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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 2d ago

World’s #1 Addiction

by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher

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Isn’t it ironic that your brain says it wants to get rid of problems, but also finds identity in problems. This is very common in most people. In fact, it’s the world’s number one (#1) addiction today.

Addiction is a frustrating thing where you know something is bad for you but you also don’t want to let it go. This is how your brain is with your problems. It doesn’t want the problems, but it becomes insecure at the thought of letting them go. If you aren’t regularly thinking about your problems, you begin to feel strangely insecure. Have you ever noticed this thinking habit in you?

It’s very natural for your brain to see a problem and want to come up with a solution. In fact, your brain is programmed to eagerly chase after a solution. It’s kinda like throwing a ball for a dog to fetch. But, even though you’re anxious togo after the solution, you still want it to be easy. In fact, if it isn’t within easy reach, your first response is almost always to say… “I don’t know.”

A common occurrence in your brain is its tendency to attach self-identify to a problem. So, losing that problem is like losing part of your identity. And this sense of loss causes you to want to keep the problem around. Then, you find yourself recreating it in one form or another in order not to lose that part of your identity.

I’m quite sure you have seen people who have abusive relationships, problems with their health, employment problems, and more who negatively create an identity around their problems. Even though they talk about being free of their problems, they seem to base everything around their problem-based identity. There are different levels of problem-addicted people, but all of us are guilty in our own way.

Unfortunately, people tend to focus on what’s wrong versus what’s right in the world and in their life. They dwell on what’s missing, lacking, or broken. Most of us are never obsessed about what’s going right and what we’re thankful for.

I want to challenge you to consciously be aware when your brain is attempting to create an identity out of a problem. If you find yourself in the habit of complaining, blaming, and venting about your problems, it’s a symptom of your brain’s attachment to a problem-based identity. The world’s number one (#1) addiction.

Believe it or not, your brain will even make you feel guilty about not obsessing on your problems. Why, you ask? It’s because ruminating about your troubles has become a life-long habit and habits have some sort of payoff that you think you need. Addiction to problem-based thinking is difficult to reverse. The more you are aware this state of mind the easier it is for you to detect it and stop reinforcing it.

In simple terms, the best way to get rid of darkness is to turn on some light. So, prepare positive affirmations to counter your stinky thinking. Wake up every morning and remind yourself of what you’re grateful for in your life. Guess what? After a while, you will begin to create healthy thinking habits that create a new identity that will serve you much better.

Who knew that self-identity with your problems was the world’s number one (#1) addiction?

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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 2w ago

Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying

Curated Video by Bronnie Ware (BronnieWare.com) and Lewis Howes (LewisHowes.com)

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The regrets of the dying… Old people don’t regret the things they have done, they regret the things they didn’t do when they had the chance.

Bronnie Ware and Lewis Howes are not affiliated with PersonalGrowthMagazine.com. We feature curated content such as this as well as our own original articles and videos.

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5 Questions With Janet Daughtry

Personal Growth Magazine Asks Thought Leaders These 5 Questions…

1 – What are a couple of your most effective habits?

Making up my bed first thing, Being conscious of my daily water intake and starting my day with quiet time and gratitude.

2 – How do you make your best decisions?

As I think through things, I try to bring in reason and logic and not just my emotions alone.

3 – How do you push through the obstacles you face?

I’m a researcher and, if I don’t know the answer or solution to something, I will get online or seek out someone who has the answer.

4 – What did you give up in order to reach your goals?

Days that I would have probably enjoyed doing something fun or recreational rather than work.

5 – What is your favorite quote or saying and why?

“Life if a matter of choices and every choice you make makes you.” by John Maxwell. More so than anything else, it is our choices that ultimately define us and everyone has been blessed with a free will and the ability to choose.

For more than 4 decades, Janet Daughtry (CoachJanet.com) has had the privilege to speak into women’s lives. It is her passion. Whether teaching, speaking at seminars, or life coaching with clients, she loves encouraging women to be all they can be for their purpose in the earth. Her heartbeat is for women to value their worth and significance, to dream, and to discover and pursue their God-given dreams and destinies.

