Jenna Korf is a certified stepfamily coach who draws on her own experiences as a stepmom to help others. On her blog, Jenna explores tricky topics, like the importance of sticking up for yourself, making time for self-care, and how to keep your cool on family vacations. Jenna’s coaching side comes out in podcast-esque calls where she doles out advice with the help of other stepmom experts.
Sometimes I really want to take the court system by the neck and shake it. Judges in particular who just don’t understand that when you’re dealing with certain personalties, co-parenting isn’t possible. And no amount of “court ordered” therapy or co-parenting classes will make it so. All it does is waste precious resources and in many cases causes more harm than good.
Let's talk about the stress associated with feeling like an outsider during the holidays.
This is probably one of the most challenging stressors to deal with, especially if you still have some lingering childhood insecurities.
One of the reasons it can be difficult is because being around an already-formed family, before you've really bonded, can feel very much like rejection.
With Thanksgiving right around the corner, many stepmoms are already feeling the pressure. Will it be a fight to see where the kids will be even though it’s written in the custody agreement? Will you survive the joint holiday dinner …
The sad thing is if this was a woman, telling the teacher that her ex was abusive and she wasn't comfortable being in the same room, I'm 99% sure the teacher would make an arrangement for separate meetings.
Have you ever had these thoughts? I can’t stand being around my partner’s kids. And that makes me a terrible person. I wish his ex didn’t exist. I feel resentful that my partner brought this drama into my life. I …