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“Kababae pa namang tao…”

How many times have you heard this phrase? Or any of the common phrases targeted to girls and women? Perhaps you, yourself, have been on the receiving end of these phrases or maybe have even been the one who said them.

We can’t always blame people for not knowing better—after all, we all grew up in such a traditional, conservative culture that is bound by gender stereotypes (and also patriarchy, but that’s another story). Without being aware, we all have, at one point or another, unknowingly contributed to hurting girls’ mindsets and making them think they have to act, be, or look a certain way. But they don’t have to do anything. They just have to be themselves, because they already are girls. And that is enough.

But it is 2019 and by now, we all should know better. So, here below, are some of these common phrases we hear that we all should probably stop saying to girls.

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12. “Oras ba ‘yan ng uwi ng matinong babae?”

Ah, the ultimate line ng mga nanay when your curfew is 12 midnight and you arrive home at 12:05. LOL. Just sweetly tell your mom that it doesn’t mean you had a night out with friends, you can’t also be the loving and diligent daughter that you are. Also, maybe remember to keep your mom updated about your whereabouts next time! Text lang katapat nyan, and also, trust me, a small pasalubong will go a long way. <3

11. “Dapat lalaki ang hayaan mong gumawa ng first move!”

Insert Nadine Lustre: “Come on guys, it’s 2019!” Um, nope! Why should we leave all the responsibility to men? Why can’t girls make the first move? So does this mean girls can’t go after who they like and just keep waiting? We all deserve to go after what we want, both men and women, and as long as you’re not hurting anyone in the process, here’s what we say: Go for it, girl!

10. “Pang-lalaki yan eh.”

Omg, uso pa ba yun? Lelz. Let’s put those days behind us—those days when the color blue and robot toys were only for little boys, and when certain professions are deemed more suitable “for men”. It’s not true that women are capable of less than males, as long as you work hard. Girl power, mga sis!

9. “Yaan mo nang yung mga boys gumawa nyan!”

Um, excuse me po? It comes as a surprise to me sometimes, a girl, when there’s a physical task to do and someone older tells me to call a boy to do it for me. It can be something little as lifting a furniture at home, or driving somewhere late at night. I’m like, whut? Kaya ko po, I’m a strong, confident, independent woman, tita!

8. “Umupo ka nga ng parang babae!” or “Para kang di babae.”

Umupo, magsalita, maglakad, tumawa, and all the other actions they tell girls to behave properly at. Girls are often told to behave a certain way, reminded not to be too much, because that’s how girls are supposed to be. But as long as the person is happy and is inherently a good person, why does how she act or laugh matter? Girl, just do you!

7. “Kababae mo pa namang tao…”

Isa pa ‘to. LOL. No. Just, no.

6. “Dapat magpakasal/mag-baby ka na!”

Why. Do. People. Keep. Asking. Girls. These. A gentle reminder to all humanity that girls aren’t just here in this world to find true love and get married and get pregnant. Can I get an amen??? Girls can have other dreams, too, and have the right to live the life they want, even if it doesn’t involve those traditional things.

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5. “Bat ka nagpagupit ng maiksi? Nagmukha kang lalaki!”

Here’s how girls should respond to that, “I will cut or wear my hair how I like it, and as long as I feel good about it, it’s all good!”

4. “Tumaba ka!”

Replyan mo ng “ay, ikaw rin!” Char. But, seriously, it’s that bad habit of people commenting on other people’s appearances, whether on weight or how they dress or look, that plant the seed of insecurity in girls starting when they’re young. They carry this pressure growing up, but won’t we rather raise girls who are confident and love themselves for who they are? :)

3. “Ang sexy ng suot mo, magpalit ka.”

Or commenting on how girls do their make-up or when they choose to wear make-up. Up to now people still tend to shame and judge girls based on how they dress or look. Let girls express themselves and wear what they want! Our bigger duty is creating a society (and world) that’s safe for them to live in, not telling them what to wear.

2. “Masyado ka kasing choosy!”

Mataas daw standard! Or too masungit, too intimidating, too smart. That’s why ‘di daw makahanap ng boyfriend. SIS. LISTEN. Do not lower your standard for boys who are too small for you. If someone has been single for a while, it only means she hasn’t met the right person, and not because there is something wrong with how she’s choosing her men. <3 (We gotchu girl)

1. “Boys will be boys.”

