James Van Praagh has traveled the world helping people from all walks of life tap into their innate gifts, connect with spirit, heal grief and pain, and create deeper, richer lives and careers. Along the way, many people have asked him to take his teachings to a whole new level and offer in-depth certification courses, online mentoring and more.
June is filled with special occasions and milestones – graduations, June weddings and right in the middle of it all – Father’s Day. When you’ve lost your father, either recently or decades ago, celebrations can be bittersweet. The joy of the moment can be dampened by feelings of loss and regret that Dad can’t be there. But, having spent three decades speaking to fathers on the other side, I can assure you of a couple of things! First, your father is always there, providing the same protection and love from the Spirit realm that he did in life. And, he’s not just observing – he’s quietly making things happen behind the scenes to help you and make sure you live your very best life.
I just had an experience that illustrates this perfectly. The funny thing about it is that I totally misread the situation at first – until my late father made his presence known and all the puzzle pieces fell into place!
The best laid plans…
My travel schedule has been extra heavy lately, and after a recent trip to Canada, I realized my passport was nowhere to be found. I panicked! I was packing to go to Omega in Rhinebeck NY, and from there heading to London to host an Evening of Spirit and a workshop. Missing my trip to London for any reason just wasn’t an option. With barely a week to go, Brian and I took steps to expedite the process of getting me a new passport. Everything seemed to be under control. After my Omega workshop, I headed to New York City, expecting to be able to pick up my new passport a couple of days before my scheduled flight.
Planets in retrograde?
Imagine my horror when, on the very day I’d planned to have my passport in my hand, I got an email that my application had been cancelled. I had to start over, and there was no way I’d be able to make my scheduled flight in London. I attributed the whole mess to planets in retrograde, and reminded myself to breathe and go with the flow. When the planets get in the way of your plans, that’s the only thing you can do!
A happy coincidence…or Spirit at work?
I postponed my flight for the last possible moment. Now I found myself in New York for an extra couple of days. Suddenly the idea popped into my head to call my brother. It had been years since we had spent time together. I dialed his number and he picked up immediately. “What a coincidence, I was just thinking about you!” he said.
We arranged for me to meet him at work before going out to dinner. He works at a beautiful old theatre in midtown Manhattan. Years ago my father had been the head carpenter at that same theatre, responsible for building the sets, and handling backdrop changes during shows. My brother inherited his position, carrying on my father’s legacy.
In the same spot – 55 years later.
My favorite thing to do as a young boy was to sit backstage at the theatre, perched on the fly rail and watch my father at work. Is it any wonder that I love the energy of classic, old theatres to this day? Fifty-five years later, as if time has stood still, I found myself sitting at that exact same spot, watching my brother pull the curtains to change the backdrops. As he pulled the lines, I wasn’t surprised to spot the ghost of my father – right behind him – looking just like he had when I was a young boy.
I could see my father smiling, and realized that the lines to change the sets weren’t the only things being pulled. My father had been pulling the strings all along – keeping me in NYC by delaying my passport, to give me the gift of time with my brother.
Once I’d spent a couple of days with my brother and we’d caught up on old times and made plans to get together again, my new passport was delivered, and I was able to get on my flight to London. Everything came together perfectly in the end.
This month, if you’re missing a father, grandfather or anyone who has transitioned to the Spirit realm, I hope you’ll remember this story. It’s a reminder that when unexpected roadblocks pop up, and things seem out of control, someone who loves you might be pulling those divine strings to deliver just what you need!
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You know how great it feels to clean out your closet or unclutter a room? The whole area feels lighter and brighter, and having a clear, orderly space makes everyday tasks seem effortless. I recently cleaned out my office, and afterward, all I could think was “why didn’t I do this months ago!” To me, taking a vacation has a similar effect – it’s like decluttering for your mind, body, and soul, and life feels so much better when you take some time for yourself.
Self-care for your mind, body, and soul
If you’re telling yourself that you don’t have the time or the money to get away – reconsider! Even a short vacation can give you the break you need from the everyday routine and pressures. Pair a few days at a nice hotel with the chance to work on your Spiritual side and make some new like-minded friends and the benefits are even greater!
My work gives me the opportunity to travel to wonderful spots and spend time with people who inspire and delight me. I hope you’ll join me for a weekend workshop or a week-long retreat somewhere fabulous!
Omega Institute – Everything you desire in one beautiful spot!
Right now I’m getting ready to start a weekend workshop at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. I love being a regular member of the faculty here – Omega pairs a casual, natural and fun environment with Yoga, healthy food and enlightening workshops – and the students come back again and again. I’ll be back in the fall for Signs and Signals from the Universe, where I’ll share how you can tap into the guidance of the universe to achieve health, success, and happiness. The leaves will be turning beautiful colors – so come to see them, while you experience a spiritual transformation of your own!
Enjoy every one of the 1440 Minutes in your day.
Another campus environment that you should check out is easy and convenient for us west coast folk! 1440 (cleverly named for the number of minutes in a day) is a brand new campus with workshops covering everything from yoga and nutrition to mindfulness and spiritual awakening. Nestled among the giant redwoods in beautiful Santa Cruz, California, students can walk in the forest and swim at the nearby beaches. I’ll be at 1440 for a weekend workshop, July 6-8. We’ll be exploring How to Thrive as a Sensitive, Intuitive Soul – so if you’re tuned in to feelings, and empathic (and aren’t we all!) you’ll come away with some amazing techniques for living your best life.
