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Do you want to give your child the best possible education?
The British Boarding Schools Show gives you a fantastic chance to meet a selection of the most prestigious British boarding schools without traveling thousands of miles. Make key introductions and speak one-on-one with the admissions directors and heads of top British boarding schools, as well as some of the leading educational experts from the UK. Meet with Dubai parents whose children are already at school in the UK and attend seminars on achieving successful transfers into the UK system. There is no better way to find out about entry requirements, explore scholarships and bursaries and to get answers to specific questions than to come to the Show, and speak to schools in person.
Here, you can explore the life-changing educational opportunities available at British schools in a single day and a single place. We understand that choosing the right school for your child is both emotionally and financially demanding. That's why we are here to help you explore all your possibilities.
When: 15th-16th of March, 2019 from 12.00-5.00pm
Where: Sheraton Mall of the Emirates Hotel, Dubai.
It is a free event but please book your Family Tickets here. This ticket (for 2 parents + children) is valid for both days of the show and includes first-come first-served seats at the talks.
David Wellesley-Wesley, Founder of the British Boarding Schools Show said: “One of the key things that will go through the mind of any parent is whether a boarding school education will suit their child, and if they decide it is, where in the world should they consider? One of the main reasons why the British Boarding Schools Show is so well attended every year, is that we offer a range of opinions, options and advice, so parents can make a truly informed decision.”
Parents and children are encouraged to attend the engaging seminar talks for more in-depth analysis and discussion about the educational landscape. Registration including all seminars and talks are free for attendees.
British Boarding Schools Show Agenda
Friday 15th March:
13:00 - Stay or Go, the pro's and con's of boarding school vs. educating in Dubai - 'Tatler Schools Guidance' Keynote Debate
14:00 - IB or A-level, what's right for your child
15:00 - When is the right time to make the move
16:00 - Go West - Stand out to get in - how to break into the US college/university system.
Saturday 16th March:
13:00 - Why British Education (What makes it so special) 'Tatler Schools Guidance' Keynote Talk
14:00 - IB or A-level, what's right for your child
15:00 - When is the right time to make the move
16:00 - Go West - Stand out to get in - how to break into the US college/university system.
The show has also announced the participation and support of British Airways as Official Airline Partner. As an added incentive for those attending the Dubai show, British Airways will be giving away a range of airfare discounts and excess baggage vouchers.
Spring is coming, outdoor activities are still on top of our entertainment list and LEGOLAND reveals its biggest party yet, bringing to life a tropical paradise with delicious barbeque treats. Families can delight in a range of fun activities, exciting performances by drummers, sunset performances by fire dancers, and fun prizes up for grabs. You know where to find us now for the most weekends in March and also during the spring break in April!!!!
Grab your shades and flip-flops, and immerse yourself into a Tropical Island Beach Party at LEGOLAND® Water Park, as the water park is set to transform itself into a beachy paradise next month. Taking place over two weekends: Friday, the 15th to Saturday, the 16th of March, and Friday, the 22nd to Saturday, the 23rd of March, and then every day for two whole weeks to celebrate school Spring break holidays (29 March to 13 April), the Tropical Island Beach Party is the ideal place for families to play, swim, dance and enjoy creating memories together.
The tropical beach fun will begin for guests as they enter the park and head to the LEGO® Wave Pool, which takes centre stage for the party with fun activities taking place throughout the day, including dancing with hula hoops, Brick Castle-making, a limbo competition and a ‘musical statue’ dance party. There’s plenty of fun in the water too – with relay races and water volleyball to take part in. It’s prizes galore for those taking part in activities and games – with amazing prizes including free park passes and LEGO toys up for grabs. Sharky, the lovable Shark LEGO® Character, will also be joining the party to meet and greet the kids – so be sure to take a picture with him!
