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A quick guide to actually achieving those goals. Recently I was on Instagram and feeling stuck on how I am to achieve my goals as a blogger, a person, and my life. I have to admit this girl was down. I was getting by once again with a heavy heart and mind. Until it hit me. I was stuck because I was trying to work on a powerful goal and not focusing on the steps that will get me there.  This revelation honestly pulled me out of the funk. It forced me to look at the bigger picture and break it down into smaller pieces. I now have a bigger picture of what I am doing. All I had to do was write down the original goal and steps of how to get there. Those steps, in turn, became their own goals.  In this way, I can easily accomplish my goal. Here’s why I chose to do it this way and why you should too. But First What makes a goal powerful? The answer is simple. A powerful goal is one that is too big for us. An amazing goal that has the potential to propel us forward in the area of our life we set it for. The one that is scary and seems hard. That is what I call a powerful goal. The goal is Too Powerful Setting goals is a good way to achieve something in life. I think if you want to succeed you should set goals for yourself. With goals, you always have something your working towards. However, when we set our goals, we automatically set the big or powerful ones. Afterward, we notice how big or powerful the goal is and get stuck. Even worse we give up. That’s because we forget to set the steps to achieve those big powerful goal. When we set the steps to achieve the goal then we are more incline to achieve it. Writing down do steps and making them a goal all in themselves will work wonders for your motivation.  You will find that the goal is not as big or as powerful as you originally thought. Go ahead and grab a piece of paper and start planning out that powerful goal. Write down the steps of the goal. Then take those steps and turn them into little goals. You will be surprised how motivated you are to continue on your journey to achieving your goal once you have a clearer picture.  My saying is … work on the small to achieve the big. A clearer picture of the Powerful plan as a whole  Often times we set a powerful goal or goals but don’t have a clearer picture of how to achieve the goal we set. The reason why that we don’t have a picture of what the goal is supposed to look like.  Having a clear picture of the steps you need to take to achieve your goal will help you actually get to where you want to be. It takes the guessing work out of achieving your set goal. It provides you with a plan of action that will help you succeed. Without an action plan, you will not get far in those goals.  My goal is to move to a new place at the end of this month. I want to be in a new city doing something new. That means I have to plan it out. Know my powerful goals and the steps I need to achieve them. When I have the steps then I can make those steps into goals to achieve. In the end, I have the whole picture. Be more aware I have a really bad character flaw. I am very absent-minded. People who know me have to tell me something about 4 times before I remember. If I need to do something I have to do it right then and there because if I don’t I will forget. I also have to write everything down so that I can remember them. Writing everything down helps me stay aware of what I have to do.  When you break down your powerful goal into steps and turn those steps into smaller achievable goals. You are more aware of what you are working towards. It is easy to say you are doing something and are not aware of what is going on. Do what you need to do to makes sure you always have an awareness of what your goal is.  That is why you need to break down the goal so that you are more aware. You need to know the ends and outs of how to achieve the goal you have set out to achieve. This way you are aware of your progress, what you have done, and so much more. Celebrate small victories  In the world of psychology, we tell our clients “celebrate the small victories.”  Well, the same goes for us who are trying to achieve something big or powerful. We need to be able to celebrate the small victories. The question is how do you celebrate small victories when your goal is powerful? That is what the plan to goal method is so effective. It gives you something to celebrate therefore it keeps you motivated.  Without motivation, it is hard to achieve a goal. If you are not motivated, you will not be very effective in achieving what you set out to do. That is why the plan to goal method is so effective.  It allows you to see the progress and reward of what you set out to achieve. Thus, giving you the boost, you need to continue.  Final thoughts That’s it folks that are the key to success. Don’t just set a goal. Plan it out and get yourself to the place you want to be by planning it out. Those who succeed are those with a plan. And I know you can do it.  Don’t forget to sign up for the mailing list for more great content like this. Check us out on Instagram and Pinterest for more motivation. While you doing all that check out the latest post 7 Practical Ways To Declutter Your Mind.

