Your emotions help dictate your state of mind. This means that to keep your state of mind intact, it's necessary to have emotional balance. That way, you can make it through even the toughest times.
You can enhance your emotional well-being, so when challenging times come around, you'll be more prepared to handle them!
These strategies can help you manage your emotions effectively:
Identify your support team. It's very easy to experience emotional dips. This is especially true when you’re making emotionally charged decisions.
Identify friends or family members who can be the voice of reason. While your emotions are cross-wired, it helps to have an external voice guiding you towards making an appropriate decision.
It's healthy to discuss various topics with members of your support system. It helps them see how you think in different situations.
Confront your emotions. Avoid hiding from negative feelings. Facing your emotions is the best way to overcome them. And the more you practice, the easier it will become to stay calm during emotional circumstances.
If you're heartbroken, it isn’t healthy to try and pretend otherwise. Allow the reactions to come. If you feel like crying or screaming, go ahead. It will help you gain closure and a fuller understanding of your feelings.It isn’t necessary to question why you’re feeling a certain way. Identify the source of the emotion and work at confronting it instead. Avoid apologizing for your emotions.
Celebrate your strengths.There's no better way to build emotional well-being than by celebrating your strengths. Identify your attributes, talents, and skills that make you feel confident. Remind yourself of how resilient and powerful you are.
Your strengths aren't to be taken lightly. They form your backbone.Openly acknowledging your strengths sub-consciously helps you believe in yourself. In turn, you develop a sound emotional state.
Provide support to others. This goes hand in hand with relying on your own support team. Exposing yourself to the emotions of others helps you to process them better. You take things for face value. You can be impartial, fair, and just.
When you support others, you’re required to be truthful and honest. Displaying honesty about someone else’s emotions can help you develop the same honesty about your own.
Helping others work through challenges can make you appreciate all sorts of emotions and build up your own emotional well-being.
Keep your surroundings positive. Maintaining a positive energy in your environment is very important. It helps you concentrate on positive emotions and aids in the healing process. It’s much easier to effectively manage your emotions when you’re surrounded by positive energy.
Partake in activities you enjoy. This isn’t an effort to dismiss your emotions. It’s simply a tool for developing a positive mindset.That positive mindset reinforces your ability to be impartial and fair. It's tempting to be hard on yourself, especially when you're surrounded by negative influences.
Remember that you have your emotions for a reason! They help you empathize with others going through similar situations and give you hope. Use these tips to enhance your emotional well-being. You’ll be glad you did!
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Viewing the body and mind as separate entities is completely understandable. After all, one is imaginary, and the other is there to see in all its glory. Arguably that’s why there’s so much emphasis in the world on taking care of your physical health, but much less focus on keeping your mind healthy.
But, your mind essentially controls your body, which links the two stronger than you could ever imagine. In fact, your attitude and thoughts can have a serious impact on your overall well-being. With that in mind, we’ve put together five ways a positive attitude can have a tremendous effect on your health.
1. Enhanced immune system
If you’re naturally prone to contracting colds, viruses, and general illnesses, you may need some help to boost your immune system. Now, positive thinking has been proven through multiple studies to do just that. According to experts, the body releases more immune cells to fight off a foreign attack.
2. Lower risk of heart failure
The heart is the workhorse which keeps our body running, but it’s also the organ that tends to cause devastation when something goes wrong. To protect yourself against heart failure, try to think positively rather than negatively consistently. A study indicated that positive thinkers are 13% less likely to develop heart failure than their negative counterparts. Reported inside John Hopkins Healthy Agingarticle, Yanek conducted a survey was used to determine cheerfulness energy levels, anxiety levels, and satisfaction with overall health and life. Other studies have shown a 75% less likely chance to develop heart failure than their negative counterparts.
3. Reduced stress
Of course, if you’re regularly having negative thoughts and adopting negative attitudes, you’re going to be rather stressed. If you can deploy some strategies to combat your negative tendencies, and start positive thinking instead, you’ll drastically reduce your stress. Plus, you’ll be in a stronger positive position to cope with your stress.
4. Healthy cholesterol levels
Most people associate cholesterol with your diet, which is completely correct. You should be eating a healthy, balanced diet full of nutrients, vitamins, and minerals. However, a great supplement to coincide with a healthy diet is positive thinking. A study published in the American Journal of Cardiology stated optimism helps keep your cholesterol in check.
5. Decreased chance of a stroke
Strokes are one of those things that usually targets people in the older age groups, but they are capable of striking anyone at any time. So, it’s in your best interests to do all you can to decrease your chances of having one. An effective way to do that is always to try and hold positive attitudes.
