Hello and welcome to my annual Jersey shore blog post. This year I decided to start at the very bottom in Cape May, NJ. Beautiful Cape May, the southernmost point of New Jersey. It was very hard to decide this year where I would like to go and show you along the coast. I actually had to make a decision this year than just falling upon it. The place that everyone has decided to go. Personally, I like Cape May. It is a small town that although gets a lot of tourist with so many landmarks such as The Lighthouse, The Cape May Zoo, and the State Park for some reason it feels more open and less crowed than other Jersey shore towns, like the Wildwoods.
The beaches in Cape May are short and stunning. They have tiny rocks along the water line and you can find clear, polished quarts that are called Cape May diamonds. The beaches are interesting because the last two times I was there, the waves were short and rough, like the ripped tides are still strong in this early June. The weather has been interesting because the heat is usually steady consistent by this time of year but we’ve been having a lot of cool, summer days around the area. So the ocean hasn’t warmed up just yet. It will not get there until end of July. So, I will have to wait just a bit longer to go swimming.
As for the photography I did something different. I am trying to expand my compositions and
angles, not to mention my poses. It is starting to be more about the art and
less of the clothes. I want to make art and take great photographs of nature
and myself. I am considering the places I go and myself as my subject matter
and what I like to photograph. I like taking this epic, advanced selfies (self-portraits).
Do I look weird doing photographing in public? Oh, hell yeah! But I like doing
the process and getting it done. And I love what comes out from it. Maybe someday I will make a video for you all
on how I do it, especially the issues I face when I go out and do this kind of
As for my outfit, It’s the bikini top I had on last year and a skirt that I bought from Torrid at the end of the summer so I did not have time to wear it. Okay, so I haved photographed myself in this bikini top three times already. That’s how great this top is. I just love it and cannot stop wearing outside. It’s just looks so goo on me. Next time, I will see how it looks on me without the extra straps. I am always so nervous about going out strapless thinking I will have barely enough support for my large breast. Yup, just another one of my insecurities that I will someday get over and start wearing more strapless tops and dresses. But right now I am working on it. I know for some women just exposing their upper arms is a big deal. I empathized what it must be like mentally for them if they ever have to go strapless and expose more of their upper body. That thought might never even cross their mind or even look at wearing an off the shoulder top or dress without an over piece. But it good to try and see what it looks like. The one thing I’ve learned over the past two years, most of the time you just need to wear the right under garment.
I hope you all love the pictures of the beach. There will be more coming soon whenever I can get to finishing editing them and posting. Everything is pretty much done on my free time now compared to last year where I was constantly working on my Instagram.
Take care now. And do not forget wear a bathing suit this
It’s been a minute for me on all my social media pages. As I
approach two years of blogging I guess I am taking a break. I’ve been thinking
about myself and my persona on Instagram and other social media platforms and
what I can do to improve myself. Trying to understand why my following has not
kick off the way I wanted and why I do not get the engagement that want from
Perhaps I do no share that much of myself on the platforms? Or
I am not discussing the right thing for you all to want to engage with me? Or
maybe my photographs need to be better or better cropped? The thing is after reading several articles,
books, and watching videos. I do everything the state and suggest but nothing
is working. Therefore, I am taking a different approach to my blog and my
Since I will not be making any money off of the internet, I will no longer treat this like a job. I will not be treating this like a full time job nor a part time job. There is so much work that goes into photographing and making a video or a photo that most people do not know how much it can take up your time. Since I am working a job already I do not have the energy to work on my photograph full time with my condition. It tends to be too much for me on a daily basis. I cannot do the other things I need to do, for example, clean the house. I stated this before I will treat this like my job, when it becomes my job.
Another thing I am approaching differently, so that I will
focus less on the fashion and more of the photography. This upcoming year I
want to focus more on the photography aspect of me doing this. Try to make more
creative and better photos. Make great compositions and most of all art. I want
to take my skills and me taking photos of myself to the next level. Try to make
them more interesting to look at. Make the compositions more artistic and have
me more a part of the scene then have the photograph just be all about me.
