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Awareness about bullying is at an all-time high and spotlight on it has become very helpful in trying to stop the spread of bullying.
One of your primary goals as a parent is to keep your children safe. As parents, you try your best to keep your child protected from things that may cause them harm. When your child is born, you take measures to keep your home safe for them, installing baby proofing equipment to make sure that your child is not in any danger when inside your house. Whenever you go out with your child, you always try your best to keep an eye on where they are or what they are doing at all times. Your child’s safety and wellbeing is number one on your priority list; this is what a being a parent is all about. However, as much as you want to keep your child from any harm, there are instances when you aren’t with them physically to protect them; this is especially true when they start attending school.
Awareness about bullying is at an all-time high and spotlight on it has become very helpful in trying to stop the spread of bullying. Many schools have started to recognize that bullying is a problem and has taken their first steps to prevent bullying inside the school premises, however, there is still a lot of things to be done to eradicate bullying. According to a study by the National Center for Education Statistics, more than one out of every five students report being bullied in their school; this study doesn’t include bullying that goes unreported.
Since schools still have a lot of work to do to end bullying totally, you as a parent should try and supplement the schools’ efforts to put a stop to it. Here are some tips that can help you:
1. Start early. – As soon as your child starts interacting with other children, teach them that violence should never be a part of their interactions. You should teach your child at an early age that picking on someone just because they are different is wrong. You should also tell your child that if they are being picked on or bullied to never resort to violence to deal with it. Teaching your child compassion and the importance of communication between peers can help prevent them from becoming bullies or victims.
2. Facts only. – It is essential to gather the facts about the situation before taking any action. Talk to your child about what’s happening to them at school and get as much detail as possible. Try not to point fingers at who is to blame, even the bully, and just gather information pertinent to the situation. After getting all the necessary information, it’s best to talk to the parents of the bully.
3. Compassion and communication are vital. – Learning that your child is being bullied can be a very angering experience, but you must try to stay calm. Remember that the bully is also just a child who might be experiencing issues of their own and bullying can be a type of defense mechanism for them to cope with these issues. It’s best to open a line of communication with the bully’s parents, they may not be aware that their child is a bully so take time to explain the situation to them. The bully’s parents might get defensive about the issue but try to keep your cool, present the facts that you’ve gathered and encourage a discussion.
4. Get help. – If talking to the bully’s parents is not working, you may contact school authorities like the school teachers or the principal to get involved. Do not ask them to punish the bully, instead ask them to intervene whenever the bullying situation arises. You may also get help from the school counselor to mediate between your child and the bully to resolve their issues.
The responsibility of ending bullying doesn’t fall solely on the shoulders of the school; it should be a shared duty of everyone involved in raising children. Bullying continues only if we allow it to. If your child is still being bullied after talking to the bully’s parents, here are some steps that you can follow.
As I did my research, I discovered that energy healing got results. I was more than a little unnerved. The power of these subtle energies seemed revolutionary.
When I started exploring energy healing, I was a curious, but highly skeptical journalist. For me, it all began when a doctor showed me a book on energy healing. I had gone to an Ivy League school, Barnard College at Columbia University, and as a journalist, I read as many as four newspapers a day. I considered myself well informed. Yet I had never heard of this type of healing. It seemed hard to believe it could be real. But what if it was? I decided that I would investigate to get to the bottom of these claims.
I began an intensive exploration of healing for a magazine assignment. As I did my research, I discovered that energy healing got results. I was more than a little unnerved. The power of these subtle energies seemed revolutionary. Yet, ultimately it was so logical and so effective. Why weren’t these techniques widely used?
How did this type of healing really work? I wondered. What did the scientific record say? I wanted answers to these questions. Thus, the magazine article turned into a five-year investigation that led to my first book, Infinite Grace: Where the Worlds of Science and Spiritual Healing Meet (reissued in paperback as How People Heal).
Those five years turned my world inside out. My understanding of health and even the very nature of reality changed dramatically. My idea of what we humans are capable of also changed. Every time a healer I interviewed told me about a technique they used, I would think to myself: This can’t be true. I would try it, simply to prove to myself that it indeed was just so much hype. It would always work.
Early on, for instance, I worked with an acquaintance suffering from a chronic Candida infection in her gut. As soon as I started my first healing, I could see the underlying energies that were allowing this invasion to overtake her digestive system. I worked hard to transmute them. I thought the session was over when I closed the session. But minutes after I left her house, I was overcome by the most powerful desire to eat cake. It was as if I was possessed. I knew then just how anguished she felt. Still, after only two healings that overwhelming urge was gone from her system. Her cravings stopped, and she was able to stay on her diet.
In such a way, I did many healings and received many more healings in the process of trying to understand what, exactly, is subtle energy and how it can be used for healing. I soon discovered that I could do this kind of healing even long distance. I would be able to touch into another person’s energy and know things that they themselves didn’t know, and clear issues for them as if they were right there in the room with me.
