October is in full swing! And now that we’re in the last phase of the year, it is a great time for me to reflect on the experiences I’ve had and memories shared. By looking back I can start to set my sights on how I want the remainder of 2017 to unfold.
I don’t know about you but hibernation mode has been switched on. The shorter days and cold weather will be the perfect excuse for me to keep my head down and really focus on personal development, self care and generally moving life forward.
This year has been equally bitter sweet. After a turbulent end to 2016, leaving an abusive relationships and saying goodbye to my beloved Bournemouth, to start from rock bottom. I’ve had a chance to find my feet on my own and focus on self growth. This blog has been a true reflection of those ups and downs. And although another year has gone by with me not being as consistent as I’d like with posts, looking back I can cut myself some slack because here’s what I have been up to:
Jamaica – Our first family holiday. Discovering more of my roots and family history. A real learning experience for me and my son and the perfect surroundings to heal.
Sky News Interview – My first experience on Live TV! Telling my true account of how I struggled financially as a single parent, regularly skipping meals so my son didn’t go without.
Refinery 29 U.K Interview – Speaking up about the struggles young parents face when it comes to returning to work as well as trying to juggle childcare and part time work.
The Blogger Market – The nicest day with a close blogging friend. We were in our element with second hand clothes and accessories, taking breaks from shopping to get stuck in with workshops.
Brighton – Earlier this year I met a wonderful human whom I was lucky to share some amazing adventures with this summer. Our first being a day in Brighton. The sun shone, the atmosphere was glorious and it was a perfect excuse to show someone my happy place by the sea.
Volunteering at Oxfam – In early April I finally started volunteering at a local charity shop. I’ve wanted to volunteer for the longest time and found the perfect fit. It’s become part of my weekly routine and my wardrobe has expanded rapidly. I cannot resist a bargain!
Rekindling relationships with family – Growig up I didn’t really have anything to do with my siblings, but as we’ve all gotten older and had families of our own, it’s nice to re-connect and start building those relationships. Even though they’ve always been there, I feel like my family has grown and I feel part of an extensive family tree.
The Shard & Sky Garden – With previously mentioned wonderful human, I planned the nicest day out in London to The Shard for his birthday. We also spontaneously booked a spot in the sky garden in the ‘walkie talkie’ building. The whole day with great views and company was perfect.
THIS photo shoot – I finally met Yossy after sharing the same twitter banter over this summers Love Island. She’s an amazing photographer who I was lucky to shoot with and love seeing her evolve and try new things with her style and edits.
Sweden – Speanding 3 days in Stockholm was my favourite and dare I say highlight of my year so far. Check out the photos in THIS blog post and what I have to say about my new favourite city in the world.
And the newest venture. The beginning of my diploma in Floristry. All my life I’ve struggled to find my purpose but I finally feel like I’ve found my calling in life. Floristry combines my creativity, passion for nature and will allow me to put into action my entrepreneurial spirit. For the first time in a long time, I’m excited for what the future holds, I have so many ideas and am learning new skills every week. Big things are going to happen for me in 2018 I can FEEL it!
It’s been a year since my ex assaulted me for the last time. Although this was not how I invisioned our relationship ending, I’m so happy to be away from this toxic person and on the other side, where the grass really is greener.
Now that I’ve had a whole year to get my shit together and look back on the trauma of the relationship (and aftermath.) I’m ready to make peace with it. I’ve licked my wounds and rooted myself in new fertile soil, where I’m going to blossom. I’ve spent the last year de-worming the foundations of my life. I’m now sewing my seeds for the future. (Gotta love a nature metaphor AY!)
So, I’m ready to talk about how living with a narcissist can change you. How being with someone who brings out the worst in you, is the most brutal lesson in self awareness. How trying to love someone who hates themselves shatters the hope that there is any real joy in the world and that you aren’t worthy of love.
