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Everyday is a full moon when dealing with a narcissist…

“Is the beam from a lighthouse affected by howling wind and rain? It remains perfectly steadfast and unaffected by the storm. Your true self is like that. Nothing can ever harm you once you are consciously aware that it is so.” -Vernon Howard

My storm continues into it’s tenth year of family court hell. We are currently battling multiple storms in three different branches of the court: all related to the same family.

  1. Family Court: Enforcing the court order which began as a stipulation in November.
  2. Probate Court: Termination of parental rights which will likely be stalled until the family court case is settled.
  3. Criminal Court: My ex-brother-in law’s case approaches year three of this nightmare with no end in sight. You can read the recent update by clicking here.

We had court on Monday, May 20th. We have court again on Tuesday, May 28th and again on June 7th.

And here I thought my storm was in my rear view mirror. A quote I saw stated, “In many cases, the aftermath of a storm is the worse than the storm itself, leaving behind debris, damage, outages and floods.”

On Monday, just before our court case began, my ex-husband officially filed to reestablish visitation with the girls. Yes, you read that right. And, he wants his MOM to be the supervisor. I feel like I am in a bad movie and the background music just took a dark and dramatic turn to keep us all on the edge of our seats.

In court, he showed his crazy: telling the judge that it’s my intention to keep this case going because I am profiting off the drama and, that I run a business teaching moms how to get 100% custody through vexatious litigation.

He spent 30 minutes spewing word salad and talking in circles, frustrating the Commissioner over a Jeep worth maybe $20,000 that he was ordered to turn over to me. I have the Jeep but he fraudulently transferred the title into his brother’s name and refuses to turn it over. Now, his brother is holding it ransom. I, in turn, I am waiving $94,180.82 and all future support in exchange for peace. Now, we are filing contempt charges against him. This comes down to his loss of control. Anyone watching this from the courtroom is probably visualizing him in a straight-jacket however, his distorted, delusional brain prevents him from thinking logically. I want to scream, “YOU ARE ARGUING OVER A P.O.S. OLD JEEP WHEN I AM WILLING TO FORGIVE $100,000 OF MONEY THAT BELONGS TO MY DAUGHTERS!? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!”

And then I take a deep breath and I consider the source.

He’s a monster and a madman.

At that very same moment, in the midst of my anxiety taking over, the lighthouse sends a beam of light that pierces through the darkness and reminds me that my daughters have a voice. They are 12 and 14-years old. They have a strong voice backed by their memories of this horrible family. I’ve raised two amazing little warriors. While this is my journey, they are also on their own journeys and maybe they will get to use their voice and be heard.

I will do my best to remain steadfast and unaffected by the storm.

I know this is easier said than done and that some days are harder than others.

I will do my best.

You will, as well.

We’ve got this.

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If you don’t find humor in the madness of divorcing a narcissist, you will likely crumble. Admittedly, sometimes humor comes more easily that other times. It was difficult for me to find humor during the times I was worried about my children’s safety. As I was preparing for an appointment with our new evaluator this week, I stumbled across Seth’s original MSA proposal and I had to laugh. It reminded me of the insane prenup he tried to make me sign.

Number 7 is a doozy. Grab your popcorn. Seth, Seth, Seth…..shaking my head.

Tina,

These are the factors the court addresses

1) Child custody

2) Financial support

3) Asset division

This will be divorce. This is obviously not a separation as you have moved onto a boyfriend already.

1. Children’s’ home does not change. They like it here. 222 Hillcrest is the family address.  Custody legal and custodial is 50/50. I come Friday at 10 pm. I wait in my car until you get in your car and leave. You return Tuesday 8 AM. I wait in my car until you arrive. The girls see you hug you and go in with you. Every 6 -8 weeks, one week we alternate. I have some Trade Shows, and races I have to be at during the weekend. Thus, I will be here working during your time Tuesday at 8 am through Friday at 10 pm on those specific weeks.

2. Court calculator decides support if any for you. It will only be for half the length of the marriage, or when you get married whichever happens first.

a) I pay 75% of education, activities food for girls, medical, insurance, clothes for girls September 2009 -September 2010. You pay 25%

b) We each pay 50% of education, activities food for girls, medical, insurance, clothes for girls September 2010 -September 2025. I pay 50% You pay 50%  If we can’t each afford an activity it can’t happen.