Love the sun?
I’m sure I’m not the only one who finds the desert beautiful and relaxing – even in the summer. And in just a couple of weeks, I’m joining Deb Sheppard at the Desert Diamond in Tucson Arizona. I discovered Deb’s work a few months ago, and she has an amazing gift. The Desert Diamond is a fun spot, the energy in Tucson is powerful, and we’re expecting some MIND-BLOWING Spirit connections. Get your tickets today and make some memories with Deb, myself, and your Loved Ones in Spirit – then head over to the pool or enjoy the amenities of the Desert Diamond. It’s a little different than my usual venues, but it’s a great summer destination. I know we’ll have a good time!
Anticipation is part of the fun!
Studies say that a major benefit of taking a vacation is looking forward to it. Anticipating something wonderful can stretch your good experience out over months! So – give yourself something to look forward to by reserving a spot at my Soul Power Retreat in beautiful Cancun Mexico. Treat yourself to a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat that will light up your mind, body, and soul! When we’re not enjoying the pool, spa and amazing beaches of Cancun we’ll explore deep immersion techniques and mediumship exercises, you’ll visit with loved ones and guides and see what things are like on their side of the veil.
I hope these ideas have inspired you. I look forward to switching gears, clearing my head and providing enlightenment and joy at wonderful locations throughout the coming months. I hope you’ll give yourself the gift of a fresh new perspective – and join me!
I’ve shared insights on recent blogs, webinars and radio shows about how to navigate life as a highly sensitive, empathic person. I’ve mostly focused on recognizing and understanding your own sensitivity, protecting your energy, and managing your personal relationships.
There’s another important area where the HSP can either thrive or struggle – and that’s the workplace! Most of us spend a good portion of our lives either at the office or working from home – so it’s important that the work experience is positive and nurturing. There are patterns and tendencies that you as a sensitive person need to be aware of since managing them effectively can be the difference between a satisfying, rewarding career and a frustrating, dead-end job.
When I reflect back on my own life and recall the experiences of my sensitive friends and students, a few patterns show themselves clearly. One story comes immediately to mind, and I’d like to share it with you. As you read, see if you recognize a little of this highly sensitive, people pleasing behavior in yourself.
Paula is a bubbly woman in her mid-seventies who works in one of my favorite design shops in San Diego. It’s a large open warehouse space that contains furniture, art books, and a vast array of unique decorative items for the home. Brian and I go there often, and we always look for Paula. She’s worked at the shop for over 15 years and her intuitive, empathic nature, combined with her experience, provides her with the almost magical ability to discern exactly what her customers are looking for (even if they don’t know themselves). Her sales skills are a perfect example of how sensitivity can be a “superpower” in the workplace. But it can also be a curse – as Paula is so focused on pleasing others that she sometimes ignores her own physical limitations and safety. A month ago, as we were in the shop, browsing for throw pillows, I observed Paula limping badly. When I asked her about it, she said she had been helping a customer lug a heavy piece of furniture to his car and had hurt her knee in the process. It never occurred to her that this feat of strength was beyond her abilities – she was 100% focused on pleasing her customer! And, typical of an HSP when dealing with a “non-sensitive” (which is 80% of the world) it didn’t occur to either of them that what she was doing didn’t make sense.
My observation of Paula illustrates several key truths about HSPs at work.
Sensitive people are a tremendous asset in the workplace. In fact, because of their dedication and strong people -skills, managers consistently rate people with higher sensitivity as the best performers in their organizations.
The abilities of the HSP are more important than ever! As society becomes more automated, the value of intuition, creativity, and empathy becomes even greater. The special gifts of sensitive people can never be reproduced by technology, as they use them to excel at job interviews, customer service, intuitive decision making, and getting the most from their teams.
It’s important to KNOW what you want and make your needs known. Highly sensitive people typically don’t make their own needs a priority. They are so busy waiting for the “perfect time” to ask for what they want, that they risk getting climbed over by their co-workers who are comfortable putting their own needs first.
Strive for a fair balance. It’s the nature of the HSP to bend over backward to serve their company, please their coworkers, and just naturally put themselves last. This habit is hard to break, but keep in mind, you don’t have to make the leap from selfless people-pleaser to entitled egomaniac! There’s a middle ground. Make it your goal to strike a balance between serving your company, your co-workers, and yourself.
Expect a backlash – at first. It’s up to you to re-set expectations, so brace yourself (and don’t take it personally). People have gotten used to your sensitive, accommodating ways. They’ll be shocked when you change your tune – even a little bit. You have to let it roll off your back and remind yourself of the value that you bring to the company.
With a little focus and some healthy boundary setting, highly sensitive, empathic people can thrive in every area of their lives – relationships, career, health, spirituality, and self-development. To learn how being someone who “feels a lot” can be a blessing, check out my latest course, Life Tools for the Highly Sensitive Person!
Once you decide what you want in life, making your vision a reality comes down to making changes that will lead you closer to your goal. Sometimes it only takes a small shift in behavior to get you on the right path.
But what if you know what you want, but don’t have the confidence to take that first step? Maybe you haven’t given yourself permission to put your needs first and sign up for that course, invest in a gym membership, or get out of an unfulfilling relationship.
