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By Susan "Honey" Good

I forgive and forget because, I know people err; We are not programmed robots, machines that function with automatic perfection. So, I forgive and forget. But the main reason I forgive and forget is for myself.  My musings for today: Should we always forgive? And why I think we should. 

I am writing on this topic because my husband handed me a newspaper article this morning; "Hard to forgive when hurt continues."  He often times helps me with topics he thinks may peek your fancy and mine, too. I hemmed and hawed over tackling this one because I am not a therapist. Of course darlings, I decided to take a stab at this topic. 

SHOULD WE ALWAYS FORGIVE? YES. DOES FORGIVING MEAN FORGETTING? NO. 

Carrying anger and hateful feelings towards others takes so much emotional energy and is wasted time. It ruins any chance of positivity as you go through your day. I think we should forgive.  

But what about the unfaithful spouse, an angry adult child who lets you down, a boss who fires you without notice, a close friend who betrays, a rude salesperson, etc.  

I am not a therapist therefore I cannot delve into the nitty gritty of anger syndromes. My feelings on "should we always forgive" come from my personal experiences and my perspective. 

WHAT FORGIVENESS DOES NOT MEAN
  1. Forgiveness does not mean you continue a relationship. 
  2. Forgiveness does not mean you should forget what happened. 
  3. Forgiveness does not mean you have to tell the person he or she is forgiven. 
  4. Forgiveness does not mean that you are excusing the person’s actions. 
  5. Forgiveness does not validate the person’s action. 
WHY IT IS HARD TO FORGIVE
  1. You are hurt to your core. 
  2. You feel revenge. 
  3. You want retribution. 
  4. You have lost faith. 
  5. You feel the person will not change. 

Looking back on my school life, my camp life, my young married life, my life in general I did not have any major confrontations. Just the normal stuff. I never lost a close friend, never dropped a friend, never stopped talking to anyone or harbored long-lasting anger. The mother-daughter relationship was the hardest to deal with. I remember always apologizing to my mother; out of respect and because I emotionally felt better. You noticed I did not say, “because I thought I was wrong.”  

Over the past few years I have suffered more disappointments then throughout my entire lifetime. It has been a real learning experience for a woman well over 50. Not pleasant. On the other hand, I have taught myself how to live and handle these upsets.  

I know it is very hard for many women to forgive. As I mentioned in my first sentence I forgive and forget easily. Thank goodness I do not harbor ill feelings for long periods of time. I did have one experience a few years ago. So, I know the feeling of anger where you say to yourself, "it was so bad I will never forgive." You self-identify as the victim. You are filled with retribution. The hurt is too deep or the person was too abusive. They never expressed regret. They never said, “I apologize.” 

  1. Forgiveness means accepting that a person left a mark on you. 
  2. Forgiveness means your peace of mind.  
  3. Forgiveness means a release of negativity. A good sigh. 
  4. Forgiveness means positive thoughts…  this is your power. 

The person who hurt you gave you a precious gift… her negative actions reinforced within you the importance of daily kindness, empathy and love for our family and friends and the ability for us to say, if we are wrong, I am sorry. 

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By Susan "Honey" Good

This was a busy busy week here at HoneyGood.com.

Darling readers my very first podcast appearance debuted. I talked to Elaine Benoit of Maturepreneurial all about HoneyGood.com. Specifically we talked about how I got my start and how you all came together to be such an awesome community. I would really love for you to listen to it. It felt so good to tell my story.

My Sunday story this week was very important to me because I shared the how vital people were in the healing process following my recent surgery. So many of you darling readers reached out with kind thoughts and I am so grateful for you.

Since my recovery I have been really focused on organizing this week. It officially feels like fall and I think that is a perfect time to start over and get focused. I talked about my own quest for an organized system of keeping a calendar and also for paperwork. I did finally settle on a beautiful day book and some new desk accessories to keep me on track, but it really took some time and it might take some time for you too to find your perfect system.

But darlings never fear! I shared plenty of ideas for you on how to organize the chaotic areas of your life including your calendar, your desk or your phone. I even shared some suggestions on how to stay focused for optimal success this new season.