You live each day trying not to say the wrong thing or let that person push your buttons. You cut off friends and family to avoid conflict and drama. The cycle of emotional abuse continues, for weeks and months, turning into years. Eventually you grow into an angry and bitter person. You’re a snappy and impatient mother. A judgemental friend. A distracted employee. A lazy, begrudged partner. That’s just what a narcissist wants, they want to be the better person. They want to have the control and power over you. They make you believe you’ve become the problem, while victimising themselves.
Once you’re left with a shred of the vibrant and optimistic self you used to be, you’ll look in the mirror to be confronted with a reflection of the person you’ve started to resent. You start to resent them for turning you into someone you wouldn’t even want to spend time with. You’re angry at yourself for being manipulated. But you know this is not who you are, this is not the person you want to become. You realise this is the beginning of the end. It took a long time, but you’re aware now. You know that you’re the heroin of your story. You can break the cycle and save yourself. You don’t even know if anything close to love exists. But you live in hope, because you’re starting to love yourself and that’s where you reclaim your power.
I finally cut off the baggage that was anchoring me in one stagnant position. Cut ties with people who don’t have my best interest at heart. I made a decision that will affect me and my son for the rest of our life, but one I have no doubts or regrets about, because we are thriving.
In some ways I feel like the same person that I was a year ago: I have hope, I’ve reclaimed my power and am learning to love myself more and more each day. On the other hand, I’m so so far from that place that I don’t even recognise who I was. That chapter is over. When I talk and think about it now, I see myself as a close friend who was going through a struggle. Glad to see they’ve come out of it, a little bruised, but unscathed. That’s a nice perspective.
This last year I’ve proved to myself that actually, I can do this on my own. I can rely on myself. I am MY best friend. I’m the definition of a strong independent woman who don’t need no man! My vibration is HIGH. My aura is glowing.
I’ve defined what I want and what I don’t want. What’s worth my time, energy and resources and what sure as hell is not. And boy can I spot a red flag from a mile off.
It was brutal and soul shattering living with a narcissist. But here I am today, grateful for that lesson, living my best life, becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be. I’m not quite there yet, but wow look how close I am now. *plays Thank You by Jamelia*
The reason I’m baring all in this post is because I want any other person who’s going through or has been through the same thing, to feel empowered. I’m a reminder that no matter how bad things get, you can take control of your life and turn things around.
Yesterday marked the official first day of Autumn! What felt like a blink ago was the beginning of September. Now October is just a hop, skip and jump through crunchy leaves away. I can’t even remember the last time I did a wish list on the blog, but I’ve been in my creative element lately and have been itching to collate some beauty, fashion and home pieces that I’m lusting over right now.
FASHION & BEAUTY | MAMA
This is the season I get most excited about when it comes to style. SHOW ME ALL THE KNITWEAR! I find it so much easier to dress in the autumn; layers, boots, thick tights and a bear-like coat to get you through those chilly days.
For the past two years I’ve been rocking the same Zara coat. For £80 it was a great investment (still adorable with a few more winters left in it), but I’d love to add this fluffy beauty to my collection. I’m so glad I’ve embraced colour into my wardrobe this year, it would only be right to continue my pink fetish into winter too. | Not forgetting the essential that is a black leather jacket. | The mustard colour scarf I think it would go perfectly with the olive knit jumper. | In the winter my ears are particularly sensitive to the cold, I’ve learnt from last year that ear muffs are essential for me. | Now how cute is the giant Pom Pom scarf?!
With the recent launch of Fenty Beauty I am so desperate to get my hands on the collection! I’ve seen and heard great things and am lusting over it right now. | Even though I have 100’s of red lip products I also really want some NYX lip glosses, in berry shades of course. I’ve always loved the matte lipsticks by NYX but gloss is making a comeback into my life.
