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This post is the first in a new series called Stories of Simple + Intentional Living. I’ll be interviewing people from all walks of life with one thing in common—their desire to live simple and intentional lives! Check back on the first Sunday of every month for new interviews.

This month, I’m chatting with Sarah Hartley, the creator of Holl & Lane magazine. What really inspires me about Sarah is the way she combined her dream of creating a magazine with her vision of empowering women through untold stories. I think it’s a beautiful example of intentional living and I’m so excited to share her story with you today!

Sarah Hartley is the creator, designer, editor and publisher of Holl & Lane Magazine, a quarterly magazine designed to show real stories from real women in the hopes of showing them they’re not alone. She is also a wife, a mom to two boys, and works full-time at an architecture firm.

Tell me the story of Holl & Lane—why did you decide to start a magazine? What was your vision?

When I was pregnant with my first son, I had a really hard time – I wasn’t glowing, I was sick all nine months, and in general, didn’t enjoy the experience. During that time I wrote on my personal blog about my experience and started receiving such amazing feedback from readers telling me how thankful they were that I was being honest about it.

Normally in media, we just see the women who love being pregnant. But there are so many of us that struggle. As I received the comments and emails, I started to realize that there wasn’t a magazine out there talking about the things that we struggle with in an honest way. I had always dreamed of having a magazine and so the two ideas came together to form Holl & Lane.

From Jen: I’ll admit I struggled a lot during pregnancy and I definitely felt the pressure to put on a smile and hide my feelings! It was so brave of you to talk about it!

My vision has always been to tell the stories that often go untold – the ones that we feel we have to hide from the rest of the world. I believe that when you open up and share these stories, you allow other women to stand up and say “me, too” and that’s powerful.

Has this vision changed over the years? And if so, how?

My vision hasn’t changed but the scale of what we talk about has. I haven’t experienced all of the things that the women who write for us have. But that is what makes it great. There are so many experiences talked about in our pages that it’s nearly guaranteed that when you pick up an issue, you’ll be able to relate to at least one of the stories inside.

I think a lot of people are afraid to follow their dreams because they’re worried about failing or overwhelmed by all the things they don’t know yet. What advice would you give to someone in this position?

It is absolutely terrifying to follow your dreams. But I’ve always thought it’s more terrifying to never go after them because you never know what could’ve happened. When I first started the magazine, I didn’t tell very many people because I was worried about failing in front of them.

But then I just had to realign what failure meant. Trying something is not failing, no matter if it doesn’t work out. You always learn and grow through the experience and that’s important. Also, Google will be your best friend for all those things you don’t know.

As a blogger, I often fall into the comparison trap, worrying if what I’m doing is good enough and questioning if I should be doing things a different way because it’s what everyone else is doing. Do you ever feel this too? And if so, what are your tips for staying true to yourself and your vision?

My biggest problem is comparing myself to others. I compare not only my personal skills but also the magazine to other magazines – even those that have been in business for years and years. It’s such a tough thing to get over, and I don’t know that I’ve truly gotten a handle on it yet.

But in general, when I start to compare myself to others and I get down on myself about where I or the magazine are, I go to my sunshine folder. It’s a folder where I keep amazing comments and emails that I’ve gotten from our readers that tell me how the magazine has changed them. Those are the things that get me back on MY path so that I keep doing what I need to be doing.

From Jen: I love the idea of a sunshine folder! I think it’s something a lot of people could benefit from, whether you’re in a creative industry or not.

Holl & Lane is all about sharing stories. What’s the most powerful story you’ve heard as an editor and how did it change you?

I don’t think there’s one story that I could point to and say that it’s changed me. Every single story that comes to me has changed me in some way because 1) these women are trusting me with something that has shaped who they are as a person, and 2) seeing what these women have gone through and come out on the other side of is humbling.

I will say, the hardest stories for me to edit and design the spread around are the ones that focus on the loss of a child. Being a mom, that is my greatest fear in life and I often have to walk away from the story several times throughout the process.

As a minimalist, I can’t help but ask this question—what do you want less and more of in your life this year?

We all want more time, right? But if I’m being realistic, I want less of putting myself on the back burner and more self-care. Materialistically, I want to acquire less “stuff”. I have always been the person that when I get bored, I shop. I don’t need or even want anything, and yet that satisfies my boredom for the moment. I’ve been shopping much, much less recently and it’s already feeling more freeing.