No. Just because “boys will be boys”, girls should not be told or made to believe that they should just accept a situation for the way it is even when it is bad for them. Encourage them instead, and let them know that there will also be fellow girls out there who will always have their backs. Cos #sisterhood, you know?

Let’s stop making women believe, starting from when they are little girls, that there are things in this world that are off limits to them simply because they are girls. We all can do anything, be anything—both women and men.

What are other things you think people should stop saying to girls? Let us know in the comments!

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If this new ice cream flavor is anywhere near as addictive as actual ChocNut then we are in big trouble. After all, ChocNut was always that snack you would start off with one, but by the end had finished the entire package. Combine that with silky soft-serve ice cream and you might never stop craving it again.

(White Rabbit ice cream is real and you can get it in Manila)

This ChocNut soft-serve is currently being offered by The Lost Bread. The flavor was created in partnership with the makers of ChocNut, so you know that it’ll be as authentically nostalgic as possible. The team behind this has said they really tried to target that element of sentimentality for those who grew up eating the candy.

We can expect the ice cream to be a creamier version of the choco-peanut bar, with bits of ChocNut mixed into it as well. It is available in either cup or chocolate cookie ice cream. They also have the option of the Craft-Your-Own soft-serve cup which lets you choose from different toppings.

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The ChocNut soft-serve is on offer for a limited time only. It is available in all branches from the last week of May to the first week of June.

What other flavors do you think should be made into ice cream? 

The post ChocNut Soft-Serve Ice Cream Exists and We Need It Now appeared first on When In Manila.

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A 3-year-old baby elephant in the Phuket Zoo, deemed by netizens ‘Dumbo’, passed away due to the stress of performing and the living conditions he was forced to endure. According to campaign group Moving Animals, Dumbo was required to perform thrice a day and was forcibly taken away from his mother. He had been showing signs of malnourishment for some time before the news of his death broke.

Dumbo was reported to have broken his back legs in one of his performances when they got stuck in the mud. At the time, he had already been suffering through an infection in his digestive tract for months. His skeletal state pointed to malnourishment and exhaustion as well. Altogether, the vet which attended to Dumbo said these all compounded and “made him very weak”, to the point that “his body was not absorbing nutrients as it should.”

(These adorable cheetahs are so shy that they have ‘emotional support dogs’)

Moving Animals had been running a campaign for Dumbo to be released before this tragedy. They posted of his death on their page:

It now turns out that [Dumbo] had an infection in his digestive tract, and he became so weak that his back legs snapped beneath him. Despite this, the zoo did not realise his legs were broken for three days, until the baby elephant was finally taken to an elephant hospital.

For “Dumbo” to die whilst under the so-called “care” and “treatment” of the zoo shows just how neglected these animals are in captivity.

We want to thank everyone for their overwhelming support for “Dumbo”. We hope that “Dumbo” is now finding the peace that he was so cruelly denied in his lifetime, and that his tragic story will urge Thai authorities to finally put an end to outdated animal performances.

Photo from Moving Animals

While Zoo manager Pichai Sakunsorn has said on the matter:

Veterinarians from the Phuket Provincial Office of the Department of Livestock Development (DLD) advised us to keep a close eye on his health because he was becoming weak from an infection. The vets came to check on him and provided him medical treatment, but he was not getting better. His condition kept deteriorating, so he we had him taken to the Elephant Hospital in Krabi, where he was admitted on April 17.

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Thailand’s DLD is still to conduct an investigation into the death of Dumbo but has already determined the Phuket Zoo has not broken any laws. As such, the zoo will continue to be allowed to purchase another baby elephant. Popular sentiment of the zoo, however, is largely against its practices and ethics.

Do you think animals should be kept in zoos? Let us know your thoughts in the comments! 

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We’ve all probably seen the clamor and fuss about a few international brands that have recently set foot on our islands. With the long lines and virality of some of these new food spots are causing much talk around town, it’s so easy to get caught up in the whirlwind, too. But not all of us have the accessibility and capacity to try out some of these newsmakers. Still, who says that that should stop Pinoys from enjoying a great food experience?