If you’re a highly sensitive or empathic person “just do it” is probably not your personal mantra. It’s more likely “just do it, as long as it doesn’t upset anyone else.”
As a highly sensitive or empathic person, you have distinct needs and ways of doing things. But that shouldn’t stand in your way! You can create the life you want. You just have to understand how to make changes in a way that works for you. Once you’ve done that, rather than creating a barrier, your sensitivity will become the key to unlocking the life you dream of.
A professor in college once told me that you can make a plan to change anything by deciding what to do more of, what to do less of, and what to do differently. That information seems simplistic, but it stuck with me because it holds true for just about anything!
Which leads me to these Tips for Success for the Highly Sensitive Person.
What to do more of:
Practice Self-Care. You deserve to be healthy, happy and calm. For a sensitive person, that equates to giving yourself time and space to recover from the chaos of everyday life. Decide what you need to feel safe and protected – time to read, a walk outside, a phone call with a trusted friend – then schedule that activity into your day.
Set Healthy Boundaries. Heed the words of Elaine N. Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You. “Make good boundaries your goal. They are your right, your responsibility, your greatest source of dignity.” Remember that boundaries benefit everyone in the relationship!
Create a Nurturing Environment. Sensitive people need a sanctuary where they feel secure and happy. Take steps to turn your office, bedroom – anyplace where you spend time – into your “happy place.” Something as simple as a coat of sky blue paint, healing music, a cherished piece of artwork, crystals or a lovely plant can do the trick!
Develop a positive spiritual practice or a daily ritual. Make positive affirmations, journaling, or a practice of meditation and mindfulness a part of every day.
What to do less of:
Tolerate bad situations because of other people’s feelings. Set limits for the sake of your own mental, physical and spiritual health (did I mention boundaries?) You matter, and if a group of friends, social gathering, or any event makes you uncomfortable, give yourself permission to pass on it, and choose an option that is better for you.
Take on other people’s energy. Highly Sensitive People, by their nature, take on the energy of others. Be aware of this tendency, and create distance between yourself and the “energy vampires.”
Make decisions based on guilt, fear or insecurity. Switch your “go-to” reactions of guilt, worry, and “I’m not good enough” and make “I’m capable, I deserve it, and everything will turn out fine” your new mantra.
What to do differently:
Acknowledge your sensitivity and use it to help yourself – as well as other people. Change your idea that sensitivity is the reason you feel overwhelmed, stressed and sad and treat it like the gift and blessing that it is.
Set Goals, taking your sensitivity into account. Your sensitivity give you an edge in many areas! Sensitive People and empaths make the best writers, historians, philosophers, judges, artists, researchers, theologians, therapists, teachers, parents, and plain conscientious citizens. What you bring to these roles is an ability to put aside your ego and see all sides – and think about all the, possible effects of an idea.
So my sensitive reader, I encourage you to try to make some of these subtle changes in your own life. I guarantee that they’ll help you be happy, successful and thrive! If you need some more ideas and encouragement – you’re in luck! My three-part video series starts today – check out my first video now! And remember to embrace your special nature! You have our style and our own important contribution to make.
Just about everyone I spend time with, my friends, students, staff, and other spiritual teachers, is highly sensitive. I attribute that fact not only to the Spiritual work that I do, but because as humans, we are drawn to like-minded people. And, while the sensitive people I know do share certain character traits, like intuition, empathy, and compassion, they’re by no means cookie-cutter copies of one another!
As a highly sensitive person, you have a good feel for other people. Your emotional intelligence draws people to you. When dealing with others, you instinctively know what “makes them tick” and you have a knack for making them feel valued and understood. But guess what? You might spend so much time tuned into other people that you don’t think about your own needs.
So, my sensitive friend, I urge you to take a few minutes to focus on yourself. You can start now by taking a look at the questions below and checking off the ones that apply to you.
Do you often have difficulty letting go of negative thoughts and emotions?
Do you feel physical symptoms when something unpleasant happens?
Have you often been told you’re too sensitive or emotional?
Do you walk into a room and sense the mood?
Do you tend to beat yourself up about even little things?
Do you feel there’s something different or “wrong” with you?
Do you feel close to nature and animals?
Do you tend to take things personally?
Do you often worry about what others are thinking?
Are you easily startled?
11.Do you find it difficult to just let things go?
12.Do you easily take on other people’s problems and emotions – as if they’re your own?
13.Do you tend to keep your emotions bundled up inside?
14.Do you feel awkward in group situations?
15.Do large crowds drain your energy?
16.Do you feel uncomfortable when around bright lights or strong smells?
17.Do you have difficulty asking for what you want?
18.Do you tend to settle for less?
19.Do you have a hard time accepting criticism?
20.Do you tend to reach for food or other substances when stressed?
How many questions did you answer yes to? Five or more confirms what I suspected! You are a Highly Sensitive Person, or HSP for short.
Now let’s dig deeper to find out how your sensitivity shows up. What kind of HSP are you? Answer these questions by selecting the response that is MOST like you:
When you walk into a party or large gathering, the first thing you notice is:
The noise level, lighting, and how many people are crowded in the room.
How welcoming the crowd is – are people staying in closed groups or mingling and meeting new people.