I was stalking the Holl & Lane Instagram and saw a great quote about making yourself a priority and taking time for yourself (so important for everyone but especially us new mamas!). So I’m curious, how do you to make yourself a priority with so many projects on the go?

As I mentioned previously, this is the one thing I’d like to change this year. I do a terrible job of making time for myself. The only thing I do consistently is at the end of every single day, I read. No matter if it’s for 5 minutes or an hour, I will read before I go to bed. It’s the only way to truly clear my head. But now that I’m able to start exercising again after the birth of my second baby, I’m trying to make that a priority as well. I don’t love to workout, but getting an hour to myself to either go for a walk and listen to a podcast, or go to a Zumba class does wonders for my psyche.

From Jen: I think your commitment to reading every night is fantastic! I’m always trying to encourage my readers to look for small things they can do every day to bring more joy into their lives and this is a perfect example.

I think one of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves is to write our own definitions of success, so tell me—what does success mean to you? And do you feel like you’re on the right track?

Success to me is knowing that I’ve somehow made a difference, even if it’s just to one person. I don’t need to be a millionaire, but I do need to know that what I’m doing is valuable. Based on the sunshine folder I keep handy, it definitely feels like I’m on the right track and I couldn’t be more proud of where Holl & Lane is going in the future.

To learn more about Holl & Lane, pick up the FREE mini issue showcasing reader favorite stories from all of the past issues. Visit hollandlanemag.com to sign up. You can also follow Holl & Lane on Facebook and Instagram.

During March, I’m proud to be partnering with Holl & Lane for the re-launch of 7 Simple Days.

7 Simple Days is a Simple + Intentional Living mini course that will:

  • bring you clarity and a better understanding of your vision and values
  • help you understand what simple living really means to you
  • define your priorities so you can focus on the things that matter most
  • inspire you to take small, practical steps towards a life you love
  • empower and motivate you to write your own story

Sign up for 7 Simple Days during March and you’ll receive a free digital copy of the latest issue of Holl & Lane magazine. *Conditions Apply

To find out more about 7 Simple Days and this special offer, click here.

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If you’re a regular reader, you’ll know I believe in the power of intentional living, but it hasn’t always been that way.

In fact, for most of my life, you could say I lived with a complete lack of intention! I was always busy, always rushing from project to project, always adding more and more to my life—but never pausing to reflect and question my actions.

As a result, I wasted a lot of time running in circles, working hard but not actually working towards anything that mattered to me. It was stressful and to be honest, demoralising because I invested so much of myself but felt like I was getting nothing in return.

It wasn’t until I learned about intentional living that I realised asking questions and taking time for self-reflection wasn’t a waste of time—it was actually the most important thing I could do if I wanted to live a meaningful life.

If you’re ready to get off the treadmill and become a conscious creator of your own life, then here are 7 questions to inspire intentional living.


This is a deceptively simple question! I think too often we assume we know the answer to this one, but when we really stop and think about it, our answers can surprise us.

When I started asking myself this question, I realised I had no idea why I was doing a lot of the things I did! The best answer I could come up with was often because “that’s what everyone else is doing” and it made me realise how much I had internalised other people’s expectations.


I really wish I had asked this more often when I was younger—I would have saved myself a lot of wasted time, money and heartache!

Are you doing things because you want to or because you’re afraid of letting someone else down? It’s ok to do things for other people but make sure you’re conscious of who and why before you invest yourself.


When I’m faced with a problem or a task, I’ve noticed my first instinct is to overthink things and make the situation way more complicated than it needs to be.

I’m not sure if this human nature or simply a bad habit I’ve picked up, but I’ve found that taking a moment to pause and look for a simpler solution has been life-changing.

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Your time, energy and money are valuable, so the next time you’re about to exchange them for something (by making a purchase or adding another task to your to-do list) make sure it’s worth it. If you can’t quickly explain how something is adding value to your life, odds are it isn’t.


This is something I talk about in my short course 7 Simple Days—everything has a tradeoff. Whenever you decide to do or buy something, make sure you ask yourself what you’re giving up to make it happen. Keep the big picture in mind and make sure you’re not giving up what you want most for short-term gains.


I think a lot of people don’t ask themselves this question because it can feel selfish, but your feelings matter and they’re often clues you can use to help you make more intentional decisions.