Here is my first attempt in making an advance selfie. And I know I have been taking photographs of
myself for about two years now with my camera. I finally figured out more
creative ways to take photographs of myself. I want to continue along this path and really
try to perfect it and my style. From now on I will talk more about the
photographs and not what I am wearing. I will be focusing on just the
photography this year.
Hello and once again, welcome to an annual blog post done by me! Happy May the Fourth! Happy Star Wars Day! Here is my outfit for this year. A romper that I got last year on sale that I saved all year long to wear. I always plan this outfit a year in advance. This has got to be my favorite blog post to do.
If you do not know by now I am a Star Wars fan and love all the movies. This is my time to celebrate, show my love for the iconic movie franchise, and how it has been a part of my life. This year I wore this romper as my outfit. I am lucky this year it got warm in New Jersey early and I can wear this romper this year without covering it up. It’s a navy romper with iconic symbols from the rebel, like an X-wing and R2D2 surrounded by florals. Even though, it is kind of consider floral print it’s not too overpowering. I do not know why all plus size retailers are always putting out mainly floral prints for us consumers? Do they think us double-digit size girls only like floral prints? Everything you do does not have to be done floral print. Not saying that I hate florals but I would like more options in prints. Some stripes and some geometrics would be nice.
But just to let you know I do not hate this romper. If I did, I would have not bought it. I haven’t found much Star Wars clothing that I do like this past year. So I might have to keep it for future Star Wars Celebrations. It is so easy when it comes to bands, TV, and movies that we love to go straight to just buying a t-shirt but the past two years I just didn’t want to wear just a Star Wars for May the Fourth. I wanted to show you other types of clothing that can be cool to wear without looking dorky, even though in real life I am a dork.
It was nice just wearing one item of clothing on, between winter and work I’ve been wearing so many layers. So I was able to through the romper on, put some sneakers, and lather some sunscreen. Which was so nice and odd to be doing so early in the year. Global warming and weird climate change are happening.
On a body positive side, every time I wear shorts the inseam always rides up because of my chub rub. Two years ago I cared about something like that, constantly pulling it down even as I walk. Now, I don’t care that much while I am out. I mean that’s just what my thighs do, they rub together and move my pants up.
Hello, and welcome to another blog post. Today I want to talk about something very important to me, the New Jersey Medical Marijuana Program. Yes, I am a patient of the NJMMP! I figured with Canada being the first North American country to legalize recreational pot and New Jersey voting to make cannabis legal to smoke recreationally on October 29, 2018, it is time to come out about my marijuana use. You see after five long years and three Rheumatologists, I finally got a proper diagnosis and medication cocktail that works for me.
When you go to the Rheumatologists you can have one of two things happen to you. You get your blood work done and they find something or they don’t find anything but some clues you do have something wrong. Either or, you are going to have medications thrown at you by the doctor until something works. And that’s what happened to me, I had every medication used for pain and inflammation given to me until one day the doctor told me, “I can do three things for you: I can up the dosage on your current medication, which is doing nothing, I can start giving you oxycodone, or you can try an alternative treatment of medical marijuana?”
Well smoking cannabis all my life, I really didn’t have a problem going on the program. I mean I enjoy getting high ever since I was a teenager, so why would I have a problem smoking weed for medical reason legally in my state? None, but I knew I had to talk to my fiancé to see what his opinion was and since it is still not covered by health insurance we would need to discuss if we can financially afford it, too. My doctor was okay with this and letting me have a few days to decide.
When my fiancé got home later that day I do him what the doctor said. He flat out said no way are you staying on your current medication because it not working and the side effects from it are too much for you. If you up the dosage it will just get worse. So, that just left medical marijuana or oxycodone (which is pretty much-legalized heroin). From being a pharmacy technician for eight years my fiancé saw the wear that Vicodin an OxyContin has on people. He witnessed first had people with chronic pain being prescribed oxycodone, slowly get addicted, and take more and more to feel the effects. He had to tell them that their refill for the medication was too soon, then they would get mad because they are all out and paying cash for the refill. He saw patients being cut off and having a problem with filling their addiction. Not to mention the physical deterioration from the painkillers had on their body, too. So the best choice was to go on medical cannabis.