FASHION & HOME | SON
This summer my boy has gone through at least two growth spurts I’m sure! So I’d love to get him some new bits this Autumn to see him through till spring. | Priority being a thick and rain proof coat. I can’t fault Next for their range of suitable outerwear. His teacher has informed us that they play outside in all weather so a robust jacket is absolutely essential. | Speaking of school, I adore the Baby Groot rucksack! Which would be perfect for him throughout the week. | When I saw the blue bomber jacket I had to add that too, it’s perfect for weekends when we go on adventures, and would be a perfect combo with the red hat. | He has one jumper that still fits him from Christmas time, so I’d need to stock up on some more. Thebright yellow one makes a nice change to his very blue and green dominated wardrobe. | As for lazy days at home, he’d be the perfect cuddle companion in that fluffy robe, throw in some matching striped pyjamas and shark slippers in for good measure too.
Speaking of home, there’s a few additions to his room I think he’d love. Especially the starry night light, I’ve been telling him all about space recently and he has a space poster on his wall. So I think he’d appreciate watching stars floating around before bed time. | So I might be a bit obsessive with pillows and ‘scatter cushions’ but the message on this one is really cute! | At the moment his dirty clothes end up in a pile on the floor so to make my life easier, a small dirty washing basket would be handy to have rather than flinging them into the hall or ‘as close to other dirt washing pile as I can get’.
STATIONERY & HOME
Okay, I saved the best for last! Having recently returned to college, I can actually get excited about stationery again and have already spent far too long in Paperchase and probably spent too much money on notepads. But I’m full of ideas so can never have too many *wink*. | All that note taking soon works up an appetite, give me a pink lunch box full of sushi and I’m yours. | Everything Kate Spade produces I gasp at because it’s perfection. From the black studded phone case, to gold striped coffee flask and polka dot notebook. *HEART EYES*. | The pusheen pencil case is just too adorable to resist! | Did someone say chai tea?! And you’re telling me my house can smELL LIKE IT?! I think it’s a match made in heaven to be honest. I’d also love a Jo Malone although it costs the equivalent to my weeks worth of food but CANDLE!|Who doesn’t appreciate an illuminated pumpkin in the month of October. Also fairy lights in general come out as soon as it gets dark by 6pm| My crystal collection is steadily growing but there’s always room for more rose quartz and amethyst to harness positive energy within the home. | Finally, it wouldn’t be winter without THE FLUFFIEST BLANKET YOU’VE EVER SEEN, don’t you just want to rub your face in it?!
Look at how excited that homeware made me, I couldn’t help myself with the capital letters. The enthusiasm is real. I hope you liked my little collections of autumn and winter wants and perhaps shared a few with me too. Would love to know what you’re currently lusting over, let me know in the comments!
Okay guys, before you get stuck in. Make sure you’re comfortable because this post contains A LOT of photos. Starting with the most beautiful hidden gem in the countryside where we stretched our legs.
It’s about a four hour drive from Stockholm to Kalmar. After rainbow spotting, talking about superpowers and listening to hilarious YouTube videos, we needed a pit stop. Which turned out to be the luckiest find and one of my highlights of the trip. It was the cutest and typically Swedish spot. The sun glistened on the surface of the lake which I spent a quiet moment admiring from the hammoc. It was very idyllic. We watched a couple of swedes getting ready for a dip and spontaneously decided to go for a swim too. Nowhere near as cold as skinny dipping in Bournemouth at midnight, it was so serene. A soul cleanse that had us feeling refreshed for the remainder of the drive.
The next week was much more slow paced compared to 48 hours in Stockholm. We took our time to look around the town, visit the beach and got to know some lovely horses. Kalmar is a wonderful place, just a short drive away from the beautiful holiday island Öland which we travelled to a few times:
(That’s Kalmar in the distance from Öland) The perfect place for a dip in the Baltic Sea, somewhere you could set up camp for the day and frolick around.
Each year at the end of summer the residents of Borgholm, in Öland come together in the town centre to sell their second hand stuff. It’s like a huge car boot sale! On our last day, we took a walk around the town. I admired the buildings and took pleasure in seeing so many people enjoying the last of the summer weekends. There was music and hot food. The streets were brimming with crafts, furniture, clothes and nik naks.
We had a bite to eat, well a few plates actually at the nicest sea-front buffet.
