For nearly 40 years, the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors has been certifying biblical counselors to ensure doctrinal integrity and to promote excellence in biblical counseling. On this edition of Truth in Love Brad Bigney helps us think through the issue of sexuality in marriage, in particular when it is not going well.
TIL 216: Setting Your Child's Spiritual Trajectory (feat. Mike Fabarez) - SoundCloud (1268 secs long)Play in SoundCloud
– The First Step in Discipling Your Kids / Begin with your own worship of Christ
– Teaching Your Children the Gospel / Start with understanding the sin problem
– Recommended Christian and Missionary Biographies for Families
– Examples of Modeling Prayer for our Children
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– What does it mean to have true biblical friendship?
– What to look for in a biblical friend or accountability partner? (Psalm 1, – Psalm 15, Psalm 119:63)
– Why you should surround yourself with friends who ask good questions and speak biblical truth.
– How to build biblical friendships.
– Authentic relationships in the church
TIL 214: Help for Single Women Desiring Marriage (feat. Kristen Clark & Bethany Baird) - SoundCloud (596 secs long)Play in SoundCloud
On this week’s edition of Truth in Love, Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird of Girl Defined helpfully discuss singleness in light of the desire to be married.
– God’s Purpose in Your Singleness
– Pitfalls that young women face
– Psalm 16, Being Glad in God
– Encouragement for nervous parents of teens
– When your teen has a hard heart to your instruction
– Value of an older woman mentor (Titus 2)
TIL 213: Facing Death (A Tribute to David Powlison) - SoundCloud (1149 secs long)Play in SoundCloud
On this week’s edition of Truth in Love, we are honoring Dr. David Powlison by offering a portion of one of his talks from our previous annual conferences, entitled “Facing Death”. To listen to the full audio as well as others from our archive, you can click here.
In his book, The Disciple-Making Parent: A Comprehensive Guidebook for Raising Your Children to Love and Follow Jesus Christ, Chap Bettis brings not only his years of pastoral wisdom to bear on this subject, but also his own experience of raising his four children to adulthood. The idea that the family was instituted by God to be a “Trinity-displaying, God-glorifying, disciple-making unit,” serves as the focal point of Bettis’ message (6). Designed as guidebook that presents biblical principles for parenting in a helpful, engaging, and strategic way, the author intentionally avoids a presentation that would reduce biblical parenting and disciple-making to a step-by-step recipe book.
The Disciple-Making Parent is organized into three major sections which not only provide theological foundations essential for formulating the concept of what a disciple-making parent is, but also real-life, practical direction for leading children through infancy into young adulthood. Unlike well-meaning attempts to present a uniquely Christian approach to parenting, Bettis is thoroughly biblical in his presentation, instruction, and argumentation and is not reliant upon a psychological or human growth and developmental framework. He does this in several ways.
Firstly, the reader cannot go far into this book without noticing the central role of the Holy Spirit in parenting. Discipleship as parenting is theological in nature and necessitates the presence, reliance, and direction of God. Secondly, the framework for child-rearing is grounded in the Gospel and the Great Commission. Parenting is presented in terms of shepherding, teaching, nourishing, and ultimately sending. Thirdly, Bettis intentionally shows throughout the book that like discipleship, parenting is a unique and intensely interpersonal effort of God’s design that bucks against efforts of mass-reproduction.
While the quantity of content may seem inaccessible for the busy parent, Bettis has produced a comprehensive guide that is truly accessible and engaging due to its intentional organization and design. The Disciple-Making Parent broaches on subjects ranging from how to effectively engage the heart of children, how to develop God-honoring communication skills, and how to equip and prepare children to walk by the Spirit of God as they enter into young adulthood. Regardless of whether you are a parent of a young child or your eldest is about to enter college, Bettis has provided biblical principles and practical actions steps to encourage you as you seek to be a faithful, God-honoring parent.
Your children are watching your example. Your life either commends or condemns the gospel. Your example may be a positive one they will imitate or a negative one they will reject; but it will have an impact. (39)
As stewards, you do not discipline your children for your own peace and quiet. You train them to say “Yes” to you so that later they will find it easier to follow their Heavenly Father. (65)
Biblically speaking, the heart is the control center of a person. It is the most important real estate in your child. (95)
Deuteronomy 6:6 makes clear that the first person who needs to love the Scriptures is – me. Do you want to get the Scriptures into your kids? Start by getting them into yourselves. (134)
The words of God must stand out and be valued. They are not trivial. Our child’s spiritual life depends on them. (152)
David Powlison wanted us to celebrate his life in color. In part, because he lived life in color. He saw deeply and observed keenly the beauty of God through the lens of Jesus Christ. So, a few days ago, I purchased a Hawaiian shirt to wear at his memorial, the first one I’ve owned since my college days. It was a special joy to see all of the color at the memorial service Tuesday, as many of the people attending followed David’s request as a way of remembering his life and celebrating his rest with the Lord Jesus.
