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Christallin | Emotional Balance by Dr. Joy Martina - 1M ago

It has been a month since I’ve switched from living off food and liquid to living on light. Also referred to as prana, chi, energy, or universal energy. Those that choose to live on air like this are called “Breatharians.” The process to switch from normal food to living on light takes an average of 21 days and after that, you could no longer eat or drink for the rest of your life if you choose to do so.

Now, there are some who say I am a charlatan. For those individuals, I challenge you to test my ability. I am willing to spend 10 days under surveillance in a room without sustenance in order to prove that I am living on light. Now that I have experienced this for myself, and know it to be true, I am starting to ask myself what this means for humans. Am I, and others who take this path, a new kind of human? I believe the next evolution is a Quantum jump beyond homo sapiens.

Baby Homo Quantum

I am a newborn and investigating what this means. This is my first attempt to find answers. It is the start of a long search for what it means to live from a pure form of energy, to break through the paradigm that we as humans need food and liquid to survive. I am not the only one who can do this. There are thousands worldwide who already do it, each in their own way. It is the dawn of a new (r)evolution of human beings and I know that if I can do it, you can too. I am developing a protocol to make this transition easy. This blog provides some insights about what I am experiencing now. I call people like me, who are living on an invisible energy source (that you can also call Love, Divine or just Quantum), ‘Homo Quantum’.

Homo Sapiens

The word homo, comes from Latin (humanus) and means ‘human’. According to Carl Linnaeus, we distinguish ourselves from our closest species because we have different morphological, physiological and anatomical properties, including a larger brain content. Due to these anatomical differences, we can use our hands to do fine motor skills. Research shows that we can also run and hunt for longer distances than our ancestors could.

Our Brains

Our brains are remarkable, and have enabled us to develop into who we are today. However, the changes in the structure of the human brain are more important than their size. The temporal lobes have increased enormously through time, which has increased our capacity to learn languages. With the right stimulation, a child can easily learn up to twelve languages. We have also developed a strong prefrontal cortex that allows us to make complex decisions and influence our behavior so that we do not have to act instinctively or reactively. This also explains why we can be self-aware (an important attribute for self-actualization), and we can solve increasingly complex social problems (which is enormously important nowadays). Also larger is our cerebellum, which allows us to be more balanced and possess increased fine motor skills, which aid us in activities such as playing instruments, painting, etc.

Programming Our Box

From birth, we are born into a reality that may only be an illusion. There are women who live on light and become pregnant, have a child and breastfeed. After a while, the child no longer needs food and is a ‘Breatharian’! That is a completely different box in which this child grows up. I am also a doctor and have realized that Western doctors are also trapped in a box of what is true and what is not. Until I started acupuncture, I myself knew nothing about energy. I then got to know another energetic medicine, homeopathy, and later the so-called placebo effect or healing by believing that something works even though the medicine is inert. Now the placebo effect is so strong that many drugs cannot exceed the benchmark of placebo. The suggestion or belief is stronger than many chemical drugs. Millions of people are cured of cancer with visualizations. In China, is a hospital without medicines, only with Qigong under Dr. Pang Ming. Within 4 weeks of doing Qigong (a type of visualization with movements such as Tai-Chi), 52% were cured, 25% improved considerably. How do you explain that? There is so much possible. If you feel it is now time to open your eyes to a world of knowledge past what you’ve been taught exists, then read on.

Stagnation or Awakening?

One could say that we have stagnated in our evolution. We have undergone tremendous technological growth and are becoming increasingly dependent on advancements like computers, automation, 3D, and AI but yet it seems that we ourselves aren’t developing much further. There is however an increasing interest in spiritual matters and personal development. There seems to be a kind of built-in mechanism in us that initiates a search or quest for many to discover if there is more than we can experience with our senses. There are 4 stages of awakening which stem from Maslov’s research, who was one of the first to identify human needs.