I’ve been a healer now for 20 years. I have found that the aches and illnesses we get often have deep meaning; our souls express important messages to us through our bodies. When we listen to these messages we can heal on many levels. For instance, I worked with a woman who called me because her breast had given off an inexplicable discharge. During the healing, I saw that her breast, a symbol of her feminine soul, was literally weeping because of an abusive dating relationship. She had just broken it off with the man in question, and as soon as she understood the deeper meaning of her physical problem, the symptom resolved.
In another situation, Cindy came to me for a healing after a melanoma was removed from her breast. I saw the underlying issue—painful experiences during her failed marriage—and cleared that energy. She had her eyes closed during the healing. Nevertheless, on her inner mind screen, she saw the energy releasing from her body. “What’s that black stuff coming out of me?” she asked. I told her it was the energy from her prior marriage, and that now she would not have to worry about the melanoma recurring. It’s been more than a decade and she has never had a recurrence.
We can learn a lot about what’s going on and what we need to heal if we ask, What is my body trying to tell me? What is the symbolism? Your soul is poetic: The message it sends to you is going to be tailored just for you. I once cut my finger, and the finger I sliced was my wedding-ring finger. At the time, I was in a relationship that everyone except me could see wouldn’t lead to marriage, and this was my soul trying to draw my attention to the truth of my situation.
The message isn’t always metaphysical. Once I worked with a hostess of a holiday brunch who sliced her finger with a knife while getting all the food prepared. The message from her soul was very simple: Slow down. Relax. When she cut herself, she had to take a timeout. Brunch still unfolded beautifully, and she was amazed when a few days later, with the help of the energy I transmitted, her finger had almost completely healed. Sometimes, the energy just brings more vitality, so radiation wounds from cancer treatment can heal up, or chemotherapy can be more easily endured, or broken bones and other trauma from an accident or surgery can fully and quickly heal.
Mehmet Oz, M.D., a renowned heart surgeon and the host of The Dr. Oz Show, whom I interviewed for my first book, called energy medicine “the next big frontier in medicine” in 2007 while on Oprah. I, too, have faith that science will eventually catch up with the mystics.
I wrote Yes, You Can Heal because not a day goes by where I hear or read about someone and think, “I wish they knew about energy healing.” I know it could help so much—even possibly change that person’s life. I have poured my 20 years of experience as a healer into Yes, You Can Heal. I give many examples of healings, along with guided meditations and practices designed to help you get in touch with the deepest parts of your self, so you can heal both your body and your life. Energy healing changed my life, and it can change your life, too.
About the Author:
Diane Goldner is an internationally known healer and the author of three books, each endorsed by one of 3 of America’s top doctors. She helps people transform physical, emotional and spiritual challenges. She is a former journalist. She is a recommended resource in Christiane Northrup, MD’s bestselling Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, and has discussed healing on TV and Radio and given talks and workshops at healing centers around the country.
Bitcoin is a new type of currency which can be used in financial transactions without the need for a middleman.
Many technological strides have been made over the last couple of decades. Advancement in technology is becoming faster and faster as each year passes by and many technologies to improve work efficiency, communication, and even financial services are being discovered and used every day. Technology has made the world smaller in a good way; we are now able to talk to family and friends from across the globe without having to spend too much money or wait too long for a reply. International financial transactions have also become more straightforward and hassle-free.
1. Anonymity. – Bitcoins can be used to buy merchandise anonymously. In this time and age where privacy has become a critical factor to be considered when you’re connected to the Internet, being able to transact anonymously presents a very inviting option for many people.
2. Easy international transactions. – Because bitcoin is not tied to any country or is subjected to regulations, global payments and other financial transactions are easier, and a lot more affordable than traditional international banking systems where fees still need to be paid and transactions may take time to be completed.
3. Cost. – Small businesses may prefer bitcoins since there is no credit card fee that they would have to pay the bank. Online stores from across the world could also gain more profit by using bitcoin instead of other online payment methods like Paypal where there are charges for currency conversion and additional fees.
Bitcoins are stored in a digital wallet which could either be on a cloud or your computer. Digital wallets serve as your bank account which allows you to send or receive bitcoins, pay for bitcoin transactions, and save or store your bitcoins for future use.
No one can predict how bitcoin can affect world finance and economy in the long run, but judging by its practicality and its current popularity, it may be here to stay for a while. Bitcoin may even revolutionize the way that the insurance industry works. Without the need for banks to act as middlemen, insurance claims would be paid out more efficiently and promptly. There may also come a time when you wouldn’t need to pay for a monthly premium; with the help of GPS technology in conjunction with bitcoin technology, your vehicle’s movement can be tracked, and you would just have to pay for the times when your vehicle is in use. These are just assumptions but very well may be the future with bitcoins.