3. I pay rent $1300 and you pay $500. I live upstairs. You live in your room.  I leave Tuesday at 8 am and return Friday.  If you need to stay here, use the sliding door and don’t interact with us during my time with the children. Utilities are split 50/50.

4. Assets like remaining furniture, Refrigerator, washer, dryer, utensils plates etc stay wherever girls live. 

5. We agree to not have the girls around the other’s partner at all prior to dating for a minimum of 12 months. The girls do not need to see you be affectionate with a bunch of men in their lives.  It is pretty clear from history resisting “Public Displays of Affection” won’t be problem for me.

6. You get $5000 in the next 30 days. I get the exact ring and diamond with laser inscribed code matching certificate that I bought for you 8 years ago.

7.  If someone gets married the girls live with the person not married. This would be too confusing for them.  The other spouse visits at the home the girls are comfortable in.  The married partner may visit at that time but not sleep over.  This stays in place until girls are 10 or both partners are married.

8. Christmas morning is spent with me and my mom since she fly back home every year for this morning. This is what the girls have experienced thus far for every Christmas. Christmas eve and after 1 pm Christmas day is with you. Thanksgiving is with me and my family —my brother Jason not allowed.  You get all the other holidays.

9. Birthday parties are at a neutral location (never at the others home) both parents attend and partners are allowed.

10. You may not move more than 220 miles from my place of work regardless of your job opportunities, desires or relationships. It is barely reasonable as it is for me to drive 9 hours every week to see the girls.

11. No silly rules in the home, no future slander and defamation, no gathering evidence for more custody, all future provisions for custody changes are waived.

12. Every person, relative or friend, spending more than 8 hours with the girls must sign on a non-defamation agreement regarding each parent. 

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Modified Gray Rock Communication: Yellow Rock - YouTube
Press the “play” button to watch video on Yellow Rock communication

I am a HUGE proponent of gray rock communication when you are dealing with a narcissist, sociopath or other Cluster B disordered individual AND there are no children involved. Unfortunately, if your case is in the family court system, going “gray rock” with your communication can have negative consequences for you.

I know, I know. You are ready to throw gray rocks at me right now. It goes against everything we learn when dealing with a high-conflict individual but please hear me out. Gray rock is life-changing when divorcing a narcissist because it makes them lose interest in you. When the courts expect you to happily co-parent and sing Kumbaya together on Sunday nights, gray rock can hurt you significantly because to the outside observer, you appear cold and rigid. I recommend a modified version of gray rock which I have titled, “yellow rock.” You still get to be a boring GRAY rock but, you sprinkle it with polite, common courtesy. Everything you write is for the court — NOT for your ex.

Lots of love, Tina <3

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Divorcing a Narcissist: which of my books are a fit for YOU in your child custody case? - YouTube
Which of my books is the best fit for you on your journey through the family court system?
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A few years ago, I received a call from my son-in-law asking me out to lunch. It felt a bit odd as it was not normal for us to meet up during the week to socialize. My wife had always encouraged me to connect more with him but the truth was, I was never that fond of him. I suppressed my feelings and never told anyone. I couldn’t really put my finger on the issue nor could I articulate my feelings and most importantly, I did not want my daughter to know how I felt about her husband. Over the years, I had taken him hunting and we shared many meals while we were together and while seeing my grandkids. I consider myself to be a good judge of character when it comes to friends and acquaintances however, I always had an uneasiness about my son-in-law.

So, I met him for lunch the next week. Shortly in to lunch he told me, “I feel really strange telling you this Bob, but I believe Kathy is having an affair” I appeared shocked and concerned but I knew that he was trying to deflect any suspicions about him. It was as if someone shot me because I immediately knew it was not her – it was him! I am in the “people business” and when I smell a rat – I smell a rat! If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and looks like a duck – it’s a duck! However, not to alert him to what I already knew, I told him I felt bad for him and would probably hire a PI to watch her and if I discovered that anything was amiss, I would let him know. He agreed and seemed comforted.

At the time this started, they had been married 11 years. My daughter was 31 and her kids at that time were 7 and 6 – boy and girl. My son in law was 32. I knew my daughter and her values but even more than that, she was raising the two kids, was a full-time teacher and a coach at her school. She barely had time to get to the gym 3 times a week. I confided in my daughter about my suspicions and she told me she felt the same way, so we devised a plan.

