Hi, my name is Dr. Sophia Reed and welcome to my single mom blog. I of course am a single mother, a single woman over 30, and a Christian. I started this single mom blog for sophisticated moms for single mothers who want to put her best foot forward in everything she does, including her relationships, her career, her appearance, her parenting, and her relationship with God.
For all my professional ladies out there that want to diva up their cubicle, workspace, or office but you do not have a large budget to do it, don’t worry I GOT YOU! I am going to give you some amazingly cheap office supplies ideas that is going to match your level of boss chick, divaness, professionalism, and femininity.
Let’s get into it these amazing cheap office supplies that are going to blow your mind, shall we?
If you are the type of professional woman that loves to be blinged out then you are going to love the next few items. That will bring A LOT of bling and shine to your desk. The first is the stapler. For only $19.99 this faux crystal studded stapler can be yours.
If you really like bling why stop at the stapler why not go ahead and add the tape dispenser to the mix for $23.99. Fully decorated with high-quality sparkling rhinestones. If you are going to do it, why not do it all the way. And all this bling on your desk will tell people you are not playing.
If you are a simpler and chic professional woman then you are going to want this rose gold set complete with an acrylic stapler, acrylic staple remover, acrylic tape dispenser, 1000 pieces rose gold staples and 10 piece binder clips. This set is a luxurious design made of polished clear acrylic with a high transparent appearance. Rose gold just has such a chic and feminine look, don’t you think? This set retails for $24.99.
Nothing says boss chick more than having an office and/or cubicle space that smells like good. And this diffuser for only $19.99 will give you that effect. This diffuser is a wood color which makes it look more professional, chic, and sleek. Plus you can add some essential oils (Click here to buy) to relax you when your workday starts to stress you out.
There is nothing that says I am fancy like some fancy pins with flowers on them. And these retail for only $10.99. You can choose to use them yourself, have them on display on your desk for decoration only, or have other people use them when they come to your desk to show how fancy you are. Which they are going to think if you hand them these pens.
Pretty much anything that is marble or rose gold is going to make you look fancy which is why you can get this marble paperclip dispenser for only $10.89. If you want rose gold dispenser you can click here to get one for $10.99 (Click here to buy).
I know what you may be thinking, how is this Echo apart of the cheap office supplies? BUT having an Echo is a life-changing experience and given all that it can do it is not that expensive. And why do you need this in your office you may ask? Because you can listen to jazz or ocean sounds while you work, set your reminders for meetings, or order more office supplies. This is really like having your own personal assistant that you do not have to pay on an hourly basis. BUT in this case, you just have to buy it once and this one cost about $50.
There are three amazing things about this folder. They look fancy, they have wonderful words on them, and those wonderful words tell you how awesome you are. So in those days when you are just over it at work, just look at these folders and you should be in a better mood by reading the worlds to yourself. They are only $12.99
#10 A Coffee Cup
I cannot start the day without my coffee and what would make my coffee even better is a really fly cup to start off my day. Since there are too many to just choose just one. See some of my fancy coffee cup picks below. All of them suitable for the boss chick that you are.
This designer looking bag can serve as a briefcase, a laptop bag, or to carry your files in. Not only is it fashionable but it is also affordable and usable for work-related stuff. Even though it looks designer it only retails for $39.00 instead of the hundreds of dollars it would be for a designer briefcase.
If you have a habit of sticking notes around your cube and office then why not make the notes look decorative. As you stick the notes around your office, your desk will get fancier and fancier as opposed to just sticking those regular yellow notes all over giving your office a boring and regular look. Don’t be regular, use these amazing reminders retails for $13.98.
For all those random things you have on your desk, it is such a good idea to have this cute and fancy organizer to put things in. Not only will it organize your desk but it will organize it in style. This one retails for $24.99.
Instead of having a regular, boring, mouse pad that everyone else has glam yours up with this one and it comes in multiple colors. I mean look at this mouse pad, tell me it does not scream “I have my stuff together and I am a boss babe now what?” This amazing sophisticated mouse pad retails for $13.99
How is this for fancy cheap office supplies? Let go of those boring multi-colored tacks and trade them in for these amazing ones that look like diamonds. I mean really think about this, do you want boring tacks or do you want tacks that look like diamonds? I think you know the answer to that. And these retail for $8.69 for 100 of them.
You can choose to store your files, papers, or whatever it is that you want to store can be stored in these boxes. And unlike those ugly plain boxes, these are actually decorative and are ones that you will want to look at. The boxes retail for $27.99 for all four boxes.
There you about have it folks these are the fanciest cheap office supplies office items that will have you looking like the upscale, classy, and professional women you are. And you did not even have to spend a whole bunch of money doing it. If you know a fellow professional woman that needs to glam up their office, then go ahead and share this post with her.
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Are you tired of looking busted or want to upgrade your look but you do not have the money to do so? If so, you have come to the right place because I am going to tell you how to look expensive. And trust me, I am the queen of cheap so I know that no matter what your budget is I can make you look expensive on it.
I am going to share with you 21 ways that you can make your outfit look more expensive and really what it comes down to is mastering the art of getting clothes that look expensive and being able to recognize what styles, fabric, and colors that look expensive. For this reason, I really encourage you to check out my blog on how to find your own personal style. There are different ways to look expensive and you really just have to find one that gels with your own personal style so you know what to add to your outfit to make you look more expensive.
In any case, that is enough of the small talk we have a lot to cover let’s get into it shall we? (post contains affiliate links).
How to look expensive ~ Tip #1 Matching Shoes and Bag
Your shoes and your bag don’t have to be an exact match but you can at least coordinate them. And when you do you can have amazing results. Like in the picture above literally my shoes are from Payless and my bag is from some off brand store. But because it is somewhat coordinated it has a more expensive feel to it.
See some of my suggestions for matching bags and shoes.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #2 Draping Your Coat over Your Shoulders
My Outfit Coat Is From The Thrift Store
More Expensive Jacket
Here are some of my coat suggestions.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #3 Pick A Dupe
A dupe is different from a replica. A dupe is an article of clothing that looks like a more expensive item of clothing but a replica is a knock off. A dupe will have the right brand on it while a knock off will have a Gucci logo on it and it is not actually a Gucci. You can get a dupe belt, handbag, shoes or whatever. Once again having a style inspiration is key so you can know what look you are going for.
For example, in the picture above this is an Aldo bag, it is a dupe for the Gucci bag (click here to see my full review). In fact, as I was carrying this bag around someone actually mistook it for a Gucci bag. This Aldo bag cost $60 (click to buy) while a similar Gucci bag cost thousands.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #4 Blanket Scarf
A blanket scarf is a great way to look expensive and it is super affordable and versatile. You can literally wear it different ways which give you more bang for your buck. The best way that in my opinion is to just put a belt around the scarf as I did in my picture.
More Expensive Look
See some of my blanket scarf suggestions below.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #5 Faux Fur
Back in the day, it was very expensive to wear real fur, it still is actually but the trend of wearing real fur is out (because of animal cruelty) and wearing faux fur is in, even among the rich. As I said before when trying to look expensive it can be important to actually find that is rich and get inspiration from their style. By the way, my shoes are from Payless and my jacket is from Target.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #6 Solid Colors
You can choose to wear all black, all white, all mauve, or even all red. These are the best colors that can make you look very elegant and expensive especially when paired with the right fabric.
