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Iron Feather Tea is going through some changes. It’s been a year of super experience and learning. I’ve made a tremendous number of new friends. I’ve learned so much about Influencer marketing, affiliate marketing, networking and social media. I’ve met gifted women with amazing stories.

Those women really created an impact on me. Doing my blog led me to the world of women who have been pushed, by nature, into a culture they didn’t realize existed. For many, it started with hormonal changes and reading glasses but, in some cases, it led to the trauma of a potential implosion. So many women starting feeling haunted by alarming visions of being old and useless, but then, a kind of riotous alchemy started occurring.

There’s been a quiet but massive chain reaction that generated these women into a personal revolt against the age machine. But this brouhaha is still somewhat inaudible in the larger culture. Unfortunately, Politics has sucked the air out of the room and infiltrated layers upon layers of cultural outlets. Humor, movies, award shows, books, music, magazines, and even our kitchens and restaurant choices are being impacted by political winds. Like a poison gas, it seeps in everywhere.

Me, my hair, and my favorite fuzz ball, Uncle Bob!

These over 50 women, however, aren’t actually being silent. They’re posting blogs, starting businesses, writing, learning cameras and editing software; they’re reaching for new skills and refusing to fade. When our youth-oriented culture assigns them the role of “Old Lady,” these women are rolling their eyes, declining the script, and disobediently defying the expectation.

For a while, I had thought it was just me, you know, being a rebel and refusing to cut my hair. But to my delight, I found I’m not alone. I’ve found pockets of these gutsy nonconformists all over social media.

Soon, I realized that, while social media is a good thing, it tends to control who sees what. We end up getting caught in those little pockets but people outside of our pocket don’t get an opportunity to see all the fabulousness on the inside. Outside of social media, I got curious about why we aren’t seeing more about women and their lives in our media. So, I did some research and found something kind of shocking about our media.

While we were busily leading our lives, our media companies have changed dramatically in the last 25 years. In 1983, 90% of the United States media was controlled by 50 different companies but today, according to a 2016 article by Forbes, 15 men provide your news. That’s correct. 15 men operate all the news sources you hear. No women. Even the women’s magazines at Hearst Magazines, with female editors, are actually controlled by men. So, add those publishers in and that makes 17 men who are controlling all your media.

But the actual news programing can be attributed to only 5 men. Joseph Ianniello* at National Amusements parent company of CBS News, Bob Iger at Disney the parent of ABC News, John Stankey* with AT&T, who just bought CNN, Brian L. Roberts with Comcast the parent of NBC News and MSNBC, and Rupert Murdoch with Newscorp, the parent of FOX News.

Today, the 5 men above control your television news. Five. Men.

What about Newspapers?? The McClatchy Company owns 30 newspapers in 29 markets and 14 states and is operated by a man named Chris Forman. Gannett Company published 85 newspapers including USA Today and is operated by a man named Robert J Dickey. Tribune publishing is the 3rd print powerhouse with around several newspapers. It’s operated by a man named Justin Dearborn.

These three print powerhouses have recently joined forces to create the group Nucleus Marketing Solutions that will have the ability to reach a combined 168 million unique visitors on the publishers’ digital platforms and will offer access to 70 percent of consumers in the top 30 U.S. markets. All controlled by men. 70% of all consumers will be targeted by these 3 men.

All total, that’s about 20 men that control most of the media in the country. (It’s 21 if you include NPR’s CEO, John Mohn and, if you add in the top 5 Book publishers, only one has a female CEO.)

Isn’t that amazing that in a world of billions of people, a hand full of men control the all the information?? Then, I wondered how I, one little old (rebel) woman, could possibly make a difference.

The answer I came up with seemed like a lot of effort on my part and I wasn’t sure I wanted to spend my time. My mom is 90 years old, my adult son has severe issues, and our house is on the market. My plate is pretty full. So, I mulled on it for several months. I did research. I watched. I asked questions. I listened.

It was the grocery store checkout that crystalized my direction. Have you ever noticed that the magazines are always filled with instructions? We’re told what to wear each season, how to cook, garden, work, raise kids, and what is a concern and what isn’t. We’re constantly being told what to think by the 20 men above and we’re bombarded, daily, from all sides.

When do those men listen? These amazing women are out there. With stories and experience, and ideas and wisdom. These women shouldn’t be a voiceless subculture. When do we get a chance to speak?

