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The Hardest Part is Starting

Fall is my favorite time of the year. My thoughts turn to back to school, pumpkin pie, Halloween, hot cocoa, hot apple cider, pumpkin spice lattes, gorgeous landscapes, cooler nights, comfy blankets, football, and yummy homemade hot soups. Fall has always been a time for education and training for me, too. I think about the rest of the year for my biz and start to think about some ideas for the next year. I get a huge burst of energy in the Fall. How about you?

During the past eleven years of coaching business owners, I have found that the hardest part of any task, project, or goal is just starting.

Most of the procrastination that people experience centers around getting started. Once you start, you create momentum. Momentum leads to completion, success, and accomplishment.

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Most of the procrastination that people experience centers around getting started. Once you start, you create momentum. Momentum leads to completion, success, and accomplishment.

One way to get started is by getting a nudge forward by someone else. You could enlist an accountability partner or coach to give that beginning boost forward.

Here is what could happen.
First, consider what you think you could accomplish in two solid days of working your biz?

How about a sales page, a thank you page, leadpages, instant teleseminar, facebook pixels, google analytics, a custom script for your free strategy session, an application for your free strategy session, jot forms, fixing copy on four opt-in pages, fixing four opt-in forms, setting up an amazon associates affiliate account, fixing WordPress pages, setting up an e-course resources page, nailing down priorities, practicing mindset activities, practicing energy exercises, and more? This is what I did with one of my VIP clients.

She flew into Denver and we worked together in an executive suite at the Marriott for 16 hours over a Saturday and Sunday and accomplished all of the above and more. Plus we included lots of fun, going into the mountains for some site seeing and dinners. She even came to my son’s Friday night high school football game.

When she was leaving, she said that she was six months ahead in her business and so much more confident in her systems, processes, and priorities. I had a blast too. I love when I am doing my “jam”.  The time flew as we were fully immersed in her biz. I love being in the flow and creating. I love working with people who love helping other people.

She was ready for a huge transformation in her biz and our weekend together was exactly what she needed.

Have you thought about your own transformation?

What would it take for you to feel six months ahead in what you are currently working on?

What would feel like a huge relief?

Make a list of everything that is top of mind. Then consider what it would feel like if you got most of it done.

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Make a list of everything that is top of mind. Then consider what it would feel like if you got most of it done.

If you would like to talk to me about a VIP day or days, I would love to discuss it, reach out to me through my contact page. To give you an idea on pricing, an 8 hour VIP day is $2500.

Whether you book a VIP day or not, make a list of your highest priority items and get started on them.

Starting is the most important. Many ideas remain just that- ideas. Starting is the hardest part. Once you start, it is easier to keep the momentum going.

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Starting is the most important. Many ideas remain just that- ideas. (ad) Starting is the hardest part. Once you start, it is easier to keep the momentum going.

If you liked this, you will love my Free Report: Book More Clients, Help More People

In Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

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Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

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Turn Your Creativity Into a Profitable Biz

Have you ever met someone with a smile that knocks you off your feet? Shannon Barnard is one of those people with a brilliant smile and a big heart. Shannon is the owner of K9Bytes, a company that sells hand sewn dog and cat collars and leashes, natural treats, and toys online. Shannon’s love for animals comes through in her designs. She has been an entrepreneur for 30 years.

I sat down with her a few weeks ago and interviewed her for my Living Joyfully Podcast. She shares her joy in running her business, how she overcomes obstacles, turned her creativity into a business, and more.

Listen to the interview here. 

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Shannon Barnard is the Founder and Creative Designer of K9 Bytes.

She lives in Eugene, Oregon with her husband and English Cocker Spaniel, Rogue.

It brings her great delight to help pet parents celebrate the joy of their pets with handmade dog and cat collars, leashes, treats, and toys.

Her love and passion for pets are apparent in each item that she creates. You can find her wonderful products here http://k9bytesgifts.com/

If you liked this, you will love my Free Report: Book More Clients, Help More People

In Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

Sheri Kaye Hoff sherikayehoff.com

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

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Brilliant author, speaker, networking expert, and coach Vivienne Smith sat down with me (virtually that is) to talk about how she got started in her business. You can listen in on the podcast. She shares how she got started and her wisdom on overcoming inevitable obstacles when you are pursuing more than one passion.