Outside of Jay Adams, David Powlison is probably the most recognized name in the modern biblical counseling movement. That statement might have caused David to blush, and if you were to say that to him, he would certainly begin reminding you of all of his inadequacies. It’s undeniable, however, that he was a faithful leader in the movement. Yet, he led contrary to the way many in the modern world believe is necessary for leadership. There was no iron fist or heavy hand, but grace and humility adorned his ministry. He was known among us as a gentle spirit with a keen sense of the fear of the Lord. His ability to express the raw realities of life with the truth and relevancy of Scripture was unique and we will all continue to learn from his biblically saturated expressions of human life. Whether we recognize it or not, much of the language that couches biblical counseling discussions and descriptions was born from the pen of Powlison.
Dr. Powlison is probably most well-known because of his work at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF). I was introduced to him during my seminary days, as so many others, by reading several of his works. So much of the early literature that defined biblical counseling was stirred by Dr. Adams, but much of it was fostered under David’s leadership at CCEF. The first book of David’s that I read was Seeing With New Eyes. As if the title were a self-fulfilling prophecy, David helped so many of us see the Scripture’s vitality and necessity for the counseling task. He gave us a deeper gaze through Scripture to see the frailty of humanity while fixed upon the hope of Christ. So many times, when reading his work, I remember pausing to ponder how he had put into words things I had been thinking but could not articulate. He had a unique ability to demonstrate the practicality of ancient words as ever true for daily, mundane moments.
David embodied the mission of CCEF to restore Christ to counseling and counseling to the church. By staying on mission, he served the church of Jesus well by consistently expounding the beauty of the Scripture for all of the difficulties of life, pointing us to the vitality of the church of Jesus as the most critical institution for the care and cure of souls.
For those of you who may not know, David served for years as a faithful board member with NANC/ACBC. Because of his significant contributions to the biblical counseling movement, David was also recognized as a member of the Academy of ACBC. David served as a trusted counselor to many counselors and a sage to so many leaders throughout the biblical counseling movement and our organization. David will be remembered in the biblical counseling movement for many reasons, but one certain way is his literary contribution. Titles such as: Seeing with New Eyes, Speaking the Truth in Love, Biblical Counseling Movement: History and Context, Power Encounters, How Does Sanctification Work? and countless articles in the Journal of Biblical Counseling. This list is only a small sampling of the literary contribution he made for all of us and generations to come. I know that my students will be reading David’s works in many of my classes. He has been read widely and he will continue to be read widely. In fact, as I began to write this on the plane from Charlotte to Philadelphia for the memorial, I noticed a familiar book cover. . .the red one, Good & Angry, was being read by a lady on the next aisle over.
David died at peace because he had died to himself on many occasions, as he consistently grew in Christ. . . gracefully. . . humbly he wrestled with his own mortality to trust in the finished work of Jesus on his behalf. Not only did David model a sturdy faith in the face of one of our greatest enemies, but he demonstrated a living faith for all of the issues of life. As we consider the magnitude of a life submitted to Jesus, may it spur us on to live by dying and lead by serving. May we honor him by our continual focus on the necessity and sufficiency of Scripture for the counseling task and our unwavering commitment to Christ’s church as the institution to restore such deep and abiding care. So, we remember David in the days to come by several ways. One of these is to live life in color. See deeply, observe keenly the beauty and majesty of God’s world and the wonder of humanity through the vivid hue of our resurrected Lord Jesus, who brings life with all of its brokenness into focus, into beautiful and colorful shades of hope. Thank you, David, your ministry to us lives on. May you enjoy the rest promised by the righteous life, death, burial, and resurrection of our Lord.
Below is a sampling of resources from David over the years at our annual conferences. We hope they are a blessing to you!
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– First steps in responding to domestic abuse
– Building involvement and offering hope
– How to keep a victim safe
– What if I am scared to counsel in this situation?
– Complementarianism and domestic violence