You should take any “no” that she says as a final no. There is no way in this medium that I can tell you that “no” means “yes,” because it doesn’t.
However, a “no” doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t like you. So today, I’m going to share 5 little-known reasons why she might say “no”…
And exactly what you can do about it.
1) She Feels Danger
If a woman wants to feel safe, then any possibility of danger triggers an instant “no” response.
This includes talking about dangerous things.
One guy once said to me:
I met these two goth girls, and I kept joking about taking them into the woods, and axes, hahaha!! They were loving it! They kept looking at each other like, ‘this guy is fun!’ It’s about reading the person you’re with and . . . “
The truth is, for every girl who loves jokes about getting slashed in the woods, there are 99 who are totally put off by it.
Add to that, a large percentage of the girls who are into this kind of humor are still frightened when a guy they just met starts talking about it.
And even if they are inwardly excited, they’ll probably make the sensible decision to stay in a well-lit public space until they can make an excuse to jump in a cab.
It’s sort of like sloppy clothing or body odor–it’s not impossible to “seal the deal” if you do this, but it greatly reduced your odds of sexual success.
So don’t make her feel danger, and your odds of getting a “yes” response go way up.
2) You Disagree With Her
Sometimes, it seems like I advocate disagreement. Women–particularly women who have experience turning heads–respond well to a man who stands up to them.
In fact, women are so attracted to a man who challenges them that they often believe that being argumentative (“sassy,” or “fiery”) makes them more attractive to men.
However, this kind of disagreement and challenging, in general, is advanced behavior.
…and many women do thiswith their feet when they’re turned on, and want to get to know you better.
The truth is, there are dozens of these subtle signs a woman gives off… and when you see them… you’ll know she’s way more likely to say “yes” when you ask for her #, or invite her back to your place at the end of the night.
Of course, if she has a boyfriend, or maybe she’s in some kind of bad mood… then there’s no guarantee she’ll come home with you…
…though many guys in our community know that these signs have made the difference between getting one, or maybe two #’s a month… and getting consistent same night sex:
I think the main reason is because of internet porn. I’ve seen it happen way more for guys who are born after 1985.
I think that being able to click from naked woman to naked woman messes with your attention span when it comes to sex. It also disconnects you from your body.
So just know that there are a lot of guys out there suffering from this problem, and you’re not some strange anomaly if every once in a while (or even a lot of times) you have an issue getting it up.
I’m going to give you 3 things to do if you’re in this situation and want to get it up. Beginning with the easiest step first:
1) Breathe Into Your Balls
The first thing to do if you realize you’re having trouble getting it up is to breathe deeply into your balls.
A lot of times, when you’re stressed because of expectations or you’re just not aroused, your body just stops breathing.
Why does this matter?
Breathing helps to maintain your relaxation, and it also keeps your carbon dioxide levels low. High carbon dioxide levels are associated with anxiety, so if you aren’t breathing enough, then it can make you anxious.
So breathe deeply — that’s the first step.
(Plus, breathing deeply is healthy for you! It’s a win-win.)
The second step is a little more abstract, but it’s also more important:
Respect the c**k.
What I mean by this is to respect your own d**k. Like if you’re trying to have sex but your d**k clearly doesn’t want to have sex, then there’s a disconnect between you and your d**k.
It sounds silly, but if you personify your d**k — think of it as your buddy — you’re being a d**k to your d**k if you’re forcing it to have sex.
So pay attention to your d**k. What does it actually want?
Because if it’s not hard, then it very obviously doesn’t want to have sex.
Maybe you need to chill out for a minute. Or maybe you’re putting too much pressure on yourself.
The thing I’m telling you to do is to pay attention to what your d**k actually wants so you can take the pressure off of you.
Maybe you want to cuddle — so do that! Pay attention to what feels good, and go with it.
So breathe deeply, and respect your c**k. Those are the first two steps.
And here’s step three:
3) Call It Out
This last step is the scariest thing for most guys, but I think this is the most effective one in the long run.
Just call it out.
This can seem really scary because at this moment you’re probably feeling humiliated — you’re worried about what she thinks.
The irony is that that’s probably causing the issue in the first place!
Calling it out and letting yourself be seen that way — basically calling out your own shame — will eliminate the shame completely. Anytime you feel shame, you’re trying to hide something, and a limp d**k is often a sign of some sort of shame.
He’s the world’s oldest pornstar… and even though he’s in his freaking 70’s… he can still pleasure multiple hot, younger pornstars… sometimes for hours at a time… and he gives all the credit to these 5 foods.
A couple of them are exotic… though most are basic pantry “staples”… you can check this out to see what they are:
When you’re not afraid to show a woman you’re interested, not only are you letting her know you’re available… but you’re also demonstrating massive levels of confidence (which women go absolutely crazy for).
And it doesn’t take much to show a woman you like her either… that’s what I’m talking about when I say “sub-communicating” your interest.
But how exactly do you do it?
First off, eye contact.
I like to play a game when I meet a woman. The game is simple… don’t break eye contact before she does.
Not the easiest thing for everyone to do, I know, but women find a man who isn’t afraid to hold deep eye contact irresistible.
Next is to use your smile to acknowledge that you’re listening.
Nothing makes a woman feel more insecure than when she’s talking about herself… and has NO idea if the man is interested or not in what she’s saying.
Try reacting with your smile. Don’t just tell her you like something about her, demonstrate it!