Vivienne Smith is a writer, trainer, presenter, transformational coach, and certified NLP and hypnosis practitioner. Her experiences as a single mum (and conversations with other single mothers) prompted Vivienne to write a book about the subject. Vivienne has turned her journey into an opportunity to help others get through similar challenges. Through her books, coaching, online courses, free seminars and blogs, Vivienne provides support for single mums everywhere. Parenting Support thesinglemumssurvivalguide.com “I work with single mums who are struggling to come to terms with the break-up and deal with the daily challenges of going it alone. I help them release the sadness and bitterness and regain their confidence and composure so they can minimize conflict in co-parenting, enjoy their children and take the first steps to build a happy new life. Here’s to: not just surviving, but thriving!”

Listen to the podcast here


If you liked this, you will love my Free Report: Book More Clients, Help More People

In Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

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Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

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How to be a happier, more joy-filled biz owner and truly live your life while growing your biz.

Stress is a fact of life. Even the great things in life often bring stress.  If the great things like marriage, buying a new house and getting a new job cause stress, what about the constant stress and worry that biz owners experience as they grow a sustainable business? Though some stress is normal, ongoing stress is not healthy.

When I had my health crisis three years ago and I stopped breathing for 6 minutes, then woke up in ICU, I vowed that I would enjoy life, love life, and not sweat the small stuff and not even sweat the big stuff.

I wanted to make the most of my time here on this planet. I felt that I was like that before I got sick, but my sudden illness just amped up my commitment to more joy, more love, more courage, more kindness.

No one says when they are faced with a life and death situation, “I wish I would have spent more time stressed out and worried.”

Here are just a few scenarios that invoke stress for small biz owners.
  • Your biz loan is due and you haven’t collected your account receivables at the rate you thought you would.
  • You are growing fast, and your expenses are increasing faster than you anticipated.
  • You are doing too much, but when is it time to hire additional help?
  • Your industry changes and what worked before isn’t working anymore.
  • You didn’t get the contract you thought you would.
  • You are not getting enough clients or sales.
  • You are struggling to keep up with technology and regulation changes.
  • Your hours are long and when you are not working, you still think about work.

I could go on, but you get the point. You might even recognize your situation in the above list. The first key to beating stress is to stop mentally fighting and resisting. Accept what is happening right now. Acknowledge your fear. If you keep pushing it down, rather than process it, your fear will keep coming up for you. It might be helpful, to say, “This is plain, old-fashioned fear and worry.”

Then, choose your thought. No matter what your present moment is, you can choose your thoughts

When you come face to face with worry and find yourself losing sleep, you can choose to reframe your thoughts around what is going on.

Chances are you have been playing through worst case scenarios in your mind.  Some time spent on worst case scenarios is productive from a risk management perspective, but spiraling downward with negative thoughts and getting consumed with all the ways your business will not work out, creates even more stress.  Rather than being over-focused on the problem, start focusing on solutions.

You can reframe your thoughts by asking these questions:
  • What would I rather be thinking about? For example, rather than thinking about how cash flow is not coming in the way you want it, focus instead on all possible ways cash flow could come into your business.
  • What would feel better? An example of feeling better, might involve taking a walk, going for a bike ride, golfing, and/or taking in a movie or something else. Changing your environment even for a few minutes or hours can give you a new perspective, and help you unlock ideas.
  • How can I look at this differently? If previous methods for signing clients and sales stopped working; you can shift to considering new methods.  Do some research in your industry. Are others experiencing something similar? What are they doing about it?
  • What if I could see this as an exciting challenge? Running a business can feel like an emotional roller coaster, but what if you enjoyed the ride? Being an entrepreneur is full of change, surprises, detours, and winding paths at times. This is part of the draw. You are not in a salaried manager scenario anymore. You chose entrepreneurship to take control of your destiny and to experience more in life. If the passion has waned, you probably had it at one time. Can you jump start that passion again?
  • What if I could see this as a game or a puzzle? Our brains love puzzles. In fact, once you pose a puzzle or a question to your brain, it wants to keep working on it, even when you are not actively concentrating on it.

Confidence breeds confidence. Boost your confidence by reflecting on how you have overcome challenges in the past. You have done it already, so you can do it again. 

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Be decisive.

When you are unsure, you are not sending a loud and clear message to the Universe. Make up your mind, and say, “I am doing it. It is happening.”

