HI, I am Lauren and I I’m only 5’0. I created Fiercely Charming as a way to empower women at the office, at home, at a girls night, wherever through fashion. I have always been a firm believer that when you dress yourself in your specific style,
Charlie is 3 months old this week (where has the time gone?) and boy have I learned a lot. Not just about being a mom, but about being a human being who has been called to take care of another human being. And beyond that, I think about how blessed we are to be able to take care of him for the rest of our lives, which is such a privilege.
While we’ve learned so much from Charlie, I have also experienced some realizations that I did not expect. For all of you soon-to-be mama’s or gals who want to be a mom one day, take a quick coffee break and take a read.
Single Moms + Parent’s of Twins are Truly Angels. A day or so after we had Charlie, I remember sitting in the hospital thinking, ‘How do single mom’s do it and how do parent’s of twins do it?’ I mean, really – they are absolutely amazing human beings. I always would think, ‘Gosh, twins would be so fun but must be a lot of work. Oh and single parents are amazing – not sure how they do it.’ But you don’t REALLY ‘get it’ until you are sitting in the hospital after giving birth and it just clicks and you realize – Holy smokes, those people are saints. Like how do they do it? So to all of you single parents and parents of twins out there – All hail to you! You are amazing and I have a new found understanding of you.
You Miss your Partner. I talked about this on my Instastory a little bit because I would say this was the hardest thing for me, personally. When Chuck went back to work (3 weeks post delivery), I cried. I had knots in my stomach and just felt like I missed him so much. He was such a huge help when we got home from the hospital and I thought – how am I going to do this by myself (again, the reason I have MAJOR respect for those single mama’s out there – you are amazing!). But I did. You figure it out and you just do it. Then, every night when he would come home, he’d spend time with Charlie and have to go to bed early because he so graciously wanted to help me with one feed in the middle of night and I would do the other. But it felt like we were ships passing in the night with no 1:1 time. Then at around 1 1/2 months post-partum, we started putting Charlie on a nap schedule and that gave Chuck and I an hour at night to be together 1:1 and boy did that make a difference. It allowed Charlie to get good sleep and for us to be together. Win-win!
Life Changes Overnight and You Feel the Mom Guilt Immediately. So here’s whats been on my mind – prior to having Charlie, I worked full time and have been working since high school. It’s all I know and being a ‘career woman’ is who I felt like I was. And I knew when I got pregnant with Charlie, I would get to add a new, adventurous, fun part to my life – being a Mom. But what’s crazy is overnight, you go from working full time – waking up, getting dressed, and tackling your day at the office to taking care of another human 24/7. It’s a change, a major one. And it’s the biggest blessing of a change I’ll ever have in my life but it doesn’t mean I won’t miss the career part of my life. I am fortunate enough to stay home for 6 months on maternity leave and spend time with my boy but it does create emotions that I’ve never had, i.e. mom guilt. There are days where I feel like I need to get out of the house alone and what do you think happens – I feel bad. Like, why do I feel this way? Aren’t I supposed to want to be with my child every second? And in my heart I do, but I realized we all need a mental break from our day to day. So I’m slowly but surely trying to encourage myself to NOT feel guilty when I go get my nails done or go to the store by myself. Would love to know how you mama’s out there handle this?
If you know me, have been following me for awhile, or are just starting to follow me – I love handbags! I love the architecture, the designs, the fabrics, the craftsmanship, everything. I also love functionality of handbags – those that I can wear all the time.
Below, I’ve included a few handbags that are a) reasonably priced b) look designer and c) are functional for your everyday life.
Michael Kors Mercer Leather Crossbody. This bag is simple. It’s easy to throw your wallet, keys and phone in and it will all fit (yes!). The trick to smaller, cross body bags like this is the leather. It has to be a soft leather bag so it’s easy to grab your stuff when you’re on the go.
Rebecca Minkoff Small Darren Leather Bag. The beauty of this bag is it looks like an Hermes bag but is a third of the price (if not more). There are 4 color options that are neutral enough that you can wear it with anything and it easily closes for all you mama’s out there who need a bag that can be closed up fast.
Madewell Transport Tote. Every girl needs a good tote – one they can throw their laptop in for work everyday or to throw diapers and bottles in. This Madewell bag is really well made with a soft leather that is flexible to get in and out of and pairs with any outfit, whether you choose the cognac or black color.
Ok – you know when you’re 30 weeks pregnant, all you want to wear are sweats, sweats, and more sweats. So when the Monday thru Friday grind rolls around, it can be hard to want to put normal clothes on let alone ‘dress up’ for the office. But ladies, I have a go-to trick I’ve been using and I have to say, it’s been working.
Here’s what I do: Grab a pair of your maternity denim or leggings, throw on your maternity tank top or short sleeve shirt, and lastly – the final trick – throw on your favorite blazer. And you’re instantly dressed up for the office. Plus, you’re comfortable (and at this stage in the game, that’s all we want to be!).
Since I’ve been pregnant, I really haven’t wanted to invest in a ton of maternity clothing. Instead, I’ve been investing in blazers, long cardigans, and sweaters that work as my bump grows but also can be worn post pregnancy. So not only do blazers work to dress up your look while pregnant, but is a statement piece that you can wear forever and not just during pregnancy.
Ok ya’ll, ever since I got pregnant, I have NOT been wanting to buy a ton of maternity clothes unless I knew I could wear it after pregnancy. Now, obviously as I get bigger, I’m going to have no choice, but throughout the summer I’m sticking to my favorite pre-pregnancy dresses.
This past weekend we celebrated my parents 40th wedding anniversary at a local farm to table restaurant. So I had to dress up. Now, since I already have the mentality that I don’t want to purchase a ton of new maternity clothes that I’ll wear once and almost never wear again (unless we have another baby – God willing!). So I started shopping online (since many stores don’t have a maternity section in store – including Nordstrom). Nordstrom has absolutely darling maternity clothes but they are so expensive.
Then I came across ASOS.com and ya’ll – I’m addicted. Hands down THE cutest, cost friendly maternity clothes ever. I’ve already bought 2 sweaters for the fall that were on sale ($25 a piece) and a bridesmaid dress for one of my best girlfriends weddings (and that was on sale for $80!). So when it came to finding a fun, maternity dress (that I could potentially wear post pregnancy) for my parent’s anniversary – I went straight to ASOS.com and found the dress above. The best thing about it is I didn’t have to wear a bra or get it hemmed – and it was on sale for $60! I felt like I hit the jackpot.
So my ladies in the market for maternity clothes that are affordable, cute, and will grow with your bump – head to ASOS. You won’t be disappointed. Happy Friday!