In style and beauty this week it was all about the natural. I love the dark florals that are trending this fall and on Monday I wrote all about how you can incorporate them into your wardrobe this season. Scarfs and accessories and beautiful sweaters all in the deep hues of the fall season are just a must! We also highlighted some fabulous all-natural cosmetic lines. If you want makeup with less chemicals you are no longer limited in color or style or type of product. There are so many options out there.

And finally dear readers, on Friday for “Survive” I recounted an alarming medical incident in my 40s and talked about how crucial advocates are for patients during medical procedures. You should absolutely have a family member, friend or someone hired to be your voice during a hospital stay. In this story my daughter may have saved my life! And having an advocate is not limited to when you are older. If you have younger family members and friends that think they should do their hospital stay on their own share this story! This is true of the old and young alike. We are all equal when coming out of anesthesia!

And finally these words of wisdom really resonated with our Facebook readers. Always ask your questions! How else will you learn?!

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What was your favorite part of this last week? I'd love to hear! Share your thoughts either in the comments below or on FacebookTwitter and Instagram.

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By Susan "Honey" Good 

I have a personal fairy that sprinkles fairy dust over me, my kabbalah red string on my left wrist that guards and protects me, my ultimate concierge husband who loves me and my family and an amazing group of friends worldwide who mean the world to me. Over the course of my lifetime I have learned many lessons through personal experiences. I have never tossed a lesson. Each is tucked in in my mind just in case. And, the ‘just in cases’ have come up again and again. Today, darlings I have a lesson I want to share with you. It absolutely saved my life in my early 40s. The lesson: you must have an advocate, at every age and especially after the age of 50 by your side when you have surgery.  

Why you need an advocate 

It seems every time I have that yearly physical they find something. Good that I go because I am here to tell my stories. 

My family and I were living in Hawaii at the time. The doctor felt a nodule in my neck near my thyroid. They did a needle biopsy and nothing was determined except that it had to come out. With one of my daughters, I flew to Chicago to be near my parents. My other daughter stayed with her father. 

The day of the surgery, my daughter saved my life. If she had not been in the hospital room at that time, I would have died. This was an experience I tucked away into my mind, a powerful ‘just in case.’ 

What went wrong 

After my surgery, I was given a room on the orthopedic floor. Beds were short on the floor I should have been on at the hospital. That is a no-no my darlings. Make sure to remind your doctor you must be on the appropriate floor for your condition. Why? Because an orthopedic nurse does not know the warning signs to look for in a thyroid patient. 

I remember the entire event started to take place immediately upon being transported to my room on the orthopedic floor. I told my mother and father that I was having trouble swallowing. They called the nurse who looked at me and said, “This is perfectly normal.’ 

I was getting worse and had my mom call the nurse again. Her answer was the same. My parents left for dinner. My daughter stayed by at my side. Darlings, I was never left alone and I considered this at the time… family love. Instead, it was a combination of love and advocacy for a young woman still in the throws of anesthesia; a young woman who could not take care of herself.  

After my parents left my daughter noticed that my neck and my ear lobes were swelling. She ran for help. By luck, my surgeon was on his way to my room and my daughter pulled him as they raced together to my room. 

The conversation 

My surgeon: “This is catastrophic. She must be taken back to surgery immediately. Nurses are taught this the first week in nursing school.” 

I don’t remember a word from my daughter.  

Before I knew it I was lying on an operating table with an anesthesiologist bending over me. 

I remember saying, “Please don’t put me to sleep. I don’t want any more anesthetic in my body.” 

They honored my wishes and numbed the area, the kind anesthesiologist leaning close to my ear, talking to me the entire time telling me I would be fine and to just breathe slowly. 

I heard the surgeon speaking. He was furious.  

“This young woman would have been dead if I had not visited her room and listened to her young daughter’s story.” 

“For God sakes, her throat cavity is filled with blood and she was suffocating to death. We would have a young woman lose her life dead through our error and the nursing staff. Thank God, she had an advocate in her daughter.” 

I heard it all my darlings. And, though I was groggy, I was also enlightened and tucked his life saving instructions into my mind.  