These needs are survival, shelter, food, and water. If those are fulfilled, we will explore and investigate past that. We will start searching outside of ourselves which explains the origin of ideas such as religion, politics, relationships. We then will want to discover what we can contribute ourselves and we look for our individuality and successes. Many are stuck in the programming of having a house, career, holiday once or twice a year or move on to acquire an even larger house, a more successful career, and longer holiday. A small group escapes this which I call sheep or sleep programming and go in search of their potential, or how they can make a difference. They go in search of the truest, highest, deepest meaning of self in different areas of life: work, relationships, and happiness. Then the real awakening begins.

Awakening is Awareness

The process of awakening and rising from the old dream involves meta-processes such as clearing your past, developing yourself again by following workshops, reading books, and joining discussions, and stepping into a new vision with new insight. This means that we have to open our hearts and minds to new possibilities and beliefs and then have to notice the opportunities and dare to seize them. This requires a dedication to your own growth and development and requires the discipline to develop new skills to further open your potential to new levels of awareness and consciousness.

Then Quantum Came

There are perceptible realities that we cannot perceive with our senses and instruments. These unobservable realities are partly perceptible in the field of current Quantum physics and also in the psychology of the unconscious (parapsychology). There will be a fusion of psyche (consciousness) and physis (matter).

The Two Spheres of Knowledge

There are two spheres of knowledge that are very different from each other:

  1. One is the Newtonian-based natural sciences that focus on the objectively perceptible material world and its laws. The scientific laws are essentially simple and are fairly basic. These laws are expressed in fairly complex mathematical calculations and are analytical.
  2. The second one studies the sphere of the subjective experience of an individual or his/her consciousness This sphere is about the rich inner world of a person. The content of this sphere is mainly expressed in images and ideas in verbal and 3-D form. The conclusions made here are based on synthesis instead of analysis.

It seems that these two have nothing to do with each other, but the opposite is true! There is a very strong connection between these two worlds, each alone is incomplete.

Mystique

The deep analysis of the spiritual side of life always leads to awareness. This is a mystical experience because beyond our reality there are endless possibilities where each individual can have a unique experience or a similar experience. When this is separated from natural medicine, it becomes a woolly story, often naive and isolated from ordinary life. On the other hand, when these experiences are viewed through the lens of natural sciences, people often get stuck. As the research of people with near-death experiences shows, our consciousness is not tied to the body.

Science cannot explain how I can produce essential amino acids, vitamins, minerals without eating or drinking. The only conclusion that doctors can draw is that I am healthy and stress-free and do not suffer from scurvy (lack of Vitamin C) or other diseases. Even crazier is that I pee (albeit not much) without drinking, I can sleep much less without falling short of sleep, and my fitness and endurance is much better than one would expect. One could say that I’m a medical anomaly.

The Observer Effect

Natural sciences seem very logical and reliable. This appears to be true until one looks deeper and discovers that there are paradoxes in the core of Quantum physics that cannot be solved until one abides by the observer effect. One must at least take the observer’s consciousness into account to resolve the paradoxes.

What if You Are the Creator of Your Life?

Being the creator of our own lives would explain a great deal. For example, it would explain that we and the observed are one and that our consciousness cannot be separated from what we perceive. We create our own version of reality, whether we know it or not. Our thoughts, our beliefs, the story we tell ourselves about who we are, and where we come from colors everything and makes us respond to our own illusion with emotions like pain, sorrow, joy, or anger. If you had the choice, wouldn’t you rather be happy, healthy, abundant and live the life of your dreams? That is what I am doing. I have chosen to start learning again and to leave everything I believe and know behind and to discover what I can experience in the infinite variations of the Multiverse with its infinite dimensions and parallel timelines where doubles of me experience other variations of my life.

