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Self-contentment… remember what that feels like? Do you remember who you were before you had kids? Do you remember what you loved to do and the things that brought you joy?  As a single mom I know that for many years I felt like there was nothing more to me than just being Mom. It was a feeling that is hard to nail down sometimes. The best way I can describe it is a sort of hollow feeling inside. Like there is a part of you that just isn’t there anymore. All those things that I used to do, that brought me happiness, I simply stopped doing after my kids were born. Because I was a single mom with little to no help, it just seemed impossible. There was no way I would have the time or energy to work on self-contentment.  I had kids to feed, boo-boo’s to patch up, clothes to wash, events to drive to, homework to help with, doctor’s appointments…  There was no TIME for anything more, and even if there was time – I was too damn tired to try and do it. ‘I’ll do that later. When the kids are older.’  But something happened, […]

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For many couples with children it has been typical that the woman would be the primary care giver. Often times staying at home to care for the kids while her husband worked.  However, over the years this dynamic has changed a bit. A 2013 Pew study revealed that 40% of women were the main breadwinners in their homes. It is likely that number has risen over the years.  So what happens when a mother, who has always been the primary breadwinner, becomes a single mom? When you haven’t been the primary care giver for your child it can be quite a change.  In this weeks podcast interview I talk with Rachel who has recently become a single mom. After separating from her husband, she found herself struggling with being the primary caregiver.  Rachel had always been the breadwinner for her family while her husband took care of their baby. When they separated Rachel had to learn how to be both breadwinner AND caregiver.  Not many of us can understand what it’s like to find ourselves in tears at the grocery store because we don’t know what foods our baby likes. Rachel’s husband had always taken care of the shopping. She […]

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If you know me, or have listened to some of my podcasts, you know that one of the things I dislike more than most anything is stereotypes.  I do not like it when people put other people into a certain box, or judge them based on preconceived notions. Assuming they know a person’s situation before actually getting to know them. This happens all to often to single mothers. I personally have experienced the following stereotypes: – a slut– a whore– a welfare queen or scammer– just lookin’ for a daddy for her kids– mooching off the system– your kids must be in jail– you were probably a drug addict And there have likely been more over the years. So it stands to reason that I would absolutely despise when people just put stereotypes of single moms out there in the world. Especially people with large platforms. People like Tucker Carlson. Recently on his show Tucker did a piece on ‘Men in Decline’. In this piece he talked about how women were less likely to marry men who made less money than they did.  How they SHOULD want to marry them but they more than likely don’t.  Now, setting aside the […]

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It is almost the end of 2018 and I don’t know about you but I am ready to kick last year to the curb and welcome in 2019! Last year seemed to be the most BLAH year I have experienced thus far. Now, it may be due to the political BS that has been going on ALL YEAR LONG. It could be my struggles with depression. It could be any number of things. Whatever the cause, I know that I am ready to close it out and bring in a bright new shiny year. I don’t know about you, but I personally have routines and rituals that I go through every New Year’s Eve. Not the party till I pass out kind of rituals but the kind that help me prepare myself for success in the coming year. Now some of these may be a little too woo-woo for you, and that’s ok. BUT I highly recommend that you also close out your year in a way that helps you make 2019 an amazing year! Here is my list of rituals and routines for closing out the year: 1. Set my goals for 2019. I don’t make resolutions for myself. […]

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It’s CHRISTMAS TIME!!!!! I don’t know about you, but this is my favorite time of year! I love all the lights and decorations. I love the smell of cinnamon pine cones at the store! I even LOVE the Christmas music playing on an endless loop. Yes, I am one of those people. However, this is also the time of year where I tend to drive myself a little bit crazy and drive myself into the ground. I also used to deal with an overabundance of guilt because of my need to compare myself to other moms or families. I am not fully sure why we as moms often feel that we need to absolutely kill ourselves to give our kids the BEST Christmas EVER! We will work ourselves to the bone, scrimp and save all year long, clean, bake and decorate until we are complete madwomen – just to feel like we are doing a good job. At least I used to do this. Maybe you are a lot more zen than I was about the holidays but I for some reason was always trying to live up to some weird ideal I had set in my mind. Like I […]