Since then I have been my daughter’s advocate, my mother’s advocate and my ultimate concierge's advocate. I have sat up all night in chairs for as long as four days. I have been resolute in protecting those I love.  

And in turn, I have never been left alone. I am afraid to be. And, with good reason. A nurse has several patients; an advocate has your back. 

Reasons for an advocate 
  1. Hospitals are busy. It is a business. They rush you in and rush you out. Mistakes are made. 
  2. Antibiotic-resistant infections can be common in hospitals. Nurses see many patients. An advocate can make sure clean gloves are worn or anti–bacterial soap is used. 
  3. If you ring for help and no one comes, your advocate can get up and walk to the nurses station to get you the attention you require. . 
  4. You cannot beat the emotional support of an advocate. 
  5. If you are going to be disorientated, disabled or unconscious, no matter how briefly you should have someone who can speak for you. 
  6. If you do not have a loved one I suggest you hire an advocate to advocate for you. 
  7. Remember this is not just age-related. Young people get infections and are given the wrong meds and need help and another set of eyes and ears as well.   

Everyone wants to survive. Everyone wants to live a healthy lifestyle. Everyone has to be proactive. Emotionally our special fairy helps and the red string sign of protection guards, but ultimately, it is you who must take the bull by the horn and be your own special fairy.

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By Susan "Honey" Good 

At the beginning of September I wrote about using fall as a time to organize and get focused. Well it’s now the beginning of October…have you started?

And, as I shared with you this week, darling readers, I’ve found my solution for my calendar and paperwork fiascos so if you haven’t started working on improving your organization for the new season fear not. I am here with practical things for you to consider to keep you on track.

Planners 

As I told you darlings earlier this week it took me FOREVER to find one I loved because there are tons of options. As I said the Week-At-A-Glance was really one of my favorites. As you know my writing started with journaling. Did you know there are now planners that double as journals? How fabulous! Pictured above is a planner/ journal by Rifle Paper Co. available for $38 at Anthropologie. If you are thinking of starting a journal maybe this would be a good way to dip your toe in the water?

A morning routine

I love the stillness of the morning. Getting an early start to my day really helps set me up for success, but I know not everyone is an early bird. Consistency will help you get a good start. Establish a morning routine and that will make everything a little bit easier. And your morning routine may even start the evening before. Maybe it’s ironing your clothes the night before, or pre-packing your lunch for work or setting up the coffee pot before you even go to sleep, but once you get up try to do the same thing every morning so you feel in control of your day.

Minimize clutter

Clutter can infiltrate anywhere! I have talked before about how to clean out your closet and I told you earlier in the week about my paperwork conundrum. As for all those clothes, do a fall clothing purge, if you aren’t going to wear it donate it! As for paperwork I now have my three tray system in place and it’s working great. To see if the same system works for you these Safeco trays for $19.98 from Target might be a good way to test it out. If you are up for more of a commitment maybe try the tray pictured above from West Elm. You can buy them here for $29 each and they will add a little glam to your workspace with their metallic finish.

There's an App for that 

Remember those old Apple commercials with the tag line “There’s an app for that,” well there are tons of things you can put on your phone to help you organize your life! I obviously use a phone calendar, but there is an Open Table app to make and organize restaurant reservations and if you are dining in the Big Oven app  organizes your grocery list and gives you recipe ideas and there are no shortage of apps for news. If you own a smartphone it can be a great tool and a weapon in the battle against disorganization because there’s probably “an app for that.” There’s even an app called Mint to help you track your spending if you feel like your finances are disorganized!

Blocking out distractions

Now comes for the “focus” part of the tips. It can be so hard, dear readers, with everything that demands our attention IMMEDIATELY to focus on a task at hand. But unplugging and getting down to business is so often necessary. What about popping on a pair of headphones and escaping from what’s around you for awhile. Some studies indicate that music may actually help you disengage from what is going on around you and help you complete tasks. Music that you already know and that doesn’t have lyrics tends to work best. And if you absolutely can’t afford to miss a phone call the Urban Ears headphones above that retail for $50 have a built in microphone and will allow you to pick up calls when plugged in to your phone.  