Then, I realized, a chance isn’t given. It’s taken.

So, I’m taking a chance.

I’m starting an online Magazine for women. It’s intended to be powered by mid-life and over 40 women but it’s for all women because young women can learn so much from experienced women.

It will feature bloggers as a regular feature and it will be a collaboration of ideas and stories. Its name is Accede Magazine. The first issue will be out in the spring of 2019. I’m shooting for March or April.

The first Cover of Accede Magazine!

I’m building the website now. I’m also looking for mentors (because I’ve never started an online magazine before!) I’m also looking for volunteer contributors in the form of bloggers, writers, contributors and features. I’ll be accepting advertising to fund it but I’m still working out the rates. I have a pretty neat idea that will help new businesses and blogs get advertising and I need to work out the legal side of that. Any Lawyers that can answer such questions? Send me a message.

Please get in touch if you want to know more, want to contribute, or sign up to help.

It’s all unpaid for now, and I will surely make many mistakes but with time, it just might be a powerhouse of disobedient female voices that refuse to be ignored.

Take a chance.

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If you saw my last post with Whistle River Trading, then you know I fell in love with this company.

This time, I’m sharing another of their jackets. This is the Shenandoah, Zip-Front Jacket in a gorgeous, burgundy, tapestry fabric. I wanted to share the versatility of the jacket so I dressed it down, I dressed it casually, and I dressed it up. After I took the images, though, I fell ill and have been doing little more than fiddling around on social media and taking naps. I missed you!

Finally, I’m feeling better, so I wanted to share, once again, my love for a company that appreciates the details and the people who purchase their products.

I won’t go over the history of the company again but I do encourage you to read my previous post… Because any fashion store that has a parent company who makes clothing for period and historical movies is your kind of company.

Django Unchained

When your order arrives:

Your selections will be nestled into beautifully patterned tissue paper and they will have a thank you note as the first thing you see. Every Southern Momma knows how important thank you notes are. It shows someone has had some “Home Trainin’.” We all appreciate that!





The jacket is a velvety zip-front style in rich tones with a nice hand to the fabric. It is not lined so it’s light enough to wear over sweaters. It’s roomie enough to layer exceptionally well.

Here we are, at the first of October, so we know time is about to collapse and spin out of control in a flurry of decorations, cooking, and shopping. This jacket lets you rise to every occasion during the approaching seasons. No matter what you’re doing - from crying helplessly in corn maze to making graceful hand gestures at stalled Holiday Traffic - this piece will work.

Low heels, Thigh High boots with Whistle River Trading and their Shenandoah Zip-Front Jacket

Casual

First, I’m wearing it outdoors with skinny jeans, thigh-high leather boots, and an embroidered gold charmeuse blouse. This is something I’d wear to the farmers market or to an outdoor festival. This outfit could handle an Octoberfest with ease.

Comfy

Next, moving into chilly weather, this jacket snuggles nicely with a book in front of the fire. We have a wood-burning fireplace so I’ll be tossing on this little coat when I’m going out to gather pinecones or a few logs. It also works for running to the grocery store or grabbing a casual dinner with pals. Here, I’ve paired it with a burgundy, long sleeve t-shirt from Old Navy, boot cut jeans from Grace in LA, and a vintage leather belt.

Finally, you can totally elevate your game in this lightweight item. I dressed it up with a few accessories, a red satin blouse and exquisite lace detailing. Poof! This thing has become a holiday piece that will take you to merry event. I don’t know if my lights picked up enough of the sheen on the fabric but it’s got a velvety richness.

Dressy

Here, I’ve donned sexy, high-waist, split-leg trousers in winter white and a red satin wrap top with a bow at the waist. I’ve added a spill of ivory lace at the neck and lace cuffs. These are links to an affiliate with items almost like the ones I’m wearing.

Being Sexy Hint!

My personal rule is that I wear only ONE sexy thing at a time to avoid just looking underdressed or down right skanky. In these shots, I’m showing leg all the way up, so my neckline is modest and proper. Also, I AM wearing hose (tights) under those trousers. Katie Middleton wears hose and if it’s good enough for royalty, it’s good enough for me. I wear L’egg’s sheer energy active support in Suntan. Made by Hane’s. Their active support has more compression and helps circulation. Your feet don’t swell as much.