Setting a lively rhythm for the festivities will be drummers performing throughout the day, and little ones can match them beat for beat at interactive drumming sessions. The party continues right up until sunset, with a breath-taking performance by fire dancers who expertly blend fire with unique props and incredible skills. Guests can enjoy their visit even longer at the party, with LEGOLAND Waterpark’s extended operating hours of 10am – 7pm.
The Wave Pool is also set to feature a large Flame Grill barbeque, so you can take your pick of juicy beef burgers or chicken pitas straight off the grill, or vegetable and halloumi skewers grilled to perfection – all with a variety of dressings and toppings to taste. Also on offer are delicious tropical smoothies, with flavours ranging from Mango to Strawberry, and a specially created coconut shack serving up refreshing cold coconuts with flavours including Watermelon Freeze, Mango and Pineapple Cooler and a Tropical Colada.
For families that want to take the beach club experience to a new level, cabanas can be rented during the Tropical Island Beach Party for only AED 795 – which includes a covered cabana area for up to 6 people, 2 sofas, 2 luxury padded sun-loungers, a locker and towel hire. The package also includes complimentary welcome drinks and ice lollies, barbeque and refillable tropical soft drinks.
With a variety of water slides and attractions, LEGOLAND® Water Park is the region’s only water park designed to provide a full day’s interactive experience for families with children between the ages of 2-12. Only a 20-minute drive from Dubai Marina, the Water Park features 20 water slides and attractions, each offering a unique fun-soaked experience as well as full range of amenities, including dining and retail outlets, changing rooms, cabanas, guest services, first aid and prayer rooms.
All Tropical Island Beach Party activities are included with your LEGOLAND Water Park admission ticket, priced at AED 245 – which also includes free parking. Tickets for UAE residents aged 3 and above, can be purchased at the gate for just AED 175, and guests can save an additional 10% when booking online at least 3 days in advance.
For additional information about the LEGOLAND Water Park Tropical Island Beach Party and to book tickets, visit www.LEGOLAND.ae.
Let’s face it-motherhood can certainly take its toll on our bodies. Minor aches and pains can escalate into full blown strain injuries with overuse. The positions we get into and the movements we constantly make throughout the day, quite simply put, can hurt us. Lifting a baby out of the cot, hunching forward to breastfeed, change nappies or bath children or even just carrying and holding a baby or child can cause chronic irritation to our muscles, tendons or joints causing physical wear and tear. Women are especially prone to repetitive strain injuries (RSIs) because, unlike men, we naturally lack upper-body strength. RSIs related to parenting commonly cause aches, pains and discomfort in the back, neck, shoulders, elbows, wrists, hip and feet and I will discuss the most common of these, how they arise and how hopefully they can be avoided!
1. Strained Neck
As mothers, we spend so much time seated, leaning forward and looking down at the baby during feeding sessions. Spending hours in this position means the shoulder and neck muscles have to work harder to support your head, which can lead to overstretching and may cause neck pain, headaches and even numbness in the arms or hands. The simplest way to avoid this is to look up periodically and perform neck rolling stretches. Make sure that you lean back against the back of a comfortable chair with your neck relaxed. Also place a small pillow or rolled towel behind your lower back to help you sit up straight while feeding and use an additional pillow or nursing pillow to raise your baby up to breast level. Keep your arms free, resting on the pillow, so they aren't bearing your baby's weight. If you're bottle-feeding, switch sides regularly to give your arms and shoulders a rest. Using a footstool can also help. Applying heating pads can improve circulation and help to loosen tight muscles and a deep-tissue massage may also provide relief.
2. Wrist Injuries
There are 2 common injuries that may affect the wrist in mothers of young children.
A. Carpal Tunnel syndrome can affect breastfeeding mothers often as a result of repetitive movements or excessively flexed wrist positions during breastfeeding. It is thought that this causes swelling and inflammation of the Median nerve as it passes through the wrist. Typical symptoms include numbness and tingling in the fingers, burning wrist pain and loss of grip and dexterity.
