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If you’ve ever been on a dating website before, you’ll quickly notice one thing above all else – there’s a huge variance in the types of profile pictures you see.
Some feature the person surrounded by friends, others are of people alone in their home, some are at parties and others don’t even feature the dater at all (something we really don’t recommend). You’ll also notice that some pictures have an intrinsic appeal which is often hard to articulate.
These pictures have a sort of radiance, creating an attraction which leads you to click on their profile and, perhaps, fire off an introductory message.
Yes, there’s no doubting that having the right pictures can be vital in finding the special somebody online, but how do you do it? We’ve covered general profile picture tips for over 50 daters in the past so we won’t cover that ground again.
Instead, we’re going to tell you some of the tricks you can use to dramatically improve the quality of your profile pictures and up the number of introductory messages you receive.
So, without further to do, let’s get into it.
Utilise front facing daylight
If you’ve ever seen a professional photo shoot before, you’ll know that by far the most popular way of lighting a model is front-on. Not only does this emphasise the face perfectly, but it also creates a glint in the eye which is totally irresistible.
You don’t need to visit a photography studio to enjoy those benefits though, because by having yourself photographed in favourable lighting, facing towards the sun will create a very similar effect. For the best results, use a good camera (if possible) and try to take pictures during the ‘golden hour’, as the sun begins to set for the day.
Avoid busy, cluttered backgrounds
Your profile picture is the first thing a prospective date will see but in a list of others, it can be hard to stand out. It’s especially hard when you’re tough to pick out in your picture.
Photographs of you enjoying yourself on a hike or on a busy beach might help explain in a visual sense your hobbies and interests, but they’re really hard to parse when scrolling through a list.
Instead, make your primary profile picture one of you against an uncluttered background. It’ll make you stand out more, and highlight your best features in the process.
Have somebody you like take your photo
It might sound a little strange at first, but having somebody you have a natural rapport with taking your photograph, you’ll find that you end up with far better photographs than otherwise.
Somebody who can make you smile and laugh naturally will help you produce photos which show real, natural joy. That’s something that studies have found is truly appealing in photographs, so don’t treat your pictures as an obligation, have fun with them!
It might sound odd for an online dating website to write about, but there comes a time in your life when – we hope – you’re no longer a member of our website. It’s not because we don’t think you’re wonderful, of course, it’s because if we’re doing our job right you won’t need to be a member.
When you do meet somebody new then, when is the right time to close down your account at Maturity Dating?
The simple answer is ‘when you’re ready’.
No two relationships are the same, and nor are two people identical. Online dating websites like ours offer you a terrific way to meet new people, but when you meet a person, it can be difficult to know when to stop using an online dating website.
For some, deep attraction comes instantly and so, the feeling that you’re ‘betraying’ your new partner by keeping active on a dating website comes quickly. For others, relationships are always something which begins in a casual way before gently unfolding.
Our advice is always to trust your intuition on these matters. If you’re beginning to feel guilty, just stop visiting the website. There’s no need to close your account down, just take time away from the website. If your relationship continues on and there comes a day when you simply can’t imagine needing us anymore, then that’s fantastic!
However, if things don’t quite work out so well, by leaving your account active you can return at any point and hop back on the horse. It’s the smart way to go about things.
According to a survey carried out by Australian matchmaking firm Louanne Ward found that 70% of people believe that being an active member of a dating website during a relationship is an act of infidelity.
With that in mind, it’s important that if you’re in any doubt about the status of your relationship, you speak to your partner. Conversations about whether you’re a ‘couple’ or just ‘seeing each other’ are awkward ones, but they can help you understand where you are on the grand relationship spectrum. If you’re not all that serious, then you shouldn’t have issues maintaining a dating website.
As with all things in dating though, there are no hard and fast rules as to correct behaviour so rely on your emotional intelligence to get you through.
For mature, over 50 daters, the rise of online dating has meant a total revolution in our love lives. No longer limited to those who we happen to meet in our everyday lives or who our friends happen to think we’d get along with, online dating has meant that we’re meeting new people at a rate that would put younger versions of ourselves to shame.
