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You’ve picked the perfect new home. It boasts an open floor plan, spacious closets and a large fenced backyard for your dog. You have packed away most of your home and are beginning to store your excess things at a local storage in New York. But how do you prepare your dog for the move? What are ways to reduce anxiousness in your dog as you transition? Here are a few tips and tricks on how to move with your dog.
Moving can be both exciting and overwhelming. From packing boxes to wrapping your furniture many things take place simultaneously. One of the best ways to juggle it all is to plan ahead. Make a timeline based on your move date. Consider how many days it will take you to pack your home as well as how long it will take you to settle in comfortably. This timeline will help you plan around your dog’s care.
Keeping your dog around as you transition to your new home is not always the best plan. Consider leaving your dog in a familiar setting such as at his favorite doggy daycare. Familiar environments are less likely to cause undue stress on your dog. Use your timeline to determine when your dog will need care. Give yourself a few extra days to breathe and to ensure your dog remains unaffected.
Protect Your Dog
Preparing to move or store things in NY also involves protecting your dog. Is your dog up to date on recommended vaccinations? If you’re moving out of the country did you apply for a pet health certificate from your veterinarian? Will your move be cross country or to a bigger neighborhood? If so, consider microchipping your dog in the event your dog wanders away to explore her new home.
If you don’t already have pet insurance, moving is a good time to consider it. Planning for the unexpected could save you money. It can also give you peace of mind knowing your dog’s health is covered.
Maintain Your Routine
As you work hard to plan and prepare for your move, it is important to maintain your daily routine with your dog. If you always walk your dog after dinner keep it up and avoid using the time to pack more boxes. Maintaining your routine helps to reduce any anxiousness your dog may feeling.
If your dog is spending more time in daycare as you prep for your move you’ll need to establish a new one. Select a consistent time that you and your dog can spend together. Always bring along your dog’s favorite toy or treats to solidify the new routine. Keep your visits natural and not overly emotional to avoid inducing any unnecessary nervousness.
Get Extra Exercise
The most effective way to keep your dog relaxed during your move is to maximize your daily walks. Consider adding sprints and light jogging intervals to your walks. You can also increase the distance. A tired dog is a happy dog. By helping your dog release pent up energy you give your dog more reasons to sleep and relax rather than worry.
Don’t forgot to also stimulate your dog’s mind. A 10 minute block of training engages your dog quickly. Teaching and reinforcing basic commands is a great way to bond with your dog.
Set Your Dog’s Space
When it comes to reassuring your dog it all begins with familiarity. Does your dog have a favorite room in your home? Pack your dog’s favorite room last to avoid disrupting his routine. If you drop your dog off to doggy daycare a few days before your move day bring along her favorite things. Favorite things can include bedding, bowls, water dishes, toys, treats, and more.
Avoid washing your dog’s blankets or cloth toys to protect the integrity of their scents. These toys have scents that are reassuring to your dog. Familiarity during times of change and transition controls and reduces anxiousness.
Watch For Anxiety
Anxiety or anxiousness in dogs can be difficult to diagnose or identify. When a dog is anxious you may notice a loss of appetite, constant pacing, heavy panting or visual shaking. Is your dog showing intense behavior and scanning his environment constantly?
A good sign of anxiety or anxiousness is also found in your dog’s body language. Are your dog’s ears pressed back or is her tail stiff and rigid?
Watching for signs of anxiety is important to your dog’s mental and physical health. If you feel your dog has become anxiety ridden during your move in NY, consult your vet immediately. Your vet can prescribe medication or supplements that helps your dog find balance.
Moving with your dog can seem overwhelming for you and your furry family member. Yet, with planning and attention to detail you can make the transition to home stress free. For more tips and best practices into how to move with your dog always consult your vet. Your vet can provide guidance on how to move with your dog according to your lifestyle and needs.