Buffalo’s Wings n’ Things has been serving quality American comfort food for a decade now–with their menu continuously updating! It has always been the heart of the establishment to serve excellent food and offer world-class fun dining experiences to the Filipino people and their 46 stores nationwide make this dining experience so accessible to Pinoys. With their delicious offerings, this fun casual restaurant gives the Filipino family an opportunity to enjoy amazing American food without breaking the bank.

In photo: 12pcs Champion Buffalo Wings, 12pcs Original Chicken Fingers, Bacon n’ Cheese Fries, Nachos with Jalapeno n’ Cheese Sauce

You don’t even have to wait for an occasion or a celebration to enjoy great food! Buffalo’s Wings n’ Things offers a food feast with their Grand Slam Celebration bundle. This “Feast for Champions” is a delicious and convenient way to enjoy a more than satisfying meal with your friends and family!

The champion buffalo wings and original chicken fingers are, of course, the must-tries and also their best-sellers. The best thing about these is the wide variety of flavors you can choose from–18 flavors! Yes, you read that right. Buffalo’s Wings n’ Things now have 18 flavors of wings and fingers you can try. (Our favorites? the Creamy Salted Egg, the Chipotle Lime, and the New York’s Finest!) But the better news is that you can try as many as 6 flavors with the Grand Slam Celebration.

(RELATED: Why is this Filipino favorite called “Buffalo” Wings?)

In photo: Grand Slam Celebration

The Grand Slam Celebration bundle offers a dozen of their Champion Buffalo Wings (with your choice of 3 flavors), a dozen of their Original Chicken Fingers (also in 3 flavors), 2 choices of appetizers, and 4 cups of rice. And all this is only for PHP 888!

What I love about this Grand Slam Celebration bundle by Buffalo’s Wings n’ Things is that it offers beyond quality food. Experiencing their original flavors are super enjoyable, and there’s definitely something for everyone! You can’t forget about their “Things” that are tasty and highly addicting on their own (we recommend the Bacon n’ Cheese Fries).

With this great value bundle, every visit can be a celebration. There’s no stopping you from indulging in a delectable food experience every day. Buffalo’s Wings n’ Things offers amazing feasts and valuable deals for anyone and everyone!

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After her stint as Sansa Stark in ‘Game of Thrones’, Sophie Turner ups the stakes in the most radical and female-led movie ever made in the X-Men universe in 20th Century Fox’s “X-Men: Dark Phoenix” that will open in Philippine cinemas on June 5.

In “X-Men: Dark Phoenix”, the team is sent to a life-threatening mission in outer space where Jean Grey (Turner) is nearly killed when she absorbs a cosmic entity that leaves her with powers far beyond anything she or any other mutant has ever possessed.

Once she returns home to Earth, she struggles with these near-godlike abilities, but the force inside her is too overwhelming to contain. Spiraling out of control, Jean hurts the ones she loves most. Her actions tear the X-Men apart, and the heroes find themselves deeply compromised at a time when they must face their most dangerous enemy yet—one of their own.

At its core, ‘Dark Phoenix’ is a tale of a woman struggling with her personal demons, and only the love of her family—the X-Men—can save her soul, and the world. “This movie’s very different from the previous X-Men movies,” Simon Kinberg says of his directorial debut. “The source material is different from the other X-Men comics that we’ve drawn upon in the past. It’s more psychologically complex and emotionally volatile. The emotions it gets into are rawer than a lot of the other X-Men comics.”

It was also finally time for an X-Men movie to have a female lead. The women in the X-Men films—played by powerhouse actresses from Famke Janssen to Halle Berry—were complicated, dynamic, and always had agency, but their stories never quite came to the fore. After nearly 20 years, “X-Men: Dark Phoenix” is squarely focused on the journey of Jean Grey and the women who surround her—including Jennifer Lawrence’s Raven and Jessica Chastain’s Smith, a villainous new presence who encourages Jean to abandon her humanity and give in to her darkest urges.

“The thing about the Jean Grey/Dark Phoenix story is that she’s not a villain, but she’s not a superhero who’s going to save the world and everything’s fine,” Sophie says. “She’s one of the few characters that’s very tormented and broken. It’s not too fantastical for people to comprehend. There’s no black or white with her, it’s a very gray area. It’s a struggle that’s very true to a lot of people and that’s why people love her.”