Quantum Voyage From Lion to Eagle

When I traveled in a meditation to a possible future where I was the happiest and most successful (making the biggest contribution to the world), I discovered that I was living on light and shaved my hair to start again in a new identity. I have now made that Quantum Jump and I am experiencing something completely new that is so powerful and satisfying that I never want to go back to my former life that I once thought was wonderful. Instead of a lion, I have become an eagle, I fly high and look over my life and see the future where I am going to. I am now a Homo Quantum and my mission is to help as many people as possible to become an eagle.

If you are interested in flying high and creating a life in which you want to fully unlock your potential, join us for the Quantum Experience June 15th & 16th, in Italy. Tickets are still available to join us in person or via livestream.

Grab your ticket here! -> http://bit.ly/2GXQzwq

In the future, we are also going to train 10 people to become Quantum Trainers and will teach a new form of Hypnosis called Quantum Connection Hypnosis! Keep an eye out for more information!

Love is who we are and in love, we connect with each other and make this earth a better place. I cannot do it alone. I greet you from my heart and wish you all the best.

Roy Martina Quantum Mystic®

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Angels have been present in one form or another going back to ancient times. Each religion has its own ideas about what angels are and what they look like. In Buddhism, there are Devas described as bodies or emanations of light or energy. In Judaism, there are Malachim who don’t take a physical form. Most commonly when we think about what an angel looks like, we’re thinking about the Christian idea of an angel who are capable of taking a human-like form, often with the addition of wings upon their backs.

What is an Angel’s Purpose?

Even though the ideas about what an angel looks like changes from religion to religion, one thing remains the same. Angelic light beings like angels have one sole purpose and that is to help and support us. The very word “Angel” derives from words meaning messenger. Angels exist to help guide us and make our lives a little easier, comfort us, and protect us.

If we’re being honest though, angels work at a very high frequency, making wings or light orbs unnecessary. They instead are able to come to us using different forms to manifest in our physical world and our minds in whatever way they feel is necessary to guide us in ways that relate to us.

How Do We Receive an Angels Guidance?

While angels have the power to connect with us in these ways, they operate under the Universal Law of Non-Interference. Meaning, they are not allowed to help us unless we ask for their aid. We can do this in many different ways. The most effective way we can reach out to these higher beings is by tuning in to them by channeling through ourselves with tools like angel cards and Angel Meditations. Once you start tuning in to their frequency, you’ll be surprised at the number of ways different angels will bring you guidance.

Through Our Senses

Angels connect with us in ways that mean the most to us. One way they can lend us guidance is through our senses. Angels love to guide each day with small reminders of their presence. Once you start tuning in, you’ll find that they’re all around us. Keep an eye out for flashes of light or dreams you wouldn’t normally have, those are usually signs an angel is trying to tell you something. Being the divine beings they are, they will also often come to us in the form of a heavenly smell as well. Have you ever caught a hint of flowers or the faint smell of a loved one’s perfume who is no longer with you? Take a moment to tune in to see what message an angel has for you. One other way they can reach out to us through our own physical selves is through music. Pay attention when you get a certain song stuck in your mind or if it feels like the same song is playing over and over again on every radio station.

Through Our Physical World

Angels can also come to us through our physical world. For me, every time I see a feather lying on the ground I know that there is an angel trying to reach out to me and I take a moment to tune in. For others, it can also be the presence of a rainbow or noticing the same time on a clock over and over again. An example I like to use is to stop and notice the driftwood. Pay attention to those objects and events that keep happening to us over and over again like driftwood repeatedly hitting the shore. Angels will continue to guide us whether we are listening or not. Make time to listen.

Through Others

While it is very rare for an angel to manifest as a physical being, they are guiding others just as they are guiding us. We are all connected on these paths that cross and that crossing point in itself is a divine happening. Do you ever meet those people and it’s the perfect timing? Whether the meeting of a soulmate (like my meeting of my sweetheart, Roy, perhaps?), the introduction to someone who could and will further your career, or simply a stranger on the bus after a long day that reminds you what a compassionate and joyful world we live in at the heart of it all. Angels being the guiding lights of our world often have a hand in these meetings.

