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I was recently told that I was emotionally abusing my child. No seriously. I was told that I was emotionally abusing my child. Now as ludicrous as that statement was considering the source that it came from, I decided that I should examine why they would make such an accusation. It is no secret to those who know me that I have been struggling recently with my daughter who is diving head first into tween-hood. We have been dealing with attitude issues, problems at school, issues with grades, MOODINESS etc. Which can be pretty typical of a child at this age apparently. For the majority of my daughter’s life she has spent her time at my house, I have been the primary parent. She and I have had an amazing mother daughter relationship. We talked about everything, shared everything and promised to always be honest with each other. She was even a guest on my podcast! Everything changes… However, recently we moved to a week on week off split with her father. The change in our schedule, the attitude, and moodiness have been difficult for me to process. It just happened overnight *poof* no more little girl – moody tween […]

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GIRL! I lost 35 pounds on the Keto Diet! Before I dive into the Keto diet and how it helped me lose weight, let’s do a little recap. I created a blog post a while back with an update on my weight loss struggle. In fact it is something I have blogged about a few times… My Weight Loss Struggle: Injections, Parkour and French Fry Eating Trainers My Gigantic Challenge: I Need to Lose 40 Pounds I quit smoking 8 years ago, and after I did I gained a lot of weight. What started out as 10 additional pounds grew into 50. I have been trying for YEARS to find the motivation & commitment to lose all those extra pounds. I have tried various diets, Nutrisystem, Weight Watchers, and other fad diets I found online. I joined a couple different gyms – and barely went. I tried working out with Beach Body videos at home. I gained it all right back! None of it worked as a permanent solution for me, I would inevitably gain any weight I lost right back. Most of the diets I couldn’t stick to for more than a couple weeks. Either the food was awful […]

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Mother’s Day is upon us! Yes, that’s right ladies the one day a year where it is all about us! The day when we get pampered and waited on hand and foot. Yeah, that probably won’t happen. For most of us single moms, Mother’s Day is just like every other day. You will likely get some lovely home made gifts from your little ones. Those cute little poems with the hand prints on them. Or maybe even a clay sculpture of some kind. You may even have kids old enough to bring you breakfast in bed. (Be sure to listen to the podcast to hear about the “coffee” my daughter made me a few years ago.) However, other than those few things Mother’s Day isn’t that different for us single moms. There isn’t anyone else to take up the slack if we decide to take the day off. There isn’t anyone there to take over all of the things that we do so we can be pampered.  We know that self-care is important but we don’t always make sure we take the time. This Mother’s Day I beg of you, please be sure to do something for yourself! Take Care […]

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Mother’s Day is almost upon us! Yes, that’s right ladies the one day a year where it is all about us! The day when we get pampered and waited on hand and foot. Good One Good One GIF from Anchorman GIFs Yeah, that probably won’t happen. For most of us single moms, Mother’s Day is just like every other day. You will likely get some lovely home made gifts from your little ones. Those cute little poems with the hand prints on them. Or maybe even a clay sculpture of some kind. You may even have kids old enough to bring you breakfast in bed. (Be sure to listen to the podcast to hear about the “coffee” my daughter made me a few years ago.) However, other than those few things Mother’s Day isn’t that different for us single moms. There isn’t anyone else to take up the slack if we decide to take the day off. There isn’t anyone there to take over all of the things that we do so we can be pampered. And for the most part, I personally don’t care about not having someone else in my life. On Mother’s Day though, I admit, it […]

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Parenting agreements, you may already have one but if you don’t it is something that you should definitely look into having. If you aren’t familiar with what a parenting agreement is, it is basically a legal document that outlines terms for parenting with your ex. Parenting agreements are very important because it sets out guidelines and expectations for both parents. They cover all types of things such as: the visitation schedule child support educational expenses medical expenses how you will split or share holidays transportation to and from visitation physical changes such as haircuts, ear piercing etc vacations and traveling out of state or country extracurricular activities and so much more These guidelines help you lay out who has what responsibilities both physical and financial. They can help eliminate confusion or ambiguity when it comes to raising your child in separate households. Important Things To Remember When Creating Your Parenting Agreement Don’t make it personal – it is about your child. It can be hard to keep your emotions out of things like this. Especially when dealing with your ex. However, it is crucial that you remember to put together a parenting agreement that is best for your child. Don’t […]

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We single moms have usually been through a lot. We don't have the time or energy to give to everyone. So if a single mom has decided that you are worth the gift of that time and energy - you better know how important that is.

