TL:DR: Started first job in the field in a group home a couple months after getting my BA. Unsure if I’m capable of performing well in this position because the learning curve has been so steep and I worry I jumped into the deep end too quick. Anxiety and my own depression (stemming from self esteem and self efficacy issues) holding me back.
When ever I feel stressed or upset or even a little bit emotional I imagine stabbing myself in the stomach. For some reason this calms me down a little bit. I wouldn't actually do it but it feels similar to when I self harmed during a bereavement in the past. Like it focuses my thoughts on the the (imagined) pain... is this normal or should I talk to someone?
Hey I'm a 25 year old male,I recently moved back to my house from my grandmother's to my uncle and Dads house whom I've spent the most time with,My dad met a women a little before I moved here she had 2 sons and a daughter to make it short I had a relationship with the daughter up until recently,she stayed with me in my room for about 3 months Until my dad and his girlfriend decided to move with her kids they talked me into moving as well,I stayed there with her kids and my dad and the 20 year old soon to be step sister who I've had a serous relationship with,the whole time she has been drugging me,she has recorded me in areas of privacy,she got my facebook reported to where i can't log in and really has put me through hell,the worst part is I think it's family oriented,When I was 12-13 years old I had an incest relationship with my little sister who is half blood,She hasn't ever really liked me or talked to me when she got older,I do have minor mental issues and so does the girl I had the relationship with(step-sister)I feel like this has been a setup somewhat to get me back for what I did to my sister,I've had the worst miserable agonizing experience ever since I moved back and met this girl,it all happened so fast....And I know I've been drugged before this ever since i was 21 and im now 25,what do you do in a situation where your family takes the law into their own hands,my dad told me that this makes it even,this soon to be step sister is diagnosed with schizophrenia and psychotic,I've tried to shorten this the best I could,but I am somebody who seriously needs professional help or advice on what to do with my life,should i can't go to the police because they won't do anything I've tried,I really don't know what to do,i feel so exposed and humiliated,the drugs took me out of character and im scared to even start a new facebook because of the videos floating around and what this girl did to me,I don't feel like 2 wrongs should make a right.
Yo, Scout camp organizer here from slovakia. I have a task to create punishments for misbehavior and since it is not the first time I do it, I'm thinking more and more about it. I did a bit of research but I just don't have time to get a degree so I'm curious if you guys could help.
The thing is fairly normal, usual misbehaviours are forgetting personal or shared items everywhere(80%+), being loud at night, cheating in games or doing general dumb shit in nature. Up till now we mostly had punishments in form of a lottery and they went from useful ones such as getting firewood to more amusing ones such as having socks on hands for a day. Do you have any tips on how to best curb those unwanted behaviours?
I have been through tonnes of different theories and am no closer to understanding it.
In short, I have considered limerence, some kind of personality disorder, delusional disorder, OCD, and Asperger’s, attachment disorder, among others, just to give an idea of how bad it appears.
I will develop these hugely intense obsessions/interests with people. It has only happened a few times throughout 24 years but it gets stronger the more it happens. If a person shows any sort of kindness or friendliness to me (which is why it mainly happens with tutors, and currently my driving instructor), etc, it starts the ball rolling and has quite often lead me to become so obessed with them that I can think about them 24/7, I will go out of my way to help them, talk to them, be friends with them (I barely have any friends, 3-4 at most), everything will remimd me of them somehow, I’ll analyse everything they do or say, their body language, their language, etc, for signs of reciprocity which never occurs. I will also feel deeply depressed when I leave their presence and as soon as see them again I feel happy, sometimes euphoric, and then I go through “withdrawal” again and then get my “fix” and again and again and again and every time it happens it lasts a little less... I am currently doing this with my driving instructor and it is driving me insane, I just want to make friends with him. He has so much patience with me, he’s kind, friendly, he makes me feel comfortable which is insanely rare with people since practically everyone, even my friends and family, make me feel uncomfortable most of the time. He might be 39 (and I’m 24) with a girlfriend and (I think) kids, but it’s not like I’m a teenager trying to make friends with him, the age difference isn’t that extreme.
When taking forensic psychology, I learned a lot about different areas of psychology and how childhood trauma can have lasting effects, and I feel like I have some sort of attachment disorder, but (not to sound arrogant) I’ve had a good life, overprotective ‘parents but still good, very loved, nothing really major happening...