So, there you have it. That’s the down low on the lightweight Shenandoah Jacket. It has a zip front with a stand up collar. 44% acrylic, 35% Poly, and 21% rayon. It’s on sale for $69.99 right now and you can buy it at Whistle River Trading.

  • They have sizes up to 3x and they do not charge extra for BBW sizes.

  • Free shipping, Free returns, and Free exchanges (within continental US)

  • 100% money-back, satisfaction guarantee

Nan Mac for Whistle River Trading!

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A lot of people have asked how I look as young as I do at the age of 59. I’ve been asked if I’ve had “work” done. The answer is no, not yet but I won’t have a problem with it when I decide the time is right.

There I was, 18 and fresh as a daisy with my mother, who is now 90 years old.

I look younger in my pictures because I’m a photographer and former make up artist. I understand lighting and how make up works. It’s not so much of a tool to “make us look pretty” and more of a tool to help control light, shadows, and highlights. They call it eye shadow for a reason, you know.

But knowing how to take a picture doesn’t mean my skin is as fresh as a daisy. At some point, I’ll definitely want to do more than moan about the unfairness of it all. To that end, I’ve investigated four surgeons in my area and, by that, I mean I spent the money to go sit down and have a consultation with each of them. One thing I said to each was that I wanted a long-term relationship to help me maintain my skin as I age.

Here are the quick recaps my experiences:

Number 1

The first one is a young fellow. He’s kind of a Hot Shot in this area. I thought he was a bit arrogant and had the bedside manner of a scientist performing experiments rather than a doctor. A friend of mine went to him several years ago and she spent $15,000. The work included having her forehead lifted, her hair line lowered, cheek implants, and an eye lift plus a resurfacing laser that took off her top layer of skin to remove wrinkles and blemished areas. Her recovery was an ordeal and looked horrifying. Plus, she needed help just to get food and to the bathroom. It took a couple weeks before she’d let anyone see her. Her face and the top of her head were numb for 6 months from the severed nerves. (However, she did eventually heal and she looks amazing. She soon found the love of her life and drifted off into the sunset of happiness.) In my interview with the Wonder Doctor, he told me my face was deformed ( WTH??) and I needed cheek implants, the corners of my eyes lifted, and my skin wrinkles removed via laser. The price was also $15,000. I also visited their in-house spa and got some in injectable cheek fillers a couple of years ago. After 3 visits, wherein the injections were extremely painful and left me with considerable bruising, I decided to stop using them altogether. 


Number 2

I explored another local dermatology center located near a retirement village. The doctor was a much older man. Experience counts, right? Except when he arrived, his breath was horrible and his own skin looked like Lady Aging had taken a vicious dislike to him. His plan was as follows. He would remove the beauty mark (mole) on my chin for $432.00 but it would leave a scar. He offered Fraxel laser resurfacing for 3 visits at $2100.00. My lip lines, he said, were just part of aging and he wouldn’t suggest doing the lasers at all because my complexion would probably scar. I’d be left with a white scar mustache!! He didn’t think the crusty patches on my skin were a problem and told me to stop using a magnifying mirror. (Oh yes he did!!) This was a VERY short visit because I couldn’t wait to get out of there. Being stinky and dismissive isn’t exactly the way to my heart or wallet. I declined to return.

The office of Doctor Number 3. No make up.

Number 3

The 3rd doctor was in Charleston. He’s known for his sewing skills. According to the reviews I saw, his stitches are things of beauty that don’t leave unsightly scars. I thought this looked promising and made the 4-hour round trip with high expectations. When I arrived, the office was empty of any other patients and I was ushered right in. After a brief wait, the doctor arrived and, then, proceeded to interrupt me while I was telling him my previous experiences and concerns. He said, from looking at me, I should have a chin implant and cheek implants, with laser skin removal for my lip lines. Before I could ask many questions, he left! I was astounded but soon in came a Counselor. (The Closer!) She was actually comforting and explained how easy the recovery would be and what to expect from surgery. She told me the cheek implants were cheaper in the long run than fillers. My costs were to be around $10,000. I took my packet of information home to mull it over. Then, about 4 days later, I received a call from the front desk. The scheduling department wanted to know why I hadn’t scheduled my surgery yet and they issued a warning that I could lose my consultation fee. (It’s usually applied to the cost of the surgery.) I was also sternly reminded that my price quote would only be good for a certain number of days. The abruptness of the doctor plus the demanding tone and blatant pressuring irritated me. I wouldn’t use that guy if he paid me!

