Despite having to manage horrific hormonal changes that make every day so much more difficult, we are parenting our kids, parenting our parents, working, making the world turn. You all are inspirational goddesses and the world is lucky to have you.
I’ve googled this and cannot find an answer. I’m menopausal(excuse me while I vomit). Anyway, down there I’m very moist, let’s say. Sometimes it feels as if I’m gushing(like with periods) but of course I don’t have those anymore. I do have uterine fibroids. I’m back to wearing a panty liner because I’m “leaking” not urine(yet). I’m hoping someone else has this too. I am not taking HRT, as I have a history of cancer in my family and my mother never took it either. She did not believe in it due to cancer risks(which she got anyway). Go figure.
The color is clear or white, and I don’t have a UTI.
I’m so sick of being self conscious about that, hot flashes, looking older(I think, my husband says I look the same), chronic fatigue.
Just want to complain for a bit. I'm bloated, weepy, jittery (like a panic attack), sore, just overall miserable! Don't know how much more I can take. Why didn't anyone warn me??? No one to talk to. I'm 50, didn't have a period for 115 days, then it came back (normal). Now I guess I'm mid cycle again? Who knows. Just hating life and lonely today.
Hey there r/menopause, just to say I am 21F and my mum (54) started the menopause a few years ago and has been finding it really really hard. I wanted to ask your advice on this/what you think I should do as I am struggling to cope with her emotional and physical problems.
We've always been super close and rely on each other for emotional support but I've been finding it harder and harder to help her as her problems are so intense and it makes me uncomfortable/I'm not sure what to say. I know that makes me sound like a horrible person. Maybe I am.
She really struggles a lot with insomnia and low mood (not sure if she's depressed) and hearing her problems is heart breaking as I never want her to be unhealthy or unhappy but it's taking a toll on me as well and I feel like I can't give her the support she needs.
She can't/won't go back to the docs (she can't go on HRT because she's on post-cancer meds) because she doesn't really have much faith in regular Western medicine and the chinese medicine she undergoes (cupping/acupunture) has stopped working and I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE she's always looking to me for an answer or advice and I've run out of things to say and ways to cope with the awful things she's going though...
Sorry for the rant. Thanks for listening and if anyone has any advice on how to cope and what to say that would be great.
One last question: how can I set up some boundaries around her? Obviously I want to help her but sometimes I can't. I still a person myself, I need my own space and I'm going through my own shit. That probably sounds selfish...
The Internet, it roars and out cum the whores to score. It reigns them down till my mind cries "NO MORE". It Ties them to me and treats me like a chore It shuts me down while my partners all cry for more. The Internet is an all-too-honest companion whom I HATE. It shows me all the ways that we cannot relate. It feeds me lots of data since I will never again accept a date.
It bids me to silence and forces me to accept this fate. The Internet orchestrates us all in sneaky meets. I am just my shadow now that in full sunlight, retreats. Manhood must be allowed the space he needs to greet and eat his tasty treats. I cannot beg but must be gracious if included, my emotions being discreet.
It is no one's fault but mine that I cannot compete. My value drops by degrees, now on an annual repeat. This homely woman must be silent, dry her eyes, and keep her seat. Far too long I waited, and life never hands me a receipt. Give up believing in beauty and accept ugly defeat.
Burgeoning weight, mood swings, and a husband going through his own ageing issues with a less than reliable erection. Needless to say we are going through our own self-esteem issues and it's wreaking havoc in the bedroom.
Taking up yoga has really helped with my depression and I now hope to explore the field of tantra to re-ignite the flame with my husband.
I'd appreciate any ideas, tips, or just thoughts, around this subject.
I've had pretty textbook PMS this week and now I'm late. I'm wondering what happens to the PMS when you miss a period. Do you just perpetually live in a PMS state until it comes again, or does the PMS subside and you're normal for a bit until you get another period? I've never really missed one before (although I've gone as long as 32 days).
I don't think I've ever seen so much blood in my life, especially my own. I've been on a period for a year, but in the last 2 months things are going from annoying to worrisome to horrible. On Monday I started to bleed heavily, emptying my Diva Cup every 2 hours. Tuesday it was every 30 minutes. Wednesday it was every 10 minutes. I finally decided to to to the ER under the advise of my gyno's receptionist (my gyno was out till Thursday). Luckily I saw a female ER doctor who reluctantly prescribed estrogen to me after explaining the tranexemic acid wasn't working at all.
It took 3 different drug stores to get the Premarin. I started taking them Wednesday evening. By Thursday night the bleeding had stopped. I worry, though, if when this 2 week dose is over I'll just start bleeding again like before. The ER doc said my GP and Gyno probably didn't suggest it because of my age (42) and weight (205 lbs).
I called my gyno on Thursday to tell her what happened. She called the hospital to push ahead my ultrasound and will see me soon after to discuss a hysterectomy.
Has anyone else had this happen? What will happen after I'm done the Premarin?
I hate my uterus and can't wait till it's outbof my body forever.
I thought I'd gotten through the menopause quite nicely. Had hot flushes a few years which were very bad, but because I had a uterus extirpation before I entered the menopause I didn't have any problems on that end.
Hot flushes (and menofog and general physical stuff) lasted a few years and then tapered off.
And last month they started again. I AM SOOOOOO ANNOYED. At first I thought I was imagining things, but no, they're back. I haven't had a proper night's sleep in three weeks now, I'm knackered and I just want them to stoppp.
I even started sage tablets because I found this one study that said they worked, that's how desperate I am.