One day, my husband and I were going to look at cars. My car was a total loss and I needed a new one. I prequalified over the phone earlier in the day. The interest rate was ok, not great, but ok. As we were driving my husband said, “If we don’t get the interest rate or find a car you love, we are not getting a car today.” Though this made practical sense, I was having none of that. I was prepared, I had been looking for two weeks, had four cars that I planned to test drive. I had a favorite car, but I felt open to trying the others. I said, “We are getting a car today. We are getting a great interest rate, a car I love, and we will be in and out of the dealership in under two hours.” I staked a claim for what I wanted. I was decisive. And that is exactly what happened. We even got a much better interest rate when we applied in person.  I didn’t go in to the experience all wishy-washy. I decided what I wanted and how I wanted it to happen.

Being decisive is how we unlock our power of being deliberate creators.

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Here are some ways you can be more decisive:
  • Decide on a time limit for worry or stress. If you find yourself feeling bad, set a timer. When the timer goes off, you shift to something else.
  • Make up your mind that a solution or alternative is out there or even better, within you.
  • Decide to practice excellent self-care no matter what.
  • Decide to try out solutions. Do something.
  • Decide to ask for help or advice.
  • Choose happiness. Happiness isn’t dependent on outward circumstances.

You didn’t become a biz owner to be cranky and under constant stress. Reframing your thoughts and actions will help you decrease stress and help you become a more happy, joyful biz owner so you can live your life the way you want to.

If you liked this, you will love my free 50-minute Get Your Results Free Coaching Session. Apply here.

n Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

Sheri Kaye Hoff sherikayehoff.com

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

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5 Simple Ways to Create a Happy, Joy-filled, and Profitable Biz

It was a cold, but sunny day in December of 2007 when I first clicked the publish button on the website for my new coaching business. My business model at that time was coaching for an hourly or monthly rate to individual clients with a few keynotes and corporate team building sprinkled in. Soon, I was burned out and frustrated with the amount of time I spent trying to grow my business and I wasn’t making much money. My business model couldn’t support the revenue goals that I wanted. I felt lost.

When you own a business, there are multiple moving parts. The opportunities and options often seem to have an endless variety of combinations. It can quickly get frustrating and overwhelming.  Did you know it can be simple?

Finding my sweet spot was an 11-year process, and it is still ongoing. I learned that simple is always the best. I often ask, “How can I make this simpler, easier and more fun?” I never want to stop learning and growing.

I loved my clients and I loved running my own company, but I had to figure out a different way. Over the years, my business model has evolved to include workshops, ecourses, live events, group coaching, masterminds, one on one coaching, books, and more. At times, my model was too big and too complex.

“How can I make this simpler, easier and more fun?”

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Though technology may change, and ideas come and go, there are 5 simple, key elements of a successful, happy, and joyful business that stay the same.

These 5 key areas are:
  • You
  • Your Optimal Result
  • Your Optimal Client
  • Your Strategy,
  • And the Magic Sauce
The biggest impact on your success in business starts with YOU.

Though it is tempting to forgo sleep and self-care to get one more thing done in your biz, it is a quick way to failing. You only have one you. You are the one that drives everything in your business. You are its most prized asset.

Practice high energy habits. Get up early, journal, exercise, use structure, and practice self-care. Your energy is attracting your results.

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Create success habits to boost your personal energy. Practice high energy habits. Get up early, journal, exercise, use structure, and practice self-care. Your energy is attracting your results.

Negative thoughts and energy pull constantly. Build a powerful mindset by focusing on your why, your reason for being in business.

Control your environment. Environment wins over will-power so create an inspiring environment by surrounding yourself with inspiring books and people. Create a “no-fail” environment. Get rid of clutter. Create open space.

The first main key was all about you, this next key area is all about your clients and customers. Your Optimal Result

Be clear about your Optimal Result. This is your promise. This is the problem you solve for people. Make it specific. An example optimal result is: I work with business owners who struggle with making a difference and making a profit. I help them with a clear plan for profits, so they can relax into making money in their businesses.

Your optimal result should answer these questions:  Who do you help? What do you deliver? What difference does it make?

Your optimal result should be simply explained. Avoid jargon or being overly wordy.

Your Optimal Client

After you know what you will be delivering and have an idea of who you help, you can dive deeper into your optimal client profile. You could also call this your ideal client or your client avatar.  You can base this on a real person or persons or a combination of traits. Think about ordering your optimal client from a catalog, but you get to create the description. You can have demographics like age groups, but you can also add behavior characteristics. For example, “my optimal client is kind, loyal, generous to other people, open to new ideas, enjoys learning”, etc. Each time you have an experience that you don’t like, you can turn it around and write down the opposite. For instance, if you have a wishy-washy client, you could write the opposite: My optimal client is on-time for each appointment, etc. The more detail you write, the more likely you will attract your exactly right people. Consider this a living document. It will change as you and your business change.  Who would you love to work with?  What would be fun?