How Can You Start Tuning In?

Once you start noticing these signs, you might be wondering what some of them mean for you. This is where channeling to these magnificent beings comes in. Channeling means you start strengthening a connection so that you are open to receive messages more clearly. We’ve put together a special Angel Meditation Package to help you do just this. With this package, we’ve included 12 Angel Meditations so that not only can you start channeling the angels, but you can channel specific angels in times when you need them the most.

Channel Archangel Michael in times when you need the strength and sense of security to move forward, channel Archangel Chamuel when you need a helping hand to steer your relationship out of rocky waters. We’ve also included a special guidebook so that you can determine which angel is best to channel during which times and we’ve also included a little history about each angel and imagery about each angel so that you can strengthen your connection with these angelic light beings. Find yours here -> http://bit.ly/2TUDMED

Angels are all around us, patiently waiting to guide us. Have you ever felt the presence of angels? Let them know their help is welcome and watch as signs of their light start manifesting around you.

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Some days or weeks we’re all over life. We’re motivated and feeling anew, inspiration aplenty. Other times don’t feel quite so promising, and that’s okay.

We all go through times that have us feeling discontent. We feel stagnant, almost like the world is stalling and won’t give way to anything hopeful. I’m going to let you in on a little secret… discontent can be a seed from which a beautiful garden grows IF you’re able to channel it in positive ways.

How do we recognize the difference between discontentment and just an urge for the next part of our timeline to happen NOW? Discontentment is the dissatisfaction of one’s circumstances. It’s not only an ambitious need to jump, it’s the feeling that if you don’t jump, you will drown. It by very definition has a negative connotation, but it’s time to stop that reaction in its tracks. Rewrite the connotation of your mind and your energy. Here are three things you can do right now to turn that discontentment into positive change.

Tune into Your Intuition

In my book, How to Use Intuition to Change Your Life, I talk a lot about those gut feelings we get and the ways intuition can speak to us when we learn how to tune in. Discontentment is one voice of our intuition. It is a voice from our inner selves telling us not what we necessarily want to hear, but what we need to hear. When we start to realize that discontentment is a nudge from our inner selves to move forward and not a stab in the back we can start to utilize it to not only inch forward but propel forward into versions of our best selves.

“It’s so easy to get lost in your head trying to “figure it out.” Meanwhile, your heart often knows the ONE thing you need to do to get you closer to your goal.” – Joy Martina, How to Use Intuition to Change Your Life

Visualize & FEEL Your Desired Feelings  

We can actually use the illusion of stagnant energy and transform it into star power by visualizing discontent as a catalyst for change. Whether we are intentionally doing so or not we are constantly creating energy. When something is as emotionally saturated as the feeling of discontent it just creates more energy and faster. Imagine instead feeling how you want to feel, visualize what you want your life to look like and use that enormous amount of energy and light you have created to make it a reality by taking one baby step towards your goal. Do something positive.

Clear Sabotage

When we start seeing our discontentment with the potential it has as an energy creating tool, we can start utilizing it to break through sabotages keeping us from living our best lives. Draw strength from it to propel yourself forward. To start working through and clearing this type of sabotage, check out our clearing exercise below.

Join Me for a Session in Clearing Self Sabotage - YouTube

This is your sign to not only shift your mind but shift your life. This feeling of discontentment is actually your superpower. Listen to its whispers and use that as fuel to light the flame under your ass! I see you, I know what it’s like to feel like you’re trapped in life stuck on the pause button. It’s not only time to hit the play button but time to throw out the remote. You are in charge and you are capable of living life on your terms with the power of visualization and your innate Intuition!

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The Heart Sells Podcast w/ Christine Schlonski feat. Dr. Roy Martina

The Importance of Shining your Light with Dr. Roy Martina

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Finding a life partner is an interesting journey.