Expensive Pink Outfit
How to look expensive ~ Tip #7 A Little Black Dress
A little black dress is something that is very simple and that can look very elegant. For example, I wore this dress at the MGM Grand and it was a dress from some inexpensive shop I found online. And I had it for years. But the right little black dress is timeless and classy. The “Little Black Dress” coined by Coco Chanel the queen of elegance. To perfect this look get one that is fitted well and not too short. Such as the one worn by Marilyn Monroe. I could still wear her style of dress today and it be in style.
See some of my suggestions for the little black dress below.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #8 Trench Coat
Having a tea length coat or a trench coat in a solid color such as black, cream, or even white can provide a luxury looking experience. Having a double-breasted coat and using fabrics that look more expensive are key to learning to look expensive on a budget. Click here to the one I have on in the picture.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #9 Pleated Pants
Anything pleaded tends to give the look of being more expensive especially if it is a more satin or even velvet type fabric. I would stay away from the cotton type of pleats. My coat is from the thrift store, shirt is from Amazon (click here to buy), and my pants are from Target.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #10 Tailor Your Clothes
Having your clothing tailored to fit you well can give a plain Jane, dress, pants, skirt or article of clothing a more expensive feel. Take for example this dress below, it is from TJ Maxx and cost about $10. But because it is fitted pretty well on me, it looks a lot better than one off the rack and that is not tailored.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #11 Satin or Silk Fabrics
Since this is how to look expensive the article of clothing that you choose does not have to exactly silk but you can get articles of clothing that feel like silk, satin, or have that the same texture as these more expensive fabrics. Take for example my shirt above, it is from the thrift store. It looks shiny and expensive but it isn’t.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #12 Leather or Faux Leather bag
Having a leather bag is an expensive thing to do but if you cannot afford a leather bag then you can go for faux leather. For example this red back is a great example of a bag that is not real leather but looks more expensive. You can click here to get my dress in the above picture and also see my other affordable work dresses blog by clicking here.
View some affordable options below.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #13 Pop Of Color
Do not have color overkill by having a rainbow all over your clothing. In fact, that is the opposite of looking expensive. But having a nice tailored outfit such as the dress and a pop of color can make you look expensive. And as always the right type of fabric and style is key.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #14 Pleated Skirt
Much like the skirt the pleaded pants brings an expensive looking element if it is done right and made out of the right types of fabric. Click here to buy the skirt I have on in the picture.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #15 Poncho
You can choose to trade in your jacket for a poncho to give you a more expensive look.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #16 Replica
So remember how I explained that a replica is different from a dupe. A replica is something that claims to be an actual brand. For example, in the picture I have on this belt that looks like a Hermes belt and it even came in a Hermes box but it cost me like $30 while the real one cost about $815. You can click here to buy the belt or click here to see the review of the belt. You can get a replica Chanel, Gucci, or whatever it is your heart desires. Basically, get a replica of an expensive brand to look expensive.
How to look expensive ~ Tip #17 Lace Fabric
You do not have to use really expensive lace but the fabric that looks like lace will do the job will give you that lace look.
If you want a weave that is natural looking and one that is easy to do yourself, from home, then the flip over method is your best bet. Before I get into the ins and outs of how to do the flip over method let me tell you what is it, the benefits of it, and why you need to try it.
What is the flip over method?
You can look at my video below to see how it all plays out and I will walk you through how to do it step by step. But basically the flip over method is where you have either a quick weave (click here to see my post on how to do a quick weave) or a sew in. But no matter which way you choose, leave the edges (the front) of the hair out. Once you install the weave all you do is flip the front part of your hair over the weave hence the “flip over method name.” If that sounds confusing then watch my video below from Instagram. Don’t forget to follow me too on Instagram (click here) for more hair tips, inspiration, and tutorials.
You don’t have to worry about a closure. Because often times doing closures and having it look “natural” takes a lot of skills, practice, and it has the potential to be an epic fail if you don’t do it right. No so much with the flip over method. You are probably not going to fail.
Your hair will look more natural. In the flip over method, you are using your real hair to cover up the tracks. And since your real hair is showing (growing from your scalp) the hairstyle will look more natural like the hair is actually growing from your head.
It is beginner friendly. Literally, anyone should be able to do this, there is no parting or cutting of the cap (like a u-part weave) so if you are thinking about installing your own weave as a beginner, then I would try this method first.
Versatile parting and styling. Depending on how much hair you leave out in the front will depend on how deep your part can go. But you can wear your hair to either side or even in the middle. Which is a change from many wigs or pre-parted closures. As you can see from my picture below you can also pull your hair into a half up and half down style, which I personally love. I love it so much that it was featured in my quick hairstyles for busy moms blog.
(PS, in the picture below I am NOT wearing a real Hermes belt but it looks like DOESN’T IT. Click here to buy the belt or to read my full review on it by clicking here).
Let’s get into some of the cons of the flip over method
If you don’t get the best weave to match your texture then this method could be an epic fail for you. I do have natural hair and I got curly hair on purpose because I thought it would be easier to blend. But even then I had 4c KINKY KINKY hair so even blending my real hair with the curly weave was a challenge due to the changes in texture. The same can be said if you get bone straight hair knowing your hair is not bone straight or cannot get bone straight. You will see both the textures that are not blending well and that equates to a hot mess hairstyle.
Since you are blending your real hair into the weave you want to get a similar color and a similar texture so you can avoid the hot mess situation we talked about above. If by chance you want to get a colored weave then try to get tracks where the roots are dark (AKA an ombre or balayage). That way if your weave has dark the roots it will blend into your actual hair if your hair is also dark, and then fade into the other color making it still look natural.
Flip over method ~ How Long Did the Style Last?
I took the style out after two weeks because the hair that I had was beginning to tangle. I used the Bobbi Boss Miss Origin Human Hair Blend wavy hair that I got for about $20. If you can get better quality hair then you will be able to wear the style a lot longer.
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Since I did a quick weave with glue it is important to protect your actual hair so the glue does not get in it. If you are using a sew-in, you will not need the protectant products.
Hair (I used about 3 bundles) It really does not matter if you are using synthetic hair or human hair because you can use both. But I can help you determine what type of hair is best for your needs.
If you want the freedom to style, curl, or dye your hair then getting human hair is the best option. Check below for some of my suggestions on human hair in various textures.
If you want hair that stays in the same pattern, is low maintenance, you are not concerned about curling it, or you are on a budget then consider getting synthetic hair. Check out some of my suggestions below.
Flip Over Method ~ Step 1 Prepare your Hair
The first thing you want to do is to keep the edges out and make sure it does not get trapped under the cap. Because that will be the flip over part. Then you want to cornrow or pull back the rest of your hair and apply the molding gel on top of it as well as the protective shield, and then spray Got2B glued spray on the hair before putting on the wig cap. Sit under the dryer for about 30 minutes until fully dry. As the product dries it will create a protective barrier over your head that keeps the glue from getting on your hair and also keeps the wig cap attached to your head.
In my video, I am using a thicker dome cap so the above method was enough. But if you are using a stalking cap or wig cap, I recommend after putting on the cap putting another coat of protective shield on the actual cap and sitting under the dryer again.
Remember: to keep your edges out during this process (AKA the flip out part). Only do this to the hair that will be covered by the weave.
Flip Over Method ~ Step 2 Quick Weave
For the next step, just premeasure the tracks, and then glue the tracks down starting at the back of your head. You want to place the tracks going across the head so that way when you flip your hair back it lays in a natural way.
Bonus Step: The pack of hair that I received came with a pre-parted closure. Instead of letting it go to waste, I simply cut it through the middle of the closure (where the lace is) and placed it in the front of my head right behind the parts. Using the closure in this way will help your style look more seamless and keep tracks from showing in the front in the front. But this step is optional as not all hair comes with a closure.
