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So with that in mind, here’s what they are, and how to use them to get girls chasing you right away:
1) The “You Like Me” Belief
Confidence can basically be summarized by:
“You like me.” (To be fair, this is primarily in the context of meeting someone.)
Why is it so important?
Confidence is really a belief, isn’t it?
Confidence is basically the belief that everything is going to work out.
Confidence is the opposite of uncertainty.
It’s, “You like me. It’s not of supreme importance how I answer your questions or what I give you or tell you or show you. You like me regardless.”
Confidence boils down to the belief that this contest will end in your favor.
Confidence is knowing that while you can’t predict semantics and logistics–you may have to deal with discomfort or awkwardness or embarrassment, for example–you will prevail.
And it’s this belief that women are naturally drawn to.
Which brings me to the next highly attractive masculine quality:
2) The “I Like Me” Belief
This next quality is self-acceptance.
This can be summarized as “I like me.”
Self-acceptance is also a belief.
It is the belief–more of a decision–that you will accept the outcome. That you will be OK, regardless of what happens.
Self-acceptance is the opposite of insecurity.
Self-acceptance means, “I like me. It’s not of supreme importance how this plays out. My view of myself will not plummet as a result of failure here, nor is it dependant on success. I like me.”
And, just like confidence, women find this extremely attractive. It’s simple, yes, but it works wonders.
Let me explain a little more:
How Do Your Beliefs Cause Women to Chase You?
One way to see–or appreciate–the power of your beliefs is how they inform your intention.
When you think everything is going to be alright, you keep going.
If a person is insecure, on the other hand, he is unwilling to try. He stops short. He gives up, and he makes excuses.
It’s actually a subtle difference, so you might not even notice it, but when you think something is going to be fine, you don’t notice any difficulties unless they actually stop you.
For example, have you ever suffered an embarrassing failure?
I’m not talking about anything crazy, just the moment you tossed a paper towel into the trashcan at work and missed in front of a few coworkers,or maybe that girl you like.
If you’ve ever had an experience like that, then you’ll realize that you wouldn’t have taken that shot if you thought you could miss. You were so “confident” that you took a risk (the risk of embarrassment) that you didn’t realize it was even there.
That’s what confidence does. It trims the path before you, so you just see road instead of potholes and tree stumps.
The potholes and tree stumps are still there, but you don’t lose a lot of focus or energy thinking about them because you expect to get to the other side.
In other words, when you are confident, you make plans that you wouldn’t make if you didn’t feel like it’s going to work out.
Taking action comes easily–including with women.
Which brings me to the final underrated quality that causes women to chase you…
3) The “She Likes Me” Belief
This one might sound a lot like “you like me,” but it’s much more powerful… and here’s why:
So every week, I’ll be answering your most burning questions about sex and online dating…
And this week, I’m answering this one:
“What does it mean to be a ‘real man’ today, and which ‘manly’ behaviors attract the most women?”
In this video, I show you 5 forgotten “manly” qualities that secretly turn women on, PLUS:
Why a “real man” does NOT necessarily mean “big huge muscles” and instead is about this one thing…
How to easily show any woman these 5 forgotten qualities that turn her on & get her home with you…
The bizarre reason why doing THIS can be a huge turn-on (even though most women refuse to admit it)…
5 ways to appear strong & masculine to women without coming off as a “show-off” or a jerk…
My personal favorite “manly” quality (anytime a guy does this I get *tingles* lol)…
Unlocking The Secret of “Real Men” Who Always Get the Women They Want…
The 5 forgotten “manly” qualities I showed you in the video will help you naturally attract more women…
But what if you want to take it one step further… and become the kind of guy who:
Can walk into a room and have any woman he wants…
Take a woman home 5 minutes after he meets her…
Get a rotation of 3-5 f**kbuddies who are always around for sex (threesomes, anal, etc.)…
I mean, we’ve all seen those guys… the “real men” who can effortlessly command the room… who seem to do nothing, yet have women chasing after them for sex constantly (even if they aren’t good-looking smooth talkers, or wearing anything flashy)…
What do they have, that other guys don’t?