Janet says the greatest satisfaction that she has being a life coach is to experience many “ah-ha” moments or “light bulb” moments with her clients and students. “It is really the ‘yes’ or ‘wow’ factor for me! It is exciting to come alongside women as they change their thinking and begin to walk in greater confidence and fulfillment.”

Locally, Janet serves as a speaker/trainer for a transitional program by the North Carolina Correctional Center for Women; a speaker/trainer for the Women’s Summer Empowerment Camps; and as a workshop presenter for various churches, businesses, and events. She also the co-founder of Life Breakthrough Academy, which has trained and certified life and marriage coaches in over 50 countries. Janet earned and under-graduate degree from Meredith College in Raleigh, NC and a graduate degree from Southern Theological Seminary in Louisville, KY.

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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 1M ago

How CBD Oil Impacts the Body

Curated CBD Oil Video by Dr.Oz (DrOz.com)

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Dr. Mehmet Oz and Dr. Sanjay Gupta explain how the medical community is using CBD oil, even though it’s still considered illegal at the federal level. Find out how CBD impacts the body and if it can be beneficial.

Dr. Mehmet Oz and Dr. Sanjay Gupta are not affiliated with PersonalGrowthMagazine.com. We feature curated content such as this as well as our own original articles and videos.

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5 Questions With Dr. Dave Meltzer

Personal Growth Magazine Asks Thought Leaders These 5 Questions…

1 – What are a couple of your most effective habits?

A. Early to bed; early to rise. Wake up at 4am daily, study for two hours, walk an hour.
B. Never go to sleep at night without answering the question: What did I learn today I didn’t know yesterday.

2 – How do you make your best decisions?

I ask three questions: What is the best thing that could happen, what is the most likely thing, what is the worst thing. If the most likely thing to happen as a result of that decision gets me closer to my goals and if I’m willing to deal with the worst thing that can happen, I go for it. Otherwise, I run away fast!

3 – How do you push through obstacles you face?

I exercise faithful courage.

4 – What did you give up in order to reach your goals?

Instant gratification.

5 – What is your favorite quote or saying and why?

My mother: To be great you must first walk hand in hand and side by side with great people.

Dr. Nido Qubein (NidoQubein.com) came to the United States as a teenager with little knowledge of English and only $50 in his pocket. His journey has been an amazing success story. The Biography Channel and CNBC aired his life story titled “A Life of Success and Significance.”

As an educator, he is president of High Point University, an undergraduate and graduate institution with 4,300 students from 40 countries. He has authored two dozen books and audio programs distributed worldwide.

As a business leader, he is chairman of the Great Harvest Bread Company with 220 stores in 43 states. He serves on the boards of several national organizations including BB&T (a Fortune 500 company with $185 billion in assets), the La-Z-Boy Corporation (one of the largest and most recognized furniture brands worldwide), and Dots Stores (a chain of fashion boutiques with more than 400 locations across the country).

As a professional speaker, Dr. Qubein has received many distinctions including the Golden Gavel Medal, induction into the International Speaker Hall of Fame, and as the founder of the NSA Foundation in Arizona.

He has been the recipient of many honors including The Ellis Island Medal of Honor (along with four U.S. presidents), The Horatio Alger Award for Distinguished Americans (along with Oprah Winfrey and Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas), the DAR Americanism Medal, the Order of the Long Leaf Pine, Sales and Marketing International’s Ambassador of Free Enterprise, Leadership North Carolina Governor’s Award, and Citizen of the Year and Philanthropist of the Year in his home city of High Point, North Carolina.

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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 2M ago

What Happiness Is Not

by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher

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Let’s look at what happiness is not. So, what isn’t being happy? There are many opinions on this subject, so I might as well give you mine. Here is what I think happiness IS NOT…

1. Happiness Is Not Getting Everything You Want

You won’t find happiness in getting everything you want or getting things your way. Money doesn’t buy happiness: in fact, getting a raise or a windfall can increase your dissatisfaction as your expectations expand to exceed whatever money you have. That new car or bigger house will someday start to feel like they’re not enough. It’s human nature to keep pushing the boundaries and asking for more!