Don’t overbook

Taking on a few important tasks per day will help you focus on those tasks. I know, I know, darlings! We don’t like to let people down! We want to do it all, but trust me it’s better to do important tasks well and just say “no” than it is to not accomplish anything to your full ability. And if you need to know how to say “no,” consult my blog.

Make fall great! Identify your problem areas and work on solutions to get yourself organized. You’ll be glad you did once the hustle and bustle of the holidays come around( they are right around the corner!).

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By Susan "Honey" Good

Sometimes less is more right, darlings? In this case isn’t less chemicals more appealing in beauty products? Sometimes reading the labels on our cosmetics can be overwhelming and scary and to think we are putting that on our face! Natural and organic cosmetics have come a long way and have a range of color options and styles to offer now so here are some luxurious brands whose products are stripped down to avoid harsh chemicals.

BeautyCounter

Beauty Counter was started with safety in mind. According to their web site they have banned 1,500 “questionable or harmful chemcicals” from their products noting that the United States government has only banned 250.  Their “never list” explains why each product has been banned. Their sheer lipstick is a best seller. Buy it here for $30 at BeautyCounter.com

ILIA

ILIA’s focus is lip care(and you know how I love lipstick!) and was launched when founder Sasha Plavsic was trying to understand the ingredients on the back of a lipstick package. Their products are up to 85% organic and their focus on good for you ingredients goes all the way down to their packaging made of recycled aluminum.
Tinted lip conditioners are where the product line started and the brand’s come in a variety of colors. You can buy it on Net-a-Porter for $26.

W3LL People

Plant-based formulas are how W3LL People keep potentially harmful chemicals out of their cosmetics. Organic Aloe Vera is in almost every product they make. The company also promises no creasing or fading which is an added bonus for women over 50 looking for coverage out of their cosmetics.
W3LL People’s Bio Correct Multi-action concealer is a combination of organic algae, coffee, pomegranate and anti-aging peptides that not only offers complete coverage, but also all day wear without fading or creasing. You can get the concealer for $22.99 at Target.com

Kjaer Weis

Makeup artist Kirsten Kjær Weis launched Kjaer Weis as a highly curated brand that fused what was good for women with what looked good on women. The line is completely organic and features a refillable compact system aimed at reducing waste. The line is produced in Italy and has a CCPB( Controllo e Certificazion Prodotti Biologici) one of the strictest organic certifications in Europe, which already has stricter standards on cosmetics than the United States, according to her web site.
While some of her products are certified organic others are certified natural. Check out her certified organic mascara. You can pick up the mascara for $38 at Kjaerweiss.com. 

Alima Pure

Alima Pure believes in keeping it simple especially when it comes to an ingredient list. The brand doesn’t use parabens, sulfates, synthetic dyes, phthalates, dimethicone, petroleum, talc, bismuth oxychloride, and nanoparticles. And one step beyond that they offer a glossary online of everything that is in their mineral-based makeup.
But just because the ingredients are simple doesn’t mean the brand is bland. Alima Pure offers tons of bold colors in their products including their lip tint. Get the lip tint for $14 at Alimapure.com.

What do you think, darlings? Are you ready to open up your cosmetics case to some natural products? Maybe you already do! Do you have any all-natural products that you love? Let me know in the comments below or find meon FacebookTwitter and Instagram.

 

 

 

 

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By Susan "Honey" Good

I am a fluid woman; free flowing. I am a persistent woman, I carry on. However, there is a third quality I believe a woman needs in her arsenal, consistency. I think she should use this quality to a lesser degree because consistency can lead to frustration because there is no perfection.  On the other hand, I have determined, I must become more consistent in two areas that fall under the large banner: ORGANIZATION. 

Why? 

I am upset, frustrated and overly annoyed with myself because I lack an organized system both for my 1 million papers and a daily calendar to keep me on track to avoid time management problems. I am exhausted from dashing out the door seven minutes late before I even arrive at my destination. But like everything else, thank God, this lack of organization did not enter into all the nooks and crannies of my lifestyle over 50 just my calendar and my paperwork.  

So for today, darlings, let’s talk about a system for our 1 million papers so we no longer feel crazed and a calendar that affords us the ability to manage our time.  

