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Love is in the air and everybody wants to prove just how much they can feel it. Even in Lagos, the commercial capital of Nigeria, where everyone is always on the move, valentine’s day creates an atmosphere where everyone just wants to have the perfect day with their partner.
Now after the hustle and bustle of the workday, the mood is set for an evening to kick back, relax and get lovely or – in some circles – naughty with your partner. But picking out somewhere nice and cozy might be quite stressful considering the population of the city and also taking note of how much the work day might have taken out of you.
But not to worry!
We took it upon ourselves to help you streamline the options out there and make your choice easier. For the elegant and classy who are in the mood for something exotic, rich and intercontinental, here are a few restaurants in Lagos that we believe will give you a wonderful dining experience.
1. R.S.V.P LAGOS
R.S.V.P is a casual restaurant and bar with top-class customer service and a cosy ambience, perfect for a lovely dinner for two. The food is exquisite albeit a little expensive but that is made up for by the amazing quality of food. The cocktail bar is also great for after-dinner drinks and conversation. This bar resonates the whole idea of valentine!
If you are looking for a private place to have a quiet, romantic valentine dinner with your partner, then Metisse is the place to go. With its Thai-fusion theme, it is the place to go to have a taste of the Asian continent. It also has a wide array of European and Local cuisine if you’re not in the mood to experiment. Metisse boasts of knowledgeable and professional staff that ensure a comfortable, seamless and stress-free dinner.
Izanagi is a Japanese themed restaurant with a unique and extensive menu that takes your taste buds on a journey to Japan. From the noodle dishes and shrimp dumplings to the marinated steak dishes, teppanyaki and exceptionally exquisite sushi, you will certainly have a taste of the very best of Japanese cuisine.
Albeit a bit pricey, Izanagi, with its zen environment and privacy, is a perfect location for Asian food lovers and lovers in general.
4. OCEAN BASKET
Ocean Basket is the perfect place for seafood lovers looking for a place for a romantic dinner for two. It has a lovely ambience and light music that really sets the mood, a reasonably priced menu of mouth-watering seafood cuisine and exceptional staff. If you are new to seafood cuisine, this would be a great place to have your first experience this valentine.
5. SHIRO RESTAURANT AND BAR
Shiro is a pan-Asian restaurant known for fine dining and serene atmosphere. It is located close to a beach and has an outdoor scene where you and your partner can relax, have a good meal and stare at the stars.
Their menu cuts across china, japan, Thai and contemporary giving you a wide variety and exceptional quality of food to choose from. All in all, you are in for the perfect valentine evening with the finest dining at Shiro restaurant and bar.
As diverse as these restaurants are, they cannot cater to the specific desires of all of our readers. So, if none of the restaurants listed meet your taste, you could also head over to Trip advisor for a wider range of lovely restaurants and you might just find something that tickles your fancy.
At the end of the day, make sure your valentine day had all the love you deserve!!
Marriage is indeed a beautiful thing and can result to a lifetime of lovely memories when both individuals put in effort to make it blissful. Yet we can’t ignore the fact that the 21st century is overrun with stories of crashed marriages and divorced cases. And although there are different reasons for these scandals, we still believe that there are some little guidelines that are very essential and can go a long way in making your relationship beautiful.
My darlyns, your attitude towards your marriage dictates how you enjoy the lifetime commitment. There is no perfect marriage but there can be a beautiful marriage, and this depends on how and what you both do to keep your marriage beautiful, lovely and worth-while; even with the littlest of things that look like they don’t matter.
1. Remind Your Partner (And Yourself) That You Appreciate Them
Learn to appreciate all your partner does for you i.e applaud him/her; it makes your significant half feel happy and loved, and also broadens the way for more kind gestures. It could be that they assisted with the school fees, house rent or even helped clean the house. Avoid any scenario that would make you want to highlight their faults and the use of vulgar words.