The undercurrents in the room. Is someone angry or worried or is there tension any of the guests.
What drinks and snacks are being served.
In romantic relationships, you enjoy:
Setting the mood with soft music, candles and massage.
Sharing your feelings, and encouraging your partner to reveal their fears, hopes and dreams.
Predicting what the future has in store for both of you.
Attending concerts, movies and plays.
Your ideal job is one where:
There’s a lovely environment with lots of light, and you have a comfortable office or cubicle.
The culture is key! People are warm and friendly and spend time together in and out of the office.
There is the potential for new inventions, innovations and growth.
The pay is generous and you have the freedom to take time off.
As a young child, your happiest memories were of:
Spending time at the park or the ocean.
Having sleepovers and sharing secrets with close friends.
“Playing pretend” and imagining yourself in exciting scenarios.
Receiving a gift that you’d longed for.
At a museum, you gravitate toward:
Exhibits of photography, especially black and white photos of natural settings.
Losing yourself in the work of impressionists like Monet and Degas, with visible light and soft colors.
Studying modern, abstract art, where you can try to decipher what the artist is trying to convey.
Traveling exhibits, or whatever is currently popular.
If you selected mostly a’s: You’re physically sensitive. Easily overwhelmed by crowds, noise and bright lights, the Physically Sensitive Person is happiest in small groups, sharing meaningful conversation with friends. Make sure to create a healthy, uncluttered environment for yourself at home and at the office. To recharge, spend some quality time with yourself – meditating, reading or enjoying nature.
If you selected mostly b’s: You’re empathically sensitive. You easily tune into what others are feeling, and you always know the right thing to say. You’re famous for being a good listener, which makes you a popular friend and co-worker. The downside is that you can become burdened by the energy of others – so take time to ground yourself with a salt bath, time in the garden, or a walk in the woods!
If you selected mostly c’s: You’re intuitively sensitive. Your sensitivity goes far beyond what you can see, hear and touch. You “know” what is going on behind the scenes, and sometimes get handy tips from your guides, angels and your own inner knowing. People seek you out when faced with a dilemma that they can’t solve, and value your unique insights. The constant barrage of messages and impressions can drain your energy – so for your own protection, make sure you learn how to regulate your frequency.
If you selected mostly d’s: You’re “Semi-Sensitive.” You take the practical approach, keeping your sensitivity in check most of the time. You do a good job of living in the moment and practicing self-care. Increasing your level of mindful focus when around others will deliver some rewarding benefits to yourself and those around you.
I’m glad you took a little time to explore your sensitive side, and I’d love to hear what you discovered about yourself! Please join my interactive Facebook Community to chat with other like-minded souls. There are some exciting announcements in the works for my Highly Sensitive students – and as a member of my Facebook Community, you will be the first to hear about them!
A Guide to Your Guides: Meet your Spirit Guides, Angels and Ascended Masters
Life can be challenging, but fortunately, you don’t have to navigate its rocky waters alone. You have a team of guides, both on earth and in the divine realm, who work through you to help make the most of your earthly existence. They delight in providing you with protection, guidance and divine gifts – all you have to do is make yourself open and available to receive them.
How do you connect with your Guides? I’ve spoken countless times about how we are actually one with the Spirit realm, and that the idea of separateness is an illusion. There are invisible worlds all around you from which infinite streams of energy flow – moving through you and connecting you with the vast universe. Your team of guides is part of this energy, flowing through you like your breath, influencing, protecting and inspiring you from within.
You might wonder why these celestial beings spend their time guiding and protecting you. In fact, your guides are deeply invested in you – because the expansion their own spiritual awareness comes from serving the human dimension. Their mission is to help you become more spiritual and enlightened, and the way that they do that depends on their own “specialty.”
Here are some of the guides who might be part of your personal team right now.
Your Master Guide heads up your team and has actually been involved in many of your incarnations. Your Master Guide is usually a member of your soul family. The master guide teaches you soul lessons and inspires you to fulfill your destiny.
A Guardian Angel watches over you and will pull or push you out of harm’s way when necessary. It knows when your Earth life is finished and is present at the time of your death to usher you to the spiritual dimensions.
Your Relationship Guides help you deal with the lessons of love. They work with your unique energy to attract persons with whom you are karmically connected. Relationship guides are often friends and family members who are now in the Spirit realm.
Healing guides are usually doctors, nurses, and other healers throughout many of their incarnations and they influence you in matters of mental and psychical health.
Inspirational guides are evolved beings who reach out to you from the higher realms to impart higher truths. Think of them as the professors and philosophers of the spiritual dimensions.
These are just a few of the guides who might be with you at this very moment – remember, guides come and go based upon where you are in your life, and not all are celestial. Some might be members of your Soul Family who are currently in their human form – but they all have something in common. They will be more effective if you are aware of them and open to letting them work through you.
In this passage from Wisdom From Your Spirit Guides, I share a few simple techniques to help you clear your energy and invite your guides to shower you with the abundant wisdom and priceless gifts they have to offer. Enjoy!