The organized enough clothing closet: Get rid of hangers and plastic from the dry cleaners immediately. Group items first by category.
“I know myself, but that is all…”
Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise
Fitzgerald understood better than most the double-edged sword of the American dream. He also created the character of Gatsby, the iconic self-made man, and yet a tragic one. Today, almost a century later, a vast world of products to buy makes it possible for the average person to reinvent herself anytime she likes. But it is a constant merry-go-round: If you can be anything, what should you be? How can you hope to know what you need if you don’t know who you are?
Advertisers are canny: They spot our vulnerabilities, whether they are selling Dos Equis beer (who doesn’t want to be the most interesting man in the world?) or Dior lipstick (“Shine, don’t be shy.”) In five minutes of paging through a catalog recently, I was sucked in by the following ad copy: “WHO’S THAT GIRL?She’s LAID-BACK, but not scared to stand out. She’s POLISHED, but not perfect. She knows that covering up is sometimes SEXIER than baring all. Her STYLE is her own.” I wanna be that girl. Don’t you? And maybe the zip-tote on the following page ($298) will help me get there.
So much of clutter is the stuff we’ve been hanging onto because we, at one point, had a certain vision of ourselves—one that it isn’t quite current or honest. It is project clutter, like the knitting has been sitting in the same spot for years. The breadmaker that’s still buried in the back of the closet, gathering dust. The boxes bursting with memorabilia for scrapbooks yet to be made. But it is also in the bedroom: the three-step skincare regime (you’ve yet to do step one), the size-4 suit, the chunky necklace you forget to wear. Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, brilliantly termed these items “aspirational clutter.” One of the sharpest tools in the organizational arsenal is self-knowledge. Most of us have it—we just don’t like to use it, because it isn’t always pretty. Letting go, especially of ideas about ourselves, isn’t easy. As you confront your space, it is good to remember these three mantras of letting go:
The universe is abundant—letting go of the old makes room for the new.
When I have time, something new will appear.
I already have everything I need.
Trite? Maybe. True? Definitely. Do we forget it all the time even though we instinctively know it? Yes.
Who Do You Think You Are When You Get Dressed?
Self-knowledge is particularly key in de-cluttering your wardrobe. Clothing presents one of the biggest letting-go obstacles for my clients. “That was then. Who are you now?” I ask them.
Bodies change, but life also changes. Just because you can still fit into your Versace minidress from 1999 doesn’t mean you will be comfortable wearing it today. We view letting go of clothes as letting go of our past, and maybe on some level that is true, but it is also a good thing. You want your closet to be vibrant and full of fun stuff that you love to wear now, not a graveyard of past lives.
I used to be an actor. I absolutely believe in the power of costume and the importance of presentation—but I also know that you can get pretty far with a black turtleneck and a good story. Just as an actor has to be vigilant with himself to guard against false notes, we all have to be rigorously honest about who we are and what we genuinely like to wear. Do we want to be the person who would wear a skintight leopard-print dress, or are we that person? Sometimes we buy clothes to try to become a certain kind of person. More than a few times, a client has told me, “Even though everyone at my office dresses very casually, I want to start dressing more professionally, because I think it will help me move ahead in my career.” Excellent; I support that. But in actor-speak, we would say, “Commit to that choice.” From an organizing perspective, that means that you can keep those new suits you bought, but you need to donate several pairs of khakis and a bunch of the jersey tops that you used to wear to the office before you decided to upscale your wardrobe.
The Organized Enough Clothing Closet
– Get rid of hangers and plastic from the dry cleaners immediately
– Group items first by category (i.e., all shirts together.) Then, within that category, hang items by color (typically light to dark). Finally, put categories in length order, so you might have shirts, pants, jackets, skirts, dresses.
– This consolidates your “tall” space, freeing up room so you could, for example, store tall boots or a laundry basket under your shirts.
– As you remove items to wear, always place hanger to the far right, or left if you prefer.
About the Author:
Amanda Sullivan is a professional organizer in New York City, she founded her company, The Perfect Daughter: Chaos Control in 1999. She is also the author of Organized Enough: the anti-perfectionist’s guide to getting- and staying- organized. Amanda lives in Manhattan with her husband and their three children. To find out more about Amanda or read her blog check out her website at: http://www.theperfectdaughter.com/whats-new
In today’s world, online dating is the smart way, the most solid way to find romance. Men especially like dating online, and it is their choice for finding romance.
By: Gail Karpus
I’ve heard it said that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince . . . Well . . . Then my face should be covered with warts!
The saying, “Love needs no map because it can find its way blindfolded” is a lovely quote—but really? Maybe with a cane and a good-looking guide dog by your side . . . Hey, it’s hard to find love at any point in life, but when you’re an older woman, it gets a lot harder. But, like anything else worth getting, you have to work at it. In today’s world, online dating is the smart way, the most solid way to find romance. Men especially like dating online, and it is their choice for finding romance. Why? It’s the easiest way for them to find a date or a mate without direct, face-to-face rejection. They have spent years chasing women, and with that comes rejection. It’s a lot easier to get over rejection from a computer.