A negative attitude is no joke! And when it isn't checked, it can be a detriment to your health. Remember that your thoughts become who you are, whether that is your intention or not. The brain is a powerful thing and when you speak or think negatively it weighs on not only your mind, but your organs, muscles, and joints causing your physical pain. Most people don't realize the damage they do to themselves with a negative outlook on life.
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The best possible scenario is a life jam-packed with happiness, smiling, laughing and love, right? Despite searching for that, for sure you’ll also experience some negative emotions because they exist and are unstoppable. Worry is one negative feeling that people frequently encounter, and that’s because the future is impossible to predict.
But, believe it or not, some people fall into the trap of accepting worry as a beneficial thing. So, we’re here to expose the superstitions and help to reduce your worrying.
1. Worrying shows I care
Arguably, this could genuinely be true. For instance, worrying when your child ventures off on their own could cause worry. But, if you flip that around, people say they worry non-stop because if they don’t, it means they don’t care. You see, worrying needlessly on a frequent basis over nothing does not fall into the bracket of caring, it’s just a hindrance.
2. Worrying will prevent any bad surprises
Trying to rack your brain to determine every possible thing that could go wrong in every single situation will exhaust you. Plus, it won’t help, because you’ll never be able to predict what’s going to happen. So, instead of worrying to avoid bad surprises, become a more positive person so you can handle bad experiences if they ever do arise.
3. Worrying keeps me safe
So many people tell themselves they worry to keep themselves safe, because if they don’t worry it opens up the door for bad things to happen. For example, you may feel that if you don’t consistently worry about your partner’s whereabouts, they’ll instantly be unfaithful. But, by doing that, you’ll cause friction, when you could be focusing on being happy together.
4. Worrying helps me problem-solve
There’s a common assumption that regularly overthinking and worrying about something will help you discover a solution. But, in fact, the majority of the time there’s no problem even to solve. If there is, endlessly worrying will only cloud your judgment and prevent you from finding a reliable solution.
5. Worrying is a source of motivation
Bizarrely, some people believe that worrying empowers them to be proactive and avoid problems before they occur. Subsequently, they think that will prevent complacency and push them to become better. But, worrying is a negative emotion that doesn’t allow you to think clearly. It would be much better to find motivation from other sources that didn’t interfere with your thinking.
So, know that it is a lie when you give yourself excuses to worry constantly. We can't stop ourselves from worrying about certain things in our life, but we can control how we allow worrying to take control over our minds and behaviors.
Take time to take inventory of your "worry meter" and address and adjust accordingly. If you have anxiety and find yourself in constant worry mode or create unnecessary worry, then you may need to speak with someone who can help.
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Anyone can make a goal but planning goals for success is sometimes difficult.
You may get side tracked with unrealistic goals.You may be indecisive about where to start or where to go with the goal.Or you may never start working toward the goal because it is not truly what you want.
So, you must evaluate your motivation, emotions, and reasoning behind the goal you are wanting to achieve; and this will give you a better understanding of your goal to help you create a successful plan.
There are steps to making this happen and I am going to walk you through your own self-evaluation for planning goals for success.
Stop and ask yourself…
Do you want this to bad, you can feel it in your bones, your heart, your soul, even your toes?
Imagine yourself acting towards your goal: How do you feel?Are you constantly running?Are you tired?Do you see yourself burnt out?
If you don’t have a good feeling then, that maybe a sign you don’t really want to follow through wit this plan. You’ll end up sabotaging or quitting.
Don’t waste time!
Don’t waste time, money, and energy in something that is not going to be of REAL interest to you. You need to be emotionally investing with your goal while working your plan or it will fall by the wayside.
Dream big for yourself.
There is nothing wrong with having and pursuing BIG goals. The problem comes when you already have it in the back of your mind that “this won’t work” or other self-doubts about you achieving this goal
When you are feeling overwhelmed by your goal it helps if you break your goal down into smaller one’s to make the steps more manageable.
Example: Make smaller time-frames and work on achieving a part of the goal instead of focusing on multiple parts of at the same time. Take your time it is a marathon not a sprint.
Breaking down the goal will help you feel more accomplished and you are getting things done! You are taking the plan into your own hands and not letting it own you, but you own it!
Until next time…leap off the couch into your new future planning goals for success!