“The hardest part is making the decision to conquer the unavoidable. The easiest part is the tenacity to carry on and the ability to flow freely through the process." –Honey Good

We have all heard the saying, “keep it simple.” That is my goal because I know the more complicated system I establish the harder it will be for me to stay consistent. I know myself, darlings, and I am tuned into many of you. 

Organizing my paperwork 

As of now, I have file drawers filled with folders in alphabetical order that I rely on when in need. I have been home in Chicago, in my apartment in the sky, since May 5 and have never opened the drawers! Immediately that tells me file drawers are for longterm organization and I only file papers after I have organized them. 

In the digital space, I have a Dropbox account where I store my passwords, my 1 million musings, my photos, the book I am writing, my contracts, etc. My drop box needs organizing. I have my google docs where I store many other folders. It is in disarray. My Google drive needs organizing. I have my desktop where I keep important folders. My desktop needs organizing. So, my darlings, you can see I am trying.  

We will discuss my drop box, google docs and my desktop on Friday under the topic: Survive: Organizing an office on my computer and instead; hiring a sales manager.  

How the paper chaos starts 

I gather up all my papers in my arms and begin to put them in folders in my mind, sorting through them and lining them up in piles on my desk. I am so frustrated. At this time I have important printed business and social emails whose piles need piles, charity events that need checks and answering, notes of what I have to do and notes on who I have to call, a few magazine articles to read, bills to pay, checks that need envelopes and stamps and return address stick 'ems, social dates and all other appointments to put onto one of my two calendars. Before I can file them away or send them out I have to organize them. Leaving them on my desk in piles does not work for me. 

My orgnization solution for paperwork 

I went to a Container Store and bought three containers (handsome trays) because I read on a different organizing topic: we, darlings, only need three of anything (three white shirts, three pairs of black pants, etc.) because we wear 20% of what we own and leave 80% hanging!  

 I bought:  

  1.  A "TO DO" tray
  2. A "TO READ" tray
  3. A "TO FILE" tray  

Anything that did not go into one of these three trays went into my waste basket. 

There is a site I like with organizing tools: See Jane Work

Organizing my time: The perfect calendar 

I use my calendar on my computer. I had been keeping it on "month at a glance" (I could not see all my dates) so yesterday my granddaughter, Skylar who is visiting with my daughter, Jenny, told me to use the "week at a glance." Much better darlings. Every date is visible and color coded. 

I tried two other methods of keeping my calendar. I used my computer for business and a hand -written calendar for social engagements. This did not work at all. Why? Because when I wanted to write down a social date I was sitting at my computer and when I wanted to write a business date I was not near my computer! I did not trust myself so I investigated. I read that one calendar is better than two. 

I bought many calendars and journals this year for experimentation. I choose most of them because I loved their covers; the color or pattern. My favorite was Week at a Glance. The calendar was the least expensive. I purchased it at Home Depot. I did make a small error; the calendar is too large for my needs. 

DARLINGS, I DECIDED THAT BEING TERRIBLE AT SOMETHING IS THE FIRST STEP TO BECOMING GOOD AT SOMETHING. I call that ‘walking on the sunny side of the street.’ 

How do you go about organizing your time and your paperwork, dear readers? Share your favorite ways to keep on track in the comments below or on FacebookTwitter and Instagram.

 

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This fall there is no need to stash away all your clothes with feminine floral prints, dear readers. While flowers seem more appropriate for the warmer days of spring and summer, florals are trending for the fall and there are plenty of fun and unexpected ways to let them blossom in your look this season. Here are some pieces to consider:

Franco Sarto Mules

If you’re going to go for one fall trend you might as well go for two. This floral mule from Franco Sarto will lend metallic flair(another trend for the season!) to any fall outfit. Buy it here: $78 | Dillard's 

Lord and Taylor Floral Scarf

 

For a pop of color without too big of a commitment to the floral look try something like this deep red scarf from Lord & Taylor, which incorporates the darker tones of fall with the beauty of a floral. Buy it here: $48 | Lord & Taylor

