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I am graduating in a month and I am still considering where I should be working after I graduate. I am in a medical field and in my country, it is a 100% employment rate and I have 2 hospitals that are waiting for fresh graduates to apply, I have done internship in both hospital (one is government owned and another is a private hospital). To cut the story short, From my internship, I can tell BIG differences between 2 hospitals, where the government-owned is a crappy place especially the staffs, they are always judging you, expect ALL fresh graduate with little experience to know every single thing, they are not willing to teach u and expect u to learn by ur self etc etc, but high paid. At the private hospital, it was a totally different environment where the staff are all friendly, helpful, and approachable. But low-paid. The salary difference im talking about is $1,000 per month between the 2 hospitals. and that is a lot to consider..
I am in community college and I am expecting to get my associates degree by the end of this year. I got a job in this summer and they told me it was only for three months with possible full time. I only have one month left and they haven’t said anything about offering me full time. Should i ask them? Should i just wait? I really need this job. I am a computer science major, I don’t do anything computer related but i think it would help to stay at this company and try to work with their programmers.
I work for a tech company. Another rep who works in my same position quit unexpectedly in April which opened up a much more high profile territory for me to cover (with some of our biggest clients) although it's not technically a promotion I jumped at the opportunity for increased responsibility. I talked to my manager about taking the open territory and it was agreed that I would be a good fit for the opening.
Since then I have been covering my previous territory as well as the new territory. (Basically doing 2 people's jobs) and I have not lost a single customer.
Part of taking this new territory meant that I would have to relocate across country which is fine with me. However as my moving date gets closer and closer I have still not heard anything about relocation packages or reimbursement.
I reached out to my boss to discuss as I've already began scheduling moving services and was told, "well since we didn't ask you to move we don't feel as though we should have to pay for it."
At this point I am very frustrated and confused. Why would they agree to give me the open territory across the country and not expect me to move there? They also said they would not be restructuring my compensation for the increased cost of living in the new city... Is any of this normal? Is there anything I can do besides start applying for better job opportunities?
A little back story, I started college as a CS (computer science) student, gained an interest in medicine, switched to a pre med path for a year and a half, then decided to go back to CS cause I'm 30, have a family to support, and thought continuing to go to school and rack up loans was a bad idea and I could go to CS and get a degree then be working 4 years sooner then continuing in medicine. I enjoy technology but every time I see, read, or hear anything about the medical field my heart hurts a little knowing I gave up that dream but inside still loving that field. Any body ever experience anything similar to this. Any general advice or thoughts on the situation?
I'm 28, and I have recently applied for and been accepted to a two year master's course which would enable me to become a school teacher. I live in the UK, so this is a stable job and relatively well paid. If I chose to take up this place, I would be working part time with a 2.5 hour daily commute to university (all in). I also live at home with my mum, and this wouldn't change until I was finished with the course and working, which obviously isn't ideal.
I'm in a bad situation financially due to various issues I've had throughout my 20s. I can probably afford to do this course, but between travel and other living expenses it's going to be tight, and I won't have any time to get a second job. On the other side of things, I really want to get my own place and have enough money where every day isn't a struggle. If I go for it, it will be a tough 2 years in a number of ways.
I would have really liked to become a teacher, and because of my age I'm treating this as my last chance. So it's all or nothing. What do you think I should do?
Should I pursue a career path I generally have more experience in or pursue what I think will fit me best given my personality?
How did you decide on your career path? Has it changed? If you changed career paths, why? Have you changed personally? What factors did you consider?
Some backstory, you don’t have to read it haha;
I fell into a track of PR roles in high school and college because I was told I needed to “gain experience” to get a job after college. It was something I could do, and I don’t necessarily hate it. I was also really shy and forced myself out of my comfort zone for self development and I now possess decent soft skills.
I majored in Psychology more so to better understand myself and how people work, but studying social theories and working with people are very different things.
I think I want to pursue more of an research/analyst career path because less social interaction (forcing myself to be fake, building fake relationships) but I will have to brush up on my statistical skills which aren’t very strong to begin with and I am constantly researching and analyzing naturally anyways.
Personality-wise; I used to be very creative and I thrived on originality and innovation and put my all into whatever PR task I needed to get done. It left me really burned out tbh and I was grateful whenever it was over.
But after working odd jobs after college (I jumped into a therapist career path just to have a job, but it is part time so I found another part time job at a software company)
What I learned about myself is a job is always just going to be a job for me because I tend to value my life balance and hobbies more. I might be excited for a good 6 months but I will usually get over it and want to move on to something else, also I notice my performance declines if I really do not feel challenged haha.
Anyways, there are two paths for me right now;
An easier path that I fell into and have the experience for that I can build on?