Many older women don’t go online because they are afraid of the unknown. So many single ladies tell me, “I don’t even know where to start!” They’re fearful about making mistakes from the majority of single women and men is that they do want someone constant in their life. They want that “partner in crime,” that one person they can count on in good times and in bad. “The bacon to their eggs!” A Lady and the Tramp sharing that plate of spaghetti, maybe a glass of wine, while listening to the crooning of Frank Sinatra or the sounds of a big band. And, who doesn’t want or need that Nurse Nightingale who will watch over you during the night when you’ve got a cold or the flu?
Most people would like to have a happy life of their own and be independent of their children (if you have them) financially and socially. It’s natural for someone to want their kids to know that mom is cared for and loved by someone—that they don’t have to worry about a “place for mom,” or whether she’ll live in their converted garage or an unaffordable independent-living residence.
No mother or father wants to burden their children with the task of finding them a suitable lifestyle and having to pay for it. Maybe your children are already striving to put our grandkids through college or trying to save money for their own retirement. Possibly, you are alone as a result of losing a mate. Maybe you’ve never found one. Maybe it’s not even money that concerns you. Maybe you just like male companionship. You still have a lot of living to do, and maybe you want the comfort of a gentleman to help you enjoy it. Someone you can lean on, feel safe with and have fun with! A person worthy of what you have to offer.
Well, you can have that. I promise you: It’s out there waiting for you! It’s called online dating—no matter what your age is. It’s a vehicle, ready and waiting for you as a way to have fun and meet new people—others who are also looking to have someone special in their life. But, you need to go out and get it! It won’t just come to you.
Believe me, I know how hard it is to start this process. And, I certainly know how difficult it can be to say the right words in a profile or to put up the right pictures. When I first started online dating 11 years ago, I spent those years changing pictures and writing different types of profiles, trying to romantically market myself to the masses of men online—and there are masses of men online. And, yes, you are marketing yourself, just like you did in the old days, but in a different venue.
About the Author:
An original New Yorker, Gail’s background is diverse and extensive. She spent many years working in the corporate world in New York, then moved to Kentucky where she raised thoroughbred horses on her farm. Missing the Italian food, she grew up with, Gail decided to bring a little piece of Italy to Kentucky. She designed and managed the first homemade pasta store in Kentucky, “Pasta Plus”. Sharing her Grandmother’s recipes and her passion for pasta, she became a successful restaurateur. After four years of hard and happy work, she sold her restaurant and moved to California to be close to her two children and eventually five grandchildren.
Starting a new chapter of life, Gail found herself working as a matchmaker in a Beverly Hills firm. She left the matchmaking business after the firm was sold and decided to start her own business called Heart Profile Service. Online dating was gaining in popularity and she wanted the people who needed her services equipped with the necessary tools to become successful at online dating.
Gail’s extensive knowledge of online dating was gained over many years of her own trial and tribulations. This empowered her to write her new book: Fast Track to Romance. An Exclusive Online Dating Guide for The Mature Woman.
Gail, herself, has had fun dating online for over eleven years and finally met her match, Paul, online in 2015. After just four months, they married! Paul, a physician, and Gail, a new author, reside in Southern California with their families.
You can only file a wrongful death claim caused by medical malpractice if the patient dies because of the of a medical professional who was involved in the patient’s treatment.
Wrongful death is a term used when one person dies because of the negligence of another party. One major contributor to wrongful death cases is medical malpractice. As a patient, you have the right to expect proper diagnosis and treatment from medical professionals. Medical malpractice accidents can have dire consequences for the life of the patient. A wrong diagnosis leading to improper treatment or wrong prescription can cost thousands of dollars for the patient, or worst, even the patient’s life.
Here are some of the categories that fall under medical malpractice:
1. Misdiagnosis. – Every time you visit a doctor because of an illness, the first thing that a doctor should do is diagnose your condition correctly so that they can provide you with the correct treatment and help cure the cause of all your symptoms. If a doctor fails to do this, your condition could worsen because you’re not getting the correct treatment. If a reasonably skilled and competent doctor would not have made the same mistake in diagnosing your illness, then the doctor who misdiagnosed you and gave you the wrong treatment may be liable for malpractice.
2. Improper care & treatment. – If a doctor gives his patient care and treatment that no other reasonably skilled or competent doctor would prescribe, then he may be liable for malpractice. The doctor may also be liable for malpractice if he or she has prescribed the correct care and treatment but administered it incompetently.
3. Explanation of the risks. – Medical professionals are expected to inform their patients of the risk involved in any medical procedure or treatment that the patient will undergo. After being told of all the risks, the patient will have to decide if they would go ahead with the proposed procedure or treatment and make an informed decision. If the doctor fails to communicate the risk to the patient and the patient gets injured or dies during the procedure, then the doctor may be liable for malpractice.