I travel a lot, but my trips are usually no more than 2-3 days. A lot of the time I depart early and get in late. She told me after she put the kids to bed, he often left to go to his brothers or his mom’s house which was very close, but he would not come home to very late like 3-4 AM. So, when I would get in late from my trips Kathy would let me know and I would follow my son-in-law. Turns out he was having an affair with a former barhop/waitress that he had hired in his office. She was very young, she had no kids and had her own apartment, so she could give him the attention he thought he needed. He thought he had it all – a family and a wife to control, a very attentive girlfriend and someone he could control both at work and as a lover. Even though my daughter had visited with her kids in his office several times and met this girl, she still had an affair with him. I struggle to understand how a woman can tear another woman’s family apart and give it no consideration. With all of the women’s empowerment movements that are in place today, I find myself baffled.

I continued to follow them weekly, late at night, all around town. I started taking pictures. One time I was across the street from a bar they were at and I asked my daughter to call him and ask where he was. I directed her to ask him if he was having an affair. She did as instructed and he stepped out of the bar to take her call. She asked him those questions and he said, “I’m out with a prospect and on the life of my kids I am not having an affair!” After they hung up from their call, he walked back in and started kissing his mistress again. Drinking beer, playing pool and kissing like nothing had ever happened. I followed them several more times for a couple months and then found a family divorce attorney, moved my daughter out and started proceedings. He continued to deny the affair and would not agree to anything, nor would he pay child support. He was adamant about staying in control!

My daughter and I agreed to use the attorney to set up mediation. My daughter was well prepared with his calls and texts printed out from correspondence to his mistress and I had all the pictures ready. He would not agree to anything, especially full custody and child support, until we showed him our stack of information which stood over 4” high. I let him know that I would be mailing packets to everyone he knows, including his family members unless he agreed to everything. He was always all about himself and what things looked like to other people. He only cares about his image. He always had to have new clothes, a great truck, pretty wife and perfect kids. He had to make sure everyone knew who he was and what he had done. He would always swear that he hated liars and despised people that cheated, stole or lied. However, when I told him what I was going to do with the information we had, he started sweating thinking about the affect this would have on him. Within 3-5 minutes, he agreed with everything we asked for including the child support. My daughter received full custody and full child support.

After the separation and during the divorce proceedings, we paid for my daughter and both kids to have some counseling sessions with a Christian family counselor. The husband went nuts wanting to know why and wanting to know what was said and even insisted on meeting with the counselor. After a couple months with all four, separately of course, she stated that my ex-son-in-law was likely a narcissist. That was the first time we had heard the word but it started us on our path to education. Boy did this information change our world!

It’s been several years ago now. While married to my daughter he went through 8 jobs in about 9 years. He was caught trying to steal money a couple times and while he got out of jail time, he was terminated. He is the posterchild of a narcissist and today it’s still all about him. As soon as the divorce was finalized he moved the mistress into his house. She is about 10 years younger than my daughter but not as smart or as pretty. Since my daughter now has the kids, he still tries to control everything. He texts my daughter, several times a day, trying to get what he wants or control what the kids can do. My daughter has read many books on narcissism but still has issues trying to control the noise around his continuous assault of her, her time, or the kids and their overall privacy.

He continuously tries to get close to my daughters’ friends and especially the kid’s friends and their parents. It reminds me of the tactics and manipulation that he tried to use on me. Anything he can do to move closer and control their lives, he does. Now they are older and starting to get their own phones/devices and he constantly texts them. Per the court order, he is able to talk to the kids every morning and every afternoon. He usually tells them what he is doing and what he did that day and mostly just ask’s them what they had for each meal and what they are having tomorrow. He is and will always be all about himself! It’s superficial because he isn’t capable of anything deeper.

I want to warn all young ladies who are dating to watch for certain things about a guy that may point to him being a narcissist. Educate yourself on this topic. It’s important to understand that these individuals have likely been broken since childhood and no matter how much you love him, he will not change. Pay close attention to actions – not words. Actions are what matters. Pay attention to patterns of behavior – small red flags turn into HUGE red flags. Does he talk only about himself? Does he really pay attention to what you say? Are material items his main focus? Is he humble (truly humble or is it an act) or does he have a big ego? Does he have longtime, close friends or are they superficial relationships? Pay attention to everything that you see when choosing your future mate.

The nightmare for me is what my daughter and her kids have had to endure and continue to endure with the reality of his daily chaos and baggage. The ongoing damage to my daughter and her kids is painful but so is what my own wife deals with on a daily basis. Our rule is to never say his name and we do not discuss the issues after 8:00 PM every night. The kids aren’t crazy about seeing him but they have to go to him every other weekend and the mistress is now his wife (until he gets a new mistress). We truly believe if his current, second wife, gets pregnant he again will not get the attention he needs and find someone else.