Tory Burch Poppy Scarf

This silk scarf by Tory Burch is sure to add a pop of color to your fall wardrobe. Buy it here: $128 | Nordstrom

Ted Baker Floral Silk Cape

Is it a shawl? Is it a scarf? It’s both! This versatile floral silk cape could serve you well dressed up or down or down this fall. Buy it here: $175 | Nordstrom

J.Crew Factory Striped Tee

Just a touch of floral will also do to complete this trend. This black and ivory striped shirt with flower details also features very on-trend bell sleeves. Buy it here:

Escada Floral Jersey Dress

Florals are always a classic look for evening wear. Consider this dress from Escada for a fall function featuring three-quarter length sleeves and a pencil skirt. Buy it here: $787.50 | Saks Fifth Avenue

Vince Camuto Floral Watch

Blush and maroon are paired beautifully on this Vince Camuto timepiece that allows for just a touch of a floral accent. The watch is made with a silicone band, durable for everyday wear. Buy it now: $75 | Vince Camuto

Kate Spade Choker

This stunning choker combines gold accents, a velvet cord and three large deep red poppies to make a bold statement for fall. And if you are someone who is all about matching there’s also earrings.  Buy it here: $198 | Shop Bop

Charter Club Cardigan

The jewel toned falling floral detail of this Charter Club cardigan also features rhinestone embellishments to add some sparkle to your fall wardrobe. But it now: $39.98 | Macy's 

Simply Vera Statement Necklace 

The deep blue stones of this floral statement necklace will match tons of existing outfits in your fall repertoire. Pop it under the collar of a white collared shirt to add a feminine touch to a classic.  Buy it now: $24.90 | Kohl's

What do you think about fall florals?  Share your favorite ways to wear florals after summer in the comments below or on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

This post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on one of the product links, GrammaGood, LLC may receive compensation.

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By Susan "Honey" Good

The most powerful approach to winning an audience of readers is through the art of storytelling, especially true stories where you know the character. In my story, The Dreaded CAT scan, I stressed the importance of being proactive in regards to your health. The story depicted my experience ten years ago with cancer; how I faced fear of the dreaded CAT scan, but never faltered in keeping my appointments, 20 in all over a ten-year period. Twenty scans were normal. Eleven days ago, my surgeon told me, my 21st CAT scan was abnormal. The dreaded CAT scan and my proactive nature were about to save my life a second time. 

After I posted that story on Facebook I learned over 17,000 of you darlings saw that musing. Several of you wrote personal notes on Facebook and on honeygood.com, which I joyfully answered. I was pleasantly stunned, grateful and taken aback, so much so, I wanted to email each of you a personal thank you note letting you know your caring words helped propel me back to health.

Your outpouring of love and concern for my emotional and physical welfare and your appreciation of my post on being proactive about your health was most uplifting over the past eleven days because: 99% of you do not know me. I don’t know 99% of you, yet we have created a Sisterhood through the written word, that is unbreakable. How special is that!

As I reflect on the past eleven days of my life there is one unbroken thread that weaved a stable pattern through my mind. People.

My devoted husband who never left my side, my loving and devoted children and daughter-in-law who were constants in my life, my grands who text messaged and called from as far away as London, my charismatic and loving close girlfriends who phoned, texted, and sent gifts. The doctors and nurses who showered me with concern and excellent care and you, my darlings, at honeygood.com. PEOPLE.

It was a time of realization of what I was about to encounter. It was a time of not wanting to face the inevitable. It was a time of gratitude when the surgeon said, “Your PET scan is normal.” It was a time of fear when the surgeon told me after surgery, “It was malignant.” A time of hope when he said, “Stage 1.  Your cure was the surgery. No chemo or radiation.”  It was a time of sadness that cancer had reared its ugly head. It was a time of anger when I questioned, “why me.”  

Several contrasting and shattering emotions raced through my mind over the past 11 days and one unbroken strong thread helped weave stability through my fragile mind, PEOPLE.

OMG I am so lucky to be surrounded by my family and all of my fabulous friends who I know and you fabulous darlings who I don’t know, but feel I do know!!