Setting Your Intention:
From the moment you wake up every day, you must have a sense of gratitude. Thank you for giving me another day to learn. Be mindful of your thoughts. I know that a lot of you who are reading this are thinking, My body is in constant pain. I should be grateful for that? Or My child has died. I’m supposed to be happy? I don’t want to sound like I’m trivializing your battles or that I don’t have empathy for your struggles. What I’m saying is that it’s my belief that obstacles have been placed in our paths so we can learn from them. In my worldview, everything in the physical dimension is temporary; it is your soul that is perfect and immortal. Try not to drag yourself out of bed each morning and think negatively. Also, don’t walk around in a daze. Train yourself to become constantly aware and conscious. Thoughts are real—they can affect your mood and your health.
When you take a shower and the water flows over you, close your eyes and for a moment picture a golden light of loving energy flowing into your body. Be aware that you are receiving this golden light in every cell, muscle, bone, and tissue. See the light expand and flow through your energy field and beyond your body into your spiritual self. As it does, imagine all energies that are not for your highest good dissolve and flow down the drain. Mother Earth will neutralize those. This golden light brings you a sense of balance, peace, and connection to the One Source. Incomplete awareness you know that you are part of the Universe and that this beautiful energy stays with you throughout the day.
As you are preparing to leave the shower, say, “May God go before me and show me the way today.” You are setting your intention and programming the spaces you will encounter each day. When you send out this thought, you’re actually transmitting that vibration and the same energy will return to you. Make your intention personal to you. I vary my intentions throughout the week. Sometimes I say, “I am a magnet. I will attract only love and the experiences that are for my highest good.” Or: “Spirit, guide me today. May everybody who comes upon my path is enlightened.”
Set your intention daily. Make it a habit. If you have to, put a note or object in or near the shower to remind you to invoke your intention. In two weeks, you will start to feel centered, connected, and balanced. You will have a sense of renewal.
Connect with Your Guides Every Day.
My guides aren’t far off figures I call upon once in a while when I need help. In fact, rarely does a day pass when I don’t speak to them and feel their loving presence.
How can you open yourself up to feel the presence of your guides every day? You don’t have to be a medium or a psychic to make this happen. With focus, mindfulness and gratitude you can set your intention and invite your guides in.
1 –Create a sacred space. The Earth dimension is a heavy and not particularly comfortable place for Spirit. By raising your own energy, you will make it easier for the guides to meet you halfway. In my brand new book, Wisdom From Your Spirit Guides, I explain in detail how to ground yourself, open your heart space and run your energy through your chakra points. All of these techniques will create a “guide friendly environment.”
2- Invite your guides to join you. The guides won’t interfere with your free will, unless it’s an emergency, but they’re always there, willing and happy to provide what you need. The exercise below will help you to make them feel welcome.
Relax and clear your mind. Take a few deep breaths, create a space in your mind, and invite your guide to come close. You can telepathically say:
Welcome, Spirit Guide, please come to mind. Let me know that you are here with me.
You will get a sign that your guide is present. Don’t force it; put aside your ego and surrender to the impressions, feelings, and visions you are about to receive. You have to be as open-minded as you can. Immediately you will feel the space changing. It will feel illuminated. Invite your guide into your space. Merge your energies into one.
When you are ready, you can say:
I am in need of your assistance. Share any information that you have for me.
As you sit with your guide in your space, you may sense some thoughts being projected into your mind. Let the guide download into your mind any feelings, thoughts, or symbols.
Sit with your guide and listen to his or her teaching and philosophy. When it is time to stop, you can say:
Dear Spirit Guide, I bless you and thank you for joining me and sharing your advice.
Take some deep breaths and slowly come back into your body. Become aware of your feet, then your legs, and upward to your head. Inhale and exhale a few more times.
Raise your arms and center yourself.
Slowly open your eyes
3– Learn about your guides. The more you know about them, the easier it will be to feel close. When you feel the presence of your guides, ask them some questions.
What name shall I call you?
Have you ever incarnated on Earth?
How will I know when you are near?
Why have we agreed for you to be my guide?
Do you have a particular mission to help me with?
4- Record what you learn in a journal. Understanding your guides is an ongoing process. Jot down thoughts and impressions that come through from and about your guides in a journal. Record your dreams, visions, times when you feel that your guide intervened for you. If you have multiple guides, give each one a section of their own. You might even want to sketch what you think your guides look like.
5- Remain mindful and aware. When you’re busy with daily life, it’s easy to miss the divine wisdom and guidance that comes your way. If you stay aware and “in the moment” you’ll catch the changes in the energy and notice when your guides are coming through and be able to benefit from the messages they have for you.
Not all Guides Come From Heaven – How to Recognize Your Earthly Guides.
Has someone touched your life, inspired, supported and protected you in a memorable way? When I look back, naturally there are family members who come to mind – but have been others in not so obvious roles who contributed to shaping the course of my life. These special relationships can seem predestined, or “meant to be” and they are! Spirit guides are everywhere, and some reside in human form.
We hear stories about beautifully special human connections on the news and read about them on social media. Some are dramatic – the heroes who saved lives and stayed to comfort the injured during the shooting in Las Vegas, and some more subtle – nurses and teachers who form a unique and powerful bond with someone in their care.
In Wisdom From Your Spirit Guides, I talk about Earth Guides. I think this passage illustrates how your path might cross with special individuals, and how it is indeed “meant to be” for both parties.