The holidays are here again and if you’ve just moved to New York City, you have landed at a special time. It’s not yet cold enough to be uncomfortable outside but chilly enough to enjoy a hot coffee or a hot chocolate while taking in the beauty of the holiday decorations and enjoying our beautiful city. And while you probably feel you should be opening boxes and settling into your new apartment (and you likely should), it’s also nice to take some time to appreciate some holiday sites that won’t be back till next year. Here are some Big Apple spots we like to visit during the holidays:
The Tree and The Rink at Rockefeller Center
People come from all over the world to see the Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree. Lit at the end of November, the gigantic tree will have its lights on until January 7, 2018. And while the crowds can be annoying at times, you’d be sorry to miss this great holiday symbol of our city. After you’ve basked in the glory of the giant tree (it can be up to 100 feet tall) and its lights and snapped some shots (cause you know, Instagram), grab a cup of coffee and watch folks skate on the ice just below the tree. The rink is yet another iconic New York City scene and while you’re mesmerized by people going round and round, you might be taken aback to simpler times. Or if you fancy, take a spin on the ice yourself.
Department Store Window Displays
You’re likely dreading shopping at the department stores, and we don’t blame you, it’s a bit of the nightmare with all the people crowding the shopping areas looking for that perfect gift. But the window displays on 5th Avenue will make your trek worth all the headaches that come with holiday shopping. Barneys, Bergdorf Goodman, Lord & Taylor, Macys, Tiffany’s, Henry Bendel and Bloomingdales all have their own fabulous window display themes put together by master artisans. There’s a throw back feeling to watching dolls move and snow fall behind glass. They’re best viewed at night and kids will get a huge kick out of it also.
Even if you don’t want to shop, we still recommend visiting at least one of the city’s holiday markets—though you’ll likely pick up an item or two for people on your list, or for yourself (no worries, we won’t tell.). There’s something very European about the outdoor holiday markets with their hot cider, hand-made, one of a kind gifts, music and decorations. We especially love the German gingerbread cookies that are available only around this time, unique dry tea concoctions and hand knit warm accessories such as hats and mittens. There are several New York City markets to choose from but we especially like The Union Square Holiday Market and Columbus Circle Holiday Market. And for those who want a refuge from the cold, the Grand Central Holiday Fair or the Brooklyn Holiday Bazaar will also be special.
Dyker Heights Holiday Decorations
If you want to be rendered speechless—really, truly speechless—head on over to Dyker Heights, Brooklyn where neighborhood residents have taken decorating and outdoing one another to a whole new level. Seriously, you have got to see this. From giant inflatable snowmen to life-sized motorized nutcrackers, over-the-top lighting and music, this extravaganza is one you likely haven’t seen anywhere else. Go there and see why more than 100,000 people visit this Brooklyn neighborhood during the holidays each year.
Winter Village at Bryant Park
Though this venue can easily falls under the category of a holiday market, the Winter Village at Bryant Park is more than just a market. The space also boasts a 17,000 square foot ice skating rink (which you can use for free, that’s right free) and food, but more importantly a feeling of being transported to a village where you can meander walkways and visit the more than 150 vendors, snack, have some hot soup or enjoy a drink while you sit under a tree to watch others. Bonus: the shops are semi-warm as they are inside temporary enclosed surfaces, some of which have heaters.
Moving to another part of the world is exciting. New adventures await you and any others that you are relocating with. Chances are you are either headed for better opportunities or to be closer to loved ones. Now, you have to think about moving your belongings and any vehicles you might want to take with you. But how do you do that? Here are some tips to help you move a car overseas:
Value of the Car
Before you start taking steps towards moving any vehicles overseas, ask yourself what the value of the car is. This will help you determine if you are better off relocating the vehicle or if you might want to purchase a new car at the new location. Remember the value of anything could either be monetary or sentimental. For example, if the car once belonged to someone you love or you grew up taking family trips in it, you likely can’t place a price tag on it.