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SPRING is here and even though it already been well on its way. We can still celebrate its goodness and bask in its awesomeness. I know I am. The best part is that the Holiday is over. YAY!!! Now that you have nothing to actually worry about. No more Easter baskets and the kids (if you have any) should be heading back to school. All are a perfect recipe for you to take some time for yourself. I know it sounds hard, but it must be done.  While you’re sipping on a cold refreshing lemonade or any drink that makes you happy. The feeling of being stuck and weight down is back once again. All these are a symptom of a cluttered mind. A mind that is full of worries and stress that you have not let go off.  Isn’t that why your reading this post.  Without further ado. Mostly because I know that you can’t take any more information in your state. Here are a 7 practical ways to declutter your mind this spring season. Don’t Forget To Breathe Y’all already know that I am a social worker/therapist. So, I must bring you something that we in the field call evidence base. That just means that some people studied it and provide evidence on how it works. You know like science.  The science shows that if we take at least 3 deep breaths a day it will help lower our stress. most times we go throughout our day and forget to stop and take a couple of deep breaths. All that does is contribute to that bong down feeling and heaviness in our minds.  That is why you should take a moment while you are sipping on that cold refreshing beverage and breathe. Take a deep breath through your nose, hold it for five seconds, and let it out through your mouth.  There don’t you feel better. Isn’t your mind clearer? didn’t you feel your shoulders just simply relax? I know I did. Clean Your Space One thing I find to really cloud my mind and weigh me down is a messy environment. A not so clean space. When I clean my space I feel like I can tackle the world. When my environment is not clean I find it to be an extension of how I am doing in the inside.  That is probably true for most of us. So it is important that we clean the space around us. I know it’s not easy because we are so busy but take a couple of minutes in the morning or at night to clean your space. Trust me it will work wonders for your mind, self-confidence, and emotions. You name it. A clean space provides you with an opportunity to focus on what really matters in life. Like building those relationships.  Write It Down Writing things down seem to be the hardest thing for people to do. When I speak to my mentee, clients, and those that I coach. I always explain to them the importance of writing things down. The importance of making a list.  Because here’s what is happening. Why you are feeling weight down and stuck. You are trying to remember everything. Putting too much information in your brain. With all the information it’s no wonder you are absent-minded and forgetful and in serious need of a spring mind de-cluttering.  Per usual I will not give you any information without a tip to help you fix it. So, here’s the tip. Remember the age we live in. It’s the age of technology. You have the opportunity to carry around a cell phone. And in that cellphone, there is an app called to-do.  I implore you to use it. But if your more of a paper person get yourself a to-do notebook. I found this great one on Amazon. Set Goals.  Goal setting is an awesome way for you to declutter your mind. Because I find that most of us have so many aspirations and dreams and don’t have a plan on how to accomplish them. We hold them in our heads and every now and then we think about them adding new information.  This is a big no-no.  Write them down and plan them. Don’t just hold all that information in your head. It is important to map these things out so that you can be the best you. Don’t forget we can’t achieve big goals without first planning them and achieving our little goals. Self-care  The number one thing we often feel guilty about is self-care. I once read a book by Maya Angelou called Wouldn’t Take Nothing For My Journey Now. and if you get a chance to buy it, do. Or just get it here. It’s a book of her giving advice that she learned from her life. It’s one of my favorite books.  In the book, she talks about how she would turn off her phone and take a one-day staycation. she would get herself a hotel room and spend the whole day with herself doing something she loved. What’s interesting is that her friends and family called her selfish and other things.  And although we are not the great Maya Angelou, we need to understand what she was saying. People don’t want you to focus on yourself. They will be upset when you take a minute for yourself. But if you’re feeling stuck, bong down and mentally drained. Then take a moment for yourself boo.  read a book, go to a movie, walk around in the park, or get your nails done. Whatever you do don’t forget to turn off your phone, shut out the world and focus on you. Perfect time to work on your Goal setting.  Exercise  There I said it the dreaded word. But it’s necessary. I mean the studies say it is. So yay science (weak voice). Although I am one to say eat my shorts (thank you Bart Simpson) to exercise, I have to admit it does a good job at clearing your mind.  Personally, myself I try to do it at least 3 times a week. Mostly because I work in a high-stress field and all that mind tension has to go somewhere. And the same goes for you. You need to release all that tension in your mind.  One thing I learned about exercise is that it doesn’t have to be complicated. Just simply going for a 30-minute brisk walk will do wonders for you. It will do its job at clearing your mind. My favorite times of the day are the times I go for a walk. Although, getting up to go for that walk is hard but when I am in the middle of it. I am in love. HEY, don’t forget to follow me on social media. Pin with us on Pinterest, interact with me on Instagram and show some love on Facebook. I’m human and would love to hear from you. Also, don’t forget to sign up for our email list to be the first in the know. And while you wait for a new post check out these 7 Inspiring Quotes That Will Change Your Life.

