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Simplify Complexity Christian Relationsh.. by Pastorwallace, Brian Wallace & Keon.. - 1w ago

Who hasn’t seen a movie or heard of a first date ending with a kiss, but should it?

There is a thought, that if a date goes well it should end with a kiss, and if not the date is possibly a failure. Not everyone takes this position, but there is a cultural norm for a dating couple to have some form of physical intimacy early in the dating process, and this physical intimacy is seen as a positive sign. Where does this idea come from? Most of the time when people begin dating they don’t know each other, or have little acquaintance. For people to share in something that is as intimate as a kiss with a stranger what does that say? Where does physical intimacy go from there as the relationship progresses? Should you kiss on a first date?

In this podcast episode we welcome special guest, Daphne Wynn, host of Straight Talk with Daphne out of Atlanta. We take a hard look at the idea of kissing on the first date, or first couple dates. What does kissing say about the status of a relationship? 

Is physical attraction the primary standard of whom people choose to kiss? 

I believe as a result of cultural dating norms, we are in danger of devaluing physical intimacy. Physical touch says something. It also creates physical and emotional bonds. Therefore, who people bond themselves with shouldn’t be cheapened to just a good date & attraction.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Quest Daphne Wynn

Picture Copyright by Peter Bernik / 123RF photos

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Do you sometimes find yourself admiring relationships on social media?

It’s hard to avoid seeing relationships on instagram, facebook, or other social media platforms. There are couples who literally travel around the world taking pictures of themselves for others to see. Yes, imagine that! Some couples get paid to travel and take exotic pictures with the perfect background, the perfect wardrobe, and the perfect smile, but the challenge with these pictures and others like them is relationships are not picture perfect. So how do we avoid SMRES, Social Media Relationship Envy Syndrome. I totally made that up, but you get the idea. Don’t be fooled by relationships you see on social media.

When you see a picture you don’t see the full image. You see a snapshot in time. 

Social Media is still fairly new. It’s fun to get a glimpse into the life of friends and people, but an unhealthy by product can form if a person begins to envy the images they see.  An image that is often times a “staged” portrait. As people gaze into the life of others, some if not many are unconsciously comparing their life with those they follow. This is not new. People have been comparing their life with friends and neighbors for a long, long time. It’s where we get the term, keeping up with the joneses. The difference today is people are able to follow hundreds and thousands of people, verses just a small circle of friends and neighbors. No longer is it keeping up with the joneses, but rather keeping up with the world.

In this podcast episode we want to talk about the challenges that can come from overly admiring the relationships you see on social media. We discuss some of the dangers and how they can have a negative effect on how you view your own life and relationships. We also share helpful tips to avoid these negative side effects. Don’t become a victim of Social Media Relationship Envy Syndrome.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

Photo Copyright by Fabio Formaggio / 123rf

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Have you ever found yourself desiring something more with a longtime friend?

Many romantic relationships form as a result of an initial interest. Meaning the two really didn’t know each other before they began the journey of a romantic friendship, which would hopefully evolve. Yet there are instances when two people initially formed a platonic friendship, and over time one or both began to feel something more for the other. How do you approach these desires? From friends to dating.

Fears, doubts, and anxieties can overwhelm someone when they have feelings for a longtime friend.

In this podcast episode we discuss from friends to dating. We share how to handle emotions of attraction towards a platonic friend. We also discuss steps a person can take to communicate those feelings, and allow for the possibility of that friendship to evolve into something more. It is a wonderful thing when a relationship can form from a deep friendship. Yet, don’t allow fears, doubts, and anxieties keep you from what could possibly be.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

Picture Copyright by Rob Marmion / 123rf Photos

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Tender Gone Wrong, Destructive Parenting, & A Bridegroom Did What?

Once a month we like to canvass any current events that may pertain to relationships, and see if we can learn something from them. In this podcast episode we discuss a strange Tender response after a first date, a mother who does the unthinkable to teach her child a lesson, and finally a story of a bridegroom who had a weird accident at his bachelor party. If you have some current events you would like us to highlight please let us know.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald

The post Relationship News 4/19: Tender Gone Wrong, Destructive Parenting, & A Bridegroom Did What appeared first on Simplify Complexity.

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Is it a deal breaker if someone is late on a first date?