We often believe that guides are only those who reside in the spiritual dimensions. This is far from the truth. Guides can be people who share your everyday life like friends, neighbors, relatives, and many times even strangers. Earth guides are not consciously aware of being a guide of yours, but I totally believe that pacts are made between souls before physical incarnations to help assist each other. Perhaps you had a chance encounter with someone who caused you to think about an aspect of yourself that you had never considered before. Perhaps someone said some- thing in passing that assisted you in becoming the person you are today. Your life would have been very different if you had never met that person. Perhaps you had a child- hood friend who changed your life forever. I was lucky enough to have such a friend.
When I was eight years old, I was on a mission through my neighborhood to sell as many magazine subscriptions as I could for my school. I was just about to cross the street to reach the last house of the day, when suddenly a red Chevy rumbled up to me and came to a complete stop.
“Hi there, young man!” The bellowing voice of the female driver startled me. As I turned to look, I could see her eagerly waving for me to come over. I stepped toward the car and saw a brunette woman about my mother’s age whom I didn’t recognize. She motioned me closer so I could shake her hand. “My name is Connie Leif. I just moved here. I have a son who is about the same age as you. Would you like a new friend?”
Connie had such a welcoming feeling, and I knew instantly that I liked her. Her warmth made me feel safe, and she treated me like an adult. “Yes,” I said. “I would like a new friend.”
“His name is Scott. We live around the corner. This car will be parked in the driveway. I look forward to seeing you soon.” Connie pressed the accelerator and away she went. I could see her hand reach up and wave from side to side as she drove off. Her joy was irresistible.
Her son Scott and I quickly became constant companions. The odd thing was that I wanted to be his friend, not only because of him, but because I enjoyed being with Connie. I always felt she genuinely cared about me and showered me with encouragement. She was like a second mother to me.
As I grew up, I would spend hours at her kitchen table discussing people, life, and the ways of the world. I could talk to her about anything. Looking back, I know now that she was definitely a guide of mine, and without her insights and support, I would never have believed in myself. She used to say, “Jamie, reach for the stars. I will always be there to catch you if you fall!”
Earth guides come into your life at the perfect time with the perfect words to say and make an invaluable impact on the rest of your life. Some people use the term synchronicity or serendipity to describe these chance encounters that can have such a profound effect on us. But I don’t believe in accidents. I think people and events are placed on your path in accordance with the blueprint that you (with the assistance of your spiritual guides) created for yourself before you incarnated. The gift is to be able to recognize who and what has been placed before you for what they are: tools from which you learn.
I want to share some of the questions that students have asked me over the years. Of course these are my personal opinions based on my life experiences and my work with the unseen world. Another spiritual communicator may have different responses. It is truly up to you to take what resonates as truth for your own soul; for no one can tell you who you are but yourself.
Can I reach those beings on the highest of realms? You will draw into your atmosphere those essences that can teach you at the soul awareness level your soul is currently at. There is no reason to teach you calculus if you still don’t understand basic arithmetic.
Do I have a specific number of guides? Due to the constant shifting and expansion of spirit evolvement, there is never a finite number of guides per soul. Although guides may be involved with other souls along with you, there is a certain group of guides specifically designated to help with your soul’s lessons. As mentioned previously, while some are permanent, others may be temporary. Guides will grow and change dependent upon the tasks and lessons the earthly soul is experiencing.
Are my guides always with me? Guides are in constant communication with your Higher Self. The very nature of this physical dimension is to make you think that you are separate or isolated. But that’s an illusion necessary for your soul’s evolution. Your guides are omnipresent, and this book will hopefully encourage you to have a conscious relationship with them.
How can I learn the names of my guides? Names aren’t necessarily significant to guides. Although some guides have incarnated many times as physical beings on Earth, they may or may not choose to present as one of those personalities. For many, names are limiting because they merely define a small fraction of their totality. You can assign a name to them if you wish, but guides would rather be recognized by an energetic feeling than by a name.
How can I tell if my guides are communicating to me? When communication with a guide is occurring, quite often there is a feeling or sense of joy and excitement, and a piece of wisdom or an insight that will pop into your mind. You may feel a cool breeze or a temperature change. You may get a sense of expectation, like butterflies in the stomach or goosebumps. A guide may tap you on the shoulder or touch the top of the head. You may even hear your guide calling your name.
Yesterday, right in the middle of my busy day, spirit tapped me on the shoulder. I had intended to listen to Louise Hay’s audio as soon as it was released – her Subliminal Affirmations to Heal You
is part of the initial group of offerings from the 2018 Hay House World Summit. Louise has been on my mind lately, and as I sat at my desk, I felt her presence in the room. Without even thinking about it, I clicked on the link and within moments, I was listening to Louise’s lovely voice. As the soothing music and healing affirmations washed over me, I felt my soul expand. I often say that your words and thoughts have power, and I could certainly feel the healing energy as I listened.
Here are a few of Louise’s statements that resonated particularly with me at that moment:
“I approve of myself, exactly as I am right now.”
“I am open and receptive to my highest good and greatest joy.”
“I am worthy of my own love.”
“I have a strong reason for healing and for living.”
And my very favorite…
“All is well with my world.”
How do affirmations work?
Affirmations are much more than just pleasant words. They are statements designed to reprogram your thinking in a positive way. In order for an affirmation to weave it’s magic, it must be positive, and spoken or read repeatedly as a statement of truth. An affirmation never includes phrases like “I’m working toward,” “I need to” or “I hope to,” instead it puts you right where you want to be, right now.