 I am so truly blessed and grateful to the inventor who developed the dreaded CAT scan and to my surgeon who got rid of my only enemy in the entire world…Cancer.

I love all of you, over 120,000 strong and I thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being an important part of my daily life.

Here is a sample of some of the beautiful messages I received from the honeygood.com community: 

Elizabeth Clay: You have millions of fans pulling for you, Honey. Lots of support for you, Lovely Lady! ‪️‪️

Sande ChernettI’m a survivor and know you will be again. I’m sending prayers and good thoughts your way tomorrow. L’Shana Tova,   May you be inscribed in the Book of Life for a healthy New Year.

Ines Grzeslo: You are in my thoughts, prayers and positive visualizations! Your strength is admirable and transparency inspiring. 

Georgina Rose Bowling: Thank you for sharing your health update. Many women are not as strong as you are in sharing health updates. You are truly educating our age group! I pray that God gives you peace tonight and all the days following your procedure. May God bless you and keep you safe.

Connie Adams Colquitt: Oh Honey. I hear you. God bless you beautiful friend. I had the upper lobe of my left lung removed two years ago. They found a small 1-A cancer. I, too, continue to go for the dreaded Ct scans and follow ups. The surgery lasted 5 hours. I barely remember due to so many pain meds. I am with you. LET GO AND LET GOD. I feel great now and thrilled they removed it.

Zina Abramowitz Rosenbaum: Honey my thoughts and prayers are with you during this trying time. Just remember you have a guardian angel watching over you.

Karen Brookshire-Jackson: I have been in constant prayer for you over these past three days. Early this morning in my devotional I was given this verse, "Wait for the Lord, be strong and take heart, wait for the Lord." Psalm 27:14
I will continue to pray for you as you walk through yet another journey. As we Episcopalians love to say, "God IS good all the time and ALL the time God is good." May you have peace today as you take another step on this journey and know that so many are walking the walk with you through prayer.
I have included one of my favorite quotes from The Rt Rev Steven Charleston. It sums up what I think God as well as those who read your blog would say of you.

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By Susan "Honey" Good

I hope everyone had a great week and is enjoying their weekend! Today, I want to sum up what went on over here at Honey Good this past week!

I started this Sunday with a topic that has seemed to become a through-line in my entire blog; that is, the idea of being a visible woman. I shared why I feel fiercely awesome and how that allows me to be confident in my inner me and, therefore, remain visible. 

Next, on Monday, I shared a new TV series, Hidden Heroes. I was so impressed and inspired by the premise of this show, to give attention to everyday acts of goodwill, that I just felt the need to let you know. I left you with one question that I want to bring up again because it really is so important: What can you do to push the kindness movement further? In reflecting on this, I realized that I feel most visible when I exude kindness to those around me. 

On Tuesday, I discussed the value in asking the right person for help and my own personal experience in doing so. In my case, asking someone who has gone through a similar situation to the one with which I needed help was most helpful. I love how you all shared your roadblocks to asking for help in our Facebook community. I think awareness is the most important step to moving past these roadblocks. Similar to being kind, asking for help reassures me that I am not alone and that is a powerful thing, my friends. Not only that but, you guessed it, receiving help aids in us women feeling visible. 

Wednesday I shared a wonderful business in northwest Indiana called Mane Image. They specialize in taking a more scientific approach to providing solutions for women with thinning hair or hair loss. I love this because hair does so much for our confidence and helping women deal with changes in their hair as they age can do wonders for their confidence. All that, as you may expect, I hope will lead to more visible women no matter their age! You can read about my experience with Mane Image here

Then, on Thursday, I wrote about how traveling alone after 50 is a great way to meet yourself on a deeper level. With no one else around, you'll find what feeds your spirit and fills you up rather than obliging to other's requests. Traveling alone can also do wonders for your confidence and maybe even give you the confidence to become a more visible woman... I know, I know, too much but I couldn't resist throwing that in there one more time!  

Finally, on Friday, I ended the week with sharing the idea of, no matter where you live, carving out a space of your own. No matter how big or small this space is, it's nice to have a spot to just think and be with yourself. No matter how outgoing and extroverted you may be, I believe having a space that is uniquely you can do wonders for your happiness and confidence.  