Surprising your partner with gift packs, flowers and exciting messages not just on their birthdays or special days but any other day also goes a long way in showing heart-felt emotions. It makes the love get stronger. Also, before you learn to appreciate another you need to first know how to appreciate yourself, you can only give what you have.
2. Say Thank You For The Little Things
Always be thankful for the little things. It could be trashing the garbage, picking the kids from school or helping out with the dishes; whatever it is, be thankful. The time your partner has invested in doing all these things could have been used for something else. Nevertheless, even though it isn’t a favor, those two words do more to the heart than can be described.
3. Practice Honesty
Practicing honesty in marriage gives you a reason to avoid anything that would make you prone to lies, thereby strengthening the love. Honesty can only be effective when you both are committed to it.
4. Take Care Of Your Appearance
Spicing up marriage also deals with the physical; what the eyes can see. The article on FEED HIS MIND gives more details on the pros and cons of how to appeal to your partner with your mode of dressing; a nice and sensual dressing intensifies the rate of attraction in marriage.
When your partner gets attracted to you all the time, you both would see your marriage as a bed of roses because you naturally see yourself getting drawn to each other; this also reduces the chances of extramarital affairs.
5. Good Communication
Communication makes partners understand themselves better. It gives an insight of how your partner feels, what your partner desires and how to go about them. Learn to express your feelings becausse it lightens the burden and makes it all fun. Say I love you when you feel it.
When you feel things aren’t moving smoothly between the both of you, talk about it. When there is a lot of stress at work, communicate with your partner. Communication brings about understanding.
6. Maintain Intimacy And Passion Inside And Outside The Bedroom
Learn to play with your spouse not just in the bedroom but also outside the home. You both could play video games and even go to the movies at night! Always try to talk about how much you love them and how blessed you are to have them in your life. Love life shouldn’t just end in the bedroom; be spontaneous and flaunt your spouse outside. It shows you are proud to have them and this fuels the passion in your marriage.
7. Spice Up Your Marriage With Money And Youthfulness
Money gives you access to all the beauty things of life to spice your marriage. Develop the habit of lavishing your partner with gifts; love isn’t just by mere words. Love is justified by actions, and money makes it all come together beautifully. When there is money you can take of your health and look youthful for your spouse. This however, doesn’t mean you need to go outside your budget to spice up your relationship. At the end of the day, it’s all about what you feel about each other in your hearts.
At the end of the day, always remember: “It only works when you both try”.
Feel free to tell me more ways couples can spice up their marriage in the comment section, You might just be helping someone out!!
The harsh truth is most people love the feeling of having to say they are in a relationship when they don’t really have ideas on how to deal with some issues that are almost certain to arise at some point or the other. Now while some might subscribe to the school of thought that you can learn on the job, don’t you think you’d be better off if you had a blueprint on some things to expect and how to handle them? I think you would.
It’s not new knowledge that women are special and as a guy in a relationship, it is very important you understand the different languages and traffic lights that your woman might be blinking your way so you don’t try to accelerate when the light says red!
My darlyns, it is stated somewhere that the weather has nothing on women when it comes to switching moods, and it’s even trickier with them because you might have no clue what the next mood swing would be about! Seems like an impossible mission dossier right? Not to worry. I have tried to pinpoint a couple of hints that show your woman has something eating her up inside. Taking conscious note of these signs might just help you nip the brewing issue in the bud.
Take a read..
1. You Keep Getting Large Doses of Radio Silence
Women are different and have different reactions to many issues. However, one common method used by majority of them to show they are unhappy about something at first is to totally ignore you. Whether you’re trying to start a conversation that doesn’t involve the issue they are angry about or you ask about something they shouldn’t even be silent about.
When this happens, you shouldn’t take offense immediately, rather try to scan your memory to see if there is any unaddressed issue. Why? Because she is definitely upset about something and you are probably involved.