“X-Men: Dark Phoenix” also stars James McAvoy, Michael Fassbender, Jennifer Lawrence, Evan Peters, Nicholas Hoult, Tye Sheridan, and Alexandra Shipp.

From 20th Century Fox, “X-Men: Dark Phoenix” opens on June 5 in Philippine cinemas nationwide. It will also be available in IMAX screens.

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After her stint as Sansa Stark in ‘Game of Thrones’, Sophie Turner ups the stakes in the most radical and female-led movie ever made in the X-Men universe in 20th Century Fox’s “X-Men: Dark Phoenix” that will open in Philippine cinemas on June 5.

In “X-Men: Dark Phoenix”, the team is sent to a life-threatening mission in outer space where Jean Grey (Turner) is nearly killed when she absorbs a cosmic entity that leaves her with powers far beyond anything she or any other mutant has ever possessed.

Once she returns home to Earth, she struggles with these near-godlike abilities, but the force inside her is too overwhelming to contain. Spiraling out of control, Jean hurts the ones she loves most. Her actions tear the X-Men apart, and the heroes find themselves deeply compromised at a time when they must face their most dangerous enemy yet—one of their own.

At its core, ‘Dark Phoenix’ is a tale of a woman struggling with her personal demons, and only the love of her family—the X-Men—can save her soul, and the world. “This movie’s very different from the previous X-Men movies,” Simon Kinberg says of his directorial debut. “The source material is different from the other X-Men comics that we’ve drawn upon in the past. It’s more psychologically complex and emotionally volatile. The emotions it gets into are rawer than a lot of the other X-Men comics.”

It was also finally time for an X-Men movie to have a female lead. The women in the X-Men films—played by powerhouse actresses from Famke Janssen to Halle Berry—were complicated, dynamic, and always had agency, but their stories never quite came to the fore. After nearly 20 years, “X-Men: Dark Phoenix” is squarely focused on the journey of Jean Grey and the women who surround her—including Jennifer Lawrence’s Raven and Jessica Chastain’s Smith, a villainous new presence who encourages Jean to abandon her humanity and give in to her darkest urges.

“The thing about the Jean Grey/Dark Phoenix story is that she’s not a villain, but she’s not a superhero who’s going to save the world and everything’s fine,” Sophie says. “She’s one of the few characters that’s very tormented and broken. It’s not too fantastical for people to comprehend. There’s no black or white with her, it’s a very gray area. It’s a struggle that’s very true to a lot of people and that’s why people love her.”

“X-Men: Dark Phoenix” also stars James McAvoy, Michael Fassbender, Jennifer Lawrence, Evan Peters, Nicholas Hoult, Tye Sheridan, and Alexandra Shipp.

From 20th Century Fox, “X-Men: Dark Phoenix” opens on June 5 in Philippine cinemas nationwide. It will also be available in IMAX screens.

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At a time when comic book superheroes dominate the pop culture landscape, the filmmaking team of Columbia Pictures’ Brightburn: Son of Evil went down a unique route to create a terrifying horror film that feels entirely new. Watch the trailer here:

BRIGHTBURN- Official Trailer #2 - YouTube

The idea originated with the screenwriting team of cousins Brian Gunn and Mark Gunn. Brian, younger brother to Guardians of the Galaxy filmmaker James Gunn, had worked with Mark on a range of movie and TV projects throughout his professional career stretching back nearly 20 years. Together, they hit on the notion to tell an extreme story in which a couple’s worst fears about their child come true.

“There’s a tradition that goes back to Moses up through contemporary superhero stories about childless parents who take in an infant that they find in the wild,” explains Brian Gunn. “Those figures grow up to be noble and heroic, but we wondered what would happen if it went the other way and this child ends up being something sinister.”

Mark Gunn adds, “To put superpowers in a horror context seemed really fun to us—it was an opportunity to mix together two different genres that hadn’t really been mixed together before.” Brian says, “We realized that there are many superhero abilities that if you were on the receiving end of them would be terrifying. Flying could appear very ghostly. Laser eyes can be demonic. Super strength can be horrifying. Lots of super abilities, if you turn them just a couple of degrees, become grist for horror.” 

“I, like many people, grew up watching superhero movies and fantasizing about what it would be like to have super powers,” director Yarovesky concludes. “When I imagined it, it was always so much darker than what I see in movies. I wanted to make something that was closer to my heart. I wanted to go all in on scary.”

