A calm and stress free childbirth, as nature intended. Empowering couples through labour and birth. Hypnobirthingforyou is a bespoke company tailored around the birth of your baby and your own personal concerns and issues
MASSIVE smile on my face today as I got an email from mummy Ashley telling me all about her amazing birth story. I love it for it’s honesty and the fact that it shows how to hypnobirth doesn’t have to always mean a drug free completely natural birth! Sometimes we need help and that’s absolutely fine. It’s more than fine – it’s often absolutely necessary! I hope reading this gives you confidence to listen to your body, to have faith in your body but to ask for help when needed whether that means being induced or any form of pain relief. Amazing story Ashley and thank you for taking the time to write to me just one day after giving birth!!
It’s Ashley here – Jack and I came to your hypnobirthing course over the summer in Kingston.
Just wanted to drop you a line to let you know we had our baby yesterday! He arrived at 2:37am in a beautiful water birth at Kingston, weighing a chunky 9lbs. I was close to 42 weeks so I agreed to the medical induction, which meant I really thought I wouldn’t be able to have the water birth I had hoped for – but the midwives were so supportive and I was lucky that the Propess really got things going – and we were able to finish the last stages of labour (from 7cm to baby arriving!) in the pool, with low lighting and my own playlist.
I wanted to say a huge thank you for everything you taught both of us. It was a huge help both in the run up to labour and during. I found your way of explaining the surges and the work your body is doing so helpful beforehand and I wasn’t afraid of going into labour. I also found it particularly valuable that your approach was so open – it meant we had the tools we needed but were not fixated on a certain plan. Flexibility and keeping an open mind are so vital for something with as many variables as labour so we both really valued your style of recognising the role of different elements. I’m glad we didn’t need instrumental delivery but I definitely kept your mantra in mind, especially when induction became so likely.
During labour I was really able to focus on my breathing and on the visualisations and Jack was so good at using the short phrases to keep me centred. It was an incredibly intense experience and though it was painful, it was very powerful. I felt like I really tuned into myself and trusted my body. Even one of the midwives commented that this must be a hypnobirthing labour!
So a huge thank you from myself, Jack, and our baby Lachlan. We are so glad we took your classes!
When you exercise, you’re essentially contracting and releasing muscles. Muscles are working together, all aided by our state of mind, hormones, training and general health. Sound familiar? The exact same thing is happening when you’re in labour – although let’s face it, the main difference is that we don’t normally encounter the same level of support in labour. If you’ve ever run a marathon you’ll be surrounded by hoards of people cheering you on shouting things like “You can do it! Keep going!”. You’re probably pretty uncomfortable after running for long periods of time but with all that support it’s no surprise that you find it in you to push yourself to your limits, your body listens, responds and your body keeps running.
When you’re in labour you’re more likely to hear things like “How much pain are you in? What pain relief would you like?”. If you heard that throughout your marathon I’m sure you wouldn’t be quite a likely to keep going with such gusto! So although parts of labour are similar to the mechanics of exercising, unless you have the mental support then there really isn’t much comparison. BUT, if you’re lucky enough to have a doula or birth partner who does offer you support (as they would learn to in any hypnobirthing class) then you can absolutely approach labour the same way we approach a physical challenge.
The muscles we focus on in labour are of course our uterine muscles – the longitudinal muscles that run vertically down the uterus work alongside our horizontal short muscles at the base of our uterus and help the cervix to dilate. Athletes will agree that the body needs to be relaxed in order to exercise properly and safely and it’s again the same in labour. With support in your labour and learning how to relax you can help your body to have a much more comfortable labour.
Breathing techniques, endorphin release, audio downloads and deepening exercises are all examples of how to help your body learn to relax and you should be offered all of them in your hypnobirthing class. All of these help to manage hormone levels as well as provide oxygen to muscles so they can work at their optimum level and offer you a much more comfortable labour. To see a visual of how uterine muscles work in labour take a look at the uterine section in Hypnobirthing At Home online hypnobirthing course.
If you’re able to exercise during pregnancy (to a safe level of course!) the good news is that new research by the Technical University of Madrid shows that it can also shorten the amount of time mothers spend in labour. Psychologically (as well as physically) it’s clear to see why women who are used to pushing themselves through exercise do the same in labour so this is no huge surprise. So, if you’ve never really got in to exercise before then it’s not too late to start now!