When you are clear about your optimal client, you can write your marketing messages directly to this person.

Your Strategy

The fourth idea is your strategy. You can develop a strategy when you understand yourself, your business promise and your optimal client. Your strategy will involve creating plans, setting goals, and implementing action steps.

Your Skills

You started your business with a skill set, however, you may need to develop some skills, learn new skills, and/or hire people with skills.

Your Intuition will help you with your strategy.

Pay attention to intuitive hits and synchronistic moments. My best ideas come to me in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning. You can develop your intuition by asking questions. What is my next step? How can I make XYZ work out? Where can I find the people I need? And so on. You will still conduct research, but intuition is valuable.

One sheet plan

As part of your strategy, create a one-sheet plan that includes your personal goals and your business goal in a big picture way for the year. For example, when I say, I am taking 6 vacations. I don’t have to have each vacation described in detail on this one sheet. You might include a biz revenue goal or signature program goal. Make your plan fun. Build fun into your life.

Long term plan.

For fun, you could create a 50 or 100-year plan. What if we all lived to 150 or more? What would you want to do? This helps you think about your legacy.

When you have created plans, you can reverse engineer them to determine daily and monthly action steps.

Investing for growth is part of biz strategy, too.

Are you investing in training, advertising, infrastructure, product development, etc? Don’t be stingy with your business. You do need to manage expenses, but don’t stunt the growth of your biz because you are not investing wisely.

Marketing strategy is one of the most important pieces and often is an area where biz owners do not feel confident.

Start with your free opt-in. You might have a free report, a webinar, and/or an ebook. Send optimal client prospects to your entry points (free opt-in). Be sure to have CTA’s (call to action) in all your free gifts.  Market where your optimal client is hanging out. Watch your stats when you advertise. Adjust accordingly. Try things out. You learn by doing. Yes, do research and learn, but ultimately, you need to jump in.

One of the simplest ways to market for coaches or service professionals is to offer one webinar or video with a call to action that leads to a consultation. Then a consultation to a signature program that could be one on one, a group, or a hybrid.  It is easier to sell a larger package than to sell a lot of lower-priced items, and your client gets better results, too. The key to success is to perfect each element of this method. You also need to bring enough traffic to the webinar or video.

If you own a retail biz, you might offer a coupon, an event, a tip sheet, etc. Then, be sure to offer packages, not just onesie products, discounts on shipping when you buy more, loyal customer bonuses, subscription boxes.

The Magic Sauce

When you think you are done with anything, do this. By this, I mean the magic sauce I mentioned earlier. When you finish something like a video, a blog post, a course, an email, a sales letter, and you think you are done, go back and make it even better. Add something or take something away. Give it a little more pizzazz. This bit of “extra” makes you stand out.

This article include many ideas, take one idea and implement it right away. That one idea might be a daily journaling habit, or that one idea might be getting clear about your optimal client, etc. Just start.

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There are no strings attached to this free consultation. It is completely free. At the end, of your appointment, if it is a fit, I will let you know about my signature Get Your Results one on one coaching package. No, it is not $20, 000, it Is not even $10, 000. You can get this fully customized high-value program for less than $4000.

This consultation is for you if you just started or own a business and are wanting to take immediate action to grow our biz the way you want to. It is not for you if you are unsure about starting a business or if you are not looking for immediate growth in your biz,

Book your consultation here.

In Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

Sheri Kaye Hoff sherikayehoff.com

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

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Unlock Your Goals with Successful Planning

I walked out the door with my box of stuff from my desk. The sun was shining. I felt full of possibilities and scared to death at the same time. After giving a one month notice, I had just worked my last day at my job. I said goodbye to a job I loved to say hello to my new company that I was starting and my determination to write my first book.

I soon found myself floundering around. I knew I wanted to write a book and I knew I wanted to successfully launch my coaching and training company. I felt like I was all over the place with my thoughts.

Then, I remembered the importance of planning. I was on my own, trying to grow a company. I was free to do my own thing. I could do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I had never needed planning skills so much in my life.

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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However, I resisted it. Then, I realized a couple things.

I was resisting planning because I feared that maybe my plans would not work out. I also resisted planning because on a deeper level, I was worried that planning would cut into my freedom.

What if I were incredibly successful?

That sounds like everyone’s dream, but it is actually very common for people to be more worried about what will change with success than what will happen without it.