In Philippine cinemas May 29, Brightburn: Son of Evil is distributed by Columbia Pictures, local office of Sony Pictures Releasing International.

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The discussion of abortion has always been a difficult one, with people everywhere around the world being strongly divided on the subject. Recently, the state of Alabama in the USA passed an anti-abortion law that totally bans the procedure—a news that made headlines and resulted to a global discussion on the subject.

With all these recent talks surrounding abortion laws, it got us to thinking: how do Filipinos feel about abortion? Should it be legal here?

Right now, it isn’t. And as a country with such strong religious (and not to mention conservative) roots, it seems unlikely to happen anytime soon. But we wanted to find out how Pinoys feel on the subject and whether they think it should be legalized here or not. So, we asked our readers a question: “Should abortion be made legal in the Philippines?

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We kept our respondents’ names off this article to protect their identities, but all answers found below are authentic and are real responses submitted to us through our WIM Squad community on Facebook.

DISCLAIMER: The responses below are individual opinions from our community of readers and therefore do NOT necessarily reflect the opinions of WhenInManila.com as a whole.

Image: www.instagram.com/maegamimami

Here’s what people said.

1. “No, I don’t think abortion should be made legal in the Philippines. If women think they’re practicing their right because “it’s their body”, then who are we to take away the right of the unborn child? Shouldn’t we protect their rights to live, too?”

2. “I think abortion should be made legal, especially to those women who are rape victims. Because having a child after a traumatic experience can be detrimental for them for life.”

3. “My body, my choice. Regardless of tradition or religion, every woman must have the right to choose whether to get an abortion or not, should they want or need to. The hypocrisy of forcing women to have children they don’t want is absurd, especially for those who impose these rules and not upholding them after the child is born. Basically: pro-lifers only care about unborn babies. They stop giving a shit after, which begs the question: were they really pro-lifers in the first place or are they just controlling women?”

4. “Abortion as an option. Consider those who are victims of sexual abuse and those who have to terminate the pregnancy due to complications or possible threat to women’s health.”

5. “Yes, I believe it should be legal. People can’t keep using the “put the baby up for adoption” when they won’t acknowledge just how f*d up the system is. People have to understand that abortion is rarely, if ever, done out of spite or hatred of another living being. It’s acknowledging a person’s capability and/or their desire to be pregnant and raise a child.”

6. “Yes, but educate the public on safe sex more than abortion as an option especially for a country where poverty and population are issues.”

7. “Yes, it should be legal. I wouldn’t do it personally, but it should be an option to every women.”

8. “No. Philippines’ religion influence is higher than any other factors. Many contradictions will exist so as hard core debates in any further means of abortion topics etc.”

9. “For special cases, YES. Like for rape victims or health issues. Pero kung ang rason ay dahil gusto lang at hindi handa sa pinagbubuntis, oh com’on! Why did you do it without protection?”

10. “I am pro-choice. While I would never choose an abortion for myself, I do support other women’s right to do so as long as the legalities are clearly defined i.e. no late-term abortions, special provision for cases of rape and incest. Keeping it illegal doesn’t stop it from happening. It only means women are forced to undergo unsafe, fatal procedures.”

Read more responses on the next page!

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Amidst the discussion about the abortion bill that was recently passed in Georgia, Former Miss USA Olivia Jordan shared that she was raped and molested.

Pia Wurtzbach’s Miss Universe BFF Olivia took to Instagram to share her experiences as a child and teenager – experiences that gave her a different view on a woman’s body. She shared that her mind and body were traumatized for years and says “maybe it sounds unjust to compare criminalizing abortion to being raped; but to me, it feels the same.”


Raised in a Catholic school, Olivia’s sex education was apparently just abstinence and there was only one view: that abortion is bad.

Though she was raised that way, she reiterated that she is pro-choice. She says in her caption, “I am pro-abortion, pro condoms, and pro-access to birth control.” She adds that each woman should be able to make a choice for her own body and she is against policies that strip people of their rights and their free choice.

She shares that she feels like she is going through the same agony again where men make laws that govern women’s bodies without their consent.

What is your stand on abortion and the abortion bill?

