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The first time I became aware of challenges specific to different generations working together in a client organization, was over a decade ago. Social media was not yet a major part of our culture. But already, the mix of generations at work was causing its share of covert challenges.  I mention “covert” because the challenges were rarely discussed openly at that time. Young professionals were coming in with valid ideas for new and more efficient ways to utilize technology. They were often stifled by unavailable budgets for change or seasoned managers who were dealing with their own anxiety about learning new systems. The seasoned professionals were building resentment for young professionals who came to the table with proposals for change, with so little experience, in comparison to their own. The younger professionals became increasingly frustrated as they couldn’t get their arms around why their leaders wouldn’t be interested in more efficient and productive processes.

Today, the challenges people from different generations experience with their younger or older counterparts, managers, or employees, can be palpable. For example, Baby Boomer leaders are asking….How do we manage this younger want-it-now generation who don’t seem to understand the culture we live in and the standards we live by? And Millennials are asking…How do we communicate and collaborate with older managers who don’t seem to recognize how are skills can benefit the organization?  People are more likely today to voice their concerns, or judgments, but there is definitely room for more candid and solution-oriented dialogue between generations.

Last week, I was doing some research for a client who is interested in more effectively managing up to a different generation. I came across this article from Birkman International, a Behavioral and Occupational Assessment company with a large global reach. If the topic of generational differences interests you, whether you’re leading,  managing upward, or both, you may find this article valuable and validating. It reflects the fact that every generation is experiencing their own set of challenges with each other’s values, work ethic, and approach to reaching goals and objectives.

It’s not just about how different generations get along. It’s about all of us creating a collaborative environment with diverse colleagues, leaders and customers, during a time of exponential change. —An interesting read that may have us understanding each other a little better.

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In addition to day-to-day demands, an executive leader has several long-term or organization-wide initiatives that demand strategic thinking and planning. The more day-to-day demands build up, the less time we have to be strategic. The more we’re distracted from our strategic demands, the more we begin feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and exhausted. And how much do we accomplish when we’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed and exhausted? Not nearly as much as we need or want to. This type of slump can happen to the best of us, and however short-lived it may be, it’s not a happy place.

If you can relate, here is a pretty simple approach that may help you get back on track, and soon:
  • Put time aside for a brain dump. Make up your mind that you’re going to commit to 2-3 hours off-line to make sense of it all. Schedule an evening or some time on a weekend with the specific goal of re-organizing your thoughts and multiple initiatives.
  • Imagine a bird’s eye view of your current strategic initiatives or goals. Let go of the daily “to dos” during this exercise. As you think of each area or initiative needing your strategic attention—in no special order of importance—simply write the title of each area or initiative on a post-it note and stick them on a surface in front of you.
  • Begin to brainstorm and note any strategies or tasks that you already know need to be done under each initiative. Take the pressure off of yourself to come up with new strategies or tasks for the moment. Just roughly note/document those action items or ideas you’ve already had swimming in your head. Then go from there with whatever else may come to mind during this exercise, or later, under each project title. (If you’re initially writing into a paper or digital document, designate 2-3 pages for each strategic initiative, so you can add to the list as ideas come to mind.)
  • Create clean planning documents. Whether you’re using large paper and post-it notes on your dining room table, or you’re using rough notes on your device to compile the above, you’ll want to transfer your output into a formal working document of some kind. —Something you can work from, use to keep track of your progress and add strategies or steps to. You can also share this more formal document with others, if applicable. Each strategic project or initiative should ultimately have a clean “to do” or “action” list and a planning document or segment of its own.
  • Ask yourself if you’re delegating and/or engaging talent enough. Are there any individuals on your team who are equipped to contribute a rough draft of recommendations towards an initiative? Or, who might offer a strategic perspective and add ideas that may be helpful to your exploration phase of a project or initiative? Invite their perspectives and recommendations.
  • Prioritize realistically. In most circumstances you’re not going to reach the full potential of all of your strategic initiatives at once. Decide what you feel makes sense relating to your most significant priorities. If you need to make that decision with others, decide what you’re going to recommend relating to timing on each project, and why. (Be prepared to state the business case for your recommendations relating to priorities.)
A couple of hours, a brain dump, initial ideas in writing…..and you’ll be back on your way forward at a pace you can feel good about.
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If you’re leading a team you undoubtedly have a percentage of high-performers on the team—People you enjoy leading, working with, and mentoring. People who shine. They take initiative or they take your lead, get better at their jobs, and highly contribute to the organization.

You may also have people who are mediocre or under-performers. They may lack strategic thinking. They may fail to contribute beyond the minimum. Or, they might be trying their hardest yet they’re still falling short of reaching their goals.

Having to roll up your sleeves for the hard work of leading someone who is tough to engage, or who may lack skills or professional drive, is not fun. It can be draining. It can slow your progress towards an objective. It’s understandably frustrating.