Well, I can tell you that it goes FAR beyond the 5 manly qualities I already showed you… but it’s also something that every guy can attain, with the proper techniques.
So join me every week as I answer your most important sex and dating questions…
And today, I’m answering this one:
“Do you have any regrets with women?What advice would you give your younger self?”In this video, I reveal the one regret I have with women, PLUS:
The life-changing lesson I discovered after sleeping with 300+ girls…
Why being a dating “expert” can sometimes backfire (and the secret advantage of “average” men)…
A step-by-step method to use my story to sleep with more hot women right now…
The TRUTH about girls lying and cheating that very few men realize…
How to move on from any regrets you might have & get the woman you really want…
How To Easily Avoid My Crippling Mistake & Find True Sexual Success With Women…
If I could go back in time, and give myself one piece of advice, it would be this:
“Make more of a connection with women BEFORE sleeping with them, instead of the other way around.”
Because the truth is, if you can build a deeper connection with a woman before sleeping with her… not only will you get sex in the end, but the sex will likely be better, and you’ll also be able to sleep with her whenever you want.
(And that way, you never have to chase women down for sex. They come to you.)
And yeah, I know making “more of a connection” might not sound easy at first… though over the years, I have found one resource that’s made it a lot easier & faster:
This is something that can you can use as an icebreaker to meet more women easily, without much chance of rejection…
…and it’s scientifically-engineered to build a meaningful connection with a woman really fast. By the time you’re done using it 30 minutes later, she’ll feel like she’s already been on several dates with you.
Hey man, it’s Craig… and if you’re wondering what to text a girl you like, I’ve got something awesome for you today.
It’s no secret that your text game these days is arguably as important–if not more important–than your game in person.
I mean, think about it:
More girls than ever are using online dating… and usually, between the time you make a match and get her out on a date… there’s at least SOME texting involved.
On top of that, when you get a girl’s number, you’ll probably have to text her first before you get her out on a date with you.
These days, knowing what to text a girl you like can get you dates and sex faster than you ever thought possible. But on the flipside, a less-than-great texting game can prevent you from getting any of this.
So that’s what I want to talk about today.
I want to share my 3 most effective texting resources that I currently have at my disposal. These are resources that are chock-full of great information and show you exactly what to text a girl you like, including:
How to get girls to text back even if they haven’t responded in hours or days…
What to text a girl to get her to come over for same-night sex…
And the best words & phrases to send a girl to get her out on a date with you without any chance of flaking or “ghosting.”
These resources will show you how to overcome the biggest texting problems guys face today, and ultimately, they’ll show you what to text a girl you like in any situation, so that you have the kind of texting game that you can use to get fast sex and dates from girls whenever you want.
So let’s go ahead and jump in with resource #1:
1) If You Want More Texts Back & Dates With ZERO Flakiness…
A lot of guys these days deal with women who either:
a) Will text back or agree to a date but then flake out or “ghost”… or:
b) Just stop texting back eventually, or only text back one-word answers like “k.”
2) If You Want to Turn Things Sexual (No Matter What Time of Day it Is Or Even If She Stopped Responding)…
Here’s the truth:
A lot of guys tend to be way too “PC” when they text girls.
And as a result of them playing it safe, girls get bored and stop responding.
So if you’re texting a girl you like, and you want to turn things sexual, how do you do it in a way that’s not too over-the-top?
It’s a great question… and for a long time I wondered the exact same thing… but since then, I’ve learned that the easiest way to get sexual with a girl over text, is to follow this simple 4-step method.
Whether you’re texting her during your lunch break… late at night on a weekend… or even early in the morning in some cases… this method will show you, step-by-step the exact words and phrases to text her to turn her on, and make her want sex with you right away.
Again, these are texts you can send a girl at literally any time of day (even if it’s 2 A.M.), and in just about any situation (including if you haven’t met her yet), and they work to get her to come over for sex right away.