Or one that is slightly off course but I picture myself being more comfortable doing as I build my skills?
I need to figure out I what to do for the next 50 years of my life.
I'm a 31 year old male...I'm a personal trainer, with a good set of friends and family. Despite that, I feel as though I can't get a grip on my life, whether financially or in dating. I still live with my parents due to lack of funds or a good job, I experience periods of hopelessness, sadness and fatigue almost daily, and I've been having some thoughts about wanting to die (not necessarily suicide).
I have worked mainly at two grocery stores since high school (besides some other side jobs that didn't work out for me), and had only worked full time once but still didn't make enough money to live off of. The other jobs I had were either jobs I got fired from for not doing them well or I'd quit because they weren't the right fit for me, mainly food industry jobs. I went to community college off and on for a total of 5 years and changed majors twice, and the closest I got was getting a little under halfway done with an associates degree in business (I wasn't able to pass Accounting or Business Math, I was working two part time jobs and I struggled with both of them).
I finally took a break on the degree and later studied to get my personal trainer certification, which took me close to a year to obtain (I failed the test on the first try). I love fitness and working out but I've had trouble making any decent money off of it. I work at my local YMCA but it's been hard to attract clients. I know I would make more money as an independent trainer rather than working for a gym, but without money for a fitness studio or a place where I can train clients it's damn near impossible to do it. How can I make money when I have to spend money I don't have to make it?
So I've been working two jobs prior to June, one as a produce associate at a grocery store (a job that I've been doing for 7 years and generally enjoy, but the pay is too low) and my personal training gig. I thought I finally caught a break when I landed a job with this manufacturing company that has a great reputation for good pay and benefits. But after working there for 5 weeks I had to quit it - I was falling behind on my training even though I was trying my best at it, I constantly kept forgetting basic things about the different steps that went with running my particular machine, the physical and mental toll was beyond staggering (they work you with little to no lunch breaks), and towards the last week I was there, my trainer had got on me so hard since I was behind that I broke down and cried. I hated every minute of that place, and I knew then and there that plant work wasn't for me. I had never done plant or machine work, and I was getting aches all over my body, along with not getting enough sleep at night due to stress and even waking up with nightmares here and there.
So the only thing I have to fall back on is my personal training (and I left my grocery store on good terms so I'm likely going to get my old job back there), but I'm right back at square one. While I feel like I've grown wiser from my plant job experience (learning that it wasn't for me), I'm still back in a position where I'm making next to nothing financially, and now I have a new car that I have to pay for because my parents talked me into getting something more reliable than my last car - a decision I reluctantly decided yes to.
Not only has my work life been going nowhere...but I have struggled to find relationships and a consistent sex life. I have made an earlier Reddit post about this so I won't go into detail, but I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, and I've only gotten sex around an average of once a year or so (almost all with mutual friends). I've tried dating apps and Match.com but it's yielded little to no results. I don't know if it's my lack of confidence or that I'm simply too stupid to understand social dynamics when it comes to dating. Now I'm in my 30's and it's really starting to get to me, because eventually I'd like to start a family and I know I'm not getting any younger.
I'm honestly thinking that I'm just not smart enough to make it on my own...what's worse is everyone around me is moving light years ahead of me in terms of finances and starting families, and both of my brothers are either making six figures or close to it. The only thing I have going for me is I that have a lot of good friends (which I didn't have in school because of my shyness), and I'm in good shape physically. I do have hobbies - besides the gym, I enjoy music and play guitar (hoping to get a band together with a good friend of mine), I go out to the beach and lake with friends, I go to bars or clubs at least once a week, and watch Netflix and Youtube. I know, not exactly an impressive list but I don't really do much. Other than that, I don't feel like I have much to offer, and I'm starting to think that I'm going to stay stuck until it gets to a point to where I wind up homeless or dead.
I have gone to a therapist last year to help address this (and my dating life mainly) and she seemed to be pretty helpful overall, but unfortunately she passed away early this year and now I don't really know who else to go to at the moment besides friends. I feel like there are parts of the day, particularly in the morning, when I feel good and energized and hopeful, but by about 3:00 in the afternoon I feel sad and pessimistic about everything, and while I feel better when I go workout at the gym later on, I leave the gym feeling angry and easily irritable, and then it's back to some sadness again until I start drinking beers or wine and watch Netflix. When I was working my grocery job those feelings would usually fall into those time slots depending on how early I had to be there.
So I know this was long, but has anyone ever been through a similar experience this late in life? Did you overcome it? Should I try again and go back to school? I just feel lost overall, and I really don't want to sound like a self-fulfilling prophecy but I think that I may have some sort of mental disorder. If anyone has any suggestions or advice then it's greatly appreciated. I feel like my entire life has not been fulfilling or productive, and I want to do whatever I can to change it.