Once you figure out the value of the vehicle, figure out the cost of shipping, potential import taxes and compare that to a similar car at the new location and see if moving it is worth your while.
Think About Storage
If your move is temporary and you know you’ll be back in a year or two, consider placing your vehicle in storage. Find facilities where you can leave your vehicle in and figure out the cost to do so. Then do a cost analysis to see if it’s worth moving it. Of course, if you have family or friends who can give you a place to leave the vehicle during your absence, it likely will tip the monetary scale toward leaving it at home.
Research Shipping Companies
Once you’ve determined you definitely want to take your vehicle with you, you need to start researching car shippers. Always start by asking friends and family if they know any reputable companies. Internet research is your second line of defense: Find companies and read reviews on them, not just on their own site which tend to be favorably curated but also on third party sites like Yelp and on message boards.
Lastly, check the company credentials to make sure they meet moving industry standards. Make a list of your top choices.
Request and Evaluate Quotes
Ask your top choice shipping companies to provide you with quotes and contracts—do not sign anything yet. Carefully review what is included in each quote. For example, do they provide door-to-door delivery? Will your car be in a shared container or will it have its own? What are the risks associated with each? What are the additional fees (ask about customs clearance and other destination fees.)? What kid of insurance is included in the fee? What type of additional insurance can you purchase separately and what are the costs associated with it?
Find Out About Shipping Times
Not all shipping methods get your car to its destination at the same time. Ask shipping companies what method they offer to ship the car and how long it will take to have your vehicle arrive at the new location. Typically, the fastest and most expensive method way to ship a vehicle is to book a container and have the container on a ship headed out. The less expensive, and slower, option is to have the car on a roll on roll off (RORO) ship where it will be transported with other cars. The least expensive option is a consolidated shipping container where your car will be packed with others in a large container. With this option you need to wait for the container to become full before it can head to its destination.
Prepare Paperwork for Shipping Company
When you’re ready to sign with one of the companies, make sure you have proper documentation with you. Typically, to have a car shipped overseas, you’ll need a passport, original car title and a bill of sale. Call the company ahead of time to ask if they require any additional documentation.
Inspect Before and After
Once you’ve picked your shipper, the ports and the method of shipping and signed a contract you’re ready to send off your vehicle. But before doing so, make sure you inspect your car carefully—note any dents or damage that the car already has and make sure to take photos. You need this documentation in the event that the car gets damaged during transport. Once it arrives at its destination, do another inspection to insure that no damage has incurred during the move.
The holidays are a jolly time of the year—one that we love to spend with family and friends and use to relax and reflect on the year. They are also a hectic time, with all the shopping, cooking, coordinating, traveling and what not. And if you have to move, the added stress can wreak havoc on an already trying time. But there’s no need to allow relocation to completely ruin the holidays for you. With a little planning you can ensure a safe and organized move as well as a merry and happy holiday season. Here are some tips on how to move during the most wonderful time of the year:
Once you know you’ll be moving during the holidays, start researching movers, trucks and any other services that you might need during the move. Remember that anyone that you depend on will be busier than usual because of the holidays—after all they have their own commitments too. So you’re best off planning ahead, way ahead, and nailing down the specific services and companies that you need to use. To fine movers and other services, do thorough online research, ask friends and family and read as many reviews as possible.
Once you find a reputable mover, book them right away. There’s often a shortage of staff during the holidays as many take time off to spend with their families or travel so movers book up fast. Get an estimate and read through the contract and all the fine print to make sure everything looks right to you.
Relocating during the holiday season can be more expensive than other times of the year. Find out what the costs associated with your move are and incorporate that into your relocation budget. Knowing the costs ahead of time can mean you might need to cut expenses elsewhere like buying gifts or holiday decorations. Also check with the movers and the truck company (if you’re considering a DIY approach) to see if they have dates or times of the week that might be less costly.