2. She Begins To Pick Totally Unnecessary Fights
Ever gotten snapped at just because you said thank you after a meal? It probably left you totally bemused. Another sign your woman is angry is when she begins to get angry at things she shouldn’t be angry about. Truth is that even she knows she isn’t supposed to snap at the little issue, but she can’t help it.
This is because there is something else she is trying to draw your attention to but then she wants you to notice. When this is happens, it is advisable to let her calm down a bit and then try to discuss the issue gently.
You wanna know some more interesting reasons? Keep reading, number 5 will interest you…
3. She Cringes When You Touch Her
One very interesting thing about women is that when they are worked up about something in their mind, automatically their whole being becomes jittery. Apart from the fact that she might begin to keep things out-of-place, she unconsciously becomes allergic to your touch. An action that i deliberate, but she can’t obviously help it due to something on her mind. You could gently try to find out what is getting her worked up if you notice such behavior.
4. She’s A Bag Of One-word Replies
Ever tried having a conversation or chat with someone who gives one-word replies? Must have been really frustrating to keep up with. A lady can be an unending tap of one-word replies if she’s unhappy about something. Some popular statements like “I don’t know” and “Ok” are part of some sadistic comments that will keep hitting you if you choose to ignore the attitude she’s putting up to show she’s unhappy.
5. She’s Dead Staring At You While Speaking or She Doesn’t Want To Look At You At All!
We’ve stated that women have very interesting ways of showing that their pissed off. Unfortunately for the male folk, there is no dedicated reaction to take note of; while some women won’t bear to look at you when they are angry with you, some others would stare you in the pupils like you killed their ancestors!
Most times at this point, the best way to deal with the situation is to mildly answer their questions or find a way to calm them down.
I know what you’re thinking.. Why are women so difficult to understand?!! But the truth is, as much as they can be stressful when they are unhappy, women are awesome at being loving and caring when they are treated right. The most important thing is to know and detect the signs when they arise.
Does your lady react differently when she’s upset? Feel free to let us know in the comment section!
My darlyns, to begin with, it’s rather hard to find someone that will share the same ideology and perspective with you. So automatically, you have to deal with someone that’s different from you, and you have to learn to enjoy it in order to make any relationship work. Valuing each other’s differences in marriage/relationship brings about peace, unity and unending love. It makes you both have the spirit to accommodate and understand each other. Andre Lorde said “it is not our differences that divide us, It is the inability to recognise, accept and celebrate those differences” However, Andre Lord doesn’t stereotype this to relationship between countries alone, but it’s rather feasible in marriages too.
I’ll give you a practical example: you like watching baseball while your partner prefers football, does this mean you’ll write them off? Or for instance, you like enough pepper in your noodles and your partner wouldn’t have any of it, will you end the marriage or scrap noodles? The thing about marriages is that it deals with compromises and sacrifices. Another example, imagine your wife doesn’t like a particular type of toothpaste you use, that’s not a big deal, allow her get the toothpaste she is cool with. This shows understanding and not division according to popular opinion. Little things like this could erupt silly fights if you both don’t manage it well.
Your partner had a different upbringing and exposure. Yes, you both are in love and passionately into each other but that doesn’t imply that both of you will have the same hobbies, interests, characteristics and views; with time you will begin to notice the unavoidable differences between the both of you. If you really want your marriage/relationship to stand you just have to deal with it by staying in love and accepting the differences involved. You can choose to walk away to find another partner, who would still have his/her differences because he/she is human. The whole point is to just stick to your marriage/relationship and learn how to live and respect your partner’s differences in harmony. After all, you chose them. So if you had chosen them knowing these differences, then you should be able to deal with it.
If the situation is bad, like certain behaviours that could be detrimental, all you can do is criticize constructively and not nag. You pinpoint the particular action you find wrong without insulting them. Like, “you don’t always remember to close the kitchen door at night”. I mean darlyns, that’s another importance of communication. You sit your partner down and explain why they have to change because it’s harmful – they’ll listen.