4. Surgical errors. – Surgery can take long hours and a lot of effort from the medical team performing it, but even under these circumstances the patient still has the right to expect to get the best care possible from their surgeon and surgery staff. Surgeons who have committed mistakes like puncturing an organ, operating on the wrong body part, or leaving a surgical instrument inside of a patient can be liable for malpractice. Postoperative care staff like nurses can be liable for malpractice too if they are negligent in their duty to the patient like providing the wrong medication, improper post-operation care, and treatment that could lead to infection, or failing to give the patient correct instructions on how they could speed up their recovery.
You can only file a wrongful death claim caused by medical malpractice if the patient dies because of the negligence of a medical professional who was involved in the patient’s treatment. If the malpractice doesn’t result in death, a personal injury claim may also be an option for you.
As a person, you are the manager of your well-being. You should take all the necessary precautions to make sure that your body is healthy. Eating right and doing daily exercises to help boost your physical well-being are steps that you can take to make sure that you don’t get sick. There are times when even if you take care of your body in the best way possible, diseases and illnesses can get to you, and this is where we expect medical professionals to help us.
About the Author:
Job has a bachelor’s degree in Communication from De La Salle University Dasmariñas in the Philippines and has worked as a publishing specialist, freelance copywriter, and content writer. He’s a voracious reader and likes to spend his time perusing books in bookstores and libraries.
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Grief makes us uncomfortable, and we are at a loss as to what to do. Often we blurt out something we shouldn’t. Or, sometimes, we simply do nothing.
I had always considered myself a great friend — encouraging, there to help when needed, sensitive, able to see when people were suffering and how I might comfort them. But when my husband died so suddenly, I soon came to realize that, when it came to helping someone who was grieving … I KNEW VERY, VERY LITTLE!
As I began my own journey of grief, I became painfully aware that in the past I had not met the needs of my grieving friends as well as I’d believed. I thought I had known what to say and do, but I didn’t. I thought I had understood how long their grieving should go on, but I didn’t. I thought I had known what they should do, but I didn’t.
Then there were the things I knew I hadn’t known: what to say, what to ask. Should I talk about the grieving person’s loved one or not? Should I mention the good things going on in my life? Should I mention a relationship I have that the grieving person has lost? Is it okay to watch a movie with them that could remind them of their loss? Should I invite them to a celebratory event like a birthday party or a wedding, as it could also remind them of their loss? Should I just avoid them so that I don’t say anything wrong?
Talk about walking on eggshells.
When I joined a grief group, the first thing I learned was not to expect much from my friends so that I wouldn’t be disappointed. And it was true. It’s not that friends don’t care or don’t want to help. They just have no idea what to do or say. I was one of those friends myself. We are able to support our friends through many hard times, but when it comes to the death of a loved one it’s like we get tongue-tied and paralyzed. We are fearful, desperately wanting to help but feeling inadequate to do so. Grief makes us uncomfortable, and we are at a loss as to what to do. Often we blurt out something we shouldn’t. Or, sometimes, we simply do nothing.
I hope that what I’ve learned through my grief experience will help you be the friend you want to be to the grieving person in your life — the one you’re trying to help right now. When we’re not there for those who are grieving, it’s not because we don’t care; we do. We just aren’t sure how to respond. And we’re scared.
But we can do it. YOU can do it! And with a little knowledge and willingness, you will. Because you already have the most important quality you need to be helpful …YOU CARE!!
About the Author:
Anne-Marie Lockmyer is an award-winning author, speaker, Advanced Grief Recovery and Loss Specialist and Founder of the Grief and Trauma Healing Network. Her work has appeared in notable media outlets such as Rolling Stone, LA Wave, and Billboard. She has been a featured speaker at multiple venues. She specializes in taking others through the journey of recovery – to be free from the pain of grief and loss. As a widow who suffered a devastating loss herself, Anne-Marie is passionate to dispel the myths of grief and bring hope, encouragement, and resources to those suffering from grief and those that care for them and want to help. Her mission is to bring individuals hope in the midst of pain and provide tools that help people experience joy in their lives once again.
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PTSD is the mind’s own grim reaper that has one, single purpose…to kill the human spirit over time.
A few blocks away, a boy on a bicycle peddled in their direction. Although the 13-year-old was never greeted warmly, everyone knew Harvey. His bike had a bent pedal that nicked the frame slightly, warning that he was coming. This morning, his first stop was a block north on Market Street.
As he rounded the corner, two neighbors talking over their fence abruptly stopped upon seeing him. They stared, wondering where he was going. They resumed their conversation only when he’d passed. Harvey wore no badge or uniform, but everyone knew his official capacity, he delivered telegrams, words cut from the teletype and pasted on to paper and sealed. Harvey carried the light brown envelopes in a pouch attached his handlebars. Harvey stopped at Number 4 Market Street and leaned his bicycle against a hedge, opened the gate, and walked to the front door.
