As much as dating can be an exciting and fun experience it’s also important to appreciate the risks associated with meeting people online so you can fully enjoy the journey towards meeting the one!
Before we get into it, please remember to block and report members to us to investigate. We take member security seriously and as a community it’s great if we can keep each other safe.
Here are AsianD8’s seven essential steps to ensure you stay safe online.
Use sites that offer ID verification site. AsianD8 allows users to upload their ID to confirm and rewards them by placing a badge on their profile so other members can feel more confident interacting with them. When we see other apps not providing this service it just feels they do not care enough about the safety of their own members.
Beware of catfishing. People may use photos of other people to trick you into falling in love. Before getting serious with anyone on your chosen Indian dating site, consider running a Google image search to check that they haven’t’ stolen the photos from a minor celebrity. If you are using Google Chrome you can simply right-click on the picture and you’ll see a an option to do this.
Use paid messaging sites and Apps. One reason we have remained a paid service is because it filters out the majority of people who are not serious. Members will be further verified through their payment types, meaning they can be tracked. It also means they are serious about finding love, which boosts your chances of finding the one for you.
Migrate to other social media accounts. Once you get conversing with someone it’s not a bad idea to add them to your Facebook or another social media account. This will give you a clear indication as to whether they are genuine simply by looking at their activity, friends list etc. It’s even better if you have mutual friends and connections!
Never send private details. Whether it’s contact numbers, bank details or intimate photos, never send this type of info before getting to know someone properly. Otherwise, these details can be used to put you in a vulnerable position.
Have initial dates during the day. When you are meeting someone for the first time try to have your initial meet-up during the daytime. If possible try to make it a group date among some friends if possible too.
Have backup available. When meeting someone in person for the first time, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Having a friend close by to monitor things is a good idea while meeting in a public place is advised too.
We hope the above tips help and stay safe everyone one!
“It is crazy how one interaction on AsianD8 led to the most amazing thing happening to both of us. We could not be more grateful for the existence of this platform! “
The success stories keep on coming! In this entertaining interview we find out how Jas met Mandy on AsianD8 after he had only been a member for just two few weeks!
What made you join our Asian Dating site?
Jas: Everyone was on my back about getting older and settling down, all my younger cousins were getting married so it became the mission of the family to get me to settle down. A cousin, who had found her husband on AsianD8 recommended the site to me. Reluctantly, as I have never been a fan of Asian online dating, I still gave it a try. I thought it would relieve some pressure from the family and if I did happen to meet someone, as unlikely as I thought this was, it would be a bonus.
Mandy: Quite the opposite for me, I had decided I was ready to settle down, I’d stabilised my career and finished my masters, so it was time for me to now think about the next chapter of my life. Being able to share milestones in my life with my partner is a big thing to me and being able to see the world, experience new things with a life partner is what most of us dream of, but to agree with Jas, I didn’t think I would find this on an Asian dating platfrom. However, I too, was recommended to AsianD8 by my best friend who found her husband on the site too and I’m glad I took on that recommendation!
I, too, was recommended to the website from my best friend who found her husband on the site too and I’m glad I took on that recommendation!
Jas: We recently attended a friends destination wedding at which point I proposed with a serene beach view and she said yes! We have had our Indian engagement and have booked our big Indian wedding for July 2019, so you can imagine the stress levels in terms of planning (especially guest lists) right now!
Mandy: Yes our wedding is booked, the proposal was unexpected yet beautiful, could not have asked for anything better. We were lucky enough to celebrate our engagement with our nearest and dearest.
Do you remember your first interaction on AsianD8?
Jas: Mandy was my first interaction and last! The site was really easy to use and the details on the bio of the other person allows easy conversation starters. In my case, it was a good one!
Mandy: Well, my first interaction was with another user, after a few messages back and forth, it was clear we weren’t compatible but I like how the messaging platform is safe in the sense you don’t have to exchange personal details before you figure out if someone is compatible or not.