Sorry for the wall of text, just trying to be thorough. TLDR at the end.
I recently asked a version of this question in r/asksf, but most of the answers were strictly looking at cost of living comparisons which I acknowledge in the short term are breakeven at best... but anyway, I was recently offered a job that would relocate me, my wife, and new born son from Denver to the SF Bay Area, and while this is ultimately the direction I want to take my career, I am a little concerned about the timing, difference in cost of living, growth potential, etc. bc I have a tendency to look at these kinds of things thru rose colored lenses. We are 30 and 31 years old and this is our first child.
In my current position I work for a marketing agency making $125k base with a bonus potential of up to $35-40k. No other monetary benefits aside from a pretty good 401k match. My title is Director, but it's a small company (about 50 people) and I probably have a bit of title inflation due to being an early stage employee at a relatively small company. The company is also in a bit of a slump... I previously managed a team of 6 people that has dwindled down to 2 bc we have lost a couple of clients and haven't been backfilling the positions of people that have left over the past year and a half. Because of this, I feel like my value to the organization has also dwindled, and with us losing some key clients recently I fear that our reputation (and in turn, my value as an employee at this company) is declining the longer I stay here. I have interviewed for a handful of similar positions locally but have lost out to other candidates bc of my lack of in-house marketing experience. It's also important to note that I am likely at the top of my salary potential for my field in Denver. Almost all of the other Director level growth marketing jobs I have interviewed for in Denver pay in the $100-120k range with small/non-existent bonus packages outside of stock option grants. We also own a 3 bedroom house in Denver proper with a mortgage of ~$1,250 a month plus utilities that we plan to rent out if we decide to move. We could probably get ~$2000-2200 in rent for our place.
The new job is an in-house growth marketing position offering $155k base (negotiable), $15k annual bonus, 30k stock option package (which I'm considering a potential value of $0 since they are not public) and a $15k signing bonus to cover costs of moving and stuff. The title is Senior Manager so I would be taking a step down title wise, but that is probably fine considering title inflation in my current role. I would also have a performance review after 6 months to potentially adjust to my title to director along with an appropriate pay raise. We are looking 2bd apartments and the best deals seem to be in the $3-4K a month range, so most of the pay increase would be offset by rent which is a tough pill to swallow. That said, the job market for growth marketing in the Bay Area is waaayyyyyyy better than anywhere else in the country by a huge margin, so there are opportunities abound if it turns out this job doesn't meet our needs financially. We don't plan to plant roots in SF, so the thought of trying to buy a house there (which is nearly impossible from my understanding) is not a factor for us.
A little more about our situation: new born son is only a month old. No family in Denver, but we do have a pretty solid group of friends. My wife is a chef and is staying home to take care of the baby for at least the first 6 months since the cost of childcare (in both SF and Denver) are like 80% her take home pay. She plans to go back to work once we can make childcare costs work, but her total earnings will probably be in the $45k range (also not sure if chef gigs pay more in SF vs DEN).
Lots of wild cards here bc of the new baby. Our top concerns are adjusting to life with a baby while also adjusting to a new city, financial health with an increased cost of living, and starting over socially... So that said, is life in the Bay Area really that much more expensive than Denver outside of housing? I know high rents will be eating up most of my pay increase, but is it worth it for the experience of working "in house" and getting exposure to a slew of other growth marketing opportunities? Is it silly to take a decrease in title just to get in house experience? Is it easy to make new friends outside of work in the Bay Area? Will we be feeling a huge financial squeeze outside of rent or is everyone just blowing the city's cost of living out of proportion? Is there anyone else that has made the move to SF in a similar situation that can provide some insight?
Thanks in advance.
TLDR: - currently work at a struggling marketing agency in Denver - already at the top of my salary band for local job prospects - got a job offer for an in house marketing gig in SF for $30k higher base - recently had a baby which is making the decision more difficult - trying to weigh the pros and cons of moving cross country for what would basically amount to a lateral move with exposure to more career opportunities in my field
I've been doing IT for yeas. Been trying to get a full time IT job for just about as many years as I've been employed at my current job without success. I am starting to consider that maybe I should think about changing careers again unless I want to stay doing the same miserable cycle that I've been stuck in.
How would I go about gaining the experience necessary for this? I don't want to go back to school again, therefor internships are also out of the question (I've never seen an internship job description position that didn't have being a student as a requirement). Even entry level part time positions mention having some experience, so that leaves me out of luck on how to gain that experience.
What could I possible do to gain experience without having to go back to school again or take up work as an unpaid volunteer?