Here are some tips for breastfeeding mothers with carpal tunnel syndrome
• Try not to curve your hand and wrist around your baby when supporting or cuddling them and find ways to support your infant that don’t involve a bent wrist. Bed pillows, special breastfeeding pillows, rolled or folded baby blankets especially placed under the wrists can all allow you to hold your baby without excessively bending your wrists.
• Breastfeed lying down, continuing to pay attention to wrist position.
• Try to avoid static or awkward positions for prolonged periods of time.
• Minimise repetition.
• Use a loose power grip-loose grip keeping all the fingers together, thumb straight.
• Use a wrist brace to keep your wrist in the neutral position while breastfeeding. Sleeping with the brace on can be helpful.
The recommended treatment for carpal tunnel syndrome is conservative -rest, natural diuretics, hand splints, massage and stretching and strengthening exercises.
B. De Quervains tendinitis is a similar syndrome. It can be seen in mothers with babies aged 6-12 months as it is attributed to repeat lifting of an increasingly heavy baby. This occurs when the sheath around the tendons at the base of the wrist and thumb becomes swollen, due to overextension or flexing too much. Fluid retention and hormonal changes during pregnancy also cause the tissues around the tendons to swell and become inflamed. The area is often tender making a fist or rotating the wrist is painful.
To prevent this, hold your baby in a way that you keep your hand and wrist in the same line, with the least bending of your wrist to hold their head. Take frequent breaks from any hand intensive activity and allow your hand and wrist to rest in a neutral position. You may similarly use a wrist splint to stabilise the hand and thumb. You can relieve some inflammation by gently massaging the wrist, moving your strokes toward your elbow. Also, alternate warm and cool hand and wrist baths or cold compresses if inflammation is present. A natural anti-inflammatory diet can relieve pain.
If you suffer with either of these conditions, it is best to get it treated because if you ignore the problem in one hand, you run the risk of overusing the other and then both hands will be affected.
3. Hip injuries
Most mums usually hold their children by carrying them on one hip and tilting the pelvis to provide a shelf to sit on. However, the extra weight and strain this places through the hip can strain the hip joint pulling it slightly away from the hip socket. This results in pain and an awkward uneven gait with the possibility of pain in the opposite knee due to the extra weight placed upon it. It is also not advisable to hold your child with one arm when they are balanced on your hip as this causes continual contraction of your arm muscles reducing blood flow leading to trauma of the tissues in your arm and shoulder.
You can help avoid this by using a baby carrier to distribute your baby’s weight more evenly so that all areas of your body are taking equal strain. If you need to carry a toddler, hold them close to your chest, legs wrapped around your waist, balanced in the centre of your body. If you do use continue to carry on your hip, ensure that you switch sides often and hold them with both arms to avoid tilting too far to one side.
4. Back Injuries
Back pain usually starts during pregnancy thanks to the maternal hormones loosening the tissues around joints which allows the pelvis to widen to accommodate the baby before and during birth. Pregnancy also stretches the abdominal and pelvic muscles and with the baby's weight pulling our centre of gravity forward, this can often lead to a sway back especially in the third trimester causing pressure on the spinal joints and tension in the muscles. Tissue laxity can remain for many months after delivery especially if breast feeding and this can leave the joints vulnerable to strain. This means that once your baby arrives, the pain doesn’t miraculously go away and may even get worse.
A back injury often appears to be the consequence of a single wrong move, but it's more often due to months or even years of poor posture and weak core muscles. When you suddenly begin exerting your back in different ways as you care for a baby, the discs between the vertebrae, as well as the muscles and ligaments in the region, can all suffer strain. The constant strain on back muscles caused by carrying out routine tasks results in a low level of pain for new mums that they commonly ignore. Eventually the strain will reach breaking point, resulting in the sudden, intense pain of a pulled muscle, strained spinal joint or, worse still, a ‘slipped disc.’
Here are some of the common tasks that may cause back pain with tips on how to perform them properly.