Are you one of those people that love holiday decorations? If so, and if your move is right before or after a holiday—consider boxing up those decorations separately, so you can either pack them last or unpack first before or after the move. That way, you can keep the decorations up as long as possible before you move. Or put them up as soon as you arrive into your new home. It seems silly to care about such things at such a hectic time, but it’s always nice to enjoy some aspects of what you love about the holidays.
One of the things we like about moving is purging all the items we don’t need any more. Donating is a great way to both get rid of unwanted items and place them in the hands of those who can put those things to good use. And what better time to donate than during the holidays? Consider local charities, churches and organizations like The Salvation Army and Goodwill when looking for donation centers.
You might typically be dreaming of a white Christmas, but if your move falls on the day of a storm or freeze, you’ll need to be ready. Make sure you keep your cold-weather clothes and gear handy. Additionally, keep items like shovels, snow scrapers and salt nearby in case you need them on moving day. Furthermore, watch out for slippery sidewalks and frigid temperatures on moving day. And remember to turn on the utilities in your new home so it’ll be nice and toasty when you arrive.
Although you have a plethora of responsibilities, don’t forget to take some time off from all moving related tasks to celebrate the holidays and spend time with family, if at all possible. If near family or friends, you can still share a meal or some laughs with loved ones. If on the road, maybe consider treating yourself to a nice warm meal on the way and chatting with those you love on the phone. Treat yourself to some eggnog, maybe a present and have yourself a merry moving season!
The idea of moving makes many people feel stressed. After all, it is a lot of work to relocate an entire household and adjust to a new place and get oneself and the family settled in new environs. We often think about and try to address ways to best overcome all the factors that can be stressful about moving. But relocation also has its positives and for those moments that you might forget or need a little pick me up, here is a list to remind you why moving can be a good thing:
1. Fresh Beginnings
Yes, unfamiliar situations can be overwhelming, but they can also be exciting. A new home, neighborhood, town and even country can give you a fresh start with little baggage. You can pick the home that suits you and your family’s tastes, and discover all the newness that comes with being in a place you’ve not lived in before. You know how you start to look at trees and buildings and sights when you go on vacation, but don’t do much of it in your own neighborhood? Well, in a new home and town you’ll be seeing everything for the first time, noticing all the beauty and interests around and more than likely posting a lot of pictures on social media!
2. New Friends
Being in a place where you know little folks brings with it the opportunity to meet new people and make new friends, thus expanding your network and making for unexpected kinships. Your neighbors, new co-workers and kids’ parents are all folks you might want to hang out with. You never know what friends new places might have in store for you.
3. Improved Situation
Some people move to seek a better living situation, some move for more space, a new job, better school system, improved house amenities and or to be closer to family. In most of these cases the move will likely improve your living circumstances and will be worth all the work and thought that went into it, which means you’ll soon forget the perils of relocation.
One positive side effect of moving is getting rid of extra items that have been weighing you down. De-cluttering often naturally happens during a move. Some of your extra stuff that has been hidden from sight comes to light as you pack and unpack and it’s a great time to decide if it’s time to sell, donate or get rid of extra items. Once you do, you’ll be living in a cleaner, more organized space.
Many folks love decorating but can’t justify doing so when their homes are in good working shape and already look attractive. But if you’ve got the decorating bug, moving will often force you to rethink the layout of your furniture, wall colors, lighting fixtures and much more. This time you have an excuse to head to the local paint store and finding new shades for the walls.
6. Buying New Furniture and Household Items
Another indulgence that is often justified with a move is the purchase of new furniture and household items, especially if one is moving from a small space, like an apartment, to a larger space, such as a house. For example, if you’ve been living in New York City and have recently relocated to a suburb you likely need a whole lot of furniture, dishes, beds and bedding and the likes to fill up the new digs. Depending on your budget and taste, you can either spend the aftermath of the move buying everything or stretch the process out to find items that are both to your liking and feasible over time. Either way, it’s a fun activity! Because, really who doesn’t like shopping?
