As women we are often reminded of the necessity of practicing self-love and self-care. Yet, what’s the difference? Let’s Break Down the fundamental difference between self-love vs. self-care SO THAT You Love Yourself Completely.
Self-Love is how you internally feel about yourself. Knowing Your Worth and valuing yourself. Realizing that your self-worth doesn’t lie in your career, status or money–yet, it’s your god-given right to love yourself. Self-Love is all the acts and choices one makes to promote one’s well-being and happiness.
Self-care is an essential part of self-love. It’s “feeling your cup first before filling others”. Self-Care is how you take care of yourself: mind, body, heart and soul. How you make taking care of yourself a priority. Self-Care is knowing what you need to feel nourished and balanced at any given time.
Self-Love Vs. Self-Care.
In essence, self-love is how one emotionally feel about oneself and values their worth. Whereas self-care is how one takes care of themselves (preserve and protect one’s energy) in each self-care dimension: body, mind, heart and soul.
Both (self-love and self-care) are Essential and necessary daily practices to Living a Happy and Balanced Life–and Loving Yourself Completely.
Self-Care is essential! Taking good care of yourself gives you the energy (fuel) you need to be the best version on yourself each day. And I have to admit this is one of the areas I’m still striving to improve in. I created a list of my favorite top 30 self-care activities to recharge and renew each day. Also, don’t forget to sign-up for my 14 Day Self-Care Challenge!
Try one of these Self-Care Activities TODAY!
Meditate (start with at least 5 mins)
Go for a Walk
Watch a Funny Movie
Create a Self-Care Box (fill with all the things you need to keep you going on your day)
Read Positive Affirmations
Listen to Positive Music (Sing along)
Call a Good Friend
Buy Yourself a little Treat
Try a Hobby
Drink Warm Lemon Water
Sip Chamomile or Lavender Tea
Make a Raw Green Smoothie
Read a Good book
Write or Journal
Express Gratitude & Reflect
Schedule an essential Dr.’s appointment you’ve been putting off
Prepare for the next day (tomorrow always starts a new day)
Connect with your Spiritual Faith
Grab a coloring book
Take A Nap
Get Some Sunlight
Hug a Tree
Give to Someone Else
Do a crossword puzzle
Eat Almonds/Cashews (proven to treat anxiety & depression
With so many women that are ready to start practicing self-love. I can’t help to feel concerned that many people have some misconceptions about what self-love truly is. As I surf social media, I see many self-love campaigns geared toward inspiring women and young girls to start loving themselves better.
As a self-love advocate, I have to ask– are we really teaching women how to love themselves or are we teaching more misconceptions of selfishness? Let’s debunk the top 3 Myths about Self-Love.
Here’s some common misconceptions about self-love:
1. Self-Love is not a selfie.
Although we all love taking selfies of ourselves and sharing on social media tagged with #selflove, Self-Love is so much deeper than the outer surface. Self-Love starts from Within and shines OUT! You have to do the inner work to truly shine through. If you just focus on your beautiful selfie, you will never see the even MORE Beautiful SELF (soul) inside.
2. Self-Love is not the Love of self.
Self-Love is not all about You. It’s all about learning to love yourself better . Not the love of “self” or being “self-centered”. There’s a difference. One comes from a place of Love and the other from “ego” fear. When you truly love yourself you see everything in creation as part of your whole Self. You treat all with love and respect.
3. Self-Love does not mean you are being selfish.
So many people have the misconception that when one starts to love themselves better and set healthy boundaries, that they are somehow being selfish. Many women on their self-love journey can be made to feel guilty or that they are doing something wrong. Self-Love is knowing your worth, valuing yourself and making those conscious choices and decisions to promote your overall well being and happiness. You have go deeper than the surface – and really do the inner work it takes to become your truest self.
Getting past these common misconceptions will help shift your mindset to open up to more self-love.
Rose Oil has great healing benefits…and it smells Heavenly!