I went back to my organizational management roots and sat down for some good old-fashioned planning. As soon as I wrote down my plans, I instantly relaxed. I had a map. Of course, it changed many times over the years, but this map kept me moving forward with focus and fun.

Fun is a big part of my daily routine. I find a way to add fun into everything I do. I make my planning sessions fun by blasting music. Some days it is 80’s rock bands and other days, the music could be something classical from Mozart, Beethoven, Bach, or others. I might even go with Neil Diamond. Johnny Cash or Bob Dylan, depending on my mood.

Visual cues are motivating, too. I make vision boards, and encourage my clients to make them, too. I also like to use private Pinterest Boards. When I notice an image that represents one of my goals, I will tear it out of a magazine, print it, or save it to a file or board.

Mind mapping also helps. I prefer big paper and markers even though there are great mind mapping apps out there.

Taking time to plan and create your own map for success, is a major key to unlocking your goals.

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It is hard to believe that this beginning of my company was eleven years ago. Over the years, I created six books, dozens of masterminds and group coaching programs, workshops, keynotes, a podcast, hundreds of interviews, hundreds of clients, thousands of customers, vacations, friendships, and more.  Fast forward to today, and I am loving the work that I do with my clients.

All of these goal achievements were possible because I planned the action that I would take.

In my eleven years of working with clients, I see this pattern of resisting planning every day. Just about everyone knows the importance of planning, but few actually do it on their own. Most people need encouragement and help with focus. Even then, there are blocks and resistance to creating a plan.

Because the resistance is often rooted in subconscious thoughts, a person will think they are just procrastinating or even unmotivated.

I created a tapping exercise to help shift the resistance and blocks you may have to planning.

You can listen to this podcast episode here

Once you are ready to sit down and do some planning, here are some helpful steps:

Create a big picture and vision of where you want to go and what you want to do. Include personal as well as professional goals. A mind map is helpful.

A vision board captures emotion and excitement:

Then, create an annual plan, a 90-day plan, and a 30-day plan.

An annual plan gives you a 12-month window and it is helpful for planning marketing efforts so you do not have overlap. An annual plan will also help you with goals that require 12 months.

A 90-day plan is overall, the most effective way to plan. You can achieve something significant in 90 days, yet it is short enough so you can see the end in sight.

A 30-day plan is great for creating momentum. And most people can stick to something for 30 days.

You may find yourself using all of these and you may even want to do a five or ten-year plan or longer if you like to think long term. Some aspects of your life like retirement planning or strategic planning for biz require this kind of planning. You also would look at long-term planning for saving for college or buying a home.

How do you then, create the plan?

Once you have goals and ideas,  you can create your plans by using a simple outline, an excel spreadsheet, or even a handwritten plan works.

Often, the most effective plans fit on one page. It forces you to get focused on what you really want. Of course,  a one-page plan will not be a detailed plan, but more of a guide.

You can use apps for planning. A few favorites are Google Keep, Evernote, Trello, Speed Dial the Universe (for a law of attraction approach to daily planning), and Mindomo (for mind mapping).

If you struggle with coming up with goals, one of the best books for goals and planning that aligns with your values is Stephen Covey’s book (ad)  7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It was a life-changer and is a timeless classic.  If you like planners for handwriting your goals and schedule, (ad) Franklin Covey is one of the best. Daytimer is also a classic.

If you prefer planning software, Anytime Organizer Deluxe is highly ranked.

I would love to hear about the tools you use and your experiences with planning.

If you liked this article, you will love my upcoming Master Your Biz Mindset Workshop

n Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

Sheri Kaye Hoff sherikayehoff.com

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

*Tapping is general advice and not medical or psychological advice.

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That happy, joyful feeling when your heart soars and you find yourself smiling is one of the best feelings on Earth.   Most of us would love more happiness in everyday life. When we are happy, life seems to flow and it is easy to take inspired action.  You can even create happiness habits that lead to more sustained joy, but it is also important to recognize joy stealers. You may find yourself caught up in a situation where your happiness buzz gets severely subdued.

“Happiness is a warm puppy.”― Charles M. Schulz

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Be aware of these six joy stealers. When you learn to recognize these, you can navigate around them and avoid the low energy feelings that accompany them.

Here they are:

Joy Stealer #1: People who have the one solution to all of your problems- they are right, everyone else is wrong. This occurs everywhere. I see it often in people who are trying to sell their solutions. Their one model is the perfect model for success and you are “doomed” if you do not follow their perfect model.

The Truth: There are multiple paths and solutions to the success you are looking for. You can use more than one model. You can think about your decision. You can weigh pros and cons. Learn from others, but evaluate.