7. Being a Local Tourist
One of the best things about living in a new town or state is discovering spots to visit or hang out in. You can get a guidebook, or do a little Internet research, and see what’s around, then little trips to explore these fresh sights. For example, if you’re moving from Manhattan to Connecticut, you might opt to take a day trip to the seaside village of Mystic, where you can walk the historic downtown, eat some seafood or watch the boats go by. Or find a new restaurant or coffee shop. It’s all a brand new adventure.
Staying in the city or moving to the greener pastures of the burbs is a never-ending debate for many New York City parents. Real estate in the city is undoubtedly expensive, leaving most parents with limited options in terms of providing a lot of living space for their kids. Furthermore, school options can be more limited in the city and at times cost prohibitive, whereas in the outskirts schools often come at no cost. However, being out of New York could mean a commute for one or both parents, plus other disadvantages. Here are some factors to consider to help you decide which option might be right for your family:
This is one of the main reasons people make the leap from cities to the suburbs. The farther away one typically gets from a metropolis, the more feasible real estate typically gets. What this means is that for the price of a one-bedroom apartment in New York City, you’re likely to end up with a house that has multiple bedrooms and large living areas in the suburbs. This means more room for you and your family. And don’t forget the outside space: Single family dwellings in the suburbs often come with generous-sized yards that could be used as a space to play in for the kids, a place to do gardening and lounging and to have amenities like a pool. There’s really no contest on this one, for most people, suburbs offer larger living and outdoor spaces.
Single-family dwellings come with more upkeep than apartments and townhouses. If you are thinking of a standalone house, it’d be wise to consider the extra work and cost associated with maintaining it. In the city, a monthly maintenance fee likely takes care of keeping the common areas—such as hallways, garbage room, roof decks and garages—clean and good shape. In a house, however, your responsibilities go beyond the inside of your walls. You’ll need to keep up the lawn, plow snow, clear gutters and maintain all else on your own. Whether you hire people to take care of the upkeep or do it yourself, you’ll need to reflect on the cost and time involved.
If your job is in the city, you’ll need to consider the extra time and expense you’ll expend for your commute. From neighboring states, there are trains, busses and ferries that carry commuters to and from New York City every day. Look up the cost, parking options and distance and see if the commute is something you can handle.
Many folks opt to live outside the city because of the quality and expenses associated with a school system. Consider where your children would go to school in the city and what the acceptance requirements are. Compare that with potential towns that you’re considering in the suburbs. Look at the both the education offered and the feasibility and see which one makes more sense for you and your kids.
In the city, residents sometimes opt to rent extra space. This can include studio for artists, office space for those who work from the home, or storage space just to house items that don’t necessarily fit in a city apartment. Tally up these miscellaneous costs and see how it compares to a house in the suburbs that might have extra room to take care of all these needs and see which one works better for you.
Restaurants, Cafes and Activities
Cities often outdo suburbs when it comes to attractions and events. There’s no Broadway in New Jersey or Connecticut and it’s unlikely to have your choice of so many restaurants and cafes in the burbs. If a culturally rich landscape is important to you and you want access to it all the time, you might want to stay in the city. If, however, your more of a homebody or don’t mind making your way into New York every once in a while to hear a talk or see a performance living outside the city might be a better fit for you.
It’s important to think about childcare in both city and suburb living situations. Are you looking for daycare, or to hire a nanny? Consider your options and see which one makes more sense for you. For example, if you’re thinking of having an au pair, you’ll need space to house an extra person—something that might be impractical in the city.