For this reason, mature online dating is booming. However, just because we’re getting more dates than before doesn’t mean that we’re handling them any better than we did in our youth.
Dating is just as nerve-wracking, thrilling and emotional as it was in our youth and, just like those long days of the past, we all have a tendency to build up our dates to the point of frenzy.
We like to imagine our dates will prove themselves to be the cure for all our ills, perfect in every way. We imagine scenarios where the date goes perfectly and we fall in love by the time we hit the pillow at the end of the night.
Needless to say, that’s not how most dates end up. A date is your chance to test the chemistry of your relationship and, naturally, that means plenty of times when your date simply doesn’t lead anywhere.
It can result in many mature daters feeling disillusioned with the process, but there are things we can do to help manage our expectations and, therefore, enjoy the process just that little bit more. So, what’s our advice?
Don’t Expect the Earth
Beautiful? Funny? Smart? Kind? Interesting? Generous? Worldly? Whatever it is you’re looking for, it’s important to remember that you simply won’t find everything in one person. Expecting as much from your date is cruel on them, so don’t do it.
Instead, take each date as themselves. Get to know them, see what they have to offer and, if you don’t want to see them anymore – don’t. It’s that simple, but if you build up your dates, laying on expectation after expectation, you’ll find that nobody can match up.
Keep it Casual
Early dates are casual affairs, so treat them as such. Spending a full day preparing, daydreaming and hoping hikes anticipation levels to heights which are hard to manage.
Keep your mind clear and your options open. It’s just like going to meet somebody for a cup of coffee; perhaps it’ll come to something, but more likely it’s simply a nice chance to get out of the house and have a little lively chat.
Reserve your Opinion
Online dating gives everyone the chance to chat for as long as they’d like before they meet up. Sending message after message back and forth, it’s easy to feel like you really know somebody.
However, whilst messaging online is a great way to get a feel for what a person is like, it’s not a perfect indicator of what they’re like in person or what your chemistry will be like. So, reserve your opinion on somebody until you’ve met them, otherwise you risk a jarring moment when your perception meets reality.
Dating in 2019 is faster, more fun and more inclusive than ever before. Thanks largely to mature online dating websites, many people over 50 are going on more first dates than they did in their twenties!
It’s amazing news, with more of us finding special people than we ever would have just two decades ago. However, it’s not all good news because, as anyone who’s been on a date will tell you, not every date you go on is a total smash.
Whether they’re not what they advertise, you didn’t get on or you simply don’t see them as a viable romantic partner. Whatever the reason, some dates simply don’t work out.
Whilst it’s tempting to simply cut your losses and avoid talking to them again, it’s also deeply unfair. Quite simply, they have a right to know that they should focus their efforts elsewhere and that there’s nothing between the two of you.
So, how do you deal with a bad date? Here are our top tips.
Give yourself a Day or Two
Coming off the back of a bad date, you’re often not in the right headspace to make a considered, thoughtful judgement.
You might be angry, annoyed, disappointed or frustrated. After all, the build-up to a first date can be a flurry of positive, exciting emotions. So, when it all goes wrong, you’ll often feel rightfully upset.
At this point, it’s important that you give yourself a day or two to get yourself back to normality before you compose your message. It’ll mean greater honesty and compassion in your message and help bring some much-needed clarity to the situation.
Get in Touch
Your next step is to reach out and get in touch with your date. If you only went on one date, a simple message will suffice. If, however, you’ve seen each other a number of times, it’s probably worth picking up the phone and speaking to them directly.
We’re not saying you have to spell out every detail of why you won’t be seeing again, but a little clarity does help your opposite number understand what went wrong and where they can change in the future. Just because you aren’t into them doesn’t mean that the whole thing has to be a total wash.
Get Back on the Horse
Bad dates have a terrible habit of colouring our opinion on future dates, but we shouldn’t let the ghosts of bad dates from days gone by ruin our future.
Online dating gives you the perfect platform to climb back on the horse from. Search through the database, find somebody who catches your eye and meet somebody brilliant. It’s as simple as that, and you’ll quickly find that the best way to banish the memory of bad dates is good ones.
It’s an unfortunate fact, but dating rarely gets easier as we grow older.