The only way to enjoy each other’s differences is by valuing the uniqueness in one another, growing and learning from it. Some differences are quite beneficial and healthy. Finally, always focus on your similarities, it strengthens and gives you a reason to understand that your differences doesn’t make either of you wrong; rather it makes you, you.
My darlyns, what makes a marriage or a relationship stronger is how both parties come together as one to fight the challenges of life and not individually. God has made your wife/husband your number one helper before anyone else, no matter the difficulty you face at work, school; from friends, discuss it with your spouse. Whatever issue your spouse discusses with you, always help through with it. The help could be financial, it could be care and attention, prayers or comfort; whatever it is just put in your best.
Balancing the wheel in marriage is when couples view their successes and problems as something that is for them both instead of personalising it. An unbalanced wheel in marriage is when a husband or wife carry on differently without inviting the significant other to assist on the other side, when there is pressure or celebration; thus the wheel becomes unbalanced.
Dave Willis said “There is no challenge strong enough to destroy your marriage as long as you both are willing to stop fighting against each other and start fighting for each other” Couples who fight as one have less stress and live more on the positive side of life. They are always very happy not that their problems are few but because they are being strengthened by each other by practically supporting and standing in for themselves, unlike couples who don’t fight as one. Let’s review these two families:
Chief Ola and his wife Mrs. Ola were both deeply in love, they carried each other along. One fateful” night, they got attacked by armed robbers who carried two of their cars and most of Mrs. Ola’s jewelries. The couple were strong together for the unfortunate that happened to them, when they were asked to make statements about what happened to them. Mrs Ola still in grief said “they took our cars and emptied our sitting room”. And also they collected our expensive jewelries that belonged to my wife, while we were sleeping chief Ola chipped in. he held his wife passionately while talking.
Barr. Steven and Mrs Steven were both deeply in love but they don’t operate effectively as a couple. They were both robbed on the same night as Chief Ola and his wife, the armed robbers collected one of their cars and broke into Mrs Steven kitchen and collected all her new kitchen equipment. The couple quarreled about the incident of the robbery from the moment the thieves left until morning when they were asked to make their statements; Mrs Steven said “they collected my kitchen equipment” and blamed her husband for not changing the kitchen lock. Mr Steven talked about how his wife left the car key on the television set and made it easier for the thieves to drive his car out. They both were shouting at the top of their voices, blaming each other and complaining bitterly for their personal property. They couldn’t resolve their issue; they were both in shock and pains.
Chief Ola and his wife were able to console themselves and stay strong despite they lost more valuables than the other family, because they stood together as a team and addressed their losses as we, our.
When couples make use of these pronouns, our, we, us; they unconsciously form the sense of “whatever that is yours is mine and whatever that is mine is yours”, “your problem is my problem”. Strictly avoid “me, I, you” in your relationships/marriages it makes couples operate on a distinct level.
For a wheel to be balanced in marriages or relationships, always discuss your failures and successes, ride through to the storms together without putting blames on your partner. Make yourselves happy while riding.
How do you address issues that come up in your relationship/marriage with your partner? What makes you both strong on stormy days? Do share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment. If you further enlightenment on how to balance the wheel in your marriage and prevent further issues, book a session today with Wittysally.
My darlyns, to begin with, everyone outside your immediate family belongs to the clique of third parties. Of which, the importance of learning to create a clear boundary and draw a line between your family and the third party cannot be overemphasized. For the sake of clarity, the people that belong to the clique of third party includes: friend, relatives, parents, in-laws, and most especially, the exes. This article will basically walk couples and aspiring couples through the reasons why these people are regarded to as third party and reasons to draw the line.