Flip Over Method ~ Step 3 Get Your Edges
The last step is to blend your edges, I often twist mine to keep them out of the way as I am doing my quick weave. If you have a curly weave like I have in my video consider using the G2B glued curl mouse and then edge control to help blend your hair with the weave.
If you are using straight hair for your weave then using a small flat iron on your edges to get them straight and then lay your edges using an edge brush. And that is it. The flip over method is super easy to do. And hopefully, this post taught you how you can do it step by step by yourself at home. If you know someone who wants to know how to slay their hair at home then go ahead and share this post with them.
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In this post I am going to answer the question “is manifestation Christian?” And explain to you exactly what the Bible says about manifesting. Now before I get into it let me explain to you what manifesting is anyway.
Manifestation is often used in the law of attraction (a new age philosophy) and it pretty much means that if you practice the laws of attraction then the things that you are focusing on will manifest in real life.
For example, the laws of attraction assert that you can manifest money, you can manifest a job, a relationship, good health, or just about anything that you put your mind to. If you think about it enough, are positive enough, affirm it enough, and envision enough then you can manifest just about anything you want.
But let me tell you a secret. The laws of attraction and Christianity go hand and hand. Yeah, they may call it laws of attraction but just because you slap a different name on it does not make it any less Christian. The only difference, in my opinion, is that the laws of attraction has replaced the word “universe” with the word God. But as a Christian, you should know that the universe is God. Since you understand manifestation and you now understand that manifestation can get you the life that you want, let me tell you how to do it God’s way. Also, check out my blog on the power of positive thinking as a Christian.
You ready? Let’s get into it, shall we?
#1 Let’s start with what is manifestation according to the Bible?
When it comes to Christianity and manifestation knowing what manifestations is according to the Bible really comes down to this verse:
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he” Proverbs 23:7
All the laws of attraction is, is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. (source) Which when you really think about it is the same thing that the above Bible verse is saying. Whatever a man is, whatever he thinks he is, or whatever he thinks he deserves is exactly what he will become. Now that you understand the BASIC premise of what manifestation is according to the Bible, I will give you more examples of how Christianity and manifestation go hand in hand.
#2 What the Bible Says About Manifesting ~ Faith Of A Mustard Seed
If you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20
The idea of manifestation is that you can attract things to you. But all this really comes down to is that you are having faith that what you want to come true will come true by acting, believing, and going about things in a way that what you have asked for is going to come to past. That is also known as faith. And as you can tell from the above Bible verse that if you have faith then there is nothing that is impossible to you and you can literally tell a mountain to move.
Therefore, if you have to try to manifest something the Christian way, then just have faith that it will come to pass, behave like it will come to pass, and believe with your whole heart it will come to pass.
Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1
When you choose to manifest something you are literally thinking about it, saying it, believing and attracting it into your life. Even though you don’t see it yet. And it is that same faith that you have on a continuous basis that will manifest whatever you are having faith in.
#3 What the Bible Says About Manifesting ~ Pray Without Ceasing
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
When it comes to the law of attraction and Christianity they are very similar in the way that they require a long term commitment to see the manifestation of what you. They both also require being thankful and appreciative for what you do have. With the laws of attraction, you cannot practice the laws of attraction for just one day and think that you will manifest what you want. For the laws of attraction, you cannot be all negative and unappreciative. And it is the same way for manifesting the Christian way. Thank God for what you have and if there is any small manifestation of what you have asked for be grateful and appreciative for that.
The laws of attraction is a way of life and so is being a Christian. Pray without ceasing. When it comes to Christianity and manifestation you cannot just pray about it one time and then when you don’t see the answer to your prayer you give up. No, you pray, keep believing, keep praying, and not giving up until you see what you have prayed for manifest in your reality.
#4 What the Bible Says About Manifesting ~ Replace The Universe With God
God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not. Romans 4:17
Christianity and laws of attraction can be very different in the fact that laws of attraction attribute their manifestation to the universe but as a Christian, you need to attribute your manifestation to God. If you look at the Bible verse above, then you can clearly see that God is one that brings about things into your world, things that you have hoped for, and things that are not unseen. I have seen many Christians who believe in God and also attribute things to the universe. To make it short, the universe is God. God is the one that is going to make your manifestation come to past and God is the one that you should be thanking and praying to every day in order to get your manifestation.
Christianity and manifestation
As you can see manifestation is Christian and the above Bible verses clearly explain why that is. BUT you may still not know how to practice manifestation the Christian way and so I am here to give you some ideas.
#5 Christianity and manifestation: Practice #1 Keep A Spiritual Journal
It is no secret that when you write things down they are more likely to come true. It can be your manifestations or even your goals. So you can write down your prayers, your wishes to God, write down gratitude’s, or write down what you are believing God for. The good things about spiritual journals are that you can come back and read them time and time again. This is a great way to be reminded of what you are believing God for and it is wonderful to come back time and time again to read it and be grateful for each manifestation that you see come true.
I am a master of writing letters to God and often times your manifestations it takes some times to see God move on your behalf. Sometimes it takes YEARS. I love when I am able to come back to my journals time and time again and read where I was then versus where I am now. Often times, when things are in writing it, is a wonderful reminder of what you are believing God for and a good reminder when you see your manifestations come to pass even if it is YEARS from now. Because often times when they are not in writing we tend to forget. The more you see how much God has done for you the more you are reminded of how much more He can manifest for you. That is why keeping a spiritual journal can be so important.
See some of my suggestions below:
#6 Christianity and manifestation: Practice #2 Affirmations
Affirmations are huge when it comes to laws of attraction and manifestations. Not only will affirmations help with the manifestations but they will also help increase your faith and keep you in a positive mood that will in turn help with your manifestations as well. It is important to remain positive and remind yourself of what God has done for you. Which is why I liked to replace affirmations with Bible verses as use them as affirmations. Here are a few of my favorites below.
Beloved, I pray that in every way you may prosper and enjoy good health, as your soul also prospers. 3 John 1:2
Walk in obedience to him, and keep his decrees and commands, his laws and regulations, as written in the Law of Moses. Do this so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go. 1 Kings 2:3
Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Luke 6:38
Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
#7 Christianity and manifestation: Practice #3 Vision Board
I personally do not think that there is anything wrong with a vision board nor do I think that it is anti-Christian. Remember as long as you are keeping God in the center of it and you recognize that God is the one that is going to bring you manifestation to reality then there should not be an issue.
You can click here to see how to make a vision board and the benefits of it. But in short, a vision board serve as your image of the future – a tangible example, idea or representation of where you are going. By putting a vision board somewhere you can see it every day, you will prompt yourself to visualize your ideal life on a regular basis. Thus assisting with whatever you are trying to manifest.
Even though the laws of attraction is considered to be New Age, I hope that you understand that Christianity and manifestation go hand and hand. You can manifest the things that you want out of life as long as you are doing it God’s way.
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In this post, I am going to give you 13 easy everyday hairstyles for the busy mom. If you follow me on Instagram then you know that I am the master at changing my hair and since I am a busy mom myself I love hairstyles that are quick and efficient. I have perfected the art of my getting myself (makeup and all) ready in about 30 minutes flat. And I spend the least amount of time on my hair. These are some of the same hair tips for busy moms I am going to teach you.
Are you ready? Let’s get into it. 13 Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms
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Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~ #1 The high Ponytail
I know when you think ponytail it can sound so boring, but instead of just putting your hair in a regular old boring ponytail, I am going to give you some hair tips to spice it up a bit. To perfect your high ponytail you want to put it in a sleek ponytail (using gel). Do whatever you have to do to get the ponytail as sleek and possible and as high on top of your head as possible. Which gives the ponytail a more finished and polished looked.