I think my favorite is probably the “Howard Stern trick”… but just click the one you want to know more about below:
Well, even better than a wand–because a wand can be lost or forgotten at home when you go out to face dragons and bad wizards.
I’m going to give you a magic spell.
This is going to be a mantra.
More specifically, it’s going to be the words that help you take action when you get stuck in your head, or feel like you “just can’t.”
This is something that works for my shiest, most introverted students to get them laid much faster than normal–and it works because it gets past every single one of their fears, distractions, and barriers that stop them from taking action.
So if you’re motivated to get laid faster, or if you simply want to get more hookups and dates, this is going to work great for you. As long as you’re motivated–that’s the key.
I’ll explain what I mean in just a second… but first, let’s talk about what stops most men from taking action in the first place:
Why Most Men Struggle to Make the First Move (And How to Use This Knowledge to Your Advantage)
As a man, you probably have a good idea of your strengths and your weaknesses. You know what you can and cannot do.
Now, I’m not telling you that this “magician’s trick” is going to instantly make you some kind of sex god who gets same day lays all the time.
I’m not saying that after reading a couple articles, or even sitting through a seminar or watching a talk, you can suddenly take home the cheerleading squad.
By now, you’ve probably already realized this, but success and action are separated by a chasm.
In order to get success, and especially success with women, you have to take action–but quite often, this action can seem unclear, or unrealistic.
This is why most men struggle to make the first move.
Because they aren’t sure exactly what to do, they simply don’t do anything. And while I don’t blame any guy for doing this, it’s not going to get him any numbers, dates, and most importantly, sex.
So what can you do? How do you take action when you aren’t sure when–or how–to make the first move on a girl?
That’s where this “magician’s trick” comes in.
The “Magician’s Trick” That Makes the First Move Easy & Effortless…
This “magician’s trick” is really a simple mantra:
It has nothing to do with success–as in “no excuses, you can take her home” or, “no excuses, you will get that number.”
No–that’s not how you use this magician’s spell.
Instead, “No Excuses” is a phrase to carry you through sexual escalation points. It’s all about getting yourself to take a necessary starting action.
If you are trying to save yourself from talking to new people, “No Excuses” is about opening the door and walking into the venue–or sometimes even opening your door and walking out of your house.
If you are standing there and the voice in your head is saying, “Ask for her number. Ask for her number. Ask for her number”…
But the voice outside your head is saying, “Ha ha, you’re funny. I can’t believe I missed my stop and I’m laughing about it! It was a lot of fun, I guess, talking to you. You never even explained where that scar came from…”
In this scenario, “No Excuses” means, “No excuses. Ask now.” It means you’re not going to miss another chance to continue a conversation.
Now, you may NOT get her number, and you may get her number and then she never answers that phone… but none of this matters.
Because at the end of the day, what “No Excuses” means is that even things don’t go exactly as planned, you are not to blame.
Why Does This Work So Well to Escalate With Women?
It’s no secret that you can’t control everything, and this is actually a great advantage for you:
One of the key attractive masculine features is your willingness–and ability–to move forward and take action without having everything under control.
Often, the feminine personality will feel nervous and unsure, and even incredulous that you can keep moving forward.
The feminine personality will admire your willingness to move forward in the dark–she’ll be drawn to it, in fact.
“No Excuses” means that you’re going to do your part. And when you move forward, women will take notice and like it.
Here’s another way to think about it:
I often write articles for guys who feel like they don’t know what to do.
And in that case–if a guy feels like he doesn’t know what to do–I give him ideas, or inspiration, or some actual words to say to a woman. This should theoretically give him some peace of mind that he knows what’s going to happen next.
But the truth is, I never know what’s going to happen next. And neither do you–that’s life.
This is what “No Excuses” is about. I’m taking away any opportunity you might have to come up with some excuse for why you didn’t try a certain technique or a phrase.
You just have to do something.
What You MUST Do If You Want Her to Come Home With You…
Often, I write articles on topics like, “What To Expect When You’re Approaching.” (Copyright! I’ll probably make that the name of my next book.)