It feels like a never-ending nightmare. He has now moved much closer and is trying to get shared custody and the family court system is absurd. The family attorneys that we have dealt with in Texas have been terrible. We have had 6 and fired 6. They want a lot of money but never follow up and never seem capable of delivering results. The court judges are stacked and dive no weight to this man’s character or destructive behaviors.

Despite all of this, we have adapted and accepted our new reality, and each day, my daughter tries to persevere. We have forgiven my son-in-law of his cheating, lies and theft. We cordially speak to him and try to speak to the other woman. My daughter still, daily, has to deal with his two phone calls to the kids, and constant harassment about “why she did this and that” and “why he can’t do this and that, etc.” He continues to try and control, just the way his mommy taught him. We shall live with the outcome.

In conclusion, I have to say, even with all of the fall out and continued daily drama of dealing with him that my daughter is much happier than she was when married and is still happy she made the break from the controlling narcissist. Please beware that there is this type of personality and behavior out there today and he is just waiting for someone that does not know the signs. Please, learn the signs.

A Concerned Dad (and Grandfather)

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The Lemonade Power Retreat is my favorite weekend of the year.

When I began hosting retreats in 2015, I expected that others would come and benefit from the experience, but I didn’t realize how much these weekend retreats would enrich my life. My retreats have connected me with a group of phenomenal women – some of these women are my very best friends today. They are the kind of friends that you can call in the middle of a panic attack regardless of the time of day or night, and they are the kind of friends who cherish your children as much as you do. These are my people. The reality is, they are also your people.

I am a bit of an optimist. I search for the positives in all situations. I have come to discover that the narcissist targets the most amazing people you’ll ever meet. They target people who are the exact opposite of themselves. The narcissist targets people who are kind, loving, caring, selfless, empathetic and trustworthy. You were not targeted by chance or by accident. The narcissist did a full scan of your mind, heart and soul and clung to you because they believe your traits and qualities make them appear better to the outside world.

The people that I am blessed to work with everyday are some of the best people I’ve ever known because they were essentially “prescreened,” and they exude all of the positive qualities known to (wo)man kind. This is the thing that makes the Lemonade Power Retreat so wonderful. We are all like-minded people who have been in the most terrifying battle of (and for) our lives. We come together to share, to listen, to heal and to laugh. We stare at each other with our mouths wide open thinking, “Wait, he/she did that to YOU also!?” What once felt like an isolating journey doesn’t feel so lonely anymore. Our stories are all the same yet, they are all so different.

My next Lemonade Power Retreat will be held in beautiful, Cambria, California and I hope to meet you there!  This retreat will be smaller and more intimate than most of my retreats as it will be limited to nine people (plus me!). There is an application/screening process and different pricing options available depending on your selected room accommodations. Each room is private (with the exception of one shared room that has two double beds). Each room has its own bathroom and fireplace, perfect for this cozy, healing, autumn weekend.

Click to download the Retreat Application

During the retreat, we will explore:

  • The NPD relationship
  • Custody battle tips, strategies
  • Our individual stories
  • PTSD and coping strategies
  • Empowerment strategies to reclaim our lives
  • The importance of boundaries
  • Healing and moving forward 

Structure of the retreat:

  • Group meetings and discussions
  • Emotional support and healing
  • Group activities
  • Free time for journaling or to simply unwind

To apply: Complete your application and submit to tina@tinaswithin.com. Please do not secure travel arrangements until you know your application has been approved. Pricing varies depending on the room you select so contact Tina for pricing options: tina@tinaswithin.com.

Airports: San Luis Obispo, California is the closest airport (45-minute drive). Los Angeles is four-hours south and San Francisco is four-hours north.

Notes: I do not recommend arriving to the retreat late or leaving early. There is so much that we pack into the weekend, you will risk missing out on important pieces. Cambria is one of the most gorgeous, healing areas so if you are able to arrive a day early or stay a day later, please do!   

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Heidi and Joe De Leon – may they Rest in Peace

This has been a difficult week for our One Mom’s Battle (OMB) family. We lost one of our members in a tragic, senseless murder.