You’ve moved into your New York City apartment and decided it’s time for new furniture. One item to get rid of is your old and saggy mattress and opt for a new one. But how to choose? Mattresses come in a dizzying variety. Once you enter the mattress section of a store, confusion quickly sets in, leaving you wondering how you’ll ever be able to choose. Luckily, with a bit of guidance and planning the process of finding the right mattress can be a little easier and less puzzling. Here are some tips:
The Right Support
We all have our preferences when it comes to the kind of support that makes us comfortable while sleeping. Some like the bouncy feeling of a soft mattress, while others prefer firmer mattresses. Then there are those who want the base of the mattress to be firm but the top to be soft. Luckily, there are options for everyone and you can try different varieties to see which you prefer. Of course, a couple of minutes on a mattress isn’t typically enough to indicate if you’ll get a good night’s sleep on it. So take note of the kind of mattress you’ve found comfortable in the past and any physical conditions, such as chronic back problems, you might have. Generally speaking a mattress that holds your body in natural alignment is the one that’s likely the most comfortable.
Like everything else, when buying new furniture, mattresses come in different price ranges. How much you should spend depends on your budget and what you find within that range. You may find after a few trips to the store for something comfortable and longer lasting, you’d rather spend more on the mattress. Or you may find that as you increase your budget, at some point you can no longer tell the difference in comfort. Typically, you can find a decent mattress in the $600 to $1,000 range in the New York area you will be happy with. Anything more than that puts you in the market for a luxury mattress—which means specialty foams and more advanced coil systems.
Consider any medical conditions when purchasing a mattress. This could mean anything from back problems to allergies. For example, if you’re allergic to dust mites, you may opt for latex or foam mattresses. Always check with your physician to see what they recommend for your specific concerns.
If you share your bed with someone else you’ll need to consider his or her preferences, tool. Hopefully, you both share the idea of what constitutes a good night’s rest. But sometimes, your partner may prefer a hard mattress while you’d rather sleep on one providing medium support. In those cases you might opt for dual chamber mattresses where you can adjust each side to your preference.
Negotiating the Price
Much like buying a car, buying new furniture including a mattress is negotiable—which can either be a frustrating or a fun experience (depending on your bargaining skills). After you choose the mattress you want, you can price it out at several stores—taking into account coupons and credit card discounts—then play the retailers against each other. You’d be surprised at how often one retailer will try to beat out the other!
Return Policy and Warranties
When purchasing a mattress check to see what the store’s return policy is. This is especially important because of the off-chance you take the mattress home, use it for a while, and decide it’s not comfortable. Perhaps you can get some of your money back depending on the store policy.
As far as warranties go, they tend to come with some fine print, which you should read. Just know that a longer warranty doesn’t necessarily mean a better product. Experts say, warranties are often just a matter of marketing.
Don’t Forget Online Options
Over the past several years, there’s been a direct manufacturer to customer mattress movement. What this means is that by cutting the middleman (retailers in this case) you can purchase your mattress directly from the maker, online. And while it can seem scary to purchase a mattress you’ve never seen or tried, you get a free trial period to try the mattresses at home. Casper and Leesa are two of several such mattress startups.
A new job is nothing short of exciting and chances are if you’ve been offered one, it’s worth packing up your life and moving for it. But before you say yes to the offer, you might want to think about the relocation package, which can cost many thousands of dollars, especially if the planned move is a long-distance one.
Companies often offer relocation assistance packages. Such packages are great because they take some of the moving stress and cost off your shoulders. But don’t be quick to accept just any package. Decide what your individual needs are and make sure the offer works for you and your family. Remember you can always try to negotiate the terms. Here are some benefits you can ask for and negotiate:
Before accepting an offer, ask the company offering the job to send you and your family to visit the prospective city or town you’ll be moving to. This ensures anyone who’s moving with you will be comfortable with the decision to relocate to that area.
You can also negotiate visits for time after you’ve accepted an offer. You can use these visits to scout neighborhoods and go see homes you have an interest in renting or purchasing.
Some companies will pay living expenses for up to 90 days while you’re looking for new housing. They typically house you in furnished executive condos or apartments reserved for this purpose.