If you want to add some extra length as I did in my picture, try the drawstring ponytail. It legit takes less than 5 minutes to put in. Just pull all of your hair to the top of your head, put it in a bun, and attach the drawstring ponytail and that it is. This will give your ponytail style, length, and give it a different look from the traditional ponytails. Click here to buy the drawstring ponytail I have on in the picture for only $12. You can also review the entire blog that I did on drawstring ponytails here.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~ #2 The Bun
My next hair tip for busy moms is the sleek bun. Like the ponytail, a bun can seem super boring but there is a key to spicing it up. The first thing you want to do is to actually put either a middle or a side part in your hair. And just like the above tip sleek your hair down to give it a more finished look. As you can see from my picture putting a side part, swooping the hair, and even pulling out some baby hairs can make a huge difference between just a regular old bun and a nice sleek and classy bun.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#3 The Half up and Half Down With A Bun
For this style. Just part your hair across and take the top part of your hair and twist it until you get a bun. For those who do not have this much hair in real life then I have a hack for you. The back of my hair is actually a wig. YES. And once again this styles takes about 10 minutes or less. Just get one of your favorite wigs, clip it into the back of your head, and then style the top. The wig I used in this picture is the Outre Dominican Blow Out Wig (which you can click here to buy). I know that this sounds difficult, but it really isn’t.
Check out the full video below to see how a style like this is done.
EASY 10-MIN BUN + HALF DOWN CURLY STYLE! | hair how-to - YouTube
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#4 The Two Buns
These two buns are really easy to do and when I wore them I did feel like it made me look a lot younger. Which for a mom may not be a bad thing. Just part your hair into two and put them into buns. You can view the video below on how to do this. With or without fake hair.
Without fake hair:
Cute Double Bun Hair Tutorial - YouTube
With fake hair:
How To Two Buns Tutorial On Short Natural Hair - YouTube
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#5 Genie Ponytail
We are back to the ponytail but not just any ponytail the genie ponytail. I did a whole blog post on genie ponytails which you can click here to read, to see various genie ponytail options. As far as the one I am wearing it is a drawstring ponytail that once again takes about 5 minutes to attach to your head. And if you see the bangs in the photo, all of that comes with the ponytail. You do not have to make your own bang or even cut anything. Just attach the genie ponytail to your head along with the bang and that it is. Click here to buy the ponytail I have listed in the picture.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#6 Just Throw a Beanie On Your Head
In the above picture, I was running super late for work and I did not have time to do my hair. As a result, I just threw a beanie on my head and the problem was solved. As a hairstyle tip for busy moms just do not throw any ugly beanie on your head (especially if you are going to work) but make sure that it is cute and try to place it on your head so that it looks more like a fashion statement as opposed to looking like you just did not know what to do with your hair. Check out another picture below to see what I mean.
Even in the above picture all this mask the fact that I did not have the time nor did I feel like doing my hair. But you can’t really tell you can you? As long as the hair that is showing looks nice then you can get away with your hair not being completely done. To buy the short wig in the above picture click here. To see my full review of the wig then click here.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#6 The Traditional Half Up and Half Down
For this hairstyle, all you are going to do is place the hair into two sections and put the top section in a high ponytail and leave the back out. You can play with the placement of the top portion of your hair but for me putting it really high really looks better to me. You can do it on straight or curly hair which gives it a different vibe each time.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#7 Clip Ins
In the above picture, I have on clip in’s and you can click here to get the ones that I have as they come in many colors. Clip ins are extremely versatile. They come in curly hair, straight hair, human hair, and even synthetic hair. All you have to do is just clip it into your normal hair to either add volume or to put it over the hair you already have. Here are some videos that will show you both.
TUTORIAL | How to put in Clip-in Hair Extensions - YouTube
As you can see clip-ins are very versatile, very easy to use, and also very quick to use when you are getting ready in the morning. If you get human hair clip ins then you can style and curl them as if they were your actual hair.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#8 Scarf
Similar to the beanie adding a decorative scarf over your head can change up your look tremendously. It can cover up the fact that your hair is not already done or you can elevate your look by matching your scarf to your outfit.
Check out the video on ways to wear a scarf.
Four Ways to Wear Head Scarves - YouTube
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#9 A Weave
In case you have not realized I am a huge fan of weave. For the next hairstyle consider getting extensions or even a quick weave. Of course, you are not going to do this the morning of. Do it in advanced. And once extensions are put in your hair then they can last for months on end. And when you get up in the morning your hair is pretty much already done. You may have to do some minor styling and that is about it. You can click my blog here on how to do a quick weave and also view my video below.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#10 A Side Ponytail
So literally I think I have mentioned to putting a ponytail on just about every part of your head and now it is time for the side ponytail. Out of all of the ponytails, I think that I love the side ponytail the most. It is quick and easy to do and it can be versatile for curly, wavy, or even straight hair. And like all ponytails that I have mentioned make sure that it is sleek and you can add a side or a middle part for additional flair.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#11 A Wig.
There is nothing that is quicker than a wig when you do not have a lot of time to spend on your hair. The only thing you have to do is to just pop it on your hair and you are done. It legit takes less than 5 minutes. You can change the style, color, and even a cut in a matter of minutes. Click here to buy the wig in the picture.
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#12 Headwraps
The head wrap option is a bit different from the scarf option in the sense that the material is different and a head wrap normally covers your entire head. Whereas a scarf just covers some part of the head. In order for the head wrap to work, it needs to be made out of a certain material or it will slip off of your head. It cannot be made from satin or anything like that. I find that head wraps are VERY useful when I do not know what to do with my hair whatsoever, it needs to be washed, or I am in a rush. I just put on a headwrap and that is it. Click here to buy the head wrap on my head.
Check out the video below to get some ideas on how to wear a head wrap
Headwrap/Turban Tutorial - YouTube
Easy Everyday Hairstyles For Moms ~#13 Ninja Bun
Another really easy style that can really make you look sophisticated is the top knot. To do this style just pull your hair up into a high ponytail, twist the hair, and wrap it around itself. If you are like me and you need a little extra help, then get some kanekalon hair to use for your ninja bun. Check out the tutorial below.
Top Knot Ninja Bun With Braiding Hair - YouTube
And there you have it ladies, the most amazing hair tips for busy moms that pretty much anyone can do. If you know another busy mom that needs some quick hair styling tips then go ahead and share this post with her.
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In this post, I will be showing you the Konmari method before and after for category one. AKA the clothing category. The reason why I wanted to start this method is that I just felt like, or not felt but I did have WAYYYY too much stuff. My closet was overflowing and I also felt stressed when putting things away because I was running out of places to put them. Every time I would clean up I would feel like I have to reorganize the same areas time and time and TIME again because things got knocked over, things got back disorganized and went to being back messy. I will be honest. I can be a pretty messy person, I HATE organizing, and I can be pretty lazy. So if there was a way to do it once and that is it then I am all for it.
I think for many of us this is our everyday way of being. We just organize and reorganize over and over again every few months because that is what we do. But when I heard of the Konmari method where I would only have to do this once and that is it….as in forever. I told myself I was going to give it a try. And I mean really give it a try. A FULL all out method and not just some halfway attempt at her method even though it sounded like a lot of work. It is time-consuming but worth it, being surrounding by things that spark joy and having a fully organized home, and knowing where everything is, is 100% worth it.
Now for those who are not familiar with the Konmari method let me give you a brief rundown on what it is.
