I get a lot of questions about spells, charms and curses. I’ve put them together into this post, together with the answers. Hope they are useful.
Question: How Can I Tell if Someone put a Spell on Me?
I am sure someone has put a spell on me, but how can I be sure?
You can’t really be sure unless they admit to doing it. People often experience a run of bad luck or negativity and it has nothing to do with spells or magic. What can happen is that the first couple of events can put you into a bit of a tail-spin, emotionally. Then, because you feel so down, your negative thoughts will attract more negative happenings. Or your perception alters slightly, so what wouldn’t have bothered you previously, is just added to the pile of bad stuff.
Question: I Went to a Psychic and I Think she Cursed Me?
I visited a psychic reader a couple of months ago and I haven’t felt right since. I feel as though I lack energy and things aren’t going well at work or in my personal life. What’s going on?
It would be very unlikely that any reputable psychic would deliberately curse someone. They have too much experience to mess around with dark forces. Perhaps they gave you some indication of future events and they are coming to pass?
Also consider if you are looking after yourself properly. Getting plenty of fresh air and nutritional food. If these symptoms continue, I would suggest you get a health check-up.
Question: Is it Possible my Best Friend Put a Love Spell on Me?
I was talking to my friend about how I can’t get a boyfriend and we were laughing about how she could do a spell to get me one. I thought she was joking but now I’m wondering… I’m pretty sure she cast a spell as she’s been into all this weird stuff for a while.
Very often teens will play around with spells, not realizing how powerful they can be. I expect your friend thought her spell would never work. If odd things occur like you feel suddenly attracted to someone you would never consider previously, or if you are being love bombed by several people at once, then her spell might have been too successful. Read on to discover how to neutralize a spell.
Question: Can I Fight a Spell with Another Spell?
I know that an enemy of mine has put a spell on me. They even boasted about it to other people we both know. Can I cast a spell back on her?
It’s possible to work a canceling spell, but don’t be tempted to cast one in revenge. That is never a good idea because it can rebound on you. It’s better to try to neutralize a spell harmlessly and use a protection spell to ward off any other psychic attacks.
Question: Can You Give Me a Spell to Remove Negativity?
I’m depressed and overwhelmed by negative thoughts. I know I am my own worst enemy. Could a spell help me to overcome this darkness?
This sounds to me like you have mental health issues. Please talk to someone and arrange to see a medical expert or psychotherapist. It’s better to do it now before it progresses.
Meanwhile, you can try this, but please don’t use it as a substitute for expert advice. Get a piece of black tourmaline and place it at the bottom of your bed, in the vicinity of your feet. You could put it under the mattress. Also get a piece of rose or clear quartz and place it under your pillow or under the mattress at your head.
When you go to bed, lie on your back and imagine the negativity in your body draining into the tourmaline. Then visualize a beautiful white light pouring out of the quartz and into the back of your head, suffusing your whole body. Lay there as long as you can, holding the vision of bad stuff leaving and bright light entering. It’s fine if you drift off to sleep. In the morning, rinse both stones under clear, running water.
Question: What’s the Difference Between a Spell and a Charm?
I’m always confused between spells and charms. And then there are rituals. What do they mean?
Spell and charm are often used interchangeably. The difference as I see it is that a spell is any magical work, whereas a charm is usually placed on another person. So, for example, you might do a money spell to bring in extra cash, but you’d place a charm on your crush so that he might fall in love with you. I tend to use ‘spell’ to cover everything.
A ritual is any pre-planned, deliberate action. So a spell is cast by performing a ritual. The ritual might include casting a circle, calling upon the four directions/elements, lighting a candle, speaking an incantation (the spell), closing the circle and eating or drinking to ground oneself.
Question: How Do I Remove a Spell?
I need to remove a spell. How do I do it?
The best way to remove a spell is to neutralize it. This is effective even when you don’t know who cast the spell, or if you aren’t the subject of a spell at all. Neutralization won’t do any harm. Allow yourself at least 30 minutes to an hour. These are the steps.