It’s natural for leaders to find themselves gravitating towards their high performers. And it’s natural to avoid efforts—that they may see as fruitless—with those they deem as under-performers. Yet, as leaders we have a responsibility to lead and coach every member of our team. We have a responsibility to seek to understand the strengths and struggles of each individual. We’re charged with setting and communicating clear expectations and requirements for performance. We’re called on to coach and develop, and generate accountability.

The personal reward may come when you’ve helped an individual soar in their role, or you’ve helped someone who continues to struggle, to find a better fit for their talents and skills. And if you’ve done it all with a genuine regard for the individual’s well-being, you’ve offered your best. 

 

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Consider approaching a high-performing individual on your team, or an awesome colleague, today. Let them know how highly you think of them. Offer one or two specific examples that highlight ways in which their efforts, skills, or approaches have made a difference to a project, your team, or your organization.
As we struggle to find the time to respond to daily demands, and work towards longer-term goals at work, it’s sometimes easy to take our highest performers for granted. They deserve one-on-one attention and coaching. They may appreciate discussing their successes in more detail, giving them the opportunity to remain pumped about a job well done. Keep them engaged. Ask them how you might best support their career goals, or how you might help them engage in new learning opportunities.
As leaders and professionals, we’re frequently reminded of how important it is to provide timely and specific feedback relating to poor performance. Today, we’re reminded to offer the same service to those who provide outstanding contributions.
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I’ve shared these thoughts before at this point in the holiday season. I think I’m going to make it a tradition because I’m reminded of it each year, either through my own experience, or what I imagine others may be experiencing.

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This is a time of year when we may experience an interesting contrast of emotions. We might find ourselves thinking about all that we have to be grateful for—family, friends, our health, or just being alive. At the same time, our memories or expectations of holiday cheer may heighten our feelings of sadness or concern over the loss of loved ones, struggling elders, challenging family dynamics, career-related stress, or our own or a loved one’s ill-health.

When we find ourselves burdened by difficult or stressful circumstances, whether they be during the holidays or in life in general, we can still enjoy moments of the good stuff. It may be as simple or momentary as appreciating a ray of sunshine warming us through a window, a good conversation with a friend, noticing a beautiful cloud formation, a few hours free of responsibilities or immediate demands, or feeling good about what we might give or offer to others.

May you be grateful for the good stuff, even if you’re in the midst of the tough stuff.

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I’m guessing many of you can relate to the title of this post. It may be about a salesperson who is bringing in a ton of revenue, yet fails to treat support staff with respect. Or, it may be someone with exceptional technical skills who is alienating their peers with poor or gruff communications. In some cases, your ability to enforce certain standards may be—or may feel—limited.

We know how important it is to set consistent performance standards across our teams and organizations. We know how crucial it is for professionals to build internal relationships. Yet, it’s not unusual for specialized talent, tenure, or organizational metrics to get in the way of truly requiring these things.

Situations like these can be very frustrating for managers. They can be even more frustrating for peers or employees who have little to no control over performance outcomes. These circumstances can also cause unrest and low morale on a team.

The good news is, as a manager, you always have the freedom to engage someone in their own development. You still have the opportunity to provide candid feedback, coaching, and support. You may want to start with a formal and genuine exchange. Get the person’s perspective of their comprehensive performance, offer yours, and go from there.

So what can you do if a difficult, yet gifted, person reports to you or is a key contributor in your organization? Here are just a few quick guidelines that may help before, and during, that necessary one-on-one discussion:

– Before the meeting, take time to review or consider the job description or “requirements” of the job. (Ideally, they’re documented.) Note any competencies in the job description that fall under interpersonal successes. Do any of them describe attributes relating to service attitude or teamwork? If so, this will help you discuss what’s expected relating to relationship building. You can also use your organization’s values, if applicable, as an anchor for discussion.

– Schedule a meeting with the individual to discuss their perspective of their successes and challenges on the job. Assure them that you’ll offer your perspective as well. Let them know that your goal is to establish how you can partner with them to best support their development and success.

– As you prepare, be ready for resistance or defensiveness, so that you’ll be ready to respond versus react. Be prepared to calmly respond while reiterating the importance of improved relationships. Give some thought to what resources, articles, or tools you may be able to provide them in support of this goal.

– Ask them for their perspective first. Ask what’s going well, and where they may be struggling on the job. Listen and take notes as they answer both questions. Once they’ve finished, offer your perspective. Come prepared with specific examples to validate their successes, and to help clarify their development opportunities.

– Let them know that they are your very first choice to be successful in this role. Reiterate that their position calls for their ability to build collaborative internal relationships. Let them know that you’re willing to provide coaching in support of their development efforts.

