At Miss Kay Seamstress we have a combined experience of 50 years in bridal wear, professional and very friendly, many of our brides mention that their fittings were one of their favourite occasions on the run up to their big day. Get a truly luxurious and bespoke alteration experience for Bridal and Special Occasion ladies wear.
If you asked a bride what she would dearly love before her Wedding Day, it would probably be to see her full look for the big day, her gown, make-up and hair all together for just a moment. We just need to know how it’s all going to work together.
But let’s just stop a moment and think of it another way round, while we are worrying about this colour matching this, do my shoes go with this, do these earrings work with this? Take a breath and remember that somewhere in the middle of all these elements coming together, there is the most important item. That is easily you!
We are bombarded with ideas for our wedding, from every corner. Especially when it comes to what and how we wear. Accessories, hair and makeup are how the whole thing comes together, and I’d like to offer some sage words on how to approach the whole subject!
Ok, so you have your beautiful gown, it might have some back detail or no back? Pretty sleeves or a high neckline…
How should I wear my hair? Friends and family are telling me that I shouldn’t let it cover back, shoulders, neckline…
But I don’t like my hair up? The breaking news is, that you should never let your gown dictate your hairstyle. The “feel” of your gown, be it boho, vintage, retro can give you a direction, but you really need to feel like you on your wedding day.
I often hear Mothers of the Bride saying ” Everyone sees the back!” and yes of course everyone does see the back. They also spend a lot of time looking at the front and sides, and just you in general! Most of your photos will be from the front as well. When your partner sees you, they will first see you from the front.
So with that in mind, and before we too caught up with plaits, curls in the back of our updos, just remember that they will want to see you, you as a bride, not somebody they do not recognise.
Hair accessories can be seen as quite scary for a bride, they often get relegated to that “back” again. Hair accessories do have a lot of potential however in linking you with your dress, think of them as a full stop, a frame, a finishing touch. Tiaras are making a come back, your hairdresser will love a hair vine (they are a doddle to arrange and fix in) and an embellished comb or clip will just add that dressed look that you do need on the day. Your gown and the feeling you want for the day will guide direction, obviously your gown is a big part of your day, it’s a pretty big deal. Adding accessories to your perfect wedding ensemble is the best way to bring yourself to the level of your wedding dress, so you are wearing the dress, the dress is not wearing you.
Let’s talk jewellery, again if you want to wear your great aunt’s locket, even if it doesn’t “go”, that’s absolutely fine. Your outfit should make you happy, but I would caution with the following, just try a small dangle earring, a necklace however small will take the focus away from your face, we still need to see “you”. However you decide, I will stick with the most important part of this advice, a statement necklace can easily end up looking false, and as if you’ve tried a little too hard.
Makeup, all you need to focus on is lips and eyes. These should be emphasised and make sure your foundation has lots of staying power. Again you must feel like yourself.
With all the above in mind, perhaps it doesn’t matter if we don’t see it all together till the day. We’ve chosen our hair style how we like it, and our makeup is making us feel like the best version ever. We love our bridal gown and well chosen accessories. On the Big Day it will all come together, and you will be thrilled with the result, maybe that in its self is the most fabulous surprise and treat to be looked forward to!
Let’s first put a few misnomers to bed, veils aren’t too much. The right veil will not mask or cover the back and you don’t have to be marrying in a cathedral to be allowed to wear one!
It really won’t hurt to try a veil. I am a bit of a fan, but if you feel uncomfortable wearing a veil, then you really shouldn’t wear one.
Grace, in one of our veils Embrace
Do give a veil a go though, they have the power to make you feel less exposed on your walk up the aisle, magically soften our arms (nobody likes their arms, you’re not the only one!) and they do add to the romantic feel of your bridal ensemble.
They can frame you and your gown, amazing at showcasing a backless gown and can be that final thing you have been missing from your bridal look.
You may have tried a veil or two already, but it’s very easy to try the “wrong” veil. Try something as simple as possible, and not too full. At Miss Kay’s, our veil expert Francesca, can consult and advise on our bespoke veil range, and there is always plenty of time at your alteration appointment for some styling.
Fleur, our hand painted veil.
If considering wearing a veil, where’s the best place to wear it?
Anywhere between the top of your head and the middle of the back of your head will work. A veil will seldom look good if positioned in the nape of your neck, it will lay down your back and cover your gown.
What length? A veil is meant to add elegance to your look, nothing shorter than just under your bottom will always work, although a ballet length gown looks great with a short fluffy veil. Long veils will hang away from your gown, great for back detail gowns, you can still see everything!