Who is Marie Kondo
Well, first she has a hit show on Netflix which is what sparked my interest in her in the first place. But she is an organizing queen. She boasts that when you use her method of tidying up that you will never have to tidy up again and no one that has taken her private class has ever returned back to being untidy. Meaning that she has a 100% success rate.
What is the Marie Kondo Method?
The goal of the Konmari Method is to have a house full of items that spark joy. Now how you do this is that you go by category by category which I will list down below and hold EACH piece of clothing in your hand and ask yourself “does this bring me joy?” If it does not then you thank the item for serving you well and throw it away. As you thank your items that you throw away for serving you well, Marie believes in reciprocity. That thanking the items will come back to you in other areas of your life. The Konmari Method is Marie Kondo’s minimalism-inspired approach to tackling your stuff category-by-category rather than room-by-room (so it is a change from how most of us organize). There are six basic rules to get started:
10 Amazing Tips from Tidying Up with Marie Kondo - YouTube
Commit yourself to tidying up.
Imagine your ideal lifestyle.
Finish discarding first. Before getting rid of items, sincerely thank each item for serving its purpose.
Tidy by category, not location.
Follow the right order.
Ask yourself if it sparks joy.
To determine what makes the cut, Kondo has you start by removing everything out of your closets and drawers (category one), all the books off your shelves (category two), all the paperwork out of your desk and bins (you get the idea). Once you have a big pile, you’re to go item-by-item and consider if it sparks joy. The intention of the KonMari method is to end up with a clutter-free home that is better able to bring more joy and prosperity to your life. While tidying, she encourages you to visualize the life you want to live — to be less stressed, for example — and what you need to get there. Anything that won’t help on that journey isn’t deserving of your space or you, she says (source).
So not only is this a transformative process with tidying your home but also your life. That being surrounded by positive in your home will yield positive results in your life. With that being said, I am going to have a series of post that shows my Konmari method before and after results. And this post is dedicated to category 1 or clothing. As an FYI the 5 categories that Marie Kondo suggest are:
Komono (a.k.a. Miscellaneous Items)
She also states that it is important to NOT go out of order even though it is tempting. And since I wanted to yield the results of a super tidy home and life I followed her method almost exact.
The Marie Kondo Method ~ Before You Get Started
Before you even started with this method you need to actually need to read her books which have sold over 6 million copies by the way. I watched a Netflix show on her method and decided to try to go about it myself without knowing the ENTIRE method and it was an utter mess. That is because the show does not fully talk about the process, psychological aspects of her method, and the proper way to go about her method. So please just read the book. I chose to listen to them on audible in my car. (Post contains affiliate links).
The first category is clothing and boy do I have a lot of them. I gave away clothes every few months but no matter what I did I still just had an overflow of clothes. Once I read the book I understood why that was. Often times we hang on to clothes because:
There is nothing wrong with them and since we feel they are in good condition and we can still wear them, we keep them.
We just bought them and even though we don’t like the fit or are not crazy about them, we still keep them.
They were handed down to us and we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings by throwing them away.
Because we may wear them at some point in our life (even though we have not worn them in forever) so we keep them just in case.
We transform clothes that we currently don’t wear into ”lounge around the house wear” when really we should just throw them away.
There were so many examples like this in the book that I know I am a victim of that cause me to hang on to clothes I should have probably given away. But the book will teach you to get all of these myths about clothes OUT of your head. Because often times we hang on to clothes just cause not because we are heads over heels in love with them. And we should only be hanging on to clothes we are head over heels in love with.
Marie Kondo Method ~ Pull out all your clothes.
Above is a picture of all of my clothes out on the bed in one spot. YOU MUST do this. And as stated in Marie’s book if there is an article of clothing that you leave out during this process, when you come in contact with it, later on, you have to get rid of it even if it sparks joy. She says this to keep you from doing a halfway job by just collecting some of your clothes and not all of them. All your clothes must be one spot. If you are like me and you have a lot of clothes you may not want to go through the process of gathering them, lifting them, knowing you will have to put them back. But when you have all of your clothes in one spot you realize how many you actually have and how much of it is not needed. Before I would just go through my closet and/or drawers and throw stuff away that I did not want. That is not good enough to put all of your stuff in one spot. Through this process, you will see.
How many clothes you actually have.
How many of the same styles of clothes you actually have.
How much stuff that was just lost in the back of the closet that you have not seen for an eternity.
You will also see how much of it you don’t need.
Marie Kondo Method ~ Do they spark joy?
Once you have all your clothes in one spot you literally just go by them one and one and ask yourself does it spark joy? If that is a hard question to ask yourself, imagine when you are wearing it and then ask yourself does it make you happy? Do you like wearing it, is it comfortable, does it make you happy when you put it on? If not, then get rid of it. There were clothes that I had just worn a week ago, had tags on them, or I felt I would never have gotten rid of but did because when I thought about it they really bring me joy. I just had them because they were in style or nothing was really wrong with them so why throw away good clothes. According to Marie Kondo hanging on to items for this reason just attracts guilt and that is the feeling that you will carry with you and in your home because that is the type of clothes you have in your closet. And your home should be a positive place to come back to you where you are only surrounded by things that you REALLY want.
Marie Kondo Method ~ Separate and Sort
At this point, you need to separate your clothing. Marie Kondo has her own method that is simpler such as tops and bottoms. But what I came up with was to categories skirts, shirts, dresses, pants, jeans, and coats. Sorting and storing these items together made things easier for me to find. Unlike popular belief, you do not want to just have all your clothing in the closet. I was doing this before and it was an epic fail, my closet being overstuffed and clothes getting easily knocked off. What you want to do is to fold most of your clothes using the Konmarie method.
Below is a video on how to fold your clothes in the Japanese way. And it is a genius. At first, it was hard, but then it got easier and easier the more I did it. Once you fold your clothing by category, place them in a container more so in a row so you can see what is in the container thus keeping you from rummaging through your clothes when you need to get something. Everything is in plain view so with a glance of the container you know what is in there already. Meaning that you do not have to lift clothes and shuffle them around (messing up your arrangement) to find something as with a traditional folding method.
Marie Kondo: Basic Folding Method - YouTube
You can click here to buy the drawers and here that I used for my clothes. But I also ended up using shoe boxes and whatever I had around the house such as plastic containers which works great too. I did not buy enough storage containers because I underestimated the amount of stuff I had. But according to Marie boxes and regular containers are best for storing. You can any box you have around the house it does not matter. And that is what I ended up doing.
Because I sorted clothes, it was very easy to store clothes by likeness (meaning pattern shirts with pattern shirts, and solid shirts with solid shirts) and now everything is super easy to find. If I wanted to wear a white shirt, I know which container to go to and the same for a black and white shirt. And since they are all visible, all I have to do is pluck a little rectangle from the container and go about my business. I know where everything is and I do not have to search for anything. But this type of folding method saves you a bunch of space.
Konmari method before and after ~ Konmari results
Here are the results of my clothing. Notice that my closet still has space and so that even if I were to get new clothes I have places to put them. Notice at the bottom of my closet are the containers. At first, they were on the top shelves but since I am short it was very hard to reach. With the Konmari method things must be efficient and me taking boxes from the top every day is a no go AND eventually it would cause my things to get messed up again so, I place them at the bottom of my closet so all I have to do is reach in and get what I want without having to move around a lot of things.
For my second closet, I put outwear and coats. And I arranged them from heavy coats to light coats. The entire point of this method is so that you have things you love BUT also so that things are easy to get to and go about your business. How many times have you been searching for articles of clothing and messed up your drawers or closet trying to find it? Now, I know if it is cold and I need a heavy jacket to go to the right side of my closet and for a light sweater to go to the left. It really is that simple.