2. Happiness Is Not Feeling Good All The Time

People who are happy don’t live in a constant state of ecstasy! Life isn’t like that. Some days you feel great and other days not so much. Everyone has their share of bad times, that’s just the way it goes. Happiness is way more than just feeling good. It means feeling content and living a meaningful life where you are and with what you have.

3. Happiness Is Not An Endpoint

Happiness isn’t something you arrive at, or you achieve, and then it’s done. It’s not something you can check off your list! Happiness is more like a habit you can choose to learn. It’s a way of looking at the world and your relationships and being aware that life is a never-ending process of change. Therefore, happiness is a choice.

4. Happiness Doesn’t Depend On Other People

Often people put their happiness in the hands of others. They think they need external validation to feel good about themselves. But relying on other people’s good opinions of you isn’t a healthy way to live. In fact, it’s an emotional disaster waiting to happen.

So, check internally with how you feel deep in your heart, do the best you can with your life, and let other people worry about themselves.

5. Happiness Is Not Pretending

Social media is full of people pretending to have perfect lives, but they don’t. No one does. The happiness you see on television or your social media feed may be genuine, and also maybe not. Remember, everyone is trying to show the best representation of their lives. Likely, a lot of them are pretending to be happier than they really are. No one is going to post their latest fight or talk about being fired from their job. So, the online world you see is quite often just an illusion. The real world is much more nuanced, and real happiness doesn’t happen in a bubble.

So where does that leave you?

Studies have shown that happiness comes from a combination of factors. It comes from finding deep satisfaction and meaning in your life. It comes from looking for things that are good and not focusing on what’s missing, lacking, or broken.

True and lasting happiness seems to depend on things such as a healthy mindset and proper expectations. Happy put more priority in relationships and connections with the people you love. Happy people highlight the things you’re grateful for and you’ll find more of them. Truly happy people are at peace with the ups and downs of life and find joy and contentment whatever their circumstances might be.

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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 4M ago

Procrastination Payoffs

by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher

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What are procrastination payoffs? They are the payoffs you think you receive by putting things off for yet another day or when you eventually get around to it. These payoffs become the justification for your procrastination.

You may be familiar with the concept that everything you do has a payoff or a reward of some kind, and procrastination is no different! Though it may not seem likely that such a negative habit could have a rewarding payoff, when you start exploring the possibilities you realize that you are indeed gaining something by putting things off.

So, let’s take a look at some common payoffs of procrastination and consider whether or not they might apply to your life:

Procrastination Payoff 1 – Keeping you firmly planted in your comfort zone. Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things can be scary! A procrastination payoff provides the illusion of comfort and safety, so you don’t have to face frightening or uncertain situations that you may not feel ready to handle.

Unfortunately, a life without risk is also a life without rewards. Procrastination may help you avoid feeling scared and challenged, but you’ll also end up feeling powerless and stuck.

Procrastination Payoff 2 – Avoiding conflict and confrontation. You may procrastinate as a way to avoid standing up for yourself or making difficult decisions that would improve your quality of life. This can include things like asking for something you want, telling someone how you feel, or even avoiding social situations altogether.

While it may seem safer to avoid situations you’re not sure how to handle, doing so keeps you feeling isolated and scared. You’ll not only avoid the “bad stuff” like conflict and confrontation; you’ll also deny yourself the more positive benefits that come from interacting meaningfully with others!

Procrastination Payoff 3 – Providing a handy excuse for not being more successful. The more you procrastinate, the messier your life is going to seem, which creates a convenient excuse for not achieving more. You can point to your financial problems, your relationship dysfunctions and your mountains of stress and affirm that it’s because of those things that you haven’t reached your goals yet.

Under the surface of these excuses, it’s more likely that you feel intimidated by the thought of success so you’ll avoid creating it in your life – even if it’s something you think you want badly!

Once you understand your procrastination payoff, you can learn to gradually shift your focus to the better payoffs you’ll enjoy by overcoming your procrastination. You may need to face a few fears and build enough courage to step out of your comfort zone, but once you do, you quickly realize that those old procrastination payoffs weren’t payoffs at all – they were just shackles holding you back.

I would like to share a funny story about the opposite of procrastination, which is being highly motivated…

One evening a few years ago, my wife and I were enjoying a nice meal with friends at a local Mexican eatery. The couple we were dining with were close friends and we had even vacationed with them before. During dinner, I just blurted out that it would be awesome to be at the beach right now to really enjoy the wonderful weather we were having.