Feeding your baby food: Sit down with your baby, close together and at a similar height. Ensure that you are not leaning forward each time you offer the spoon. Lifting Your Child from the Floor: Use a half kneel lift. For this, stand close to your child, keeping your back straight, step forward with one foot and lower yourself to one knee. Keeping your child close to your body, hold them with both arms near to your belly button and lift with your legs to stand up, avoiding twisting your torso. Reverse these steps when putting your child down to the floor.Picking up toys from the floor: Always bend your knees. Getting baby in and out of the car: Do not carry the baby to and from the car in the car seat as this causes strain on your elbows eventually causing the equivalent of a tennis elbow. Ideally, take the car seat to the car empty and fix it in place. Then, with your baby cradled in your arms, sit next to the car seat and turn to face it, then place the baby into the car seat and fasten them in. If the car seat is next to the door bend your knees slightly and lower into a shallow squat as you place your baby in the seat and fasten the straps to try and avoid hunching your back. Alternatively, you can put one leg into the car and try to face the seat when putting your child in.Carrying a car seat: Never carry the car seat to one side of your body or on your forearm. Instead carry the seat by the handle with both hands, elbows bent, holding it in front of and close to your body with your weight evenly distributed.Lifting baby from cot: When you put your baby to bed, hold them close to your chest and spread your feet hip width apart as you stand facing the crib. Bend your knees to squat slightly before lowering the baby down. Avoid twisting and tuck your tailbone under tilting your pelvis so you activate the abdominal muscles and protect the lower back. Don’t lock your knees or hold your baby at arm’s length as this places pressure on the back. Instead, when lifting them out of the cot, it is better to lower the crib railing, place your feet shoulder width apart and bring your baby close to your body before lifting. Lower and lift using your legs.Sitting and lifting a child to sit on your lap: It is important not to lean forward from the back of the seat because as you lift, the pressure on your spinal discs multiplies several times greater than the weight of your child. Instead, move forward to the edge of the seat and while keeping your back straight, bend your knees and lift your baby close to your body and then sit back in the seat. For a heavier child, get down on one knee with the other foot in front of you and hold them as you move back on to the seat or just have them climb onto your lap themselves.Pushing a pushchair: This can lead to shoulder, neck, and upper back strain or tension. To avoid this, walk close to the pushchair without shortening your stride and keep your elbows close to your body and your shoulders relaxed. Using a baby Carrier: A baby carrier worn over both shoulders when correctly positioned enabling your baby to be held close to your body evenly distributes the baby’s weight over your back, hips and shoulders. However, make sure that you readjust the carrier as your baby grows otherwise it can lead to upper or lower back pain.
The most important remedy for a strained back is rest, so try to lift your baby as little as possible. The muscles need time to heal and this can take a few days to a week or more. Heating pads can provide some immediate relief, although ice packs can be helpful too-make sure it is wrapped in a tea towel, do not apply ice directly on your skin. Ice reduces the inflammation and heat can help relax stiff tissues. Preventively, strengthening your abdominal, back, pelvic and hip muscles can reduce your risk of developing repetitive strain injury. If you feel pain radiating down your legs, seek professional help as you may have a bulging disc.
How Osteopathy can help
Osteopathic treatment can help mother’s return to normal, physically and emotionally, by releasing strains in the body caused by pregnancy, labour and daily childcare. Treatment helps with muscle soreness related to postural strains and feeding positions and balancing these tensions in the body can also aid relaxation, which in turn helps with boosting vitality. Other postnatal problems such as headaches, coccyx pain and pelvic pains generally respond very well to Osteopathic treatment too.
Treatment often includes gentle soft tissue massage, joint articulation and mobilisation, along with gentle stretching and some simple at home exercises.
Coping with the demands of a new baby is enough so you really do not need to be suffering with uncomfortable strain injuries as well.