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In this day and age, we are constantly bombarded with what media consider to be the ideal beauty. These standards of beauty are so far-fetched that it is impossible for the average person to keep up. It is everywhere in magazines, television, movies, and much more. Trust me it can get overwhelming. Often forcing us to ask, “what is a girl to do?” Of course, we would ask that question when so many new products and methods are coming out every day geared to helping us enhance our beauty. Especially when we realize the standard of beauty only works for one person. The person promoting it. I’m sorry to say none of us can look like Gal Gadot because we are a whole different person. She is beautiful in her own right. And, unless you can convince God to rebirth you like her. It’s never going to happen. The same goes for the Priyanka’s, Beyoncé’s, and the Zendaya’s of the world. The truth of the matter is all of us look nothing like them.  Since no amount of make-up, creams, or other products created to force us to conform will ever change who we are. Then how do we overcome the body image insecurities that our culture has forced upon us? That is not an easy question to answer. Nor is it an easy fix. It does however start by choosing to be you and embrace yourself. I watched this interesting movie on Netflix called Dumplin. It’s about this young woman who was blessed with a beauty queen for a mother. But struggles with body image and self-love because her world was a world filled with constant comparisons. Throughout the movie, this girl fights to win a pageant because she had something to prove. However, she ran into failures after failures until one day She meets a friend of her aunt who told her a very profound thing. “Find out who you are and be that person on purpose” And this should be our motto as we struggle with our bodies, insecurities, and ourselves. Healing comes when we embark on the journey to embrace who we are. It won’t just happen until we understand what this journey of self-embrace is all about. These truths will set us free and if we truly practice them. We will be able to walk down the street with our heads held high.  The goal is to say to the world “here I am” while standing tall and proud. Here they are the truths that will start you off in the journey to embracing yourself. Everybody is Different. The first truth we need to know and remember is that everybody is different. If this sounds cliché then you’re right because it does. However, that doesn’t make it any less true. Until we understand this truth we will always be controlled by our insecurities.  Let’s use me for example, the truth of the matter is I’m born me. I wish I had the hips of my friend, the hair that stays where I put it, or the arms of the lady next to me at the gym, better yet the height of an average person. Instead, I am shortest one out of my friend group, the one with the petite body and the butt that often feels out of place. But it’s who I am. I am not them and will never be them. I can’t wear the clothes they wear, do my hair like them, or even stand as tall. All because they are them and I am me.  That is why they are different, and I am different. Together we bring out the best of each other. We laugh together and cry together. If we looked the same, we would not have the wisdom to share in each other’s pain or the advice to give one another when we are dealing with our own insecurities. That is why this truth is important to understand  When we are different, we are better able to support each other.   You’re Not Alone  The second truth you need to understand is that you’re not alone. You know how you don’t like your arms, or how you are overcritical about your hair? Remeber- Everyone struggles with body insecurities.  This truth is often hard to swallow. Because at the end of the day we like to think we are the only ones in our struggles. But we are not others suffer from these insecurities just like we do. Or this post wouldn’t exist.  Granted others may not struggle with the same body insecurities as you and me. But they are struggling and are looking for a solution just like we are. So, cheer up we are not in this alone.  