He rang the bell and nervously waited cable in hand. He rang again and waited. There was no response. The cable would have to go back in his pouch. He’d try again this afternoon. As he hopped back onto his bike, a droplet of water bounced off his nose followed by more drops, making perfect half-inch circles on the pavement as he peddled toward Mill Road.
Over that last several months, Harvey had delivered countless messages from the war department. He watched the hearts of the entire community break, one by one. Harvey knew that no one felt joy upon seeing him peddle toward their front doors.
An elderly man wearing a dark sweater sucked on his pipe while waving a match over the tobacco. Upon seeing the boy, he stopped, suddenly alarmed. His grandson, rescued from Dunkirk, now served in Africa. The man dropped the match and intently watched the rider until he was safely past. He looked up at the darkened sky. A few raindrops were starting to come down.
Knowing that what was inside the envelopes will knock a whole family’s world off its axis.
Noticing a clicking sound, Rod looked up the street and saw a boy peddling toward them.
Shelly turned the same direction. Recognizing the boy, she gasped, forcing her attention away from him. She drew her fist up to her mouth, Shelly focused sharply on the bicycle’s path as she said out loud, “Keep going, keep going.”
Harvey continued peddling toward them and stopped at the Waters’ gate where Pam and her mother-in-law had just exited the house. Upon seeing him, their umbrellas spilled out of their hands. Mrs. Waters clinched her jaw and steeled herself. Beads of water began trickling off her nose and cheeks but went unnoticed. He confirmed the address, got off his bicycle, set it down and hesitated at their gate. Mrs. Waters recoiled. Pamela began whimpering and raised her hands to her face, obviously fearful of the approaching boy and the official telegram he carried in his hand.
Harvey approached slowly, avoiding eye contact. Mrs. Waters stood straight, balling her fists as if squeezing hard enough could will him away. “I have a cable for Mr. and Mrs. Edger Waters,” he said respectfully and extended his hand holding the cable uneasily. Alice hesitated. Her son was a navigator in the RAF. The news needn’t be fatal. He could be prisoner or he could be safe in a hospital bed.
She grabbed the damp envelope. Her freshly curled hair, now soaked, lay flat from the rain. The boy continued to look down as he retreated to his waiting bicycle. Harvey had barely ridden a few yards when he heard the women scream. The clicking from his peddling became quicker as the boy pumped his legs to put as much distance from them as possible.
The cable was small, a few inches long and a few more inches wide. How could something so small upend people’s lives? In spite of the rain, there were more cables to deliver this morning and he would have to try Market Street again. The sprinkles had become a steady downpour. Everyone liked Harvey, but in years to come. Some will always stiffen at his sight recalling the time he delivered a cable to them.
“Oh, it’s Hugh!” Shelly cried, “Oh no,” immediately running across the street and leaving Rod uneasy on the porch.
Upon hearing the screams, Harry came running out. Surveying the scene, he said, “Oh, God, it must be their son. This is a heartless war, poor Pamela, with the baby due in a few weeks. Poor little mite.”
At first, Rod wasn’t sure what had happened. After a moment, he realized that Shelly’s neighbor had received word that their son had been killed. The Waters were like family to Shelly. They shared news from their son’s letters, and she, in turn, shared with the news from Colin. Alice Waters had been a great comfort to Shelly when Colin was killed.
Rod was dazed. In an instant, their warm glow had turned to ashes. Shelly needed to be with her friends. Young Pamela sank to her knees and buried her face in her mother-in-law’s apron. Rod felt out of place. “Harry, will you tell Shelly that I’ll write.”
Which heart breaks harder for wives or mothers? The question has no answer. Misery cannot be weighed on this scale.
For a few precious hours, they had shut out the war. Then this heartbreaking event smashed into their private world with a humbling vengeance. Rod gave Harry a quick hug and left without another word. Turning up his collar against the morning’s rain, he looked back to see the three women locked together weeping, the telegram clutched in Pamela’s hand.
The skies opened and the angels wept.
Rod gazed at her through the deluge. Her soaked white dress clung to her tightly like a second skin confirming the fantasies he had about her figure. Now with her neighbor’s loss, he felt self-conscious almost guilty about the way he’d lusted for her just minutes ago.
Shelly turned to find Rodney looking at her, but she could not see his eyes through her tears and the rain. Even in the rain, she could still taste his kiss. The white dress and what she said lured him to her. There was never a thought of repelling him, and her knees almost failed when his hands drew her into him.
Waving back silently, Shelly watched as he turned and walked away, his form fading in the gray of the rain. Would that be the last time she would ever see him?