Beverley Palmer has five kids and lives in Dubai for 26 years now. She has her practice at Keith Nicholl Medical Center, villa 610B Jumeirah beach Road, Umm Suqueim Road 1 and she can be contacted for appointments on 04 3941000 . Her kids kindly helped her set up her business page:
Ahoy, mates! We are setting sail towards the Neverland! Magical, isn't’ it? I know that “magic” and “brunch” are not two words that are often associated but At The Pirates and Mermaids Brunch at Mazina Restaurant, The Address Dubai Marina that’s what I’ll talk about even from the beginning.
Why? Because you don’t have to worry about the kids…Magic Phil is in charge there!!! Yes, again, I know I am writing about a brunch and I start with the kids entertainment but his show is absolutely amazing. The kids are having a lot of fun with all his tricks and magic moments but he’s also engaging the parents. Well, kind of forced us to dance by threatening to eliminate the children from the competition but we had such a great time. I haven’t laughed so much at a kids show in a very long time.
The families with kids have their own dedicated area and decorated accordingly. The kids have their own food selection and drinks with funny names like Crocodile Blood and Mermaid Water. I loved the star sandwiches and the pirate boat made from a watermelon full with fresh fruits. There was also a pancake decoration competition and all the kids did their best to win a pirate treasure chest. Some Tv was available but, miraculously, the kids didn’t show much interest in it.
Attention! There is one more competition going on: for the best pirate costume and the best mermaid costume. The prize is dinner for two so make your kids win for you. Oh, and did I mention the huge bouncy castle? Yes, it’s there for the little ones to bounce all the energy out and build appetite.
Now, let’s talk also about the food. That is a lot and of large variety. My favourite, as usual, was the seafood corner with everything for everyone and loved the presentation also. The salad bar is huge and the Asian food couldn’t miss. I had a chicken soup but the girls wanted a plain noodle soup so they got only the soup and noodles without anything else. There was also lentil soup available displayed separately. There is also a good selection of Indian food. The cheese counter was a bit too small for my liking but all my favorites were there. Pork is also on the menu but pay attention at the notes as you have to use separate plates, forks and knives, assigned for this section.
The selection of Arabic food is large and I really enjoyed the lamb chops. You should try also the paella that is nearby. The roasts are delicious and I loved the small portions of cottage pie. Of course, leave room for deserts. You won’t regret it. Even if I was full, I couldn’t help not to eat the tiny portions that I dared to put on my plate. Melting in my mouth, literally.
And if you want to keep the Fridays for adults-only brunches, the good new is that The Pirates And Mermaids Brunch is on Saturday!!
Price: Adults (12 years and above): AED 325 per person including soft beverages; AED 450 per person, including house beverages; AED 600 per person including house beverages and free flow bubbly | Children (6 - 11 years): Enjoy 50% off dining; Children (aged 5 years and below): Dine with our compliments
For bookings, please call +971 4 888 3444 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
I don’t know what your buying habits are but for me, I still like to do it in the traditional way: go, see and buy…or not. I am probably the worst online customer as my activity won’t sustain any business. But I’m making progress and from ordering books and dvds more than years ago, I started to have more confidence and buy more online but still in the same range of items that can be easily returned. For example, I have never shopped online for clothes. No, these ones I need to try and check the quality of the fabric.
Some years ago, I discovered the “meals concept”, meaning I ordered a weekly box consisting of recipes and ingredients to prepare the dinner for my family. That was pure gold and helped me through the busy times. But what about for the rest of the meals and school lunch boxes? I kept going to the supermarket especially to buy the fruits and vegetables. Those I really wanted to check them to make sure that I get the best quality. With that in mind, I started to buy more from the organic sections but this also added to my bill. Higher and higher bills for fruits and vegetables but for me the quality is very important and I don’t mind to go shopping in different supermarkets just to get what I like. But, then, how much time do I have for shopping weekly, right? I tried also the online stores for fruits and vegetables with no success as after a few orders I was going back to the supermarkets.
