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This is a new bi-weekly feature that we want to share with our readers.  We read so many great articles every week on our team and it occurred to us that you may enjoy them as well!  So let us know what you think and if you have a great article to share, send it to support@soulfulselling.com

This is how gratitude will make you a better leader and parent // Taking a small amount of time per day to be truly grateful will transform your life

I talk about the power of gratitude a lot.  It helps us ground ourselves, builds confidence and can even help us feel good enough to increase our pricing.  So I loved this article.  The gift of gratitude just keeps on giving…

How To Use Your Intuition (And When To Ignore It)

I used to have a problem figuring out how to differentiate between my intuition, ego and feelings of fear.  And I often wondered, is there ever a risk to following my intuition completely?  This is a simple but great article about exactly that.

Lewis Howes: Podcast interview with Gretchen Rubin: Happiness, Habits and Understanding Human Nature

I am totally obsessed with the Four Tendencies framework by Gretchen Rubin.  It makes so much sense to me and as a “Rebel” according to her quiz, I finally have given myself permission to have a problem with authority (and pretty much anyone who tells me what to do!).  So of course, I loved this interview with Lewis Howes.  There is so much insight into human nature and if you are an entrepreneur, understanding these differences is super important.  Check it out and let me know what tendency you are!

Extroverts May Be More Exhausted Than Introverts 3 Hours Later

You might be tired.  You might love naps (I know I do!)  But guess who else is tired?  Extroverts!  I am exhausted just watching and listening to them so just reading this article made me feel better (and slightly more energized).

Here’s How Ambitious Introverts Are Secret Weapons in Negotiation

Introverts have a lot of super powers.  We are super listeners, able to build a relationship in a single bound and have incredible powers of observation.  These super powers are often overlooked which makes them even more powerful.

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Have you ever pretended to be an extrovert?

I have. More times than I can count.

For a long time, I didn’t even realize I was faking. I was just trying to be what I thought I “should” be.  More talkative, more outgoing, the life of the party.  Someone who could remember jokes and make  people laugh.

Because everywhere I looked, extroverts were succeeding.  In classrooms, at getting raises, promotions, even more dates! They were definitely not the most qualified.  They were the people who made sure they got noticed.  It seemed clear to me that the way to succeed was to be an outgoing extrovert. And I thought I was a pretty good actor.

So for years, I pretended to be one and it left me exhausted.  I did it for so long, I started to forget who I was and what made me happy.

Have you ever pretended to be someone you’re not?

Being a total fake really wears on you.  I felt really disconnected  to who I was which was pretty scary.  Do you think the only way to get ahead is to pretend  you are an extrovert?  

If so, I am guessing you are in one of two groups:

1-You believe you need to behave like an extrovert to  succeed but that is too painful for you. So you just don’t promote yourself.

2-You behave like an extrovert when needed and hope you can keep it up.

I’m so sorry to tell you this but neither of those is a good solution. 

No one is that good of an actor And if you continue to follow either one of those paths, its going to be really hard to make a sustainable change in your life or business.  I don’t know your situation and I won’t tell you there is one magical solution because everyone is different.

But I can tell you what worked for me. Once I slowed down and did some work on myself, I realized  I was an introvert.

But I had to do more than realize it, I had to accept and embrace it.

It was like coming home.
A huge weight was lifted from my shoulders.
It made everything easier.

And looking back, it seems crazy that I put so much effort into doing things that just exhausted me even further.

I had figured out how adapt to things in my own way.

But I had to retrain myself.
Actually, de-program myself.

The biggest reward was that I was able to see my life more clearly And to make some big career changes that supported me and my natural temperament. So I created a job I loved and enjoyed! I no longer felt like a fake!

I had more energy for myself and my family And I began the process of accepting myself.

Warmly,
Christine

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