Sometimes, though–like today–it’s not about what you do, because you have your words and your steps and you know what it’s time to do it now.
Like Nike says… “Just do it.”
“No Excuses” essentially cuts through all of your internal reasons not to do something, and lets you take a step you know you can take.
Don’t do more than you know you can handle, and don’t push yourself so you never want to try again.
Just take one action that goes beyond what you’re doing now, and watch your success with women skyrocket.
For example, for my shy students who struggle with making the first move–I tell them “No Excuses” so they know they have to do something to make it happen.
It doesn’t have to be obvious, and it doesn’t even have to be sexual (at first).
It just has to be something that escalates in the tiniest way, so eventually, that first kiss happens.
Like this technique, for example, that’s been working really well to get my shy students laid on the first date:
The “Magic Touch” My Shy Students Use to Get Laid on the First Date…
Now, what I’m about to show you is not another mantra.
It’s a real technique that you can use to turn things sexual with a woman, and even get her to come home with you the same night you meet her.
… but because when used properly, it works to turn her on so SHE kisses you first… and without you having to say much of anything at all.
There are 3 steps:
1) When you’re in a semi-private place (like a corner booth in a lounge, or even sitting together in a park), look for one of these “innocent” spots on her body, that’s chock-full of sexual nerve-endings. I’m not talking about her more intimate areas either… click here to see what I mean.
2) Touch her like this for 2-3 seconds–then pull back. It might not SEEM to work at first… but here’s how you’ll know:
3) A couple minutes later, she may start leaning into you more… playfully touching & kissing you… and even joking around about going home with you, or “watching Netflix” back at your place.
That’s basically her way of telling you, “Take me home RIGHT NOW.”
And from there, all you have to do is call an Uber.
Here’s a short guide that shows you exactly how to use the “Magic Touch” to get more same-night sex right away–just click below to check it out:
This idea gets put into your head from a very young age… and there’s no real explanation for it.
But whatever the reason, a lot of men today feel that their dating pool is limited to shorter women only, and that taller women are completely turned off by shorter men.
As a woman, I can tell you that this doesn’t have to be the case!
The truth is that this myth — that taller women won’t date short guys — is more fiction than fact.
And I’m going to show you why.
I’ll give you proven examples of how short guys get taller women to hook up and go home with them in real life, and I’ll also show you a simple method to get a taller woman to go home with you, straight from one of Gotham Club’s experts.
Why The “Short Guy” Myth Needs to Go Away…
There are examples of taller women dating shorter men all over the place:
Tom Cruise (5’7”) with Nicole Kidman (5’11”)…
Jamie Cullum (5’5”) with Sophie Dahl (6’0”)…
Dave Gardner (5’9”) with Liv Tyler (5’10”)…
Just to name a few. And while Tom Cruise and Jamie Cullum are celebrities, yes, I want to point out that Dave Gardner is just a sports agent. Not a super famous guy.
So you don’t have to be a celebrity to date a taller woman!
And in fact, a lot of taller women actually want to date shorter men.
A woman who’s with a shorter man doesn’t need to wear heels everywhere…and as an added bonus, she’ll be close to eye level with you when you go in for the kiss.
Taller women also tend to be more conscious of their own height, so she understands that she widens her dating pool if she includes shorter men.
Now, I won’t deny that there are some taller women who refuse to date shorter men…
But these women are close-minded and superficial. Do you really want to date a woman like that?
A woman who immediately rejects you because of your height is judgmental and searching for the “perfect man.”
And because of that, she’ll never find anybody who makes her truly happy. It’s a waste of your effort to even try.
At the end of the day, you can’t change your height. But what you can control is much more powerful:
How you communicate and interact with women so that you get the upper hand.
So next time you meet a beautiful woman who just happens to be taller than you, just follow these 3 simple steps for success:
1) Don’t Mention the Height Difference
The worst possible thing you can do when you meet a taller woman is bring her attention to your height difference right away…
Because that’s not even close to the first thing she notices about you! In fact, I had a long-term boyfriend who was half an inch shorter than I am, and I didn’t pick up on any height difference until months into the relationship.