Then continued on to Borgholms Slott (castle), which I hear is thriving in the early summer months with concerts, festivals and family activities.
If you remember my post about relaunching the blog, you’ll know I’m making a few changes around here to reflect my personal growth. I’ve refined my style and direction but will still remain personal. Which made me think I should probably re-introduce myself so you guys can get to know the person behind the blog a bit better. I’ve seen those ‘get to know me’ tags and thought it would be fun to do a little one of my own. Because if you’re as nosey as I am, you’ll love finding out the answers to these random questions. I’ll save the boring facts for the about me section. So here goes:
Are you named after anyone?
I’m told that I’m named after a famous actress called Cyd Shareese. But I think my mum just liked the name (I also have three middle names so she really wasn’t holding back).
When was the last time you cried?
Last week when my son brought me to tears, seriously he’s going through THE ASSHOLE PHASE.
If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?
I actually think this is a really important question we all need to ask ourselves from time to time. I always aspire to be someone that I WOULD want to be friends with. And to be the blogger I’d want to follow. There’s no persons opinion I value more than my own, and if I’m proud of myself and want to be around me, then that’s all that matters.
Do you use sarcasm a lot?
I don’t really and I always lack common sense when other people use sarcasm, it takes me a minute to get it haha.
What’s the first thing you notice about people?
The warmth behind their eyes and their smile. I love to see people smile, I also have a thing for teeth, I admire someone who has nice teeth. Is that weird?!
Scary movie or happy endings?
Happy endings of course! I’m such a hopeless romantic.
Vanilla, rose anything that is sweet and floral. Oh and cinnamon!
What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home?
This is an odd question because I feel like home isn’t always a destination but a feeling… Sometimes being with family or certain people make you feel at home. BUT I’d say ‘technically’ Jamaica is the furthest I’ve been from ‘home’ being in England.
Do you have any special talents?
Yes overthinking, being stubborn and blocking my own blessings.
Where were you born?
What are your hobbies?
Aside from blogging, I love getting creative. Whether it’s making something, painting, baking, knitting. Does drinking gin count as a hobby?
What do you want to be when you grow up?
Financialy stable. International florist owner. A better mother. Somebody’s wife.
How many countries have you been to?
6 I think. France, Belgium, America, Jamaica, Sweden and Denmark (even though I just travelled through).
What was your favorite/worst subject in School?
I absolutely hated History (I blame my dickhead teacher who told me off in front of the whole class). My favourite was drama, art and English, even though I wasn’t always very good at them.
What is your Favorite drink?
Anything that has elderflower in it. To be honest I could split this whole question into categories; tea, alcohol (then I would split that into wine | gin | cocktails etc), fizzy drinks, squash, cordials. The list is honestly endless.
What would you (or have you) named your children?
My son is called Corben. But I love the names Wendy and Luna for a girl. When I was little I wanted a little girl called Maya. And for boys I’ve always like Leo.
Who are some of your favorite YouTubers?
Honestly I don’t really make time to watch many vlogs/vloggers. But I did write a post earlier this year on my current favourite bloggers, which still remains the same.
How many Boyfriends have you had?
Omg I don’t even want to re-live all the mistakes I’ve made. Let’s skip that one.
Favourite memory from childhood?
I don’t remember that much from my childhood! One of my earliest memories is when I went camping, I vividly remember the bluebless in the woods and poking an ants nest with sticks. Also primary school was a pretty decent time of my life haha.
How would you describe your fashion sense?
Basic? LOL I just like shopping in charity shops. I mostly wear neutral colours but have been adding a lot more pink into my wardrobe this year. I’d say I can be quite girly… I don’t own any trainers. I get a lot of inspiration from Pinterest, I have four different boards dedicated to fashion throughout the seasons.
Tell us one of your bad habits!
I always get ingrown hairs on my knee, and it’s a really bad habit that whenever I have bare legs and am sat down. I sit and pick them out with my nails. *cringe*
I hope you’ve enjoyed getting to know me a little better! Why not copy and paste these questions and answer them on your blog? Tweet me if you do as I’d love to have a read.