I called the doctor the next day told them of my choice. Got an appointment with the alternative medicine office, got all my paperwork together, and within a week I was eligible to get my medical marijuana license. Two weeks after that, I received my ID card, I called the dispensary and two days later I got my first prescription of medical grade cannabis.
Within a month I started feeling so much better. While I was waiting for my license to come I did quite a bit of research on my condition and what to look for in a strain and types of strains that are great for my condition. I mainly smoke flower twice a day for that reason. I like to know what strain I am getting just in case something doesn’t agree with me, and I know to avoid it for next time. You see cannabinoids (these are the chemicals that react to your cannabinoids receptors in your body, what gets you that “high” feeling) because they act naturally in your system your DNA determines if a strain is going to work well or bad with you. And I have that happened to me, I have certain cannabis strains that made me worse, others that are just “okay”, and then some that are just awesome. One strain that might work for me, might be terrible for someone else and vice versa. So it is good to keep track of what strains you have smoked in the past (I use an app for that).
I know what you are thinking that I am probably a stoner that gets high all day long but the truth is I only smoke twice a day and not even to get high. I smoke to get a body high that takes away my pain all day. You see most of the time I don’t even want to be high because I have to go to work or I have to drive to be somewhere and it just an annoyance to be high at that moment. The only reason why I even smoke twice a day (once in the morning and once at night) is that with fibromyalgia apparently you do not get enough deep sleep and tend to stay in the REM stage of sleep. Because you don’t sleep well you do not have any energy during the day, which causes more pain, and the pain causes you not to sleep well. It’s just this endless cycle. So I have to smoke an indica at night to help me sleep and then I smoke a mixture of a high CBD strain (for the pain) and sativa (for energy) during the day to help with the cycle. I was taking Ambien to sleep at night and let me tell you the difference between an indica and Ambien. With marijuana I can feel if the cat is sitting on top of my head; with Ambien, I cannot.
The reason why I am coming out about my medical marijuana use because New Jersey is going to vote for recreational use on October 29, but that’s not the only thing they are going to vote for. You see by being on this medical marijuana program and coming out I take a risk. I run a very fine line on the legal side and risk getting fired from my job. On the 29th, New Jersey also votes for worker’s rights for patients on the medical marijuana. You see as of right now, I do not have the same medical rights as the person next to you taking Vicodin for their bad back and I should. Medical marijuana works for me; it’s made me be able to function normally for once in my life. If this is the most successful medication that I’ve been on, wouldn’t it be humane for me to be on it without facing a legal battle? If I am able to function in society and work a job shouldn’t I have protection not to lose my job?
We have the ability to pick and choose our medical procedures and medications we take. That is why we have so many varieties of medications that do the same thing. I am choosing how I handle and manage my pain and illness. For me, this medical marijuana and I should be protected as any other prescription medication. So if I am forced to take a drug test my marijuana use should not prevent me from advancing my career because it is a prescription medication for me. Same as any other prescription out there. Nor should I get fired for my use. As long as I am not under the influence while I am working. And that’s an important vote to have because if that doesn’t pass, corporations can do whatever they want and that is not humane for the workers. I feel if this passes more people would be willing to try medical marijuana to get off other pain medication because they will not fear in losing their job, too. Please help us all who choose to this path and support the decision to pass this law.