Embellished lace veils look luxurious with lace gowns, do ensure that the lace finished at your wrist, rather than running all the way up to your head, that can look too heavy around your face.
In essence the best way to decide about a veil, is to try one!
You have found the dress of your dreams. Your thoughts soon turn to accessories, shoes being high up on the list. Shoes can very well be the Achilles heel for a bride, the glass slippers from fairy tales are not always possible!
What do you consider when buying? Price, colour and comfort? Is that possible? Where am I going to be walking? On cobblestones, field, a disco floor? Where on earth do you start?
If you have dreamt of a pair of Choos, red soles or Carries go-to pair, they really are what you should have. The rule of thumb with your choices for the big day is that everything you put on that day, is because you love it! They can be lipstick pink if you desire, or something blue and your something new.
Dolce & Gabbana
Trying to talk a Bride out of vertiginous heels is pointless, if that’s what floats her boat, end of, it’s the brides choice! But there are a few tips I’d like to share with you.
1. If you must go high, try to pick a pair that has an ankle strap or that holds the front of your foot. These will hold your feet back in the shoe, and should save your soles from burning. In fact this goes for anything with a strap high or low, it will always be more comfortable.
2. Flat shoes are great for comfort, but you can find that you are shuffling along or flapping one foot in front of another, you will need to be aware of your posture and gait.
3.In the evening the flip flops or converse come out, yes your feet will be comfy, but your gown will drive you crazy as it’s now all over the floor and under your feet. A wedge sandal close to the height of your day shoe is a good option.
4. Cushioned bridal shoes are a good choice, rather than a day to day shoe. I would say that the majority of purpose made bridal shoes, will be more comfortable. Unfortunately it is also true that the cheaper the shoe the more uncomfortable it will be.
Rainbow Club Bridal Footwear
5. Shoe, peep toe, sandal? Again go for something you like, don’t forget it doesn’t have to be the exact shade of your gown, anything satin will tend to reflect the colour of your gown, as a general rule anything described as “Ivory” should fit the bill? Both Nude, gold and silver should work well with your gown.
6. Please bring your shoes to ALL of your fittings, even if you don’t have the exact ones, it will make a huge difference to how you look and feel in your bridal gown, plus it’s really difficult for your Seamstress to guess how long your hem will be without!
I hope this guidance will help, my brides are welcome to bring as many shoes choices as they like to their fittings. We are always on hand for styling advice, or call, email if you need more advice.
Don’t forget that there is a direct connection between what you have on your feet and your best smile!
Finding a gown to wear on such a special day can be quite a trial or relatively easy. There are no fixed rules to finding it either, it may be from a beautiful bridal boutique, a gorgeous sample gown, an online bargain or even your mothers bridal gown. You may well shed a tear, or maybe your mum or friends will, feelings of relief, excitement and anticipation are all rolled into one! Don’t be disappointed if your feelings towards the dress are not shared, the main thing is that YOU love your dress! However it happens though, don’t think too much about it, it’s more than likely to be exactly the right choice for you.
As the Big Day approaches however, doubts do creep in. Maybe the image on the designers website doesn’t do your dress justice, you can’t remember what it looks like or those few pounds you wanted to lose, haven’t disappeared! There are a million things that we can stress about. This is something they don’t tell you in the bridal media, that you may fall slightly out of love with your bridal gown, I would say this happens to majority of brides. The main issue is that you can’t see your gown, it’s on order or stored away somewhere. If you’ve tried it on at home and it doesn’t look anything like the one you tried on in the boutique. It’s hanging off your shoulders, the sleeves are too wide and it feels like a big muddle of fabric at the hem. This is the time when we start looking at ourselves in the dress, rather than just the dress, we need to have an idea of how it will look on the day, will it give me the confidence I need on my Wedding Day?
At this moment we realise that our only hope is that the alterations will magically make it work? Will they? With my arms, hips, no boobs etc, how will they possibly make this look good? As a bride you’ve possibly never had a gown altered before, how would you know?
I have been working in the bridal industry for over 30 years and have altered thousands of gowns. I believe that we can magically transform your gown, with the correct alterations, and an experienced (and kind) Seamstress. Will make you look almost airbrushed, make sure your waist looks defined and give you an ease of movement. Who you choose to alter your gown can make or break your dress love. There are costs involved as well, depending on your gown and the fit, it can cost between £150-£450 upwards to be altered at Miss Kay. Ask any new bride, but I don’t think you can put a price on that glorious feeling of confidence that you should feel when you walk down the aisle!