I guess you can say I’m a “flower girl”. I love everything floral–and roses are especially my favorite. Rose oil has great healing benefits: it softens skin, improves depression and may even increase your libido. The smell of rose is a great aromatherapy with calming and relaxing affects. I was so happy to find beauty products that allowed me to add the divine fragrance of roses to my self-care routine– everyday! Here’s 4 Rose Scented Beauty Products. Heal and Relax With the Sweet Scent of Rose!
Dr. Bronner’s Organic Hemp Rose Pure-Castile Liquid Soap
Dr. Bronner’s 18 in 1 Liquid Soap provides so many different uses in your beauty routine. It makes my skin so smooth and soft. Use it as a body wash, foot soak, or add to a relaxing bath.
This organic and non-toxic soap has the power of Australian pink clay, buttermilk powder, coconut milk and shea butter–top with crushed rose petals. It’s on my beauty wish-list!
where to buy: avialable on the Beauty Heroes website ($15). Check out their monthly beauty heroes box subscription here!
Shea Moisture Peace Rose Oil Complex Mud Mask
My face is lovin’ this mud mask with rose oil complex. A little goes a long way–and this mud mask really did soften and calm my skin. Another awesome fact is that 10% of the sales of this collection goes to Community Commerce Program to help fight poverty.
where to buy: sold at Target and Ulta Beauty $2.49-3.99, .5fl). Check out Shea Moisture Peace Rose Oil Collection here.
Acure Moroccan Argan Oil with Rose
This lightweight moroccan argan oil is rich in Vitamin C with blend of lemongrass and rose essential oils. Use on skin, body and hair.
where to buy: You can buy this product on Amazon.com from Acure for about $13.
These beauty products with the sweet scent of Rose are sure to heal, clam and relax you with every use!
So often as WOMEN we Feel we have to put other’s emotions and wants before our own. We are Natural givers….and don’t think twice about sacrifices our own wants and/or needs for the benefit of our families and loved ones. Yet, it just as “equally” important to take care of ourselves as well. Here’s 5 self-love truths to Realize Your Own Worth.
Knowing you are worthy of Love & compassion.
I know that you’ve heard this a thousand times. However, it ‘s so true. You are Worthy! Don’t let nobody “tell” you you’re NOT!
Knowing that you are valuable despite your circumstances.
Despite your situation or circumstances you are valuable. NO events in your Life can Ever take your value or deem your worthless.
Knowing that Loving Yourself is your “universal” right.
You have a Right to Love yourself. And you don’t Need anyone else’s permission to practice self-love.
Knowing that no one can give or take your “self-value”.
No one’s criticism, opinions or judgements can take or taint your worth. Shut out other people’s opinions on your Life.
Knowing that the love you give yourself…is the love you give others permission to give you.
How you Love yourself is a strong indicator on how you’re going to allow others to Love You (or Lack thereof). Hold yourself to your own self-value and don’t settle for Less.
Knowing Your Worth is going to be the catalyst to Starting Your Self-Love Journey…And the Foundation for a Happy Life!
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
– Jack Canfield
FEAR, seems to be a stumbling block (if we let “it”) for many of us at some point in our lives. Fear is an excellent masker, you may not even be aware that you are succumbing to your fears–until it’s too late. The best way to defeat an enemy is to know how they operate and crush them at the beginning. You have to defeat and conquer your fears at the very start–don’t allow “it” to grow and sabotage your dreams.
If you’re feeling doubt, anxiety, standing still and/or procrastinating, you probably under attack by fear. Here’s How To Move Past Your Fears and Live Your Happiest Life!
My Personal Story:
Several years ago in 2013, I had an unexpected opportunity to relocate to North Carolina for a teaching opportunity. The fear and anxiety were mounting. I was relocating by myself to a new state and I had no idea what to expect. In addition, I didn’t have any family there that I could fall back on . When I got on the plane that summer day , I didn’t even know where I would be living (I was still looking for an apartment). Now, I’m not saying for anyone else to relocated in this fashion. I sure would have liked to have a better plan, more time and more money saved up. Yet, my heart was telling me to go despite my fears.
