Please know that I am in no way here to judge, belittle, or argue with anyone here. I am simply curious. I grew up in a non-religious family, so I never "understood" religion. I've always wanted wanted ask "why", but have never really had the opportunity. So I guess my question is, why do you (and many people) practise Christianity?
I have been going to this church over 8 years. It is First United Methodist denomination if that helps any. Over my time being a member there, I volunteer a good 3 years in a row before burning out.
I have been somewhat active, and try to build friendship, but only a few actually stuck, and most of them left at this point. I enjoy the sermon. I kind of enjoy the music, but not all time. I find fellowship help me grow in faith and learn more about god than any other area.
I also applied to a job that I thought I was qualified, but didn't get. While I know the risk of going into job interview with my church, I thought I was mental prepared for it. I was not. My soul aches from the miss opportunity and the sting to my self-confidence.
It has been affecting me which cause me to doubt my church and the connections I made there. Most likely everything is all fine, and they aren't the problem.
I just ask for wisdom and guidance in this time in my life.
Some attribute this quote to Churchill some say he never said this but regardless whoever came up with this quote is a wise man. I'm involuntarily pulling an all nighter due to stress in my life. Sometimes you feel stuck in life like you're driving in the dark with no headlights you're worried you may crash any moment. A little bit of that prosperity gospel can't hurt if it will lift you up why not as long as you know it's not the true gospel. I'm in a much better mood after a Joel Osteen sermon than a Steven Anderson sermon. Catholic priests could learn from evangelicals on how to preach well.
I was arguing with a family member and the “swear to ___” slipped out. I felt like I was having such an amazing day with god until that happened. I’m about to repent. I feel like as a devoted Christian you are expected to be better, so I think this hurts god way more than when atheists or newbie christians who dont really take god seriously say it. I feel like crap, please help!!
Let’s assume he’s real, and the Bible is truth(even though it has many many contradictions). How do you know he’s not lying? He can do whatever he wants, and we are really insignificant to the concept of a God. He can be lying and you literally won’t know until you die and there’s actually an afterlife? I mean he’s the reason for all suffering that has ever happened to every human ever, I don’t understand how God can invent the concept of sin and be all good, unless he’s just lying.
What decent Christian guy isn’t married by the ripe old age of 24? Me, that’s who. To this point, I’ve never had a relationship though I don’t mind a pretty girl. I’ve even had pretty big crushes. Still, I don’t really see myself ever in a relationship or especially ever getting married. I’m just too shy and set in my ways. That said, I’m getting to the age where most of my peers are getting engaged, married, having babies, etc. I can’t believe I’m at that age where people are actually doing that stuff! And I’ve never been on one date! There’s a small part of me that feels so left out and unwanted. But then I know that I could never really be married anyhow. I’ll probably never even want to be married. My identity is in Christ. I believe in the Lord and believe that I don’t need a woman in my life, I just need the Lord. Any help for my conflicting feelings and confusion over this topic?
I(19M) have been in a constant horrible mood for 2+ years now. I'm always sad and I always feel alone, i feel my life is nothing extraordinary and it never will be and that I'm a loser. I have no goals or aspirations. I don't enjoy anything anymore. I've got only one close friend, i don't have any real hobbies other than a few things i force myself to do so my life doesn't feel completely pointless ( I do MMA and play guitar). I rarely have an appetite and because of which i'm underweight. I feel like my parents think i'm a failure because i dropped out of college and have never achieved anything. TBH i don't enjoy life anymore.