Heidi De Leon first contacted OMB in 2016, feeling failed by the system like so many of us. On December 27, 2018, she send me a chilling email – a journal entry from her daughter. According to the entry, Heidi’s ex-husband, Edward Epps, Jr., had threatened to kill Heidi and her husband Joe, if Heidi’s recent child support modification request was successful. Heidi took the threat seriously as she had always done. She notified law enforcement and was finally successful in obtaining a restraining order. Sadly, she had asked for a restraining order twice in the past and was failed by the system. On January 6, 2019, less than two weeks after discovering the threat against her life, her ex-husband followed through with his chilling threat and murdered Joe and Heidi De Leon while holding two children hostage and finally, taking his own life.

The man capable of this brutal murder had received 50/50 custody despite Heidi’s pleas to the court to protect her little girls. In an email Heidi sent me in 2018, she said, “I tried getting full custody but he muddled the waters so bad nobody knew what was true. My kids were constantly telling me he was telling them to break things and to kill me.”

In a system that is so overly-focused on a parent’s right to 50/50 custody, Heidi was failed by the Idaho family court system. Heidi’s children were failed. Lives are now reduced to media reports and press conferences but who is being help accountable? Who is the Judge who didn’t take the time to investigate Heidi’s claims about the danger posed by Edward Epps, Jr.? Why isn’t the media blasting the Judge and other professionals who now have blood on their hands? Heidi’s concerns were credible but no one listened.

Heidi’s reality is my worst nightmare and my greatest fear. If you are following my work, it’s likely your greatest fear. My inbox and voicemail box have been blowing up this week with messages from others, terrified that they will be the next Heidi De Leon. Through countless tears, I counted in my mind the number of moms that I know whose ex-husbands are “this” dangerous. I sobbed to my husband that I can’t keep doing this work anymore. My heart felt shattered and heavy. The next day, I remembered something I’d seen online the day prior: “It’s okay to cry when you’re hurt but wash your face and get off the floor when you are done because you don’t belong down there.”

I don’t have all the answers. I wish I did. While my voice couldn’t help Heidi, I will keep doing “this work” in her honor because I do hear success stories. I do hear about family court professionals who listen, and act accordingly. I know that we are making a difference. We make a difference when we listen to someone struggling. We make a difference when we validate someone’s pain. We make a difference when one person is educated on Cluster B personality disorders and we make a difference when someone out there feels less alone.

I know this is a terrifying, isolating journey. I know that like me, you feel that no one is listening. One thing that I know is that I am listening and I understand how dark this journey feels. I remember that for the first six years of my battle, no one was listening. It took one person (a custody evaluator) to protect my children when I felt like everyone else had failed. The thing is…we never know when someone will appear and light our path or turn things around.

You make me one promise and I will make you one in return: promise me that you won’t give up and that you won’t lose hope. I promise to keep raising awareness, to keep shouting from the rooftops and to keep educating family court professionals. I promise to keep doing this work so you are not in the trenches alone. I promise to do this in Heidi’s honor.

#WakeUpFamilyCourt               

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My book, Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield is a compilation of questions and advice from those in the family court trenches. I will be beginning a new series of blog posts culled from our support forums at One Mom’s Battle and the Lemonade Club.

Today’s Question: Trial lawyer: I am starting my search for a trial lawyer. What are some important questions to ask them?

Advice from the Battlefield:

What is their experience with my Judge?

What is their experience with a diagnosed Cluster B as opposing party?

What strategies can be used to settle out of court?

What is their record in front of the judge and their relationship with the judge? All campaign donations are public record. I would start first with the attorneys that contributed the most during the judge’s last election cycle. Unfortunately, family law is a corrupt system…esp. if the other party has money.

Ask for a list of GALs (minor’s counsel) they recommend.

I would ask about fees and billing. I had a great law firm but they charged for everything. Financially this battle can break you unless you can find an attorney that will work with you.

Ask about their experience with “high conflict” personalities… some may be more familiar with that term or type.

Here is a helpful YouTube video: Legal Nuts and Bolts.

I avoid attorneys with extensive marketing campaigns. They work by volume not quality. The best don’t need as much marketing.

I would try if possible to ask around as to who else he has represented in “high conflict” cases …also most court records are open and you can do some digging (although having the time to do so is another factor ) . Also, what is the lawyers personal life if that is at all possible to ascertain even minimally. High-power attorneys, law enforcement , judicial often have certain inclinations and traits themselves: generalization of course , and of course there are many doing good as well .