Prepare a peaceful, sacred space. Make sure it’s tidy. Light a candle or some incense.
Make yourself comfortable.
Close your eyes; breathe deeply and easily.
Visualize yourself surrounded by swirling energy, both light and dark, positive and negative.
Now visualize the spell sitting on your shoulders like a heavy dark woolen cloak.
In your mind’s eye, imaging the cloak getting lighter, turning from heavy fabric into energy. Let the cloak fly away from you, becoming part of the swirling energy all around.
Breathe in all the positive swirling energy. Let it fill your whole body with light, pushing out all the negative residue from the spell.
As the light permeates your whole self, let some of it settle around and outside your body, like your aura. This is your layer of protection. Imagine it permeable to love but completely impermeable to evil and hurt.
Take as long as you need to to work through these steps and repeat them after a couple of days. The second time you do it, the energy will have lessened.
Question: How Do I Remove a Spell from Someone Else?
I’m convinced that someone has cast a spell on my husband. He is behaving oddly and might be having an affair. Is it possible someone could have put a love charm on him? If so, how can I remove it?
It’s possible he is cheating and his odd behavior is a result of that. I would suggest you try talking to him first. If he has no explanation, then you can try clearing any charm by placing rose quartz around your home. Use a sage smudging stick to clear energy from your bedroom, especially where he sleeps.
You can also follow an adapted version of the neutralization ritual described above. Instead of imagining the steps happening to you, try to place him in your vision and carry it out on his behalf. Just imagine him sitting in a chair in front of you, with the charm as a pink sticky blanket. See it dissolving and leaving him. Fill him with light and surround him with a protective shield. He doesn’t have to be present for you to do this. It’s all done as a visualization. If it helps, you can hold a photo or something that belongs to him in your hand.
Remember, if you think someone has launched a psychic attack or cast a spell on you, get in touch with one of our advisers.
After the end of a 10 year marriage, I knew, to gain some peace from the endless self-recrimination, I had to make some lemonade from the barrel of lemons that the relationship had turned into. So one evening, instead of feeling sorry for myself I sat down and listed all the things I had learned. The actions I would not repeat; the behavior I would not put up with in a future relationship. That list ran to over a hundred items and many, many scribbled journal pages. Eventually I distilled them down to 20 lessons I learned after breaking up.
Twenty Life Lessons I Learned After Breaking Up With My Ex
1. Life does not end after breaking up. It might feel like you have come screeching to a dead halt after a relationship ends. Where do you go from here? How can you recover? When you are down as far as you can go, give yourself a little time. Things change dramatically and even within a few days you’ll begin to see a way through.
2. Don’t expect your partner to change because you want them to. They will change, as most of us do, but it has to be their choice. You cannot make a person change their nature or even their behavior.
3. In the same vein, you cannot change enough to make them happy. You can change yourself, but do not bend to suit their demands. The demands will keep coming and you will end up broken.
4. Keep 50% of your love for yourself. One of the basic tenets of a successful relationship is that you should love yourself. If you don’t, you could end up being trodden on like a doormat. Having love for who you are is the same as having self-respect. If you don’t love you, they won’t either.
5. If you are suddenly suspicious they might be cheating, they probably are. Your intuition is almost always correct. Unless you are one of those people who constantly believe your partner is cheating when they aren’t. That’s something you need to address; it’s a sign of neediness.
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6. Walking on eggshells does not make a smooth path to everlasting love. Should you find yourself always watching your words, or behaving in a way so as not to upset them, you are heading for relationship hell.
7. Life is too short to be unhappy in your relationship. Give yourself a time limit to work things out. Communicate, work on it, but don’t settle for less than you want. So if you are not seeing an improvement after, say, three months, consider that you might have a better future without them.
8. It’s not their job to fix you. It is their job to support you in times of stress, need, or other crisis. And yours to support them. But they cannot fix your long-term problems, only you can do that.
9. Just because the relationship failed, doesn’t make you a failure. It feels like that at first. You ask yourself if you broke it. If you could have saved it. Know that you didn’t fail, you simply made a new choice.