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As I’m writing this, I am confined to a hospital bed because I haven’t slept in almost four days. My appetite was down. My energy was through the roof. I wasn’t running out of energy. I could go on and on without any sleep. And I always had the urge to text and talk to all of my friends at 3AM. So, thank you to all my friends who talk to me at 3 or 4 in the morning.

I was up and stability was not present.

Stability is such a big word, especially when you are living with a mental condition. Bipolar condition makes you feel up (manic) or down (depressive). But ideally, we want to be in the middle – not up or down but right there in the middle.

You can also relate stability with people who are not living with a mental condition. We want a stable life, financially and emotionally. We want stable grades in school. We want a stable relationship. Stability comes in all shapes and sizes. Realizing your own definition of stability is your own challenge.

In my experience, it took me about two years to get to where I am today. I am not completely there, but I am in control and I am positive that I will reach my goal.

My road to stability is like the road to Baguio with winding roads that go up and down. It can be dark and scary at times.

It all started with my first appointment with my psychiatrist. I came in because of anxiety. As we walked the halls to my doctor’s clinic, I felt nervous. It’s hard to open up to a complete stranger, especially open all of those doors and take down all of those walls that you have built all your life. However, a good doctor will slowly open up all of those pent-up emotions brick by brick.

I was first diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Major Depression. It was the answer I was waiting for. It answered the questions in my head. My doctor said that anxiety is like a hamster on a wheel. It goes on and on, until you seek help and someone will help you get off of that wheel of anxiety.

After sessions with my doctor, it turned out that I was Bipolar.

My road to stability was also thanks to my medications. I know that not everyone is pro-medicine. My dad was not keen on me taking medications, either. However, with the help of my doctor, they were able to understand why I chose the medical route. Medication is not the answer to everything, but it helped me a lot.

Medication is not a happy pill. It’s not one dose to make things okay. It’s not instant relief. It won’t be this switch that will go off and on. Don’t be scared. It takes time to get that perfect cocktail. It took me two years to get me on the right kind and right dosage of mood stabilizers. Right now, they are testing a new kind of mood stabilizer, so my journey is not yet over; but it will be in time.

It may take a few years to get the right mixture. It may also take a few tries to find the perfect doctor. It may take weeks or years to get it right, but you will get there. There is always hope.

Therapy also helped me a lot. Talking about what I felt became my release. In therapy, you are taught ways and skills on how to cope. Don’t see therapy as the way you see it in the movies. It’s nothing like that. With the right counselor, it’s just like talking to a friend. When you learn how to open up, you will slowly become aware of your triggers, and you will address those triggers during your sessions.

Aside from medication and counseling, support also played a big part on my road to stability. It may be support from family, friends, or even people you meet for the first time.

My main support system is my family. They come to my doctor’s appointments. They stay at the hospital with me. They bring me to my therapy sessions. They wait in the waiting area for hours until I finish. They go to seminars with me. They hold my hand through all of these ups and downs. They were and are my constant supporters. And I thank them for that.

Support can come from people you barely know, too. A support group helped me become stable. Complete strangers became the people I confided in. From strangers, they became friends. In a support group, you don’t feel alone. You feel one with the group. You know that you won’t be alone in your struggles. There will be people who will be there for you, who will listen to you, and who will give you advice. You are not alone.

Stability needs to come from yourself. Having the courage to become better comes from you. You need to accept that you need help. Have faith in yourself that you will get better. It is all in you. Aside from going to the doctor and going to support group meetings, you need to help yourself. You need to take care of yourself. You need proper sleep, a balanced diet and exercise. It’s called self-care.

Lalah Delia says, “Self-care is how you take your power back.” Self-care is not complicated. I know it is hard to even get out of bed when you are down, but even little things can help, like washing your face or brushing your teeth. A warm shower is self-care. Eating your favorite food after a stressful day is self-care. It can be anything that helps you recharge and de-stress. The power comes from you. It can be hard, but you have to think positive. Know that you will get better.

The road to stability is not a one-way road. It’s like a board game. You go forward, but you can also take a step backward. Sometimes, you might stay stuck in one place, but then you recover and move forward again. Do not let it stop you from continuing. You will reach your goal. You will reach your destination. It may take a while. There will be twists and turns along the road, but you will get there. I am still on that journey, but I know that I will get there.

I live with a mood condition, but I am on my way to stability.

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