It’s completely normal to feel negative emotions and thoughts sometimes – everyone’s human. But, if you want to take control of your happiness, it’s important to manage those negative attitudes effectively. If you allow your negative feelings to affect your everyday life, you’ll quickly notice unhappiness starting to set in.
However, most people don't even realize when negative emotions are in full force. So to help you recognize the signs, we’ve put together eight traits that have been proven to make you unhappy.
1. Always assuming the worst
Pessimism can be a very natural trait for some people, but it’s one that can haunt you. Continually assessing situations and believing something terrible will happen is going to prevent you from enjoying life. Step out of your comfort zone and experience new things.
2. Judging yourself negatively compared to others
Comparing yourself to others is not a good idea, and it’s only made worse by social media. Instead of wanting what others have or feeling inferior, you should celebrate the great things that you already have in your life.
3. Blaming others
It’s easy to place the blame on other people to protect yourself. But, in doing so, you’re not taking charge of your own life. When you take responsibility for things that have happened, it’s much easier to find happiness.
4. Putting yourself down
Another negative attitude certain to affect your wellbeing is self-defeating talk. Telling yourself you can’t do something, or you’re not good enough is a recipe for unhappiness. Be confident and embrace challenges, because you might end up surprising yourself.
5. Fearing failure
The fear of failure can be the biggest motivation to succeed, but it can also be crippling for some people. On the one hand, you have people who will push hard to avoid failure, but on the other hand, you have people that don’t even try.
6. Getting stuck in the past
Everyone has a past, but you shouldn't let that define you. Yes, if you’ve made mistakes or had setbacks, you should learn from them, but then move on and enjoy the present. Dwelling on what’s already happened and can’t be altered is not wise.
7. Feeling others are more powerful
It’s very unlikely that you’ll see eye-to-eye with everyone that you meet and some people may test your boundaries. But, acting like a victim and feeling like they hold all the power will leave you feeling trapped. Instead, deal with challenging individuals and put yourself first.
8. Not forgiving yourself
From time to time, you’re bound to make mistakes, but they aren’t a true reflection of you as a person. So, rather than punishing yourself for things you’ve done, use those mistakes to grow as an individual.
Again you guys...you are only human and will have negative negative, it is a part of human nature. But how you allow those attitudes and actions to affect your happiness can be the difference between a good life and a miserable one.
So take time to check in with your attitude from time to time to see what you need to take back control of!
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Stress can come from many different areas of our lives. At times we can't even pinpoint the stress, but you can learn to kill stress. Routines and thought patterns are hard to change, but you have to make radical adjustments if you want radical change in your life. It starts with working on these 3 stress killers!
Here are 3 Stress Killers!
1. Disconnect: Sometimes you have to disconnect from people, places, and things that you're used to. These distractions can be the cause of your stress or add to your stress. Change your routine and take time to be alone with yourself. It's okay to have boundaries and not be involved or feel obligated. Life is about being mentally and emotionally well and if you're not well in those departments then you lose sight of who you are, what you want, and how you're going to get it. 2. Unplug: Turn off the phone, computer, and t.v.! Media adds to stress and if you want to kill it then you have to be willing to unplug. These things have such a significant place in our lives and also create such significant triggers of tension, anxiety, and even depression. Unplug every once in awhile and just relax. You don't have to be turned on all the time. It will be there when you come back to it!3. Positivity: Being positive brings positive energy around you. Positive energy kills stress. Perception is a powerful motivator of how we see, react, and think certain ways and can cause us to a negative outlook. Our perception isn't necessarily our reality and you have to learn to know the difference. Inject positivity into your day and I guarantee you there will be less stress!
If only we didn’t keep repeating our mistakes. Some people keep dating the wrong type of people while others are terrible about saving money. We all have mistakes that we repeat over and over.
We’re often blind to our mistakes. Sometimes, we know we’re making a mistake but can’t seem to stop ourselves.
Science has determined that we often repeat mistakes because we tend to repeatedly choose a given behavior under stress. Many of our mistakes happen when life is challenging. We revert to what we know, even if it hasn’t worked well in the past.
Repeated mistakes lower the quality of your life.
Try these techniques to avoid repeating your mistakes:
Redefine what mistakes mean to you. Mistakes are a lot easier to manage and benefit from if you hold a positive opinion of them.
It’s easy to accept the concept that no one is perfect. The natural result of that idea is that people make mistakes. So, mistakes are natural.
Mistakes also hold the key to enhancing every part of your life. They show you what you need to learn.
Get a clear head. Making a good decision is much more likely when your head is clear, and your emotions are cool. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re likely to make a big mistake. Avoid making decisions when you’re emotionally compromised, and you’ll make far fewer mistakes.