Be Nice. If all I have said so far did not spark a revolution in, you. Turn your world around and your perspective then this truth should. BE NICE TO YOURSELF. I mean really, it’s not a joke but truth. We spend so much of our time being nice to others. Holding doors, holding back, and encouraging them. But we put no effort into ourselves. In fact, we are overcritical of ourselves.  Here’s an activity, actually listen to yourself when you speak about yourself. And you will notice how mean you are. How over critical you sound, and how much pain you carry in your voice. That is why this truth is important.  All of that is called self-talk. It is the conversation we are having internally with ourselves. And most times that conversation is not a good one. Or even one we want to be part of. If we listen, you how we speak to ourselves we will be so discourage about what we sound like.  Do yourselves a favor and be nice to yourself. Change the conversation by allowing that same grace you give to others to yourself.  Focus on other things What we focus on usually have an impact on us. And that is why this truth is life changing. We need to change our focus from out insecurities to other things that we find bring us joy. It is common knowledge that the more inwardly focus you are the more unhappy you will become.  Change your focus. Instead of staring at yourself in the mirror why not go enjoy the people who are in your life. Instead of countless hours staring and coveting the image of another person. Why not do something for someone who need it.  Go out and help someone, work at a food pantry, get more involved in church, and get out of your head. This is so important and something that we don’t do enough of. Focus on doing something for others instead of sitting around wishing you look like them.  Make A List  This is not a truth but an exercise that will start you on the journey of overcoming body insecurities. Make a list of everything you love about yourself. Don’t just write about the physical things. Because you are not just physical.  You are beautiful inside and out. List the things you like that makes you the person you are. List at least 10 things. Then carry that list with you as a reminder of who you are. When you run into that person who has the “perfect” arms or the hair of your dreams. You will remember the things that make you smile about yourself.  Last thoughts The last thing you should consider is this. Instead of fighting your insecurities or trying to fix them. Why not embrace them. But that’s another post for another day. If this post inspire you don’t forget to comment and leave some love. While you’re at it sign up for our newsletter you’ll be glad you did. Last, just go ahead and follow us on Instagram or pin with us on Pinterest.

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If you’re anything like me fashion is your passion. For me, and took take it further it’s not just a passion but my way of life. The clothes I wear kind of define who I am. I put great care into finding the right dress to wear. Especially since I wear dresses only and skirts.  No, I’m not weird I wear them out of choice.  They make me feel pretty and finding one that fits well is a challenge. Until I found out about this site. The clothes are affordable and I have to admit it’s worth it. For example, the dark green color of this dress and midi length made me feel special and flowy. I have to admit this dress is bringing me life this month. It sits well in all the right places. And it is the perfect length for the office and dates. I love the way it flows down around me without getting in my way. It is a rare gem found on this site. Coupled with the right bag it is turning heads and giving me life this week.

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A vision board is an amazing tool that helps you focus on and clarify specific life goals. And I never wanted to do one. 

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Starting a blog is hard work. I have to admit that it has been a journey these last couple of months. When I started my blog, I had no idea what I was doing. It was a new world for me, and everything was new and exciting. And it was HARD.