If you’re doing something that makes you feel sad, anxious, or angry it’s important to ask yourself why. Are you doing something that goes against your core values? Or do you need more rest and support? Not all negative feelings are bad but they are always worth listening to.

The same rings true for your positive feelings; the more you understand what makes you feel happy and supported, the more you can intentionally create a life that you love.


Finally, check in and make sure you’re being honest with yourself, because if you’re not, none of your other answers really matter.

It’s not always easy to know for sure but—as cheesy as this seems—look to your heart for guidance. If something feels “off”, you might need to explore the above questions a bit further. Sometimes there’s more to the big picture than what first comes to mind.


If you enjoyed these questions, then I encourage to check out my short course 7 Simple Days (launching in early March—click here to register your interest and be the first to hear about special launch prizes and offers).

7 Simple Days is a simple and intentional living journey, where we explore questions just like these in more depth through seven days of journal prompts and mini challenges.

Here’s what people are saying about 7 Simple Days:

I’m on day four and already I feel a clarity in my life. My wife and I are doing 7 Simple Days together and we’ve found that it helps us get on the same page. It’s strengthening our marriage and making us happier. —Jenna W

I felt that something in my life was somehow “off,” but I didn’t know exactly what it was. Working through the questions really helped me pinpoint the areas of my life that need a bit of tweaking. 7 Simple Days is truly simple to follow and fun to work through! —Shelly B

Thank you so much for this. It was truly a simple 7 days that caused me to reflect and dive into what I value the most. I am so grateful that I was able to participate in this wonderful program you’ve created.— Abigail L

Do you think questions will help you live a more intentional life? Do you have any additional suggestions? Let me know in the comments! x

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When I started this blog, over two years ago, one of my first “blogger” friends was Catherine from the Blissful Mind. I fell instantly in love with her positive outlook and inspiring writing! If you’re looking to find more focus, balance, and fulfilment in your daily life then please check out her site—but first, I’m delighted to share this guest post she generously wrote for me. Enjoy!

A few years ago, I felt massively overwhelmed with life. Though nothing particularly overwhelming was going on, I felt like there was something weighing me down. The days seemed to merge into each other, and I was going through the motions of my daily routine without even noticing what I was doing.

As I searched endlessly on the internet for ways to make myself feel calmer, I came across the likes of Marie Kondo, Light by Coco, and Caroline Rector of un-fancy.com. All three of these ladies had something in common: they spoke of how minimalism and downsizing can greatly improve your life.

Though I was never the type of person to hold onto sentimental stuff, I had clothes in my closet that still had the tags on them because I told myself I might wear them ‘someday’. I had moved around a few times in the previous years and only realized how much stuff I owned when it came time to pack everything up.

Once I learned about minimalism, I was convinced that downsizing would be the answer to all of my problems. After all, maybe the clutter around me was weighing me down.

I immediately started to declutter everything. I pared down my belongings and embraced a capsule wardrobe. I dubbed 2015 “the year of less”, and I felt great about the way my stuff wasn’t overwhelming me anymore.

Of course, things didn’t stay that way forever. There was a part of me that thought, ‘I still feel overwhelmed.’

I was convinced that minimalism would make my life feel perfect because it was simple. Because I got rid of the stuff that didn’t bring me joy, I thought I’d instantly feel more joy.

The naivety of the situation was that I still had a lot of work to do on myself beyond the things I owned. Though my life looked calm and clutter-free on the outside, I was still overwhelmed and anxious on the inside. Don’t get me wrong, there are so many benefits to downsizing. But there’s also some inner work that needs to take place in order to appreciate what we have once we’ve simplified.

I’m not sure of the exact moment when I learned about the concept of mindfulness, but as soon as I did, it changed everything for me. Mindfulness means living in the current moment, without worrying about the future or the past. Once I understood this concept, I recognized that the overwhelm and worry in my life, the kind that couldn’t be eradicated by decluttering my stuff, was caused because I was living in the future.

Over the years that I’ve been living a more mindful lifestyle, life has felt a little simpler. Because I know we all dream of simpler and calmer lives, I’m sharing three ways that mindfulness has helped me live more simply on a deeper level.


Mindfulness helps me to clearly see what’s important. Since getting started with mindfulness, my head space has become a lot clearer. Mindfulness has helped me to discern between actual problems and ones I don’t really need to worry about. I’ve better identified what’s important to me because I can think more clearly without getting distracted by outside noise. I’ve also become more mindful about what I let into my mental and physical space, and I’ve set clearer boundaries on what I’m willing to spend time and money on.