About the Author:
David McCue is a native of Southern Californian. Like Rod Hirsch, the hero in his novel, his parents were from Iowa and raised him with Midwestern values. He grew up in Palos Verdes and graduated from California State University Long Beach. He and his wife live in south Orange County and have two sons. David is a WWII and Vietnam War era history buff with a particular interest in military aircraft. When Angel’s Wept is his first novel. An avid reader in college, he has been influenced by John Steinbeck, Pearl S. Buck and later Larry McMurtry, Herman Wouk and Mario Puzo among others.
While When Angles Wept chronicles the path to destruction of just one man’s life, the result of the effects of war that hundreds of thousands of soldiers experience today. The book takes readers through the insidious downward spiral that post-traumatic stress disorder causes. You can’t see it; you can’t touch it; it has no taste or smell. PTSD is the mind’s own grim reaper that has one, single purpose…to kill the human spirit over time.
War indeed is hell, but for those with PTSD, it is a personal hell that no amount of medication can cure. So it is for Hirsch as the cracks between reality and horrid war-torn memories deepen and expand. His final break from reality comes when Hirsch finds the body of the love of his life, bloodied and crushed by the rubble left by a rogue German bomb. Hirsch’s new focus is to find the bomber responsible and exact revenge.
If someone in your life is a caregiver, you should step up and do what you can to care for them. However, this is often much more difficult than it seems.
If someone in your life is acting as a caregiver, then you know just how demanding this job can be. It is so important for caregivers of all types to be able to reduce stress and find peace and calm in their chaotic lives. However, this is often much more difficult than it seems. Due to the nature of their jobs, many caregivers are so dedicated to caring for others that they forget to care for themselves. This is where you can come in and help.
Here are seven easy ways that you can help the caregiver in your life so that they too can get the attention that they need.
Fill In- Whether it’s cooking a meal, giving them a night off or just showing up to help them with some of their responsibilities around the home, the more you can do to fill in the better. Remember, caregivers tend to be very selfless individuals, and they may not ask. You may need to be proactive and step in to help.
Take Them for Exercise- Scheduling a fun day of exercise, bike riding or walking can really help the special caregiver in your life. Exercise is a great way for them to relieve stress as well.
Educate Yourself- If you are not a caregiver yourself, it can be difficult to really understand all of the demands that come with this job. Educating yourselfis a great way to make sure you can act as a support system for these individuals in your life as you will gain a better understanding of what they are going through.
Help Them Practice Self-Care- Whether you introduce them to a new hobby, give them a meditation book or schedule time for them to relax at the spa—caregivers need to be able to practice self-care and sometimes they need a little push in the right direction.
Stay Connected- Many caregivers struggle with loneliness and isolation due to the nature of their job. However, it is very important for caregivers to stay connected and have a social outlet. Just going to the movies can be a really big deal for any stressed-out caregiver.
Try to Keep Them Positive- Caregivers deal with a lot of stress and difficult obstacles, which can make it hard for even the most positive of individuals to maintain a great attitude. Whenever you are around these individuals, do your best to stay positive and to keep them positive as well.
Listen- If there is one thing that every caregiver needs more than anything else, it is someone to listen to them. You may not have all of the answers, but if you can be there just to listen to what they have to say, it can really help them feel much better.
Keep these tips in mind whenever you are around a friend, family member or loved one who is acting as a caregiver. Remember just how demanding their jobs can be and just how much time and dedication it can take in order to be a caregiver. The more you can do to support these individuals, the better caregivers they can be to those who need their attention the most.
About the Author:
Lori Thomas has over a decade of writing experience in the health, legal, and consulting industries. Her writing for SeniorAdvice.com is informed by years of research as well as hands-on family expertise. Lori has experience as a caregiver with her now late mother, who had chronic health issues for most of her life. She has a B.S. in Human and Organizational Development from Vanderbilt University. Lori lives in Austin, TX and enjoys traveling, yoga and spiritual exploration.
He made the bold, audacious, and potentially career-ending decision to travel with his family to Bali on an eight-month sabbatical.
The kids didn’t wake until late morning. One by one they emerged from their jet-lagged slumber. We introduced them to Putu and Made, but there was no time to linger. We were already late for a tour of their school, which we had arranged through Ben McCrory, the school’s head of admissions. Victoria and I rushed them through a quick meal and herded them into the rental car Nyoman would drive.
On the ride to school, Nyoman drove aggressively, leaving only inches between our car and the one ahead. It didn’t matter how fast he or other drivers were traveling. The braking distance on this island was obviously shorter than anywhere else on the planet because everyone drove the same way. The vehicular twerk seemed to excite local drivers.
At last, Nyoman edged out of the tailgating competition. The ride to school, which was supposed to take twenty minutes, clocked in at forty. We were staring at a New York–style commute.