Having housing for a few months means you have a bit more time to look for a place that you and your family will be happy moving into. Since you’ll be rent- and mortgage-free during that time, you can save a bit of cash to help you move into your new home—whether it’s a down payment or a security deposit.
Packing and Unpacking Assistance
In addition to relocating your things to a new town, companies will sometimes pay for moving pros to pack you in the old home and unpack your goods in the new one. This is an add-on that many professional moving companies offer and the extra charge may be small enough that you can easily negotiate this with your new employer.
Transport of Goods
This might seem obvious to many but still worth mentioning. If nothing else, your relocation assistance package should include the transport of your items from your old to your new home, ideally by a professional moving company.
If you have a car you’d like to keep and don’t want to drive it long distance—which can put extra miles on your vehicle and also is a lot of driving time—you should see if your new employer will arrange to have it shipped for you. The same applies to motorcycles, boats, and any other modes of transport that you plan to take with you.
Storage of Goods
It can take months before you and your family can find the perfect home to start your lives in a new location. For that reason, you need to have your belongings safely stored. Make sure you negotiate for your goods to be insured and housed in a self-storage facility that’s clean, safe, and climate-controlled if needed.
Moving expenses can be unpredictable. You may need a rental car while your vehicle is being transported, or you may have to pay for meals out if you’re staying at a temporary place without a kitchen. Either way, companies sometimes offer a cash stipend, which you can use for such miscellaneous expenses during a move.
Assistance Selling Home
Some relocation packages may include help selling your current home so you can move to a new home and job sooner. Furthermore, in order to help with purchasing a new home, some companies will offer some assistance such as paying closing costs.
New York City is wonderful, exciting, and intimidating all at the same time. You’ve wanted to get here for a long time and now your moving date is approaching quickly. The details involved in the transition and relocating alone is starting to feel a bit overwhelming. You have many concerns, some of which may include how you’ll establish new friendships, find local resources, and generally feel at home in this new environment. These feelings are normal and best of all, you’ve chosen the right place to move! The friendly people of NYC will make adapting to your new surroundings simple. Your angst can be alleviated with some of these practical tips:
Get to Know Your Neighborhood
Once the movers are gone and you have started to settle in, it’s time to get to know what a diverse and inviting place you’ve picked to live. Although New York is a big bustling city, it’s made up a lot of small neighborhoods and each one feels like its own unique small village or town. Your new neighborhood will become your “backyard.” Start getting to know it by taking time to frequent the nearby deli or coffee shop, and then move on to discovering the establishments that make it unique to your area alone. Once you become a regular, chances are not only will the retailers get to know who you are but you might bump into the same people and start to make some friends. Neighborhood locals are also a great resource for learning about what’s happening locally or for getting recommendations as to a particular thing you may need nearby. The excitement of your exploration will take time but will be totally worth it.
Find Like-Minded People
Like to play guitar, or read, or spend your days visiting museums? There are groups for that. Check out meetup.com and forums where you can find others who enjoy the same interests as you. You can also just start going to events and soon you’ll see the same people frequenting the same establishments and may even start venturing out of your new neighborhood to other neighborhoods nearby. Getting around is easy. No need to own a car in the Big Apple. At your disposal are a myriad of public transportation options. Soon you’ll be navigating the massive subway system with ease or hopping on the frequently running buses. And of course you can always learn a lot from one of the many New York City cab drivers. And now your options include easy smart phone access to Lyft and Uber and share an economical ride perhaps with a new-found friend.
Go Out with Work Friends
Your co-workers know things, not just about guiding you in your new job, but about the city—be it an apartment that’s being vacated or a dentist they like. These co-workers can also be the start of new friendships. If you find a common bond, perhaps you will enjoy each other’s company beyond the chitchat of the office. So put yourself out there…be willing to go the next time a group from the office invites you to a happy hour. Chances are you’ll enjoy it more than you think. And if you’re lucky, someone at work might just have relocated as well and is adjusting to their own moving experience. Already a common bond, the two of you could venture out and explore together.