Number 4

The fourth visit was to another board-certified plastic surgeon about 20 minutes from me. Her name is Dr. Klenke (pronounced klinkee) and the practice is Pinnacle Plastic Surgery.

This visit was awesome. She actually listened! She shared stories and we laughed a lot. I took my BFF, Julia, with me and we both asked every question we could think up. Dr. Klenke told me that I should NOT get cheek implants because, as I age, the anchor bone could begin to deteriorate under the implant, where it’s “nailed” into the bone. She said when you see older women walking around with little balls on their cheeks, that’s where the bone underneath has started to degenerate.

She did not recommend ANY surgery at all at this time because she actually heard that I wanted a long-term relationship with my doctor. So, she suggested a round of fillers, Botox, and a radio frequency treatment called Exilis that will tighten skin from inside and will leave no white mustache scars. She broke down each treatment into manageable financial hits. And I could do them together or separately at my convenience.

A few months later, I returned and got some cheek injections and, she also removed one of the crusty patches, which it turns out, was a pre-cancerous spot. The fillers were easy and caused very little bruising because Dr. Klenke has a good technic. Together, those cost around $1700.00 for both. I do plan to get the Exilis on my neck and eyes. I’ll let you know how that goes. The price point is in the neighborhood of $2300.00 for several treatments on both areas.

Dr. Klenke explains, “Plastic surgery is no longer about vanity. It’s about Vitality. “There is a lot of research showing that people who feel better about the way they look on the outside, actually have a lot of really interesting positive changes internally, like cortisol levels are lower. They’ve actually shown that people who tend to keep up with themselves on the outside tend to keep up with themselves on the inside and, therefore, live longer.”

As for me, the best thing I learned is to ALWAYS get a second opinion on the work being suggested. Each doctor made different suggestions on what would “fix” my face and the dismissiveness I encountered was astounding. I do not accept that kind of behavior from anyone but especially from a doctor who wants thousands of dollars.

So, Pinnacle Plastic Surgery wins my business. Check her out and remember Palmetto Bluff Resort is right around the corner if you want a luxurious place to recover. (Neither are affiliates of mine. I’m not being paid to say that. LOL)

Pinnacle Plastic Surgery

7 Mallett Way

Bluffton, South Carolina 29910

843-815-6699

http://pinnacleplasticsurgery.com

Additional reading:

Local Article

http://puremedspamd.com/index.php/skin-tightening/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/medicine-and-dentistry/facial-implant

Pictures. (These are pretty graphic so be warned!) http://www.plasticsurgerypractice.com/2011/05/facial-implant-complications-prevention-and-treatment/

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It’s been my habit, over the years, to think about my relationship to other people, and being a woman, and what it all means in my little corner of the world. 

In my studies, I’ve learned something about my generation of women. You’re the ones reading my articles, so now I want to share something I’ve learned about you. My amazing contemporaries. The fabulous women of my generation.  

Long ago, I realized my peer group of women is, perhaps, the most unique that the American Culture has ever produced. This is due to the cultural influences of the times in which we were reared. We alone had the 1950’s as our guideposts in our early years, we watched the 1960’s unfold in our tweens, and the 1970’s were the guideposts of our teens or early 20's. 

Our childhood plays a role.

Yet, there was a distinctive difference in our training because our mothers were part of the greatest generation. They were the proud Rosie’s. They flew planes and took over factories. Rosie the Riveter was an iconic image of some very iconic women. The men left to go to war but it was the women left behind that kept the fabric of the entire country from unraveling. Our mothers were truly extraordinary women. From them, we learned about hard work, never accepting defeat, and standing up for what matters. We learned to take pride and give respect. We learned about honoring ideals and honoring our own value in the world. Yet, we also learned to manage alpha-men with ease. We learned how to walk in high heels, cast a come-hither look, and utterly dazzle that suddenly helpless man. The Hollywood icons trusted by our mothers were filtered and polished for us. Jacquelyn Kennedy, Audrey Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe, and Sophia Loren were rolled into our cultural DNA. 

The 1950’s were about women being homemakers. Our mothers’ taught us to cook, sew, care for children, and run a household. We took our high school’s Home Economics class because getting married right after graduation was completely normal. According to PBS, once you’d obtained a husband, working outside the home, if you didn’t absolutely need to, was considered selfish. 