I’ve been teasing you guys with photos of our trip to Sweden, so you better grab a drink and some snacks because it’s a long one. Get in a comfy position and enjoy this two day jam packed weekend in Stockholm (now my favourite city in the world).
Before I even touched down on Swedish soil, I was admiring it from the air. You can see how luscious and green the land is, there are trees and water everywhere. It makes for quite a stunning photo.
We landed at around 3pm after an 1hr30min flight, which still amazes me as it takes me longer to get to East London! We had another hour drive from the airport to where we were staying in Nacka, Stockholm.
The view once we got there was incredible. I noticed how different the skyline is compared to London; there aren’t many skyscrapers or tall buildings, which makes the rooftops that poke out even more captivating. We sat on the balcony with a glass of wine, enjoying the sunset before retiring to the sofa to watch a movie.
On Saturday we woke up bright and early. It was raining pretty hard, but we deicided to get some brunch at Greasy Spoon. I usually hate the word hipster, but that would be the best way to describe this cosy restaurant. It’s vegetarian and vegan friendly too. The food was incredible, I had eggs florentine. Corben had dippy eggs, which came with the most delicious mashed potato! (I realise I forgot to snap the food on my camera, it was on my insta stories but I also forgot to save it, boo.)
This was the first time we dined out in the city, at first the prices baffled me but I soon got used to working out the GBP equivalent. You can expect to pay London prices throughout the city. It was a little pricey here at around £9 for a cocktail and £16 for a full English BUT the quality and service made it worth it; all the staff spoke fluent English. While we’re on the topic, most swedes can speak English so you won’t struggle communicating with the ‘natives’.
As it was still raining heavily, we headed to the Mall of Scandanavia after breakfast. Let me tell you guys, it was the fanciest bloody shopping centre I’ve ever been to in my life! The shops were swanky AF, the toilets were A* and everything was squeaky clean. We spent a few hours there that morning, and it actually became one of my highlights of the trip. It was such a nice way to stay dry, kill a few hours an soak up more of the Swedish lifestyle.
I got some new garms and shoes for Corben, we ate sushi, bought some wine then headed to Stockholm’s equivalent of the shard: Kaknästornet. With a sky bar, cafe and restaurant as well as breathtaking views for a mere £7 entry (children under 12 go free), it’s absolutely worth a visit.
It was hella windy up there but I loved getting more of a birds eye view. Just look at that green landscape!
We stopped for a delicious chokladbollar (chocolate ball, a common and traditional Swedish treat) and coffee while taking a moment to soak up the view. When we finally arrived back at the apartment, it was very tempting to call it a day. BUT we dragged ourselves out to visit Gamla Stan (old town) in the evening, and I’m so glad I did because it was a great atmosphere.
Ahh just marvel at the prettiness! There are SO many places to eat and drink in old town, you’ll struggle settling for one like we did. I noticed many of the restaurants served your typical Swedish meatballs but there were plenty of restaurants with vegetarian friendly options. You’ll find something within a reasonable price range as well as if you’re feeling a bit fancy. There are cute shops and pubs, I’m a bit sad I didn’t get a chance to visit during the day. We hoovered up some lovely grub at Il Buttero, their seafood pasta went down a treat. Then we poorly navigated our way back and called it a night after a few too many glasses of wine.
Sunday morning arrived with a slight hangover but with glorious sunshine and the promise of another exciting day. We vacated the apartment early and headed to Södermalm for more exploring, before a road trip to Kalmar.
Is it boring that I really appreciated the buildings?! They’re all painted in such aesthetically pleasing pastels and earth tones. There’s a nice balance of character, charm and modern living.
I would actually say that’s a perfect way to describe Stockholm as a whole. I may forget the tiny details of our visit, but I will always remember the way I felt here, which was surprisingly at home. This is one of the few places I’ve visited in the world I had such a positive vibe from.