I no longer feel so torn about whether I should do this or that. I’ve been able to tune into my intuition and know what feels right to me, rather than going back and forth on decisions like, ‘Should I buy this?’ or ‘Should I attend that party?’ I have a better sense of who I am and what I stand for, which means it’s simpler to make decisions.


Mindfulness has helped me to leave behind the idea that I need new things all the time. As someone who used to spend countless hours at the mall and online browsing, I know how exciting it can feel to buy new things. Of course new things are exciting, but I’ve become a lot more content with what I already have in my life. Because mindfulness encourages me to live in the current moment, I spend less time worrying about adding new things into my life and more time enjoying what I already have.

If you’ve been struggling with overwhelm and wondering why life doesn’t feel quite as simple as you’d like it to be, consider making mindfulness part of your routine. Living in the moment is a lot easier said than done, but it’s definitely worth the effort.

Catherine Beard is an intentional living blogger, mindset coach, and creator of The Blissful Mind, an online guide to help you find calm in your daily life. Follow her on Instagram for weekly mindfulness & self-care tips.

Do you find mindfulness and simple living go hand in hand? Let me know your thoughts in the comments! x

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As some of you may know, I’m expecting my first little one very soon (in just under 10 weeks to be exact!) so perhaps unsurprisingly, minimalism and motherhood has been on my mind.

I’m not worried, but I am curious about how my life will change – so when I received an email from Candace, a minimalist, mom and traveller – I was intrigued! I invited her to share her thoughts on simple living and motherhood and here is what she had to say. I hope you enjoy this beautiful essay as much as I did.
– Jennifer

I am Candace. I am a traveler, a mom and a minimalist. I blog about life as a single parent of color at MySpoclife.com. Minimalism is what helps me to keep my life as a mom and a traveler focused on the right things. I feel that it helps me to achieve my dream life by keeping me aware of the important things. Let me explain.

Being a mother in the western world is not always easy. It should be. However, with the invention of social media and the prevalence of opinions, mothering just got more difficult. There is an impossible standard that is being held up to everyone, mothers included. It is displayed everywhere you look. The perfect way to bring a child into the world. The perfect nursery, the perfect preschool, clothes and gear. The best activities for your child, the types of things they should or should not eat. The list goes on and on.

When a mother chooses minimalism, this storm of opinions is hushed. Your life is simplified. You are suddenly able to hear what your heart says. You can focus on the most important things: your well-being and that of your family.

I have always been interested in making the world a better place and my life the best it can be. Something I have done always done is look up information about simple living, community gardening and budget travel. I find it enjoyable, and passed many hours of my free time exploring these topics. Then my daughter was born.

My daughter was an unexpected bundle of responsibility; born at the beginning of divorce proceedings with her father. Having already begun to live a simpler life, I didn’t want to clutter up my home with baby things. I wanted to move throughout life much the way that I had before her arrival. I wanted to show her what I loved about the world.

I opted not to use many things that moms are told are necessary for babies and small children. I could not see the benefit of having a stroller. Taking public transportation would be a hassle. Why carry a stroller up and down stairs, in and out of crowded buses? Often, parents hold the child and pushing the stroller anyway. I spent many years with her happily on my back.

I opted not to have lots of clothing, shoes and toys for the baby. She wasn’t going out much. She wasn’t going to play with these plastic toys. She couldn’t walk, so why have lots of shoes? As I made these decisions and more for our lives, I didn’t realize that I was already doing what minimalist do, choosing the important things and leaving the rest.

Then I discovered minimalism. My life changed for the better. Objects, habits and people that I hung on to in hopes for a different future, I was able to let it all go. As I let it go, our lives improved. We have peace in our home. We live the life that we decide to live. We are the captains of our ship and not society and its opinions.

Moms deserve to live their best life. They deserve their own personal time. Moms can live in a house where they are not stumbling over toys, where they don’t have mountains of laundry. Moms can choose to live how they want to live. When moms discover minimalism, it will change their lives. It gives you the power to say NO to hosting excessive birthday parties, NO to too many school activities and the list goes on. You can then say YES to the things you feel are important for your family.