Darlyns, imagine you as a married person has a friend that you met way before marriage and as fate would have it, both of you are now married to your respective spouses. Now, because you guys have been friends for a while, sentiments come in so it becomes difficult to let go of the friendship. Because they are your friends, you listen to them, you believe everything they have to say and you also go to them for advice. In marriage, my darlyns, certain issues are quite inevitable; don’t let anyone fool you. Not everything is the way they seem but because you are not so sure yourself, you go ahead to tell your friends and the next thing they say is,
“Ahhh, my husband wouldn’t do that to me, he dare not! My wife wouldn’t even think about talking to me like that, otherwise I will show her pepper…”
It is pathetic how at that moment, you decide that the sense God has given you wouldn’t be enough to run your home and so you begin to show your spouse “pepper” because you think that is what your friends are doing. The sad part is that this happens a lot in homes and homes have been broken because of this.
Also, the situation of having a single friend not knowing her limit or boundary is almost worst. Imagine having a friend who has the ability to influence you telling you a married person to go to club with him/her, spend the night outside or do certain immoral things and perhaps even make you feel bad for getting married? However darlyns, this is not to say that you should not have friends, this is just to say that your association should not be one that will influence you and your marriage wrongly and constantly have it at the back of your mind that they, no matter how close you are, constitute the third party.
Also, your relatives including your parents are also members of the third party. Your parents will definitely feel entitled and experienced – after all, you are their child. The interesting part is that no one will tell you to stop talking to your parents because you are married and more often than not, when your parents offer advice to you, they have your best interest at heart. Now the important thing in dealing with your relatives is to know the limit. The advice they have might have worked for them, it doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for you. Family members are always quick to support their own people – even to a fault sometimes. I remember someone telling me that if you want someone to remind you that you have another person, tell your mom what the person did to you…while you might have forgotten, your mum will still be warning you about them. It is the same with marriages: if you keep going to your relatives after every quarrel, they will begin to hold grudges against your spouse and that is not a good thing.
The cases of in-laws my darlyns can be quite sensitive. Because your in-laws are your spouses’ family and you have to be sensitive while dealing with them. Like your relatives, they will also feel they know a lot of things, and without doubt, they do. However, it is your job to be careful and filter the information you get.
For the cases of dealing with exes, my darlyns, I am sure it is no news how it is totally irrelevant and uncalled for to deal or still retain relationships with exes after marriage.
After all is said and done darlyns, the ability to create the boundary remains in your hands. This is why marriage is for the mature ones because the cross is yours to bear and the ability to show love to your people and not be isolated while creating the boundary is in your hands.
If you have more questions and how you should sort issues with your exes or family and how you should create boundaries in different cases, don’t forget to book a session today with the renowned marriage and relationship expert, Wittysally.
Every planting season is followed by a harvesting period, we all know this. What happens when the seeds planted refuse to germinate? This is where patience comes into play. It is expected that as couples, you should produce children. In some African homes ,when the couple stays for two years without children, the mother in-law begins to wonder and ponder what the problem is, when the case extends to five years or more you see her finding errors in little things you do; she begins to complain how the woman doesn’t fry egg well, how the follicle from your hair litters the whole compound.
My darlyns, how do we manage the storms in marriage when they become very windy? Certainly, there will be storms and childlessness is one of the major storms affecting marriages prior to our existence. I know you’ve heard this before “God gives children” the woman doesn’t and the man doesn’t. The woman serves an incubator to nurture the being created by God. We really need to digest this point and realise that our only duty is to pray to God for children and not blame or criticize our partner; even when the medical report says otherwise, our faith in God disproves the conclusions of men.
My darlyns, the case of childlessness in marriage can’t be settled with your anger or depression, why not relax and let God do his will? Don’t blame your partner for anything. Build your happiness on the things you love with your spouse and focus on the positive sides of living. When the pressure becomes much from family members, do not listen to them, drive through the crisis with your partner. Build your marriage on other beautiful things of life, such as: nature, paintings, music, helping the poor and needy. Provide each other with physical affection and enjoy your sexual life, being childless doesn’t stop you from satisfying your partner sexually.