I cannot say I don’t like trying if new concepts or new online stores come on the market. That’s how I discovered NRTC Fresh. Actually, the Nassar Al Refaee Trading Company (NRTC) is on the UAE market since 1973 but it was serving only wholesale customers like hotels, restaurants and supermarkets. But recently, they decided to help also the consumers, especially the busy people who prefer to order online than to spend time going to the supermarket. Of course, as a busy mum, this would be handy for me, too, if the quality reaches my expectations. Therefore, I ordered the pre-packed box for a family and, to be honest, I was more than impressed with it and with the quantity that I got for AED 160 and it saved me a trip to the supermarket. I got apples, bananas, strawberry, avocado, beef tomatoes, cherry tomatoes, cucumbers, white onions, Romaine lettuce, garlic, potatoes, lemons, white mushrooms, okra, ginger, cauliflower, oranges, bell peppers, one pineapple, mangoes, carrots, spring onion, and big bunches of mint, parsley and coriander (hope I didn’t forget anything). This box can easily get me through two weeks of cooking and lunch boxes.
The company does free delivery for orders above AED 80. You can place your own order or you can opt for the pre-packed boxes.
I am so exited about this discovery that wanted to share will all you, mums! It’s a time saver and won’t compromise on the quality. And I have better news. We have now a collaboration with the NRTC Fresh and we will have three competitions, over three months. Every month, one lucky mum will win one Family Box valued at AED 160.
Friday is not your brunch day? Why not try on Saturday. Every week, Yalumba Restaurant at Le Meridien Dubai Hotel & Conference Centre (near the Airport) hosts The Saturday Family Brunch. Note that the day we went there was the celebration of Australia’s national Day, hence the decorations. And by family means that kids have plenty of entertainment. Yes, I know I write about a brunch but I really have to start with this as it is absolutely amazing.
First thing first, before even looking at the food, my girls went to decorate cupcakes. Yalumba is very well equipped with chef hats and aprons for the little ones. So, here they are ready to embrace the job. They had plenty of toppings to chose from so they made two for them and one for me. Win-win situation as they did something fun and in the same time they prepared their own deserts. Of course, then I had to have a word with them not to start with the cupcakes but with “real food”. After that, my youngest continued her chef career and moved to the dough table to make pasta. A lot of fun to make all those pasta sheets but that was just for play and didn’t end up as a real dish. The older kids are also allowed in the baking area where they can make their own pizza. There is also a large area with small tables and chairs where kids can sit and do some coloring and at some point a magician showed up and hocus pocus abracadabra kept the kids busy for another half an hour. I was very glad to see that even if there was a TV there, just one or two kids sat and watched and even them just for a short period of time. Why would they watch tv when they can decorate cupcakes or make their own pizza, right?
Now, let’s talk also about the food. I can safely say that the selection is large enough to cater for all.I really liked the sandwiches that are very suitable for kids. Just put some on a plate and take them at the coloring table. There are also the all time kids favorite chicken nuggets, mini hotdogs and burgers. The roast area is quite limited but enough to enjoy some roast beef and lamb. There were also some delicious chicken in bbq sauce as well as roasted vegetables. The grilled salmon was absolutely delicious and I enjoyed all “the meat” dishes with my own crafted salads.
The Asian cuisine is represented as well, with food from sushi and dim sum to mutton korma and fish curry. There are also vegetarian dishes: vegetable moussaka, vegetable pulao, vegetable kolhapuri or dal makhani.
I couldn’t miss the antipasti stall, the cheese table or the bread one. All fresh, that I could hardly stopped eating but these are my favorites anyway and I can live on them.
As for desert, we had our own cupcakes but I paid a short visit to the cakes table and tested a bit from the mango cake, the cherry crumbles and the chocolate cheesecake.
Of course, I let the best news at the end. The price for the brunch starts from only AED 119 per adult and kids up to 12 years old eat for free. Timing: from 12.30 to 3.30pm. For reservations, call 047022455 or email email@example.com
There is also a nice terrace for the ones who'd like to enjoy the brunch outside.