Evaluate your failures. Look at your failures and determine the mistakes that led to those failures.
What did you do wrong?What could you do better?Did you have faulty information?Did you need more information?Do you have the skills you need to further develop?Do you have the new skills you need to learn?Maybe you just give up too soon.
Notice what you’re doing right. It’s just as important to identify the things you’re doing correctly. After all, if you stop doing those things, that’s just another mistake you’re adding to your life. Doing more right things results in doing fewer wrong things.
Create a plan for change. Now that you’ve identified your mistakes, it’s time to create a plan to do things better next time. Sometimes just identifying a mistake is enough. Other times you’ll need to learn a new skill or approach. Or you may need to develop confidence, perseverance, or patience.
Focus on progress. It’s not always easy, or even possible, to change overnight. Avoid becoming frustrated with yourself. Be happy with any forward progress you’re able to create.
As long as you keep making progress, you’ll eventually reach your target.
Re-evaluate. Take a look at the mistakes you identified in Step 2. How are you doing? Have you solved your problem? Do you need to continue improving? Keep going until you’ve attained the level of expertise you need. It may take a long time to completely eliminate a particular mistake. Keep trying.
Repeat. This isn’t a one-time process. You’ll continue making mistakes throughout your life. Repeat this process on a regular basis if you want to continue seeing progress.
Repeated mistakes are frustrating because we know there’s a better way. A clear head and an examination of one’s previous mistakes is a great first step to removing a particular mistake from your future.
View mistakes as a guaranteed part of life and a clue as for how to make positive changes. Avoiding the mistakes, you make repeatedly will definitely make your life easier!
Until Next Time…Leap off the couch into your new future no longer repeating the same mistakes!
Trying to squeeze too many activities into too few hours can leave you overwhelmed. Maybe you’re bragging about how busy you are because it secretly makes you feel important and successful. Maybe you’re under financial and family pressures that outstrip your resources.
Either way, there’s an epidemic of excessive busyness among modern adults that leaves us feeling rushed, discontent, and short on time. Try these major and minor solutions for managing your time and becoming more productive.
Major Antidotes to Excessive Busyness
Turn off your phone. Being connected all day long obviously plays a big role in feeling overwhelmed. Switch off your devices at least two hours before you go to bed. Try spending a day away from social media.
Live mindfully. Engage fully with whatever you’re doing. Focus on one task at a time. You’ll reduce stress and enhance the quality of your work.
Choose your priorities. Think about your purpose and devote your time to the activities that matter to you. Using your time wisely makes your life more meaningful.
Establish routines. Do you spend as much time coordinating your work as actually performing it? A systematic approach turns frequent chores into automatic habits. Do your grocery shopping on Tuesdays and Fridays. Check your email and return phone calls before lunch and dinner.
Collaborate with others. We can accomplish more as a team. Focus on your strengths and try to outsource or eliminate the remaining tasks.
Sleep more. Resist the temptation to sacrifice sleep in order to get more done. Adequate rest makes you more effective. If you’re having trouble keeping your eyes open, go to bed an hour earlier than usual.
Edit less. Let go of the past. Proof an email once and send it. If your kids eat and wear clean clothes to school each day, you may not need to analyze your housekeeping any further.
Count up your free time. Discovering more free time is like finding money in the pocket of a jacket that’s been hanging in your closet for months. Count the hours you have outside of work, commuting, and sleeping. Decide how to use them before external demands swallow them up.
Tiny Antidotes to Excessive Busyness
Take time to smell the flowers. Slow down and take your time to enjoy the process.
Brew real coffee. The coffee break is being replaced by instant powder packets you pour into boiling water. Sit down and share a real cup of coffee with a friend.
Leave the office first. If you’re spending more time with the nighttime cleaning crew than with your family, see what it’s like to be the first one out the door. Let your coworkers know in advance if it will smooth your departure.
Check your hair. Have you picked up some of the colorful expressions for being busy, like you’re slammed or your hair is on fire? Moderating your language is the first step to dialing down the tension.
Quit competing. Sometimes it sounds like we’re trying to top each other when it comes to having a full plate. If someone starts talking about their hair being on fire, try sympathizing and changing the subject to something more constructive.
Stand still. Action bias is an innate force that makes us want to do something even if it’s counterproductive. Give yourself permission to stop and ponder your options.
Action bias is an innate force that makes us want to do something even if it’s counterproductive. Give yourself permission to stop and ponder your options.Stand still.