I think we’ve all had moments where we were late to an appointment. Yet, what does it say about a person when they are late? Some people miss judged the time or got caught in traffic. Others they just have a serious problem with being habitually late. Whether we like it or not you get a glimpse into who a person is based on their tartiness. Therefore when you first meet someone you have to determine how to move forward if someone is late on a first date or even the first couple of dates.

How long would you wait if someone was late for a date?

In this podcast episode we look at some of the realities of being late, but also expose some of the excuses. If you have ever experienced someone being late on a date we would love to hear from you. Be sure to comment in the section below or message us directly.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

Photo Copyright by Andor Bujdoso / 123photo

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Who is obligated to cook in a marriage?

Once a couple gets married, the question pops up, who’s supposed to cook? What’s interesting about this question is often times is not communicated; it’s assumed the woman’s duty. Yet, where does that assumption come from, and is it biblically based? Is the wife obligated to cook for her husband?

When approaching this topic it’s important to separate cultural traditions from biblical mandates.

In marriage the husband and wife are a team. The health of the family is the responsibility of both spouses. In this podcast episode we take a hard look at what God says about the role of cooking, and the importance of communication rather than assumptions. We also discuss the feminist movement frowning & demonizing women who gladly cook for their husbands. Please leave your comments, subscribe and share with friends.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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I Love You!

These three words are powerful especially in the context of a romantic relationship. Not only do they communicate affection, but they transition the relationship to another level. We grow up hearing and seeing these words in movies, and people anticipate the day that these words will be mutually communicated to them. Yet, while dating & courting there comes a moment when you wonder, when is the right time to say I love you?

Is there such a thing as a right time to say I love you?

The feeling of love is powerful, but to say it for the first time can be scary. It forever changes the dynamic of the relationship. What if they don’t say I love you back? What if they do say it back, but really don’t mean it? Hundreds of thousands of people all around the world wrestle with when to say I love you. In this podcast episode we will discuss love, euphoria, and share tips to help you know when is the right time.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald.

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This Month in Relationship News we’ll talk Singles Waiting to Marry, Divorce Rate Studies, & Sharing Netflix.

Once a month we like to canvass any current events that may pertain to relationships and see what we can learn from them. In this podcast episode we’ll discuss a new study revealing that singles are waiting longer to get married. What does that mean, and if single does it impact you?  We will also explore a new trend concerning Netflix sharing while dating. Survey’s are revealing that couples are continuing to share their account long after the relationship has ended. Finally, Brian challenges Keonte to guess which states have the highest divorce rates in the United States. Who knows, If you are looking to get married you may want to move. LOL

Hosted Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald

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What are things that irritate you in your relationship?

Marriage is a wonderful thing, but the longer any couple is together the more each others habits can begin to irk the other. In many cases these habits are innocent. It’s not that one spouse is trying to upset the other; it’s just part of how they have lived their life before getting married, and breaking that habit can be extremely hard. Unfortunately that doesn’t change the fact that those habits are challenging the relationship. Therefore you should be concerned what things that get on your husband’s nerves?

Don’t ignore these feelings!

This topic will be a two part discussion. In our previous episode we focused on how a wife is irritated. This week we will look at the things a wife does to irritate a husband. These annoyances are not to be over looked. Whether you are the irritated or the irritator relationships have deteriorated over time because these problems were not addressed. Healthy relationships communicate anything that is bringing a wedge in the marriage. In our discussion, though we may laugh about some of these irritations, they are no laughing matter when you are going through them.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace, Keonte McDonald, and guest Dana Tyler

Photo Copyright by milkos / 123Photo

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What are things that irritate you in your relationship?

Marriage is a wonderful thing, but the longer any couple is together the more each others habits can begin to irk the other. In many cases these habits are innocent. It’s not that one spouse is trying to upset the other; it’s just part of how they have lived their life before getting married, and breaking that habit can be extremely hard. Unfortunately that doesn’t change the fact that those habits are challenging the relationship. Therefore you should be concerned what things that get on your wife’s nerves?

Don’t ignore these feelings!

This topic will be a two part discussion. In this episode we will focus on the things a husband does to irritate a wife, and in the following episode those things a wife does to irritate a husband. These annoyances are not to be over looked. Whether you are the irritated or the irritator relationships have deteriorated over time because these problems were not addressed. Healthy relationships communicate anything that is bringing a wedge in the marriage. In our discussion though we will laugh about some of these irritations, they are no laughing matter when you are going through them.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace, Keonte McDonald, and guest Dana Tyler

Photo Copyright by ximagination / 123Photo

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