I was privileged to know a couple who have been married for ten years without children. They sought help from everywhere possible and they were devout Christians who never missed any chance to praise the Lord or skip a religious activity. The doctors confirmed that nothing was wrong with both the wife and the husband; still a child wouldn’t come. She kept seeking help and eventually resolved to continue praying to God. Two months after a 21 days fasting and prayer conducted in her church, she discovered she was pregnant. There was celebration like no other and the testimony was that “God’s Time is the Best”. He certainly wouldn’t give you something you aren’t spiritually, physically, psychologically and financially ready for.
Finally, my darlyns it is important we remember that one of the principal reasons of marriage is companionship. So when the seed refuses to germinate water other people’s lives by being a blessing to them. Children they say are gifts from God. When the gift doesn’t come you take solace in the joy of companionship and marriage. Enjoy your marriage and be happy with your partner and in God’s time, children will come.
There are several ways to handle childlessness. Looking for someone to talk to and counsel you on handling childlessness in marriage? You can seek professional help today and book a consultation session with the renowned marriage therapist and relationship expert, “Wittysally” on the homepage.
My darlyns, the importance of memories in marriages cannot be overemphasized neither can the influence of memories on marriages be underrated. Psychologically, memories always have major effects on the minds of humans; it reminds us of the good and bad old times of life. The way you live or lived your life together as a young couple will affect your marriage in the long run. This is the time to create unforgettable and intoxicating escapades with your spouse; to give you both something to reminisce on when the children leave the home. One of the powerful ways to strengthen your marriage is by holding on to the highlights of your life together but this only depends on how well you both will create your love story.
Explore so many fun activities with your spouse; you both could register at the gym, visit the zoo, play video games,
Go to new cities; be adventurous with your spouse now that you are young and healthy, you might not have this opportunity again at old age.
Enjoy and spice up your sex life.
Attend occasions together.
Be spontaneous on regular basis.
Be the number one reason for your partner’s happiness everyday.
Have your special songs and colloquies.
These are few things you can do to create strong and beautiful memories that last for a lifetime.
My darlyns, live every of your moments on the intention of making the good moments supersede the bad days. Life can’t be determined, so when things get tough in your marriage, the good memories are what fuel the journey to building a good home. The good old times created always serve as a sofa to lean on when difficulties come up and always give hope for a better season. The foundation you lay now in your home also gets to affect the children, when you have a beautiful and exciting beginning with your spouse; it affects the aura of the home positively. Create your alluring memories now and build your dreams together.
Do you always reminisce about the good-fun times you had with your spouse? How do you feel when do that? Please share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment, thanks.
My darlyns, the edifice of alliance in a relationship is TRUST.
Now, how do we manage people’s actions towards trust? Trust is an action that comes with so many challenges and it’s quite disheartening that this generation we live in, some fail to see the importance (of trusting) to the end.
The action of trusting involves one party (trustor) who is willing to rely on the actions of another party the trustee, and it’s our duty as the trustee not to misuse that trust given to us by a friend, colleague, wife or husband because looking at it from a deeper angle; it is a precious jewel that should be handled with patience, care and a good attitude. It takes more than enough to build a trust between couples while it takes a second to impair a trust that has been built for years.
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Why would a man or a woman choose to imperil the trust of his partner for an action that adds no value to him/her? I’m sure this question has been there decades before now and there hasn’t been any justified answer to that effect.
Once trust is lost, the foundation of a relationship disintegrates so it’s best we value our relationship to keep the bond strong and fight whatever challenges that comes with the trust ensured on us by our partners.
Nothing good comes easy and if you think the marriages that are in the “BREAD AND BUTTER STAGE” today didn’t go through the “PALM KERNEL STAGE” then you are in for a lot of surprises. It takes a lot of Discipline, Self-suffering, Love and TRUST to have a successful marriage. Maintaining the trust given to us by our spouses/partners is not an easy task but it is an essential ingredient in building a happy home.