Love you all,
Valerie (a.k.a. Jersey Girl)
In This Shoot:
Top by Torrid
Jeans by Torrid (distressed by myself)
Socks by K.Bell
These were actually taken this summer. I finally got around to completely editing them. You see the school next to my house have these low areas that they cannot use because they flood with water every time it rains. So, they decided to build these self-sustaining rain gardens where rainwater can flow to and be absorbed while also creating a safe environment for plants and animals. The school was doing summer maintenance and the rain garden was open. So I went in wearing this little tie-dyed slip dress and took some photos. How could I not, the field was so beautiful and there were so many butterflies and honey bees just flying around in love with all the bloomed flowers. (I forget what flowers these are, by the way)
I love this little slip dress or any slip dress. They are great for warm weather or vacations in warmer climates. You are just able to put the dress on and be nice a comfortable. I also love the print of this dress, I have this thing for tie-dye in the summer. It just a great pattern to wear out to concerts and events you have during the season. The pattern just screams summer, just relaxing and chill. I guess we have The Grateful Dead to thank for that. I also love the hemline of the dress. It’s not a high-low hemline, which I am so over with. I never liked the way those feel. But it is uneven, so it creates a nice flow when you walk.
Looking back on these pictures is interesting since I just recently bought a drone to take aerial shots. I was thinking this meadow would have been perfect to take aerial views for you all. But I did not have the drone at the time. Right now, I am trying to figure out how to work the drone and be able to take awesome photographs of for you all. It would be interesting to take photographs in Philadelphia for you all too. I cannot wait to perfect my new camera. I am also working on some videos for you all too. But they are taking longer to edit. But soon will be out, I promise.
I am so sorry but this dress is sold out by now. But feel free to Google similar dress, if you wish. I always say you can never go wrong with Google when it comes to looking for something.
Stick around for some upcoming Fall 2018 outfits. Make sure you hit the follow button and subscribe with your email.
Love you all,
Valerie P. (a.k.a. your Jersey Girl)
In this Shoot:
Dress by Torrid
Shoes by Teva
Hat by ASOS
Necklace by Lane Bryant
And now for my yearly Jersey Shore blog post. This year I’ve been going to Atlantic City, NJ this summer for my annual Jersey Shore time. On this day I went down to celebrate my mom’s birthday at the brand new Hard Rock Hotel and Casino. These were taken at the beach right in front of the casino next to an old pier on the boardwalk. I had to take some photographs underneath the pier. I do not know what happened to my photos when I was editing them they weren’t so grainy in my editing program. I think I somehow underexpose them in my process. What was also funny, is that the pier’s boards are crooked. I do not know if they were built like this or because of years of wear and tear.
I was lucky this year because I was able to buy three brand new bathing suits for the season to wear to the beach. My favorite of the three would have to be this one. As you all might know, I actually like to mix and match my bikini tops and bottoms. This one is no different. The bottoms I found in the store one day and they were a return in my size. I mean how serendipitous can you get? Turns out they are actually from Torrid’s the Little Mermaid Disney collection. I just love the color, the scale pattern and the little mesh cut out sides. It wasn’t because The Little Mermaid was my favorite Disney movie when I was growing up. It just somehow it was a coincidence that they are.
The top I am absolutely in love in. I just love this crochet top, it such a great little number. For me it’s not just for swimming and the beach, I can wear it as a crop top, too. I can wear it running around town and no one will know that it is a bathing suit top. So it is a great day to night piece for the Jersey Shore. You can spend a day at the beach and then spend the night on the boardwalk in the same top. Which mean you pack fewer clothes for your day trip. What I did is I just put on a pair of dark denim shorts and wore my shear, black bathing suit cover-up on top of the crochet top and I had an outfit for the rest of the day there without having to change. I love things like this because recently I’ve been having days where I am out all day and then I have to be somewhere at night which has made it hard for me to change. I need more day to night pieces like this crochet bikini top
Now I am so sorry but I’ve been so busy. I have barely been on my computer for the past four days. I just had other things to do, such as playing catch-up with some old friends of mine. I haven’t seen some of these people in over a year and missed them deeply. So I had to sacrifice in not posting a photo in over a week on Instagram in order to do other things. I’ve also started the ball rolling in planning my wedding. I do have a date in mind but I do not want to announce it just yet. Not until I have a placed booked for that date, then I will let everyone know what my date is when I send out the save the dates invitations. But for now, I cannot believe I am now planning my own wedding. I cannot wait to blog about my experience with you all.