Konmari method before and after ~ Shoes, underwear, handbags, and accessories.
Within the clothing, category are shoes, underwear handbags, accessories and (I included makeup because I have so much of it). If you do not have a lot of makeup then you can wait until the Komono process to do this.
Marie Kondo Method ~ Underwear and Accessories
First, you want to pull out all of your underwear and I have A LOT of them. IT WAS INSANE how much underwear I had. And I decided that not all brought me joy, particularly thongs. Every thong that I looked out just made me irritated because they are not comfortable to wear. That is all I thought about as I held them in my hands. And as a result, I got rid of every thong I had. I kept only the underwear that brought me joy and I did not care if they were sexy or not.
Now your sexy underwear may bring you joy so you may hang on to them but not for me. And that is the beauty of this process, keep what makes you happy and that can be different for each person. All of the underwear I had left, I folded each one in the suggested method and put the bras on display. Below is the Konmari results of my underwear drawer.
For my scarfs, tights, and socks, I decided to go with storage that had dividers in them (click here to buy). I just felt it would be easier to stay organized if each of the items had small dividers in them that would keep each item in place and keep them from going all over the place. Below are my results from that.
For my jewelry, I created a box a long time ago and the video is below. Once I got rid of all the jewelry that did not bring me joy, I just stored them in this box below.
I was so hyped to write this post and to tell you about this replica. Because this Hermes belt replica is hands down the best fake Hermes belt out there and I got it from Amazon. In case you have been living underneath a rock these Hermes belts have been all the rage and I have been seeing them in Instagram photos everywhere. And being the budget conscious fashionista I am, I knew I was not going to get an authentic one and so off to Amazon I went in order to find a really good knock off. In all honesty, when I ordered it I was not expecting it to be such good quality. But it was and it was a pleasant surprised.
Before we get into the Hermes belt replica I have to show you the original. Below is a picture of the original belt. Notice the style of it and the box. This is very important because the fake Hermes women’s belt that I received from Amazon has the same exact, style, look, and even the same box. The real Hermes belt cost $815 while the fake one only cost me ONLY $27. Now I will get into the full review so that you can determine if this is worth the buy. (post contains affiliate links).
When I first ordered the belt it did take a long time to get to because it came from overseas somewhere but when I did get it, I loved it. I knew it was not a real Hermes and I just expected the belt to come wrapped in plastic or something. BUT NO it came in an actual Hermes looking box. Now, remember the authentic box and belt from above? Compare that to the one below. Don’t they look similar? Needless to say, I was very impressed by the packaging and the quality of the belt.
The next thing that amazed me about this belt was the quality. So when I first saw the pictures on Amazon I was skeptical, you know nothing is as it seems on Amazon sometimes. It was possible that I could have gotten a cheap looking belt with a plastic buckle that was going to fall off as soon as I wore it. Not the case. The belt is very thick, steady, and good quality and so was the buckle. It is not flimsy at all nor does it look cheap. It is made from split leather.
Since I did not know what to expect from this belt I started off with just getting this black belt with a golden buckle. It seemed the most versatile and if the belt was an epic fail it would have been no harm no foul. But as you can see from the picture below there are SEVERAL fake Hermes belts to choose from.
They have a few colors of the actual belt and for each color, they have about 3 variations of “H”s that you can choose from. Upon having such wonderful luck with this belt I got some more of them in different colors and a different design. Below are some of the other belt colors that I ordered.
Blue & Silver (Click to buy) ~ I decided to get this color because I felt that it would look better with my jeans. I love the way the silver buckle matches the white stitching on the belt. They offer several “h” styles on this colored belt but I preferred the shiny H.
Brown and Gold (Click to buy) ~ I was torn between the brown and silver or the brown and gold, either way, both of these styles are amazing. A brown belt is a great color to have for casual or dressing up. In this style, I chose a wider matte H which is one of the cheaper styled belts.
White and Silver (click to buy)~ I just like the way the silver was paired on the white once again the belt is good for both a casual or work look. I chose the medium-sized H which is different from the others and it is somewhere between matte and shiny.
The pros of this belt are that it is a really good replica complete with a Hermes box and everything. The belt looks authentic and so does the packaging so if you do not want anyone to know that this is a fake, then they won’t. Also, a pro is that you will pay twenty to thirty-something dollars (depending on what style you choose) over $815 for the real thing.
The first con is that you may want to look carefully at the sizing. Although I picked the right size for my waist the holes on the belt started a couple of inches back which made for a much more snug fit then I would have liked. So perhaps order a size up. The second con is that it takes so long to actually get here, which I do not like waiting for my things. But both of these issues are fixable.
I will give this belt a 10 out of 10. It really looks just like a real Hermes and the packaging just adds on to the deception. PLUS I love the number of options that you can get. The colors and the different types of H’s. It really does make you want to go and buy many belts in many different colors. Because they are so affordable. If you are looking for a Hermes belt but do not have the Hermes money, then you must buy this belt. Click here to buy.
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Is your boyfriend pulling away? If so, then I want you to consider something. There are times when men pull away because there is something wrong with them and there are times when men pull away because there is something wrong with you. Yes, YOU WOMEN. Sorry to say that we as women are not perfect and there are things that we do that just gets under a man’s skin, drives men away, and make them not want to be in a relationship with us anymore.
I know what you may be thinking to yourself “how can some Biblical women from 1000’s of years ago have anything in common with me?” And to you, my answer is that. The Bible is not outdated and there is nothing new under the sun (Ecclesiastes 1:9). Which means that difficult women existed then just like they exist now, lying women existed then just like they exist now, and cheating women existed then just like they exist now. But I am not here to judge but to educate you on what drives men away, to keep you from repeating any of these mistakes, and to keep your boyfriend from losing interest in you.
Are you ready? Let’s get into it.
Is Your Boyfriend pulling away because you are disrespectful? – Case In Point Vashti
If you are not familiar with who Vashti is she was the queen before Queen Esther. Vashti has a short part in the Bible and pretty much all her part consisted of her disobeying the king and then the king divorcing her to find a new queen (in which case Esther came into play). I have a blog about Esther which you can read here.
This is not about Esther but it is about Vashti and the actions that she took that made her lose her man. The first thing was that the king aka Vashti’s husband had just had a great victory and was having a huge celebration. You can read the following Bible verses so that you understand the magnitude of this celebration and why what Vashti did was such a huge deal.
For a full 180 days, the king displayed the vast wealth of his kingdom and the splendor and glory of his majesty. When these days were over, the king gave a banquet, lasting seven days, in the enclosed garden of the king’s palace, for all the people from the least to the greatest who were in the citadel of Susa. Wine was served in goblets of gold, each one different from the other, and the royal wine was abundant, in keeping with the king’s liberality. By the king’s command each guest was allowed to drink with no restrictions, for the king instructed all the wine stewards to serve each man what he wished. Queen Vashti also gave a banquet for the women in the royal palace of King Xerxes. Esther 1: 1-9
The reason why I brought this up is that I needed you to understand the magnitude of this festival and what a big deal it was so that you can understand the magnitude of what Vashti did. At this point in the story, pretty much everyone in the kingdom is all happy, having a good time, getting drunk, and even queen Vashti is having a party of her own. Vashti’s husband was on cloud 9, throwing a party for everyone, and he even threw a party for his queen. AND THEN….
“On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. But when the attendants delivered the king’s command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger. Esther 1:10-11
After Vashti refused to come down, the king removed Vashti from being queen and went after another.