Make Your Home Personal
Even if your apartment is tiny and not what you had in mind you can still make it feel like home. Surround yourself with the things you like. Use multi-functional furniture pieces so you can get the most out of your small space without feeling boxed in. You’d be surprised how a simple vase of flowers or a scented candle can make you smile when you come through the door at the end of your day. Whatever it is that reminds you of what you love about being home, you should do. Be friendly with your neighbors in your building. A quick hello to someone you pass in the hall, on the staircase or in the elevator can develop into a friendship or at the very least an acquaintance that may make you feel secure in your home just knowing they are nearby.
Give Yourself a Break
Moving is hard. Relocating solo is even harder, so be kind to yourself and remember it might take a little time before you’re totally comfortable in your new environs and that’s okay. And before you know it, you’ll be the neighborhood expert and the one making recommendations to the newcomers. You’ll not only survive your move, you won’t ever regret it.
There are fewer joys in life than being a parent. However, the task of parenting, while being enormously gratifying is also a lot of work, especially for those going at it alone. Add to that a relocation and things can quickly become very trying. But like all things in life, planning will help immensely. So for those super moms and dads out there here are a few tips to make your move a little easier to handle:
Plan, Plan, Plan
Just like everything else you do when kids are involved, planning is key when it comes to moving. Once you know you’re relocating start listing all the tasks that need to get done. This can include finding a suitable home and a new school for the kids (and enrolling them) and pinpointing childcare and pediatricians. Planning should include all tasks related to the actual moving day as well—such as finding a suitable moving company, buying supplies, packing and labeling and submitting change of addresses to the post office and others. You should also think about childcare for the day of the move—maybe the kids can stay with a family member or a friend or if you have movers coming, you can go somewhere with the kids for a few hours and turn it into a mini fun outing.
When you know a move is imminent, prepare the kids by talking to them about it. It’s especially hard for the younger ones to leave their friends, school, neighborhood and environs. Luckily, kids are very adaptable and resilient so don’t underestimate them. Talk about the opportunity to make new friends and learn fresh things and remind them that they can keep in touch with their current friends thanks to technology. As long as they are not kept in the dark, kids will feel safer and more comfortable with a move.
Involve the Young Ones
Kids love to do chores, at least for a while. Think of how many times they’ve grabbed the broom to clean the floors or wanted to help you make a meal. Allowing them to be part of the sorting and packing process could make the move a little more of an activity and a little less about all the change that’s about to happen. You can also make little games out of it—like who can pack their clothes faster—and treat the kids to pizza or ice cream afterwards.
Ask for Help
If the option exists, ask a family member or friend to watch the kids for a few hours at a time so you can pack and tend to getting thing ready for the move. Most of the time it’s hard to get any actual work done while also babysitting so why not delegate the task? If you don’t want to impose or don’t have anyone to help you, consider hiring a babysitter for a few hours or see if you can drop the kids off at a class or activity center. If they go to school, you might consider taking some time off to get stuff done while they aren’t home.
Think about Money
Being a single parent can be hard on many levels—including financially. If money is a worry, think about ways you can cut costs, before, during and after the move. Curb extra spending like going to the movies or out to dinner for a while to save up for the move. Plan on keeping packing supply costs down: Reuse boxes by asking friends and family to keep any they might have for you and visit liquor stores and big box stores to see if you can score some. Instead of packing peanuts, or bubble wrap, consider using newspapers and clothing and linens to pack your stuff. And before the move think about selling items you might not need in the new home—both to have extra cash and to avoid paying for those items to be moved.
Both for your sake and theirs, having a good attitude toward the move will make the transition easier for all involved. After all, it’s a new adventure and who knows what new opportunities and friends and who knows what the move will bring. So smile and enjoy the venture.