Everyone’s face immediately lit up like the 4th of July. It was obvious that like-minded thoughts were racing through our heads. And on a side note, my wife and I just happened to own a condo at the beach that was just sitting there waiting to be enjoyed.

So, I piped up again and pointed out that nothing was really stopping us from getting up from that table, going home to pack our bags, and arriving at the beach condo by bedtime that night after only a short 2 ½ hour drive. Well, that resulted in the four broadest grins you have ever seen in your life. It also resulted in four not-so-young people scrambling to their feet and eventually rolling down the highway towards the coast in world-record time.

So, what’s my point? The point is that people don’t put off what they really want to do, even if it’s unplanned and requires a great amount of effort. In fact, our journey to the beach that evening didn’t involve weighing the pros and the cons of such a spontaneous idea. It didn’t involve any complaining about the amount of effort and speed it would require. It didn’t even involve giving much thought to much of anything as we four passionately wanted to go to the beach for a few days. Our reward was worth the effort!

The next time you experience procrastination in your life, try your best to reframe the experience by giving yourself a positive payoff or reward. It doesn’t even have to be related. For example, you could treat yourself to a movie or something you enjoy when you turn in that report you’ve been putting off. You get the idea.

Replace the dread of doing something you don’t want to do with the anticipation of receiving some type of treat. You may not jump on it as fast as my beach trip, but I’ll bet your anti-procrastination payoff will motivate you.

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Great Answers Require Great Questions

by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher

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In order to get great answers for your life, doesn’t it make sense that you first need to ask great questions? Have you ever considered that the reason you don’t have the answers you’re looking for has a lot to do with the wrong questions that you’re asking yourself or others? Great answers require great questions.

Most people tend to ask themselves questions laced with self-pity wanting to know why this or that happened or didn’t happen to them as if they are being singled out or picked on as an innocent victim. When they see things working out for others, they get upset or jealous instead of wanting to know what those other people did differently to enjoy different outcomes. Instead of searching for solutions, they resort to the tired old blame game.

Inward-focused, self-analyzing questions always will produce the most meaningful and powerful answers. It’s when we take full ownership of our options and opportunities that the scope and quality of our questions change for the better. Solution-minded questions are powerful. Weak-minded questions are powerfully destructive.

When you ask a question of yourself, your brain goes to work to do what it is designed and loves to do – which is to find an answer! It’s like throwing a ball or a stick for a dog to retrieve. Your brain actually enjoys being asked questions.

Great questions have a way of instantly engaging your brain to think and when your brain is thinking, you discover answers to life’s many questions. Your brain contains an enormous amount of positive, life-changing insights, knowledge and answers and great questions allow you to siphon it out so you can use and benefit from it.

Questions control your focus – they instantly shift your thinking and emotions in any direction you choose. Let’s say for example you ask: “What is one thing I totally love about my life right now, and why do I love it?” Because you choose to find an answer to this question, you intentionally direct your thinking and emotions in a specific way, no matter what may have been on your mind previously or what you had been feeling before. Your focus shifts in the direction of your uplifting question.

Questions also give you clarity, which helps you eliminate fear. Asking and answering a great question about something is like adding a puzzle piece to a picture you want to see. The more pieces you discover through the questions you ask, the clearer the picture becomes. The more clarity you have, the less fear you have to act because your path is now clear! Let’s look at some great examples…

1 – Try asking productive questions that focus on your strengths, resources, and solutions, not on questions that focus on lack, weakness, and failure:

o Instead of asking: “Why can’t I get this right?”, ask: “How can I get this right?”
o Instead of asking: “What if this goes wrong?”, ask: “What if this turns out awesome?”
o Instead of asking: “Why am I so unmotivated?”, ask: “How can I take a small step forward?”

2 – Try using questions instead of negative statements:

o Instead of saying: “I can’t believe this happened”, ask: “Why did this happen and what can I learn?”
o Instead of saying: “This probably won’t work”, ask: “How can I make this work?”
o Instead of saying: “They just don’t understand me”, ask: “How can I make this clearer to them?”