How many of you have found yourself in a relationship that no longer serves both partners to its fullest potential or, even worse, is negatively impacting your well being, their well being and perhaps even those around you? We’ve worked with couples around the globe and have found that the challenges we face in relationships are largely universal. Here is an open-ended list of the top mistakes we find couples making in relationships.

Clarity is key. You can’t fix something if you don’t know what you’re fixing.

Do any of these prompt resonance with you in your own relationships?

#1 Thinking you can change the other person

As great as it is to recognize the potential in the other, let them have their own experience! There’s a fine line between supporting the other person’s growth and bullying them into your way of seeing things. A truly effective way of creating an atmosphere of expansion and growth is to focus on the changes you can make inside of yourself to become a greater version of yourself and, as a result,  inspire the other to follow suit. This will save you a whole lot of frustration that comes with focusing on what you believe the other needs to change. 

#2 Trying to be the person you think the other wants you to be

Of course you want to be considerate of the needs and desires of your loved ones… but does that give you the right to be inauthentic? By allowing yourself to own your desires and live your values, you are setting an example for how you want to be treated. Be real, speak your truth in a compassionate way (we have a tool for this at the end of this blog post), and accept you will never please everyone. Follow your heart: Those who matter, will understand. Those who don’t, don’t matter. (<– Click to Tweet)

#3 Seeing yourself as inferior or superior towards the other

Check in on your own self worth, and be brutally honest to yourself. Where are you not owning your Divine self, your unlimited potential? What you admire in others are the very traits you are now owning enough in yourself. And what you despise in others, are reflections of parts of you that you are unwilling to recognize in yourself. Perception is projection, friends. Once you learn to accept and love your light and shadow sides, you can not only heal limiting patterns but also expand your ability to love.

#4 Taking the other person’s behavior personally

As personal as it may sound: it’s not. Remember: Perception is projection. It’s a choice to feel offended by another person’s words or behavior. This doesn’t mean we need to agree with everything another does, but we don’t need to make it personal. That person is just trying to get their needs met. Maybe not in the most loving or graceful or smart way – but that’s what they’re attempting. And, you just happen to be at the other end to receive the projection of their reality. You can take the emotional edge off by telling yourself a more empowering narrative the next time someone insults you. That angry, frustrated person venting at you is struggling… feeling pain. How could you respond in a powerful way? Learning to master the 4 Steps of Compassionate Communication (below is a free cheat sheet get you started) will support you in expressing yourself with honesty and allow you to help others tell you what is happening with them. This creates a positive atmosphere for conflict resolution.

#5 Not taking enough ME time

How are you going to be a force for good, a channel of love and light when your reserves are depleted and you feel worn out or frazzled? Taking time to replenish your reservoirs of energy with self care is essential if you want to live a healthy, loving relationship. All humans have the same basic needs, and it’s our responsibility to make sure we’re getting them met in the most loving, joyful and graceful way. By nurturing yourself in a healthy and pleasurable way, you are filling up your vessel and have so, so much more to give and share. Make a commitment to yourself to spend at least 20 minutes every day engaging in a loving activity for yourself. 

#6 Taking life and yourself too seriously

LTFU! Yes, I mean what you read. Lighten the eff up, friends! Life is a journey you signed up for – a game to play… what if you came to learn how to love at the deepest level possible? Wouldn’t you want to enjoy yourself while you experience the glory of human nature in all its facets and share what you’ve learnt with others in the most loving and joyful way? When you stop seeing life as something that’s happening to you, a war to win… and learn to smile in the face of challenges, knowing you are just receiving an amazing opportunity to grow and expand your abilities, your whole life will go to next level. Really. Next time you feel triggered, anxious or stressed, remember you have a choice! How you respond to the challenge determines the outcome. So instead of just “reacting”, give yourself the gift of a Power Move to manage your state and come from a place of power and connection instead of stress. The Switch, developed by my husband, Dr. Roy Martina, takes less than a minute to do and has literally saved lives! 