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Self-contentment… remember what that feels like? Do you remember who you were before you had kids? Do you remember what you loved to do and the things that brought you joy?  As a single mom I know that for many years I felt like there was nothing more to me than just being Mom. It was a feeling that is hard to nail down sometimes. The best way I can describe it is a sort of hollow feeling inside. Like there is a part of you that just isn’t there anymore. All those things that I used to do, that brought me happiness, I simply stopped doing after my kids were born. Because I was a single mom with little to no help, it just seemed impossible. There was no way I would have the time or energy to work on self-contentment.  I had kids to feed, boo-boo’s to patch up, clothes to wash, events to drive to, homework to help with, doctor’s appointments…  There was no TIME for anything more, and even if there was time – I was too damn tired to try and do it. ‘I’ll do that later. When the kids are older.’  But something happened, […]

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For many couples with children it has been typical that the woman would be the primary care giver. Often times staying at home to care for the kids while her husband worked.  However, over the years this dynamic has changed a bit. A 2013 Pew study revealed that 40% of women were the main breadwinners in their homes. It is likely that number has risen over the years.  So what happens when a mother, who has always been the primary breadwinner, becomes a single mom? When you haven’t been the primary care giver for your child it can be quite a change.  In this weeks podcast interview I talk with Rachel who has recently become a single mom. After separating from her husband, she found herself struggling with being the primary caregiver.  Rachel had always been the breadwinner for her family while her husband took care of their baby. When they separated Rachel had to learn how to be both breadwinner AND caregiver.  Not many of us can understand what it’s like to find ourselves in tears at the grocery store because we don’t know what foods our baby likes. Rachel’s husband had always taken care of the shopping. She […]

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If you know me, or have listened to some of my podcasts, you know that one of the things I dislike more than most anything is stereotypes.  I do not like it when people put other people into a certain box, or judge them based on preconceived notions. Assuming they know a person’s situation before actually getting to know them. This happens all to often to single mothers. I personally have experienced the following stereotypes: – a slut– a whore– a welfare queen or scammer– just lookin’ for a daddy for her kids– mooching off the system– your kids must be in jail– you were probably a drug addict And there have likely been more over the years. So it stands to reason that I would absolutely despise when people just put stereotypes of single moms out there in the world. Especially people with large platforms. People like Tucker Carlson. Recently on his show Tucker did a piece on ‘Men in Decline’. In this piece he talked about how women were less likely to marry men who made less money than they did.  How they SHOULD want to marry them but they more than likely don’t.  Now, setting aside the […]

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It is almost the end of 2018 and I don’t know about you but I am ready to kick last year to the curb and welcome in 2019! Last year seemed to be the most BLAH year I have experienced thus far. Now, it may be due to the political BS that has been going on ALL YEAR LONG. It could be my struggles with depression. It could be any number of things. Whatever the cause, I know that I am ready to close it out and bring in a bright new shiny year. I don’t know about you, but I personally have routines and rituals that I go through every New Year’s Eve. Not the party till I pass out kind of rituals but the kind that help me prepare myself for success in the coming year. Now some of these may be a little too woo-woo for you, and that’s ok. BUT I highly recommend that you also close out your year in a way that helps you make 2019 an amazing year! Here is my list of rituals and routines for closing out the year: 1. Set my goals for 2019. I don’t make resolutions for myself. […]

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