From gingerbread soldiers and enchanting fairies to Darth Vader and more, surprises await visitors this holiday season
This festive season, The Dubai Mall invites guests on a magical journey through different worlds, encountering memorable characters and revelling in a host of activities that will spread festive cheer to all – available until January 12th 2019.
The enchanting world of Disney’s new live action fantasy The Nutcracker and the Four Realms comes to life in the Star Atrium, with visitors to The Dubai Mall invited to journey into a fairy-tale, wintry wonderland.
Guests will begin their adventure in an ornate hallway before entering a Snowflake Realm through the centre of a giant tree trunk, recreating one of the movie’s iconic moments. Against a backdrop of snow-topped trees and a gentle flurry of snowflakes, guests can create memorable family moments in a majestic winter forest landscape, while kids can play with interactive games, including a unique augmented reality experience, before exiting the wintery land via an ice slide. The Nutcracker and the Four Realms activation is open to all guests who have spent a minimum of AED 150 from any Dubai Mall store, until December 28th.
Adding to the immersive experience, guests entering the Star Atrium will be warmly greeted by four 8-metre tall Nutcracker figures; a larger-than-life reminder of the cherished festive tale. Hanging above the figures are equally giant festive baubles, creating a picture-perfect backdrop.
In the Grand Atrium, a first-of-its-kind Star Wars exhibit awaits guests. Arranged in formation, will be over 40 life-sized, stunning figures of Darth Vader, Boba Fett, K-2SO, death troopers and an army of stormtroopers, creating an unmissable photo moment for fans. Hand-assembled and created over the course of six months by California-based Sideshow, this is the largest and most significant display of Sideshow’s Star Wars figures in the world, and can only be seen at The Dubai Mall.
In the Fashion Avenue Atrium, guests can experience another magical installation featuring giant decorated fairies, floating high above to create an enchanting landscape amongst giant, glittering snowflakes. Stretching as wide as 4 metres from wing to wing, these enchanting fairies transport guests to a fairy-tale world, creating another magical, ‘Instagrammable’ moment this festive season.
Dubai Ice Rink also transforms into a festive winterland with its Festive Market, where guests can indulge in holiday treats, explore traditional European style décor and also jump head first into the Snow Ball fight zone, for some friendly battles with friends and family.
“If you don’t stop screaming, you will not go to your friend’s birthday on the weekend!”
“Eat your lunch now, or I will take away the tablet for 5 days!”
I guess we all agree that discipline is not exactly the most enjoyable part of parenting. That said, when you and your child understand the meaning and the reason behind discipline, you will not see it as an exhausting and frustrating process.
“It’s your choice to clean up your toys or not, but if I clean them up, you won’t play with them for 2 days”
“If you don’t clean up your toys, I will put you in timeout for 5 minutes.”
Are you able to see the difference in both approaches?
One is teaching the children to be responsible for their decisions and accept logical consequences. It also teaches them that their behavior is their choice and you are helping them learn how to face the results of their choices. The other one disrespects their right to make a decision and does not help them to take responsibility for their behavior. It simply dictates what you want them to do!
When you start teaching your children that there are natural consequences for every action or choice they make, whether good or not, they will be able to learn from their mistakes and improve their behavior. “When you are kind to people, people will want to be your friends and play with you. But when you are mean and aggressive with people, they will not want to be around you.”
A common recurring question is: “Can I discipline without punishing?” To discipline your children means to teach them how to behave using love, with firm boundaries and clear expectations. By doing this, you are helping them achieve acceptable future behavior. Discipline requires patience and energy but has long-lasting effect. To punish your children means to force them to behave using anger and fear, with no sign of love, firm boundaries and unpredictable (illogical) expectations. By doing this, you are teaching them to respond out of fear, rather than out of a desire to “do the right thing.” Punishment requires less energy and might seem to be working on a short-term basis, but in reality, it’s highly ineffective.
