Quick backstory: divorced not finalized. Ex and I are, for the most part, amicable. Per temporary orders, we agreed that I see my son Mondays and Wednesdays after work and all day Saturdays (she has severe separation anxiety but will push for more time eventually).
Here's why I'm writing. It absolutely breaks my heart whenever I have to say goodbye to my son (he's 2.5 years old). He knows when I have to leave and cries and calls out my name. I feel terrible.
Just looking to hear from someone with a similar experience and if it had any adverse effect on the child?
I split from my son’s mum around 7 years ago. It was my choice to move out. Ever since then I have tried to be as nice with her as possible. I have basically become a bit of a mug. I was in a relationship for 2 years which ended in October of last year. I introduced my son to my new partner but slowly & after a year. I made sure my son felt comfortable & I always put him first. Sometimes my girlfriend would stay over with her daughter & I always notified my sons mum & we all slept separately. My sons mum made a point of telling me that I better not start neglecting our son when I got a new girlfriend & my girlfriend better be suitable & safe around my son. I just bit my tongue.
What is really concerning me no is that my son’s mum has finally found herself a new boyfriend & is doing everything that she warned me against doing. She has basically not taken into account our 12-year-old sons’ feelings. This guy is round there staying nearly every night. My ex has tried to get my son to hug him. The guy is an ex heroin addict & has served time inside for perverting the cause of justice. He doesn’t work, looks very untidy & lived with his mum at the age of 31. My ex is almost 50. This guy allegedly keeps telling my son that he loves him which I find totally weird. I was having concerns before this about my son’s welfare due to his mum’s behaviour anyway & this has just put me over the top. I have my son stay 4 nights & I am already currently paying too much maintenance to her. I have no idea what to do & I am apprehensive of doing anything official. My Son’s mum is a compulsive liar & good at it & she would be able to lie herself out of any allegations.
Is there anywhere I can go to discuss these things without making an official complaint or taking legal action?
Disclaimer: I'm not a single dad or even a dad yet. But I thought because I'm lonely ans looking for friends and pwople to talk to this may be a spot that guys may need other people to talk to too? If its not appropriate to post this here tell me and I will remove it. I'd happy be there for someone if they need to talk.
I'm a 30 year old guy as of a few week ago. I do not have any friends... I have two. Met them on Reddit. I have no friends in person. So it gets really lonely over time. I would really like to have a bromance again. I really miss it. But I am not sure I'll ever get that opportunity ever again.
In the perfect world ... I'd like to find someone who's around age (and to be clear since 20 year olds seem to think that applies to them ... I mean 27 and up). Who are looking for a long term friendship. Another point I should make is I'm only looking for guy friends right now... long story short I just get along with them better.
I am a pretty boring person... (some seem to see this as a bad thing... and actually call me out for it.... its actually not a bad thing... I'm a "pretend gamer". I'm in to a few TV shows like the Chicago Series (Fire, Med), Law and Order SVU etc.
I'm dealing with a fucked up way of processing .... life? After a health issue a few months ago...
Anyway... I am a open book. If you want to give it a shot at chatting send me a PM. If you have questions ask please.
I hope everyone has a great day. (Please PM vs Comment thank you)
I’ve got a 3-1/3 year old girl and it seems like every time I wash her clothes they don’t get all that clean. Then she’ll come back from her moms with a shirt that had a pesky stain on it magically gone... and that pisses me off. (Just pettiness)
I’ve got a HE machine, I have softened water, and my clothes seem to come out clean (granted they aren’t covered with mud, etc)
This is pretty short (that’s what your mom said) but I wanted to laugh with y’all. So when the ex and I split I eventually moved with the kids and my girlfriend (I have 100% custody). My ex lost all of her motherhood cred so she has now begun telling people that I and the children are dead. We apparently died in a “tragic accident” the problem is that she’s telling people who we both know. So they contact me via Facebook (3 so far) to check on our safety.
My point here is look what I escaped. You did too or soon will.
I am a single father of a 4 year old daughter. I've never lived by myself without another adult in the house before now. That makes me worry about what would happen if I got hurt or was unconscious. I don't have a landline, and my phone stays locked, so she cant use it. Even if she could, there's a chance it'd be in my pocket, or somewhere she couldn't reach it. What can/should I do to make sure she can get in contact with someone in case of an emergency?
Recently just graduated college. Living in NY and I got offered a job that would double my salary back in Texas. I’m on the edge if I should take the job or not because i want to see my son everyday that I can but this would make it better for us finically. His mom said she would move back down to Texas in April/May of 2020 (She’s from Texas and All of her family is there) But I just don’t know what to do.