Negative Pattern Breaker: The Switch - YouTube

#7 Not owning your desires

It’s fascinating how much effort we can expend to suppress our heart’s desires by telling ourselves we are unworthy or incapable of manifesting them. What if you used that same energy of thought into creating what you really want? “When our focus is on pleasing others in order to be okay, we neglect our own desires and needs. Often we end up feeling frustrated and under-appreciated. We start to begrudge those we’re trying so hard to please. But we are the ones putting on the pressure, not the people we begrudge.” (How to Use Your Intuition to Change Your Life”, Dr. Joy Martina, Amazon Bestseller)

#8 Being unwilling to compromise in the name of love

Accept that most things won’t go exactly as you planned, and you’ll be a much happier person. Our stubbornness and attachment to HOW we think things should go can cause a lot of the frustration. Setting our goals with confidence and accepting that there will be detours and delays on the way (as change really is the only constant in life) and learning to exert behavioral adaptability will allow us to experience more flow and grace in life. Next time you feel in conflict with another person’s needs, take the time to check in with yourself (do The Switch to create a neutral state first!) and ask an empowering question:

  • What is the most loving thing I can do for myself now?
  • How can I gracefully create the space for cooperation and collaboration to find creative solutions?
  • Why is it so easy for me to support the best outcome that’s aligned with the higher good?

#9 Not having clear agreements

Stop making assumptions. You have no idea what’s going on inside the other person’s head and heart… But still we all make SO. MANY. assumptions on a daily level because it’s how our (lazy) brain is able to make quick decisions that our survival can depend on. The beauty of being a human is that we have the ability to communicate our needs, desires and thoughts to each other in many different ways. We often teach the Love Languages as part of our trainings and especially when working with couples to support clear, compassionate communication and the free flow of love within relationships. An essential part of every healthy relationship is to get clear on the values and agreements you are both saying yes to. The clearer we are about what we are committing to, the more we are setting each other up for success. Far too often, we just tumble into relationships without ever getting clear on what either side’s expectations and needs are to feel fulfilled.

Our Tip: Make your next ‘Date Night’ the starting point for a playful conversation around agreements. What are your “musts” to feel safe and loved in a relationship, and where are you willing to stretch your boundaries? Take your time! These agreements are an evolving document. Don’t expect to find total clarity in the first session, and enjoy finding out more about yourself and the other along the way.

We suggest you also discuss creating a “safe word” to use in emergency situations. When this word is used, you both agree that everything stops and you both take a time out. Best is to agree on any unusual word you will remember that let’s the other know ”Stop! Enough! I need a break!”

Having this word in place, saved Roy and me many embarrassing and painful moments (especially in public situations) as it gave us the ability to “pull the plug” and deflate a potential disaster by taking breath and reconvening when the fire has died down.

#10 Not being willing to forgive

Holding on to anger and grudge only harms YOU. Stop poisoning yourself with repetitive negative thoughts around all the old stories of wrong doing and unfairness. Instead be willing to release past pain and see the painful experiences as opportunities for growth. Practicing radical forgiveness sets you free to live the life you were meant to be.

#11 Not having a vision for your relationship

You set financial goals, career goals, make travel plans… why not also create a vision for your relationship? Our brains need a clear goal of what we are going for to be successful in manifesting our dreams and desires. Additionally our unconscious mind (the biggest part of your brain that is actually running the show) thinks in pictures and feeds on emotions… so creating a visual representation of your life, and especially of your ideal relationship, helps you stay aligned with what you want and manifest your desires faster.

Our Tip: Make a vision board for your relationship and hang it in your bedroom. I love thrift shopping for big, fancy picture frames and glueing in a cork background to pin my favorite images on to for this purpose. But of course any poster paper 

covered with inspiring pictures and slogans you cut out from magazines will do.

#12 No longer being curious

Curiosity might have killed the cat but in a relationship you never want to stop being curious about the other. Boredom is the #1 passion killer. Keep finding ways to surprise yourself and significant other. Stretch into your discomfort zone every once in a while by trying out new activities, even if it’s just taking a bubble bath together and listening to each others favorite tunes.