10. If love is leaking away faster than you can refill the bucket, it’s better to slip away with it. When your love seems to be lessening, it’s very hard to turn things around. If the idea of a leaky bucket resonates with you, it might be time to end it.
11. Don’t fight when either or both are drunk. You may learn this the hard way, but try to remember through the fog of alcohol, it never goes well. Go to sleep and agree to discuss the issue in the morning.
12. Learning what you don’t want will help you to know what you do want. Often a difficult relationship can highlight the things you can’t put up with. Knowing these things will give you a head start next time.
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13. You can’t make someone fall in love with you unless they want to. There is no worse relationship pain than loving someone who doesn’t love you. Be sad, but walk away.
14. Know them by their deeds not just their words. The same goes for you. Do what you say you will. Keep your promises.
15. Sometimes it is your fault. Because it just is. None of us are perfect and we all do and say stupid things. Often we are hurtful without meaning to be. Accept responsibility for your mistakes.
16. Be cautious before committing to shared responsibilities, whether it be children, pets or a mortgage. These things can keep you in a relationship long after the love has disappeared. Having shared commitments can seem like a good idea at the time, but they can make extricating yourself from a failing relationship a hundred times more difficult. Be sure that you both want the same things.
17. Never be financially dependent. It is so important to have a small, or not-so-small, financial reserve of your own. You can be up front and open about it from the beginning, but everyone needs to have an emergency fund apart from your joint funds.
18. Always be willing to discuss a problem and don’t get defensive. Your partner has a genuine issue so do them the courtesy of hearing them out. Listen to what they have to say and ask for time to think it over. The worst thing you can do is to get angry and defensive. It’s a good idea to have these strategies built in and agreed upon when you first make a long-term commitment.
19. When they shout or snap at you don’t respond. Resist the knee-jerk response when they are irritated or grumpy. Let their words echo in the silence. They will probably apologize with no further input from you.
20. As soon as you are able, forgive them. Forgiveness frees your soul. Even after the break-up. Even after they have treated you badly. Heal your heart by practicing the art of forgiveness. And forgive yourself too.
What important lessons did you find you’d learned after breaking up? If you need help finding the positives in a painful ending, call one of our brilliant relationship psychics.
What are real psychic readings? How can you tell if the person, organization, or website you are contacting is genuine? How can you be sure that your question is answered by a real psychic medium? Ultimately it's your personal choice, but perhaps we can help you decide?
What Are Real Psychic Readings?
A real psychic reading is one that provides useful information. The client will end the reading feeling uplifted and positive. They will usually come away with suggestions to help them move forward or to cope with whatever situation they are dealing with. In general, they should feel better after the reading than they did before.
Real Psychic Readings for Free
You can find psychic readings online for free, but remember you aren’t guaranteed to get a useful or even a genuine reading. ‘You only get what you pay for’ is never more true than in the field of psychics and mediums. Many companies will offer an introductory rate for your first call, and it’s a good idea to take advantage of it.
At the same time, paying more for your reading does not mean you are going to get the best. Sure there are celebrity mediums out there who are able to command extraordinary fees and who have waiting lists a yard long. In the main though, you can find a useful, inspiring and genuine reading for a very reasonable price.
Also remember that an experienced psychic has put in a lot of work to develop and hone their skills. It’s not really fair to expect them to give out free readings just for the asking—after all you wouldn’t expect your hairdresser or garage mechanic to work for free. Psychics have to eat, pay bills and mortgages too. Just like everyone else.
The absolute best way to find the best real psychic reading is to have one recommended by a friend or acquaintance. Word of mouth is always the preferred referral method for both psychic and client. You’ll know up front that you can trust the psychic medium to do his or her best for you. However, that does not necessarily guarantee that you will make that magical connection. When the spark doesn’t happen it’s no-one’s fault, and it doesn’t mean the psychic is a fraud. Sometimes it is a kind of energy mismatch and the reading falls flat.