– (This would be a great time to offer any resources or tools, mentioned in the third bullet, above.) Ask them to choose one or two specific action plans or new approaches that they’re willing to focus on and use within the next few weeks. (Be prepared to offer a few ideas if they’re stumped.) Let them know you’ll meet again to debrief their experience with action plans, and discuss any results or challenges they may have experienced. Tell them you remain available in the meantime for any questions or if they think a conversation will be beneficial.

– Before leaving this meeting, schedule that follow-up meeting 3-4 weeks out to discuss progress and establish a way forward. Be sure to confirm about a week ahead of time and restate the objective of the meeting. This approach reinforces the importance of their willingness to take part in their development.

Although addressing performance relating to interpersonal traits and behaviors is not easy for anyone, applying these simple tips is a great start for further discussions and results.

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I was inspired to write this brief post after a business associate expressed that she’d like to learn how to be empathetic when frustrations are high. I thought that was a brilliant goal. And a hard one to reach. It got me thinking and this is what I came up with………

People who are striving to be more empathetic at work can generally find small ways to practice. They can ask more questions at the beginning of a conversation to better understand where someone is coming from. They understand when someone who is grieving is not at their best. They may reach out and offer support to someone who is struggling with a specific work issue.

It’s difficult to practice empathy at work with someone who frustrates us over time. When we’re focused on our own feelings we’re less likely to have a genuine interest in understanding others. We tend to judge and defend. We’re less equipped to influence or experience collaborative results.

It’s even more difficult when our buttons get pushed in the moment. We have an immediate physical reaction. Our heartbeat increases. Our palms sweat. We become defensive, resentful, angry or frustrated. Being empathetic to what the other party is experiencing in that moment is near impossible. We’re way too busy inside our own heads!

Not impossible though. One effective approach is to better prepare for those sensitive meetings or conversations. Prepare to tap into your self-awareness. Commit to noticing your sudden physical reactions. And when you do….Stop, Probe, and Listen. Prepare to learn more before responding. One hallmark of empathy is considering others’ feelings. Perhaps the other person is not equipped to receive your idea in the moment. Maybe a calmer conversation in a follow-up meeting will be more effective.

Choose a specific upcoming meeting or conversation and practice. Increase your contributions, influence and results.

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In the spirit of Summer and life/work balance, I thought I’d share the following article I wrote some time ago. I updated the number of years now spent in our neighborhoods, but the enjoyment of walking in the city remains the same for us.
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I grew up in Rochester, on the east side of the city, and I’ve continued to live in the city for most of my life. The sounds of the city, including passing traffic, lull me to sleep at night. I find myself missing the traffic buzz when I’m traveling and staying in a suburb or country setting. I understand that a small city like Rochester, NY is a far cry from what you might experience in Chicago or Boston, but I love it here.

My husband and I have felt at home in the Park Avenue/Neighborhood of the Arts neighborhoods for over 30 years. We raised our children here. They attended city schools and enjoyed a diverse group of school and neighborhood friends.

One of the things we love most about living in the city, is that we can go out to dinner, take in a movie, shop, or people-watch, without ever getting in the car. If we want to take it slow, and enjoy our surroundings and each other, a pair of walking shoes will carry us from dimly lit neighborhood bars, to casual bistros, bright diners, European-style coffee shops, and a variety of international restaurants that offer casual to fine dining.

We can walk to a supermarket, bakery, ice cream shop, gift shops, a beauty salon and spa, and the Post Office. We have Cobbs Hill Park, the Memorial Art Gallery, a variety of small art galleries, the Eastman House, and the Museum and Science Center and Planetarium, all within a three-mile radius. We can walk downtown and check out the calm or raging river depending on the day. And we can enjoy a mix of modern and old architecture along the way.

We share our neighborhood with many long-standing merchants and residents, as well as a robust rotation of businesses and neighbors. Our neighbors—from the Monroe, Park, East, and University Avenue areas—range from affluent to poor. It’s not unusual to encounter a wealthy business man sitting at an outside café with his client, while another man is pushing a clanking grocery cart full of returnable cans and bottles, reflecting his hard work and his day’s wage. Once in a while we’ll encounter the transient or familiar individual who will pass through and approach us for money. Or we’ll enjoy guitar music from the guy who’s playing on the sidewalk hoping to collect a few dollars in his music case.

On a walk through the residential neighborhoods on a summer afternoon, from one vantage point on the street, we might hear jazz coming out of one house and hard rock from another. We’ll see children playing, college kids gathering on a nearby roof patio, and an elderly couple walking on the sidewalk that they’ve shared for 30 years. Or, we might pass a formal garden wedding reception taking place in the yard of an old and beautiful home. After dark, while walking through the same neighborhood, the glimpse of flickering lights and movement in each house window profoundly reminds us of the simultaneous realities taking place only 50 feet apart from one another.

We have our share of visitors in the area—people who might take an afternoon or evening to visit this part of the city. So, if you’re in the mood to slow down a bit, even just for a couple of hours, take a break—park the car, grab your walking shoes, and enjoy.

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