So when or even before you choose your gown, check about the alterations, did you know you don’t have to have them done in house, if ordered from a boutique. Think about the situation of your fittings, will my fittings be in a lovely area with lots of mirrors? Will I have the opportunity to try accessories etc? Can my Fitter offer tips and hints for styling my bridal look and my Wedding Day?
Your alterations are very much part of the run up to the wedding, don’t overlook their importance, budget for them with money and your time, check out reviews. Booking well in advance, good alteration specialists are always in huge demand at peak Wedding months.
Think ahead to the day you collect your gown, all steamed and pressed to perfection, the love you should be feeling towards your bridal gown.
On your Wedding Day, with the correct alterations, your dress will be your best friend, an extension of your personality, and exactly how you wanted to present yourself to the love of your life!
Last week at Miss Kay has been as exciting as always! We have started to make our very own bespoke hand painted veils, and we had a fitting for a gorgeous little bespoke bridesmaids dress! All this alongside seeing all our lovely brides, it has been a truly wonderful week and we cannot wait for the rest our year to unfold.
We thought we would take some time to explain what to expect when you arrive at Miss Kay Seamstress. What to expect and who you will meet, what our gorgeous shop is like, and what we have available! At Miss Kay you will feel comfortable and relaxed as you know that you and your gown are in professional hands.
Arriving at Miss Kay you will be greeted by Carolyn, who will insure that you are ready and comfortable for your fitting. Once your gown is ready for you in the fitting room, Martine will bring you through so you can get into your dress and the fitting of your gown can begin. Answering the all questions you may have, giving open honest advice about what is possible with your gown, and what we can do for you. Whether it is bespoke sleeves, or a total dress revamp. At Miss Kay, every bridal whim is granted.
Once your gown has been fitted, it is then handed over to the team of Miss Kay’s Seamstresses. All alterations are taken out in our shop, and are overlooked by Martine herself, so you can be sure that your dress is safe and in the best hands.
When the main alterations have been taken out your dress is handed over to the finishing team, where your dress is checked and the smaller details are completed to ensure that the gown looks untouched. Specially trained in hand sewing, they have a keen eye for detail.
After completion of the alterations, your gown is ready for you to try again, to ensure that everything fits perfectly. Any minor changes will be made to your gown after this second fitting, to ensure your gown is the dress of your dreams!
If you would like to find out more about Miss Kay Seamstress, please do send us an email, or give us a call.
That’s right! We are in SO Tunbridge Wells Magazine’s March 2017 edition, we have a small editorial piece in the magazine. It’s all about what we do here at Miss Kay and how we want to make our wonderful customers feel.
We feature one of our past brides, the lovely Tracey Dowling. She looks absolutely amazing in her bespoke red jacket, designed and made here at Miss Kay Seamstress. Her gorgeous hat is from Lomax and Skinner, who are a wonderful shop, and come highly recommended!
As finding the perfect outfit is a struggle in itself, here at Miss Kay we want to help you achieve that perfect fit that perfect outfit needs! We have an amazing team here at Miss Kay who will help you achieve the gown of your dreams. From Veils to gowns, we make it all here, and all bespoke to you.
“There is nothing I enjoy more than meeting our lovely clients, bridal or otherwise, and working though any issues they may have with the fit and look of their garment. It is our job to make everyone that spends time in our fitting room, leaves feeling as amazing as they look.’
To read the article yourself, pick up a copy or head over here to read the magazine for free online! https://issuu.com/one-media/docs/sotwmarch/68
2017 promises to be a very busy year, our diary is filling up fast, and we already have several commissions for bespoke bridal gowns and mother of the bride. The new website (as you can see) is online, please take a look at the video, we really wanted to give our new brides an idea of the experience they will have at their fittings.
I thought I would jot a few lines down about observations I’ve made over the last 30 odd years helping Brides fulfil their dreams for their big day!
I do find that most brides are incredibly nervous ( and excited ) at their fittings, obviously the most important aspect of your wedding is that you are getting married! But aside from that it’s all about the dress! I love to help my brides feel relaxed about their gown, talking through the changes, listening carefully to their needs etc. And then on the day of collection we have a bride who is so so excited to wear her gown all day.
I always happy to welcome brides with their mums, mum in law, friends etc, always make sure though that you invite people who will truly support you, you need positivity and love all around you at your fittings. You are looking to them for helpful observations and insight.
Lastly, whatever worries or issues you may have with your gown (if any) please do not worry, we can address any concerns with a mixture of creative and practical solutions, every single one of our brides will leave feeling that somebody has listened to them!