Then Memukan gave a reply to the king and the nobles. He said, “Queen Vashti has done what is wrong. But she didn’t do it only against you, King Xerxes. She did it also against all the nobles. And she did it against the people in all the territories you rule over. All the women will hear about what the queen has done. Then they won’t respect their husbands. They’ll say, ‘King Xerxes commanded Queen Vashti to be brought to him. But she wouldn’t come.” Esther 1:16-17
Let the royal order say that Vashti can never see you again. Also let her position as queen be given to someone who is better than she is. And let your order be announced all through your entire kingdom. Then all women will have respect for their husbands, from the least important to the most important. Esther 1:19-20
The mistakes that Vashti made that would make your boyfriend start to lose interest in the relationship
Vashti’s mistake was that she was being disrespectful and that she made a mountain out of a molehill. Imagine if your man just got a wonderful promotion and all he wanted to do was to celebrate with you. He asks you to come out with him and his friends to celebrate the big promotion and you just pretty much laughed in his face in front of your friends, told him no, and went out clubbing instead. Well, that is pretty much what Vashti did times 10. Because this festival was bigger than a promotion. She disregarded her husband just to hang out with her friends (at the party that her husband had thrown for her no less) while simply disregarding her husband’s accomplishments. Very selfish.
Maybe Vashti did not want to come because she felt that her husband was just trying to order her around and this was a passive aggressive way to get back at him. I don’t know. Even if that was the case, she should not have embarrassed her husband in front of all of the ENTIRE KINGDOM. If she was bothered by something her man did all she had to do was do what he asked and then spoke to him about it later IN PRIVATE. Not air their dirty laundry in front of everyone by not doing one very simple thing that her husband asked her to do.
Is Your Boyfriend pulling away because you are a cheater? ~ Case in point Bathsheba
The next woman that I want to talk about is Bathsheba. Bathsheba did eventually become one of David’s wives. BUT that was only after she entered into an adulterous affair with David and because of it, she got her husband killed!
Let’s start the story off on how David saw Bathsheba:
One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof, he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba.” Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. 2 Samuel 11:2-4
After David slept with Bathsheba she became pregnant. She knew the child was not her husband’s child because her husband was off at war. And so David sent for Bathsheba’s husband so that he could have sex with her and so that he can pass the baby off as her husband’s. When that did not work because the husband did not end up sleeping with his wife, Bathsheba when he came home to visit, David had her husband sent to the front lines of the war where he knew for a fact that he would be killed. (Read 2 Samuel 11)
The mistakes that Bathsheba made that pushed her husband away.
What you can learn from Bathsheba is to stop being so messy. Bathsheba cheated, then she tried to cover up her cheating by lying about it, then she tried to trick her husband into thinking she was pregnant by him when she was really pregnant by David, and when none of her messiness worked it David had her husband killed to cover up the affair. If you are a woman known for cheating, lying, and just being messy in your relationship then no wonder you’re pushing men away. No one wants to be with and/or marry a woman like that.
Is Your Boyfriend pulling away because you are a backstabber ~ Case in point Delilah
Most people know the story of Samson and Delilah. For whatever reason Samson fell in love with Delilah and the enemies of Samson ask Delilah to find out the secret to Samson’s strength is. They offered to pay her money in order to do this.
“See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels of silver.” Judges 16: 5
On three different occasions, Delilah asked Samson what was the source of his strength. And on all three occasions, Samson lied to Delilah. And on all three occasions, Delilah tried to act out what Samson’s weakness was.
So Delilah said to Samson, “Tell me the secret of your great strength and how you can be tied up and subdued.” Samson answered her, “If anyone ties me with seven fresh bowstrings that have not been dried, I’ll become as weak as any other man.” Then the rulers of the Philistines brought her seven fresh bowstrings that had not been dried, and she tied him with them. With men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the bowstrings as easily as a piece of string snaps when it comes close to a flame. So the secret of his strength was not discovered. Judges 16: 6-9
Then Delilah said to Samson, “You have made a fool of me; you lied to me. Come now, tell me how you can be tied.” He said, “If anyone ties me securely with new ropes that have never been used, I’ll become as weak as any other man.” So Delilah took new ropes and tied him with them. Then, with men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the ropes off his arms as if they were threads. Judges 16: 10-12
Delilah then said to Samson, “All this time you have been making a fool of me and lying to me. Tell me how you can be tied.” He replied, “If you weave the seven braids of my head into the fabric on the loom and tighten it with the pin, I’ll become as weak as any other man.” So while he was sleeping, Delilah took the seven braids of his head, wove them into the fabric and tightened it with the pin. Again she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” He awoke from his sleep and pulled up the pin and the loom, with the fabric. Judges 16:13-15
So after three failed attempts Samson finally told Delilah the truth about his strength. Why I DON’T KNOW. Didn’t he see that she tried to trick him all three times? Either way, Samson told Delilah that the key to his strength was his hair and if she cut it off he would be as weak as any man.
So he told her everything. “No razor has ever been used on my head,” he said, “because I have been a Nazirite dedicated to God from my mother’s womb. If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as any other man.” Judges 16:7
This last betrayal leads to the imprisonment and death and Samson.
The mistakes that Bathsheba made that pushes men away.
I think it goes without saying that Bathsheba was a backstabber and was a woman that could not be trusted. I would hope that you women out there would not go through the lengths that Delilah went through to backstab her man, but some women display some very similar characteristics.
If a man cannot trust you, you are always lying, or it always feels like you are against him instead of being for him then that is a quick way to lose your man. A relationship is supposed to be a mutual exchange of love and respect not being with someone who is always lying to you, argumentative, who is always against you or stabbing you in the back.
Do you talk about your man behind his back? Do you flirt with other men or even his friends when he is not there? Is everything that comes out of your mouth and a lie and your man has trouble trusting you? If that is the case, then you are doing some of the same behaviors as Delilah and therefore pushing men away.
These are 3 women of the Bible that are known for doing this crazy behavior that will push men away from the relationship. Learn from them and do not repeat their mistakes. Also, if you know a woman that acts like this and can benefit from reading this information then share this post with her.
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In this post, I am going to present to you some really affordable yet good quality high waisted wide leg pants. In fact, they come in a pack of 4 for only $45. These pants are by someone name Isaac Liev. I know this is not some huge designer but based on the items that I bought from this brand so far I can say that I am in love.
The items are super affordable, good quality, and versatile. In fact, I did a review on the Isaac Liev skirts (that you can click here and read) that I felt should be a part of your capsule wardrobe. I like these pants for some of the same reasons I loved those skirts. I feel that if you want to create a timeless capsule wardrobe then you should add these pants to them as well.
I chose these pants after I bought the skirts. I had such great luck with the skirts that I thought I would have great luck with the pants too and I was right. These pants come in a package of 4 for $45 and that is about $11 per pants. So you cannot beat that.
If you are a reader of my blog then you know that I am always on the hunt for a bargain. From thrift store shopping to shopping at Payless I make it my mission to look good on a budget. Which is why these pants were a perfect fit. These were cheap and I looked nice in them. It was pretty much a win-win.
You can view the other colors that these pants come in but I decided to go with the blue, red, pink, and the black pack because it just goes more with my personal style and I felt that these colors were more of “staple colors.” Meaning that I could find more tops to go with these pants colors than the other pack that was sold.
Another main reason that I went for these pants is that I am going through this simplicity phase. I want to simplify my fashion and get more clothing items that can be used for more than one purpose. These pants are solid colors that are super versatile. All you have to do is just change up the shirt that you wear with these pants and get an entirely different look.