The long-term results that might be seen in children when using natural logic consequences versus punishment are: 1. Children who are raised up with a loving discipline technique usually turn out to be critical thinkers, self- confident and responsible with an ability to acquire self-control. They are raised to be independent leaders who can be held accountable for their actions, as they get the chance to learn from their mistakes, make better choices and improve their behavior. 2. On the other hand, those children who are raised up with a fearful punishment technique may either become bullies, since their parents have modeled how to use strength or superior power to threaten them. Or may become victims of bullies since they have learned to accept their parents’ harsh punishment and felt powerless to escape or change the situation. These children may also tend to become followers as they always had to follow what their parents wanted them to do, out of fear of punishment. I would encourage you to look deeper into identifying the reason behind punishing your children and see if you can relate to any of these: some parents do it because it is a practical way to vent anger/frustration, others are copying how they were brought up as a child, some don’t know other ways of dealing with their children’s mistakes, and some simply do it as a form of exerting power and authority in order to maintain control over their children’s behavior. If you want to know how ineffective punishment is, think of a time when you were punished as a child. What thoughts came to your mind during the punishment? Was it the reason behind your wrong action and what you had learned? Or how unfair and annoying the punishment was, what mean parents you had and how you will try your best not to be caught next time?
Time to get practical with some examples of natural consequences:
Not eating when it’s food time, you will stay hungry till the next meal. Not putting effort to do your chores and help around the house, parents won’t put the extra effort to take you shopping. Refusing to wear a jacket, you will be cold. Wasting time in the morning, you will go to school with your hair unbrushed (or in your flipflops). Forgetting your lunch box at school, you will take your lunch in a plastic bag. Continuously losing things, you will have to buy your own things.
And my favorite practical hint is: model the behavior you want to see in your children. Do not punish them for being rude, instead, model to them what respect means through respecting them.
One thing to be aware of, make sure that consequences are clear, tangible and not very long term. For example “You’re grounded for a month” can lead children to feel hopeless and have no motivation to change. Like everything in life, it takes time, long term consistency and patience to witness the results. At the end of the day, it is your children’s choice to change their behavior; however, this should not stop you from always holding them accountable through consequences. You have an ongoing obligation to continue showing your children what to expect when making poor choices. And believe it or not, even if at times you don’t see immediate results, consequences are always at work teaching them to make better choices on the long term.
To Sum-it: Are you applying your power as a parent and trying to control your children, or are you helping them learn how to control their own behavior?
Irini Girgis, the founder of , is a Child Behavioral and Parenting Coach. She has an 18 &16 years old boy & girl and has been living in Dubai for 13 years. Kids Summit provides personalized and customized techniques, for both children and parents, that match the child’s needs and the parents’ parenting style, with an understanding that “one size does not fit all.” Kids Summit offer close frequent follow-ups by the coach to ensure that all obstacles are overcome, and the journey is a pleasant one.
Irini has a Child Psychology Diploma from Brentwood University, UK, coupled with Neuro-Education courses. As a mother, she experienced hands-on challenges as well as enjoyable aspects of the unparalleled journey of parenthood. Throughout the years and her ongoing experience as a teacher, she has sincerely believed that every child’s needs should be looked at from a holistic perspective. Understanding the root cause of some of the challenges the children face and helping them, and their parents overcome it became her purpose.
Although online searching, parental sessions and group talks are helpful, families often need personal advice for their unique challenges.
Back by popular demand, the community-oriented lifestyle destination’s hugely successful leisure and F&B pop up ‘The Backyard’ is now open and will run until December 15.
‘The Backyard’ will be a lively space at the mall where families and friends can gather for a good time and riveting conversations over comfort food, shopping, exciting workshops, buzzing markets and free-to-attend kids’ activities.
Free workshops and activities for kids every day of the week!