It’s not harder, per se, but it retains the challenges we encounter in our youth and, just for fun, changes a few things we thought we knew all along.
Whether you’re somebody who’s never found the right person or you’re someone who has found themselves back on the dating scene over 50, you’re not alone. Far from it, in fact. Today there are more over 50 singletons than ever before, and yet, meeting them has never felt more difficult.
We’re busier than ever and between work, family and friends, we rarely find the time to put ourselves first and meet new people.
It’s why online dating has become so popular with over 50 daters. Dedicated over 50 dating websites like Maturity Dating offer a fun, simple and easy way to meet senior singles near you.
But whilst online dating makes meeting people easy, dating itself remains as tricky as ever, especially for women. Here are our essential tips if you’re getting back on the horse:
Don’t Limit Yourself
It’s easy to put off doing things which make us uncomfortable in life. We kick cans down the road and cross bridges when we come to them, and it’s no different in dating.
When you’ve not been on a date in a while, the prospect of going on one can be daunting. Panic is a natural response, but if you let it dominate your thinking, you’ll throw away any chance you had to meet somebody who might change your life.
Be open, be brave and be on the front foot – you’ll be glad you did.
Embrace your Experiences
Age, they say, is nothing but a number. They’re wrong, though. Age is an indicator of experience. Over 50 we’ve been there, done it and got the badges. We’re going to make mistakes – after all, who doesn’t? – but we’re stronger, brighter and more well-rounded people than we were in our twenties or thirties.
Our age is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it’s our great advantage.
Life’s too short to wait for somebody to message you first.
A hangover from the days when women weren’t to speak unless spoken to, waiting for somebody to message you first is a one-way train to disappointment. Not only does messaging first greatly improve your chances, but it actually helps you meet more attractive people.
Online dating websites have free-tiers which let you set up your profile and browse the other members, but if you’re serious about making the most of online dating, it’s always worth becoming a full member.
For a low monthly fee, you’ll unlock the full potential of online dating with the ability to send and receive messages, chat on an instant messenger, see who viewed your profile, add more pictures and more!
The free tier is a fun way to get yourself acquainted with online dating, but when you’re ready to really start making use of the service, full membership is the way to go.
One of our great pleasures as a mature online dating website is that, often, we introduce online dating to those who’ve never tried it before.
For hundreds of millions of people across the world, online dating has transformed their lives, bringing love and happiness to individuals who thought they’d never see it again. That’s doubly the case for over 50 daters, many of whom have struggled to find that special somebody later in life.
From those who’ve come out of long-term relationships to those who simply never found them, there are millions of British over 50 daters out there looking for love.
If that sounds like you, then you’ve found the right place. We’ve been helping UK singletons find their special someone. But how do you sign up for maturity dating? Here’s our X step guide:
Visit the homepage and you’ll see a box which reads ‘SIGN UP TODAY’.
Select your gender.
Select the gender you’re looking to meet, either male, female or either.
Enter your first name.
Enter your date of birth. Do note, however, that you must be over 50 to join.
Enter your email address.
Choose a password.
Accept our T&C and click ‘Sign Up’
And with that, you’ve done it! You’re now officially a member of Maturity Dating. Take the time to make a beautiful profile with our step-by-step profile creator and remember to verify your account by clicking on the verification email you receive shortly after.
Do note, however, that you must be over 50 to join and a current UK citizen. At this time we are unable to process any applications which are under 50 or from those based outside of the UK.
Online dating, it sometimes seems, is something of a guessing game. Oh, sure, we put together our profiles, but how do we know we’re doing it right?
Our profiles are the primary way people get to know us online. If they’re interested enough afterwards, they’ll get in touch to spark a conversation. So, if your profile isn’t working as it should, you’ll get fewer messages, fewer dates and, consequently, have fewer opportunities to find the right person.
Building the perfect profile isn’t simple though, especially when you’re an over 50 dater grappling with both your desire to find that special somebody and online dating at the same time.
So, what do the best, most popular dating profiles have in common? Join us as we share their secrets.
Information (and lots of it!)