For my daughter and I, minimalism has allowed us to say yes to travel. I am an adventurer and my daughter is curious. We have been to many countries together and are only just getting started. I am able to do what I love because I have said no to what was not important. As a mother, I find it important to give these values to my daughter. As she grows older, she will have the ability to hear what her heart says when society begins to try and place limits on her.

My minimalism may not look like your minimalism. In fact, you may be neither a mom or a woman. However, the basics of our minimalism should be the same. Choose people over things. Choose experiences over materialism. Listen to what your heart says matters to you. Leave all of the rest aside. If you don’t know what is important to you and you haven’t started finding out what is important; I encourage you to try. You have a world of wonder to discover and not much to lose but stuff you didn’t really want anyway.

I hope you enjoyed this inspiring piece about minimalism and motherhood as much as I did! If so please be sure to check out Candace’s blog for stories about how she travels the world as a single mother. And if you’re a mother, I’d love to hear how minimalism has impacted your life. Share your story in the comments! x

photo credit: Josh Willink // Used with permission

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Last night, I sat down to write a short proposal for a freelance project I’m working on. I didn’t expect it to take long – it’s not a big project – but it turns out I was having one of those days.

Do you know what I mean? One of those days when nothing feels simple, everything falls into the ‘too hard’ basket, and all you really want is to throw in the towel, get into bed, and hide for a bit. (Tell me you can relate?!) Unfortunately, hiding in bed wasn’t an option, so I sat in front of my laptop and tore my hair out for a few hours.

I knew I was overcomplicating things, but I just couldn’t seem to find the path to simple.

I could feel myself approaching breaking point, so I closed my eyes, took a deep breath – and then a thought popped into my head:

“Just be honest … “

I opened my eyes, exhaled, and started typing from the heart. I explained what I could, couldn’t, and didn’t want to do – and within 30 minutes, my proposal was finished and sent.

Relieved, I sat and basked in that wonderful “checked something off my to-do list” glow – but my mind couldn’t help reflecting on why I struggled so much at the start.

Why are things that are supposed to be simple, sometimes so hard to do?

If you’ve read my story, you’ll know that my journey towards ‘simple living’ has been anything but simple – and I know I’m not the only one who feels this way! Every day I get emails from readers about their own struggles and if there’s one common thread, it’s this: choosing to live a simple life isn’t always easy.

Let’s look at a few examples:

On the surface, these are all ‘simple’ ideas – but I know for a fact, in real life, they can all be so hard to put into practice.

Why is that?


Simplicity is knowing what you value and then making choices accordingly. It’s simple because it makes sense – do more of what matters and let go of all the rest – and in theory, it should be intrinsic and easy to do.

Unfortunately, life gets complicated because we often get the first step wrong. It’s not always easy to be honest about what matters, about what we value, or even about what we want out of life.

Let’s take another look at those ‘simple’ ideas mentioned above …

Decluttering our closets involves letting go of unworn clothes – and this means admitting we made mistakes (sometimes very expensive mistakes!). I know in my case, it was embarrassing to admit I spent so much on things I was never going to wear.

And perhaps even worse, clearing out your wardrobe can mean admitting we might not be the person we thought we were – because let’s face it, sometimes the clothes we own say a lot more about who we wish we were than who we really are. I personally had tons of heels and party dresses for my imaginary social life, when in reality I’m an introvert who’d much prefer to stay home than head out to a nightclub – but it wasn’t easy for me to let go of this illusion.

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Deciding to spend more time with loved ones requires being honest about what makes us happy because time is a limited commodity; spending more with someone means spending less time doing something else.

Finding this balance might mean taking a long hard look at your values and your definition of success. What role does your career play in your life? What about your social life? What are you really doing with your time?

These aren’t easy questions and they can open the door to self-doubt and fear; after all, the answers might mean changing course after you’ve invested years of your life on a certain path or breaking with social norms – and these aren’t always easy pills to swallow.

Investing in self-care can also be a struggle because it means being honest about our limitations. For many of us (myself included!) it’s SO hard to acknowledge we can’t do it all. It’s hard to admit when we’re struggling, when we need a break – or even tougher – when we need help.

Sometimes it’s easier to pretend we’ve got everything under control, even when we don’t.

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If you’re struggling to find simplicity in your life, try letting go of the decluttering lists and looking in the mirror for a long, honest chat with yourself instead.