Before we could get too far, our stomachs demanded to be fed and I think we found an alright spot for it too. Can you guess what we had?
That’s right. SUSHI. And damn good sushi it was. So we did a little more shopping and window shopping.
We then took a walk to Katarinahissen which had amazing views of Old Town:
I’ve been in Sweden for 7 days now and sadly my trip is near its end. BUT as I’m flying home from Copenhagen on Sunday, we’re headed there tomorrow and only have one day to cram in some sightseeing and explore as much of the city as possible. So I’ve been organised for once in my life and have created a small bucket list of the things I’d most like to do to get the absolute most out of our short stay.
The Botanical Gardens – If you need to know one thing about me it’s that I have an obsession with plants. As a florist in training I always like to admire the local botanical shops and have been desperate to visit a botanical garden. So this one is absolutely top of the list.
But before I get lost in a green jungle, we need to fill our tummies. So what better place than a veggie friendly all day breakfast cafe?! Møllers Kaffe og Kockan (find them on Instagram) looks like the perfect spot!
Luckily, this trip is timed quite well with the harbour festival, which is only on this weekend looks like a great event that is also child friendly. There’ll be music and activities we can spend a few hours in the afternoon enjoying.
To get the full Danish experience I need to try some good danish cuisine. Restaurant Kronberg had me at ‘homemade food and coziness’, they serve the traditional smørrebrød (open sandwiches), it would be rude to visit Denmark and not try one!
It’s going to be a long and busy day but hopefully I can tick off everything on here. Have you visited Copenhagen before? Is there any must see places you’d recommend? Let me know in the comments or tweet me your suggestions!
In the past week, I’ve realised you have to make the most of random opportunities. In the past seven days I’ve visited the seaside and had a spontaneous day trip to Bath. As hectic as life can be, I think it’s important to allow ourselves to do something different to the norm.
Recently I was kindky asked to visit SeaLife Weymouth to review as they’ve recently added a new Octonauts attraction, if you have a child 5 and under you’ll know the excitement my son would have over meeting his favourite character, (post coming soon). I decided it would be a good idea to make a trip of it and book a hotel for one night in Weymouth.
We arrived to the sound of seagulls and the warming smell of fish and chips. As I sat in the garden enjoying an alcoholic beverage, I took a moment to enjoy the change of scenery. Although it was only a mini break it was a real relief just to be somewhere different. My son interacted with other families visiting, we had a short beach stroll and embraced the fresh sea air.
It was a needed break from reality that I didn’t even know I needed. It made me realise how important it is to experience new things as often as we can. To make the most of random opportunities and just be a little spontaneous. With this attitude I gladly accepted an invite to a day trip up to the wonderful city of Bath with a new friend. We took our little ones, armed with snacks on a drive, strolled around the town centre and stopped for lunch at Giraffe (*cough* who have 50% off burgers on a Tuesday *cough*). If you saw my insta stories, you’ll see the gorgeous buildings I snapped and the Spanish musicians who blessed our eardrums. The sun shone, we played in the park and had an interesting interaction with the pigeon man. At the end of the day I was content and positive at how easy it is to make new friendships when you’re willing to do new things.
Making time for a new experience doesn’t have to be expensive, it could just be travelling to somewhere new, getting lost, going for an adventure to discover what the neighbouring town has to offer.
Do something you’ve never done before. Go somewhere you’ve never been. Embrace new experiences. You’ll be surprised at the growth that can take place within you when you actively seek adventures.
What have you done out of your normal routine lately? Let me know in the comments!
‘You become the people you spend most of your time with.’
The sad truth of this is some of us spend more time on social media than we do actually being with friends. (As an introverted extrovert who secretly enjoys being alone, I definitely do). Even if you don’t want to admit it, social media has a huge impact on your life and therefore your mind. So take a close look at the people you follow and ask yourself if they’re a good influence in your life.
The great thing is about social media is you are in control of what you see. You can personalise your feed or customise your timeline. It’s never been easier to filter out the bullshit. You don’t have to tolerate negative or toxic behaviour or be obliged to stay supporting someone that you do not agree with. You don’t need to listen to anyone that makes you negatively question yourself.