In the end everything worked out perfectly. I was so proud of myself for following my dreams, having faith and moving past my fears, and anxieties. This experience serves as a constant reminder that I can accomplish any dream in my life that I would often allow fear to control.
Here are 4 questions to assist you in moving past your fears:1. What would love do?
Fear and Love cannot Coexist! Choose Love!
2. What would I do if I was fearless?
You are Fearless! You’re not going to allow fear to stop you from being dedicated to the life you want to live.
3. What would I tell a friend in the same situation?
Talk to yourself as a loving friend (positive self-talk). The same advice you would give to a friend is the same motivation that will motivate and inspire yourself to move past your own fears.
4. What’s the worst that could happen?
What’s the worst that could happen? Really face these fears of what you think that could go wrong and make peace with them (lay them to rest). Also, think about what’s the BEST that could happen too! You have to step out on Faith. If you always listen to that “small” voice of fear, you will never know All that you can Be!
Reflecting on these 4 questions allows me to move through my fears—clearly seeing where fear is trying to present a vain attack. I feel the Fear and decide to move FORWARD.
When I was told that I din’t know how to love myself. I have to admit I was somewhat taken back. I didn’t feel like I “hated” myself or was deliberately harming myself is anyway. Although, I wasn’t happy with my life, I still thought I was just fine. And self-love was for all of those women with low self-esteem, not me! Do You Need To Start Loving Yourself Better? Answer These 5 Self Love Questions!
That little voice that sounds like your own that always belittles you or tells you can’t do something. Start observing how you are speaking to and/or about yourself. If you find that you are not speaking to yourself in a loving way, It is time to start loving yourself better.
2. Do you often feel NOT appreciated?
If you always feel like you have to do something for other people to feel accepted or liked–You may need to start setting healthy boundaries. Feeling used or abused are clear signs that you may be putting everyone’s needs ahead of your own and sacrificing your own happiness, and self-love.
3. Do you put your dreams on hold for others?
Do you “sacrifice” your dreams for others? If so, this is a big Self Love “No, No”. Living your dreams is part of being your highest and truest self. You have value and love to share with the world. Appreciate who you truly are and know that you (along with everyone else) deserves to be Happy.
4. Do you compare yourself to others?
Are you always comparing yourself to others? The way you look, your clothes, what you buy, etc. Do you often times feel insecure and that others are better than you? This is the day to start loving all the unique gifts that you have to offer. We are all uniquely perfect. A comparison is not needed or even possible to make.
Happiness is not a destination–it’s a Journey cultivated by our actions. – Loveselfme
Many of us see Happiness as a destination that we search for a “lifetime” to find–most never reaching. Yet, it’s more of a “journey” and state of being cultivated by our actions.
According to to research, when we experience ‘Joy” it activates our brain to the “highest level” meaning not only do we experience a “higher vibration” we think “better” as well. Cultivate Joy with these 5 Happiness Hacks. Cultivate Joy no matter your situation.
Check up on a Friend.
When we are supportive to others, it fosters a since of community and helps build healthy “positive” relationships–adding more Joy to our lives. Call, text or email a friend (especially that “strong” friend) or loved one that you haven’t spoke to in a while.
Say “Thank You”.
Saying a genuine thank you (no matter the situation) allows you to experience thankfulness in that moment. And practicing gratitude cultivates happiness.
Give To Others.
When we are kind and giving to others (paying it forward) it brightens up the a person’s day. What we give we also receive—the happiness and the joys circles right back to around.
Share a Good Meal.
There’s nothing more that I love than to enjoy a good meal and laugher with friends/family. Cook a good “home cook” meal and invite someone over for dinner or enjoy a good meal out.
Say your Bedtimes Prayers.
Saying our nightly prayers consistently lightens up our hearts from whatever “hurts” we feel we may have experienced that day. Allowing us to remove the blocks trying to steal and cover up our real joy and happiness.
Cultivate Joy Everyday with These 5 Happiness Hacks!