Helen Reddy - I Am Woman (with lyrics) - YouTube

Then, we watched the dramatic changes occur in the 1960’s and heard about peace, love, and nature. And drugs, open sex, and war. By the 1970’s our mothers’ suddenly snatched off their bras, sang about being wise, roaring women, and off they went to work. My mother, for example, ditched homemaking, became an underwriter for a commercial insurance firm, and traveled the country examining factories. What an incredible jump! 

So it seems that in all of history, our generation is the only generation that acquired this well-rounded, cultural education and it was the firm hands of our Mothering Rosies that guided us. 

Our historical codes of behavior. 

Today, we’re all grown up and entering our 50’s and 60’s. We’ve found out that it no matter what we do or what befalls us because we can make it work. We are “can-do” women. 

In looking around at the division between the genders that exist in our country, I’ve located a cause that often gets overlooked. It’s something I believe the women of my generation are perfectly suited to help heal. 

It’s this… The word and deed of honor is missing in today’s culture. 

Historically, men were taught to value their honor while women were taught to value their virtue. Men are also taught the difference between pride and honor but women, not so much. 





Honor was born of the Chivalric codes and was (still is) the mark of noble man. An alpha-male self identifies with the concept of honor. In other words, it’s who they are. Women, on the other hand, were usually taught to have pride in their virtue. Virtue, however, is born of a moral code, not a chivalric one. Under this code, only a virtuous woman obtained the mark of a noble woman. In short, women were taught to obtain their appreciation of character from a very different code than men. 

These codes are still being sent quietly into our culture and the division they produce between the genders is still visible. 

Now, all of this is a big over-simplification because life is far more complex, but just ponder the idea for a bit. Interestingly, it appears to be that the Rosies and her daughters are the only two generations of women that understand the big ideas found in honor. 

Our generation, however, has something more than even our mothers’ generation. Our early years were steeped in the divergent cultures produced in the decades following World War II. 

I suspect there is no generation of women better equipped to breach the gender-code division than my peer group. Simply put, we know things. We have the broader vision and the long-range comprehension of old and new. We have obtained a wonderful balance between the Behavior Codes. We can do it all. 

Being different can breed insecurity.

Yet, I often notice a reticence in my peer group. We seem to have a reluctance to put ourselves out there. I think it’s because we each, in our own way, feel different. We often don’t feel like we belong. And we suspect we’re weird in some way. We just don’t see things like everyone else and we end up being quiet so no one will notice. We don’t want to make waves. 

The skirt and shoes came from Stein Mart, the cropped top is from Forever21. 

So I want to say to my generation of women. You aren’t weird in a bad way. You’re weird in a very, very, good way. You are truly unique in a culture that often values rigid uniformity of thought and values. So I wanted to present these ideas to you because your voice needs to be heard. In fact, your voice is essential. So, please, step out and step up about the deep-down things you know. Talk, teach, speak, and get OUT there. You matter. Your voice matters. Trust yourself. You know what Honor is and what it means. God placed you on this planet at such a time for a reason so do not hide your light under a bushel basket. Shine!! And please know that it’s okay to believe in yourself and your extraordinary peer group. 

You really ARE a unique and super special person. You’ve always suspected there was something that set you apart and you were right! So go with it. Honor your gifts. Be YOU!

In fact, I believe this group of women is THE single most culturally cognizant group of women in the world. 

I am proud to be one of them. 
We are strong. 
We are proud.
We are wise.
We are honorable.
We are Rosie’s Daughters. 

Go make a difference in this world. No one is more fit or able than you. 

 

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Nan Mac doing her best impression of Morticia Adaams, styled after the original character played by Caroline Jones. 

Some of the affiliates I work with are gearing up for autumn! (and I'm okay with that.) Today marks 60 days until Halloween. There are only 31 days until the Autumn Equinox on Saturday, September 22 and finally, there are only 12 days until Labor Day. 

The seasons are upon us.

Silver-plated bracelet with antique typewriter keys

Today, I'm sharing some neat items. (Also, ahem, I want you to know that both Dorothy and I accept gifts.)

The first thing is a PERFECT gift for your favorite blogger. It’s 79.95. Silver-plated bracelet with antique typewriter keys. Each bracelet is as unique as each blogger. No two are the same. It will be available on August 24th so you’re getting in right on time. It has a 5 star review. This would also be a nice gift to give for a Christmas present. I predict these will sell out so don't wait until Christmas. Also, I love this bracelet and I really, really want one. 