Jas sent me a message which stood out from the usual “hi how are you” “ what you up to” kind of messages, he sent me a message telling me 3 things about himself and asked if I could do the same. I found this quirky and different!
How long were you on AsianD8 until you met each other?
Jas: Actively, just a couple of weeks. I had it before but I didn’t activate full membership as I was not ready to settle down due to my career and studies at the time. So as a full paying member, a couple of weeks later I found the love of my life!
Mandy: I had been on and off for around a year before Jas and I met. I tried out shaadi too but the layout of the site and the complexity made it too technical and uneasy to use.
…as a full paying member, a couple of weeks later I found the love of my life!
Jas: So this is where I ended up in a bit of trouble… I forgot Mandy was a vegetarian (even though it was on her profile and she mentioned it 500 times!). I took her to Nandos and to make matters worse, they had run out of their beanie burger vegetarian option that day so whilst I sat with my half chicken and chicken wings, she sat with a mushroom and some fries. BUT, I believe I made it up to her henceforth!
Mandy: Yes it wasn’t the best footing to start off on but he did make it up to me right after Nandos by taking me to a lovely french bakery for dessert and since our first date he has also learnt to cook a handful of my favourite vegetarian dishes so I can safely say he has redeemed himself and we have not been back to Nandos since!
…I forgot Mandy was a vegetarian…I took her to Nandos and to make matters worse, they had run out of their beanie burger vegetation option that day so whilst I sat with my half chicken and chicken wings, she sat with a mushroom and some fries.
What’s one thing you like about each other most?
Jas: I like how in some senses we are so opposite that it works so well, for example, I am quite short tempered and I used to have no patience at all, especially in traffic and road rage but Mandy being cool tempered and very patient has helped me adapt and helped me see situations from a fresh approach that I would have never been able to see myself, she truly does make me a better man.
Mandy: The first thing that made me even go on a date with Jas is that I find him hilarious! There is nothing better than humour and even to this day, no matter how bad my mood can get or how upset I have been, he has never failed to make me laugh. He uses it to his advantage but his humour is definitely the thing I like the most about him. Plus, he makes really good chocolate cake.
There is nothing better than humour and even to this day, no matter how bad my mood can get or how upset I have been, he has never failed to make me laugh.
What’s in store for the future?
Jas: Alongside the wedding, I am in the midst of planning the 3 week long honeymoon for the latter end of summer which is being kept a surprise! In the mean time I’ve converted Mandy into a loyal Chelsea FC fan, she has her own shirt now too! It is crazy how one interaction on AsianD8 led to the most amazing thing happening to both of us. We could not be more grateful for the existence of this platform!
Mandy: Unfortunately, along with this man comes his love for football so I am having to watch almost every single game! We have since bought a lovely little house which will be complete for our married life together, We have travelled a fair bit, Jas has taught me how to ride a bike and swim, something I have feared since being a child, and I have since taught him how to properly fold laundry and how to dance (in preparation for the big day of course!).
Congratulations to Jas and Mandy, thanks for sharing and we wish you all the best for the future. xx
At AsianD8 we strive to help individuals meet their soulmate. As hard as this can feel sometimes, when it does happen it gives us a huge sense of pride and shows you should never lose hope of finding the one.
Sapana and Vikrant met just over a year ago and have never looked back, here’s their story told by Sapana.
“It was 31st March 2018, when Vikrant and I met for the very first time at the AsianD8 speed dating lock and key event. When the speed dating had finished we had a chance to mingle and I remember Vikrant coming up to me with the set of master keys, adamant to unlock my padlock. Such a charmer!
We exchanged numbers on the night and shortly after became friends. For us it was important that friendship came first and that we did not blindly rush into anything.
As the weeks went by we enjoyed some of the most memorable dates which then in June 2018, finally lead us to become a couple.
This year has been full of laughs, wind ups and so much happiness, thank you AsianD8 for finding me my soul mate.”
