Husband makes enough money for us to survive and have a few luxuries but with 4 kids it never hurts to have more and that's where I want to help. Husband is totally against me getting an at home job and wants me to focus on my youtube channel. Well that is moving slowly and I feel like I'm capable of taking care of the home and getting a job. So far all of the at home jobs I've pursued have been a bust and I'm starting to feel like such a failure or it's just not meant to be. I want to do more than just clean. Part of me feels ungrateful because I have a husband that doesn't require anything of me and is perfectly content with me staying home, sleeping in when I can, not working, supports me creating a youtube channel, and just wants me to be happy. The other part of me feels like I am a woman that is capable of doing more with my time and contributing to our income. Maybe it's just a self-esteem issue and it'll pass but I want more fulfillment than just keeping a clean home. I love my family but wish I could do something that is just for me.
I've got work experience in an industry that doesn't have any work from home options, and I'm getting fatigued with being gone during the nights doing Uber Eats/Postmates. I'm okay to continue doing that, but wanted to see if anybody knows of a way to do good work and maybe make decent enough cash to help the family reduce debt during this wonderful SAHP period of our life.
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When I sit down to read, the kids show up. When I start to clean, the kids show up or my husband shows up telling me not to worry about cleaning & wants to hang out. When I'm napping everyone suddenly needs something. When I'm watching t.v. or trying to do my hobbies the kids show up. When my husband does all of these things (minus the cleaning) the kids leave him alone! When he naps they'll even climb in the bed with him and take a nap! I allocate time to everyone to play or watch a movie but I get NO time to do anything "fun" for myself. I feel like there's a silent alarm in the house that I can't hear that says "Hey mama is doing something go bother her."
Kind of a broad title but let me explain. My husband decided to explode on me last night and tell me how he’s done. He hates his job and he’s tired of being stressed about money and having all of the burden on him. He never out right said that I need to get a job but I feel like that’s the only option. He is looking for a new job but what he’s looking at is less pay so either way I’m gonna have to find work too. Since day 1 I have not had a problem working. WE decided I shouldn’t because I would have to work 2 jobs just to afford daycare and wouldn’t have much left over to help with bills. I’m lost and stuck and I don’t know what to do to help. Do I work 3 jobs so that he can stay home? Do I work 2 jobs just to hope to help out? Anyone else been in a situation like this? How did you get through it? Things have gotten so bad I don’t know if our relationship can survive this. Any advice would be great.
I’m a new SAHM. My wife carried our now 5mo old, so in some senses I’m more like a SAHF. My wife and I both had 4.5 months off with our baby. It was AMAZING to spend the time together. Wife has been back at work now for just over 2 weeks.
My in-laws live very close and want to watch our son one day a week whenever they’re in town. This is so kind and thoughtful, and they want to spend as much time with their grandson as possible. I’d be crazy to hold off on that right? It’s what SAHP dream of - one day of free time. I, however, don’t feel ready to be without him for one day a week. They suggested starting at half days.
Maybe it’s a control/trust thing? My wife and I want to parent a certain way, and I won’t know what’s going on while away? I also feel weird having a full day off ... non-SAHP can take an occasional day off work, but that’s different than only working 4 days a week.