3 – Try using “When/Then Statements” to trigger yourself to ask great questions when certain events occur in your life:

o When I need to make a decision, then I will ask myself: “What are my values in this area?”
o When I start a new day, then I will ask myself: “What are my priorities for today?”
o When I’m faced with a problem, then I will ask myself: “What are my options towards a solution?”

Great answers require great questions. The more you teach yourself to focus on solution-based questions, the more great answers will bless your life.

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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 4M ago

5 Questions With Dave Meltzer

Personal Growth Magazine Asks Thought Leaders These 5 Questions…

1 – What are a couple of your most effective habits?

My most important effective habit is being a student of my calendar, which means studying not only the things I have scheduled but also looking to maximize the “white space” that is in my calendar. This is something that only takes 10-15 minutes in the morning, but allows you to focus on what you need to get out of the day, making each day more productive and ensuring that you are accessible to those around you.

I also put a focus on creating a grateful mindset, which is why I believe everyone should say or think “Thank You” after they wake up and before they go to bed.

2 – How do you make your best decisions?

The best decisions are made from your center, when you have a clear mind and the right information at hand to inform your choice. One thing I always suggest when facing a tough choice is to do what I call an RIC evaluation. That means you need to evaluate the Reasons to act, the Impacts that your actions can have (on you and others), and the Capabilities you have, want, and need in order to execute on your plan.

3 – How do you push through the obstacles you face?

The easiest way to push through any obstacle is to shift your mindset, so that it becomes an opportunity instead of an obstacle. One of my biggest personal changes has come from training myself that I “get to” do everything in my life, rather than I’ve “got to” do it. This allows me to check my ego and live in gratitude, knowing that there is no place I would rather be than in my own shoes.

4 – What did you give up in order to reach your goals?

I would say that understanding the needs of my ego has helped me to “give up” being beholden to those needs of the ego. We all tend to feel a need to be right or wrong, superior or inferior, separate or equal, all of these things. In fact, when I first went bankrupt it was my ego that forced me to lose everything, I was not humble enough to ask others for help. Now, I consciously make an effort to ditch the needs of my ego, so that I am able to more easily manifest my goals.

5 – What is your favorite quote or saying and why?

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

This quote is one of my favorites because shifting your perspective empowers you to manifest what you desire more rapidly and accurately, and then pass that value along to others.

Dave Meltzer (DaveMeltzer.com) is the CEO of Sports 1 Marketing, a Forbes “Top 10 Keynote Speaker“, award-winning humanitarian, and two-time national best-selling author, with 25 years of experience as an entrepreneur and executive in the legal, technology, sports, and entertainment fields. With expertise across many industry verticals, he is uniquely positioned as a world-renowned thought leader, business strategist and leading humanitarian.

Dave has created a platform that allows him to communicate with everyone from college students to c-suite executives by using his principles for business and life: gratitude, empathy, accountability, and effective communication. Utilizing these four principles every day allows Dave to live by his mission, “make a lot of money, help a lot of people, and have a lot of fun.”

Prominent Sports Executive
Dave is currently the Chief Executive Officer (CEO) at Sports 1 Marketing, a firm he co-founded with Hall of Fame Quarterback Warren Moon. Sports 1 Marketing is currently involved with several sports and entertainment projects such as NFL Player’s Association, Pro Football Hall of Fame, Super Bowl, Athlete Network, Shmoop, The Master’s, Spartan Races, Internships.com, and countless others.

Keynote Speaker
He is most recently listed by Forbes as one of the most sought after keynote speakers in “Top 10 Keynote Speakers You Must Hire For 2016”. He began speaking around the world early career in his career in technology, speaking at large conferences such as Ingram Micro, CTIA, IT-Korea, G2E Global Gaming Expo, COMDEX Australia, COMDEX Las Vegas, and several corporate speaking engagements.

Humanitarian
Every business project that Dave works with requires having a charitable component or partner; which helps Dave continue to live by his mission. He holds several positions on boards, and memberships, for charitable causes and business development, such as: Crescent Moon Foundation, Rose Bowl Foundation, OCTANe Business Incubator, Irvine Public School Foundation, Transformational Leadership Council, National High School Basketball Association, Unstoppable Foundation, Able Population, Boys & Girls Club of America: Orange County, Big Brothers & Big Sisters (fmr.), among several others.