My first impression of the pants was a positive one. Considering the price I was overly impressed by the quality. I have worn these pants to work, washed them, and they are still standing. There are affordable but they are not just going to fall apart either.
The pants are made from 95% Rayon and 5% Spandex. The feel of the pants is also very soft and the look of them is quite flowy. When I tried on the pants what I liked about them is that they are high waisted and due to this it can make your tummy area look a lot smaller and hide some imperfections around your hips. But the material is also kind of thin. There were a few times that I tucked in my shirt and you could see lumps and bumps about my midsection due to the tucked shirt. So that was a problem. Also, because they are so thin if you choose to wear them in winter then you may want to wear some stockings or tights under the pants (click here to see the tights that I wore). And last, be wary of your panty line. The thinness of the material can show through with the wrong underwear. The last thing you want is for people to be looking at your animal print underwear through these thin pants.
These pants are pretty versatile. They can be used for workout pants, yoga pants, and as you can see work pants. I got tons of compliments on my outfits and no one thought that they were too casual. Since they are stretch pants they are just really comfortable to wear throughout the day.
I only wore these to work but I am sure that if you styled them right you can dress them up and wear them on dinner, a date, or somewhere that is dressier. It is all in the shoes, the shirt, and how you can accessorize with them. But to me, that is the plus of these pants. These are great for the minimalist who want pants and want to get multiple uses out of them.
I would actually give these a 10 out of 10. They are not perfect but there are several things that come into play when I made my rating decision and they are as follows:
Bang for your buck
They are versatile an can be dressed up or dressed down.
The quality of the pants (given the price)
How fashionable they are
For all of these reasons, these pants get a 10 in my book. Of course, they are not some fancy name brand clothing items and are probably not the best quality if you were to buy Coach or something. But I have worn my pants several times and I have not had an issue. The directions on the pants do say hand washed. I put mine in the washing machine and once again I have not had an issue. These pants range from small to like 3x and I feel like no matter what your body type is you can make these pants look good. Which is why I feel they are perfect for even a capsule wardrobe. They are basic in color and can be mixed and match with varies shirts and tops and each will give your outfit a different look.
Other clothing items that I used to spice up these pants are:
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This first tip came from day 8 of my daily devotional for single mothers and it is called you are complete in your own. The following tip is an excerpt from my book:
As a single mother, I think the most natural thing that so many women want to do is to hurry back into a relationship or hurry up and get a man. They miss being married, coming home to someone, or having that father figure for their children. So they rush into their next relationship or going out every night to find a man, thinking that is the key to being happy. This behavior is a sign of the emptiness that you have in yourself and in your heart. And the only thing it is going to make you do is jump in a relationship with someone else who is probably not right for you, causing you even more emptiness. In order to be happy as a single, you have to realize that you are enough. You should already feel happy on your own and just realize that the person you end up with will add on to your own happiness, not define it.
How you present yourself to the world is the way in which other people perceive you. Click To Tweet
If you come across like a desperate or self-conscious woman, that is what other people will think about you. If you come across like a confident woman and a child of God, that is how people will treat you.
Let me tell you the story of the prodigal son.
“There was a man who had two sons. So he divided his property between them. The younger son set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine, and he began to be in need. He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.” Luke 15: 11-16
“When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death!’” Luke 15:17
In the story, the son finally came to his senses. He remembered who he was. He remembered that he did not have to starve, eating and picking up behind pigs. He remembered his position, and he remembered that he could go back home to a place in which he did not have to suffer like he was. He remembered that he did not have to depend on other people for food or allow other people to treat him badly. And so he decided to go back to his RICH father, and his father welcomed him with open arms.
In case you are not getting it, the prodigal son is you. Many women go out into the world searching for love in all the wrong places, looking for things to make them feel fulfilled, and allowing men to treat them badly and walk all over them. Really, all you had to do is come home to the Father to feel fulfilled. You do not need anyone else to do that for you.
How many of us daughters of the King have gone and wasted all of our wealth and are out here living like peasants, forgetting that we are princesses? Click To Tweet
Forgetting that we have a wealthy father at home who can save us AND welcome us with open arms no matter what we have done? It is time that you start behaving like a daughter of the MOST high God. Never think that a man or any other person should define you. You are complete on your own and the daughter of a king. Never forget that.
Christian single mom dating Tip #2 You Can Still Have Your King.
This second tip came from day 23 of my daily devotional for single mothers and it is called You Can Still Have Your King. The following tip is an excerpt from my book:
You may be a widow, a divorced mom, or a single mom who has never been married. No matter what your situation is, you can still have your king. God never said that because you are a widow, because you have never been married before, or because you are divorced you can never be married to a good man ever again. To prove my point, I want us to take the case of Ruth. I encourage you to read the entire Book of Ruth if you are not familiar with it.
Ruth was a Moabite and a widow. So was her mother in-law, Naomi. Here were these two widows, Ruth never having a child and Naomi having two boys (both dead), both feeling like their lives were over. To make a long story short, Ruth did find her Boaz. In her older age, she found a man that was good for her and she had children.
Did the fact that Ruth found Boaz mean that she did not love her deceased husband? No, it did not.
Did the fact that Ruth was once a married woman diminish her worth in the eyes of Boaz? No, it did not.
Never think that your situation as a single mom is not fixable and that you cannot have a happy ending. You can. I also encourage you to check out my blog on how to recognize your Boaz by clicking here.
Christian single mom dating Tip #3 Relationship Advice from Queen Esther.
This third tip came from day 23 of my daily devotional for single mothers and it is Relationship Advice from Queen Esther. I also encourage you to check out my other blog think like a queen to get your king for more relationship advice from queen Esther. The following tip is an excerpt from my book:
One of my favorite books of the Bible is Esther. She is literally an orphan who becomes a queen. So if you are a single mom and you think that you being a single mom is going to keep you from a good man, then you are wrong. When you read the Book of Esther, you can clearly see that God had a plan for her. God can work His magic in any way possible to ensure that you end up with the man that He wants you to end up with, as well as the life He wants you to end up with. Esther went from being an orphan to being a queen. Consider these things when it comes to Esther:
“Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head.” Esther 2:17
I know often times, as a single mom, you may want to get married and you may even wonder if it is going to happen. Do not get into the habit of chasing men or doing something desperate for the attention of a man. If you desire to get married, there is a man out there for you. You will not have to worry about a man not wanting you, not being seen, or being judged by your past. You will not have to worry about trying to do tricks or playing games to catch the man you want, he will just want you for you.
Remember, in the Book of Esther, when she was afraid to tell the king that she was Jewish? And when she finally did, that it really did not make one bit of a difference? It did not make the king love her less and it did not make him want to banish her as queen. A real man who loves you and is destined to be with you is not going to judge you because you are a single mom. If anything, he will embrace you AND your children, because your children came from you.
It is sad to say that so many single mothers, in the effort to get married or to end their relationship status, jump into wrong relationships. But because they want to feel loved or wanted, they take attention from anyone. I also need you to believe that the time will come when the time.
Case in point: Preparation is Required
“Before a young woman’s turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics.” Esther 2:12
Before Esther became queen, she did not just walk in there and automatically become queen. It took a lot of training and it took a lot of preparation. She knew that she had to wait 12 months before going before the king. So there was no use after month one going before the king, knowing that she was not ready and knowing that she did not finish the right preparation for the king. So, instead of focusing on the relationship and focusing on the king, focus on the preparation. Do what you need to do to be fit for a king.
These are the top 3 Christian single mom dating tips that I have for single moms. Coming directly from my single mom’s devotional (click here to buy). If you know another single mom that can benefit from these tips then feel free to share it with her.
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