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Traveling solo is awesome. I have to admit it does give you a certain level of empowerment. It frees you from the boundaries of having to adhere by the itinerary of other. That is why it’s so awesome to travel alone. But, like everything in life you need to be smart. Traveling solo is an art and part of the art form is learning how to be safe. Here are 12 tips that I have learned from experience.  When traveling alone Trust Your Gut Your gut is that feeling you get that something is wrong. Don’t ignore it. If you feel like something is not right, then turn around and leave that place. Don’t try to talk yourself out of the feeling. Listen to your instinct. In the end, your safety is a priority at all times. Remember safety is instinctual. So, don’t overlook your instinct. If your instinct is to run then run. WORRY ABOUT LOOKING STUPID LATER. Nine out of ten times you are right. My motto is run first as questions later. Travel during the day The day times are the best time to travel. It’s because there are people around and things to see. Don’t get me wrong you can go to paces at night. But if you’re going somewhere you feel uncomfortable about. Then the best time to go is during the day. Unless you go out with trusted people. Most of the times it is best to travel during the day. If the place you are traveling to has a nightlife then make sure you follow safety procedures.  Don’t put yourself in unnecessary danger. Plan Everything Plan everything. The best-laid plans guarantee success. So don’t just go with the flow. Make sure you plan where you’re going to be. This way you know how to get there and I formation about the place. A plan is good because it allows you to have some sort of structure. Plus you get to actually experience the country. Most times people go on a trip with no plan. They just decided we are going and don’t know what they are going to do. That is the best way to waste your time. Plan when you’re going out and where you’re going.Don’t just wander the street with no purpose. And when you plan to give your itinerary to someone back home. This way they know what you are doing and are able to help if need be. Research the place yet you’re going Don’t forget anywhere without researching the place. Don’t just choose a country or state and just go. No, it is not smart and safe. Make sure you at least do your basic research. The transportation of the place, the language they speak, what the culture is like. If you’re going overseas you need to know what the biases are towards Americans. Also political climate, and so on. Being aware is the first rule of safety. Have emergency numbers ready This doesn’t just mean police or ambulance, but so much more. You need to make sure you have the number of the embassy. In Taiwan, they have a foreigner helpline. I have that number save on my phone. Also, keep numbers for people back home that anyone can call in case of emergency.Like the person who you call and send your photos to. Keep those numbers handy. Get a tour guide If you’re lost at what to do. Then plan a solo trip with a tour guide. Many times you can find specials to a place that offer guided tours. So don’t be scared to research those tours. You can usually ask for information at your hotel or airport information desk. Join traveling groups Traveling groups are great. They provide you with the joy of solo travel with like-minded individuals. Everybody, there is ready to s e the world and meet new people. This is a great way to travel solo. Not only are you meeting new people doing the exact same thing your doing. But you are making connections and new friends. This way you can learn from them as they learn from you. Check in with people Rather you’re with a tour group or traveling groups. Check in with your family and friends. They love and want to hear from you. They will be the ones crying if something happens to you. Don’t neglect them. Check in with them. Let them know your plans and what you’re doing. Send them pictures. I mean come on you are traveling alone and they want to know your okay. Don’t go places with strangers I think I have to clarify this. Don’t go places with strangers who just offer you options. Not going to lie this is from experience. I was on the train once and this man offers to help me see the city. I exchange numbers and against my better judgment. Then I stupidly met with him to go hiking. Thank God it was an open place with lots of people. But after that day I blocked his number when he tried to invite me to another place more private. I’ve seen taken and I already broke half the rules Please learn from me. Don’t go places with strangers. Stranger danger is a good saying, so use it wisely. Make sure your phone is charged This is a given. If you are planning on traveling alone make sure your phone is charged. Again another mistake I made. I went to New York once and halfway through time square my phone died. The problem was I did not know my way back to where I was staying. I was relying on Google maps. In the end, I had to buy a small portable charger. Now I carry it whenever I go on a trip. Again another lesson learned. Be prepared for this and carry a small portable charger with you. Make sure your phone is 100 percent charge before you set out for the day. Safety safety safety. Make copies of your travel documents. This is a trick I learned from my friend. Every time you are traveling out of the country make copies of your documents. Keep a copy with you and give a copy to the ones you love or a trusted source. This way if anything happens you have a copy and they have a copy to help you. It is something that I have been doing since the first day I decided to travel. If you don’t trust anyone with your documents. Make copies and leave it at home somewhere you know it easy to remember. So that someone can find it if you need them too. Travel insurance If you can afford it. Depending on what country you’re going to get travel insurance. You need to protect yourself and your things. Travel Insurance is beneficial because it protects you. If financial protection is not enough to sell you on travel insurance, you need to know its other benefits.   Travel insurance provides you access to assistanceanywhere you are in the world. Besides those great benefits, travel insurance also covers you medically.  That is why if you are traveling solo you should consider investing in yourself. You should get travel insurance.  Last words  The next time you’re thinking about that solo trip. Consider this list. If traveling alone is your thing I say do it. Just don’t forget to give some consideration to your safety. Because the goal is to embrace yourself and to remember To Live Freely.

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I know it all too well, and so do you. Those moments when life feels like it is too hard and all you want to do is go out and buy something nice.

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