Technology Pioneer
Dave is considered one of the pioneers in the ever-changing online world of technology. Early in his career, he was an executive for several technology companies, including Westlaw, Thomson Reuters, Everypath, Accenture, and the PC-E Phone. He was responsible for the launch of the world’s first smartphone, the PC-E Phone manufactured by Samsung.

Media Personality
Dave has a wide breadth of knowledge in several topics and is profiled by national publications such as Forbes, ESPN, Bloomberg, among countless others. He is frequently interviewed to discuss law, inspiration, technology, and trending sports topics. Past discussions have included: Donald Sterling and sports ethics; Ray Rice, Adrian Peterson and player relations; endorsements and player contracts; sports technology and fan experience; sports marketing and television revenue. Dave is the sports business analyst on CNBC “Fast Money” and ESPN Radio.

Successful Entrepreneur & Consultant
Dave currently sits on the advisory board for OCTANe. Other notable boards that he sits on: Commerce for a Cause, Stitch, Pledger, Hall of Fame Flag Football Association, Content.Market, Sports Brain, Celebviddy, Acumen.

Best-Selling Author
Dave is a best-selling author and launched his first book Connected To Goodness in 2014, which quickly gained national exposure for his codified principles to success using business and spirituality. His newest release, Compassionate Capitalism: A Journey to the Soul of Business, which he co-authored with Blaine Bartlett, delves into the flaws of traditional capitalism.

Mentor & Business Coach
Dave is always willing to help people who are looking to improve their personal and professional life. He is constantly asked to mentor C-level executives, entrepreneurs, athletes, young professionals, and students.

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Personal Growth Magazine by Personal Growth Team - 4M ago

Feed It Or Starve It?

by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher

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There is a timeless principle in life that goes like this… What you feed grows and what you starve dies.

Dr. McCoy of the television series Star Trek once said, “Do you know what you get if you feed a tribble too much? You get a whole bunch of hungry little tribbles.”

A large part of what you experience in life is the result of the thoughts and experiences you choose to feed and give energy to, and which ones you starve, or refuse to think about and give in to.

You feed things in your life (positive or negative) when you think about, look at, dwell on, justify, talk about, or read about them. Part of what you feed comes from: what you choose to watch, read, listen to, or talk about.

On the other hand, you starve things in your life (positive or negative) when you avoid thinking about, looking at, dwelling on, or talking about them.

When you feed one thing, you automatically starve its counterpart. For example, when you feed what’s positive and good, you automatically starve what’s negative and bad…and vice-versa. When you feed action, you starve fear and when you feed fear, you starve action. When you feed happiness, you starve sadness and when you feed sadness, you starve happiness… and so on.

The effects that you experience (either positive or negative) from what you feed are unavoidable. This means that you can’t neutralize the effects of feeding something negative by telling yourself ‘I’ll feed it, but I won’t let it bother me’ – because it will absolutely affect you, on some level.

It’s the age-old law of sowing and reaping. If you sow a seed, you reap a harvest from that seed. However, you can’t sow a watermelon seed, for example, and expect to receive an apple. No, you’ll get a watermelon. Won’t you? Similarly, you can’t sow neglect in a relationship and expect closeness. You can’t sow exposure to a horror movie and avoid fear. It doesn’t work that way.

To experience or grow more of something in your life, you have to feed your mind and involve yourself in things that promote that thing and starve the things that don’t won’t. You are in control of what you give your time, energy, thoughts, and actions to. It has little to do with what other people are doing, and a lot to do with what you are feeding yourself.

So, if you want more of something in your life, you must change what you watch, read, talk about, listen to, think about, or act upon in order to feed it. Likewise, if you want less of something in your life, you must change what you watch, read about, talk about, listen to, think about, or act upon to in order to starve it. It makes total sense and it’s always true.

I want to share the Tale of Two Wolves as an illustration…

One evening an elderly Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside of people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside of us all. One wolf is Evil. It’s anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other wolf is Good. It’s joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Grandfather, which wolf wins the battle?” The wise old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed wins.”

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