The Next Best Thing: Reviews
The next best thing is to read reviews. If you can find the company you are interested in on a review site, then you should be able to get a feel for the general public opinion of them. Most sites publish reviews on their site, but they aren’t going to publish bad ones, so be prepared for a whole lot of positive bias. You can always tell if reviews are genuine; look for differences in language and phraseology. Fake reviews are obvious because they have usually been written by the same person. And it usually shows.
What Kind of Reading Do You Need
It’s a good idea to know up front what you are actually expecting. Be clear in your mind if you are looking for a medium type of reading where the psychic is in contact with spirit and asks for messages on your behalf. Or maybe you need some guidance during a time of turmoil, or when you feel stuck. Most people only contact a psychic when it seems that life is falling apart. It will help if you write down a few questions before your reading begins and ask them up front. This enables the psychic to get straight to the point, rather than waste your time and money giving you a ‘cold’ reading.
Do Your Research
As with every thing, the more research you do, the better results you will get. Instead of bouncing around from free site to cheap site, from mediocre psychics to worse ones, a little bit of research will take you a long way toward finding the perfect psychic for you. And when you find a good medium, hang onto him or her. You’ll want to get back in touch with them, for sure.
Avoid Scam Psychics
Fake names, made up claims, excessive spiritual language are big giveaways. And there are thousands of them on social media. Take the line that most are probably out to scam you and you’ll soon be able to discern the good and genuine from the bad. Whatever you do, don’t hand over your credit card details without checking the company out.
Should anyone try to tell you they need to remove a curse from you… for a price, of course, put the phone down, walk away, or click off the site. This is one of the most common scams out there. And vulnerable people are taken advantage of, over and over. We have plenty of information here for free about how to deal with a negative psychic event or attack.
Try the Special Offer
If the site is offering reduced rates for your first call, by all means give them a try. Just be sure how many minutes you are getting and be careful about going beyond them. A reputable psychic will check with you if you want to proceed. It’s really easy to get carried away and rack up a sizable bill without realizing. So set yourself a limit.
Real Psychic Readings At Psychic Elements
All the psychics, mediums, intuitives and empaths at Psychic Elements have been checked and verified for their genuine abilities. You can be confident that each is at the top level of their skillset. All you have to do is browse through our directory to find one that catches your attention. We have:
Clairvoyants and clairaudiants
Tarot, angel, and oracle card readers
and many more specialists.
Read their bios, introduction, and reviews—and if you find yourself drawn to one, give him or her a call. For $20 for a whole twenty minutes, you have very little to lose.
Stories of black-eyed kids have been around some time. Supposedly, these are ghosts of children that appear to be solid-looking children, dressed a little old fashioned. The give-away feature are their eyes. They are black. No irises, no whites, just pure black.
Reportings of BEKs come from all over the world, and the internet has helped to fuel interest in sightings. But are they true? We may never know for sure.
Artist's impression. CC BY-SA 4.0
Brian Bethel’s Story
Brian Bethel is a senior staff reporter at Abeline News in Texas. He says he’s not given to flights of fancy, and he certainly didn’t make this story up to accelerate his career. In fact, he thinks the opposite happened. Anyway, the story goes like this…
One evening in 1995, Brian popped down to his local branch of Camalott to pay his ISP bill. He intended to leave a check in their night slot. The premises were situated near a movie theatre as well as a clutch of other retailers. While he was sitting in his car writing the check, there was a knock on the window. Two children were standing there. Boys, between nine and 12 years old.
Brian opened the window a little and the nearest boy asked if they could get a ride back to their mom’s. They’d come to see a movie, Mortal Combat, but had left their money home. It would only take a few minutes. Brian felt a wave of inexplicable fear wash over him. He noticed that the movie had already started so there wouldn’t be much of it left to watch if he drove them anywhere and back.
The child kept giving Brian reassurances, it wouldn’t take long; they were just kids who wanted to watch a movie; they didn’t have a gun… At this Brian was unnerved, it seemed a weird thing to say. He looked away from the boy towards the door lock. When he looked back, the atmosphere had changed and he was staring into a pair of coal-black eyes. He started apologizing to the kids, wound up the window and put the car into reverse. As he did so, he noticed a look of confusion on the second boy’s face, the one who hadn’t uttered a word. The other boy hammered on the window saying, “We can’t come in unless you tell us it’s OK. Let us in!”