Looking at life as it really is, we humans can’t do without trusting, we need it. No matter how shallow it is; you can imagine how we ensure our health to a doctor or pharmacist, who we know little or nothing about, we take the medications.
It gives us the sense of ownership and belongingness. With it, we have a reason to ease off tension knowing that someone won’t give up. Every success, plans, activities, innovation and projects were carried out by trusting an involved party.
In this world of many happenings, trust is what keeps the relationship/marriage on a smooth sail, without it there won’t be a reason to love.
No matter the series of betrayals or hurt experienced in life that seems to cause the wickedness of the universe slamming on our faces and pushes us to want to savor our lifetime on solitude, we should never stop trusting because we will still have that burning desire in us to at least be with someone; if only we tell ourselves the truth. A popular proverb says “no man is an island”.
So please my darlyns, let’s try not to abuse the trust given us by our lover, friend, family or any being, if not for anything for personal reputation.
How do you make up for mistakes made in your relationship or marriage, to strengthen the trust? Do share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment below and if you need more enlightenment on how to rebuild the trust in your marriage, then book a CONSULTATION SESSION today with WittySally.
My darlyns, most times I hear women complaining about how their husbands usually maltreat and beat them when they do anything the man doesn’t like. This always amuses and surprises me because 85% of the women who are into abusive marriages saw the signs while they were still in the dating process with the man, the remaining 15% who are in abusive marriages didn’t properly go through the courting process before taking the vow at the altar. I advise young ladies who are still outside the institution of marriage to know what they really want before kicking off on that journey because once you in, there’s no way out.
A young girl called me recently complaining about her supposed boyfriend that beats her whenever he gets angry at her. The last incident that happened which made her call to come see me was that her boyfriend went through her phone like he normally does and saw that she saved the phone number of his friend that he used to communicate with her three weeks ago. Her boyfriend got angry and deleted his friend’s number and accused her of wanting to flirt with him, he went on to beat her mercilessly simultaneously insulting her entirely family and generation; the beating resulted to massive injuries on her body. What’s worse? It didn’t just end there. He went on to smash the Iphone 6 he got her and told her to bring out all the dresses he got her. After the awful drama, he left. After crying and hurting, the young girl called and told him it was over between them. The following day, he came with an Iphone8, new set of clothes and provisions begging and crying profusely for the young girl to accept him back.
She said “Wittysally what am I to do? I love him but he keeps decorating my body with injuries, accusing me of things I didn’t do, still comes back to beg after every fight, do you think he will ever stop?”.
My darlyns, for a man who maltreats or beats his girlfriend, is it when you are now his full property as a wife that he won’t comfortably do it? Most women marry such men because they are into the material pleasure they get after each fight and most times they are frightened to share their opinions with their partners because they are scared of their reactions. Say no to Toxic relationships!! If you think you can mend a toxic relationship, are you willing and ready to endure the troubles, anxieties, breakdown, stress and most times the long-lasting injuries that follows? It is important you ask yourself this question “why can’t he/she stop hurting me if the love is real”. People who are toxic in their relationship aren’t always aware of their malicious nature. They don’t care about others need, they are too self-centered in their growth and plans. They don’t appreciate your good deeds in the relationship until the moment you are saturated and have decided to walk away, that is when he/she remembers how good you are and ready to make things rights to love you.
Please, my beautiful singles out there; be wise enough to walk away before the next story becomes so tragic that saying “sorry” would be an insult.
***A mere display of violence today can escalate to domestic violence tomorrow. If you are a victim of domestic violence in your marriage, do not be afraid to accept help. The injuries inflicted by domestic violence (both emotional and physical, takes a lifetime to heal). You can seek professional help today and book a consultation with a renowned Marriage and Relationship Expert, Wittysally on the home page.