Congratulations to Sapana and Vikrant, thanks for sharing and we wish you all the best for the future. xx
We have received many emails and been asked at events about lots of you wanting to join our events team. Well, today is your lucky day. Birmingham, we are hiring!
Here at AsianD8 we all have one common goal of helping people find love, so it’s no surprise we are a big happy matchmaking family.
We are looking for friendly, outgoing, reliable freelance staff that are available to work weekday evenings and the occasional weekend.
If you think you’ve got what it takes to join the team, come on down to our recruitment day, we have 2 time slots available and if you would like to attend either time slot please email us at email@example.com your full name and which time slot you will be attending by Monday 3rd December.
Date: Wednesday 5th December, 2018
Location: Nuvo, Birmingham
Time Slots:16:30-18:30 AND 20:45-22:30
We were back at the GHERKIN! That’s right, it was our first Padlock Party in 5 years back at the iconic Gherkin!
Tickets were sold out and we couldn’t wait to mingle and party with the crowd and you guys were definitely in the party spirit! (get it spirit, like a ghost?! Don’t judge we are all out of Halloween puns!)
We had almost run out of locks and keys just before the raffle took place so we could see the crowd was really enjoying mingling. There was a huge rush at the padlock table for the last half an hour and everyone was chatting away and really working the room!
Once the raffle was done the afterparty really kicked off. There was a a big crowd of dancers waiting for the after party to start and they made the rest of the night theirs with some serious shapes being thrown.
It was an amazing night, check out some of the comments:
“The music’s been amazing!”
“I’m so glad I came, I’m having such a good time”
“I was so nervous because I came on my own, but everyone has been so nice”
“It was so much easier to speak to people during padlock because I wasn’t nervous after the speed date!”
“Can you please make it more obvious which messages are unread?” – You asked and we listened!
Our inbox has been through a lovely new refresh to make it more obvious which messages are unread and which messages in your inbox are from premium members. Don’t forget you can reply to all messages from premium members for FREE even if you aren’t a paying member! To spot those unread messages there is now a blue unread icon, making it quick and easy to find and reply to your unread messages.
After spending some time on our inbox it was hard not to update the message thread. We have a much more modern look and feel with a similar style to many current messaging apps. You can now also see emojis from members who send messages through our app!
We all know a good first impressions counts. Sending someone who has caught your eye a good first message is an art. A well thought out first message should take more than a few seconds; a “Hi” or “Hi, how are you?” will not do in the 21st century.
Here is our guide to making a lasting impression.
Quality over Quantity Sending generic messages such as “Hi” or “How are you?” to everyone on the website in order to find the right person is a mistake that many people make. Our analytics show that “only 7.5% of messages less than 10 characters long ever get a reply. Even when members match each others criteria.” With numbers this low we recommend you take the time to read profiles & look for a common interest. It will make a positive first impression & give you a better chance of making the right connection. It’s always a good idea to lead with a question about them, give them something to talk about straight away.
Call me on 07897 … … Get to know someone a little bit first, build a rapport & show them you’re serious about getting to know them before handing out your personal details or asking for theirs. Our analytics show that “96% of members don’t respond to first messages containing personal details.”
Good Grammar A common mistake is to use text speak when you first start messaging. Whilst this is fine once you have gotten to know each other, it can have a negative first impression online. We can appreciate that sometimes you are in a rush, but we can guarantee it will do you well to spare those few extra seconds to type out the full sentence when you are starting to get to know someone online. It’s one of biggest pet peeves that our members complain about.
Be Courteous and Funny Don’t underestimate the power of being a little courteous, showing good manners and being honest. It can go along way in painting you in a positive light, especially online. Including a touch of humour in your messages is a good way to be remembered and has a higher chance of getting a response.
Finally, have fun with it! Think of it as messaging someone you want to get to know more deeply not just an opening line.