I really want one of these hats. 

I shall wear it everywhere this fall. They come in black, white and red. I understand some autumn and winter brides are getting the white one. Wouldn't it be gorgeous? I love it in both but I think for autumn, I want the black one. It has a nose veil of English Merry Widow netting in front and a tulle bow that falls into a long, floaty train in the back. A delicate black rose adorns the front. Its shape is the classic Equestrian Dressage style from the genre known as “Suiter” hats. The standard Dressage hat can go for up to $250.00. The price on this one is a mere $59.95. Equestrienne Hat. I’m SOOO getting one of these!
 
I’ll wear the hat when I go "calling" and I’ll take a hostess gift in this striking Wine Bag. It’s beautifully lettered and appropriately decorated. Poison. For $9.99, that's cheap for Poison and you can’t go wrong with a gift of poison. If you do a search, they also have a Sterling Silver and Garnet Poison Ring for $39.95. (But you probably already have one of those.) 

Can you imagine the look on a Trick or Treater’s face when you offer candy from this gorgeous Poison Apothecary Jar? Perhaps while pouring a nip from these Potion Bottles? You might want to get a fashionable Witch Hat to don whilst handing out the goods. It’s called the Poison Ivy Hat. So fun! (Halloween is supposed to be fun and scary, right? Don't scare the tiny ones, though. Be nice to the tots.)




Also, I might have to get this Batty Headband. This thing made me laugh. Bats dip and seem to fly around your head. Bats in the belfry much? An Old bat? A crazy Batty lady? It's only $14.99!

 

Finally, the steps to the front porch might look nice with two of these glowing Filigree Pumpkins. It's 8.5 inches so it's not too tiny. It's metal and is safe. No open flame. It operates via LED lights on batteries. (not included naturally) It's on sale for $29.99.

And then....after the festivities are all over, pamper your witchy self with a Pumpkin Enzyme Mask. It's got all the good stuff plus a dose of pure Pumpkin. You'll smell and look as good as pie.  

Thanks for reading!

Love, Nan

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I don’t know if you realize that even though I wear skinny jeans from time to time, I can’t stand them. They remind me of clingy pantyhose without the lovely sheen.

When Ethyl Clothing sent me a pair of jeans to try, I agreed because they had a slight flare. (Yay!)  These are the Jaqueline Flare in Abigail, which is a dark wash. The material is wildly comfortable. It’s softer than all my other jeans yet, it snugs my curves. (57% Cotton 39% Polyester 3% Rayon 1% Spandex) I got a size 4 when I normally wear a size 6 but the 4's were perfect.

Because I’m tall, (5’8”) they were a little shorter than I like with only a 31" inseam. The length did shrink a little in the wash. I can wear them with low heels if I iron them to put back the length that the dryer shrunk away.  I tend to iron my jeans anyway so it’s not a problem but be aware all you tall creatures. I think Ethyl Clothing MAY have a longer length so double check when you order. ASK. It never hurts to ask. Call them at 1 (855) 271-0451 M-F (9-5) PST

English Garden

I wore these jeans two ways. The first way was with their gorgeous blouse when I was headed out to the garden. (Yes, that’s my Flower Garden in the backyard.) The blouse is the Jayla in Bantam. I paired the two with a seventeen dollar straw hat from Home Depot to which I had added some feminine froth from Hobby Lobby. The necklace is from the Forever21 store in Charleston on King Street. (Can't remember where I got the earrings and bracelets. Sigh)

Cowgirl Style


The next look has the jeans with my own white tank top straight from my closet. Here, I went Western by adding blingy, gray suede boots to the jeans. I have a silver chain belt around the waistband. It's a mid-rise jean and rides about an inch below your navel. I topped the look with their adorable white jean jacket called the Aviana in Lebanon. It’s a versatile, cropped bolero with a scattering of bling. If you remember, I dressed it up with just a change of shoes and necklace when I reviewed their black pants. I could be wrong but I think I like this cowgirl style the best. Read the 1st review and let me know your favorite. 

The Jeans

The Blouse

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When I talk about clothing being versatile, I mean it. I want pieces that travel well and can play several roles. It used to be hard to have a versatile wardrobe because clothes had specific purposes; from tea length dresses to smoking jackets, the time and design were part of the fashionable crowd.  Long ago, if you wore sequins or rhinestones on your garment, then you were dressed UP for an event. Such shimmering details were NOT meant for casual wear. 