Ask yourself these questions; Is your timeline a toxic environment or is it a place that nurtures your mind? Does the content you see daily educate you? Or make you laugh? Do the individuals you follow make you big up and love yourself? Are you inspired? Are you building connections with brands you admire? Are you forming friendships with like minded individuals?
If not my friend, then it’s time to go on an unfollow spree. Earlier this week I went through my twitter and unfollowed over 200 accounts. It felt fucking great. I had absolutely no guilt and let me tell you why:
Firstly, I’M SEEING MORE OF THE CONTENT I ACTUALLY WANT TO SEE. I’m actually clicking on blog posts that I want to read because I’m not overwhelmed. My timeline is now filled with inspiring women (and men) from all backgrounds. I have a diverse and eclectic variety of people who contribute something important to feed my mind and align me with who I want to become. I’m learning every day. I feel inspired. I’m engaging in conversation more easily and am much happier that my timeline is a place I actually want to be contributing to.
So here are my tips on HOW to cleanse your social media:
Take some time to look through your following list and start by unfollowing dead accounts that haven’t tweeted in months or years.
If someone is constantly bashing others and creating a negative environment, it’s time to hit unfollow.
Brands that you no longer support? UNFOLLOW!
Mute people, hashtags, phrases and words that trigger uncomfortable feelings within you. I’ve muted certain people who are always creating a negative environment.
Celebs who you no longer care about or really want to see updates from. You guessed it *unfollow*
And finally, the last thing I took into consideration is whether the account actually interacts with people or just have a feed full of scheduled or promotional tweets. I want to follow humans, not generated content and link dumpers.
Although I’m speaking about twitter specifically, the same rules apply for Facebook. Seriously, how many ‘friends’ have you got who are secretly hoping you fail at life? The ones that watch every move of yours but never comment when you’ve accomplished something great. Or those random people you met at a party 4 years ago and never seen since, UNFRIEND. Be ruthless!
You do not need any bystanders in your life who are not contributing anything. You need cheerleaders! And people that inspire or encourage your growth.
Look to follow people who spark joy, spread positivity, aim to educate and are just amazing at what they do. I promise you’ll feel a weight lifted from your shoulders.
Have you had a social media cleanse recently? Let me know in the comments!
Another Sunday has rolled around super quickly! If you read my last post about relaunching the blog, you’ll know Sundays mean a new self care post!
Today I want to share with you some great resources that inspire Self Care. Some of these are more recent finds, others have been a favourite of mine for years. I hope you find something here that inspires you:
Create a feeling or mood with sound effect generators. Whether you want help to get into a productive mood or just need to settle your mind. I really love using this technique. Check out Noisili or A Soft Murmur.
I have a whole Pinterest board dedicated to Self Care and Wellbeing. I pin everything from essential oil blends that relax the mind and lists on how to practice self care every day.
There are a hundred self help books out there, and I’ve read a few in my time. But there’s one which I adore called Living out Loud. It includes practical activities to help you improve your life and live more creatively.
While we’re on the topic of books, I’d also recommend The way of F**k It. It’s one of those open at any page types, that give a little refreshing reminder to give less fucks basically. Encouraging you to do more of what you want and what makes you happy.
This website allows you to write a letter to your future self. Which I think is a great motivational and cathartic exercise.
I believe one of the best ways to reconnect with self is to have a digital detox. As much as I love the positive side of social media it can be very draining and a huge distraction from being in tune with nature, our intuition and just self. Detox retreats that focus on recharging your batteries are popping up all over, I’ve found the Social Media Detox Company based in Oxfordshire. Also check out It’s Time To Log Off for international retreats. Or if you’re disciplined enough you can try banning yourself from social media for a short while to curb your FOMO.
I’m going to update this list as often as I can with more resources to suit everyone at any point in their self care journey. Have any self care resources you’d like to share? Let me know if the comments!