I’ve had my fair share of awful dates and some of these stories (when I look back on them now) are pretty hilarious. As you can imagine, they were not so funny at the time!
Now that I look back on it I would say one of the most hilarious of them was when I was meeting a guy after work at a coffee shop. I gave him a call when I finished to see how far he was, he said he was on the train and next stop was me. I gave him directions to the coffee shop and waited. 45 minutes later he’s still not there (first red flag). Now I know you’re thinking, why did you wait for so long? And the only reason for this was because it was through family and I didn’t want to disappoint anyone. 50 minutes later he finally gets to me and doesn’t even have the decency to apologise for being late (second red flag). We sat down, had our introductions and he told me that his mum and sister “coached” him on what topics to talk to me about (MAJOR LOL – and third red flag). I soon found out that he dropped out of university, doesn’t have a job and can’t drive (fourth, fifth and sixth red flag). About 20 minutes into the date my phone rang. I never answer my phone on a date but this was my get out of jail free card, I had to fake a work meeting and get out of there ASAP! Altogether we were on the date for around 40 minutes, we were in a coffee shop and he didn’t even have the decency to buy me a coffee!!! We left on good terms but I text him saying we don’t have much in common so it won’t work. A month later his dad rings my mum to say how happy he is that we’re dating. EXCUSE ME!?
Another bad date story started with my number being given to this guy through a family friend. He sent me a message on whatsapp, something along the lines of, “I’ve been given your number to converse with you to see if we are compatible”… Converse! WHAT?! Anyway, we spoke for a few days and he changed his whatsapp picture everyday, each picture was scarier than the last. So after a few days of speaking he asked to meet up for coffee. Let me just add, my whatsapp picture was of myself and a friend, he never asked which one I was, so when I questioned why he didn’t ask, his answer was, ‘doesn’t matter I’ll find out on the date’. I was freaked out and I begged my friend to go instead of me, I even offered to pay for her! Fast forward to the date, he was 15 minutes late and everytime he asked me a question, he interrupted and decided to answer it for me. It was the longest hour of my life. So, I get home and send a polite text thanking him for the coffee and also mentioning that I don’t think we’re compatible. He replied that he already told his mum it went well. Block and delete.
You learn a hell of a lot by going on dates. Not everyone is going to be your cup of tea, and you won’t be theirs, but that’s the point of dating, you date to see whether you like someone enough to be with them. If they don’t like you that much, it does not make them a terrible person.
What I learned from this I have a great group of non judgemental friends that I can vent to about stuff like this. I tell them about my horrific experiences (at the time) and we laugh for hours about it. It didn’t get me down, but gave me an idea of what I was actually looking for. I never thought that my partner knowing how to drive would be on my checklist, but I can 100% say when I looked at the bigger picture and the more I thought about it, it is a big deal (to me anyway). Everyone has their criteria, and its important to make note of your personal deal breakers and preferences as this will help in reflecting on your past experiences and improving your future ones.
Get over a bad date by talking about it
I guarantee you won’t be the only one with a bad date story. After the initial shock of if it being a disaster, each story is something that everyone loves to hear about and share their own bad date stories. By doing so you may find that there’s a pattern in the type of people you are attracting and dating.
Practice makes perfect If you haven’t dated in a while, chances are you’ll be a bit nervous and rusty with what to talk about and you may not even know what you’re looking for or want. If you’re speaking to someone but know that they aren’t your ideal partner, go on the date anyway. Use this opportunity as practice so you’ll be fully prepared for when the right person does comes along.
Don’t let it be off putting If you really dwell on the bad dates it can make you feel like there is never going to be anyone good enough. But take a trip down memory lane and think about your good dates and how some of them lead to relationships. What made those dates good? It’s a little reminder that good dates and relationships are possible because you’ve experienced them and they will happen again.
And lastly, go on another date
Get back out there and go on another date. The bad experiences can suck the fun out of dating, but the longer you keep worrying about how bad your experiences have been, the longer you’re going to stay single.