I also have more, exiting photographs for you all soon. So, please make sure you are following my Instagram @jerseyfashionblog to see what I am into wearing lately.
Don’t adjust your screen, what you see is its true color. Yes, I am wearing a pastel shirt! It’s so far away from my usual bold, dark colors. The shirt is a trendy color for this year: Lavender. Plaid is on trend, too, well bright plaids! But for me, plaid is always in! I just love this top: the color, the silhouette, the lace detail on the ends, and the bow in the back. Because it was a looser top, I paired it with my skinny jeans. And a brand new pair of flats that are so comfy. I loved them so much, that I went back to the store and bought the black and leopard print pair.
Speaking of skinny jeans; I am happy and also sad that they are going out of trend. I’m happy about the change because skinny has been dominating the jean market for years and people were just getting sick and tired of it. I’m also sad because I love skinny jeans. They look good on me, with my height and leg shape. I guess because they look like straight cut jeans on me. I never looked good in boot cut. Usually, with boot cut jeans, I have to get them tailored for my leg. For this season, I plan on buying some straight and boot cut legs for a change and to get out of my comfort zone. But I will always love skinny jeans and will continue to wear them.
Now, I plan to write my blog post from now on the first half about fashion and the second half about what is going on in my life. As of right now, I feel like I have gotten my life back from work. I have found a perfect balance between working for a company and living my life. Even though my dream job is to work for myself. I was working too many hours on my feet with having a chronic illness. So, I started to have a conversation with my boss and she did not understand what was going on. For most people, it can be hard for them to understand that someone is sick when they look perfectly all right. But for most people who are chronically sick, they do look fine on the outside because when they are having a bad day, they are not outside running around. You barely see them when they are at their worse because we have to hide and stay indoors.
So the last straw happened two weeks ago. I had called out because I had a bad day, my energy level reached rock bottom and I could not get out of bed. Well, when I got back I saw on the schedule that I was working four eight hour shifts in a row. When I saw it, my body was like, “no”. So I had enough, I explained on a note that this was too much and I can no longer work over 20 hours a week. I had it changed and now that I only worked 20 hours I actually feel great. It was hard telling my boss that I need to work fewer hours. Growing up in a society where your job is the number one thing in your life. You work expects you to always be available, work hard, and always go above and beyond the call of duty. I think that’s why I hear so many Americans say that they are always tired. Perhaps we are burnt out from our jobs and working too hard five times a week.
Because of that mentality, I felt bad stating what I need in order to be healthy and be able to do daily tasks. I felt like I was going to get in trouble, lose my job, and get scolded. I thought that I was going to get told that this is what I agreed to and I must do it or quit. This is what has happened in the past with employers. I ask for something and been told “no” and stated that if I cannot do what I am told I need to leave or I will be fired. Even in a simple retail environment. It is not that I do not want to work, it simply I cannot work as much because of my disability. Trust me, I want to work as many hours as I can. I could always use the money. Don’t we all? But I decided that I would rather live my life, then let it fly by at a job that I do not like. I’ve decided to adopt a new motto in my life:
“Work to live! Not live to work!”
Love you all,
Valerie (a.k.a Jersey Girl)
In this Shoot:
Top is by Lane Bryant
Jeans by Torrid
Shoes by Lane Bryant
Bag by Born
Well, I finally bring you another blog post! Last week that just passed was a week full of Jerries (Rick and Morty reference). Meaning little useless, annoyances that keep in occurring. And that is exactly what was going on at work. On the other hand, I cannot believe it is almost August. Just two more months of summer clothes and we are back to fall. I am already starting to prepare for fall. All I want are jeans and long sleeve shirts when I shop. I got to do research and start making my fall goals when it comes to looking for fashion. Every upcoming season I do research and I make a list of things I want and as I shop I look for specific items. It helps me not get overwhelmed and get too off track that I spend more money than I need to. Also helps me not to buy too much fad fashion that only last a season. It would be kind of cool to know how people handle season’s trends and try to avoid not buying fad fashions.