Clearly, honesty isn’t always easy (at least not in the short-term) but it’s only when you find the courage to face who you really are, to accept what you really want, and to define your boundaries that you can begin living a life true to what you feel in your heart.

And what could be more simple than that?

What have you learned about yourself on your simple living journey? Have you struggled to be honest with yourself? (I know I have!) Let me know your story in the comments x

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As a minimalist, I try hard to be intentional about what I include in my life – from my possessions to my relationships – but there’s one thing I’ve always struggled to let go of:


Picture this – you go to bed with a clear picture in your mind of how the next morning will play out.

You’ll wake up refreshed, have a nice cup of coffee, read or meditate, get to work early, have a productive morning …

Sounds good, right? (Yes!) But then life happens. You sleep through your alarm, you’re out of coffee, you miss the bus … and next thing you know, you’re on the fast track to a Bad Day.

I know we’ve all been there and it’s more than just a challenging morning; there’s also the disappointment we feel when our reality doesn’t match our expectations.

I’ve struggled with this all my life (I’ve written about it here and here) but it’s at the front of my mind again because of the little one growing in my belly. I’m already realising my body and my schedule are not my own anymore and I know it won’t be long until I really have to say goodbye to control and learn to roll with the punches!

I’ll be honest; there’s going to be a learning curve – this is not a habit you unlearn overnight – but I’m getting there (slowly!). If you struggle to let go of expectations as well, here are 5 steps that might help.


First and foremost, my biggest challenge with letting go of expectations is often just owning up to the real problem! Instead, of acknowledging that I’m disappointed, it’s often easier to turn the blame elsewhere.

For example, a few weeks ago I was driving home from work and started thinking how nice it would be to have a date night with my hubby. I imagined going home, getting changed, and heading out for a nice dinner and some quality time together.

But when I got home and checked my phone, I had a message from him letting me know he was going to the pub for an afterwork drink…

Now to be clear, he very rarely does this, and he’s not a mind reader – there’s no way he could have known I was dreaming of a date night – but my first instinct was to feel neglected and angry. Was he choosing his friends over me?

Of course not. When I had a moment to calm down and think rationally, I realised my frustration had nothing to do with him and everything to do with my expectations – and when I acknowledged this, I felt my anger disappear and it was easier to move on.


When things don’t go as planned, it’s natural to feel negative and to focus on what we’re missing out on. (I’m not having a productive morning, I’m not on my date night, I’m not [fill in expectation here].) With this mindset, it’s no surprise when we feel irritated or let down.

But what if we choose to change our perspective?

Sometimes it’s as simple as the language we choose to use with ourselves. Instead of saying “I’m not”, we could decide to say “I am” – encouraging us to seek out gratitude and to look at our glass as half full.

You might not be on a date night, but an empty house to yourself? Sounds like the perfect setting for a glass of wine and a good book (or your self-care ritual of choice!).


Next time things don’t go exactly as you hoped, try asking yourself what you’re really trying to achieve. Once you identify it, you can adjust course and look for a different way to achieve the same result.

Going back to the date night example again, what I really wanted was quality time with my husband – going out on a date was simply one way to achieve this. By defining this, it was easy to see another alternative; I could simply talk to him and let him know I wanted his attention when he came home.


One of the best ways to let go of expectations is to look at how you frame them in the first place. One thing I’ve realised is, too often, I’m setting myself up for disappointment before I even begin.

Consider these two goals:

  • I’m going to write a blog post tonight.
  • I’m going to spend two hours writing tonight.

The first goal sounds good, but let me be honest with you – my creativity isn’t available on tap. Despite my best intentions, there are some nights when I write and write and write, but the words just don’t flow! Inevitably, defining my goal by the end result will eventually lead to frustration.

But the second goal? It’s much more manageable. Of course, it’s not guaranteed (life still happens!) but by framing my expectations around the effort I’m going to put in (instead of the results), I’ve got a better chance of accomplishing what I set out to achieve.


This is one of my favourite sayings, one I turn to in all sorts of situations, but it’s particularly relevant here. We can never be in complete control of what happens to us, we can only control how we choose to respond to the situation.

When things don’t go as planned, we can choose to indulge in our disappointment or we can choose to let go and move forward. Ultimately, the choice is up to us.

How do you manage your expectations? Is this something you struggle with – or do you have tips/tricks to share? Let me know in the comments! x

photo credit: unsplash.com // Used with permission

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