Brian drove out of the lot as fast as he could. He glanced in the rear view mirror but there was no-one there.
In a remarkably similar account to Brian Bethel’s, an anonymous source describes an encounter on a remote road in Utah. He’d stopped to take a rest during a long drive when two children, a boy and a girl, seemed to materialize out of the dark. They were wearing strange clothing and both had the same old-fashioned bowl haircuts. He immediately thought they must be lost and lowered the window to ask if they were OK and in need of assistance. As he approached the car, the leading child replied, “Yes, please.” Then the man noticed the child’s eyes. Dead black. The child requested that he let them into the car and give them a ride into town. But the man felt the most awful fear envelop him.
He felt sheer terror and paralysis. His mind screamed at him to get the car window up and drive away, but his body refused to obey. The children appeared to be amused as he struggled to get his hand to move toward the window mechanism. The boy suddenly smiled and revealed teeth that seemed to be metallic. It broke the spell and the man managed to get his hand to the window. His terror increased as the kid grabbed at his sleeve. The shock made the man shove the kid back as hard as he could and a look of surprise crossed the child’s face.
In the next moment, the man managed to start the car and the boy somehow, in a split second, had moved to the front of the vehicle. The man didn’t hesitate—he drove straight at him. The kid thumped the car angrily but the man carried on. The kid was knocked out of the way and when the man checked his mirror, the child was standing up and brushing himself down. He kept driving.
Black-eyed Kids in England
Cannock Chase is designated as an ‘Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty’ (AONB) in the county of Staffordshire, in the West Midlands. The area is notorious because three young schoolgirls were murdered there in the 1960s.
Paranormal investigator, Lee Brickley tells of an account given by a mother picnicking in the area with her daughter. They heard a child calling for help so they ran towards the cries. They couldn’t find anyone. They stopped to get their breath and for some reason the mother was compelled to turn around. There was a little girl standing on the path behind her with both hands over her eyes. She looked about 10 years old.
The woman asked her if she was all right and was she the one screaming for help. The girl slowly lowered her hands to her sides. Her eyes were completely black.
The woman stepped away quickly and grabbed her daughter. When she looked back, the little girl had disappeared.
Watch Part 2 of the documentary, Ouija, Dicing with Death? Film makers, Dale Makin and Justin Cowell discuss the black-eyed children of Cannock Chase. The Cannock Chase material appears 22 minutes into the documentary.
BEKS: Urban Legend or Actual Ghosts?
Black-eyed kids are described as children between the ages of five and 15. As well as having completely black eyes, they are said to usually be dressed in unusual or old-fashioned clothing. Some are said to wear Victorian dress. They have a quiet, unremarkable demeanor.
The visits seem to follow a pattern. They often ask to be let into the house to use the phone, or that they need help. They say that they can’t come in unless they are invited. People who encounter them report feeling terrified and often experience a compelling physical sensation of not being in control of their actions. Some say they move towards their front door against their will and that it takes a huge amount of strength and concentration to resist the force.
Skeptics say that the black-eyed children legend started with a Creepypasta story, but others say that tales of BEKs have been around a lot longer than that.
What do you think? Have you ever encountered a black-eyed child? Do you know someone who has experienced anything similar to the stories above?
Everyone comes to a point in their life when they wonder, “Have I made the right choices?” Maybe it’s all gone right: life is a breeze and you regret nothing? All of us will be able to look back on certain turning points, when we might have made a different choice or adopted different habits or behavior. So what advice would you give your younger self?
Practical Advice for My Younger Self
Spend less money on things you don’t need.
Spend less money than you earn.
Don’t acquire stuff that needs looking after.
Embrace a capsule wardrobe.
Put aside ten percent of your income. Always.
Continue your education. Invest in yourself; skills, courses, qualifications, etc.