I recently met a girl which I talked to for a while, we went on a couple dates, texted constantly and I really liked her. She made me feel whole and when I was with her I forgot about all this. She made it clear from the beginning of the relationship (we were never official if that matters) that she didn't want to be in a serious relationship since she was joining the military and shipping of for bootcamp soon. I, like the moron i am, ignored those ques and proceeded to get extremely attached to her. I thought she was practically perfect. She was hard working, smart, courageous, sweet, and absolutely gorgeous. She cut off the relationship for good about a month before she left because she "just didn't want to be in a relationship." A week later she was talking to a different guy, that didn't last long because the guy turned out to be a dick so she comes back to me and apologizes for cutting me off and hurting me. She told me that she would always be there for me regardless of how far she is from me but she still doesn't want to be in a relationship and that she stopped seeing the other guy for the same reason before it got too serious as well (Which i know is a lie). I asked her if we could hang out one more time before she left and she agreed. When we hung out she told me a lot of stuff she has never told me before about her parents being in a bad situation and some deeper more personal problems that I won't get into. Basically her life sucks way more than mine does, but she remains hopeful and happy because of God. She believes that her struggles are all for a reason and God has put her on this path for a reason. She believes wholeheartedly that the military was an opportunity given to her by god so she could get away from her pain and grow into a good person. The night before she left I told her how I've been feeling the past two years, i've never told anyone but I believed that she would be able to help me or at least set me on the right path. At first she tried to relate to me and understand how I felt, and told me that she knows i'm not religious but God is the reason she stays hopeful and happy. I didn't deny that or call her wrong, but I asked her where to start and told her that I don't enjoy anything and have no idea how to work towards improving myself and making myself feel like less of a failure and loser. She quickly lost interest and just told me that the reason I feel like a loser is because I am one and its my own fault and i'm the only one that can do something about it so I should just fix it. She also says that she regretted ever being with me.
I absolutely ENVY her. She is right about me, I am a loser and its my own fault. Her life has been much harder than mine but she manages to push through and achieve and work hard every day regardless because she knows in the end it will get better either way. I can't think like that, at the end of the day I feel like some people are just miserable people. Some good people die alone. Some good parents are given children with cancer that die at a young age. Not everyone ends up happy and sometimes there's nothing someone can do about the way they feel. And I can't force myself to have hope that it gets better because i know for a fact sometimes it doesn't.
So is the difference between her and me religion? Is the reason I feel like absolute shit and worthless as a human being because I don't believe in god? Is the reason that she stays happy and joyful and an amazing person because she believes in god, even if she isn't a perfect christian?
I've never believed in god, i find it far fetched and I can't grasp the fact that God or Jesus loves everyone with the way that some peoples lives turn out. My parents are both religious, neither of them go to church and I was never taken to church and I've only been once with a friend when i was very young. However my dad specifically is very much a religious person and I feel he's always looked down on me for not believing in God and thinks that I don't out of ignorance.
Would being religious make me happy? Would being religious make me a better person? Does a person have to be religious to be a good christian? Does god punish people for not worshiping him? I'll try to have an open mind to any answers but forgive me if i'm still skeptical.
So, I’ve dwindled and fallen off as a Christian. You’ll see in my comment history that I cuss and have quite the few disheartening stories about myself. I kind of want to get back, but I’m hoping for a few questions answered first. A lot of my questions have to do with my identity as a girl and the more troubling aspects seen in the Bible about that. In the Bible women are drawn out to be the subordinate, gullible, first ruin-ers of humanity (eve) that are obligated to give birth to said humanity by our own bodies punishing us with stabbing pain and blood said to be punishment for that first sin. Secondly, throughout the Bible, all the stories involving women doing something worthy or some sort of miracle happening always have to do with child birth. I know there’s Deborah, but that’s one of the only stories I can think of where the story isn’t about fertility. It’s kinda made me really question my identity. It makes me feel like God doesn’t actually have a real purpose for me other than marriage and birthing a child. This idea has just sort of lead me to just say “to hell with it” and do whatever I want with my life which isn’t a good alternative either. I’ve tried to gain my direction back, but some of the parts of the Bible still haunt me and I can’t ignore them.
If this is true why does anything matter? Why does anything I do or anyone else does matter? No matter what answer you give I am going to ask, "Why?" If there is no higher power and everything is an accident you can come up with reasons for morality, but they are all just your opinion and when I ask, "Why?" your opinion matters you can have no answer.
(2) If there is a God, a higher power and he has not control or he has not set up rules he will judge people by then see argument #1.
(3) There is a God, he has control of the universe, and he has set up rules by which he will judge people.