Times have changed and I’m so glad because I love Bling! And Sparkles! And Pizazz! When Ethyl Clothing sent me these items for review, I was charmed. A couple of the garments have beautiful insets of bling. One is laddered along the shoulder and another is near the hem of the pants. These are small discreet panels of rhinestones... Not too much. Just enough to perk up the outfit.  

We call these pants Capris but, once upon a time, they were known as clam diggers or, if you didn’t live near the water, pedal pushers. The style was first introduced in 1952. It was a glamorous way to ride a bike so your dungarees didn’t get caught in the chain. But they were also worn as dressy attire and, like this newspaper clipping shows, they also had bling. 

Image and accompanying text are from 1952. “Will fashions like these fancy pedal-pushers be seen here this year? A complete contrast to the tomboy styles in tough blue
denim, these glamorous pedal-pushers were shown in California recently. Striped braces [suspenders] added smartness to the black denim suit on the left. Lustre denim has been used for the strapless set on the right. In tangerine orange, it features jeweled camisole and pocket.”

 

So, in memory of a gentler time, I’m wearing these as pedal pushers with my new bike from Specialized. Ethyl Clothing does lovely names for their items. These are named the Willow in Coconut. It’s actually a dressy material, like the Black Slacks I shared in a previous post. 77% rayon, 19% nylon and 4% spandex.  They washed well and they came out of the dryer ready to wear. I did smooth them with the iron to keep that crispness I like. 

The turquoise top is a cold-shoulder trapeze design in a mesh fabric that flows well. It has a lining for additional coverage and movement. The top is lightweight enough that it doesn’t just hang limply. No, it stops a few seconds after you do. It’s a nice, subtle touch. This style is known as Gemma in Director. It’s a 92% poly with 8% Spandex. 

The Next Look

Here, I paired the Capri pants with a black top that has more Bling inset in the shoulder. This top is amazing. It hides your sins and hugs the curves you forgot you had. This one is a must for cocktails or the next “come hither” event you attend. This top is known as Abigail in Byron. 

All in all, Ethyl Clothing does a super job. I’ll share one more post with you on their fashion line but do take the time to look at their web site. Something to note: They use real people as models. It’s unusual to see in a clothing company. It's something else you can applaud. 



The Willow Capri

The Gemma Blouse

The Abigail Blouse

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Normally, Friday is Philosophy Friday but not today. I have a piece all written to share with you but I’m holding it until next week. Today, I have to tell you about Whistle River Trading.

They contacted me some time ago and asked if they could send me two garments for my review. My spam folder ate the email but they, fortunately, wrote back. 

I say fortunately because I’m in love. I cannot tell you how much these garments have impressed me. (Dee, you will love them!) I’m pretty picky about both my clothes and my affiliates. I choose quality over quantity. If it takes longer to build my business, that’s okay because if I’m going to support the women of my generation as they polish their look and lives, I want to do it authentically. 

Floral Velvet Burnout skirt. My new favorite.

So, I did some research on this company and here’s what I found. The parent company is Advantage Apparel Company and they’ve been in business for over 20 years. And - get this - they are their own manufacturers! They make all their own clothing. It’s not outsourced. They have their own facility in Guatemala. They’re careful to ensure high standards of labor and living for the people and families that they employ.  The company makes a difference in a place where it’s really needed. We want to support that.

One of their companies, Frontier Classics, made the costumes for The Magnificent Seven, Django Unchained, Deadwood, 3:10 to Yuma, and Westworld. Most of the garments made there are from reproductions of actual garments from the 1870’s and 1880’s. Since you know I LOVE Victoriana and historic items, you can bet I was captivated. 

Whistle River Trading, though, is new AND is geared to my generation of fabulous women. 

Here’s my experience.

First, they sent me the Ohio Pleated Jacket in Taupe Flannel.

Their website does NOT do justice to the jacket. It is exquisite. The construction of the lining and pleating is sewn with precision. The pleats are sewn in place to retain their sharpness. The charmeuse satin lining simply gleams. It slides on like the Butler held it for you. The flannel is soft but still lightweight. The piece is oversized enough to fit over bulky sweaters and long enough to cloak the right places. In short: this jacket makes you feel like you got a reward just for being you. 





I paired it with the skirt below and also my own pair of jeans, because you know I like versatility as well as a handsome appearance. 