Like I said, this is an open-ended list. I suspect there are many more mistakes we could add to the list. If you have anything to add, let us know in the comments. Additionally, share with us the ways you’ve overcome these mistakes in your relationships. 

As promised, here is that critical tool we’ve been telling you about developed by psychologist, Marshall Rosenberg, PhD, that we teach in many of our workshops including our upcoming Ignite Your Flame Retreat in Asheville, NC in February of 2019. Compassionate communication allows us to develop a skill in our relationship so that we begin COMMUNICATING rather than just talking.

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The following is an excerpt from Dr. Joy Martina’s 2018 Amazon bestseller: How to Use Your Intuition to Change your Life. You can purchase the book here.

I have a playful mantra that comes in quite handy at moments of choice. I invite you to try it out for yourself. Use it as an internal gauge when you have to make a yes-or-no decision. This mantra will eliminate a lot of those messy maybes. I suggest you give it a whirl next time you’re out shopping just to see how it feels.

Here’s the mantra: If it’s not a “Hell Yes!” it’s a “Hell no.” (Imagine what your closet would look like if you ask that question every time you go shopping!)

What would your life look like if you made every important decision by breaking it down to this simple rule? How often would you say “No” sooner and thus save yourself the time and energy that goes into waffling over a decision? How often do you have to go back and retract a “Yes” that would have been a “No” if you’d applied this rule? Can you see how this it would give your “Yes” more impact?

We often over-complicate our decision making processes by getting stuck in our heads and over-analyzing all the pros and cons. Meanwhile, our intuition generally knows right from the start if it’s a “Hell Yes!” or a “Hell no!”

I’m not suggesting you go around saying “Hell, yes” all the time. I am suggesting you train yourself to become a decisive, high-impact “Yes!” person, who makes wise choices coming from your highest intelligence. When you can say “Yes” with the energy and emotion of a “Hell Yes!” you put yourself in a powerful position. You also give yourself a huge boost when it comes to understanding and applying the laws of manifestation. Think about it. The more energy you put out with the level of clarity, energy, and  intention contained in a “Hell Yes!”, the bigger the ripple effect in the Universe and the greater the reward. You can read more on this topic of The Universal Laws of Manifestation in our book “The Little Book of Karma”.

Tap into your highest wisdom and rediscover your INTUITION by grabbing your copy of How to Use Your Intuition to Change Your Life here.

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The following is an excerpt from Dr. Joy Martina’s 2018 Amazon bestseller: How to Use Your Intuition to Change your Life. You can purchase the book here.

The way I was brought up, “people pleasing” was just what you did to get along with people, to keep the peace. You’re nice, you do everything for others, and then they’ll like you, right? Like so many women, I was conditioned to please.

When our focus is on pleasing others in order to be okay, we neglect our own desires and needs. Often we end up feeling frustrated and under-appreciated. We start to begrudge those we’re trying so hard to please. But we are the ones putting on the pressure, not the people we begrudge. That took me awhile to figure out.

I was bumping along, being nice to everyone, doing what I always do to get by: ignore my own needs and power through. Then one day I overheard my mother-in-law on the phone with my sister-in-law. I had come home early that evening. What I heard shocked me deeply. My mother-in-law was shredding me to bits, calling me the most egotistical person she knew, a lousy mother and wife. She faulted me for pursuing my education, for having interests beyond my role as a mom and traditional housewife. She spoke as if I were a criminal because I delegated the task of ironing my husband’s shirts to someone else. She launched this tirade while babysitting my 9-month old son. I was horrified and hurt beyond measure. My whole, elaborate “be the perfect wife, mother, and daughter-in-law” strategy had failed. All of that effort and I was being judged behind my back. Harshly. The worst part was that I hadn’t even noticed how much resentment and judgment was going on while these two women were being sweet as sugar to my face. I felt betrayed.