Remember in school when you told your careers teacher you wanted to be a writer (or artist, singer, journalist, deep sea diver)? You should do that thing now instead of waiting until decades have passed. Do it in your spare time, if you have to, but do it.
Don’t give up too soon. The breakthrough could be round the next corner.
Take every opportunity to increase your skills.
Try new things all the time. Don’t worry about not sticking with one activity or path.
Take more risks but don’t do stupid.
Learn to say no.
Don’t risk your health for anything.
Be completely financially independent as soon as possible. You should never have to rely on someone else for financial support.
Ask yourself if, on your deathbed, you will wish you’d spent more time on your phone/looking at a screen/watching TV. You have the gift of time; don’t fritter it away.
Don’t waste time waiting for people. Decide on your limit then walk away; you have better things to do. Your time is just as precious as theirs.
Take a year to travel; do more things. You’ll never regret it.
Don’t stay at parties/events if you are bored. Just leave.
Teach your children practical skills.
Enter competitions: writing, art, skill, luck. Just do it. You’ve nothing to lose.
Piercings generally heal over; tattoo removal leaves ugly scars.
Love yourself. You are your own best friend.
Only sleep with people you like. And you don’t have to do it on the first, second, or even third date if you don’t want to.
If they pressure you, dump them.
Don’t date anyone who talks about their ex in a derogatory way. It’s a red flag.
Don’t change yourself to fit someone else’s ideal.
You can’t control another’s thoughts, feelings, reactions, actions, so don’t try.
Avoid over-analyzing. It is what it is.
Walk away from people who are not good for you. It’s not going to get any better.
If someone tells you they are broken, bad, or unhappy, walk away. They’re telling the truth.
Never stay around negative people.
Don’t bother looking to others for approval. Give it to yourself.
Be kind but don’t be a doormat.
Give praise where it is due.
Avoid criticizing them. Bite your tongue.
You don’t have to accept every offer of a date.
Don’t be afraid to leave politely.
If they talk garbage, leave.
If they display an ideological viewpoint that you can’t live with, walk away.
Don’t date marrieds.
Keep the channels of communication open.
Don’t give the silent treatment.
If you can’t trust your partner, consider if you should be in this relationship.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind.
Words spoken in anger cannot be unsaid.
Arguments and fights happen; apologize for your contribution.
Don’t compare your relationship with someone else’s.
Learn to love solitude. It can be an acquired skill.
You can’t fix another person. Neither can they fix you.
If you have to make excuses for them, it might be another red flag.
Learn from your relationship mistakes.
Don’t date your ex’s best friend.
Don’t let anyone force you to do anything you don’t want to.
Don’t take photos of your naked body or let anyone record you having sex. You might be proud of your body, but would you want your parents seeing these photos/videos?
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Spiritual and Personal Advice for My Younger Self
Tend to your own well-being.
Be grateful and appreciative – for everything.
You don’t need to impress anyone.
Worrying is a waste of energy.
Don’t try to be something you are not.
What you think is important probably isn’t.
Right now, in this moment, everything is just fine.
Know that you are in control. You make the decisions. Life is something you do, not something that happens to you.
All problems are temporary. Every obstacle you face will one day be in the past.
Don’t give your power to others.
Do not judge others if you don’t want to be judged.
What do you want the world to remember you for?
Avoid comparing your life to others’.
Learn to trust your intuition.
Forgiveness is for your benefit, not theirs.
Think about your existence and why you are here.
When you can’t change things, go with the flow.
Take time to relax.
Talk less, listen more.
Experience nature, walk to recharge your batteries.
Know that you have the power to change things.
Listen to older people. They have lived what you are living.
Buy yourself a tarot deck and learn it.
Reach for joy.
And so we come back to the present. It’s a good moment to evaluate all the positives you have in your life, and to think… if you hadn’t gone through all that you did and made all those mistakes, you wouldn’t be the person you are now. Put past regrets and self-doubt away; they do not serve you well. What’s important is from here onwards. Look for the joy in everything.