Dress for the job you want!
Career coaches tell their clients to dress for the job you aspire to. Dressing like a manager or executive makes other people view you that way – and most of all, allows you to see yourself as capable, confident and professional. Positive affirmations work the same way! You create your reality with definitive statements like “I radiate love, and it’s reflected back at me.” “My body is healthy and full of energy.” When you find an affirmation that resonates with you, activate positive change by repeating it often. Write it down, say it to yourself throughout the day, even use it as a screen saver on your phone.
My own personal affirmation, and one that I most often share with my students goes like this:
Healthy am I,
Happy am I,
Holy am I,
And so it is.
For me, this affirmation sums everything up! It’s been my personal mantra for years, and I have versions of it in needlework, calligraphy, and watercolors around my home. It reminds me that without changing a thing, I am a divine, loving being with everything I truly need – health and happiness!
Affirmations take the place of negative self-talk.
Another thing I love about affirmations is that they fill up the headspace you might have used in less positive ways. If you meditate or have ever tried to, you know how many thoughts buzz around in your head without your even realizing it. We humans have between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts a day – and research shows that about 80% of those thoughts are negative! Adding positive thoughts in a language that the brain understands will shift your thought trend, reducing the flow of critical and judgmental self-talk.
I’m so glad that I took a few moments yesterday to tune into the wisdom of the late Louise Hay. While I was on the World Summit website, I saw so many other fascinating and life-changing interviews that will be coming soon – including my own interview – where I teach you how to Supercharge Your Psychic Abilities! I look forward to hearing from you on Facebook. I hope you’ll let me know what you think of it, and while you’re there, please share your favorite affirmation!
You want to live your very best life and enjoy love, success, and vibrant health. You dream of experiencing profound transformation at all levels – physical, emotional and spiritual – yet something keeps those positive changes from happening.
What’s holding YOU back?
Have you noticed how people seem to repeat patterns – cycling through the same life experiences over and over again? Maybe your sister is on her third marriage and can’t understand why each husband displayed the same negative traits after a few months. Or you have a friend who can’t get it together financially – he seems to suffer freakishly bad luck at every turn. Perhaps you yourself consistently sabotage promising jobs and friendships by overreacting with anger at imagined slights.
These patterns might seem like chance or bad luck, but in fact, just about everyone has a texture to their life that they have carried since childhood. Sometimes, the patterns go back even farther – in my years as a medium I’ve seen them carried across multiple lifetimes.
I teach my students that the earth is the schoolroom to the soul. For many people, the key lesson they are tasked with learning is how to break free of the emotional chains that are holding them back so they can fulfill their soul destiny.
Do any of these self-destructive themes keep showing up in your life?
Crippling fear of something (change, abandonment, illness – whatever)
Emotional eating, or gaining weight, dieting, then gaining it back
Constant “issues” with friends, bosses, family members
Attracting the same type of people in your life
Addictions, recoveries and relapses
Procrastination, disorganization, inability to complete projects
Destructive, attention seeking behavior
Any unwanted situation that repeats itself
Roots of relationship patterns.
No one wants to keep repeating bad behaviors, but old habits and patterns can be tough to break when they’re deeply rooted in the past of this lifetime or an earlier one. If you have memories of severe neglect, pain, abandonment or lack of love, your subconscious can get stuck trying to re-create the original circumstances of those hurts in hopes that this time things will “turn out differently.”
For that reason, you might stay in a relationship with a person who recreates exactly the situation that you should be avoiding. You will likely be subconsciously drawn to these people, then find yourself wondering why you always wind up with abusive bosses, self-centered friends, and withdrawn and unsupportive partners.
Patterns have a magnetic pull that makes it easy to pass up (or overlook) healthier alternatives.
It’s time to break the chains!
Breaking negative patterns (especially the ones we have carried through several lifetimes) isn’t easy, but it can be done. Here’s how to get started:
– Be fully conscious in the moment. Mindfulness teaches you to focus on the present, not the past or the future. By practicing mindfulness, you become more aware of the choices you are making from moment to moment, and avoid going on “autopilot” where you might slip into old grooves.
– Imagine yourself living your best life. Paint a vivid mental picture of who you want to be. Words are important, so remember to make this a positive affirmation. For example, say, “I am healthy and energetic” rather than “I don’t want to feel tired and lazy any more.”
– Listen to people you trust. If your spouse, parent or a trusted friend mentions that you are traveling down a familiar (rocky) path, don’t immediately get defensive and discount what they’re saying. Take their comment as a reminder to slow down and consider the choice you’re making.
– Develop your intuition, and pay attention to it! Your own wise inner knowing will send you signals when you’re about to repeat a destructive pattern. Nurture that voice inside of you so that you don’t ignore red flags alerting you to “dangerous choices ahead.”
Need some help and guidance along the way? Your intuition will be your main guide you as you chart your new path – but there’s amazing outside help available too. My friends at Hay House Publishing have tapped into their amazing pool of talented spiritual teachers and authors to bring you 100 interviews, plus videos, eBooks and more.
Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears. – Edgar Allan Poe
Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) get tired of hearing the words “You’re too sensitive!” I even find myself saying that while being an HSP is a blessing, it can also be a curse when the energy of other people overwhelms you. Don’t apologize for the way you are! With a little awareness and practice, you can experience all the good things about being an HSP or empath and none of the downside.