Next was the Rio Grande Velvet Burnout Skirt. 

It rustles. This perfect skirt has a taffeta satin lining and it rustles like a skirt from an Edith Wharton novel. Everything feminine and fine is murmured in the rustle of a taffeta skirt.  (In Edith Wharton’s novels, the ‘rustle of skirts’ is always heard by men. Wink Wink) Go now and buy this skirt because no one makes everyday skirts that rustle.  Especially when this whispering underskirt is hidden under a velvet burnout floral topper and both have black lace edging. 

The top, belt, and boots are my own. 

It’s now the favorite skirt in my entire closet and not one of you can borrow it!! Go get your own!! Seriously. Go get it. 

Just the box and wrapping makes you feel special.

Details. it's all the details. 

Both items were wrapped in signature tissue, with a Whistle River sticker. A thank you card arrives with them. The back of the card matches the tissue. These people are detail oriented and they, obviously, care about what they’re sending out. 

SO…If you’re a connoisseur of fashion (or literature), your sense and sensibilities will be well pleased. If you have zero taste (and have never even read Edith Wharton or Jane Austen) then this is a good place to acquire some. 

Click here and at least go look at Whistle River Trading. Save an immediate 20% when you join their email list.

The skirt would go well with cowboy boots or booties but I paired it with classic English riding boots. The boots I'm wearing in these shots look like these or these, or these.

Ordering Notes: The jacket sleeves are long enough so you can roll them if you're petite and taller ladies will be delighted. Perfect!

The skirt waist runs small, order up a size. I wear a size 6 and got a medium. It went over my hips with no problem but the fit around my waist was snug. If you like a more roomie fit, go up a size. 

  • They have sizes up to 3x and they do not charge extra for BBW sizes.
  • Free shipping, Free returns, and Free exchanges (within continental US)
  • 100% money-back, satisfaction guarantee

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About two weeks ago, I got to hang out in Nan’s closet and I had a blast! It really opened my eyes to another world. She’s not taking what age is handing out. She’s older than me at 59, but she just laughs at the idea that older women should dress (or be) a certain way. I absolutely loved it. Her attitude is contagious and when she adorned me with different outfits and accessories, I felt like a princess.   

So while I’m new to this blogging business, I’ve realized Nan is the perfect mentor for over-50 fashion. She tries everything out and finds new ways to wear things. Her closet is like an exploded bandbox! We even switched our shoes. I gave her my black lace pumps from Shoe Dazzle and I got her TOP Moda shoes that she had ordered online as well. They are peep-toe platform high heels in muted beige that worked well with my handbag! 


We realized we just had to incorporate these shoes into outfits and show them off.  She wore hers on her recent blog about the Ethyl brand clothing. It was delightful to see her flaunt them with a touch of conservative sex appeal. (but uh, she would look gorgeous in a burlap sack.)

The shoes I got were paired with a short mauve-pink dress with fluted long-sleeves dress that I ordered from, believe it or not, Shoe Dazzle.  (Yes, they sell clothes too!) I added my Silpada bag and it became a perfect outfit. I liked the way I looked. 


Confession Time:

What you must know is I don’t like to wear fitted clothes due to how I feel about my tummy. I don’t like anything fitting too tight. I tend to choose clothing that will camouflage my sensitive spots. Nancy reproved me about that. Not about my tummy. No, she noticed I was shaming myself. She insists that we are to love and adore our bodies, even as they age. It’s an effort but, on the other hand, what a waste of time to obsess on a body part. Still, if something bothers you, make the effort to fix it. Just do it with love and not with dislike. I have decided to do something about my issue, as you will read in future blogs. 

Anyway, we went to her back steps outside the porch and took these photos. I think I fell in love with the color pink all over again. I fell in love with me some more, too. She had me twirl and pose at every click of her camera and I felt genuinely comfortable with her direction. I felt flirty and happy to move about in this little dress. 

I loved that day, I loved wearing my favorite color pink, I loved that her (shhhhhut the front door) fantastic man, Peter, made us some little turkey sandwiches while we worked, I loved shopping in her closet. I loved our shoe swapping. It’s good to have a friend that reminds you you’re still a pretty woman. I loved seeing that I really CAN still feel pretty and that I can be more than the limitations I give myself. I have. And you know what? So, can you.

Come with us! We’re on an adventure in fashion over 50! 


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