For lots of us, writing an online dating profile can feel like writing a CV – awkward, uncomfortable and agonising. It means that many of us settle for short, sharp and bland dating profiles with very little information.
However, the most popular dating profiles have one huge aspect in common – loads of information. We’re not saying you’ve got to spend hours coming up with ways to boast about yourself, but talking about the things you love, where you like to go and you enjoy in other people gives other online daters the chance to get a real glimpse into what you’re all about.
It means that if they decide to strike up a conversation with you, they’ll likely have something they can use to strike up a conversation. Compare that to somebody who’s profile reads “52 and living in Wokingham, looking to meet an honest bloke” and you’ll see why having plenty of information is the key to a great dating profile.
Online dating isn’t like hanging out in a bar. The only way people get to see what you look like is through your pictures, so it’s very much in your interest to take the time to really think about your pictures.
The most successful profiles have pictures where it’s clear which person you are (so no filling your profile with big group pictures), where you’re smiling, well lit and (ideally) enjoying a few of your hobbies.
Oh, and don’t wear sunglasses – you might think they make you look cool, but they typically just make you look shady.
It might sound corny, but there’s nothing people respond to quite as much on mature online dating websites like honesty in your profile. Lying to sound sophisticated, successful or any other thing you might aspire to be will do little but put off people who might otherwise be attracted to you.
Should your non-truths manage to hook somebody in, they’ll find out sooner or later that you were lying, so, when it gets down to it, the only policy really is honesty.
Love at first sight. It’s a concept we’re all familiar with, regardless of whether we actually believe in it.
The notion that somewhere out there is an individual so special that all it takes is a glance before we’re head over heels is an intensely romantic one and, at least for some of us, it seems to be a reality.
But what’s the science behind so-called ‘love at first sight’, and are there any clues in there which point to a bright future for UK over 50 daters? Let’s take a look.
Theory #1: Love at First Sight is a Dopamine Hit
One of the most popular theories amongst the scientific community is that when you meet somebody who you find attractive, the chemical reaction that’s ignited in your brain produces large quantities of dopamine and serotonin.
In fact, at this point, the brain more closely resembles that of somebody high on heroin!
Dopamine is produced by your hypothalamus and creates a sense of euphoria and also leads to the production of the hormone norepinephrine, which causes a loss of appetite and harms the quality of our sleep – things which are all associated with falling in love.
The other chemical swimming around our brain when we meet somebody attractive is serotonin, which can distract the mind to the point where up to 65% of the day is spent thinking about the object of our desires.
These chemicals and hormones lead to intense feelings of love and lust and can manifest extremely quickly in the mind, lending credence to the notion of ‘love at first sight’.
Theory #2: We’re Rewriting our Memories
Another common theory is that because we’re so in love later in our relationship, we end up extending our current emotions into the past and rewriting the past. Quite simply, we can’t imagine feeling any way we don’t right now.
This theory is borne out by a study by the University of Groningen and drew the conclusion that because those who fell in love ‘at first sight’ ended up in long term relationships, that the experience of love at first sight must be a form of memory bias.
Theory #3: We’re Blinding Ourselves
This theory accepts that ‘love at first sight’ is real, but it suggests that, rather than being some cosmic meeting of souls, love at first sight is simply us deceiving ourselves.
It’s called the ‘attractiveness halo’ and it’s a form of cognitive bias that makes us lay focus on one particular element of a person, causing them to appear more attractive than they actually are. Take, for example, an externally beautiful person. Seeing them can cause those aforementioned chemicals in serotonin and dopamine to flow through our minds.
This, in turn, leads us to apply positive notions to other aspects of their person, like their attitudes, beliefs, intelligence and prospects. Together, they contribute to that overwhelming feeling of having met somebody truly special.
So, do any of these theories reveal anything for over 50 daters still looking for love? Keep going, keep pushing and sooner or later you’ll find somebody who sets your mind alight.
Dating, for all of its wondrous
potential, can be absolutely terrifying. We’re putting ourselves out there,
risking our pride and taking a step into the unknown – all for the opportunity
to find love.
The only issue is, for many of us, our fears get in the way
of our enjoyment (and sometimes even attendance) of our dates.