Joy Stealer #2: Fearmongering.  Unreasonable scare tactics that are often accompanied by horrible pictures used to manipulate you by fear. These pictures are often sad, depressing, and even revolting. They are used to initiate an emotional fear response that you are not safe. One of the basic human needs is safety. When we feel unsafe, it is extremely uncomfortable and most people do everything they can to avoid the pain of feeling unsafe.

The Truth:  Fear serves its purpose when it makes us run from true danger. However, scare tactics that make us feel that some disaster is coming are most likely not true.  You can ask, is this really true? Am I in danger? Often the fear you feel is worse than any actual possible outcome.  Be self-aware. Recognize when you are acting from a place of fear or a place of love.

Joy Stealer #3: Procrastination. Delaying action that you know you want to take and that you know will make a positive difference creates pain. Procrastination creates heaviness, guilt, and self-blame. Procrastination prevents those dreams from coming true.

The Truth: Recognize procrastination. We are great at creating all kinds of “reasons why” we have not taken action, but maybe it is just plain old-fashioned procrastination. Taking even one small action will lead to more action and then momentum. If you have a long list of things you have not done, start with one item and you can even break down that one item into smaller parts. Consider that procrastination sometimes is the result of perfectionism or fear.

Joy Stealer #4: Always looking for something wrong. Have you met the person who finds something wrong with everything? Complainers are draining. They start off seeming like they are logical thinkers and trying to make things better. Soon you realize that there is no “better” for them, there is always something wrong.

Constant complaining is a habit. When you are around someone like this, you can take a step back, give yourself some space,  and look at what is going right.

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The Truth: Constant complaining is a habit. When you are around someone like this, you can take a step back, give yourself some space,  and look at what is going right. You don’t have to get caught up in the complaining. Notice if you are the one who falls into a complaining habit. Writing a gratitude list can help you get out of this habit quickly.

Joy Stealer #5: Getting stuck in worry. Do you create endless scenarios of worry? Do you think about every possible awful outcome? Do you think you will forget an important detail?  Worry is time and energy consuming and not very productive.

The Truth: Some worry may help protect us. We manage our risk by worrying. We think of details and then focus on prevention. These are good things. When we assess for danger and risk, we are protecting ourselves and loved ones. It is the worry that is all-consuming that steals joy. When you worry about things obsessively instead of taking action, you are letting worry take over. If you struggle with worry, you can release it through an energy exercise like tapping. Here is an audio tapping exercise on creating calm. 

Joy Stealer #6: Energy vampires. An energy vampire seems to suck the life out of a room. You have probably felt this. Perhaps, you were having a great day and you come across a person where their presence seemed to dim your light. You might even notice that your energy feels like it is being pulled from you. These people are negative, demanding, needy, and they often play the victim. They manipulate and take people for granted. They get excited about other people’s disasters.

The Truth:  You can control your own energy through setting strong boundaries and managing your own energy. Start each day being grounded. Say, “I feel my feet on the ground.” Maintain energy practices like yoga, meditation, or prayer. Notice when you feel uncomfortable. Limit your time with energy vampires. Notice the energy vampires in your life. Do you have several? If so, what are you doing to attract them? Are you willingly solving their problems every single time? Are you attached to them needing your help? Recognizing your role will help you find balance and distance.

Christiane Northrup’s book on Energy Vampires offers help and hope if this is an area of struggle for you (ad).

Of course, there are more joy-stealers out there, but the point today is to increase your self-awareness. When you notice what is happening in the moment, you can sustain and lift up your daily happiness.

Over the years that I have studied happiness, I have found that much of happiness comes down to choice. When you make happiness a choice, you create a happy lifestyle. Don’t wait for happiness to happen to you. Choose it.  Spring into Joy. If you liked this, you will love this workshop

In Happiness,

Sheri

Sheri Kaye Hoff

Sheri Kaye Hoff sherikayehoff.com

Coach, Trainer, and Author, Sheri Kaye Hoff, is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and a catalyst for personal and business growth, joy, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to the do work they love and make more money. Sheri helps business owners and professionals to relax into success. She uses both spiritual and practical techniques to obliterate blocks and create dramatic change. She is a business, leadership, happiness, and inner game expert. She has overcome nearly dying, and the loss of her brother at an early age. She has made it her life mission to discover the keys to happiness and success and then share them with her clients and community. Learn more about Sheri.

*Tapping is general advice and not medical or psychological advice.

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