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The holidays are here again! With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I keep seeing people posting on social media all the things that they are thankful for. And while I think that expressing gratitude is always a good thing; I always wonder why people only seem to do it around a specific holiday? Why only think about what you are thankful for around Thanksgiving? Why not do it all year round, every day? Today’s podcast talks about why remembering to be thankful every single day is so important. Being Thankful Every Day is So Important Now I know that for many of us single moms it can be hard sometimes to be thankful or show gratitude. When things seem so hard or stressful. When you aren’t sure how you are going to pay the bills this month or if you will have enough food. When your ex decides to stop paying child support. Or maybe you are recently divorced and it seems hard to see how you could possibly be thankful for your world falling apart at the seams. These hard times can make it very hard to find things to be thankful for. But it’s these times when it […]

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Toxic Masculinity: One Dad Took to Twitter to Defend His Son A few days ago I was scrolling through my Twitter feed trying, and failing, to ignore the political nonsense that has overtaken literally all social media platforms. I posted some pithy comments and re-tweeted some of the dumbest things that I came across. Realizing that by doing so I was totally contributing to the din, but apparently unable to stop myself.     When I came across a post by a father Twitter handle: @daddyfiles, that caught my attention and made me stop in my tracks. It was a post about his little boy being bullied at school for wearing nail polish. His son LOVES to wear nail polish and one day at school the kids made him feel bad for doing so. “They called him names and told him to take it off. This lasted the entire day.” They teased him and said he couldn’t wear nail polish because he was a boy. He came home in tears and told his dad he didn’t want to wear it anymore, even though he loved it.   This dad took to twitter and railed against the toxic masculinity that caused […]

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The Pros & Cons of Working From Home As a single mom I struggled for years trying to support my family while working full time. I had to apply for government assistance to afford the child care I needed. I knew that the only way I was going to get out the struggle I was in was if I didn’t have to pay for child care. The only way I would be able to do that was working from home. I had no idea what I was going to do or how I was going to do it but I dove right in. I made a lot of mistakes and stumbled along the way, but I was able to create a successful business for myself. I have been self employed for 10 years now. It has been the best thing I could have done for myself and my family. Working from home has given me back control of my time and allowed me to be more present in my children’s lives.   Working from home has plenty of perks but it can also have some downsides as well. It isn’t always for everyone. In this weeks podcast I cover the […]

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Self-Care – we know it’s important right? You hear it all the time, self-care – don’t forget to take care of yourself. As single moms we are more often than not running in 5 different directions, going a million miles an hour with our hair on fire! We take on so much every day just to keep our small humans alive and kicking. And on those days self-care is probably the very last thing on our minds! But when we do this it can take its toll on us. Hell, who am I kidding, it kicks our asses most days. We spend so much time taking on all the things that need to be done that we often neglect to take care of ourselves. We put ourselves last. And by the time we finally have time to MAYBE do something for ourselves, it is really just one more thing that takes up our time and energy and we just don’t do it. OR we feel guilty for doing it. For the simple act of taking a moment to care for ourselves, we feel bad because we could be doing any number of the other things that are on our to-do […]

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This weeks podcast is about picking your battles! What do you mean ‘pick your battles’? As parents we have so many different things that we have to worry about and deal with on a daily basis. Making sure that these little humans grow up safe and secure and turn into hopefully productive members of society! But let’s be honest – they can REALLY test our patience and our sanity! Who among us hasn’t ended up in a battle royale with their kid over something completely ridiculous? I know I have! We all struggle with it, and we all know that in the end it leaves us feeling emotionally and physically drained. So over the years I have learned to pick my battles when it comes to my kids, rather than spend time and energy on arguing. Now don’t get me wrong – I still stand my ground on the important things but I am not willing to get into a 30 minute argument over whether my daughter should wear matching socks or not. If my son decides he wants to make a peanut butter sandwich rather than eat spaghetti for dinner – fine by me. I am not going to […]

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