He never brought it to my attention. Seriously, it’s that simple!
It’s like having a ketchup stain on your shirt — you might think everyone is gawking at it…
But in reality, they haven’t even noticed it. And the only way they would notice is if you mention it.
So if you don’t mention your height difference… chances are she won’t mention it either.
On top of that, if you do mention it, she might assume you’re insecure or uncomfortable with your body. And that’s a huge turn-off for her.
But if you ignore the difference, she’ll think you’re a confident guy who’s secure in himself… and she’ll appreciate that you don’t need her “approval.”
Here’s the truth: Taller women have eyes. If there’s a height difference, she’ll eventually notice…
But by ignoring the difference, you’re showing her that you don’t care about the fact that she’s taller than you — you just want her. And that’s something all women find attractive.
2) Don’t Try to Overcompensate
It’s easy to think that if you’re lacking in one area, you can make up for it by emphasizing your strong points.
And because of this, many guys who are worried about their height try to make up for it in flashiness and bravado.
They brag about their career successes…
How much money they have…
The other women they’ve dated…
And they’re cocky as hell.
To a woman, this screams “desperate.” If you feel the need to “prove” yourself to her because of your height, she’ll notice. And not in a good way.
Yes, women want to know your good qualities…but she doesn’t want you to shove them in her face. Let her discover them herself — that way she can truly appreciate the man you are right now.
So how do you avoid this overcompensation?
Just treat her like you would any normal woman! It sounds obvious, but it really works…because at the end of the day, that’s what she is: A woman.
Taller women are exactly like every other type of women — and so they respond in exactly the same way.
But I get it — her height might still make you feel a little uncomfortable (even if you’re really into her). So here’s a pro tip:
Take her to a venue where the height difference is barely noticeable. That way, there won’t even be an opportunity to talk about it!
For example, you could take her to a bar where the lighting is dim…
Or a coffee shop where you’re both sitting down…
Or a movie where you’re sitting in the dark…
Or you could even go to a concert together! If you’re standing next to each other and staring at a stage, she’ll be too distracted by the music to notice your height.
And here’s the last thing you have to do to “seal the deal” and get her home with you…
3) The #1 Secret of Short Guys Who Date & Hookup With Taller Women
Dirty talk is one of the easiest ways to make sex hotter and foreplay amazing.
Though it’s easy to f–k up…especially when you’re in bed with a new woman.
As a professional male adult performer, I’m used to sleeping with new women — sometimes I only have a few minutes to figure out:
a) Whether or not she’s into dirty talk, and… b) Just how dirty she wants her dirty talk to be.
So today, I’m going to show you how to figure out exactly what kind of dirty talk she wants, a way to get her to start talking dirty with you, and how to use dirty talk to amp up both your pleasure and hers in bed.
Inside the Secret World of Male Adult Performers…
I’m Derrick Pierce, and I’m an adult male performer. Some people call me a “pornstar,” but I think “adult male performer” is more accurate.
I got into the business about 10 years ago — at the time, I was dating this girl in the industry, and I met some people through her who wanted to work with me.
I wasn’t even sure I could do it at first…it’s one thing to stare at a screen while you’re jerking off and be like “I could totally do this!”...
But it’s another thing entirely when somebody says, “Hey, this is Jenna. Jenna, this is Derrick. Alright guys, get naked. Let’s have some sex, and we’re just going to stand over here and film it, and shine bright lights, and say cut, and then you pose for pictures.”
That sort of changes the dynamic of things. Anyway, over the years I’ve picked up my fair share of “sex secrets”…one of them being dirty talk.
Dirty talk is maybe the best way for me to get in the moment with a new girl…
Not to mention it’s hot as hell.
Though if you’ve never done it, it can feel like a pretty intimidating subject.
Here’s my 2 cents:
My “Golden Rule” of Dirty Talk
My “Golden Rule” of dirty talk goes like this: Always, and I mean always, get an idea of what kind of dirty talk she’ll like before you jump in bed together.