As we entered the campus, asphalt gave way to a dirt road so broken that it felt as if we were back in Africa, bouncing in a Land Rover through the rough outback of the Serengeti. We pulled up to the entrance of the school and the child drop-off zone. Two Indonesian men, dressed in orange sarongs and Balinese headdress, greeted us with expansive smiles, slight bows, and hands in prayer position at their chests. We signed in and waited to join a group of visitors about to start the tour.
John Hardy led the school tour. He and his wife, Cynthia, had founded the school a few years earlier. John, in his sixties, was a formidable creative force. He stood in front of us and told us his story. He was dyslexic, he said and recounted how, in the Ontario town where he grew up, the disorder was poorly understood, and as a result, his dyslexia went undiagnosed and untreated. Despite his obvious intelligence and talent, he was treated like the village idiot. His school experience, as he described it, was nothing short of misery.
Almost as soon as he could, John escaped to Bali. When he arrived, he became interested in the island’s jewelry-making traditions and learned the techniques of the local artisans. He developed his first pieces by applying new designs to traditional Balinese methods. He began selling his jewelry to tourists on the beaches and expanded it from there to a global operation. He and Cynthia grew their business and brand dramatically, ultimately selling his products to high-end US retailers like Nordstrom and Saks Fifth Avenue. When he sold his business to a private equity firm, he and Cynthia used the proceeds to found Green School. John was a born salesman, magnetic, and unwavering to the core in his conviction about what he was doing and its ultimate impact on the educational experience. I wasn’t sure I was buying his story.
John walked us past a new kitchen structure being built in the shape of a dragon, whose final design would be determined by a student sketch competition. He contrasted Green School with his own school experience: “The people who built the school I went to were the same people who built the prison and the insane asylum, and they built all three institutions out of the same materials. We built this school to inspire students and educators, and we built it almost entirely of renewable resources.”
He pointed to an array of vegetable gardens in the near distance. “All the food we serve at Green School is grown right here, and students are responsible for its production.” The place was gorgeous. But whether there was any real education going on was an open question. He made precious little mention of core subjects like math, science, or humanities.
We walked by some classrooms. There were no angles in any of the structures. Everything, including the student desks, was organically shaped. While they learned, students could hear the rush of the Ayung River in the ravine just behind the school. They could feel the tropical breeze that blew in from the nearby Indian Ocean. As we passed the Heart of School’s grand curved staircase leading to the second floor, we saw children’s flip-flops haphazardly piled at its base. “Green School is a barefoot environment,” John said. “What we’re trying to do here is to teach our kids not only the core subjects, like math, science, and English but also to be global citizens.” What he said resonated with Victoria and me. Over the years, we had debated endlessly about how to provide our children with a Jewish education, which involved a certain amount of indoctrination and simultaneously engage their creative, explorative spirits. We struggled with the best way to prepare them to be involved in the world while maintaining their traditions.
As we walked we came upon an open well with a turbine in the center. “Our gravitation water vortex,” John said. The focus of Green School’s curriculum that year was water and its role in the environment. Water would be the core theme too for the way science and the humanities were taught. The water vortex, a micro-hydro power plant designed to provide electricity to the campus, was the school’s attempt to put into practice some water-centered learning. “We want to be completely self-sufficient,” John said. Then he added, without being defensive, “We’re still trying to get it to work.”
As we ambled along a pebble path, a tall girl with straight blond hair and blushed cheeks ran over with a friend and stopped us in our tracks. Carina’s neon-green tutu matched her bright demeanor. “Are you Sam?” She exploded in a giant grin. Sam was taken aback by her exuberance. “We’ve been waiting for you! We’ve been checking you out on Facebook, and now you’re here.”
Her classmate Pim was from Bangkok. Green School classes were a United Nations of students. Pim tied her long, dark hair in a ponytail and smiled at Sam. “There’re only four other boys in our class of thirteen.” Sam turned beet red.
We ended our tour at a bamboo sign, “Healing Circle.” At the circle’s center was a giant smoky quartz crystal planted heavily in the ground. It stopped one of the women on the tour in her tracks.
“Wow!” She turned to me, her palms open to the crystal as if to a campfire. “Do you feel that?”
“I can’t get any closer.”
I looked at her blankly.
When the tour was over, Victoria asked the kids, “So what do you think?” No answer. By the look on their faces, we could tell that they were struck dumb by the massive differences between Green School and the education they were used to.
About the author: Ben Feder is the author of Take Off Your Shoes, President of International Partnerships for the U.S. at Tencent Games, formerly the CEO of Take Two interactive, the publisher of the smash video game hits Red Dead Redemption, Grand Theft Auto, and NBA 2K. He serves on the boards of directors of public and private companies in the media and entertainment industries and is a director of Save a Child’s Heart, a nonprofit that works globally to rescue children with congenital heart defects. A Harvard Business School graduate, Feder lives in New York City with his wife, Victoria, and their four children.
You can buy the book Take Off Your Shoes from Amazon.
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