If you’re feeling swamped, it’s time to create more balance in your life. Along with challenges and adventure, make room for mundane tasks and quiet reflection. You’ll soon find that less activity can be more fulfilling.
Until Next time...Leap off the couch into your new future being less busy!
Lord knows, mine has been interrupted quite a few times!
Has it left you bit confused about where to go next and how to respond?
Yup, it left me confused, stuck, and lonely. Some days I was physically hurting because I had allowed my spirit to be buried under my relationship and that was no way to live!
Welp! Now, your man has moved on and you should too!
…and now you are feeling confused, stuck, and alone. BUT truth be told, you are not alone and now you can get clearer than ever to get unstuck!
You have your spirit inside you, that in some way has gotten lost or not necessarily lost, just ignored over time trying to make a relationship that is not fit for you, work for you.
It’s time to allow your spirit to resurface and learn how to be intimate with yourself. You will then learn how to connect to others on your terms, with sufficient compromise with the one you care about and who cares for you.
There is so much more to life…
There is so much more to life than losing someone you love to a break-up. The interruption was to get your attention. It was the only way to get you to realize you were fighting a losing battle with your heart and mind. Shaking your world upside down was a wake-up call that there is more out there for you, and you need to quit wasting your time with mediocre relationships.
Do Not think about what you have lost, because if it was worth it and designed for you, love would not have hurt during the relationship. Love doesn’t hurt, not knowing your worth and understating your values hurts. You cannot get someone to show you your worth and live up to your values if you do not show them how and demand it.
Think about what you have gained within yourself by letting go of this temporary love. You have a chance to learn and exercise your value. Open-up to yourself and let go of what gives you no value in life.
Until Next Time…leap off the couch into your new future finding your spirit!
Ashley M Dais
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Our bodies get rest every night, but our brains rarely do. We have thoughts bouncing around in our heads all day. At night we dream. Giving your brain a rest can do wonders for your mental and physical health.
Unfortunately, the natural state of your brain is to generate thoughts.
The only way to clear it is to actively do something to make that happen. Your brain will just continue to make noise if you try a passive approach.
Use these tips to clear your mind and give it the rest it deserves:
Meditation. One of the reasons for meditating is clearing the mind. The other options on this list accomplish this as a side effect. Meditation is as simple as can be, but deceptively challenging. It challenges your mind and your body.
It’s not easy to sit still for an extended period of time, but that’s part of the challenge.
Exercise. Strenuous exercise is a great way to clear your mind. There’s something about using your body that stops the chatter going on between your ears. Casual exercise won’t work in most cases. You need to really work.
Walking. A nice walk, especially after dark or before sunrise can be very calming. The dark helps because you’re less visually stimulated. The repetitive nature of walking can be an effective way to clear out the cobwebs. Your brain is also busy moving your feet and maintaining your balance.
Doing something exciting. It’s believed that many people are attracted to extreme sports like BASE jumping because of the clearing effect it has on the brain. If you leap off a skyscraper with a parachute on your back, you’re not worrying about paying the water bill at that moment.
Doing anything scary or intense can accomplish the same thing. What would you consider to be an intense activity? Try it.
Clean areas of the home. A monotonous activity can also be helpful. This includes driving in low traffic situations, taking a shower, or washing the dishes. Your mind can partially shut down and relax.
Mindfulness. Any activity can help to clear your mind if you focus fully on it. You can experience a mind clearing effect while changing your oil, reading a book, or doing laundry. Focus is one way to clear and calm your mind.
Playing with a pet / Visit pet store. Pets are soothing and enjoyable. Sitting on the deck with your dog or curled up on the couch with your cat can be a soothing activity. If you don’t have a pet, visiting a pet store and enjoying each type of pet can help relax your thoughts and be soothing to a stressful time period.
There’s something special about pets. They make few demands and are always happy with you. If only people were so easy!
Declutter. Cleaning your home or workspace can do wonders for the thoughts racing around in your head. A clean and tidy space creates calm and serenity. If you declutter mindfully, you’ll be getting twice the benefit.
Make lists. When you have a lot to do, your brain is working overtime to keep everything straight. Using a simple list can empty out your brain. You won’t believe how much this can help. Lists can release a lot of resources being used by your brain.
Try to clear your mind at least once each day. You’ll find over time that it will naturally calm down, but it takes time. Our brains are thought-producing machines that can run wild if not managed.
Clearing your mind is an active process. There are many ways to accomplish it. Experiment and discover what works for you.
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