This outfit was taken a while ago at the beginning of the summer, I wore it to work and photographed it at a park near my job. I work about a 15 miles away from where I live and the scenery in that area is quite beautiful. There are plenty of parks and nature preserves around the area, so expect to see more of this beautiful area and park.
Everything in this outfit I got a year ago, the cami and the button down shirt are essentials but the pants I got at the Lane Bryant outlet in Blackwood, NJ last fall. They are a little too short for me, I haven’t gotten used to wearing pants this length but I think they will look good in the winter with a pair of high top combat boots too. Also, recently I’ve been wearing my hair like this-this summer. It’s a great way to show off my length but also keep my hair out of my sweaty face all day long. I hate the way I look after work; I’ve been running around so much my makeup melts off my face.; the story of my life. Well, once again I am working six full days this week, so I do not know what I will get done this week for my blog. I’ve also been spending some time making videos for my IGTV channel on Instagram. If you do not follow me, I recommend you do because I will talk more about my days and my beauty routine on my Instagram page. Please follow me and please follow my blog page. Because it will notify you via email if you do when I make a new post, which is I know pretty inconsistent right now since I am working two jobs.
Well…. I must go
Love you all, always,
Valerie (a.k.a. your girl from Jersey)
In This Shoot:
Button Down Shirt by Lane Bryant
Blue Cami by Torrid
Pinstripe Pants by Lane Bryant
Espadrilles by ASOS
So a while back the store I work at had a dress party and we were required to wear a dress. I wore this high, low daisy pattern dress I got at the beginning of the season from Torrid. You see, like most big busted women I have the issue where from the top of my shoulder to where my bra wings start is quite short and that means any type sleeveless shirt or dress is too long and will show my bra wing when I lift up my arms. So I do not fit into the standard tank top strap size. The same thing goes for this dress, the length from shoulder to pit is too long for me. Therefore, I had to place a jean vest overtop not to expose my bra underneath. The only issue is that it was a hot, muggy, humid day so I took it off so I could breathe. So bra exposure once again.
But I love the pattern of the dress. Daisy is by far my favorite flower. So anything daisy print is a must for me. So this dress is a must-have for me, the beautiful rust color and the floral print is just something. I added some of my favorite rings and my white sneaker by Sperry. Sneakers and dress sometimes look so cool, and this dress does it that style so well.
So as for my week, well…………………. I kind of crashed and burn this Tuesday with back spasms from my degenerative disk that I have. You see I actually been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, which means that I have chronic pain and inflammation. So they do not know what is going on but I have evidence that I do have a problem. The only issue is that I can overdo it while working, I call this a crash and burn. And that is what exactly going on this week. I am working more hours than my body can handle. I only wanted to work around 20 hours; three to four days-per-week. Well, I’ve been doing more than that and working six days a week, and more than 30 hours. I actually saw my GP and will see my Rheumatologist next week about my work situation about maybe cutting my hours or going some kind of disability. I know part-time doesn’t seem that much, but when you are dealing with chronic pain, it does add up. Especially when you can work up to six hours without a break and only have one 30-minute break for a 7-8-hour work day. Another thing is that I cannot wear sneakers to work, so when my feet swell, I am screwed and just make myself worse. It not so really great when you cannot wear something comfortable when you are sick.
Well, that is all for now. I will keep you in the loop. Trying to put out more content, especially on Instagram. I actually have an IG TV page, where I will be making videos for. I’m excited about this because you do not need to switch to YouTube anymore catch people’s videos that you follow on Instagram.
Please go check it out!!! You can actually watch IG TV from your computer. And make sure you follow me on Instagram too.
Love you all,
Valerie (AKA Jersey Girl)
In This Shoot:
Dress by Torrid
Vest by Ashley Sweart
Shoes by Sperry
Bag by Thred Up