Before we end this week, I want to share our Facebook community's favorite quote from this past week because it may have been the favorite of last week, but its message is one that I aim to always carry with me. It is one of my favorites and I am so thrilled that you all appreciated it so much too!

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By Susan "Honey" Good

I am convinced every woman needs a ‘room of her own,’ a figure of speech. The intention is to carve out a space, in your home, where you hold the key. It is your private paradise where you have the time to recycle your thoughts. It is a private and quiet space that makes your heart sing. It is a space where you thrive and survive.

Consider decorating your space with your favorite palate of colors, your books, delightful keepsakes from your children, grands and friends, photographs, a favorite vase filled with fragrant flowers, where you feel extraordinary because you are in perfect tune with your environment.

DID YOU REALIZE YOUR SPACE CAN BE A CONVERTED CLOSET, A PORTION OF YOUR LIVING ROOM HIDDEN BEHIND A BEAUTIFUL SCREEN OR A KITCHEN DESK?

LET'S GET TO THE DRAWING BOARD. COME ALONG WITH ME AS I GIVE YOU IDEAS HOW TO CARVE OUT A SPACE OF YOUR OWN,

 DARLINGS, HERE ARE SOME IDEAS OF HOW TO CARVE OUT YOUR SPACE

A year after my late husband passed away I moved from Honolulu, Hawaii to Chicago. I choose an apartment building two blocks away from my parents and my soon to be husband, Sheldon Good, my ultimate concierge.

I chose a corner apartment facing South and East. Always the best. I turned my small space into a charming Pied –a Terre. I decided to purchase a beautiful French folding screen to cordon off a portion of my living room into a space of my own. I visited a resale shop where I found just what I wanted. It blended beautifully with my décor in the small living room. I placed the screen in the corner of the room. Behind it, I had my French desk with several drawers and chair. I created this space because there was a window facing south which enlarged my space and allowed me to look outdoors as I sat at my desk! I kept fresh flowers on my desk at all times along with my papers and keepsakes. With so little space I had no choice but to try and stay neat. When I had company I moved the screen to another area allowing my desk and chair to become part of the entire room. Over the years I have had other ‘spaces of my own’ but that little corner of my world remains my favorite.

Turn a closet into an office.

 My girlfriend converted a tiny closet into a room of her own. Her office is very small but everything is displayed beautifully. It has a built-in desk and a chair, shelves and walls adorned with family photos, keepsakes and books. And perfect lighting on a rheostat.  It is only meant for one person. I could barely squeeze in with her!  But charming it was. It gave the feeling you were in your mother’s womb.

A kitchen desk.

Many of my friends created ‘their space’ in the kitchen. A few have made them creative. One had some of the lower cabinets removed from her kitchen giving her ‘a niche of her own.’ She placed the desk within that space that overlooked her herb garden. She loved nature.

A ‘room of my own’ in our California home

It is my closet! We built our home ten years ago. I was fortunate to have the opportunity to create what I desired. I decided my room would be a combination closet and office.  I choose a wallpaper with my favorite colors.  The background is celadon green.  The print is several Geisha women dressed in differing designed clothing, in lavender. The carpet is the same celadon green; so are my drawers, shelves and cabinets. The open space has a treadmill with a small built-in TV facing me, a Lucite desk and chair to keep the space airy, shelves for my keepsakes and books, a chaise decorated in fabric matching my wallpaper; where I often write, read and daydream as I look out onto my small private patio. My patio matches my space with purple inpatients, short green boxwood hedges and my favorite tree, a dwarf Olive (the first tree to grow in the Holy Lands.) My carved out room encompasses my love of nature with my favorite colors, photos, books. The room is dreamy and is a reflection of me.

Some of you will feel inspired to carve out a new space or update a space of your own. I think having a key to your own little haven is simply marvelous, darlings. It is a place you enter and immediately sigh because it is ‘you.’

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If you have something to say about carving out your space, let’s talk! I want so much to hear your opinions + feelings. I also want you to speak up so that women our age remain visible. I think we have a responsibility to share our wisdom, don’t you? Share yours either in the comments below or on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

 

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