Today we’re focusing on the positive – so I’m sharing a few of the perks of being Highly Sensitive:
You’re tuned in to your own needs.
Highly Sensitive People know what makes them feel good. Their intuition signals them to make the right choices when it comes to people, places, and activities – so their surroundings remain in sync with their true nature. Once they learn to set healthy boundaries with the people in their lives, HSPs know exactly how to practice the level of self-care needed to keep them happy, healthy and centered.
You’re “Spiritually Gifted.”
HSPs and empaths operate on a vibration that is very tuned in and open to the energy of others, and those characteristics go hand in hand with psychic, mediumistic, and healing abilities. As a psychic medium, I’m at the top of the sensitivity range. After all, I have to be tuned-in and open to receive messages from the other side. I encourage my students to be aware of their own gifts and to learn how to tap into them to receive signs and messages from Spirit.
Sensitivity can be “managed.”
Over the years, I have become an expert at turning my “receiver” off and on – dialing down the frequency when I need to in order to protect my energy field. It just takes practice. In addition to helping you choose when you receive messages from Spirit, I find that a foundation of mindfulness and meditation is invaluable in being able to control the effect that other people’s energy and emotions have on you.
You have plenty of light to share.
Your high level of sensitivity lets you tune into the oneness and realize what is really important in life – which is love and compassion. Since your natural inclination as an HSP is to make people feel good, you can’t help but share your light with others – creating a ripple effect that is exactly what the world needs.
How blessed are you?
So, how do you know where you fall on the “sensitivity spectrum?” The difference between HSPs, empaths, psychics and mediums is not black and white – but there are some key differences. Highly sensitive people are super tuned-in to the outside world, and pick up energy with their 5 senses. Empaths have the ability of the HSP, along with additional psychic gifts. They actually experience the feelings of others with their 6th sense, through clairsentience. Psychics and mediums are called “sensitives” for a reason. In order to connect with the Spirit world they have to raise their frequency and open themselves up energetically to receive messages.
Wherever you fall on the spectrum, embrace your sensitivity! Learn how to manage your gifts and protect your energy by tuning into my Hay House Radio broadcast every Tuesday at 11:00 pacific time. Starting this week and going all the way through May, I’ll be covering everything that HSPs, empaths, psychics and mediums need to know to live their best life.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. – Steve Jobs
My greatest wish is that you awaken each morning energized and ready to take on the day – that you love where you live, how you spend your time, and the people you spend your time with. If this doesn’t describe your life today, ask yourself “What’s holding me back from living a life that inspires and fulfills me?”
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been getting to know the new group of students enrolled in my Advanced Mediumship Courses. I’ve been so impressed with their Spiritual gifts – and I can’t wait to help them to develop them even further. More importantly I want to give them confidence in their own unique abilities, dreams, and desires.
So many people have difficulty separating what is in their heart from the expectations of others. It’s no wonder! After all, practically from the moment you’re born, you receive positive reinforcement by pleasing others. But focusing on what other people expect of you can leave you stuck in a job, relationship or situation that is in conflict with your own true self.
This passage from The Power of Love illustrates what happens when the belief system you are brought up with conflicts with the truth you know deep in your soul.
At one of my workshops, I met Bill, a man in his mid 50s who seemed to have an incredible gift of insight, healing, and mediumship. But Bill was afraid to explore his abilities. Throughout the week, we did many exercises in self-empowerment and opening up to our souls’ work. I noticed that Bill understood many of the things I was speaking about but had a hard time incorporating them into his world. It wasn’t until I lectured, “What other people think of you is none of your business,” that I saw Bill break down and cry. He said, “I think I am possessed and an instrument of the devil because I see dead people and can heal the sick.” Immediately, I realized that seeing spirits was against his belief system. The work we had been doing had brought his fear and guilt to the surface to be healed.
Bill explained that he was a Catholic priest. “I had nowhere to go but to your workshop. I knew you had your own history of attending seminary school.” (In my first book, Talking to Heaven, I described my early Catholic upbringing and my enrollment in seminary school to prepare to become a priest. My being a priest was actually my mother’s dream, not mine. After one year of seminary teachings, I knew that the God of the Bible was not the God I kept in my heart—the Oneness of unlimited love, compassion, and acceptance.)
I told Bill that all of us bring a history of prior lives and experiences, and no matter what we learn in this life, if it does not apply to our prior knowledge, it will not work for us now. “Your truth is your truth,” I explained. Bill felt that the dogma of the church went against everything that Christ stood for in his heart. I told him that evil is a concept of man that is intended to produce fear and allow control over others, and he agreed. Bill then said something quite profound. “It has taken me fifty-four years to finally see the truth— the church is man-made, but God is spirit-made.” Everyone in the class stood up and applauded.
You must do what is in your heart. No one can give you your own truth but yourself. Because of this priest’s breakthroughs, several other students came forward and acknowledged their powers.
In The Power of Love, I talk about love in all its forms – but to me, it starts with loving and honoring yourself. Self-love is not selfish or indulgent, it takes commitment and courage – the ability to filter out the noise and static of the outside world so you can hear the truth that you comes from your own heart and soul. Listen to your intuition, and it will lead you to your true path.
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