Judges can change and will change. I focused on my relationship and trust with my attorney. I asked my attorney to tell me what is not worth fighting for. Like asking for $1,000 or X, Y and Z when it will cost me $3,000 to fight for that. In some light discussion (but would make a difference), I asked that he not retire or move (happened with my first attorney before first trial) until my child turns 18. For awhile, the closest advisors I had were ones I paid for: attorney, financial advisor, and therapist. Take care!

If you have time, go sit & watch your judge & the attorneys in front of the judge. Get names or cards. Talk to their clients. Evaluate the lawyer.

I’d say some is seeing how responsive and professional they are. My old attorney provided me all written correspondence, motions, court notices, etc for my case as it occurred. (Maybe this is standard…but I think not). I wasn’t as organized back then, but it made it much easier to then decide to go pro se later (due to not having $$) and to understanding what she was doing in the background which I then in turn have tried to mimic as pro se.

Check the county court records. The best atty’s will have hundreds of cases. Martingale.com is also a better indicator of their reputation amongst fellow judges/lawyers (remember judges at one time were lawyers). Websites like avvo will delete negative reviews, so if you see a negative review, likely that person made a lot of hoops to get through. Also check case law in Westlaw/Lexis Nexus for appeals and cases they won/lost. You can also search the judge in case law; see who had the most success litigating w that judge.

Absolutely be very careful of the ones that market “cluster B expertise”. In my area, I found a “cluster B” attorney and she completely took advantage of me, felt justified in charging me $50,000 and said she gave me a “50% discount” because I had a high conflict situation, then threatened child custody when I questioned her billing practices. She is now suing me for fees; and I’m counter suing for malpractice. I hope I’m in the minority here. I have found the best atty’s normally deal w high conflict situations, esp those in appellate law.

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One Mom's Battle by Admin - 5M ago

Imagine giving birth to your new baby and shortly after, being told that you have terminal brain cancer. Imagine making the tough decision to leave an unhealthy, toxic situation only to have that individual make a power play and try to erase you (and your parents) from your child’s life…while you are in a battle for your life. Literally.

Meet Dawn. She is a local mom in my area and, she is the amazing warrior that I described above. You may have even read my previous blog post about her.

With the help of an attorney, we have made huge strides in a short period of time but, we still have work to do. When I first met Dawn, she had been bullied out of considerable amounts of time with her son. Her already minimal time with her little boy (Monday – Friday from 9am to 2pm and every other Saturday from 9am to 2pm) had been hijacked by her ex who enrolled him in daycare three days per week without her permission (and, against court order as they share joint custody). Dawn’s time with her son was now cut to Tuesdays, Thursdays and every other Saturday.

When I was first told about Dawn’s story, I almost couldn’t believe it. What type of person would go to such lengths to keep a child away from his terminally ill mother? I told myself there had to be more to the story. I researched the case at the court house, I researched both parties and then, I invited Dawn and her mother to meet me at my office. Dawn is strong and she’s a fighter, but she’s facing the fight of her life (literally) and the added stress of having to fight to see her her little boy is horrific. If you are reading this blog, it is highly likely you are in a custody battle of your own so you understand the nightmarish roller coaster that Dawn is on — this should not be where her energy is going.

With the help of her attorney, Johnathan Hosford, Dawn’s case has made great strides forward in a short period of time. She now sees her little boy Monday through Friday and every other Saturday and he has been taken out of the daycare that he was unilaterally enrolled in. Today, Dawn was met with a huge setback which involved law enforcement. Her ex’s family bullied her and forced her to visit with her son at their home and on their property. This is obviously a toxic environment.

The court order clearly states: “The parents agree that the mother will have the opportunity to visit with the child on her days at another location outside the paternal grandparents residence as long as the mother is supervised (due to her health condition) by the maternal grandparents.”

This case is scheduled to be in court on January 29th (prayers appreciated) however, with this current violations, it is likely to end up in court sooner on an ex parte (emergency) basis. This is going to require attorney fees and I will be working hard to ensure that Dawn’s ability to fight this battle is not hindered by her financial situation. It is my goal to take this burden off of her shoulders — and I’d love your assistance. Whether you can give $5 or $500, all donations are equally appreciated.

PLEASE share this blog (Go Fund Me) if you are able — I am reaching out to media sources for added exposure and appreciate your assistance in helping to correct a horrible injustice.

DONATE HERE: https://www.gofundme.com/lawyer-for-dawn

PS Donations are paid directly to the law firm. If you have questions, please contact Tina at tina@onemomsbattle.com.

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