Those nerves, it turns out, can be the biggest barrier
between ourselves and our happiness. It’s much the same whether we’re 16 or 61,
so what can you do to battle those pre-date nerves and reveal the true you?
Here are our top tips.
Look Confident, Feel
Nobody likes a slob when it comes to dressing or grooming, and
so if you’re short of confidence coming up to date
night, take the time to look after yourself.
Buy some new clothes, go get a nice haircut and spend the
time really getting yourself to your very best. A little physical confidence goes
a long way in both fortifying you against nerves and impressing your date.
It’s a small thing you can do, but when you’re looking your best, you’re probably feeling your best too – especially when you’re dating over 50.
Learn to Be Comfortable with Nerves
The reason why you’re feeling nervous? You’re getting outside
your comfort zone and doing something that might just change your life for the
better. Of course you’re going to be nervous!
By getting comfortable with your nerves, you can harness
them to put yourself on the top of your game. A little nervous excitement makes
you chattier, funnier and often, a much better date. Embrace the sensation of
being alive and go on your date with the confidence that can only be attained
by somebody who’s going to give it their very best.
Get Out of your Head
We’re all a little guilty of internalising our fears. We put
away our anxieties in a little box in our brain and let them run riot, growing
in size until they feel far too large to face.
The solution? Get out of your head and speak to your friends
about your anxieties. Faced with the daylight and a sympathetic ear, these anxieties
have a funny way of shrinking back to size. Speaking with friends before your date is the easiest way to settle your
nerves, so don’t be afraid to pick up that phone.
Know that you’re
There’s one little fact that we could all do with remembering
when it comes to going on our first date: we wouldn’t be going on it if we were
the only interested party. That is to say, there wouldn’t be a date at all if your
opposite number wasn’t interested in you too.
It’s also worth remembering that, most likely, the person
you’re going on a date with is feeling exactly
the same as you too. So, breathe deep and get ready for what could be the defining date of your life.
Online dating has, in many ways, fundamentally altered the way we meet new people as we grow older.
As our social circle shrinks and we begin to spend more time with family than we do meeting new friends, our ability to meet the people who we might fall in love with fades. It’s a situation which has created a generation of people who feel as though the dating scene have left them behind.
For those of us who’ve never found that special somebody
then, mature online dating has meant that we have a platform from which to find
that special somebody. With thousands of local singles just a click of a button
away, you simply can’t fail. Right?
Well, as it turns out, that’s wrong. Online dating offers no
guarantee and, like any other type of dating, it can take time for that special
somebody to cross our path.
But if mature
online dating isn’t working for you, there are some things you can do to
increase your chances. Join us as we share some of our key tips for making the
most of online dating.
Know What you Want,
But Don’t Close any Doors
Online dating can show us thousands of available individuals
near us at any given time. It can also let us filter those individuals any
number of ways, excluding people based on height, weight, star sign or even whether
or not they smoke.
However, with all that control comes the potential to exclude
people from your searches who might just surprise you.
Having a checklist in mind for your ideal partner is nice,
but it shouldn’t stop you from exploring different types of people. Who knows,
you might just find the person who changes your life forever.
Studies have shown that if you’re a woman, you’re 3.5x less
likely to message a man first and are likely to only send 4 first messages over
your online dating life, compared to 14 for men. Unlike men who message first,
women who send the first ‘hello’ are 2.5x more likely to get a response back.
Not just that, you’re also more likely to be talking to more
attractive men too, as men typically message women 5% more attractive than
themselves! So, start making the first move. What do you have to lose?
Update your Pictures
Most of us don’t like writing our profiles or taking new
pictures of ourselves, but a bad profile with old, poorly taken images will
only turn off potential dates.
That’s why we recommend taking the time to give your profile
an overhaul. Read our guides (men, women)
on how to write a good profile to get a good overview on proper profile design,
or simply read profiles by your fellow daters for inspiration.
As for pictures, ensure that they’re well lit, up to date
and most importantly of all, that you’re smiling. Photographs of people smiling
get far more responses and messages than dour pictures.
Follow these simple tips and you’ll find that online dating can
work for you too!