We have received many emails and been asked at events about lots of you wanting to join our events team. Well, today is your lucky day. Birmingham, we are hiring!
Here at AsianD8 we all have one common goal of helping people find love, so it’s no surprise we are a big happy matchmaking family.
We are looking for friendly, outgoing, reliable freelance staff that are available to work weekday evenings and the occasional weekend.
If you think you’ve got what it takes to join the team, come on down to our recruitment day, we have 2 time slots available and if you would like to attend either time slot please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org your full name and which time slot you will be attending by Monday 3rd December.
Date: Wednesday 5th December, 2018
Location: Nuvo, Birmingham
Time Slots:16:30-18:30 AND 20:45-22:30
We were back at the GHERKIN! That’s right, it was our first Padlock Party in 5 years back at the iconic Gherkin!
Tickets were sold out and we couldn’t wait to mingle and party with the crowd and you guys were definitely in the party spirit! (get it spirit, like a ghost?! Don’t judge we are all out of Halloween puns!)
We had almost run out of locks and keys just before the raffle took place so we could see the crowd was really enjoying mingling. There was a huge rush at the padlock table for the last half an hour and everyone was chatting away and really working the room!
Once the raffle was done the afterparty really kicked off. There was a a big crowd of dancers waiting for the after party to start and they made the rest of the night theirs with some serious shapes being thrown.
It was an amazing night, check out some of the comments:
“The music’s been amazing!”
“I’m so glad I came, I’m having such a good time”
“I was so nervous because I came on my own, but everyone has been so nice”
“It was so much easier to speak to people during padlock because I wasn’t nervous after the speed date!”
“Can you please make it more obvious which messages are unread?” – You asked and we listened!
Our inbox has been through a lovely new refresh to make it more obvious which messages are unread and which messages in your inbox are from premium members. Don’t forget you can reply to all messages from premium members for FREE even if you aren’t a paying member! To spot those unread messages there is now a blue unread icon, making it quick and easy to find and reply to your unread messages.
After spending some time on our inbox it was hard not to update the message thread. We have a much more modern look and feel with a similar style to many current messaging apps. You can now also see emojis from members who send messages through our app!
We all know a good first impressions counts. Sending someone who has caught your eye a good first message is an art. A well thought out first message should take more than a few seconds; a “Hi” or “Hi, how are you?” will not do in the 21st century.
Here is our guide to making a lasting impression.
Quality over Quantity Sending generic messages such as “Hi” or “How are you?” to everyone on the website in order to find the right person is a mistake that many people make. Our analytics show that “only 7.5% of messages less than 10 characters long ever get a reply. Even when members match each others criteria.” With numbers this low we recommend you take the time to read profiles & look for a common interest. It will make a positive first impression & give you a better chance of making the right connection. It’s always a good idea to lead with a question about them, give them something to talk about straight away.
Call me on 07897 … … Get to know someone a little bit first, build a rapport & show them you’re serious about getting to know them before handing out your personal details or asking for theirs. Our analytics show that “96% of members don’t respond to first messages containing personal details.”
Good Grammar A common mistake is to use text speak when you first start messaging. Whilst this is fine once you have gotten to know each other, it can have a negative first impression online. We can appreciate that sometimes you are in a rush, but we can guarantee it will do you well to spare those few extra seconds to type out the full sentence when you are starting to get to know someone online. It’s one of biggest pet peeves that our members complain about.
Be Courteous and Funny Don’t underestimate the power of being a little courteous, showing good manners and being honest. It can go along way in painting you in a positive light, especially online. Including a touch of humour in your messages is a good way to be remembered and has a higher chance of getting a response.
Finally, have fun with it! Think of it as messaging someone you want to get to know more deeply not just an opening line.
Online dating wasn’t something I had thought about and I didn’t personally want to go down that route. I was very sceptical and felt that it wasn’t for me. But after trying out the Mandir, Gurdwara and family introductions route and not having much luck, I thought I’d give it a go.
I signed up to a couple of dating sites, had a look around at the profiles and then closed the apps. I knew this wasn’t the way to go about it and decided to take a leap of faith with the mind-set of what have I got to lose and so I starting speaking to a few guys.
After getting the boring conversation of “what do you do?” out of the way I thought the conversations would get more interesting. Boy was I wrong – “what did you have for lunch?”, “what you having for dinner?”, “what you up to?”, “any plans for the weekend?” – OMG SHOOT ME! Ladies, I know you have heard this all before and wanted to give up on online dating just like me.
After changing the subject and talking about something fun, it would always go back to “so what you up to?” or “what you doing over the weekend?” – Here I am thinking he might suggest meeting up and getting to know each other – Boy was I wrong AGAIN!
Women get so many more messages than men, so guys; it’s important that your message stands out and catches her eye. Your first message could make or break whether a girl is going to even reply.
A conversation that finally stood out:
Me: “Hey, how are you?”
Him: “Hey, I’m good but I’ll be better when you help me choose between a chocolate fudge cake and a strawberry cheese cake”
Me: “I would pick the strawberry cheese cake, but when in doubt get both”.
I breathed this huge sigh of relief, someone that I can have an actual conversation with and it all started from this one message that stood out from the rest. Sounds silly, even too simple, but it’s that easy. Keep it fun, casual and catch her attention. And yes, there is a double standard here. A woman can send a mundane “Hey, how are you?” message and get a response. “Why?” I hear you ask, well it’s rare that a woman makes a first move, so saying “Hi” alone will get a guy’s attention!
Guys take note; it doesn’t need to be overly fancy with a bombardment of questions. Take the time to read her profile before sending her the same “Hey, how are you?” or even worse “Hey, would love to get to know you, here is my number…” No woman is going to save your number and drop you a text or call. We want to know you for more than one sentence before giving our number out!
Remember it’s a numbers game and how draining it becomes reading and responding to the same mediocre messages, but the key is don’t give up. It’s ok to step back, take a break and evaluate.
Let’s see how it goes with strawberry cheesecake guy, there might be a part 2…