So why was I going to such lengths to try to please these two women? Or anyone else for that matter?  

That was a turning point. Their blatant inauthenticity showed me how inauthentic I had been by trying to please people. I was neglecting my truth by rarely speaking up and constantly giving others what I thought they needed, even though it often went against my own desires. I realized that my “I’m just being a good person” act was a sham, a lie. The only person I was deceiving and betraying was myself. Even more alarming, I saw that this pattern was pervasive in my life.

I had to get real. So I asked myself, “What am I trying to prove?” When I got really honest, I had to admit that the primary motivation behind my constant efforts to please everybody was to get love as well as to safeguard myself because, truth be told, I was terrified of being rejected, excluded or not approved of.

It was one of those “once you wake up you can’t go back to sleep” situations. Once I saw the inauthenticity of doing for others to gain their approval, that old way of giving became incredibly painful. I would get myself into a situation where I’d give and give and give, push myself aside, ignore my own needs and intuition, and give some more. I’d get home in the evening feeling absolutely drained. I’d look back on the day, and realize, “This cannot be what I came for, this isn’t real love. I must be missing something.”

Then I started to notice the difference between that old way of giving and true giving, giving from love, without any attachment. It was crystal clear: when I’m truly coming from love, doing for someone simply because I want to, the benefit to the receiver is far greater than when my motivation is to gain their approval. And I feel energized and fulfilled instead of drained and frustrated. Giving simply doesn’t carry the energy of love when motivated by a need to please or to get something back.

Metaphorically speaking, true giving is like feeding someone a nutrient-dense meal of colorful organic fruits and vegetables with healthy proteins and good fats prepared with great love. The pleasure you see on the other person’s face, when they enjoy your gift fills you with joy. Giving to get acceptance is like feeding them a heartlessly prepared meal of tasteless, nutrient free processed food and demanding praise.

Tap into your highest wisdom and rediscover your INTUITION by grabbing your copy of How to Use Your Intuition to Change Your Life here.

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The following is an excerpt from Dr. Joy Martina’s 2018 Amazon bestseller: How to Use Your Intuition to Change your Life. You can purchase the book here.

Most of us have been conditioned to believe that we need to please others before we’re allowed to please ourselves. This is especially true for girls and women, although most men have been instilled with this belief to one degree or another as well.

Cultural conditioning reinforces odd notions in our brains: it’s better to give than receive…  It’s better to blend in than to stand out…or else! And that finger-wagging “or else!” translates into many different perceived threats which translate into a swirl of irrational fears. We fear being judged by others. If we don’t give someone else what they need we may be abandoned, ridiculed, shamed, guilt tripped, called selfish etc. If we don’t jump through our bosses hoops, we may get fired or not promoted. If we don’t look a certain way, say the right things, wear certain clothes (the list goes on and on) we may not be accepted or even get rejected. We fear we won’t be liked if we say what we really mean. In our closest relationships, we often relinquish our real wants and needs to meet the wants and needs of the other person so as not to risk losing their love.

Meanwhile, your very DNA mandates that you maintain relationships with the important people in your world no matter what. Humans are tribal by nature, after all. We can’t actually “go it alone. ” We need our “tribe” to survive. We rank the needs and wants of others above our own. We make what’s going on out there with other people the priority and brush aside what’s going on inside. We essentially tell our inner selves, our intuitive side, “I don’t care about what you say. I need them to love and approve of me… that’s all that counts.”

I’m exaggerating to make a point here, but only a little bit. In reality, for many of us, this “better to give than receive” notion becomes a mandate that operates below the threshold of thought. It’s a subtle mind game we play with ourselves. Subtle, but often all-pervasive because it turns into a habitual way of being.  

In my case, the habit of “people pleasing” bent my world completely out of shape.

Tap into your highest wisdom and rediscover your INTUITION by grabbing your copy of How to Use Your Intuition to Change Your Life here.

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