Girls — especially girls under 30 — might get offended by certain “trigger words,” and so in your attempts to turn her on, you might actually turn her off. Not good.
So how do you do figure it out? I have this “innocent” question that works like magic.
Let’s say you’re having drinks with a new girl and you have a feeling you’re gonna get lucky later. Bring up a story of how your friend’s girlfriend is being a “total f–king b-tch.”
Then ask her, “What do you think?”
If she looks shocked and appalled…she probably doesn’t wanna be called a “f–king b-tch” in bed. However, if she smiles and asks “Oh really?” Chances are she’s cool with it.
It’s that simple.
You might be wondering why a girl would want to be called a “f–king b-tch” in bed. Well, when you use the right kind of sexual tone…something like:
“You might not be a b-tch, but right now you’re my b-tch,” will turn her on like crazy.
Are you ready to learn exactly how to dirty talk like a pro?
(By the way, if you want another pro sex tip, check out this “Sex Snack” that male pornstars eat before sex to get hard & last for hours. It’s really easy to make too.)
Here’s my 3-step method:
1) Ease Into It (This Is Not a Race)
I love dirty talk, but dirty talk is something you’ve got to ease your way into.
If you start off with, “Do you like this you dirty f–king b—h?” it’s going to feel invasive, and in fact, it might even turn her off.
So the first step is to start slow — begin with little things that have a dirty or naughty “feel” to them but won’t shock her or pull her out of the moment.
Like, for example, “I love the way your p—y feels.” Then listen for her response, and take it from there — if she looks excited, you can take it to the next level.
A lot of guys think that “Do you like this?” is a good place to start — avoid this AT ALL COSTS.
Cliche questions like that will not turn her on…if she’s having sex with you, it’s clear she’s enjoying what you’re doing…so asking her obvious questions like that might actually piss her off.
Instead, ask questions she can’t help but answer, like “Oh, you’re a dirty little girl aren’t you?”
She might reply with “Maybe,” then you can explore just how dirty she’s willing to get.
The important thing to remember is that every girl has a different definition of “dirty.” So start slow, and make sure she’s comfortable.
That brings me to the next step:
2) Let Her Initiate
Did you know you can actually get a girl to start the dirty talk? It’s true — and it’s really easy.
The key is to spot the signs that she wants to get dirty with you.
For example, if you lightly pull her hair and she starts breathing heavily, that’s a sign she’s a little kinky.
And that’s an opportunity for you to ask her, “How much of a dirty girl are you?” She won’t be able to help but answer.
Or if she gets a little rough with you — like she scratches her nails down your back or lightly chokes you — “How rough do you want it?” is a good question to ask.
If she’s a little shy, she might say something like, “Wouldn’t you like to find out?” This shows you that she wants to go there with you…she might just need you to ease her into it.
And how do you do that?
Just ask her, “Why don’t you show me?” And watch her guard come down.
The most important thing is that you respond to what she says, and from there you can let her take the lead.
At the end of the day, dirty talk should enhance sex, not make it awkward for either of you.
I’ve got another trick up my sleeve to enhance your pleasure even more…it’s an industry secret I’ve never shared with anyone else before:
3) My #1 Industry Secret: The “Sex Snack”
Her bare breasts bounced as she rode me like a damn cowgirl…“Yes, Derrick, YES!!! I’m coming!!” Awwww yeah. 2 hours of pure pleasure. All in a day’s work.
“2 hours? How much Viagra did you take?!”
ZERO. Believe it or not, I’m all natural — no drug-induced erections or “little blue pills” for me.
Instead, us guys in the industry do something else before we go on camera…we eat the “Sex Snack.”
It’s this weird combination of foods…basic stuff you can find in any supermarket…
And when they’re combined into the “Sex Snack”…I’ll admit it’s an acquired taste…but man, it makes my boners rock hard (not to mention I can get hard at the drop of a hat after I eat it).
I first learned about the “Sex Snack” from this video featuring one of my mentors, the world’s oldest pornstar, Dave Cummings.